The Brutal Truth: Living and Dating in Norway from a Norwegian

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This week I sit down with Sondre from Norway, who I met on the street this summer while interviewing locals in Oslo on the subject of Norwegian cultural stereotypes and dating. We chat about Norwegian culture and how the Norwegian mindset affects connection: making friends and dating.
Each week I will interview guests from all around the world on the topics of culture, connection and of course, dating. The goal is to go as deep as possible and to really understand where we all come from and how much culture influences our life.
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0:00 Intro
3:38 Why Norwegian communication is different
6:38 Why are Norwegians lonely?
10:15 How to make friends in Norway?
17:31 The Christmas Party Cheating
23:09 How does the Law of Jante Affect Mindset?
30:24 How do Norwegians view passion?
37:09 Drunk Norwegian vs sober Norwegian
49:12 How to ask Norwegians out on a date?
50:38 Gender roles in Norway
1:46:00 S*x culture in Norway
1:30:00 Alpha male in Norway?

Пікірлер: 48

  • @lucaspierre9305
    @lucaspierre93053 ай бұрын

    So Marina, you're telling me that there's one talkative male Norwegian out there who agreed to talk for almost 2 hours on a podcast. This man must be an exception to the general rule! 🙃 Informative and entertaining talk.

  • @datingbeyondborderscast

    @datingbeyondborderscast

    2 ай бұрын

    Haha he is one of a kind. I am telling you - I met this man randomly on the street. He looked super scary but stopping him resulted in a conversation we couldn't stop. We just stood on the street chatting away for ages 😂

  • @ahkkariq7406

    @ahkkariq7406

    14 күн бұрын

    I know many Norwegians like this, but I belong to a different generation. Maybe he was born 25 years too late.

  • @justicekaleobbs1566
    @justicekaleobbs15669 ай бұрын

    His sense of humour is over the roof. Laughed throughout the podcast.

  • @datingbeyondborderscast

    @datingbeyondborderscast

    8 ай бұрын

    Yes he has a very dry sense of humour which I absolutely loved. This is basically why we connected immediately in Oslo and why I wanted to continue chatting to him

  • @liahk1000

    @liahk1000

    4 ай бұрын

    Yes dry humor is the way to go in the north😄

  • @pumagutten
    @pumagutten8 ай бұрын

    Marina, Norwegians from the south are not the same as we from Northern Norway. We are known as the Italians of the Nordic, so you should visit Tromsø.❤️

  • @datingbeyondborderscast

    @datingbeyondborderscast

    8 ай бұрын

    Yess - if you listen to the whole Podcast, Sondre actually makes that distinction

  • @pumagutten

    @pumagutten

    8 ай бұрын

    @@datingbeyondborderscast I did listen to the whole podcast, but I never heard him talking about other places than Bergen and Trondheim. That's not Northern Norway.

  • @gautearefjord

    @gautearefjord

    7 ай бұрын

    Jo, men det der er for ENKELT....Hva med alle som er en mix av nordlending - søring ? Trøndere ? Jeg er mix Bergenser og Balsfjording.... ALTFOR ENKELT..

  • @georgia_swann
    @georgia_swann6 ай бұрын

    This was EXCELLENT!

  • @sofieromanovspector6677
    @sofieromanovspector66776 ай бұрын

    This was great! Please Sondre, start a KZread channel, I want to hear more. You are so funny 😃.

  • @datingbeyondborderscast

    @datingbeyondborderscast

    6 ай бұрын

    He is the best!

  • @galaxytrio
    @galaxytrio7 ай бұрын

    Interesting and charming guest.

  • @Fjord_Driver
    @Fjord_Driver5 ай бұрын

    Free meal women are very common in the US. The more attractive they are, the more likely you, as a male, will just be used to pay for a meal because she is bored on whatever night it is. They have their list of guys on their phones and they sure as hell know who the pushover free meal guys are. That is why as an American guy, if I am going on a date, it is clarified up front that we are splitting the bill long before we get to wherever we are going. If there is another date after that, it will also be split. This method quickly washes away the women who are only interested in using you for your wallet, versus actually interested in spending time with you.

  • @BillLaBrie

    @BillLaBrie

    2 күн бұрын

    “Just come over, I’m making spaghetti.” That’s the way to handle it.

  • @sumbajumba3037
    @sumbajumba30378 ай бұрын

    a great conversation

  • @AlyssaChloeNYC
    @AlyssaChloeNYC7 ай бұрын

    I wish foreigners would be informed of these cultural differences before getting involved ...save us a lot of misunderstanding

  • @annastayziaa
    @annastayziaa3 ай бұрын

    can you please interview him again? he's such a great interviewee!

  • @glykokoutaliousyko
    @glykokoutaliousykoАй бұрын

    Really interesting video! Thank you both! 😊 Seems that Bergen is the Thessaloniki (Vs Athens) of Greece 😋

  • @scarba
    @scarba7 ай бұрын

    Sounds exactly like a Scottish Christmas party, but then we do have a lot of Norwegian DNA. 😂

  • @princegates6227
    @princegates62278 ай бұрын

    Next Denmark 🇩🇰

  • @chriscoll6493
    @chriscoll64934 ай бұрын

    Norwegian-American here. Sondre and his natural contrariness, gives me hope for my cousins there.

  • @The-Vega-Islands
    @The-Vega-Islands8 ай бұрын

    I am from Northern Norway, and I find what he is describing weird.

  • @bringiton5282

    @bringiton5282

    3 ай бұрын

    Thank God 😂

  • @StoltHD

    @StoltHD

    Ай бұрын

    I'm from South-East of Norway, I also find it weird... This is more the jokes we tell about us self as Norwegians when we want attention from some foreigners... Except the part of the "Julebord", and the part of "one good friend vs. multiple not so good friends". Maybe I am to old, and experienced the '80s and '90s.

  • @ahkkariq7406

    @ahkkariq7406

    14 күн бұрын

    @@StoltHD And I am both from Northern Norway and too old. But I live in the south and have children of the relevant age. I suspect he is describing Oslo's dating scene.

  • @StoltHD

    @StoltHD

    14 күн бұрын

    @@ahkkariq7406 - yeh, and the dating scenes of today, because it was never like that back in the days when I was "fast inventar" at John's, "Søstrene Larsen" etc.

  • @annastayziaa
    @annastayziaa3 ай бұрын

    36:00 - I DIED LAUGHING OUT LOUD AT THIS LMFAOOOOO I love that Norwegians literally have a name for this!! BAHAHAHAHAHA 1:13:05 - bergen :) ... best place in Norway to connect with Norwegians as a foreigner (both in friendship and romance). 1:36:42 - bergen & tumheim

  • @nicholasdoyle7342
    @nicholasdoyle73423 ай бұрын

    So I’m at marker 39:57 and . . . did Marina just go 50 SoG on this man?!? 😂❤😂 And he turns it around on her! Love it 😂😂😂

  • @anastasia10017
    @anastasia10017Ай бұрын

    The thing is that dating did not used to be so expensive. Taking a girl out to the movies and an ice cream was a "cheap date", affordable for everybody and very enjoyable. it would be "low maintenance" as Sondre puts it. In addition, if the young man wanted to see you, he would come to your family home and he would socialize with you, some friends, and your family. Your mother would feed him and he would be invited to Christmas parties and other events. Now dating is more isolated and one on one. Now going to the movies is $60 if you share the popcorn. Who can afford that ? I went to a boring, small neighborhood pub and on the menu, the basic hamburger was $31 !!!! So for a guy to invite you out for just a hamburger and a beer is going to cost almost $100 !! I am on the side of that men need to pay for dates. It is gallant and good manners. But even I can see that expecting a guy to pay $100 - $200 every time he sees you is unsustainable.

  • @jennyal8857
    @jennyal88573 ай бұрын

    I love your podcasts especialy this one because you both made me laugh.Why didint you make a video about Greeks and dating culture in Greece? I would love to see that

  • @datingbeyondborderscast

    @datingbeyondborderscast

    2 ай бұрын

    Will get to it ☺️

  • @arnesnielsen
    @arnesnielsenКүн бұрын

    As a Norwegian I think this guy represents only himself and not all Norwegians, being it boys or girls. You can’t categorize people that much. Norwegians are all individuals and of different types or personalities. You can’t say that Norwegians are like this or that. We are all different. I have never experienced a Norwegian not wanting to talk with me even though we don’t know each other. It all depends on how you approach them.

  • @itsemmadearcaute
    @itsemmadearcaute5 күн бұрын

    where is this guy from? he was very positive about western cities, is he from Bergen as well?

  • @anastasia10017
    @anastasia10017Ай бұрын

    I was involved with a Norwegian man for some years. To this day, I can't figure him out. In all the years, he has never said happy birthday or bought me a Christmas present. his sister was quite different in that she was quite emotional.

  • @Ridiculina

    @Ridiculina

    3 күн бұрын

    I think you can replace ‘Norwegian’ with ‘socially inept,’ lol. It’s not a normal, nor common feature among Norwegian men or women.

  • @AndrewTheVikings
    @AndrewTheVikings7 ай бұрын

    Ironically, they don't like acting like alphas but they want to be with alphas.

  • @diutran9495
    @diutran94952 ай бұрын

    That's correct to think about a Norwegian

  • @Fjord_Driver
    @Fjord_Driver5 ай бұрын

    Mel Gibson would be a good interview on this alcohol topic.

  • @Fjord_Driver
    @Fjord_Driver5 ай бұрын

    Gene Simmons, Wilt Chamberlain, Sammy Davis Jr...etc etc etc....bedpost number crunchers.

  • @user-pk2hy1ke4r
    @user-pk2hy1ke4rАй бұрын

    I’m filipino i relate to 11:54 hahahahah

  • @floro7687
    @floro76872 ай бұрын

    American perspective . who is paying. 0

  • @live--now
    @live--now9 ай бұрын

    ahahaha lol .... imposible not to act ALPHA , when you are , ALPHA .

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