I've done it these past few months and I feel so free! 💃💃💃 Sad for who?! Who wants to stick around people who don't care about you just because it's holidays. Nonsense. I worked hard in order to get my own place, my own friends and my perspective in life. I will not be controlled by ANYONE. 💃💃

@setapart2serveministries

2 жыл бұрын

halleluyah!

@shereengiovanni5009

2 жыл бұрын

I think you are my real sister. Im trying to adopt this same mindset!

@mahomedmotala9392

4 ай бұрын

Wellsaid

@tradslnd9872

3 ай бұрын

How did you get to this headspace, I love my family too much even though they treat me like dirt. How do I detach for good?

I have been estranged from my son for 4 years. We had a good relationship before he got married. The pain is unbelievable.

@janiceking4415

2 жыл бұрын

I have exactly the same situation

@judycampbell7821

Жыл бұрын

My son’s wife is that way with her family, so my son as he told me was…..had to make a decision. His decision was to side with his wife. I thought, what is he talking about? I found out. That is inhuman!! He meant it and it’s been over 5 yrs. now. We were close before then. His wife had said she had to get that umbilical cord cut. Well she did it!!! I don’t know him anymore. I tried since then and they laughed at me behind my back. He’s not my son anymore. God bless them and I’m moving on. It would not of hurt anymore than sticking a gun to my head and pulling the trigger! Give it to God and think of yourself and move on. Peace in my heart now.

@BrandyTexas214

Жыл бұрын

My brothers gf is the same.. every other gf he had was great with my mom but this one makes him miserable and now he’s blocked us all out.. we aren’t good enough, he spends his time with her niece and nephew and never sees my kids. I’d mail pics of my kids and when I visited they would be hiding on the side of the fridge while her family was in frames displayed in the hallways.. it hurts a lot

@joannapeters4738

Жыл бұрын

Perhaps there's a group you can join where rejected children meet rejected parents? I don't mean to sound callous I'm just getting to the point. There is an organisation/ charity called 'Stand Alone (UK)' which looks interesting.. also churches are often good places to find support (ideally) & worth being open-minded about if you aren't part of or going along to one already 🌈 I'm sorry for your pain & I sympathize (if u hadn't guessed) - from 't other side' (!;)

@judycampbell7821

Жыл бұрын

It’s so unbearable when you have no closure. Time heals everything. The pain, but you always wish it didn’t happen. You can think about it, the pain is not the same. Stay busy and love your own life.

I moved my family 700 miles to reform a relationship with my parents who I thought had changed. Biggest mistake of my life. All of those old wounds were reopened and now my wife and kids have their own wounds from it as well.

@veronical3135

Жыл бұрын

They never change, at least mine didn’t. I learned through many traumatic events to stay away. It’s the only way. Forgive, forget and pray about it. God never failed me.

@elizabethd.2398

Жыл бұрын

@@veronical3135 I say forgive, but NEVER forget - lest you repeat the same mistakes over and over again.

@LimitlessThinker

6 ай бұрын

That happened to me. My mother asked if we could move closer.

@pinkopallinu9084

6 ай бұрын

​@@LimitlessThinkerdon't, they are monsters! I won't forgive and that's fine.

@saythankyou111

4 ай бұрын

Yup..you think they’ve changed because you’ve done your shadow work…they haven’t, nor do they want to…say goodbye and try not to think about them, I’m out three years now, it gets easier 👀🇺🇸🕊

It’s a pain you can’t explain. Daily pain

@PRAISEMYLORDJESUS

2 ай бұрын

Pray that God will give you the grace to deal with this. It’s not pretty it’s ugly. I know that this is not the way that the Lord meant for us to live, but some people don’t have morals, and some people said they don’t know the saving grace of Jesus Christ. He is able he is, able to hold you up to lift the bow down head to mend the broken heart. I have to lean in heavily on him because my family my sister went to court, estranged hersrlf from most of my family when my mom died, left the modest estate and she couldn’t get her hands on it. That’s the truth of the matter. She cut us off from her grandchildren because her daughter was too weak to stand up to her, but you know what that’s OK. There’s a whole lot of other children that I can fellowship and relate to their children that are starving in different places children. They really need help children they will will appreciate anything that done for them. Please I’m moving into a place where I am prepared to live. The rest of my life is necessary without a relationship with them. I pray for them. I pray that they would change that they will get out of the mentality of just looking at me and anyone else as a $ but if they don’t, oh well that same sister has done any evil through the years and I forgiven her every single time but for what she’s done to the children now and corrupted the heart of the children, that is for me will be forgiven, but never forgotten and I never wanna relationship with her again

I would have NEVER left them as they left me!! It’s not easy when you have no closure. I did what I thought was right at the hard times in my life, when people closed me out when I needed help. I’m proud of myself for sticking with my family through hard times. That’s more than they did for me.

@Jmamelia

2 жыл бұрын

Same here. Siblings took from me my entire adult life - cash, plane tix, vacation rentals, TIME - and when I needed help dealing with breast cancer, ending 19 year marriage, moving cross country and setting up house in a new city - they were absent. It's been 4 1/2 years. Wrote a letter and explained why I cut them off. Only one of the four even responded. They used me for 40 years.

@judycampbell7821

2 жыл бұрын

@@Jmamelia You were brave to leave. You were the one with the big heart. You should be proud of yourself. Some people have no empathy for anyone else. People like us are special because we are caring and lovable. More than I can say for some. I’d rather be like me than uncaring like them. Be proud of yourself for what you did in hard times to help them. Judy

@judycampbell7821

2 жыл бұрын

I have learned to accept the loss. I had to let them go for my own sanity. Their loss!

@robynlayne1

2 жыл бұрын

At the end of the day YOU have to rest easy with the decisions you’ve made in your life, no one else. Sure you can let anything bother you if you wish, but what’s that going to do? That’s a choice you make, even though it often feels impossible 💔❤️.

@helenwatson4494

Жыл бұрын

Same xxx

It's new for me. I chose it because of a number of reasons. The weight I feel in my chest is heavy though and it won't go away . I feel like I am mourning what could have been rather than what was

@mitziebryantgwinn2873

6 ай бұрын

Yes, me too.

My sons ran away from home at 14 and 15. They ended up with my ex husband. Everyone said they’d be back at 19 or 20. Well, it has now been 34 years and no word from them yet. The pain has eased in the last three years

@Vic-on5ic

2 жыл бұрын

It's a new cross for today's parents to bear -- the foolish disrespect of self-serving and nihilistic children with "victimhood" mentality. In 99% of cases the parents are normal loving people who do their best.

@ellyk8834

2 жыл бұрын

@@Vic-on5ic BS. 99% of the time it's victims walking away from abusers. You are projecting. I'm very familiar with that. All abusers (including my own) do it and you all sound EXACTLY THE SAME. Just because you "did your best" doesn't mean your best was in any way love or not abuse.

@jimcole6423

2 жыл бұрын

@@ellyk8834 Sounds like you are projecting Elly K. You cannot rightfully make the state ment you made without knowing an individuals situation.

@ellyk8834

2 жыл бұрын

@@jimcole6423 People give more away in their statements then they want to believe. Emotionally unhealthy people (including abusers) say the same things, use the same justifications and are otherwise easy to spot for educated survivors. People who quack are ducks and while they may want to be a goose or tell people they are actually a swan, once you learn the language of dysfunction, you know who is who. Most parents who are estranged aren't the innocent 'good guy' given the things they say. Saying you have to know the parties involved or each individual situation is false.

@dearone1

2 жыл бұрын

@@ellyk8834 I just came here to say you absolutely fucking nailed it. Well said.

The hardest part is the memories of the good times. Was any of that real? Did my dad ever REALLY love me? If he did how can he walk away so easily? Don’t know how I’m going to ever move past this without this pain.

@bridgetsieger2261

5 ай бұрын

I dont understand how good memories exist but they do and are so confusing.

@innerwestie1446

Ай бұрын

I don’t think anyone walks away easily. It might look that way but there is a long and painful process of reflection and decision making before anyone can walk away from family.

I haven't spoken to my mother and brother and his family in 2 years. Yesterday was my brother's birthday and my maternal grandma passed away on the same day, last night actually. I swear his life is cursed, that's really strange and a bad omen that our mother's mother happened to pass on his birthday and it feels like it was not an accident. I feel a lot of darkness surrounding them and their kids like a black cloud. I had my 2nd child 6 months and not one word of acknowledgement from them. They like to pretend I'm dead so I just let it go. They are actually evil, there are so many abusive skeletons in the family closet. It's a blessing my youngest will never know them. I found myself wishing I had a mother who was at least with it enough that I could call her and tell her sorry about grandma passing but that is wishful thinking. You are definitely right about so many years going by that these estranged "family" members are complete strangers and distant memories. You know that song "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." That's how I feel about them and the more time that goes by, the more faded their faces are in my mind, like what happens when someone dies which is how I view them, dead to me. The years pass and when I think of starting a conversation with my mother, I draw a blank. There is just no longer anything to say and no way to communicate, that is a stranger now, like an ex or an old friendship. I don't have to explain what she did that made me walk away from her forever, she knows and it's called abuse from Munchausen by Proxy when I was a child. I don't feel a need for closure because she knows exactly what happened. Anyway, thanks a lot for this video, I appreciate it.

I appreciate this. It's comforting to know there are others beside myself

My sister, thirteen months my junior, Practically twins growing up, has gone NC with me when I patiently began asking her for a copy of my fathers last will and testament. My father died four years ago and we had a strained relationship my whole life, but amicable. In fact I moved from my life in Hawaii to help my sister as our fathers live-in primary care giver the last nine months of his life. He died four years ago and only last year did I begin to ask my sister for a copy of his will. She asked me why and I stated as a part of my healing journey, I am inclined and curious to see what he had to say as last words to his children. She hung up on me and won’t receive my calls or respond to my messages. I left her a message asking for nothing more than closure and she has maintained radio silence. Wow! Stunned! Betrayal like none other.

@missrdl1977

3 ай бұрын

Once the estate has gone probate you can legally request a copy of the will from court. What your sister did, however, was very cold and inhumane.

@peternorthrup6274

Ай бұрын

Hire a lawyer.

There is no problem for the adult who lives in selfrespect and in accordance with him or herself. What always causes unnecessary pain are the interfering moral opinions of third parties who project their personal moral jugements on other people s unique and valid experience.

@karlmelvinpsychotherapy4700

3 жыл бұрын

This is why I encourage people to be very selective who they share their estrangement with as there are those who can only view family through the lens of their own subjective experiences/attachments.

@gillianhamilton6535

3 жыл бұрын

@@karlmelvinpsychotherapy4700 yes. However, through no indiscretion of their own, individuals may be blindsided, cripplingly at times, by judgemental moralists. In my own expérience, the positive side of this absolute gratuitous perscution is to be confronted with the kind of people who have absolutely no objectivity towards any other lived experience than their own conformity. There is so much more to life, and there always wonderful people to meet on life s journey. Best wishes.

Thank you so much for this video, this issue has been so destructive beyond measure in my life, throughout my life.

@dianneweie1484

2 жыл бұрын

Umm, did you mean “instructive”?

@IAM-bg3ml

2 жыл бұрын

Same here. You summarized so well a lifetime of heartbreak, family betrayal and abuse, and inevitable estrangement in one sentence. At 52 I’m still dealing with the loss and isolation from the community because most people have little concept of what my family (all 3 with narcissistic personality disorder, who fawn over and put on an act for others) are truly like. After giving them another chance only to have them try to completely destroy my happiness, confidence, relationships and sense of self we are estranged once more. Shocking and devastating what “family” can do.

@veronical3135

Жыл бұрын

@@IAM-bg3ml You described my situation perfectly. Hang in there friend, life can be really tough but beautiful at the same time. God bless

i think this happens to a lot of care-experienced children, social estrangement is certainly effecting me now as a consequence of that, and i never had a word for it, until now. I don't know how to get over it but every day i feel a deep sense of loss and estrangement from people around me that has never healed and i don't know what to do about it.

I appreciate all you do. It takes alot of courage to post these videos. I am in the middle of family estrangement personally amd just to know I am not alone is helpful. Thank you 🙏🏻

Thank you. I thought my dad and I had repaired our relationship and we’re on the right path when he died of this awful virus. As hard as that loss was, what was worse was the unexpected abandonment by my remaining family members five months later with no explanation. All I can tell is that they didn’t want to tell me I had been disinherited in my dad’s Will, blow three. I’m still trying to figure it all out to be honest.

@robynlayne1

2 жыл бұрын

@@dnk4559 Wow, that sounds extremely familiar! I spent my childhood protecting my little sister and somehow I’m worthless now? I wish I could begin to understand, but the abrupt way I was literally cut out off their lives left me with more questions than any “loved one” should have. I’m so sorry you experienced this too, but I’m very grateful you are brave enough to open up about it and appreciative that you replied to me! It means the world to me because, as you know, no one else can relate 💔❤️🙏🏼. I hope you’re doing well my friend.

@dnk4559

2 жыл бұрын

@@robynlayne1 thank you! I understand how isolating it can be. Apparently it’s very common in dysfunctional families for this to happen. I’m sorry you have also been through this but at least we have awareness and I can grieve, heal and move on in a positive way. I have broken the cycle of generational trauma while my siblings will likely continue to pass to down to the next generation.

@robynlayne1

2 жыл бұрын

@@dnk4559 I’m so glad to hear that. It’s not at all easy and it’s huge that you’ve been able to overcome and move forward in a positive way. I haven’t been quite as lucky. I’ve been knocked down and have gotten back up more times than I can count, but it’s all piling up this time and this world isn’t making it easy for anyone, particularly those of us trying to make it on our own 💔. Thanks again for your kind words and I wish you the very best!

@dnk4559

2 жыл бұрын

@@robynlayne1 I’m in my fifties and it’s definitely been a journey. Not easy but we’ll worth it. I think being the family scapegoat helped me to be willing to look at myself and get therapy and help in Al-Anon. It’s been work but well worth it and I truly have a new “chosen family” of people who have been there and understand the dynamics. Having support has been crucial. I pray you have lots of good supportive people around you if not yet, in the near future. It’s so healing to have people see you for who you are a not a negative projection of who your family of origin says you are. They are in pain and not willing to deal with it. It’s not personal even when it very much feels that way. I still have bad days but more good days than ever.

@robynlayne1

2 жыл бұрын

@@dnk4559 thank you again. I just feel completely hopeless at this point because I don’t have any support at 45 divorced never able to have children. I left everything and moved “back home” 10 years ago to be closer to them and ironically I’m the only one who still lives here anymore, and I don’t have the support system I should. I also didn’t realize I was going to lose my entire family and job in a couple months. Unfortunately the pandemic, my industry and the local job market has really knocked me down and it’s particularly hard without any type of support. It’s been a year and a half now and I wish I could say it’s gotten better. I know I need therapy but I can’t afford rent so that’s not an option. It’s been nice to chat with you, until now I was sure I was completely alone ❤️❤️❤️. Take care and thanks again for the advice 🙏🏼.

"We do have a RIGHT to move forward with our lives."

so true, it took me a long time but I healed myself and I am happy again, there is life after estrangement! Get out there, try new things, meet new people, find a new network! I never thought I would be happy again, that I would laugh to I cry and that I would find the love of my life because of the similarities in our family history, so grateful!

This is so important and thank you. I've been on this journey of alienation for 6 months now. My son is 15 and use to have him half time as a co-parent. This pain has been unimaginable as you explain. Been trying to focus on self love to keep the horrible thoughts and emotions at bay to get through my waiting period. I want to share with all of you one thing that has helped me immensely, hour by hour. When I have feelings of fear and loss, and gravitate towards behavior that is in not healthy for me, I start to intensely focus on that love that is so strong in my heart I have for my son. This is the strongest and purest love we will ever know. I ask myself, "do I want my son to be thinking these thoughts? "Would I want my son to be leaning on unhealthy behaviors that lead to self abuse?" Tap into the love you have sown and turn this to yourself. This is like a battery that has unlimited power. This helps me all day long and strengthens my love for my son as well as myself. I believe learning self love is the most powerful tool we can use for healing. I hope you all try this, It has helped so much.

Hi, Karl. I really appreciate your making these videos. I really tried to work things out with my mom, but she made it clear that she wasn't interested in changing, nor was she interested in doing anything to repair our relationship, aside from a fauxpology of, "I'm sorry you feel that way." I spent much time agonizing over leaving her and the rest of the family and went back and forth...until I realized that I was sacrificing my soul for her. And the price just wasn't worth it. It's just over two years later and I still feel so much grief over saying goodbye to her, and consequently the rest of my family. I really appreciate your stressing that it's important to find meaning and purpose, in this process, and to create something positive and productive out of it. I ultimately did it so I could heal, physically, emotionally, mentally, and financially. It's been really hard and really slow, at times, but it does help to be reminded that I did this for a reason. I'm sorry that you've lived through estrangement, yourself, but I so appreciate that you are sharing from that perspective of true understanding and compassion. Many blessings! - Claire Amber

This is exactly what I needed to hear today. The legacy of true narcissistic parents is unbelievably hard, it ripples throughout the whole family, and whether we leave physically or have to do the harder task of staying involved and individuating all the same, it's just an incredibly painful painful journey. And I really needed to hear these words that validate what independence actually looks like and that it's ok to be that way. Thank you so much from NZ. I'm definitely saving this one to come back to in hard times when I need a pickmeup

What a blessing this was to me - and in that beautiful Irish lilt I miss so much! 🙏 ☘️

I’m not fully estranged from my nana yet, but we’re sure getting there. It seems like right when I turned 20 she stopped caring about me, but continues to maintain a good relationship with my twin brother. It’s hard…

@Ikaros23

Жыл бұрын

If there is neglect/abuse involved you can be sure that this " good relationship" is most likely superficial ( just a facade/front) Narcissists don`t have good relationships they only have " subjects/servants".

So much pain...so many family members lost

@simplysusan.4880

5 ай бұрын

But I must say. Separation is bliss compared to the daily abuse.

I started living after walking away from my one remaining sibling once my narcissist parents were both gone. However, I grieved that relationship loss for three years. That was my closure. I still feel free and relieved.

Thank you for encouraginging us to find purpose in our lives. Done With the Crying by Sheri McGregor is a book which helped me. Learning about narcissistic abuse answered all my questions and Dr Les Carter teaches better ways of managing ourselves if you've been abused this way. Courage and strength to all grieving the loss of their loved children. The Reconnection Club is a helpful podcast too. Some estrangement can be healed and our responses or reactions to our children's hurtful behaviour makes a difference. We can learn better ways of managing ourselves ...like not being defensive.

@bridgetsieger2261

5 ай бұрын

Ty for the book advice

I have to do it because I’m rejected for life…not because I want to

Not spoken to my daugther or son in 11yrs I'm not allowed to see any of my grandchildren becauce I will not let them rule me or tell me what to do. The pain not seeing or hearing from them is unbearable after all these years. Every day I of my life thinking of them and I missing them. Not easy some days but life does go on

Its an odd thing that when we create memories with people we once were so close with, become memories. Like a tree ring, it marks a period of history and then goes on from there. Its so painful to be left in the dark. ❤

@SlotRocker

5 ай бұрын

Amen! How I feel exactly. Hard to wrap my head around.

How on earth did you manage to time this so well, so that every topic fits into exactly 1 minute on the timeline! Amazing and very fun. Anyway, back onto why I am hereI have found this video this morning as I have an upcoming meeting with my counsellor and I am going to bring a piece to him about family estrangement. I am in the early phases of coming to terms with estranging from my origin family. We have been as good as estranged for nearly two years, though it's only now that I feel commmited to working on, as you allude to 'commiting to challenging the negative memories and beliefs that have been absorbed over the years'. The ones that are steadfast, as they almost are by nature in these circumstances. This has been a great place start and youve given such a great overview of the processes that are involved when on the precipice of starting meaningful work on self and understanding the meaning of the estrangement. Many, many thanks for taking the time to do this.

I just tried getting closesure with my narc sister and her selfish narc husband. I ended up getting so hurt as they refused to apologize for the many years of pain they've caused me; they ruined my reputation, stole my friends, lied about me to turn the few dearest people that I have against me and forbade me to ever meet their children. Her narc husband plays "big, brave, manly man" by "protecting" my sister and their children from me (I'm an alone single mom of two special needs children),but then he mistreats my sister and their kids and deprives them of their needs. He is disgusting and a through bred jerk.

Thankyou for your words. :)

I have been estranged from my father's side of the family for several decades. There are several reasons for this. Some hated me, becase I am gay. Others cut off contact, because I followed my late father's wishes for a cremation instead of a Catholic funeral when he died, although they were aware of my father's wishes. Recently I have been contacted by cousins on that side of the family. While there is no hostility, there is no sense of closeness on my part either. I would not have recognized them on the street had I passed them there, walking in opposite directions. Will I ever meet these cousins again? I don't know. I have moved on with my life a long time ago, so I don't really dwell on it either.

Thanks for the video💕

Thank you so much!

I am okay; 62 and srill surviving...how are you?

But honestly Simba , baby Lion boy in the movie spoke the wisdom of reality. It’s called THE CIRCLE OF LIFE. As a human young til age of 12, age of reason, you’re growing. Your parents/elders support and love and teach you. But when you’re an adult, you put away childish things. Now it’s your turn to be the earthly host of your children. And like you did, your parents did, your kids will leave to live their own lives. Circle of life.

❤❤❤thanks for advice

Thank you

My family is narcissistic but most of them claim to be Christians. I pray for them but do not have a lot of hope that they will ever change. My mother set the standard for this mess by being estranged from her father and brother. So they don't seem to see any problem with it. I've decided to find good friends I can trust instead.

@Nokss87

3 жыл бұрын

That's the only way. ❤️

@veronical3135

Жыл бұрын

Their mouth says they’re christian, they’re hearts says otherwise. My family is the same, fake and cold all the way.

Creating new Connections is imperative...

Thanks

Age 45 estranged from a family of 12 for no reason after 15 years the finial nail in the coffin was my parents sold the family home across the road from my home last week now I have to look at it everyday for the rest of my life with strangers living in it I begged them not to sell it but they didn’t give a shit as I’m like an invisible child and so are my kids compared to the other siblings and there kids my heart is completely broken can’t eat can’t sleep constant heart pain over being broken how do you move on from the pain with a family that don’t care about you when we where all so close as youngsters 🙏

@bookbeing

10 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry for your pain.🫂😿

I don't want to be totally estranged. We're not talking anymore for good reason but I think there has been a shift in me, I accept it. It no longer hurts as much as it did. So I want to press reset and commence some sort of formal guarded civil relationship.

I wish i was healthy enough to mive on. I have to deal with constant insults frim older son to do anything for me...its too much pain for me. Two years and theyve destroyed me to everyone, used granddaughter as a weapon, so many lies...i dont know who my sons are anymore and their wives...they all behave as children but theyve killed me. I hope they learn from my death to look at their lives but i dint even like them anymore, im numb

My son said “ I don’t want to speak to you again”. So hurtful and it’s like living grief. My father came from Dublin and the same happened with his sisters. So sad.

What happens if you don't have support thanks,

@gloriadenning3860

28 күн бұрын

Good question that applies to me😢

I was estranged from my son because of his addiction issues and lost him to an overdose. Also estranged from my mom, dad, brother and sister because of abuse from my parents. My mother ruined my relationship with my siblings with a smear campaign.

My daughter and son in law treat me with disrespect. I have helped them. I have to take my daughter’s lashing out without knowing where it comes from.

@anitavirginillo

3 жыл бұрын

The same was true with my son and his wife. The worst pain ever.

@ddhqj2023

3 жыл бұрын

@@anitavirginillo There are many of us older parents whose adult children have kicked to the curb. Our 'club' seems to be growing larger every day.

@anitavirginillo

3 жыл бұрын

@@ddhqj2023 we need to form a FB group

@ddhqj2023

3 жыл бұрын

@@anitavirginillo I think that would be so helpful for so many parents. The one problem on KZread is that the comments regularly get invaded by 'the kids who've left' and they just can't get it through their heads that not every parent abuses or neglects their kids. I've commented a few times on these kinds of things and I've been called every awful thing you can think of when the truth is, I was a mom who wanted her babies deeply, was there for them both always, supportive, cheerleader for their efforts....doesn't matter, 'I abused them so they were smart to leave' is unfailingly the response. I'll bet you've had your share of that sort of thing too. Seems like everyone wants to blame mom and dad for everything.

@billyb4790

Жыл бұрын

@@ddhqj2023 you have to understand that they blamed themselves their entire lives for abuse they suffered and when they realize it wasn't their fault, well, there's a huge lashing out. Sorry, I can imagine it's painful to be falsely accused of something, only to have everyone else tell you you're wrong. I think there are FB groups that have clear boundaries like (parental "bashing" won't be tolerated here.)

My brother and sil broke up with me a few years ago and I’m just now starting to feel better.

You've drawn on your own experiences? Does that mean that you've estranged from your own parents/family? Interesting.

My father has estranged my siblings and I for 10 years plus. And I'm in pain cause I still needed his support for college. Why would he leave without looking back till date

I haven’t spoken or seen anyone from my family in 3 years

@monikavarro2020

3 жыл бұрын

@Luke Smith You're definitely not alone.

@Anonymous-ji4sb

3 жыл бұрын

It’s been 20 years for me.

@anitavirginillo

3 жыл бұрын

It's been 9 months for me and I haven't regretted my decision once.

@pleasesayhi4009

2 жыл бұрын

Almost six months. I should have done it a long time ago, but I have amnesia and didn't know until recently what they did.

@ItsBriiiiii

Жыл бұрын

I forgot how long, now thinking back it was 2014. For me, things got better but it takes a while. Not having christmas and other cards/letters show up really helps, too. Those ugly reminders do set off alarms. Eventually you'll get to a more comfortable place when it's time.

2years ago my adult daughter mentioned we are seeing too much of each other (once a week for dinner) and wants us to meet every few months, last week she told me she wants to be alone and wants no contact, she will contact me when shes ready. I know she wont. we used to be sooo close (im a single mum) but when I ask her what happened between us, she just shrugs her shoulders and says nothing. This is killing me, i feel ive aged 10-15 years and depresion has taken over me. So lonely. Ive no other family. just dont know what to do

@cromartiep

4 ай бұрын

My heart aches reading your story. I can’t help but wonder that you can have a new and even closer relationship with your daughter once you focus on building a life without her. I know that sounds strange but I wonder if the weight of her being your everything was just too much for her to bare. Show her that you can be a whole person without her and you will feel better about yourself gland she will have the desire to be a part of your life. Read and look at self love videos, tapes, seminars etc. Delve into hobbies and find like minded social groups to be a part of. Even if you have to pretend you are acting the part of a person that can have a full life without your daughter being there everyday you may find that it’s no longer an act and you’ll see that you are enough for you. This will not be easy. It wouldn’t it be worth it?? I will keep you in my thoughts and pray for a reconciliation that brings you both a happy balance.

I initiated the estrangement. Got my own. Sanity and health. So why do i get these random crying spells and from out of the blur even during happy times.. i must be crazy.

@katherineg9396

5 ай бұрын

You are not crazy. Whatever it was, you had good reasons: to get your sanity and health. You deserve those. Would it help to talk to a counselor? I wish you happiness and peace.

@rosiemcking72

4 ай бұрын

It sounds like grief dear one... seek counselling as a self care essential.

I feel great about leaving my dads family but terrible about my oldest daughter ELIZABETH.

Oh hell it is all my fault - but my daughter of 30 now? has been estranged 8 years as of Feb 10, 2014. She even threatened to call the police. Her boyfriend aided. She changed her full name. She lives in Sweden.

Pls help me

Please speak more slowly and use a microphone. It would help a lot for those of us who do not have the best hearing.

Please buy a mic. We can barely hear you.

Damned, this guys talks too fast without pausing....It just sounds like endless rambling.

@SusanaXpeace2u

7 ай бұрын

I understand perfectly.

@user-pp4ve6qo1b

5 ай бұрын

@@SusanaXpeace2u Well aren't YOU wonderful!

You are very difficult to understand. Take a breath now and then. I quit trying to make out what the heck you’re saying.

@alangallagher4040

2 жыл бұрын

You are incredibly rude

@dnk4559

2 жыл бұрын

You can slow down the tempo of his voice in your KZread settings to make it easier to understand. He speaks rapidly and with the accent it can be hard to understand. Slowing down the playback speed helps immensely. He has so many good things to say, I didn’t want to miss it.

@SusanaXpeace2u

7 ай бұрын

If English is your first language I don't know you find it hard to understand

Thank you