About the first level, I'd like to add something my therapist once told me: I told him I was having trouble keeping my promises to myself because there was no accountability, because if I didn't do something I promised myself I would do, "no one would know". He stopped me and said: "what do you mean no one? You would know. You ARE someone." So just a friendly reminder. You ARE someone, and keeping your promises to yourself matters, because you matter.

@studyjul9774

3 жыл бұрын

whoa

@Max-ed5gr

3 жыл бұрын

dang

@senkusmom6577

3 жыл бұрын

That’s deep

@TheEncouragementKid

3 жыл бұрын

very true , and it helps you build self-trust which is feral important

@luciagarcia4820

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheEncouragementKid It's SO important to start keeping the promises you make to yourself, as you said it builds trust in yourself, and you start making it a habit to actually DO the things you want to do, because it's almost like making plans with a friend, except that friend is yourself.

summary of the vid, level 1 : accountability to yourself 2:10 level 2 : accountability partners 3:50 level 3 : coaches and teachers 5:50 level 4 : teams & organizations 7:20 level 5 : leadership 9:10 . . thanks for reading, have a great day guys!

@atherquadir

3 жыл бұрын

Many Thanks dear stay blessed

@donaldli4755

3 жыл бұрын

I wish every video starts with something like that.

@AyushJaz

3 жыл бұрын

@@atherquadir you're welcome bro :)

@AyushJaz

3 жыл бұрын

@@donaldli4755 haha yes 😂

@merylsilverburgh8081

3 жыл бұрын

👌💖

"I don't want your filthy failure money Tom" 🤯I want a Martin in my life too

@panagenesis2695

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣

@volfcz

3 жыл бұрын

Well... Important is whether he would actually took the money, despite not wanting them, if the daily goal would fail. As if not, he would be too nice to keep you accountable. Still good person, but not fitting the requirements.

@martinwong6109

3 жыл бұрын

:O

@tommartin911

3 жыл бұрын

got both the Tom and Martin 😈

@sagnickbhowmick6191

3 жыл бұрын

@@tommartin911 Hats off bro

Some years ago, while I was in a deep rut, I wasn't able to get out of bed before 10AM. So I made a commitment with two of my friends: I had to send them everyday a selfie of me out of bed before 8AM, or else I would pay them 1€. It lasted 6months, I ended up with a regular wake up schedule and owing them 20€. I used them to buy them drink as a thank you, and it was worth every cent.

@stikoes4057

3 жыл бұрын

I saw the same variation of this on reddit, and its pretty cool! Someone did the same bet too, but they have to send themsekves selfies of them brushing their teeth. Really awesome

@Student0Toucher

3 жыл бұрын

Europe= L

@VaulPianney

3 жыл бұрын

Was one of your friends called… Martin? Haha Inspirational story tho

@arlohealth

3 жыл бұрын

Let's gooooo. Inspirational story. Accountability is so key. Thanks for sharing so much.

@Lungi3

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the idea I am going to try this one

Who stopped studying... just to see this video on how to be self-discipline

@sayawafa1

3 жыл бұрын

Me 😂

@johnx140

3 жыл бұрын

HOW DO YOU KNOW WHAT IM DOING DUDE?!?!?!?!

@kidcurry420

3 жыл бұрын

yessir procrastination time

@ebinezersamprincea9710

3 жыл бұрын

Me

@eymo9147

3 жыл бұрын

@@johnx140 skill ma man😂😂😂

Something that really helped me learn a foreign language was committing to teach it to my children. I feel a pressure that I have to get good or it wouldn’t have just been a waste of time for me but for them as well.

@aa0000

3 жыл бұрын

The best way to learn is teaching :)

@jclyntoledo

3 жыл бұрын

@@aa0000 Very true

@vikingthedude

3 жыл бұрын

That's a great way to do level 5

@aakashgupta5613

3 жыл бұрын

Good one Mathias - very practical and effective

@Daniel_McDougall

3 жыл бұрын

As someone who has his first child due any day now, this drive is so powerful and real. I’m study psychology and get top marks because of study habits from Tom, Ali, and other KZreadrs but becoming a father has made me want to truly become that well rounded, grounded, effective across multiple domains performer. Not for myself, but for them. I hate the thought of being a hypocrite to them

"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." - Robert Collier You guys got this! I believe in you! 💪😊

Loving the 5 levels. Being accountable to others is being responsible. But accountable to yourself changes your life. Best tip for self-discipline “If you wish to be out front, then act as if you were behind.” - Lao Tzu

@AyushJaz

3 жыл бұрын

saving this for sure

@yahyazitane3785

3 жыл бұрын

"Deal with the big while it is still small.” -Lao Tzu

@AnisQiz

3 жыл бұрын

@@AyushJaz 🙏🏻👍🏼

@AnisQiz

3 жыл бұрын

@@yahyazitane3785 👍🏼👋🏼

@littlemonster5296

3 жыл бұрын

I major in Chinese literature, and I'm trying to figure out what the original sentence in Chinese this was 🤣 (not in an ironic way, simply out of curiousity

Should’ve had a self discipline class in high school 😭

@Thatguyujustmet

3 жыл бұрын

They did, it was called “homework” If you did it, you practiced self discipline and were rewarded with good grades. If you didn’t do it, you failed yourself and payed for it with poor grades.

@BenyQuinonez

3 жыл бұрын

@@Thatguyujustmet Wouldn't that just be .-. doing the work you're told? I did all my homework and I still have bad self discipline.

@bedantaphukon8382

3 жыл бұрын

We can't only blame high school, because i don't think students would even understand the importance of self-discipline at that age. During that time, they would think about enjoying their life. Plus, since school is basically rote learning and getting good grades, if anyone introduces self-discipline as a subject, then they might just do it for the grades and not actually practice the basic principles.

"I dont want your filthy failure money Tom😴" 😂😂😂omg im ded.

@ciscoc.4575

3 жыл бұрын

right 🤣

@gabrielobe7447

3 жыл бұрын

i came to the comments looking for this

@panagenesis2695

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣

@orlandotorresquinones6654

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah I came looking for this too, it was awesome XD

I reall recommend reading "Atomic Habits" just after reading the power of habit .. Power of habit is the theory, and you need to readi it and understand it, atomic habits is the practice ..

@bec_Divyansh

3 жыл бұрын

I read atomic habits but it's so hard to actually put the things into practice , do you have any suggestions that could help?

@derickpaultolentino4274

3 жыл бұрын

@@bec_Divyansh keep practicing. There is no shortcut

@bec_Divyansh

3 жыл бұрын

@@derickpaultolentino4274 On it!

@intentionalliving7326

3 жыл бұрын

‘Tiny habits’ is great as well ✨✨

This is what I love about Frank, enhancing the ideas of a book -- adding value! The cohesiveness and relevance of the model is too valuable not to share!

Being able to hold yourself accountable is such an underrated skill! It is definitely not easy however for those who can I am proud of you❤️

That's some great hair lighting. Others may not notice, but I appreciate the lighting in your vids - great content and great form. Thank you, Thomas!

Gosh... Even WHEN I told my IT teacher that I was going to make a game this summer, or when I told a number of friends that I'm going to write a comic, I STILL can't get myself to do it!

The key to self-discipline is accountability. When your boss tells you to be to work at a specific time, you are there at a specific time because your boss is relying on you. When your little brother asks you to pick them up from school, you do it because he is relying on you. The obligations we have to each other is what makes us disciplined. But what about our personal goals? What about that instrument you've been meaning to learn or the workout routine you're trying to stick to? With these personal goals, there's nobody else really relying on us. So we can't really tap accountability to improve our self-discipline, can we? Actually we can, there are five levels of self-discipline. Each levels in this model has to do with a different type of accountability that can be applied to augment and improve your levels of self-discipline. level 1 : accountability to yourself Make a plan, write down what are you going to do specifically, and what conditions may cause you to fail. level 2 : accountability partners One person in specific, don't tell everybody. Create consequences for failing. level 3 : coaches and teachers Someone who is invested in your success. level 4 : teams & organizations Your personal goal becomes aligned with a common goal. Have other people who are relying on you to do your part. level 5 : leadership Instead of people rely on you just to do your part, now everyone is relying on you to guide them as well. When you're a leader, the accountability is at its highest point, but also the responsibility and the consequences for failure are as well. Good Luck, stay strong!

Great video. The only thing I would add is making changes to your environment(which can include an accountability buddy) to make it easier to do the things that you want to do and succeed, and more difficult to do the things you'd like to avoid or fail.

Having an accountability buddy definitely helps - especially when we can both go to the same gym class at 7am together 😅 PS. Awwww your kitty!! 😻

Level 1 - stop watching this and get back to work

@aimforgreatness5150

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@TemplarX2001

3 жыл бұрын

Shhhhh

@MeemahSN

3 жыл бұрын

Unless youre overworked

@wakeupclumsyold

3 жыл бұрын

guys, I am the smartest man alive! I was doing my work while watching this video! >:)

@yaoretian5104

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣

I realised that recently I stopped working out and chasing my dream because of a lack of will power and consistency .. Right before I found this video, I got the motivation to start doing what I love again but as they say motivation comes and goes so I need to replace it with discipline. You are 1000% correct about the accountability part..

The highest level is being a mother or father in a family. Having to care for that family in all aspects and raise your own children has such an unbelievable impact on an individual that someone who's never experienced this will never understand it.

@Nisah98

3 жыл бұрын

True, one thing I noticed about popular productivity youtubers like Thomas and Ali Abdaal, is they tend to focus more on the productivity on self or work place. Which it isn’t wrong, it’s their content and their audience after all. But, I would love to find more gurus that speak about family productivity as well since I would like to have my own family one day.

So I've been doing the whole self reflecting thing lately, and realized something very important that has to do with number one. I was having issues with self worth and self respect. Then I took a third person inventory of my relationship with myself. I looked and said if someone I was friends with or in a relationship with did what I do(flake on the things you promise you'll do, not move towards your goals, chase short term pleasure as a distraction from the relationship with yourself), would you like that person? Emphatically no. As soon as you realize self accountability is an aspect of your relationship with yourself, which determines how you feel about yourself, which impacts how you treat others, you immediately see its importance. At least that's been my experience

Your editing is getting better and better!! btw nice to see 3 vids uploaded every 2 days this week

This is one of the best videos on self-discipline I’ve ever seen.

“There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you.” -David Burns

Self discipline imo is an emergent property from keeping yourself focused on a single thought and not having that thought displaced. How you get that thought to stay and not be distracted is the hard part. Accountability and having others is one way. But I think the common factor is keeping a single thought in your head and not letting it be replaced by another.

Love this topic. That is why I love having accountability partners, one or two people that have similar goals. Self discipline is hard but it can be done

@intentionalliving7326

3 жыл бұрын

🙌🏻 yes!!

5:15 That's really kind, it shows that really cares about you.

“Just remember, you can’t climb the ladder of success with your hands in your pockets. You will have to get out of your comfort zone .. HAVE A NICE DAY TO ALL

@AyushJaz

3 жыл бұрын

👌👌

@jamesadamgleason9471

3 жыл бұрын

What if your disabled

@abeginnerspov5968

3 жыл бұрын

Or maybe just take the stairs sir.

Huge like for the cat! 😺

"doing what you said you were going to do" is a powerful accountability. "doing what you said you were going to do when you said you were going to do it" is more powerful.

Why your video come out on time when I am struggling with self-discipline lately. I barely can't do anything and being not productive at all until this video pops out at my homepage. Thankkss for sharing, sure it back to our execution once again, but I find out this as a reminder for me to back on track again. Your video is amazingg! Keep inspiring!

I was just searching for self-discipline last evening and you've uploaded one. Thank you. It gave me some true insights.

You missed the perfect chance to use Butters excellent word "Accountabilibuddy"

Its funny how often people stop what they are doing to watch a video about discipline lol. Good video

This video motivates me so much! I just need to start somehow...

Hi, I would love to hear your advice on building a habit for ADHD persons. Thank you

@snailas7489

3 жыл бұрын

@@schoolworkaccount3887 downloaded the app and it’s exactly what i’ve been looking for in a routine builder. have no experience working with it yet, but im looking forward to starting, thanks for sharing the recommendation :)

@lauravsthepage

3 жыл бұрын

I have adhd and I am certainly no expert in the subject but for me the trick was to just really force myself to focus on one habit at a time, for x amount of days, and use the usual habit building techniques. That, and focus on the foundations first. People with ADHD cannot get away with eating poorly, sleeping bad, and not exercising.

Thank you Frank. Looking forward to order the book 📖. Understand myself is very important, we or me tend to procrastinate in life. I need a eye opener. Thank you 🙏🏼

I’m only 3:45 minutes in and I had to stop to comment how awesome and useful of a video this is. Thank you!

Level 2 was so true. The moments I tell people my goals, I fail myself, and just lead to being a disappointment. I’ll keep trying.

Ive been struggling with depression for a year now, Fortunately I was able to go through therapy but the stress of having to relive the worst parts of my life really set me off track. How do you stay productive towards your goals when you feel emotionally heavy? Do you have any book recommendations that may have helped you with this issue?

@imRunicz

3 жыл бұрын

david burns' books feeling good and feeling great helped me the most, (feeling good is easily found online in pdf form but its much older so some outdated info, but still largely good stuff) during the worst parts of my depression

@disha3518

3 жыл бұрын

I tried EFT tapping and meditation. Try that! All the best bud. Happy for your improvement.!! ❤

@Equinoxsanity

3 жыл бұрын

I am not psychlogyist but try meditation and try seeking good psychologist and psychiatrist

@jclyntoledo

3 жыл бұрын

I consume a lot of motivational and inspirational content like music, podcasts, and interviews/KZread and even posts on Pinterest, but some ppl use Instagram and tik tok instead. An example of a motivational song: I wanna get better by bleachers. You don't necessarily need a book, don't waste money if you're depressed that's already going to be hard to read the book or not zone out. Also there's a thing I've been trying that might be more of a self love or self parenting thing but I tell myself I'm proud of myself when I do a task I needed to do and remind myself I'm getting better/making strides and can keep going. So that kinda works as a dopamine hit and produces a positive mood associated to it, 😂 in case you have dopamine issues as well as me. P. S. Sorry for the run on sentence. Oh and push-ups help too in a weird way 😂 but you can also try whatever form of exercise you like too like dancing alone in your room. Just start the day off doing something that gets you jazzed to be alive. Okay I'm going to go now.... If any of this was useful let me know.

@worteltel2914

3 жыл бұрын

Anything that ease your mental burden ( exercise, meditation, or sometimes face the problem that burden you

I feel like self discipline to consistently produce content on KZread is on a whole other level 🙌🏽

The thumbnail tells you that Thomas' is still waiting for his PS5

@jeremy8962

3 жыл бұрын

Same

@tabbywarrior

3 жыл бұрын

Or he hasn't ordered one like me🙂 I might get the series x for emulation but that's it

@Thomasfrank

3 жыл бұрын

ya'll are going to make fun of me but the only game I play right now is Crossy Road

@Zetraxes

3 жыл бұрын

@@Thomasfrank still better than doing crack

@FullyChargedSRG

3 жыл бұрын

@@Zetraxes now that's self discipline

That was a really well developed idea and video! That’s why I’ve been following you for at least 5 years now. Keep up the great work!!

I read "HOW TO GET THINGS DONE ?" and everysingle thing u said is right inside that book too

Great vid as always! Sorta wierd how you always upload exactly the type of video I need...

Nice to see you are uploading regularly 🤘🤘

I'm so incredibly happy for you Thomas I'm so proud of the website you've created with other creators you are one of my favourite productivity KZreadrs and you deserve all the best🤗

Number 5 really spoke to me.

"I dont want your filthy failure money." Yes.

Oh yeah, I’ll be coming back to this one for a while. I like the connection between self discipline and leadership, that’s new to me.

I use to have SO much discipline, life happened and caused so many changes I HATE ab myself. I want to change ways and be different but jus couldn’t get myself to do it - BUT when it comes to work.. I can get myself to get up and get dressed and do my job which is long hours and very stressful.. so one may think much harder than cleaning, or eating better, etc.. yet getting myself to do anything positive for myself seems impossible. Recently I tried to trick my mind into thinking I HAD to do those certain things for work, or Bc my big boss said so or make up something like that in my head hoping I’d be able to find the whatever to actually do it... ugh I hate it. I hate this. I hate not even remembering what it feels like to be.. heck to even be content.. but especially happy.. tired of it being so rare for me to genuinely smile over anything at all.. no idea what my real laugh sounds like anymore. It’s so so lonely. “Surrounded by people, but feeling so alone” is such a real, miserable thing. 💔💔 Me just realizing you have sooo many subscribers and will prob not see/reply to this lol is this relatable at all?

Level 6: Hire someone to threaten you with a gun if you don't achieve your goals

Exactly what I needed now that I've been studying programming so THANK YOU!!! 🙏🌻😊

@callmemagi

3 жыл бұрын

@@krypton1142 JAVA, but right now I've decided to get some basic knowledge on Linux, since it'll probably be something I will work with. And I'm also having to work on my Math skills bc I've forgotten some parts oops

I loved the background music , thanks for the great video

This is so true. I’ve never worked harder than when I was in the weight room with my teammates. It’s a lot easier when you’re doing it for something bigger than you.

If you’re watching this video just know you are on the right path in life... promise me you won’t give up!❤️

5:27 "I Don't want your filthy Failure money." OUCH!! THAT BURNS HOT!!!! I gotta use that! 🔥🔥💰🔥🔥

i already have the habit of clicking fast every video of yours i see!

Your videos are always so calming dude

I've discovered pleasing people doesn't move me anymore. I've grown tired of answering to others. Duty doesn't fullfil me at all. The more obligation I feel, the more resistance I produce, and keeping promises don't even feel that good. It seems I have no hope now.

Hey, there is another thing to do to get level 2 and level 4 as well... Praise your friend's successes, this will motivate them to keep going and cheer for your success as well

Man i just luvvv your amazing, high quality content!

Thanks for helping me change and grow as a person

Love that you have a kitty friend! You discuss some great strategies for setting and meeting goals, along with staying accountable. I will say, though, for people who are perfectionists, have anxiety, or are particularly hard on themselves, ruminate on "failure" when they don't meet their goals, having a flexible mindset. Even if you set a personal goal of doing something 7 days a week, maybe doing that thing 5 or 6 out of 7 days a week can be considered a success.

You're on fire this week Thomas! Three awesome videos. But the cat appearance at the end made this the best of the week!

Level 1:you are accountable to your future self & your future self needs to hold your current-self accountable. whether the goal time is 1-day later, 1-month later, or 1-yr later.

love the vid mate, i summarised some of what you said on paper. Can feel myself sticking to these tasks and also i feel more productive as a result, thanks.

That the most important thing you said today. Focused and taking action is important. Your explanation is better. Thanks brother.

I think that you need to discuss ownership next. In the book Mine, it's discussed how the stories we tell about ownership determine who owns or is owed something. This is important because, even with the best of intentions, you can tell yourself you're owed something to yourself and that can become a destructive feedback loop that affects your accountability. Which I myself would contrast with Emmanuel Levinas' views on Responsibility.

@aditya_kanu

2 жыл бұрын

are you on Twitter or Instagram or some social media, I want to understand your Moving bin technique, pretty please

Thank you, Thomas, for this insightful video. I procrastinated watching it for weeks leaving it in watch later, but I'm content that I did now because of how relevant it is.

I really love this video, thank you Thomas!

Yeah discipline is pretty difficult, but actually it’s all about habits

@cheterete5043

3 жыл бұрын

Don’t you need discipline to form a habit tho

@rubidiumstrontium6427

3 жыл бұрын

@@cheterete5043 a bit for sure but way less then otherwise

Best video thank you so much

When Thomas said "and for that reason" I heard in my head "i'm out" Too much shark tank xD

I think the whole concept might be about taking responsibility. Stop avoiding responsibility, and do what needs to be done. It might not be fun, but it will make your life better and those around you. Otherwise, you will go on about life blaming others and situations around you. Take responsibility, and work with what you have.

This is one of your best videos.

For those who are interested in the topic of the video and probably are looking for more ways to be disciplined, I would highly suggest people read Atomic Habits by James Clear. The way he breaks down the benefits of habits and how to create good habits and break bad ones in a concise and easy-to-understand way is awesome. Also, for those who are not really into reading the whole audio book is on Spotify, so there are no excuses!

Hey Thomas! Love your videos but quick thing. If you're going to use that Shure SM7B for audio, move the mic closer to your mouth. It might be just me but I think you're having to turn the gain up so much that it's getting a little bit of reverb or certain frequencies get exaggerated and the sound becomes a little harsh to the ear. Jayztwocents did a video about how he wasn't impressed with the SM7B until he started using it right.

Great content! Thank you.

Personal notes : Its all in the accountability... 5 levels of discipline: 1. 2:10 Accountability to yourself. It's the weakest one but not weak itself necessarily. Every time we make a plan or decide to do something, we are trying to make our future self accountable. 1.1 make it tangible. Write it down. 1.2 be very specific. Write it EXACTLY and try to find and write down the things that you think might cause you to fail. And when you face problems, you might see that its not the stuff you wrote down initially and rule it out more quickly since it's not a big a deal. 2. 3:50 Accountability Partners. Someone who cares about you and who WILL keep you accountable. Try not to talk about your goals very much because it'll cause you to feel like you've done something but in reality, you haven't. 3. 5:50 Coaches and Teachers. These are professionals in the field you're trying to learn and what they do is teach. So they can hold you accountable really well. 4. 7:20 Teams and Organizations. Your personal goals becomes aligned with team and they rely on you. And that makes it super powerful. Since most likely, those people have the same goals as you. It becomes better still if your input and contributions matter to all the members. 5. 9:10 Leadership. Now everyone actually RELY on you and the stakes are high. Highest accountability there is...

5:33 Yeah. I have a Martin in my life but he has proven to be the worst accountability partner

I just want to say that I love your videos 🎈❤️ You always do a great job.

This is a very well put together video.

Brilliant video Thomas. Potentially life changing. I’ll give it a try 🙏🏾

Thomas Frank really deserves his own show on Nat Smart

Thank you for this video and the surprise at the end!

This is why you are my favorite youtuber

Awesome video and an even better discussion. Imagine being able to explain to someone how to breath. That is honestly funny but that's a great way to explain the expert paradox.

1:05 I love this story

Thank you

thank you, i was asking this around but nobody had idea about steps. so this really helps.

@mridul407

3 жыл бұрын

Ehh, was that message a light prank by someone?

I wish I had a Martin as a friend too! None of my friends can hold me accountable sadly

Honestly, just mastering #1 will get you SO far in life.

Nothing but truth 💯

Truly amazing editing

Has anyone noticed how Thomas seemed to have been gone for a while, then BOOM 3 new videos close to each other!

@neucoas

3 жыл бұрын

Listen to the last podcast episode

Yay new video! Thanks! I APPRECIATE YOU!

Me: > writes down a list of things to do every day. > does the things on that list for two days > never looks at list again

I have been trying to find an accounting partner for some of my personal goals, but I fear that the other person might not have the same value as me and might not be committed to it. Because of this I don't usually tell other people about my goals. I know that this is trust issues that i need to work on.