This advice is spot on. I have been both of these women. The nice, accommodating, not "difficult" woman got little respect and definitely no lasting love. When I decided to put my feelings first and say NO, stand up for myself when I didnt like something and show that I could and would walk away, is when true love found me. He became my husband but unfortunately he passed away. However, I am now that "difficult" woman and although it sends most men packing, that's good because those are guys who only want to use me and waste my time. Listen to Brian, ladies. The RIGHT man will fall head over heels for you if you stay true to yourself and call him out when he needs it. Self-love and self-respect are the most important values to have in dating. If he's going to leave you because you're not a doormat, he's simply not the right guy for you and probably not for anyone. Let him WALK. Another is RIGHT down the road.

I once had a guy I’d been dating for about four months ask me, “if someone asks you to sign a pre-nup before marriage, would you do it?” His family was fairly wealthy. My response was, “No. I don’t start a marriage by planning for the divorce.” He was shocked and his cousin fell over laughing. I added, “If you feel you need to ask a woman to sign a pre-nup before marrying her...then stop. You’re not marrying the right person.” I broke up with him a month later and he did go on to marry a beautiful woman and he didn’t ask her to sign any papers. They’ve been married twenty-five years.

So the message i get: "don't fall in love before He falls in Love with you first"

Normally when a woman stops loving her partner that's the time he's ready to give her all the love that she no longer needs. I guess this is so because she develops the strength and courage to say 'no' and also ignores him. It does work but only when the ladies already given up on the relationship.

Saying "no" is not about controlling or manipulating the situation, it's about respecting yourself and setting boundries and knowing when to walk away.

To me, a good relationship doesn't require games. It should be easy to communicate. If it's not and he won't open up to you, move on!

Also, don't cancel arrangements with girl friends when the guy you're interested in asks you out.

I always said, "If you wouldn't let one of your friends get away with it, why would you let a man get away with it?" Thank you Geert!

Well, and then there’s the issue that some men don’t recognize a real challenge, and think women who are bitchy and demanding are a challenge. The wise ones realize the women who don’t demand stuff/money/gifts are the real challenges.

"Don't let that in-love you sit at the wheel in your lovelife. She's supposed to be the passenger". Love it!

Saying no is powerful. It teaches people how to treat you and shows respect for yourself. The hardest thing is saying no when you want to say yes but you know you would be disrespecting yourself in the long run.

The man I'm dating, I'm doing exactly what you are saying & I tell him I won't put up with "that" & he's making me pull away from him. He tells me he's afraid of losing me & apologies & respects my boundaries.

Holy crap!!!! You are so right!!!! When I felt romantic love was superficial, focused on my kids and my career, men who were interested never seemed to lose interest for years. No matter how often they were rejected! When I decided I want to be in a relationship and found a guy I was interested in, after several dates I found myself becoming this insecure, needy, frankly an embarrassing version of myself that I didn’t recognize. Very unattractive! My life was full without a man it should remain full with a man..... happy me happy man

Right on advice. Being a pleaser sends a wrong message. Lesson learned only too late.

Wow, I wish I had heard this advice years ago. I set boundaries with my first ex, but then he pushed them and pressured me, and I gave in. It turned out to be an abusive relationship, and I didn’t leave until 3 kids and 13 years later. Did the same thing with the 2nd. Finally, I’ve gotten free, have had counseling and a lot of inner healing, and I’m trying to learn how to enter the dating world again. He’s right, ladies. Set those boundaries early on, and stick to them. If you’re insecure, you don’t value yourself, and you let these men control you, predators will smell that from miles off! Get counseling and help before you think about starting a relationship. Wish I had. ❤

I agree Brian, I will not compromise my body,my faith, or morals for any man!! and he knows now that I am not afraid of losing him!! my mama taught me that.... "another bus is always coming"

The guy I like called me a snob and judgmental for taking a strong stance. I said if he doesn't like to hear my thoughts he should stop talking to me AND I walked away. Guess who sought me out repeatedly a few days after? ;)

I told my boyfriend I wouldn't be in a relationship as the only giver. He's been all in ever since. =-)

I’m in a relationship now with a man I genuinely shot down in the beginning. I was genuinely rude because I had my children with me, had just gotten off work and was tired and in NO MOOD to talk to “some random dude”...I now get a real man outta this dude. He goes above and beyond for me without me asking him for anything at all...I’m so in love with this man now too💯❤️🥰

I am a student of this lesson indeed. No really works. I used to be so accommodating. Then the blinders came off of my eyes. He was taking full advantage of my kindness. I turned it off and turned the situation around. Now, he chases me.....Love it.