Historically, societies have pushed the idea of having kids as a necessity and even guilt-tripping you for not having kids. It's absolutely wonderful not having kids at 40. I see my neighbors who are close to my age and still raising their kids. It seems miserable to me. But to each their own.

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

The world sadly love to try and make us all conform to a certain way of life. Things that shouldn’t be their business they make their business. I see that as well! Our neighborhood is an older demographic and some still have children at home or are just used as babysitters and not much more.

@evilds3261

Жыл бұрын

@@diaryofthechildfree Yes, they make it their business. But when they do, I use it to trap them and deconstruct all their rationales and even point out implications they had not considered. Also, I see not benefit to conform to what they want me to do and thus I basically torment them with the fact that they are incapable of changing my mind. Children are unnessesary burdens that also come with unnecessary expenses.

@maxinahunt8652

8 ай бұрын

Agreed!!

@alisonb5921

4 ай бұрын

I knew, when I was 5, I didn't want kids. Our parents were godparents for my 3 young cousins, 1 was a baby. During Christmas holidays, my parents had our 3 young cousins stay with us for 1 week. My Aunty & Uncle went on a 2nd honeymoon. My mum explained what the role of godparents, entails. Our cousins will live with us, if anything ever happened to our Aunty & Uncle. Our parents would take over looking after our cousins then. Then Mum tried to get me interested in feeding my baby cousin, her bottle & changing my baby cousins' nappy. I said "no, I don't care, I'm not having any kids". Mum said "when you grow up, you'll have kids". I said "no, never". Then I walked away. For 1 week, my Mum got up during the nights, to feed my baby cousin. Her crying woke up everyone. I was glad when the week was over. I was relieved when our Aunty & Uncle arrived to take our 3 cousins back home. This put me off having kids & I never had kids. My brother never had kids, either ! He was put off by our young cousins staying with us. 😊👍. I have 1 big rescue dog & 4 cats, as my furkids. 🐶😸😸😸😸♥️

I'm 51, male, single, never married and knew I didn't want kids from a young age. Work as a primary teacher in the UK. I had a Jack Russell terrier as a constant companion for many years and a few relationships too. Currently content to be living my own life with freedom and choice. Good interview. Thanks.

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

That is awesome! 👏 To be so content as well and thoroughly enjoy living your life so well! I’m happy to hear you enjoyed the interview!

People: who's going to take care of you when you get old? Me: Money😂😂😂

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

All the monies if saved accordingly! I see way too many people put their trust onto their children, blow all their money, and then get upset that their kids can’t afford to take care of them. Kids are never a retirement plan. 🤦🏼‍♀️

@Ashlandash

Жыл бұрын

@@diaryofthechildfree soooooo true

@saltycat662

Жыл бұрын

Neither take care of you in your old age. Ask anyone who's worked in elder care like I have. They all end up the same way whether they have money or no money. Kids or no kids.

@deeporter7369

Жыл бұрын

@@saltycat662 .....So true. I did work as a PCW...Personal Care Worker for the elderly in their homes. Many of the elderly with children are sad, sick and lonely because their grown children don't want anything to do with them...except for their money. I saw lots of tears shed because of this. All they want is a chat over a cup of tea, or sit and look at old pictures with them, or take them out for a lunch....simple , but meaningful things.

"Misery likes company" that was so deep.

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

Sadly, always a given!

Everything he says is 100% correct . I avoid babies like the plague . Why do women have this need to shove babies into your face and expect gratitude .

@JayMaverick

Жыл бұрын

Because it's a miracle. *barf*

@CordeliaWagner

8 ай бұрын

I don't care. I politely reject. Children and especially babies are always sick so I don't want all their bacteria and viruses and whatever on me. My aunt said that 40 years ago it was the opposite, noone exept for the closest careworking people were allowed to touxh a baby, at least in my area in Germany. I think it's like craving for likes oñ social Media, the mothers are desperate for a positive comment about their procreation work.

It's better for me to be single/unmarried and childfree. Naturally, I am selfish introvert and I need to be alone after work. I spend my time, money and energy on me and nobody else.

@adamzapple67

Ай бұрын

Same here. I'm in my late 50s, no kids and single. I'm also an introvert. I like the quiet life and I've never liked kids.

The only "negative" that I personally experienced being childfree is it severely limits your dating pool. Oh well... Just have to wait a bit longer to find that special woman :).

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

This reminds me: I had a thought about how beneficial a childfree dating app would be!

@RosieIsAVlogger

Жыл бұрын

Being a childfree lesbian I 100% relate to this 😂

@ishmamahmed9306

Жыл бұрын

My pool is even more limited. I will be waiting forever to find a childfree petfree woman who is attracted to men with long hair.

@cw9475

Жыл бұрын

@Ishmam Ahmed ...raises hand ✋️ long hair on men is lovely if it's kept clean and soft! And with the pet thing - don't get me wrong I Iove animals of all kinds, but they're also a shedload of responsibility and cost that I don't want. We are out there my dude :) But I'm a veggie gal too lol so i also limit my pool in my own way - no rabid carnivores (not regular omnivores, they're fine, I mean the rabid obsessed keto types that seem to be proliferating). All these things mean I basically don't bother dating though lol, it's too much of a needle in a haystack struggle.

@fatimazahrael3430

Жыл бұрын

@@ishmamahmed9306 where to sing in ? Hahaha

I’m the same. Zero desire to have children. Never had any interest.

I'm a middle-age man and child free by choice and by circumstances. I've never had the urge to become a father. Not the slightest twinge. I've never liked kids. I just don't. I avoid them at all costs. I hate it when colleagues bring them into the office on a flying visit on their day off. Everyone else thinks they're lovely but I think they're repellent. I avoid them everywhere. I'm single because 99% of women my age have kids. Yes they're grown-up now but the women's lives revolve around their kids and you come a distant second. That's not for me. I prefer to be a lone wolf.

@happychick94

23 күн бұрын

Spot on! 🙂 I've never liked kids, not even when I was a kid.🤣

Amen!! I guess the only difference to our approaches to the "inquiring minds want to know" why I'm childfree is a very deliberate, cold and forceful reply of "mind your own business" or "when you put up the cash". No further explanation required. It's very unsettling to the recipients of that reply, especially those old enough to be my parents who have an entitlement thing going that whatever they ask they get the whole nine yards reply. Uh uh. I had a vasectomy when I was 22. I tell very few of my partners I've had it done, let alone anyone who doesn't need to know.

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

Hahaha I don’t blame you though, it’s definitely an unexpected reply for people to receive that quiets them immediately! Everyone expects others to always immediately respond with “soft” responses as I’ll call them.

Just if you think about it , it can’t be possible for all the people on this planet to have the same life journey (graduate, marriage,build a house , start a family , buy this ,buy that …) but society wants us to do so because of many of their reasons.

good to hear a man speak about this. It feels like sometimes the women are the only ones being asked 100 questions about kids and why they don't want kids.

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

It's good to have more men share their voices on being childfree! I feel likes its particularly important especially since sadly, people rarely believe a woman.

100% agree that they want us to be miserable too lol no thank you, Im good with peace & quiet and being able to sleep whenever I like🤣🙅🏻‍♀️And so true, they are always trying to “get away from the kids”….sounds fun🤣🤣Byeeee🙋🏻‍♀️

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

Peace, quiet, and sleep is something that could never be traded! 😂 I once saw someone posts something like "first date night in 5 years..." uhhh yeah that's not a flex.

@RC_17

Жыл бұрын

@@diaryofthechildfree Haha yes!! We will pass on that thanks🤣💅🏻Thank you for your reply♥️♥️

One of the arguments I have seen criticising people who prefer animals to children is to say that you will never see your animals go to university or attend college. But who cares about that? I wouldn't want any child of mine in State education nowadays anyway. And I wouldn't want to be told by the State how to bring up my child!

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

I agree! Education is nowhere near how it's been in the past. It's already hard enough these days to see kids talking about their school experiences, let alone the debt they amount in college/university to maybe land an okay job. Exactly!

@aacmove

Жыл бұрын

I view animals in the same way as children. A barrier to my success. (I'm also allergic to anything with fur, including kids)!!!

@CordeliaWagner

8 ай бұрын

I do professional dressage. I breed horses. I train horses. I see my champions in videos on Social Media, I see the pictures of the winning trophies. If I was narcicisstic, I would get more than enough of my supply my supply from that.

@CordeliaWagner

8 ай бұрын

The US sees everything that could makes citizens lives better as evil socialism. Just pay taxes, don't expect life quality for that or you are a pesky communist! In Germany it's a little better, college aka University is free. But our government hasn't invested in schools for decades. Children learn about diversity and the new pronouns, but the number of children who can't read and do basic math at 4th grade is horryfying. Of course it's a lot about the millions of immigrants that flood our systems since 2015, we don't have the capacities to care and provide for all these people. But it's also because Germany has been becoming a capitalistic federation since the 80s. Everything federal owned us getting sold to private companies who let everything rot. We are on a brisk slide down to beco.e a third world Capitalistic dystopia line the USA. And looking at the number of islamistic believers, the Sharia will be part of our law sooner or later.

I’m so happy to hear about a person being child free coming from a male and female perspective 🥰

I've had a hysterectomy and when I say I don't want nor can have kids, people then start going on about adoption. Why can't people leave us alone? I never ask people why they have them. I couldn't care less.

I share the same sentiments. This was great to watch as a fellow childfree man.

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

I’m so glad to hear you enjoyed this, thank you so much for watching! 💛✨

He's so right it's very disrespectful that some people don't respect someone choice on not having children many celebrities have made the decision to not have children like renee zellweger

@Polecat-qz5om

Жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

Agreed! There are so many people out there known and unknown that choose to be childfree and the number is only growing! Just like any other choice, if it’s not physically harming anyone it’s best that others just stay out of it!

@CordeliaWagner

8 ай бұрын

Jared Leto Jaky Gyllenhaal Jenifer Aniston

Childfree Senior-AND Loving It!!

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

YES!!! 🙌🙌🙌🙌

Wish I could meet a childfree man. It’s so hard to meet them. I feel like most men want kids.

Knowing what you want before partnering with a woman is respectable. Guarding your body as a man is respectable. We need more people being smart and thinking before they do. I'm a childfree man too!

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

More people in generally simply need to think outside the box! We should always be considering what’s best for us because the world is not a “fit all” for everybody!

I'm a childfree man and If I were to date I would definitely be looking for a woman who is and wants to stay childfree. I would like more quality time with my partner and kids would get in the way of that. Plus kids are expensive and you have to spend tons of energy and time on them. Kids are the ultimate time-thieves. These are just a few of the millions of other reasons why I don't want kids. Childfree women are what I prefer.

@Childfree334

3 ай бұрын

I am the female version of you. 😊

Same here😊 happy to be single and child free man 😎❤️🇵🇭

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

Woot Woot! 🙌🎉

@PITIKnijohnbiggie

Жыл бұрын

​@@diaryofthechildfree cheers!! 🥂🎉

I'm 45 and childfree

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

Wooooooot! 🙌🙌🙌

I am child free man 43yr man , we are living in a free world now ,its good to be free .

@CordeliaWagner

8 ай бұрын

Most of the world isn't free. Slavery is still normal in 1/3rd of the world. You are trapped in a capitalistic dystopia. But within a very limited frame you have more choices than others and that can feel like freedom.

I loved this video!! My partner and I really resonate with your views too. I loved the staring into the camera and saying no part 😂 I feel the same!

@RC_17

Жыл бұрын

Yess👏🏻👏🏻 “No x4”😂

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching! As you can tell my husband is very adamant on not having children! 😂

Guys, dear, do you have a nice, decent single childfree friend for me in his mid-30ies?😅 I am feeling like I will never find one and it is heartbreaking

@myselfasevan

Жыл бұрын

we exist !

"You enjoy yourself because you can explore yourself" I loved that!!❤❤

It's rare for a man to say he don't want children cuz most men do want children. Oftentimes they see the woman as the prize. I'm glad he's being honest. Truth to be told I don't want no children either.

@diaryofthechildfree

11 ай бұрын

I watched a great video the other day on Instagram that discussed how men are more likely to want children per say because they have less to give up in way. Their life does change but not as much as it would for a women who would feel the affects of it all much greater in addition to having to take on a lot more responsibility!

@warithabdullah8179

11 ай бұрын

@@diaryofthechildfree well thank you for being honest😁

@diaryofthechildfree

11 ай бұрын

💛💛💛

@dzm30

7 ай бұрын

​@@diaryofthechildfree hello, what video is it? in instagram

@tyronelorenzovalentio3414

6 ай бұрын

You realise most people want Children Man and women 😂😂😂

This is awesome ❤ we need more Childfree men speaking out

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

Thank you! We really do! 👏

im single, almost 40, trauma survivor, no kids and its still not the norm. People assume it gets annoying.

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry you are still dealing with all the negativity surrounding this! People can truly be very cruel a lot of the time and it’s a trend in a sense where people dislike seeing others less miserable than they are. With trauma however, much of that is buried inside that they don’t see. Some have it, some don’t, and others ignore it until it bursts one day. I think those of us who have trauma and don’t have children benefit in the sense because it gives us the time to unravel anything which can be a lengthy, exhausting, and time consuming process that’s also needed!

I so appreciate you bringing your hubby on + hearing his side. I am currently dating a man who is separated + in the process of getting a divorce + has 2 kids with his ex + everything that comes with that + I am noticing I also feel no emotional attachments to his kids + in fact feel quite resentful of everything that surrounds him meaning his ex who dictates everything + the fact she needs to sign off on the schedule. She only lets him have the kids on weekends meaning every SINGLE WEEKEND he has them so dates are not feasible unless other arrangements can be made in advance or in order to have a date with him I have to put up with dealing with his kids all day; the shouting, whining, bickering etc + the fact they are 6 + 4, boy + girl they suck up all the oxygen in the room. The last time I saw them in which he picked me up from train station they happened to be in the van + I was left so overwhelmed by the fucking noise they made + ruckus I hardly spoke + just zoned out + tried not to cry. The little girl was kicking the back of my chair + I didnt see a point in tryin to make convo with my boyfriend as they would be abrupt. The thought actually crossed my mind for him to just stop the van + let me out on the side of the highway because their constant noise was grating on me. His ex is another piece of work too. I would never date someone with kids EVER AGAIN. EVER. As a childfree person it is not wise to date someone with children unless you don't mind investing into someone else's seed. I am constantly reminded of his past because he had kids with her + obviously the little girl looks just like her + is loud + bossy. I am so god damn angry + now despise the name Noelle as that is her name. I feel like the other woman + she plays such a huge role in his life.

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

I'm so happy to hear that you enjoyed the video! It's so important for men to be sharing their voices as well considering they exist and we need this community to band together! I'm so sorry that you have to deal with all of that, I can't imagine the level of frustration and stress that can bring! Those ages are some of the toughest and honestly scariest at times because they carry all this pent of energy and talk about weird stuff a lot of the time! I don't blame you! I'd want out of the vehicle as well, at that rate it would be much nicer to walk several hours. This is great advice, especially for other viewers to see! While the kids may not be there 24?7 it can still come with the baggage of things.

@pamelagunn234

Жыл бұрын

@@diaryofthechildfree when men share it makes women feel safe and validated because we are sometimes made to feel like less of a women because of it. They just have to be genuine about it. Not fake pretending not to care to get us naked kinda thing.

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

@@pamelagunn234 Exactly! I feel like when they can see us as more than just what our bodies can do, it really shows how much of a good and genuine person they are!

@swiitdoll

Жыл бұрын

When I date men with kids I don’t meet their kids. Zero interest

Way to enslave yourself = Life of bondage✨👏✨👏 COULDN’T AGREE MORE!

We say “T-word” too 😂 I feel like I know your pups from Instagram. Interesting how even some of the questions are sexist (no shade at all to the people that submitted them). Can a man not be childlike when he wants to? So much of our social constructs are about giving UP certain parts of ourselves in order to bring children into the world. I once heard someone say that having a child* is like signing up for a lifetime of heartache - from them growing up, getting hurt, struggling as an adult. Why on earth would I want that? Also the idea of having children to create a larger workforce literally makes me cringe. What makes me especially triggering for some is being a believer in Christ but being forever Childfree. I think there is only one of me 😂 Love this, you guys, the pups, and this channel. ❤

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

T-Word is the only way but now they are slowly learning that one too! 😅 That’s an interesting point! I think we can all enjoy being childlike and embrace our inner child when we feel like it - only society says not too. That’s all so true! I feel like this world today isn’t meant for children. We are struggling as is so why bring them into a world where they will continue to struggle unless we fix it. Sure they could…but it isn’t their burden to fix; it’s not even our. The workforce thing is what drives me nuts. It’s the only reason why those with money talk about how we need more people…to create workers for them to exploit. I’m sure there are others out there like you! This world is big and you truly come from a place of love and empathy!

If people ask why don't you have children just tell them because you don't want any demons in your house

@diaryofthechildfree

10 ай бұрын

Hahaha I love this! 😂

@JenniferRusso5

3 күн бұрын

😂😂

I really appreciate the honesty of the last answer.

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

🙌🙌🙌

As a man of a certain age, I think it's not a bad thing for modern men to not get married or have kids. Not saying not to have meaningful relationships but I suggest not to create permanent situations or situations that would be difficult or expensive to get out of. Keep all options open. If I could make redo my life, I would set myself up to be single, but date, for life. No kids no wife.

@diaryofthechildfree

9 ай бұрын

I completely understand that point of view! The idea of marriage is an interesting one, sometimes I wonder had my husband and been living in the same country whether we would have committed through marriage still or simply by partnership (not exactly sure what else to call it). Things are changing more than ever now though as we move towards such uncertain times though that I believe we will see the decline in marriages and big life commitments that can be costly.

It sounds like you both are on the same page. Good for you both as a couple. I will tell you as a woman in her 40s that the questions, comments and insults never go away for childfree or childless women in heterosexual marriage (I can't speak for other relationships). I have been married for over 17 years to a childfree man. Sometimes it gets really frustrating to be the woman who doesn't have kids in society because that is expected of us from the majority of people in general. I will say, I think it is becoming more common for people to come out as couples and say that they don't want kids in the picture. This makes me happy and I support your voices. I will also add that as you get older you see that peoples opinions and attitudes don't matter much because they are not living your life with you on the daily. Look around you....there are lots of people to associate with and lots of people to just ignore! So live your best life and don't care what others think. As you age....it just seems more and more silly that people even have an opinion or judgement of your life....because it just don't matter really.

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

Thankfully yes! It likely would have ended very poorly if we weren't! 😅 I figured that they will likely never go away! Once the childbearing days are over I figure it will eventually turn to "do you have grandkids" when I'm in my 50's and older. I'm hoping things are changing. Lately I find it's a hit or miss what people will ask you or how they will respond to you saying you're childfree.

great to see other childfree men like me out there . love this.

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

Thank you! ☺️

Excellent!!✨👏✨👏 very interesting to hear from another male perspective (my SO has a lot to say as well :) ). Eventually I see this decision all becoming normalized & people just understanding others’ choices. I really agree with him that choosing parenting becomes a life of enslavement, I couldn’t agree more. ✋🤚

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

It’s so nice to hear from men on the subject considering no one often puts two and two together always! I agree, and I truly hope that’s the case because I would love to see a world with that!

I love the freedom No girlfriends no kids no problem 😉

@botic7701

3 ай бұрын

Lol. Sad

@TheMusicmak3r

3 ай бұрын

@@botic7701 for who?

@botic7701

3 ай бұрын

@@TheMusicmak3r you

@TheMusicmak3r

3 ай бұрын

@@botic7701 👍

@adamzapple67

Ай бұрын

@@botic7701 You sound jealous. I know people like you who are chained to their wife that they no longer love and subservient to their kids and they are deeply unhappy. While us free men are out living the dream, you guys are henpecked and totally at the beck and call of your kids.

Love this❤. Nice to hear a childfree guy talk.

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

He has great advice! 🙌

Love your dog 😍 I also love every answer, so much same.

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! 😄

Male: Single, unmarried and childless. 1. The world is a mess. 2. I'm a product of divorce / seen alot of failed marriages, relationships. 3. I'm terrified of being a shit dad / shit husband / shit family man. 4. See too many deaths ( parents bury their children ). 5. I'm scared my kid(s) might turn out shit. 6. I live and fight for myself. 7. I don't trust anyone.

@andrewgage6942

3 ай бұрын

I'm an older, single male, child free, I'm in my late fifties at the time of writing this, I live in the UK, I'm watching the world decline, greed taking over, plus the UK is being taken over, it's on the verge of civil unrest, it's going to happen soon as the UK eventually disappears and becomes taken over, when I realised that I wasn't going to be married or be a parent, that was back in the 1970's, I saw the decline as the UK joined the common market, I was told that I was too young to understand, I was just a stupid child, I'm so happy that I never brought an innocent child into this world. I have been lucky in all aspects when it comes to relationships and not worrying about having children I was the ugly kid at school, relationships didn't happen even as I got older and watched those around me getting married, divorced and kids being used as a weapon and eventually screwing up the kids. I realised that I wasn't going to make a good partner or a good parent

@adamzapple67

Ай бұрын

@@andrewgage6942 I'm a 59 year old man and I'm child free by choice because I just don't like kids. I never have liked them. To be truthful I'm not that keen on people. I prefer to live a quiet life indulging in the things I enjoy.

That was lovely, that was so good, you two are gorgeous together!!😍 His answers are on point!💯 Thanks a lot for making this & sharing it with the world, it made me happy and hopeful to find my own person.🙏🏻💕

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much and thank you for such a kind and sincere compliment! 💛✨ I’m sure you will one day! I honestly believe in the statement that it always happens when you least expect it! ☺️

Awesome! Good to know! 👍Thanks for sharing childfree life from a male perspective! Much appreciated!🙏❤️

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

I’m so glad you enjoyed it! I plan to create more as well down the road! 🙌👏

Lots of love ❤️ thanks for the video

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️Thank you for watching! ✨

People saying its different when they are “your own” is such a stupid thing to say!! Of course its different!! When they are your own you don’t have any choice anymore!!! Biology then forces it on you!!!

@CordeliaWagner

8 ай бұрын

You can give them into foster care.

@tinycatfromhell

Ай бұрын

@@CordeliaWagner It's much better to not have them in the first place.

This was very interesting 😊❤ thanks for sharing!! Also your doggies are SOOO FREAKING cute; I squealed when they came onto the camera 😅

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for watching! I’ll let them know! I squeal every time i come home to them! 🥹❤️

@PeriwinkleB

Жыл бұрын

@@diaryofthechildfree you’re very welcome!! And if you’re squealing when you come home from a long, stressful day then that’s how you know you won at life! Love to see Childfree people do their thing 😅🤍

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

@@PeriwinkleBAnimals over babies everyday! 🙌 I’ll have to upload for dog content! 🤣🐶🐶

Great interview!!

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Thank you very much for this video! It helps me alot as a man, who doesn't want kids either. One question: What is that beautiful background music? Thanks and greetings from Germany :)

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for watching! I’ll have to ask my husband, I believe it may be saved on his computer!

I respect your decision on not wanting kids I’m 36 years old single live alone I work and I don’t have kids and I don’t want any and I’m ok with that I feel people looks at child free people like they monsters cause they don’t want kids and I feel everyone has a choice

thanks for mentioning assault😢😢

I've got a question, for my families culture it is expected to have a child eventually and for me I want to priorities myself and my career but there is a nagging feeling that is streesing me out about children. So the question is how does someone differentiate their families pressures an pleasing their family too their own wants and needs? Note: This was a very nice video, it was very informative in exploring the perspective of a childfree man.

@Andrew12217

4 ай бұрын

What helps me to discern such things is taking time, alone, relaxed, lounging, with a beverage, whatever helps you get in a relaxed reflective mood is good. Forget for a moment any concern be it money, family, job, etc. Now with a quiet mind, examine it... Does that nagging feeling have a voice, face or memory attached that you would recognise? Is that feeling fear based or desired based? Does it bother you because you think you may miss something? Or is there about a child that you know 100% would want to do and don't mind the duties it requires? If asked to imagine your perfect life, does children come to mind? Is that life even compatible with children to begin with? Just a few things to think about, just remember, think about them calm and relaxed, the quieter your head and emotions are the easier it is to identify where each feeling is coming from

@nknae3115

4 ай бұрын

Thank you!

Wonderful ☺️

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

Thank you! 😊

Hi, you are lucky to find a fellow child-free partner. I want to find a child-free guy too -)

that was a good video. I don't feel anything towards kids either

im permanently 12 i laughed when he sat down cause ...yknow lol

@diaryofthechildfree

9 ай бұрын

😆😆😆

@alisonb5921

4 ай бұрын

I'm in my 60s, now ! I'm happy with my childfree life ! Men, my age, have kids & grandkids ! I don't need a man with baggage. My friends are childfree. We are happy. We have pets, we have jobs. We love our freedom. We don't care what people think of our childfree lifestyle. I love your beautiful dogs ! They're gorgeous ! My big dog is always happy to see me when I get home.🐶👍♥️

Oh you have such a cute dog what breed is the dog 🤔🐶🐕❤

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! They are both Pomeranians! ☺️

@angelaholmes8888

Жыл бұрын

@@diaryofthechildfree oh I had one full blooded pomeranian and a half pomeranian half American eskimo dog sadly both have passed away 🙂😢

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

@@angelaholmes8888 I'm so sorry to hear that! :( They really make great dogs (with the added cuteness, of course).

I never wanted to have children but the use of "Childfree" comes across as the recent slang suggests as "Copium" ie hiding behind a new euphemism. To be ChildLESS is a choice: And as with all choices it's good and bad but in different ways. For example, if conditions has been more CONDUCIVE I'd then have opted to want to have children but as life took a different course that was more challenging and harder it became impossible to work towards a family life which is truth be told, the natural LIFE-CYLE of humans in the same way it is of other animals. Finally, dogs are not children though in caring for them, there's some sharing of features on a superficial level: The truth is, dogs are animals or canines and should be treated as such to OPTIMIZE THEIR LIVES in the way BIOLOGY dictates, not dressed in pink dresses and pretending to be a human child, even the use of such language feels dysfunctional imo and perhaps disrespectful to the state of the dog no matter the expression of love and companionship attempted to be conveyed, it's becoming too close to anthropomorphism which is fundamentally a selfish attitude to adopt on animals. No, embrace being CHILDLESS, and all the positives and equally all the negatives that entails: To accept life choices and be at peace with them as opposed to the attempts to wrestle with the fact via some sort of self-deception. At least the United Nations will be very happy with people adopting "Child Free" Ideology which will contribute greatly to a healthier Earth with less humans consuming all the resources.

@Childfree334

3 ай бұрын

I am CHILDFREE, not childless. Those two words have completely different meanings: ChildLESS are barren or infertile people who can't have kids OR people who want kids, but life circumstances like finances and lack of a good partner prevent them from having kids. ChildFREE are people who want nothing to do with being parents under any circumstances even though they can physically have kids. They don't want to be bothered with the enormous burden and responsibility of other human beings by birth, adoption, marriage, or inheritance of a child through a relative's death.

@commentarytalk1446

3 ай бұрын

@@Childfree334 Post a card or email to the UN: They'll be delighted to hear from you.

are you guys christian? you mentioned you only believe in one life? im christian but its still weird to be a single childfree christian i find sometimes

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

We are not, we are both agnostic. I know it’s not really our place to step but even if you’re Christian or any other religion, you shouldn’t be forced to do something if you ultimately don’t want to do it or feel comfortable doing it. There will be many who disagree but if you believe in a higher power, they are guiding you through these decisions. I personally find choosing not to have children holds great responsibility as well as empathy because we are aware of the world we live in and what the future might hold. Not to mention, if we are already struggling more or less, it would be hard to add a child into the middle of that with so much uncertainty.

@deestupi

Жыл бұрын

Jesus and the apostles were child free

@diaryofthechildfree

Жыл бұрын

@@deestupi And nobody questioned them. 🤣

@deestupi

Жыл бұрын

Also Childfreemillennial is a Christian Child Free KZreadr

@monicarambeau9722

Жыл бұрын

What verses are they?