As a generally soft person, this gave me so much comfort. I always thought there was something wrong with me because of it. Regardless of how strong I've tried to be, I could never really accomplish it. This made me realize that there was nothing wrong with me all along

@rationalised

Жыл бұрын

me too, i have aways thought that being a strong , dominating person is only one to win the situations , i have been always trying to be rigid as much as possible but i always turned out to be weak and soft, this video gave me content of myself for who i really am....

@Lioness_of_Gaia

Жыл бұрын

🥰

@Gumbier_Than

Жыл бұрын

Same

@davachi

Жыл бұрын

Ha, u soft

@Reskyboy1

Жыл бұрын

@@rationalised Yes. I think this is cause society paints that kinda picture often and there is so many who acts like that including maybe our parents. Its good that people realize these kinda things.😊 Okay i wrote this before watching the video and now realized he kinda tells this already :D.

Softness is what enables us to lean into our resilience and build our courage overtime. We have become so resistant towards any signs of weakness and vulnerabilities that we now automatically equate soft with weak. Not the same, thank you for the video

@luminouswolf7117

Жыл бұрын

Attempting to hide weakness is ironically weakness

@Rattus-Norvegicus

Жыл бұрын

@@luminouswolf7117 Not always, it can be advantageous for survival. If driven by ego, that's when it can be problematic.

@user-zu1ix3yq2w

Жыл бұрын

Like a flexible sword vs a brittle one. Tensile strength has its uses.

@janeeeyyy2421

Жыл бұрын

clearly you miss the point here. Thanks for your opinion.

@youlovealex

Жыл бұрын

@@youdontlikewords Did you accomplish what you wanted to? Did you accomplish anything?

Being like water/being gentle is so easy yet challenging at times. We often try to control & force things to happen in our lives. But when we let go life unfolds effortlessly and you save much more energy.

@UniqueGeekFreak

Жыл бұрын

Yes I agree and it's hard reversing back to the "ways of water" lol (Avatar) This comes from someone who's been floating like a piece of wood for decades and ended up being washed up on other people's shores, instead of following my own compass....i still have no idea where to go or what to do with my life, now i've frozen the water a bit, in order to get some stability BUT also people have walked all over me because of being watery, so i ended up a volcano fire & brimstones lol. Now that the steam is off....im trying to go back to the "ways of water" 💙🧘‍♀️ I must say with my experience, everything always turned out well in my favour when i indeed did flow like water & let things come and go as it wanted, instead of controlling or forcing myself others or situations to be a certain way. So yes as Bruce Lee says " Be water my friend"

@seagullpoet

Жыл бұрын

I was reading WALDEN last night. He really was something. A 27 year older - just graduated Harvard - stayed outside 2 years.

@lifebydesign9435

Жыл бұрын

Well that's not true at all! there's a rhythm to it sometimes you need to put an effort Don't forget that that's the taoist way.

@jonber9411

Жыл бұрын

One should not be afraid, of being afraid.

@joaotanaka3071

Жыл бұрын

@@jonber9411 that’s very similar for something I’ve heard Alan Watts saying. In one of his lectures( you can find on youtube, Alan watts lectures eastern wisdow and modern life) he stated that one way of be kinda of liberated from suffering, is to actually suffer, without resistance, or any complaints/negative thoughts about it. An example is about worrying, something we do very often. But what if you know worrying is bad, and you try to force yourself to stop worrying. In the end, what happens it’s similar to what einselganger said about in his videos of seeking happiness and reverse effort: try not to think about a elephant, you can’t, and the harder you try, the worse it gets, and you ended up in a vicius cycle. But, in the case of worry, of fear, whatever, if you allow yourself to do that, after a while it goes aways. So, Alan Watts ends his video talking about a toy, that has his center of gravity in a way that you can’t push it down, it always gets back up, because it yelds and doesn’t resist, contraty to any other solid object. Thus, he states that in order to be truly unshakable, you must not block(resist) and be yelding

_“Be like water making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way around or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves._ _Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend.”_ ― Bruce Lee

@SkyScannerBtown

Жыл бұрын

Wind can also shape the water naturally

@jenz720

Жыл бұрын

This whole video is missing the crashing part of this quote. Just as the waves have got to crash upon the shore at some point you will be bound to use force.

@TrueWisdom135

3 ай бұрын

Water is the embodiment of the Tao :)

@shadicspeed2523

2 ай бұрын

But isn’t being assertive still important in life

I would use the more Taoist accurate terms of rigidity and flexibility instead of weak and strong. A flexible plant bends (adapts) to strong winds while a rigid plant breaks. Water flows around hard objects because it adapts itself while a hard object with run up against the rock. Taoists teach "softness" as adaptability and compliance rather than as weakness. Bamboo is one of the strongest plants for its size, but it bends and adapts to strong wind. Taoist "softness" is not a measure of strength, but adaption.

@moustachio334

Жыл бұрын

Thank you. I was scratching my head at the beginning.

@lidsss1

Жыл бұрын

I think its useful how he uses the term "weak" to convey softness/flexibility because in many ways that is how those qualities are conceived by our society.

@swordmonkey6635

Жыл бұрын

@@lidsss1 But that's not how Taoism looks at it and he's trying to convey a Taoist lesson about Taoist principles. It's a disservice to bend Taoist ideas to make them more "Western friendly". The very reason Western society misunderstands flexibility and adaptation as weakness or softness is the exact problem.

@username2872

Жыл бұрын

@@swordmonkey6635 why don't we adapt his terms and go with the flow...

@swordmonkey6635

Жыл бұрын

@@username2872 Because people who are unfamiliar with Taoism will take the labels literally and then become confused or jump to conclusions based the image being painted inaccurately. It's easy for someone versed in Zhuangzi and Laozi's teachings to mentally replace the inaccurate word, but people new to Taoism don't have that going for them.

To be gentle as a warm hearted feather And as solid as concrete As ferocious as a lion Is an art within itself People mistake love and kindness with weakness For they don't have the wisdom to understand the immense strength it carries And the heart of the lion Is far more powerfull than its roar

”Self-control is Strength, Right thought is Mastery, Calmness is Power” -James Allen

@alysononoahu8702

9 ай бұрын

Who...said the buddha😅

This reminds me of the story of the Willow and the Oak. People tend to admire and want to emulate the great Oak tree because it is big and strong and sturdy, but, when a big storm comes, the Oak can be completely toppled, pulling its roots from the ground. Whereas during the same storm the Willow tree being supple and pliant will bend, sometimes almost all the way to the ground, but when the storm is over it springs right back up into place, thus surviving.

@Startupsandsushi

Жыл бұрын

Love it! 👏🏼 🌳

@mellow_melody

Жыл бұрын

@@Startupsandsushi thank you! 💙

@ethanwaugh8184

Жыл бұрын

Most definitely! "No one is more dangerously insane than one who is sane all the time: he is like a steel bridge without flexibility, and the order of his life is rigid and brittle." -Alan Watts

@Padraigp

Жыл бұрын

Big willows also fall down and oaks when young are supple. So thats more a feature of being large ...also depends on the roots and the crowdedness of the forest ... if very crowded trees grow fast and tall and not strong like the oak and though young and thin they are quite sucseptible to storms. And if its an evergreen pine they have very shallow roots ..so a lot of the willows and hazel here will fall because they are planted too close together. The big oak trees often lose a branch but have withstood many hundreds of years storms lightning etc and generally pretty damn strong. One of the reasons a willow will regrow when toppled is not because it is soft and yeilding but because it has growth hormone throughout the whole tree so any peice of it left can grow roots again from a branch etc.

@mellow_melody

Жыл бұрын

@@Padraigp thanks for the dendrology lesson but it’s just a metaphor.

The more I learn from many religions, philosophies, and just general wisdom throughout society as I travel. The more I find that the greatest philosophical wisdom for life there is, is to be balanced. Everything comes back to this. Not too little or too much of any one thing. Like the Yin and Yang. You have a little of yin in the yang and vice versa, and you have both flowing into each other. Balance.

@89CherryGirl

Жыл бұрын

Bro. Bro. Bro. You just explained why I love the yin and the yang. Just brilliant!

@rairaur2234

Жыл бұрын

Our whole universe, as do our minds, seeks a neutral, balanced state. By striving for balance we merely act as a continuation of the "will of nature", both spiritual and physical. Balance is standing on the dividing line between yin and yang

@jjstarrprod

Жыл бұрын

If you put all the religious symbols side by side, the Taiji (yin&yang) is by very far the closest to the true nature of life. It's not antagonizing, it shows the duality of life and how it's a neverending dance. It tells a story everyone on the planet can understand at first glance without any context, all on its own in a single image. It's the perfect symbol.

@Wellwtfallthenamesaretooken

10 ай бұрын

@@jjstarrprod I b suken dek. 👩🏻‍🦱

It takes much emotional strength to be soft and warm hearted in these times.

As an educator I often try to teach students that insecurity is often a sign of sensitivity, read caring for who might be hurt by consequences. And I think the world needs much more sensitive leaders, not 'strong man' with tunnel vision.

@Donna-cc1kt

Жыл бұрын

Well said. Thank you for opening that truth to your students.

@ayampencen6363

Жыл бұрын

👍👍👍👍

@Dowlphin

Жыл бұрын

It depends on how insecurity expresses itself, or doesn't. Many insecure people devote to strength, rigidity, in order to fit in and make it in the system. The true softness taught in a Daoist context comes from cultivation of internal power and leads to a feeling of security. Retreat from society and its clashing points is just another way of managing insecurity. Sensitivity can lead to confusion and thus insecurity, though, when one seeks blame in oneself because gaslighting influences by other insecure people are accepted.

@KootFloris

Жыл бұрын

@@Dowlphin Great addition. For me, kindness, and awareness are helping to be soft, and the toughen up I see as a false dogma. But there are a few people who thrive on hard work and some who benefit from retreating. Those that retreat out of fear, avoidance should dig deeper.

@chriskaplan6109

11 ай бұрын

Well-said. Thank you for bringing this more mindful and balanced perspective to your very important work. We need educators like you.

I’ve always been told “You’re too soft” and “you need to be more aggressive” even though I’m gentle by nature so hearing this is reassuring. For a lot of people it’s much more difficult to be nice rather than mean in this world sometimes. I always find great admiration in those who remain kind and calm even in the toughest of situations

@TKUA11

11 ай бұрын

It's cuz ppl don't know what too soft or too aggressive is nobody can be too soft I think but too aggressive is not good for anyone

As a Finn just innocently listening to a video of Taoist teachings, I questioned my sanity for a long second when you suddenly started talking of my small country. Kiitos for bringing us up 🙏🏻🇫🇮

Such wise words. I realized I want to imitate the qualities of water. "Nothing can compete with it" What I liked about the water is it seeks the lowest position. That is humility. Something I need to learn. I need to learn how to be more gentle. Listening & being humble.

That example of the tiger is so true. When I was painting the deck in my backyard last summer. A neighbor dog kept barking at me for 10 minutes. I said nothing and continued to paint. The dog eventually stopped barking and adapted to me lol

I would like to recommend the movie "Everything, Everywhere, All at Once" for a sample of this. The husband is disdained by his wife and through her journey she learns to see the benefit of his yin. Thank you for your videos.

@chavaliernsharps159

Жыл бұрын

Yes same with mom and daughter and mom and IRS agent, Great movie!

@jjstarrprod

Жыл бұрын

This movie is the perfect modern illustration of Daoism to today's audience. That's why it's so powerful ! (If you look carefully, Jobu's symbol, the Bagel, is a Black circle with a white hole in it, while the Googly eye, the symbol of Waymond, is a white circle with a black dot in it. Sounds familiar ?)

A strong man can win many fights, but a smart man never has to fight at all.

Wonderful clip. A lot of these philosophies, I have always known intrinsically since I was a child. But along the way I got fooled into thinking we must be the strongest, toughest, and most dominating to survive and thrive in a materialistic world. This is a great reminder that the latter is an illusion that can lead us to break, instead of bend.

Softness and soft power is the way to go.Become gently flowing water.Don’t project,force or try to dominate in life with you expectation of everything to go your way. Just let go and be gentle and let everything be. So much will come back to you! I am very physically strong as a person,but getting flexible now in my core as I practice various yoga asanas. I am accepting softness and embracing vulnerability now

Totally agree! Sometimes, softness makes us win. Hardness destroys things.

Your videos has inspired me for years man. The way you summarise huge philosophies into something short, enjoyable and very relevant for modern age is astounding!

@saadmanara7519

Жыл бұрын

@You dont like words yep switched from reading books to only watching this channel and it's worth it

@MakeMonneyOnlinne

10 ай бұрын

He is God sent...

_I tried to imagine the most powerful superhero for a story. It was a boring story since nothing happened. The hero was so powerful as to solve all problems before they formed._ Power and effort are inversely related. The most powerful exert the least effort. Fear belongs to those who must exert the most effort: They do not believe they possess the ability to exert sufficient effort in times of crisis. -Some recent shower thoughts I've had. Good video - thanks!

@recklessnotion1899

Жыл бұрын

Check out Vinland Saga. Thank me later.

@sasagoro8783

Жыл бұрын

This is present in the anime, One Punch Man.

@KootFloris

Жыл бұрын

That thought I had too. Hence we are also bombarded with dystopian and post apocalyptic futures, for they are full of drama and fights over limited resources. So what we need is a drama series in a great future, with human flaws. ;)

@magnamia

Жыл бұрын

Lovely! :)

@user-iu1ru1qz7u

Жыл бұрын

I disagree. In most cases, *power is the result of effort*. Michael Jordan trained harder than anyone he ever ran into. He isn't the goat because he was born more gifted than any man on earth(he wasn't). He is the goat because he took his natural ability and combined it with insane effort and determination, which in turn made him the most powerful. Millionaires and high achievers work insane hours to achieve and maintain their status, not less. The best artisans dedicate their life to their craft, they are not born sculpting Pietas with minimal effort. If you stick to fantasy, like in your superhero statement, sure, you could make a man into a god(like Superman), and thus he can do everything by default and it's an uninteresting story. That has nothing to do with reality.

Softness but with dominance. My softness makes people walk all over me because I tried to live an ideal world of "there's no hierarchy, we're all equal" so I feel bad to put myself above anyone even if I may be a manager, or teacher, and voila! My softness killed me that the only way to draw boundary is by being harsh, hard and project anger.

@wesleywallace4426

Жыл бұрын

Softness is accepting is that some people are just bad or just unhealthy to be around and no amount of domination can change that. Being soft is to save your energy instead of constantly getting into fights. That anger could be better used pushing away your shyness and trying to establish new, healthy relationships.

In my opinion weakness and softness are two different things.

@amendtheman

Жыл бұрын

Fear and Excitement, the same. Love and Hate, truly the same. Weakness in its own perspective is in fact strength, and softness is just the inverse of hardness, not really made of anything different, just different form

@silrana7166

7 ай бұрын

I agree. Strength or power is the capacity one has to do something; the control, mastery of it. Through hardness, this is standing firm and remaining chin up when appropriate, a degree of rigidity, hardlining. Through softness, this is control and mastery by being adaptable, flexible and more thoughtful. This isn’t flabbiness, it’s water. Both softness and hardness comprise strength. Both require active engagement and being, softness is active because it is a purposeful means of being (through ironically, it’s accomplished by ‘not trying’; but this itself is active). Softness and hardness are used when it is needed. Complete clarity is here. Weakness, on the other hand, denotes little to no capacity one has to BE in any purposeful way; no control, no mastery, no focused intent. Weakness is surrendering your choices to the whims of others and calling it fate. It is entirely passive, flabby, and involves remaining in delusion and being deluded; no clarity.

Being a soft hearted person was tough in the modern society until I started practicing Bhakti Yoga. Devotion channelizes my sensitivity so well. I feel proud and powerful with this sensitive heart ❤️ Goal of my life is to purify myself more and more 😇

i really needed to hear this right now in my life, thanks for uploading so often!

the content is very well explained, translated, and delivered. Keep up the good work!

You have an uncanny knack of creating and publishing something that I need to hear at that moment I need it. Many 🙏

this was amazing! changed my perspective rather, I've always looked at this characteristic in me as a weakness , something that needed to be overcome but learnt it must be embraced.

Don't mistake kindness for weakness. Everyone has a fight inside them.

I hardly comment on any youtube video but this one is life changing. As a human being , we are trying hard to get best out of the situation , fighting for everything so that we could get ahead of others. The entire education system right from our childhood force us into this unending loop of belief where comparison with others become a new normal. But this video changed my decade old belief that strength is not the only answer to navigate the complexities of life infact its just not sustainable in the long run , its softness ..being flexible and accommodating is the secret for a sustainable and content life. Thank you Einzelganger for teaching me the importance of being like water , "seek the lowest yet be the most important".

In my opinion, this has been the best video I've seen in your channel, loved it, thank you

Wait, so I'm basically living like a Finnish prisoner? 😂 Jokes aside, I really love your content. I'd love to see you do a video on Lagom, the Swedish principle of 'just enough'.

I love all your videos, but the Taoist philosophy ones are my favorite. Thank you!

Thank you for this video. I find myself relinquishing to strength when I’m scared, and recently, forgetting to appreciate my softness. I’m grateful for my resilience and I’ll strive to continue sharing unconditional love with my softness. Sending you peace, restorative justice, and enduring faith ❤ -from wind seeking ocean

I absolutely love your videos, they have helped me more than words could possibly express. Thank you so much. ❤️

Wow, this is the best explanation of this concept that I've ever heard. Thank you!

this is such a great video. as a person who is not strong enough in some ways, this gave me hope that being soft doesn't equate being weak. i find being soft calming, and easy to understand people.

This is still my favorite youtube channel EVER since I've discovered it!

Excellent reasoning and sharing of wisdom once again.... I almost feel like I sigh with relief with every new video of yours I watch, as a few pounds of life's pressures lift from my shoulders. Thank you.

This is one of your best videos I would say. I have been criticized for being soft when asking questions or being silent but you proved those wrong who criticized me by explaining that scenario in this video. Also now I am able to relate how to 'fit in' by being more adaptable like water as said by you while explaining the 'survival of the fittest' part. Thanks for this masterpiece.

Great video. Made me think of Jon Gomm's line "weakness is not your weakness"

This is just what I needed to hear this morning, thanks!

It’s become easier to be quiet when I have knowledge but to ask questions to get more knowledge is something I’ll have to do in the future :) thanks for this !

Thanks for this amazing video. This was an enlightened experience 😃🙏.

Very nice. It is true that whatever puts out lots of force can have it deflected upon itself and it is also true that something that can adapt without force really can overcome anything

I loved your content and I watched all your videos,your videos all truly perished my all of my pain and cherished my heart

This is excellent information have used both approaches ruined my first career being using what I thought was my strength came to this realization that if I’m lowest and help full with out imposing my knowledge or will just let go and help I never made more positive work relationships that people would do anything to help. Stay humble which Is not always easy. Just be a helper for good. Good for goodness sake’s is my motto. Love life.

Watching your video indeed reminded me of an old story I once encountered about an oak tree engaging with a swamp reed in a debate. The oak mocks the reed for being small and feeble while boasting that itself, is strong and firmly rooted to the ground, even in times of storm. Indeed, a storm does come and the oak stands, as expected, and the reed is swayed. The storm grows stronger and stronger. Eventually, though, the oak loses its ground and falls to the ground, roots and all, whereas the reed, though feeble, retained its stance and unscathed. Watching this video did help me establish the connection between these two outlooks, but I also understood that true power doesn't originate from the widely accepted definition of strength, but from the fact that having true strength arises from a manifestation of your identity and a belief on yourself.

Perfect timing for this message. Thank you.

Thank you so much for the knowledge you share about philosophy, watching your videos always brings me peace !

Always a pleasure to hear such wise words. 🙏🏻

This is what the world really needs. :)Thanks Einzelgänger for another great video!

Great lesson. Very well laid out. This will inspire many.

Awesome video!! 🤗👍🏽 It's so great to realize that my so called 'weakness' is actually flexibility and ability to adapt!! 🤩🎉🎊👏🏽💛💙❤️

Amazing video, a great reminder. I recently read your book "Stoicism for Inner Peace" and it was great, I've been practicing amor fati the most and it's been hard but also wonderful

Man! I freaking LOVE your videos. I watch all of them over and over learning and absorbing your lessons about philosophy. And I am adding these lessons to my life. Thank you! 9:30

Thank you for all your good works. These help me to reduce my stress. May God bless you with miracles!❤🌷

Your videos always give me a lesson to learn while living through life! So thank you 🙇💚

Beautiful✨🦋 just what I needed to hear in creating a better bond with an elderly who’s been very hostile, bitter, and angry…I’ll come from a place of love, compassion, understanding and lots & lottts of patience😊 which will in return help me to grow and learn🙏🏼 I appreciate this content so much 🙌🙌 Thank you!!

This is the most significant video you have ever made, as a man of peace, who has been mistreated and ridiculed, I stayed the way I am and thus am loved by many. Moreover, I studied social sciences with emphasize on deviant behaviour and social control and everything you said about prisons was correct to the last letter. Thank you, Bei

I was just thinking about this a lot latetly, thank you! Nice to gain some perspective

Amazing. I was reflecting about this earlier today. The hard and the soft are as the Tao, they complement each other, you can' t choose one over the other. It is a delicate balance, to live well, one has to know when to be hard and when to be soft. Thank you once more. Einzelganger.

@martinesejour3361

Жыл бұрын

Yes, it’s called common sense which most people lack. At times i think that even if you have a P.h.D., but lack common sense you’re doing a disservice to our planet.

@SkyScannerBtown

Жыл бұрын

Hi Can you give an example of having to be hard please? Thanks a lot

@sasagoro8783

Жыл бұрын

@@SkyScannerBtown Sometimes you have to stand up for yourself, for example you shouldn't put up with disrespectful and nasty people but rather cut ties with them.

@SkyScannerBtown

Жыл бұрын

Thanks. I usually just let them throw there best punches as nothing ever lands. Then will try to avoid seeing them

Thank you so much for sharing this post. I appreciate this reminder of truth. 🤩

Just what I needed this morning. Thank you

Thank you for the video and thank you for your last book. It's wonderful.

That was refreshing and well presented 🙏🏼

Wow, well written. Congratulations brother, you really do a great job of making these ideas actionable.

Your videos are really helpful and comforting. I had become rigid as a result of my speculations of the world's deceit. I thought that since the world functions on the prinicples of 'an eye for an eye', I should respond the same way. But after watching your videos on Taoism and Stoicism, I stand corrected. Thank you!

Ain't that the truth! This makes me feel stronger about who I am, and not ashamed to be soft.

This is one of my Einselganger favorites!😊

Thank you for posting... I like youre videos, a great service to the world. Have a good day and stay warm.

I'm not sure I agree if softness is weakness. Being soft, tolerant, and persistent requires strength. Weakness would be crying over things not going your way, getting angry, throwing tantrums etc.

@myboysd5772

Жыл бұрын

Throwing tantrums like Erdogan : D

Beautiful message. 💜

You are a great source of wisdom in my daily life, helping me in my personnal projects and also understanding eachother. Thank you for your work 🤗 i'm grateful

Love your posts. This one spoke to me: big theme in the current times. Dankjewel🙏🏻

One of the best vídeos ever made. Thanks a lot

Great knowledge. I hope to be able to put it into practice. Thanks for the video.

After so many days you posted... another incredible video. 👍🏻

It just changed my life, thank you

It’s almost as though something lead me here. How wonderful.

@bigmoneymoose4644

Жыл бұрын

The Tao. Read the Tao te Ching.

Soft and calm yet able to dominate and conquer what i desire, but keeping that impulse in check is what strive to become

I love your books and videos. Thank you so much 💓

This is one of your best videos yet

Absolutely excellent content. I love your channel.

Ahhh this is so refreshing. Thank you thank you thank you 💛💛💛

Thank you, I really needed to see this today.

all my life, "youre so insecure, bah, haha, youre such a softie!" these character traits made me endure so much more than the other guys, and that allowed me to develop so much deeper insights and lessons...i like to be considered weak. isnt it also mentioned by sun tzu, that one should feign weakness?

@Aldarinn

Жыл бұрын

Appear weak when you are strong. Appear strong when you are weak

@kevinmills1318

Жыл бұрын

In business, some wisdom I once heard was- Complain about business when you're doing well, and boast about business when you are struggling It is a psychosocial technique, however - to properly realign yourself, and strike a balance to manifest more positivity.

Ok, that was one of your best. Well done.

That was so fantastic I took notes. Thank you so much!

AAAAAAaaaaaaaaamazing! Really enjoyed this. Very insightful and thought-provoking. Thanks!

(I'm only halfway through the video so that's why my expressions won't be accurate, but I needed to express myself) In my previous relationship, the guy I was with used to say that we were complete opposites. He always said that he was strong, and that I was weak. He'd also say I'm delicate (even though physically I'm on the bigger side), and that he'd make me strong... But never told me how*. I always thought that deep within, I'm a strong person. I always thought that despite everything, I always pull myself out of things and places. I though of myself as someone resilient. But him calling me weak when I'd cry when I was upset, or very quiet when I was annoyed, or expressed my emotions and concerns, well, I questioned myself to the core. This video really confirms the inner truth I always had. Instead of being indifferent when facing situations, I may engage more in them. Instead of easily pulling an intimidating appearance, I may have it harder to do so. Instead of using threats or beneficial premises ("you're the one who hurt me in the first place, you should be apologizing to me"), I like to understand the other party and work for a win-win need satisfaction situation. But all of that, despite everything, doesn't mean I'm weak. I got this, but my own way. Déjame rodar a mi bola! * It's funny because things got pretty twisted and he ended up threatening, scaring, spying, sabotaging and blackmailing me. I had a really, really, really hard time. I learned a lot. Specially that I got through that, and my way was actually harder. But hey, I got through it. I'm strong. And you too.

this video is the reason why i subscribe to this channel. Thank you!

Be malleable but unbreakable. Be able to bend but not snap. Rigidity and softness are best together in moderation.

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Thank you for this. It's profound and encouraging for us calm, quiet types. I like the story from Lao-Tzu about the king and the philosopher. It links the personal and the political.

I always love this moment of tao

Great video. iv always told my friends "what doesn't bend, breaks" i guess this philosophy is where i got that from and forgot 😅

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Ahhh man. These are beautifullu said. I can't believe I've never thought of Taosim and how badass it is