Todd got that 2016 style intro but I love it more because it reminds of that peak time of PUAs on youtube.

@6shot9

Ай бұрын

This

@Wobbothe3rd

Ай бұрын

Literally the most keyboard jockey comment ever made .

@WockhardtWarlock_

Ай бұрын

Fucking cringe u still watching after 8 years? Go start a family

@Blazerbarelyknowher

Ай бұрын

Whack that 2016 feels retro now lol

@deltamish

Ай бұрын

Miss those times

I was addicted to banter, I use to banter with everyone, but I discovered that it doesn't always work, there are some girls who are not comfortable with bantering and they do not know how to do it. Every girl, instead, has the same need to satisfy, the need to feel protected, and so by displaying traits like confidence, assertiveness, leadership and willingness to take risks you are definitely better off, only showing these traits without doing any gamey move you have 99% chance of getting the girl

@MuhammadMusthakeem

Ай бұрын

Women, dating, marriage has to do with each individuals internal light that radiates confidence. It has nothing to do with trying hard to overcome fear, anxiety, cold approach or working out to get good physical appearance. In the end, it’s the brain health, heart health and organs health that contributes to a man’s success with women in general. A sincere soul seeking true partner and has been clean from sins will find it a lot easier to find good women for dating or marriage whereas as a diseased soul going out on sex rampage in the name of pickup will deceive itself and those that surrounds it. It’s unreal. Each individual is a creation of god and every individual is created weak and strong based on its intentions. When a soul is pure and sinless its internal light gets strong and it attracts true love. Whereas a weak soul will be a joker doing pickups, studying pickups getting short term lays with trash women and end up losing its presence in society with not much success. The pickup industry is fake and milking money from weak souls giving weak souls, false hopes! Period.

@marioottaiano475

Ай бұрын

@@MuhammadMusthakeem I honestly don't believe in God. I believe that God is just a creation of the weak man who does not believe in himself and has no inner strength and so he needs a support by creating this fake image of a God that is present when things go well and to pray when things go bad but you are the architect of your fortunes and your life, and at the same time I believe God is used by the strong man to manipulate and enslave the weak man. We literally live in a world and an era where we are recreating intelligence artificially, we sequence and modify human DNA, we build robots behaving like humans so where is God? Just in your mind. Taking this topic aside, I can tell you that pickup community is just a business like all the other ones and some things they teach work other ones not, but I believe that gamey moves are not what women want, they can help you to get attention and make an impact, but women do not want guys who play all the time, women want strong confident men who can lead them and guarantee them survival, women do not want to think, they do not want to carry all the work, they just wanna feel secure alongside of a man who can give them protection and support her family

@jigglycheerios4876

26 күн бұрын

99% is outrageous ngl

@dubscheckum8246

17 күн бұрын

So, how do you cold approach a girl with leadership? Todd shows you how to cold approach girls

@marioottaiano475

17 күн бұрын

@@dubscheckum8246 I understand your question and I feel your doubts and so I will explain you. How do you cold approach a girl with leadership? The only fact that you walk up to a girl and you introduce yourself is leadership, girls don't do approaches, so they expect you to take the lead and come to talk to them. A girl will never approach you except in some particular cases, so just walking up to a girl and introducing yourself displays leadership which is a highly attractive trait, the point is that you don't need all these gamey and clowney moves to attract a girl, you just need confidence and leadership. Not every girl likes bantering, I failed so many times bantering with girls who were not in this kind of approach, instead every girl loves talking about herself, so observing her mannerisms, her attitude, her clothes or whatever personal about herself and letting her talking about herself is a much better approach united with leadership and confidence instead of using gamey moves; starting a conversation, choosing the direction of the conversation is leadership, setting the date and choosing the place to go or the time to go is leadership

“Oh my god that’s like the most adorable red flag ever” “That’s ok, nobody’s perfect” (said to something minor, like her favorite sports team) “Wow, fascinating, tell me more” (said with sarcasm)

@swaggybaconcheese1566

Ай бұрын

My G, imma steal that first one 😂😂😂❤️

@RandomBros88

Ай бұрын

Lol that first one 😂, I can find many opportunities for that one.

@gustavoj1254

Ай бұрын

That’s what he needs to do in this video. The reason most people have no game is bc they don’t know what to say exactly. These videos are just generalizations. ‘Create banter’.. Like, yeah no sh@t Sherlock. It’s what to say that most people have issues with.

@SkyWayMan90

Ай бұрын

@@gustavoj1254 He gave a few examples

@WockhardtWarlock_

Ай бұрын

​@@gustavoj1254do you need him to hold your hand too? Jfc

Love the basic structure! Use this when you find yourself in platonic conversations repeatedly. 1. Open: Doesn´t matter too much, just get the conversation started. 2. Banter: light playful ridicule, make fun. The point is to create a bit of teasing/conflict. Try to get a reaction. You dont want a flat convo. 3. Win: Win the conflict you just created in the banter part. (Pass the shittest, make her qualify) 4. Escelate: fe. introduce yourself, sit down with her, grab a drink together. Make it more men to women (talking about the two of you together). Dont go back to platonic topics because then you didn´t use the win you just created in Step 3). Repeat Step 2-4 again and again when the interaction gets flat. - dont esclate when she just shitested you - dont escalate when she just diagreed with you --> always go back to the banter and go through the steps and create a win--> thats how you create a men to women vibe Think of 3 lines you that you can use to create banter. fe: 1. you and I will not get along 2. I cant decide if I love you or hate you 3. I loved you until you said that

@mtlicq

Ай бұрын

@alparboy01 - Your summary misses the point about what a _"WIN"_ is ! The "WIN" is not for your ego, but for her increased attention, increased positive mood, increased involvement with you. Be careful your definition of a "WIN" should _not_ be like a nerd's fact-check winning an argument ...and losing a mate. Sometimes a win means actually losing at the sport (golf, cards, tennis, fact-check nerdy facts, whatever) and thus winning her positive mood with you!

@alparboy01

Ай бұрын

@@mtlicq with this comment you are actually showing/doing what you say not to do: You just fact check in the most logical way possible. now would be the perfect time for me to get into some banther with you before escalating but I dont want to pick you up so I´ll just leave it at that :DDD

The Venice Vibes... 10/10 - The Audio Distortion... -10/10

@swaggybaconcheese1566

Ай бұрын

Hahaha that also caught me by surprise

@o0YumRamen0o

Ай бұрын

It's like he hired the same editor from his pre-2020 videos

Great video Todd!! Always so helpful.

The point about a "WIN" is not for your ego, but rather for HER increased attention, increased positive mood, increased involvement with you, not like a nerd's fact-check "winning an argument" ...and thereby losing a friend / mate! Sometimes a "win" means actually losing at the sport or debate (this time) -- AKA letting HER win (golf, cards, tennis, fact-check nerdy facts, whatever) and so winning her positive mood with you!

@MuhammadMusthakeem

Ай бұрын

Women, dating, marriage has to do with each individuals internal light that radiates confidence. It has nothing to do with trying hard to overcome fear, anxiety, cold approach or working out to get good physical appearance. In the end, it’s the brain health, heart health and organs health that contributes to a man’s success with women in general. A sincere soul seeking true partner and has been clean from sins will find it a lot easier to find good women for dating or marriage whereas as a diseased soul going out on sex rampage in the name of pickup will deceive itself and those that surrounds it. It’s unreal. Each individual is a creation of god and every individual is created weak and strong based on its intentions. When a soul is pure and sinless its internal light gets strong and it attracts true love. Whereas a weak soul will be a joker doing pickups, studying pickups getting short term lays with trash women and end up losing its presence in society with not much success. The pickup industry is fake and milking money from weak souls giving weak souls, false hopes! Period.

@MuhammadMusthakeem

Ай бұрын

True relationship and love is never chased. It comes and it stays when you are true to your own soul. When you are deceiving your own soul and heart for fake temporal pleasures like seeking multiple sexual companions, pick ups, trying what happens is, your soul gets weak and deceptive in the long run, losing its sight, overall. Beware! Focus on religion, spirituality for the first 7 years stay away from sins like pickup, you will attain manhood, strong heart, assurance and will attain true relationship that will last and not deception, hypocrisy to self.

I haven't finished the video yet but thank you Toddfather 🙏

@flashpeter91

Ай бұрын

😅😂

I've watched a lot of different dating coaches, and I'm not horrible at talking to women already, let me tell you. TODD knows what he's f'ing talking about

@MuhammadMusthakeem

Ай бұрын

True relationship and love is never chased. It comes and it stays when you are true to your own soul. When you are deceiving your own soul and heart for fake temporal pleasures like seeking multiple sexual companions, pick ups, trying what happens is, your soul gets weak and deceptive in the long run, losing its sight, overall. Beware! Focus on religion, spirituality for the first 7 years stay away from sins like pickup, you will attain manhood, strong heart, assurance and will attain true relationship that will last and not deception, hypocrisy to self.

this is so much better then the open close

Thank you!

I've seen another Todd video picking up chick with including *care / concern* (the lady cyclist in NY) rather than "playfight", and I know from experience too, that an element of care works, and the "play fight" and "disqualify" strategy might sometimes backfire: _"ok then, jerk, so be it! BYE!!!"_ The slight element of care (don't overdo it as if she's deficient) will be the better strategy with non-North-Americans, people in or from other countries or cultures, and newcomers, even just new in town. The "playfight" strategy would be more for certain cultural backgrounds, UK or Italian for example.

Thanks Todd for this :)

@MuhammadMusthakeem

Ай бұрын

Women, dating, marriage has to do with each individuals internal light that radiates confidence. It has nothing to do with trying hard to overcome fear, anxiety, cold approach or working out to get good physical appearance. In the end, it’s the brain health, heart health and organs health that contributes to a man’s success with women in general. A sincere soul seeking true partner and has been clean from sins will find it a lot easier to find good women for dating or marriage whereas as a diseased soul going out on sex rampage in the name of pickup will deceive itself and those that surrounds it. It’s unreal. Each individual is a creation of god and every individual is created weak and strong based on its intentions. When a soul is pure and sinless its internal light gets strong and it attracts true love. Whereas a weak soul will be a joker doing pickups, studying pickups getting short term lays with trash women and end up losing its presence in society with not much success. The pickup industry is fake and milking money from weak souls giving weak souls, false hopes! Period. I would focus on inner strength, heart purification, divine love which results in a strong soul of my self that results in real true keeper relationship. With patience game is truly won!

@MuhammadMusthakeem

Ай бұрын

Love is truly won!

Am I the only one having a hard time differentiating what lines are banter, negging, and escalation? Is there overlap?

If there was an oscar for pickup youd win it

Thanks bro! 🍺

Today I DID talk to my Gym crush and while I suppose that’s a victory on its own, I failed to show interest and to get things where I was wanting. Saw her two weeks ago and complimented her outfit she had on and she thanked me and giggled. She kept glancing at me a few times the rest of our time there. A few hours ago, I saw her again today and thought, “This is my chance. Go talk to her for a bit and just get her name and see about her number if things go well”. Instead, I went up to her while she was on a step machine (not sure what it is called but it’s like a stair master but not) and she turned to look at me when I went to the machine beside her and asked how you use it. Talked for a bit about it and just said I wanted to ask her because I saw her on it. She said she was going to be done soon if I wanted to use it (the one beside her she said seemed like it needed to be oiled up cause she got off it for the other one) and I just told her “That’s okay I just wanted to come and ask you about it. Thanks!” and walked off. The whole conversation while brief, she didn’t seem bothered and seemed happy to help (I got the impression she knew I wasn’t there for that but yet I still froze up and walked away 🤦‍♂️) so I feel like such an idiot for not just planting my feet and continuing the conversation. She has to be aware I’m interested and I have seen her on other occasions looking at me and making eye contact so I think there is something there or at the very least, it wouldn’t go horribly if I made a move but I just had this nagging feeling of “don’t bother her too long cause she is trying to use the machine”. We even left around the same time and I didn’t try to stop her. Any advice on how to get past this so I can actually show more intent next time I see her (god knows when that will be 🤦‍♂️)

In arranged marriage situations, you skip all the steps and say "I do" at the wedding.

@mtlicq

Ай бұрын

LOL and _afterwards_ you get to see what she looks like! 🤣

Man this guy is the guy

@stayhungry1503

Ай бұрын

i would say he may even be the bro, or the dude

Intro looks like some of David Guetta videos)

She tells you something that she's proud of - EG she got into Harvard - you respond with "Commiserations!" with a smirk. And always have something to back it up with, such as "Harvard's great, but 3 years of your life when you could have been running your own business... Please tell me you're looking to start your own business?"

@GarageGeek

Ай бұрын

lol wow this is horrible. You sound like weird dad or something.

My ninja

If you and i can get along maybe theres hope for World Peace

My favorite part is 6:09 - 6:12

@Blazerbarelyknowher

Ай бұрын

Me too. That seagull took OFF! Lmao

@abbaan

Ай бұрын

And the camerawork 🥇

@abbaan

Ай бұрын

Look at us bantering 😂

How Do you escalate when you're sitting together on a date? its hard/weird to playfully hug or move her if sitting, so does it have to be verbal escalation? Especially a day coffee date... How would i physically escalate on a daytime coffee date...

@Stumben2

Ай бұрын

Don't escalate like that on a coffee date imo. However one thing I do is have a part 2 planned . If the coffee date goes really well and your getting the vibe she if she wants to go for a walk or get ice cream take a drive whatever then maybe initiate a little touch.

@stayhungry1503

Ай бұрын

spill the coffee in her lap, make sure its hot so you can make a joke about her hot crotch but not so hot that she get third degree burns. good luck out there!

Women, dating, marriage has to do with each individuals internal light that radiates confidence. It has nothing to do with trying hard to overcome fear, anxiety, cold approach or working out to get good physical appearance. In the end, it’s the brain health, heart health and organs health that contributes to a man’s success with women in general. A sincere soul seeking true partner and has been clean from sins will find it a lot easier to find good women for dating or marriage whereas as a diseased soul going out on sex rampage in the name of pickup will deceive itself and those that surrounds it. It’s unreal. Each individual is a creation of god and every individual is created weak and strong based on its intentions. When a soul is pure and sinless its internal light gets strong and it attracts true love. Whereas a weak soul will be a joker doing pickups, studying pickups getting short term lays with trash women and end up losing its presence in society with not much success. The pickup industry is fake and milking money from weak souls giving weak souls, false hopes! Period.

🎉🎉🎉

There's a video on reddit of you practicing on a college campus, when you were just beginning pickup, that got some heat yesterday. Just a heads up. It's under r/CringePurgatory and r/CringeTikToks.

@alexm3392

21 күн бұрын

Do you have a link? Can't find it

Todd. I apparently come off condescending when I start to banter and tease. I'm definitely doing something wrong. I try to keep a light hearted flirty vibe but clearly it makes girls nervous and a bit scared of me. Yes they become self concious but they almost seem uncomfortable. Mind you I am also jacked (not bragging just, meaning I have a very masculine presence). Can you help.

@flashpeter91

Ай бұрын

maybe they are intimidated by your presence/look...but would you need that much banter at all if you come across quite manly anyway? and/or do you smile/grin enough when you banter? keep in mind some women will even take the lightest banter to heart, because of their insecurity (those personally I would avoid).

@unknownlegend1207

Ай бұрын

@@flashpeter91 I do smirk, grin and smile in my conversations and interactions, or I at least try to, but perhaps your right. Maybe I should take a less "playful" approach, but I fear I will come off too serious. it seems a very tricky spot to be in because of the nuances.

@GarageGeek

Ай бұрын

Give us an example.

@unknownlegend1207

Ай бұрын

@@GarageGeek Literally today, i was talking to a girl and she said i walk in a cocky, self-absorbed, arrogant, i think im the shit sorta look. She wasn't attacking me cause i asked what's the worst thing you've noticed about me.

@UltromanTheTacoman

4 күн бұрын

@@unknownlegend1207 Not all girls want a guy who looks like he owns the world, especially when he clearly doesn't (when you're not the great Gatsby). It comes off as disingenuous, and prompts the adjectives that girl gave you. You don't want to look like you're overselling yourself, and you don't want to just barge into conversations with teases and banter thrown left and right, and you don't want to be a "loud mouth" (not saying you are; how would I know?). If you check out Todd's infield videos, he's pretty tactical. He shows confidence and leadership by approaching in the first place, and comes off as confident, and not needy or pushy. He has openers, but they're not immediate shit tests; maybe a light one. He creates intrigue, by opening in a playful way that doesn't show weakness, but merely shows an interest in getting to know her. Notice that in this video, he also keeps mentioning that there are phases of "getting to know each other" in the conversation. It shouldn't all be banter/tease/shit test, win, escalate. And obviously, all women are different. Not all of them are interested in a banter-filled conversation, not all of them are interested in muscles (some are even scared off by them), and not all of them want someone who is overly confident. If they did, I would never have had the girlfriends I've had. If you try to impress everyone, you end up impressing no one. And acting out of character is wasting everyone's time, because you don't want to keep acting for 40 years. Plus, the women can smell an actor out pretty quickly. Todd also says not to act like him, but to be yourself and just know the game. Think about what kind of man you are portraying, and imagine what kind of woman would want that "you". Then, think about the woman you truly want, and imagine the guy she would want. Most likely, there's a lot of overlap, but also a lot of discrepancies. Figure out if there's something YOU would like to work on, to become more YOU, so you can be more attractive to the kind of woman who would want the man you truly are. Take steps to be the guy you want to be for the next 40 years together with a woman. Look in the mirror, and see if you look like that guy when you go out. Good luck!

I like your videos but they are always so theoretical. I want more examples.

@brysonw2952

Ай бұрын

He actually had a few different channels

banter = push/pull

And if you loose? Or don’t get attention? Get tfo?

@stayhungry1503

Ай бұрын

start running bro, run FAST!

What is something that unintentionally ruins attraction on the spot?

@johncanaparius3233

Ай бұрын

Neediness, nervousness, seeking reassurance

@Matt-pn1ce

Ай бұрын

Having acne ?

@differentone_p

Ай бұрын

poor diction, quiet speech

@Ulfrich_Stormcock

Ай бұрын

@@johncanaparius3233 I mean before even speaking to someone, like a woman just seeing me. I feel invisible

@michaelzomsuv3631

Ай бұрын

being gay

👀

@ipponsuki

Ай бұрын

This is not going to in 2024 in America.

Brilliant strategy, but it would have been better if you gave an example of the whole process, not just the banter. Like example of the openings, how to win after the banter and how to escalate.

@stayhungry1503

Ай бұрын

the escalation is really were most people fail. everyone who isnt a complete dweeb can start a conversation with anyone but most guys cant keep it interesting for more than 5 seconds, and most definitely not turn it sexual (in a smooth way).

oh, you're that type of crazy. well, that is definitely a choice. you were doing so well till then.

the attraction formula = I am a retired champion poker player that lives from investing his money

- That dress is nuts. - stop flirting at me like that - yea, you smile like my stepmom/stepsis

be sexually attractive + don't be ugly + be charming + don't be an idiot or a simp, there you go guys

@stayhungry1503

Ай бұрын

"be charming" automatically disqualifies 80-90% of dudes. they wouldnt know charm if it slapped them in the face.

Make a sound to open should be a video in itself. How many different sounds can you open with? Hi Hey Oi Yo Yoy Moo Rawr bark Hahahaha! Ew! Nooo Sssss Hhhhhh Maaaa!

W video my goat but the streets are still waiting for the truth series (multiple women, 10s, 100s of women)😭 My favourite banter is a misinterpretation that's a bit contextual: Girl says something that can be misinterpreted as a kink: "I'm gonna hit you 😂" "I'm gonna puke on you" I'll be like: "Hey if that's your kink but don't be shocked if I start moaning"

Hey are you texting me? It's easier just to say hi

@tomallen3906

Ай бұрын

I'm standing right here

Well now I'm more confused then I've ever been. Think I'll just stay in my man cave.

This video should not be 9 minutes long 🙄

I don't know Man, this all sounds too complicated for no reason. I can see many men watching this, feeling like they have nothing to say to the girl. Instead you hit on many girls and whichever one sticks. You can't become a sociopath just to find a Woman... Like I have to do, this and that and this and that like its a fucking riddle... while the girl is sitting there attracting you with literally zero effort. Just go up to her, tell her that you like something about her, ask for a number and get out. Do that enough times until you become good at it and you eventually find someone who honestly likes you back. All those other mind games to me sounds exactly like the first steps to becoming a sociopath... The problem that most guys have, ISN'T what to say or not to say. Because whatever you say it doesn't really matter, the problem that guys have is that they DON'T HAVE THE CONFIDENCE to even go to talk to a Woman... So I feel like this is where our attention should be pointed at - how to make modern Men more confident, instead of giving them courses on mental gymnastics... What I'm trying to say is... If Men were more confident and approached Women more. Then that would be enough for them without all those things that you are saying... Which are true, and I agree with them, but they are not the point... Men today are insecure. And that is the main problem. Its a problem in MEN not in Women. And we can't talk about what a guy should say to a girl, if that guy doesn't even have the courage and the discipline that's required to even make the first step...

@Paul-yk7ds

Ай бұрын

I see what you're saying, but another piece of Todd's advice from other videos is: At any time in your journey of learning game, ~90% of your interactions should just be you doing your best game that comes naturally to you, and then only ~10% should be consciously trying to improve an aspect of your game by implementing tactics like the ones in these videos. So at any time, you're mostly being natural and "being yourself," but you just choose a couple little aspects to consciously improve to be more attractive or give the girl a better experience. When you approach it that way, I think it makes sense.

@-_Nuke_-

Ай бұрын

@@Paul-yk7ds Yeah I agree with that. I think that what Todd is trying to say here, is that you need to respect yourself and grow a backbone... What that means is, when a girl tells you something that makes no sense to you, or she is treating you in a bad, or bitchy way, you should show a bit of a backbone, and fight back, stand your ground and even retaliate. But again, in a playfull maner. Many guys are too "nice" because they are getting so few Women that that's the only thing they can be...

@dariog9029

Ай бұрын

Todd made lots of videos on inner game as well, this is just one video man 😅😅

@McKCM405

Ай бұрын

If you think this is mental gymnastics and that the words don't matter then why are you on a pickup and game channel commenting?

@-_Nuke_-

Ай бұрын

@@McKCM405 Because I feel you guys are being misled into doing something that should be easy, you are doing it very hard on yourselves for no reason... I was misled too just like you about 15 years ago when pick up was just starting to emerge. You as a newcomer to pick up, naturally have no confidence (not you in particular, just new guys) and instead of admitting that hey I have no confidence, they create this imaginary world where Women are a Rubik's cube and you should become a master solver in order to sleep with them... You go out and you even apply some of these methods and they don't work (because Women are not Rubrics cubes) and then INSTEAD of blaming the pick up bs that you learned for your failure... You double down and you convince yourself that you are not as good as a Man or a pick up artist and you invest even more time into this bs... And the more you invest the more you fail and the more obsessed you become. The reality is so much different it's insane... And Women if you ask them will tell you the "secret". Confidence and being yourself. Now we have to unpack what those words mean... And that's a whole another topic but the core idea is that you need to change your mentality from, "Im talking to this girl and im trying" to "Im not giving a single f, and im not trying anything, im just saying what's on my mind (being yourself) and then Im moving on to the next one" I agree with him though on the fact that you need to have a backbone. You should retaliate when Women challenge you or boss you around. But if they don't, then why apply any if that on her? Why make it hard for yourself? Out of insecurity that she won't like you? Bro, move on to the next one if she doesn't... Moving on to the next one is your ONLY realistic "weapon". All the rest are just random stuff that might or might not work...

1. Be handsome and tall 2. Be handsome and tall 3. Be handsome and tall

Banter is literally the easiest thing in game the fact that Todd had to make this video is sad

@hazelyokouji2005

Ай бұрын

It’s for beginners tho , so it helps for people like me since I’m a beginner and a nice guy . It’s alright if you don’t get it.

@trevorm9551

Ай бұрын

Awww 🥹

@exxie1

Ай бұрын

I don't think banter comes naturally for guys. I can only think of very few of my male friends who can actually banter with women. And humbly speaking, I know I have the most instigating banters towards women that it just creates that fun "I hate you" vibe, if that makes sense. But yeah, I would agree, banter is the easiest part in game personally since I'm a natural at it

just eat extra chipotle before ever date or cold approach and the girl will be dripping wet she sees you