A fed baby is a fed baby. I had to formula feed my first. My second latched perfectly and I breast fed him exclusively. All babies and mom's are different. No matter what you do, you feel like you're not doing enough, but momma... You are enough!

@manunjoh6561

4 жыл бұрын

Sprinkled Clean Soapery thank you for this. Cz the same thing is happening to me right now and this is my first baby. I’m praying for God to provide for me. Also I don’t get help from family so I can’t “rest” like many people recommend.

@SaraT4Beauty

4 жыл бұрын

manuela nupa that happened to me I’m all alone all day long I don’t have family to help me and my husband works. So don’t beat yourself off if the baby it’s fed and growing and developing then everything it’s good. I never had milk so my baby wouldn’t latch and I did not wanted to see a lactation nurse because I had a really bad experience a the hospital when I gave birth and that let me quite traumatized so my baby only takes formula and he’s also allergic to cows protein so it’s only formula for him, and yesterday our doctor told me he’s 30% more developed than babies his age so don’t stress over the breastfeeding or formula

@manunjoh6561

4 жыл бұрын

Sara T4Makeup thank you so much 😩😇

@syedazahid8953

4 жыл бұрын

Did your first turn out fine IQ wise? I am formula feeding my infant.. I have all these thoughts

@Jennylyndean26

4 жыл бұрын

True 👍

Breastfeeding is the hardest thing I have ever done. Physically, emotionally and mentally... Lactation consultants exist because a lot of women have this problem. You're not alone. Don't feel guilty, Nicole 💕

@leslieann8044

4 жыл бұрын

Brittany Brittany breastfeeding is not hard if you have the Pump eve but not all the people can afford it

@chelseamalm3196

4 жыл бұрын

@@leslieann8044 pumping is far from easy. It it also adds a bunch of extra steps to your feeding routine

@hinaadil5895

4 жыл бұрын

Can anyone sugest me good formula for 1 year baby

@TubnQT

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, breastfeeding is hard. My job revolves around it! And pumping can be physically and emotionally draining. I recommend it only for moms who have a reason, such as a premie or return to work or medical or emotional reasons for not wanting to latch a baby directly.

@kelly1827

3 жыл бұрын

@@leslieann8044 Not every person responds to a pump, even those with an abundant supply. And if a person had some sort of situation in the first few weeks when supply was establishing, e.g. a pp hemorrhage, there is not much that can be done about that. Like one of the other posters said IBCLCs exist for a reason.

This honesty has been awesome. I like that you shared that you prayed about it too. I'm struggling with bottle feeding, formula supplementing, pumping and my baby basically only comfort nurses at this point. I think out of all the videos I've watched this one has helped ease my mind and heart the most

I have such a love/hate relationship with breastfeeding it’s so hard but rewarding I know my heart will break when I have to stop

@mzspectac

3 жыл бұрын

Same

@gabriellekelley2654

3 жыл бұрын

I feel the same. Everyday I wanna stop and then when I say I’m going to I back out

@Ididntwantayoutubehandl

3 жыл бұрын

Same...

@trudy-annmcfarlane2406

3 жыл бұрын

Doing it for 18 months and honestly, it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done. You’re doing your best mama.

@kathleenevans1201

3 ай бұрын

Not really.

I’ve had low supply and exclusively pumped and supplemented with formula since birth! Baby is almost 6 months. You should be PROUD of how far you made it. Breastfeeding is so hard. Don’t second guess yourself mama. I just focus on the things I CAN control like tummy time, sensory, reading, making sure we are educating ourselves on the best formula and so on. it’s all we can do!

You are such a sweetheart! You do not owe us an explanation, but thank you for sharing your story. I had similar feelings of guilt and regret in regards to breastfeeding my daughter. I felt shame that I did not breastfeed longer. Low supply, trouble latching, and mastitis contributed to my decision. I was the one who was putting the pressure on myself. Knowing that there are other women who have experienced this as well has helped me. Everyone’s story is different as well as every baby is different too. I do still want to try to breastfeed when I have my next baby.

Thank you so much for your openness and vulnerability! This is my first video I've seen on your channel, I had the literal exact experience with my baby boy at 4 months. I also put self-pressure around nursing and pressed on with low supply which ultimately caused him to dip too low in weight because I was so against supplementing, viewing it as a failure. It feels so good to know someone else out there struggled with the same exact feelings and experience. Thank you for sharing , I feel so validated and like I'm not alone ❤️❤️

To all mommies, formula feeding never equals failure, doesn’t matter how baby is fed you still give them all your love. And yes the 4 months sleep regression is very hard but changing feeds and even trying to wean or anything won’t help as it’s a developmental change and it’s normal, it’s best to just stick with what your doing and just wait it out. Also the distractions are very hard with breastfeeding, from 4 months I always tried to feed in a quiet place and if you can’t find a quiet place just wait longer until baby is really hungry, than they’re more likely to feed effectively. Also if you have any supply worries just keep latching and feeding, feeding more increases supply, you may feel empty but your body will always make more, breasts are never empty. Cluster feeding is also purposely to increase supply when baby has a growth spurt. If anything try to eat well and drink a lot, that’ll help to keep your supply going. Be patient, just feed feed feed, don’t worry just keep at it. Oh and if you do anything that you regret, just don’t regret, baby will be fine, all parents learn from trial and error and we’ve all done things we know we could have done differently and perhaps it wasn’t the best choice or maybe it was, it doesn’t matter in the end, we are human, you don’t have to be a perfect mom, just love your baby and enjoy it as much as you can, time will pass and you’ll remember only the good things.

Sending you love during this time!! 💓 You’re doing the best you can for Jace and that’s what matters!

Thank you for your honesty! Both my babies the 4 month mark was the hardest for me with breastfeeding! They can get so distracted, the sleep regression & I personally feel if you’re getting up multiple times a night at the point is really wears on you! You sharing your story will help so many women not feel alone. Thank you! Any women reading this - you are also not alone in your journey and you are doing a great job mama!! 💛

@Nicolelelagreen

4 жыл бұрын

I'm so thankful for everyone sharing their personal stories in the comments! I really hope every mom sees that they are not alone in the slightest!

@TubnQT

4 жыл бұрын

It is normal at 4 months for a baby to become distracted by and interested in all the wonderful things around him. It can help to go into a special chair or room that is dull or dim. Also, be prepared to take a bit more time with feedings, and/or feed more frequently throughout the day, as feeds can become shorter. But the baby is actually more efficient at getting the milk too, so he does so more quickly, but since they are a bit more active, they need more. Also, the breasts at this time can start to make milk on demand and reduce the amount of enforcement, this leading mom to believe her supply is reduced. Breastfeeding is always a new journey around the corner!

@vanityxoxo9957

3 жыл бұрын

Omg my baby is 4 months and I thought it was just me but my baby is doing the exact same thing ! She wakes up way more now, she cries all day basically I can’t be far away, I feel like she sucks me dry lol, she gets distracted so much when eating

@trudy-annmcfarlane2406

3 жыл бұрын

It does stress you out 4real. I’ve been through it all.

@kaylatrausch1394

3 жыл бұрын

Yes to all of this and add my kid tugging 😂

Thank you for being so transparent about this sensitive topic. My baby was a preemie and had latching issues so I tried pumping. Long story short, it wasn’t working for us and I also experienced a panic feeling when the formula we are using became challenging to get due to pandemic hoarding. We will all get through this and we must remember fed is best! 💕

I usually don’t comment on KZread videos but I am feeling so many of the same emotions about having to stop breastfeeding. I thank you so much for this information.

This !!! I’m going through this right now. My son just hit 4 months and I’m going through the same thing !! It makes me feel so much better and less alone.

Thanks for answering our questions and sharing your journey! I’ve struggled with a lot of feelings of failure not being able to exclusively breast feed and not probably not breastfeeding at all from now on. My son was tongue tied and unable to latch and my supply just never got established. Even after his tongue tie surgery we struggled and now he’s 9 weeks and my supply is no more. I never imagined I would be formula feeding my baby but it I found out many of my friends had to supplement and formula feeding is way more common than I realized. I feel like women don’t want to share it because they fear judgement. I totally agree with you tho as far as not being able to tell who was formula fed or not, I’ve told myself “it’s not like you can pick someone out of a lineup”. Thanks for sharing, we are all just doing our best to be the best moms we can be to our babies!!

I just wanted to say, while you didn’t meet your goal to breastfeed until 8 months or beyond, you breastfed until 6 months which is the recommended time! Breastfeeding until at least 6 months gives immense benefits to your baby! Only 25% of moms exclusively breastfeed until 6 months. So you did amazing!

You are so amazing! It is not easy making that decision and I totally understand the load of breastfeeding on top of working and everything else you have going on. You have to do what is best for your sanity and your baby. New sub! 💙

this is a real life story i really need. i started giving formula to my baby since day 5. cause i dont produced much breast milk. i was too anxious when seeing my bby hungry. now i m trying to combo feed my baby with breast milk and formula. i felt terrible because couldnt breastfeed exclusively but listening to you make me feel better.

To all my sisters caring for their little ones: 1000% love and support. You know what your baby needs and you have the love and wisdom to do it ❤

I’m becoming obsessed with your content, because of how relatable you are! You are one of the mommas here on KZread that I can actually relate to. I had watched a few of your videos a few months ago when I was pregnant, but for some reason forgot to subscribe. The other day KZread recommended one of your videos so I watched and commented & loved that you responded, and now I’ve watched this video, and subscribed! Thank you for being honest and real about the struggles surrounding motherhood.

@Nicolelelagreen

4 жыл бұрын

Hey Jessie! I'm SOOO happy to hear that! I find that the more vulnerable and honest I am, the more our audience can relate to me. Makes me fell so connected to you all! Congrats on your baby by the way! Boy or girl?

@jlovexoxo3

4 жыл бұрын

NicoleandRichie Girl 😊💕

This is SO TRUE I could only go up to 8 months but definitely having other people around exceeding you as far as this area of motherhood makes you naturally compare but we definitely just have to find out JOY IN WHAT WE AS MOTHERS HAVE ACCOMPLISHED AND HOW GOD HAD HELPED US THIS FAR TO DO . If your a mom just props to you IN ALL YOU DO . YOUR A GREAT MOM NICOLE ! 💕 let’s encourage one another .

@Nicolelelagreen

4 жыл бұрын

We mom's place way too much guilt on ourselves for everything. It's so unnecessary. The best thing for your baby is to be fed. That's it. And you're doing that great! Our pediatrician said no one will ask on your child's college application if they were formula fed or breastfed. Just feed your babies everyone!

@ishani2103

3 жыл бұрын

Your paediatrician is very kind. My midwife made me feel humiliated and guilty when I wasn’t producing enough milk and had to top up with formula.

@oliviaa5559

3 жыл бұрын

@@ishani2103 I'm so sorry. That is obviously never okay. Also people need to realize that women have been struggling with milk production since the beginning of time. They literally used to nurse each other's babies. Or make their own "formula" out of different types of wheat and goat's milk. It's just history

If someone hasn't breastfed they will never understand. Your baby is blessed to have you because you're feeding him! Period! BF is amazing but we all have our reasons to switching to formula. Thanks for this video. You're a great mom, don't forget it.

Thanks for sharing mama! I love how you say that we don’t owe anyone an explanation- it’s so true!! I feel like I have to have a “good excuse” and I don’t really feel like my excuse is good enough... which is why I also feel so much regret about the decision I made. Here’s hoping we can all start being less judgmental with each other and with ourselves. We need to do what makes the most sense for us and sometimes we might be able to look back and wish we had done things differently, but in those moments all we can do it what we think is best 🤷🏻‍♀️

I came here to say, I loved your story! Thanks for sharing!! I also wanted to say how adorable your dog was, just laying there asleep the entire video. 🥲

What sucked for me is my husband kept pushing me to keep going but when I was struggling I was taking it more as criticism like he was mom-shaming me.

@Herocaa

3 жыл бұрын

That’s so unfair

@erikac8612

3 жыл бұрын

I feel the same way because he hears of his friends wives that overproduce milk. I think it's just a touchy subject when you are fighting so hard to feed your baby. I feel more confident now but it's the growth spurts that get me feeling inadequate.

@susannaroorda1822

3 жыл бұрын

Tell him overproducing is not a good thing, it’ll make breastfeeding harder, if your baby is growing well and you are comfortable breastfeeding than that’s all that matters. There’s no use for excessive milk and it’s inconvenient to have leaky boobs and other issues due to overproduction. Sometimes you need to stop breastfeeding if it gets too much and only you can decide what’s best for you. Baby needs a happy mom more than a breastfeeding mom so if your not happy to continue it really won’t benefit anyone.

@derrekmitchell1012

3 жыл бұрын

@@susannaroorda1822 over producing is a great thing. My wife is able to supply our daughter and another baby and we are still putting some up in freezer

@susannaroorda1822

3 жыл бұрын

@@derrekmitchell1012 if your using it all your not overproducing, you produce what you stimulate. Overproduction that isn’t being used will cause issues like engorgement and fast let downs which are difficult when your actually trying to feed on demand.

I know you are in a totally different place of life currently but I’m just finding these older videos, in the thick of the 4 month sleep regression so REALLY resonating with your videos in this time period. When you dropped a nap and a feed do you remember what that new schedule looked like, I’m pretty sure I need to do that just trying to navigate how to adjust the schedule for it!! Thank you. Congratulations on your new baby ❤️❤️❤️

I totally get what you are saying! Watching this has helped me realize that “it’s okay to not breastfeed” every mom is different. I wanted to breastfeed until 1 year, I lasted untill that 5 month mark and I couldn’t do it anymore. When my baby was 4 months I recently got pregnant again, so my supplies of breastmilk was very low. I was so hard on myself for not being able to breastfeed because of my pregnancy. But my husband helped me realize that not every non can do this, especially while pregnant. Thank you for being an inspiration!

@Nicolelelagreen

3 жыл бұрын

Thank goodness for encouraging husbands!!

As mamas we will AWLAYS feel guilty! Mom guilt is so so so real! You’re doing your best! You’re an amazing mama!

I really appreciated this video! When my little boy was 8 weeks he went on a nursing strike and refused to feed from me. I was expressing milk and giving it to him in a bottle. All I did was express and it definitely hit me hard mentally. My husband and I made the decision that if he wanted to be bottled fed then we would go for formula. It was a hard journey mentally but God was totally in it and he provided money for bottles/sterilisers etc. Thank you for your honesty! Fed is best and as long as our babies are growing strong that’s all that matters ❤️ love from Northern Ireland

@Nicolelelagreen

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing you're journey too

@jyotigarg178

3 жыл бұрын

Did your baby get back to nursing?

@thereverseuniverse4738

3 жыл бұрын

My son did the same, refused to breast feed..i was shocked.. i tried everything and at 8 months i stopped expressing..but feel so emotional about it.

Thank you sooo much for posting this video 🙌🏻. I have been feeling very emotional about switching

Thank you for this video! I been feeling very guilty for not breastfeeding and not trying harder even though I did try to re lactate when my baby was 4 months old. I wish I would had watched this video sooner since you did put a lot of worlds to my feelings. God bless you and your baby!

i have been combination feeding since my baby was born. i did feel the guilt at first for not exclusively breastfeeding

@mehakrathore6243

2 жыл бұрын

I feel you How was it? Did your baby had colic?

LOVE this video!! at around 2 months my supply dipped a lot. my son was always hungry right after breastfeeding and he was so upset all the time because i simply was not making enough milk to keep up with him, i tried pumping more, milk boost cookies, drinking more water, and many many other things and it just wasn’t working. we ended up buying our first container of formula and it was an incredibly difficult decision for me, i felt like i had failed! my son is now 5 months old and we continue to do both breastfeeding and formula feeding, i breastfeed as much as i possibly can (about 5-6 times a day) but we still end up needing to give him about 3 bottles of formula throughout the day, thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement! this really made me feel so much better about my decision to add formula to my sons diet ❤️ you are doing a great job!

@Nicolelelagreen

4 жыл бұрын

YOU are doing a great job! Thank you for sharing

I had a hard time with breastfeeding and my daughter latched funny sometimes. I was heartbroken about my supply too, but I was younger and didn’t realize there were things to help. Overall a fed baby is a happy baby, and I had to rest in that. You’re a great mom, I pray soon you feel better! You hung in there awhile love. 💜💜

@mansipatidar3659

3 жыл бұрын

I can relate to this soo much!

Thanks so much for sharing this mama. Huge encouragement. I know that in this day and age, it’s sorta difficult and to even share these things even if it’s just our own raw and honest stories and experience sometimes bc of the public judgement? You didn’t need to explain or share this, but thanks for opening up so honestly! I too switched to formula (actually earlier than you when both my babies were around 2months) and it was such an emotional hard decision .. had to fight lies that I am a bad mom and that my body was failing what I was supposed to do. But I know that was the best decision for my baby and still stick to it, giving thanks to the Lord for his provision and trusting that the Lord is continuing to strengthen and nourish them and our family ;) thanks again!!!

Thank you for posting this! I've been praying about whether I should stop pumping or not. I produce very little, and what little I do produce comes with a lot of stress and headache. I've been feeling so guilty about wanting to stop and worried because of everything going on. But I know that I need to trust God ultimately to protect and provide for my family. ❤

@Nicolelelagreen

4 жыл бұрын

You got this mama, I hope you get some clarity on the best decision to make. Much love

I had the same exact thing happened to me when my baby was entering the 3 month mark. My supply too had dipped. And because of that, he became frustrated with the flow and rejected my breasts. He eventually developed a low grade fever because he wasnt getting enough milk. More ever, he became very angry because he was hungry but too angry to be fed. I was crying and hating my baby because i felt rejected and lost and overwhelmed with wanting to feed him. He hates bottles and wouldnt want to even get a drip down. So its not like i didnt try feeding him using a bottle. Now, we’re slowly recovering from the nursing strike. He has trauma from me forcing my breast on him and would now recoil whenever i try to feed him. He’s doing better now though.

We support you girl! 💕

You can honestly see & hear the hurt.. I feel for you & I’m sure that eventually you’ll start feeling better about it. You’re still a good mom & you made decisions that you thought were best for you & Jace & that’s perfectly fine. ❤️

Please do not feel guilty! I am feeling just like you. I had my baby on March 30 during the virus and I didn’t have the support I needed as a new mom and I switched to formula and feel the same about the price of formula. I am so happy you have a supportive husband. I wish I could have breastfed and I agree I will eventually get over it. My daughter is happy and thank you so much for posting this!!!!

@Nicolelelagreen

4 жыл бұрын

Hey girl! Thanks so much for the kind encouraging comment! I know others are feel the same way and I'm glad this video helped you! Take care

SAHM over here who is currently exclusively pumping with a low supply and formula feeding. It’s rough. The hardest thing I have ever done. But I understand your journey. I have to constantly remind myself that fed is best.

@Nicolelelagreen

4 жыл бұрын

Props to you, you're doing great

@sydney2649

4 жыл бұрын

I’m in the exact same potition! Low supply front he start, exclusively pumping SAHM and mama it is HARD. Idk about you but it’s getting harder and harder as my baby is getting more busy, I just don’t have the time to pump every 3 hours to keep my supply up.

@calicedetamarack

3 жыл бұрын

It is so hard to make these choices when we're afraid. I agree fed is best, but I don't always treat myself as well as I treat others. I've been doing both from the start, I have a 1 month old. Latch troubles, pain, and anger/sadness/trauma from the hospital experience really got in the way. Where I live, the lactation consultants are so booked, you have to wait weeks. Thank goodness for KZread. Supplementing with formula allowed by nipples to heal, and also gave some more space to process the hospital trauma. I have the luxury of being home. We've learned to latch better and are slowly boosting supply. The routine of breastfeeding, then formula, then pumping, is extra effort and is imperfect. I don't think we'll ever become exclusively breastmilk. This disappoints me, but then I remember I have a healthy child who had put in the weight they needed, and my decision is what allowed feeding to be a loving experience, not a stressed one. Nicole, i hope things are going well in your home and that this has gotten easier on you.

This video is amazing! My milk supply was low when my daughter was born and I wanted to breastfeed so bad because it creates a strong bond with mother and child and breastmilk is the best for child. So when I had to feed her formula I was sad and felt so much guilt. I realized that’s it’s okay and there’s nothing wrong with formula, my baby needs to eat. I still wish I could’ve breastfeed because it’s the best for the child but formula is okay!

@Nicolelelagreen

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly, fed is best

@kalianayoga9808

4 жыл бұрын

Sara Cardenas it’s such a hard decision! But I know I was formula fed which eased my mind more during this transition. But feeding anyway possible is the best decision too!❤️

@oliviaa5559

4 жыл бұрын

Yes! Everyone please feed your babies!

@de5072

3 жыл бұрын

In my experience breastfeeding weakened the bond with my son. It was a traumatizing experience. Once he was exclusively formula fed (at 4 months after months of pumping and supplementing) our bond got so much stronger.

This is EXACTLY what happened to me and my baby! As soon as covid hit I started trying to relactate but it wasn’t happening for me. I regret it and I miss it so much. We picked a weird time but it doesn’t make us wrong. I totally understand the guilt and I am so relieved to hear another momma going through what I went through. Thank you Nicole ❤️

The stress of this virus made me stop breastfeeding, it was just too much to handle all at once with new baby, no help, staying in the house 24/7, she had so much trouble latching because they had to give her a bottle at the hospital because I lost so much blood and was a weakling after giving birth so my daughter wasn't even with me for 4 hours in the hospital 💔 I didn't expect my motherhood experience to start out like this and 2 months later I still feel like I failed and ive started lying to my family saying that I'm breastfeeding when I'm not 🙃 and they ask me multiple times so I just feel like horrible person if I'm being honest 💔 but it's a bit of a relief Knowing I'm not the only one that struggled ( also all the public ads about breastfeeding are triggering to my anxiety which sucks)

@Nikki-ks6wi

4 жыл бұрын

Omg we are the same person in the he sense of labor and breastfeed difficulties. You stay strong girl! You birthing a baby and putting you love in daily is the best part you provide. We will get through this

@angelageskermann4548

4 жыл бұрын

Same!

@1cole256

4 жыл бұрын

@@Nikki-ks6wi thank you 💕 you stay strong also!

@Nicolelelagreen

4 жыл бұрын

More mothers than you think can relate to you! I hope you can slowly become confident in the choices you made because you did the absolute best with the situation you were given. Much love to you!

@1cole256

4 жыл бұрын

@@Nicolelelagreen thank you, I honestly felt so alone before watching your video and seriously thought everyone breastfed but me! I appreciate you sharing your story so much 🤗💛

We do both since birth. We breast feed and we provide formula. Our boy is 3.5 months and he is a happy boy :)

I’m so sorry you’re feeling like that but I’ve been watching your videos for a while and I think you’re a great mom! I try to follow your example with my own son! So don’t feel guilty! And honestly I think it’s only such a thing in America. I’m latin and I feel like every baby is formula fed and if you breastfeed great like no one cares. No one talks about how you feed your baby and when it’s time to feed like you almost expect a bottle. I had to start pumping because my supply also dipped and now I breastfeed and pump to keep my supply up.

My daughter is 13 months old and I am so ready to stop and it’s been so difficult! It’s emotional and mentally draining now! I want my body back and I cry at night time because I am over it! I am glad I did it and I used to love it but now it’s too much! There feels like there’s nothing more to give and I do not want to do it anymore😔 you did what’s best for you

Thanks for being open Nicole! This video will help a lot of mommy’s if they’re feeling any guilt over stopping nursing. Just to know they’re not alone ya know! But I’m so sorry this happened and that you feel regretful. However, feelings are temporary and soon you’ll feel free from that guilt. Because there’s no condemnation in Christ Jesus so please don’t let yourself go there. Jace still gets to have you as his full time care giver and I think that’s awesome. Sucks when they have to go to a babysitter (even though I know some fam have to do that to work and provide.) so I’m not throwing shade at them either. Anyway. Thanks for the transparency! Love you 😘

@Nicolelelagreen

4 жыл бұрын

You are right! Thank you for the encouragement

Over it with my second. I don't feel guilty.

Wow Im going through that right now 😭 this video literally helped me so much. I am feeling so alone about this. I’m so glad I came across this video. ❤️❤️❤️

@Nicolelelagreen

4 жыл бұрын

Aww so happy it helped you!!

@jessicahiggins8094

4 жыл бұрын

You are not alone!!

Thanks for sharing your story! We have had to combo feed since my LO was 3 days old, and formula has definitely saved my breastfeeding journey because we're still happily combo feeding 8 months later. I definitely felt shame and guilt in the very beginning but I've long come to terms with it and know that a fed baby is best. I think not enough people know about combo feeding. It's definitely the best of both worlds. Breastfeeding your child does not have to be an all or nothing deal.

My baby is a month now and I only produce about half what she consumes. it was probably week two when I realized that I was going to have to supplement with formula. I cried, I felt like I had failed my baby. But there was also relief from it. I could confirm how much she was eating and that she was getting enough and I can still breastfeed her in the morning. The most important thing is that baby is eating. We are all doing our best.

Honestly, dont feel like you made a bad choice. It was a mistake and you're learning! I'm glad you admit that it wasnt the best experience for you. And some people may find it helpful!

Thank you so much for your video! I’m feeling EXACTLY how you are rn my baby is 3 months and I returned to work and my supply went down so much. But Im not ready to give my journey up but I know it’s the best for my baby for our situation 😔

As a mommy of nine who breast-fed all of my kids till most of them all at least were 18 months old, if you are feeling at all like you want to still do it I would just encourage you for three days to pump every three hours for maybe 30 minutes along with taking supplements that are supposed to help and getting a lot of rest and also not stressing but just relaxing and enjoying the “pumping time” and quiet and I have a very good feeling your supply will come back. Emphasis on IF you are torn about it and still are wanting to breast-feed

@_goddess.lifestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Jessica Johanson wow girl you’re a champ!!!thanks for sharing :)

@kalianayoga9808

4 жыл бұрын

Jessica Johanson WOW you worked hard mama!! Good for you ❤️

@Nina-dp3gx

4 жыл бұрын

Yes with my second baby; I stopped before I was ready due to extended family pressuring me to stop during a vacation together (I know how that sounds 😐). After about 10 days I decided to restart and it worked ! If you want, it is possible to reverse. On the other hand, there is nothing wrong with formula feeding.

@mariaburakovsky2458

4 жыл бұрын

Jessica Johanson thank you for your advice! It is so frustrating to pump and have so little milk there.. but 3 days is doable! I will give it a chance!

@Monica-gu2bg

4 жыл бұрын

Jessica, I want to relactate but even pumping every 3 hours has added stress to my life! My daughter constantly needs attention, I am also a super heavy sleeper and let me tell you that my alarm has not been enough to wake me up for a MOTN session. Its EMBARRASSING. And I beat myself up when I realize I didn't wake up. I'm stuck between being a slave to the pump again (hate pumping, love feeding my milk to my baby) or just moving on and enjoying my infant and time to the fullest.

Thank you for sharing your journey. My daughter is 2 months old and I am currently feeling the same way you did. My goal is to breastfeed up until she’s 8 months old. Watching this video was very helpful. I’m not going to give up! Thank you again!!!

I totally understand that guilty feeling✨ My baby boy, also named Jace, was born with 31+1 day. So he is premature and wasnt able to eat by himself. He had a feeding tube. I pumped for weeks. And when he was able to eat by himself, he got used to a bottle. Because I wasnt able to be with him at the hospital 24/7. So the nurses gave him a bottle with breastmilk I pumped. I tried breastfeeding when he got home after 7 weeks. But he got so frustrated everytime. So firs I wanted to keep pumping and just give him a bottle with breastmilk but that got too hard. I felt like a machine lol. So I switched over to formula and yes, there were a few tears and some guilt. But eventually I got over it and I started feeling so much better🤗✨ I also believe breastmilk is the best thing ever for your baby. But its also okay to give formula. Everyone has a different journey and I think as moms we should support each other❤️

@kari9367

4 жыл бұрын

Lenice Romney My baby was born at 29+2 and has been in the NICU 5 and a half weeks so far. He still has a feeding tube but should be starting to try and bottle feed/breast feed in the next week. I’m right there with ya about feeling like a total machine trying to pump milk for him to have! And my supply has been very low to begin with. I’m making juuuust enough some days, but I’ve already been told that because he’s now considered 34 weeks old they will no longer give him donor milk when they run out of my breast milk but formula instead. I’ve definitely been worried about what our breastfeeding journey will be down the road. But I just keep reminding myself that no matter what happens he’s already come such a long way and as long as he continues to grow and be healthy, he’ll be okay! 💕

@Nicolelelagreen

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your stories ladies, I'm sure it'll be helpful to those in the exact same position as you

@TubnQT

4 жыл бұрын

I’m a NICU/L&D RN. You did a great job!!!

@jessicahiggins8094

4 жыл бұрын

My story is very similar, and it sucks. Born at 32 weeks, tube fed, bottle fed at hospital, pumping like a madwoman. Trying to battle the bottle. Pumping some more. It's good to hear we aren't alone. What I do know is that my baby is happy. :)

Just had to comment that I love your dog! So cute and dreaming in the background while you are talking😁

We’re all in the same boat. My baby is 4 months, I had to stop breastfeeding because I didn’t produce in one. And then this pandemic hit, and we couldn’t find formula. We started looking up ways to make our own even, because of others hoarding. Having family close to help us look, was the best blessing we could’ve asked for.

@Nicolelelagreen

4 жыл бұрын

I'm so so glad you were able to find what you needed

What a great video! Thank you for all your insight ❤️

My baby was never good at latching, so I have pumped exclusively since 6 weeks. He is now 4 months and I know what you are talking about with the distractions. He eats about 2 ounces and then shoves away the bottle. I am still pumping though. I also take Legendary Milk supplements to help my supply! I use the Liquid Gold and Sunflower Lecithin

I understand how you feel. I was devastated when I had to stop breast-feeding because my son wasn’t eating enough. He was very premature and just had some trouble with swallowing and we eventually had to get a G-tube for him. I still wonder if I had done something differently if he would have been better off. But we can’t beat ourselves up. You are doing a great job!

@Nicolelelagreen

4 жыл бұрын

You are right! we can't. You did what was best for the knowledge you had and you also did a great job! :)

Hey nicole! I love following your journey because our baby is about a month apart and as mom’s are I love seeing I’m ‘on track’. It’s so hard not to compare as I honestly was baffled how Jace was eating 9oz at night.. my baby is a snacked and I have no idea if she’s eating ‘enough’. You are an amazing mom. Don’t beat yourself up!!

@Nicolelelagreen

4 жыл бұрын

I think that shocked a few people! Just know I feed him until he is all done and satisfied. If your baby is satisfied with less, then that is the perfect amount for her! You're doing great mama!

@bevwong1801

4 жыл бұрын

NicoleandRichie haha see you compare yourself to others, while I compare to you. We’re both amazing mama’s and not one perfect way. Your son is sooo cute.

So proud of you for making it this long 💓 it is definitely not easy!

You are not alone everyone’s journey is different and you did what you could and didn’t give up and as long as your baby is eating your doing a wonderful job!:) my baby was in Nicu and by time he came home my supply was low no matter how hard I tried to get my supply up I couldn’t and I would beat myself up for it:/

As a mom who is still breast feeding a 2 year old and waiting on my new born to arrive any day now. Breast feeding is a lot of work and also weaning idea difficult too. It has been nice to not have to carry formula around and bottles and the whole process of formula feeding. We all have a different journey in mother hood and all we can do is do our best. We got this mommies❤!

Most ppl who say such ignorant things such as " you must have been formula fed" probably is NOT a parent and who's notion of parenting does not go beyond taking care of thier pet.... At the end of the day what you have to do to feed your baby is np one's business, but you honesty is both refreshing and encouraging.

Girl thank you so freaking much for posting this. I have been exclusively breastfeeding for 5 months and I tried pumping to give bottle and found out my breastmilk had high lipase which makes it taste HORRIBLE. So now I'm scalding my breastmilk to 180 degrees, ice bath, then storing. It's a nightmare and it's been exhausting. But I have these same feelings!! I feel so guilty. UGHHHHH. Thank you thank you thank you.

You are incredibly sweet. I have been struggling to produce enough for my baby. Loved this video!

First btw great video 😁

I nursed my first for 10 months. 8 years later, I have my second and I switched to formula 3 months in. He is 6 months old now and doing just as well as my first child. The only annoying thing is washing bottles and staying stocked up.

Yea, the 4-month stage. Our doc warned me about it so I just rolled with it and started feeding on my side and in a dark room even during daytime. Some women start leaking breastmilk though, after more than a year of stopping their breastfeeding, when their kids get sick and the body wants to comfort them. Like sbd mentioned, there is medicine to get your supply back, or you can also try to give him boob again every now and then, just for the extra closeness and comfort, and maybe some milk will come back. They say breastfeeding is a supply and demand kind of thing. I would try, if not for anything else then curiosity. Maybe you won't have full supply but enough to give Jace some 'dessert' or comfort when he needs it. Good luck, whatever you do. Love your channel. Much love from Estonia! 😷💕

I have a 6 month old and went through the guilt but to be honest I’m still going through it because I’m still producing some, so I nurse her from time to time as a “snack”. I sometimes want to go back and do pumping sessions to bring back my supply but I just don’t have the energy to sit and pump for an hour anymore. Luckily I manage to freeze enough expressed breast milk that she getst to have in the mornings and then it’s formula and solid foods throughout the day. I appreciate you sharing you’re experience because it helps me to cope and know that there are many other mommy’s out there who have gone through the same struggle that I’ve/I’m going through.

@Nicolelelagreen

4 жыл бұрын

Yes! I highly suggest looking through the comments at other womens stories too! You are so not alone!

Breastfeeding is challenging and rewarding but I encourage moms to do the best you can. Babies get the best when you're at your best. I've been pumping since my youngest came home from the NICU and I don't regret it. He's 2 months and I formula and pump feed. Best decision I ever made! Even in the pandemic I don't have to worry about breastfeeding or formula shortage. I did lose some supply but I eat cookies and tea and it's coming back. Once again do what's best for you and your babies. Everyone please be safe and take care.

I'm thankful that I can breastfeed during this pandemic because I had the same worries about being able to get formula. We also cloth diaper which has saved me not only money but having to constantly get diapers for our newborn son. I was always going to be at home for the first six months of my baby's life but this whole thing has made it where I get more time to spend with him, his naps and feedings are so consistent because we aren't running around everywhere. So despite everything, that is something positive. Perhaps, we can learn something from this time. How much we fill our schedules not necessarily to the benefit of our children. Anyway, I know it's difficult to breastfeed for many women. It was hard for me at first. I had to supplement because I had a traumatic C-section and my milk was very late. And breastfeeding is a skill for both you and your baby, something you need to learn to do together. I think I thought it would be just so intuitive but it's not exactly like that. Once I understood that it's something you need to learn how to do, I felt better. It has nothing to do with how good a mother you are if they just don't pop on and it's smooth sailing. And often there are physical barriers as well. I know there are solutions to those if you want but if you can't, no judgement. Good moms do what they need to be present and happy for their children, not only to feed and cloth them.

This is gonna be a longer comment...i gave birth this june and due to the virus I didn't have a chance to attend courses and stuff so... I stayed at the hospital for 3 days and I honestly felt really alone there.. Besides family not being able to visit the people there weren't really willing to help and I had to ask for help several times regarding the great feeding.... From day one my baby wasn't really drinking well and I didn't have a midwife either. I separated from the baby's dad and was pretty much by myself. He kept falling asleep while nursing and as he was never satisfied he wanted to eat like every 30 min. I was so exhausted but I still kept going. At some point he stopped gaining weight for over a week and it kept getting worse... It was at this point that I introduced formula but I felt horrible about it crying almost everyday. I'm still breast feeding and giving him formula both and he is happy and healthy... I regret feeling so bad and guilty about not breast feeding exclusively instead of just enjoying the time with my baby... So mums... Enjoy the time with your baby and don't let anyone get to you.. Not even yourself

@bridgetbaer3775

3 жыл бұрын

Same thing just happened to me, had to stop at 3 weeks :(

I switched to formula because I could not make enough milk for my twins. I felt like I was sick, would get dizzy, and just generally felt overwhelmed when I was breastfeeding. The homones with two babies was too much. While I was pregnant all I heard was about how possible it is to bf twins so I was so unprepared! I'm glad they got 3 months of breastmilk but the $400 a month we spend now on their formula is insane but better than feeling like I have a flu everyday. I wish ppl shared all their bad experiences so you can prepare yourself while pregnant.

@09keelin

Жыл бұрын

I’m not sure why you live at or if your twins still drink formula but have you tried to apply for WIC?

@c457jajsudbe

Жыл бұрын

@09keelin We made too much money for WIC so basically just had to deal with paying for something that we couldn't really afford.

I’ve been trying to get my dd to drink formula because I’m so tired of breast feeding however she won’t take formula at all doesn’t matter what I do and when I pump barely anything comes out . watching this gave me hope I’m in the 4mnt regression phase so I’m thankful for you making this video

I'm a soon to be momma in July and this video was so refreshing to watch. I cried a little bit lol but I wish more moms would be raw and blunt about their personal hardships when it comes to their relationships with baby. So many vloggers out there make it seem like an "Instagram show" but there are real raw emotions and decisions when it comes to providing for baby and exploring motherhood. It is beautiful both the successes and regrets. It pulls you so much closer to the Lord. This gives me encouragement that I will not be perfect and that is okay. The Lord WILL provide every need for you and baby

@Nicolelelagreen

4 жыл бұрын

Yes! Amen! I'm so glad this was beneficial and encouraging for you!!!

You are such a strong mamma.

You couldn’t forseee what was to come Don’t feel guilty hun you made an informed decision. You got this mama xoxoxo

Thank you for sharing your story Nicole. I can totally relate to every words you said. So many times I wanted to give up breastfeeding because I was so busy at work and sometimes I didn’t produce enough output from my pump sessions in the office. My stash were running out and I was so so so sure I would start supplementing... and then Covid 19 happened. And for me, this is the other side of the story. I stopped going to work and now at home 100% with my baby. It’s been more than 2 months since lockdown here in Singapore and I’m still breastfeeding him. He will turn 9 months soon. :)

@Nicolelelagreen

4 жыл бұрын

Wow! That's awesome that it all worked out for you

I had this experience with pumping. I hated pumping and had so much anxiety over it. I wanted to build a stash in the freezer in case of an emergency and it didn’t happen.. Definitely seeing videos on KZread from moms pumping like 100 oz a day and me not even being able to pump 4 oz made me cry thinking I wasn’t good enough for my baby.. I’m still breastfeeding and stopped pumping and it’s so freeing! Maybe I didn’t reach that “goal” that I had in mind but my baby doesn’t even know and he’s perfectly happy! A fed baby is the best baby!!😄😄💙

@melissaochoa5057

4 жыл бұрын

Jen Flores I hate pumping too. I had a very hard time enjoying breastfeeding in the first 8-12 weeks of my babies life because I had strong let down and he would choke sometimes. He caught up and I enjoy breastfeeding now, but I hate pumping so I only pump when I am at work which is enough for the next time I work. I am so happy I don’t have to pump outside of work.

@joliefemme83

4 жыл бұрын

I too hate pumping and also like you Jen Flores only produced like 4 oz even if that for a 20 minute session . I feed my daughter breast milk for the most part but I do give her take a bottle or two a day of formula just so that she will be used to taking a bottle when I return back to work when she’s 6 mo.old . The KZread videos of the moms who overproduce are very hard to watch so I stopped watching them and just focused on my body . Getting rest liquids and eating right are all I focus on and I pump once a day, but sometimes none at all because the stress of building a stash was too much to handle :( .

Thank you for this video! I breastfed my 2-month old baby girl the first month and switched to formula because she wasn’t gaining the right amount of weight. My milk supply was low, though it was really good at the beginning and she had a great latch. I guess the stress of having a newborn affected it. I wish I could have breastfed for longer, but it is what it is. What is important is that your baby is healthy and happy ❤️

@alexlg9521

4 жыл бұрын

Oh hunny I'm so sorry you fell for that. There's no "right amount of weight". Every baby is different, just like every adult weighs a different amount and is a different height. Breastmilk is by far the best way to get your baby to grow. Just keep feeding and trust that your body was designed specifically to feed your baby. The more you fed the more your supply will grow. The medical system is very successful in getting women to mistrust their bodies which is totally inaccurate. How do you think the human race survived before formula? Formula doesn't have probiotics in it either, which is essential for the developing gut health of babies.

Thank you Nicole for telling us all your story behind your breastfeeding journey 💕! Like you said, you didn’t have to explain yourself but it hits home to a lot of mommas out here including me 🙋🏻‍♀️ You are a great mama! Don’t forget that 😊

I actually watched this while pumping. Ive been very discouraged because i pump every 3 hours to keep my supply and freeze some, but im also a working mom and i have a 2 year old on top of my 2 month old. Its just so inconvenient to pump every 3 hours when youre busy, and I seriously wanted to quit. But watching this reminded me of why im doing it, and gave me a little hope. Thank you!

@Nicolelelagreen

4 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad you are encouraged

To any breastfeeding mother that may read this: You are enough! Babies are smart and they won't starve themselves! If you get 4-6 wet diapers every 24 hours and baby is growing on their curve/percentile, there's no need to supplement with formula. Supplementing IS what will make your supply dip...because our bodies will make ENOUGH for the baby, as long as we let them nurse as much as they want to. The only thing that regulates milk supply is milk demand. Feed your little ones without fear and anxiety, because you are enough!

Omg this video came at the right time I’m experiencing the same thing right now my baby is 4 months and I’m back To work full time and one breast completely stopped and the other is getting maybe 2-3oz a session and my stored milk is about to be done. I’m so sad. I’m going definitely try to pump at work but he will have to do formula. Thank you so much for this video. It made me feel better and not a failure.

On one side my mom would no stop talking about how I could increase my supply and on the other side my husband would not stop arguing with me over him wanting me to only formula feed he hated seeing me breastfeed and believes formula is better I had to do both because I didn’t have enough but it was hard hearing those things when I felt kind of vulnerable at times the only support I got was from another mom I met at hospital. I just can’t believe how so many people just feel like they have the right to tell you what’s right it’s so annoying and you are already going through enough

I had to formula feed because i could not produce and i cried almost every night. It is so emotional, especially if you enjoy it and get that bonding feeling when you breast feed. My son is 4 months and i still breast feed to sooth because i he like it and i like the bonding. I still wish i could have breast fed completely but I've excepted it. It takes time

I totally understand, I contemplate trying to do re-laction but that is really hard. Going back to work definitely ruined my supply but my baby is happy and fed. I don't think it changed our bond though.I co-share our room maybe that/s why. That nighttime bonding truly helped keep our bond strong. For my daughter I am her number 1. I know as women we should not put so much pressure on ourselves but its hard not too.

@Nicolelelagreen

4 жыл бұрын

I agree, definitely difficult to do!

I'm transitioning into formula feeding. So in the morning and evening my baby girl is formula fed and at night she's breastfed. And it's so hard for me to except the fact that my breastfeeding journey is coming to an end. My milk supply has been so low it is not enough for my baby. I wanted to breastfeed until 6 months and she's almost 3 months. I'm still sad about it.

Hey Nicole hope your doing better with the changes, just wanted to say that i went thru the same thing for a week with my son and I felt the exact same way because I have to give him formula after breastfeeding him.. They made formula for a reason and it’s FINE ITS OKAY its has its nutrients its iron and it’s also good for him, you breastfed Jace for 6 months and you should be proud of it you are a great mom never forget that, I always watch your videos and I love seeing Jace smile, God bless your family everyday and always. Stay safe♥️

@Nicolelelagreen

4 жыл бұрын

You are such a sweetheart, thank you for the kind words

Thanks for sharing! You’re such a good mama!! I had trouble with my LO as soon as he was born. It would be extremely painful when he latched on. I started pumping and actually stuck with exclusively pumping. It took so much time and effort. Pumping every 2 hrs in the beginning and formula feeding when I didn’t have enough milk until my supply was enough..about 2 weeks. He is 4 months now and has been exclusively breastmilk fed. I even have a huge stash in the deep freezer. Now I’m feeling guilty because I’m wondering if I should solely give him breastmilk until 6 months or introduce some solids. We as mamas are always going to feel some type of guilt when it comes to our babies even when we are doing the absolute best for them!! Such irony 😩

You are strong girl! I felt the same way! I wanted to go back to breastfeeding after stopping and even before that it was quite the emotional rollercoaster. I just needed to push it for one more month until Covid hit, but who knew! I am thankful for those 7 beautiful months breastfeeding!

My milk supply tanked overnight and I have twins I had to supplement a couple bottles in the last week and it was heartbreaking but my babies need to eat and I wasn't producing enough for them. My supply is slowly increasing back up but babies are moving up to 4 oz so I'm praying I can stay on this journey. Breastfeeding is the most beautiful thing I've ever done even though it's painful and tiring.

I went through this myself I felt like a failure to my child once I stoped breastfeeding. Sometimes we can’t just help things that happen but don’t beat yourself up. We as women go through a lot and it’s not acknowledged as much as it should be! You’re a strong mama💕

@Nicolelelagreen

4 жыл бұрын

You are too!

Thanks for sharing your story. I'm sure it will help other mommies going through the same process. ♥ Jenny

Thank you for sharing your experience with us Nicole. I am trying hard to build my supply for my almost 1 month old. I have had to supplement with formula a number of times. I am currently producing just enough to not need to use that supplement. I am really giving it my all and I really needed that encouragement to keep going. Thank you for your insight and encouragement. I know it is a tough and very personal choice that you didn't have to share, but you did anyway. Thank you.

@Nicolelelagreen

4 жыл бұрын

You are such a sweetheart, thank you for being so kind. I'm am incredibly thankful that this encourages moms in all arenas!

@jessicahiggins8094

4 жыл бұрын

I see that this was posted 3 months ago, but I just wanted to say that if you are still putting effort into breastfeeding, you are amazing. And if you've transitioned to a routine that works better for you and your baby, you are amazing. I wish I had had encouragement at either of these moments in my journey. Much love

I completely understand you can get your supply back you just have to keep up with the pumping at least every 2-3 hours and at least one power pump a day if you want to try I was always low in supply so no matter what it was really hard for me but whatever you decide is great it’s hats best for you and baby 😊❤️