Should You Leave Estranged Child $1.00? 💰
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Sometimes, despite efforts by parents to keep the family relationships strong, parents make a decision to exclude a child from their estate. Many parents wonder whether it would be "better" to leave the estranged child $1.00, in order to avoid some adversarial estate contest.
By leaving a child a token bequest, you're likely including that estranged child in your probate, which can make matters worse for your other family members.
It may make more sense simply to leave your estate to whoever you want to leave it to, either without mentioning the estranged child, or by stating that you are intentionally excluding the estranged child.
Any discussion regarding a parent excluding a child should take the forced heirship laws into account.
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I had a rich aunt who constantly manipulated her grown children by threatening to cut them out of the will. I was glad my dad didn’t have a lot of money! He was very supporting and loving. I would rather have that than any amount of money.
@brettogata4410
3 жыл бұрын
Sounds like we have the same aunt!
@joeespo177
3 жыл бұрын
Having money and being loving are not mutually exclusive
@shelleygreyrealtor
3 жыл бұрын
Not all people that have money are unkind or manipulative.
@fc-pl9kr
3 жыл бұрын
Can't be manipulated if you aren't moved by the money.
@annahgibbus8
3 жыл бұрын
@@fc-pl9kr Exactly! I can't fathom the mind that is manipulated by greed? They can keep that money. The person with all the money threatening not to leave it to the other party waiting to receive it is less greedy, and more wise. It's theirs they worked for it, they know their greedy relative wants it & just waiting for them to kick off, so they hold it over them, because they can. Slick ass move LoL 🤣 More often than not stupid people don't reach wealthyness, and if they do they lose it fast.
My mother and I struggled to like each other but before she needed to go into a home after a stroke I shopped, took her to appointments and dropped in to see her. She left my brothers money, who lived too far away to be of much help but left me nothing. Sometimes leaving nothing is beyond unkind. I always knew she didn’t like me but that was the final slap in the face. Not all estrangement is how it’s told.
@rhondakendrick2563
3 жыл бұрын
GO WITH GOD WISH U THE BEST I
@lynettebrinkman606
3 жыл бұрын
At least you have the peace of mind of knowing you did the right thing. Some people in our world are just cruel.
@sabinadonofrio8863
3 жыл бұрын
I was out of will until dad read a letter for me from the IRS. He added me back on. Weird, he thought I was wealthy. I Took care of mom untill it almost killed me, I was so exhausted. Her son took all the money and had her euthanized. I had to go to court for my fair share out of five, from half of what was left. It didn't go far, still fixing the crappy fixer upper I was able to buy five years ago. While they are all millionaires, I live below poverty on disability in only half of the house that's repaired. I'm still blessed, I'm safe, I don't have to be around any of them. Grateful, The house keeps me busy and not go nuts staying home 🏡 in this pandemic. Mom never liked me either. It was hard, but just like we can't pick our parents, I always understood that they can't pick their kids either. Women can't always choose when to get pregnant. 59% of this overpopulated planet are accidents. Go figure. victims of abuse, violence and orphans in 3rd world countries have it the absolute worst. Sadly. Take care
@greenweek9327
3 жыл бұрын
@@rhondakendrick2563 ❤️🌺
@greenweek9327
3 жыл бұрын
@@lynettebrinkman606 ❤️🌸
My mother left me ten dollars so i told my brother to take it and have a drink on me because he put up with her bs all those years. He earned it!
@patrickprendergast9589
Жыл бұрын
wow
@nanipanini
9 ай бұрын
hah. haha
@MDD-ut8wo
4 ай бұрын
She did it for good reason I’m sure.
@MK-cc5ve
2 ай бұрын
@@MDD-ut8woI’m sure her good reason was she didn’t love her child.
My father got $1 from his father. My father smiled and said it was worth more than his father. My father transferred ownership of his home and assents to me, thus avoiding probate all together. I cared for him and my mother to the end of their lives and made sure they were comfortable and had all they needed to have a quality last few years of life.
@happity
2 жыл бұрын
So, in other words, you manipulated your siblings out? Jacka$$.
@slimytoad1447
Жыл бұрын
That's a very good way to live your life
@mynameisnobody3931
Жыл бұрын
What did he mean that the the million was worth more than his father? That it was wirth more than the relationship they had?
@mjremy2605
Жыл бұрын
How sad for your father. That is so mean spirited. I'm glad you are friends with your father. What a joy that is. Thank you for being a kind caregiver.
@generalvictoriouskilljoy8146
10 ай бұрын
Thank you for this. Blessings to you :)
It’s not always the child that causes the estrangement.
@minxella12
3 жыл бұрын
Mommy and Daddy aren't always the pricks either!
@ondine45
3 жыл бұрын
TRUE. What a shitty thing to do to a child!
@Keep-on-ok
3 жыл бұрын
You cannot pick your parents either.
@helenhood5161
3 жыл бұрын
No but when parents r continued to be disrespected then yes it's the parents "fault" because eventually they get Jack of the attitude.....
@madambutterfly7513
3 жыл бұрын
@@Keep-on-ok Anymore than we can pick our kids!
My father left $1.00 to myself, my sister, and all eight of his grandchildren. My brother got the house and all the money. I was not at all surprised as one of my elderly father's favorite activities was figuring out how to stick it to people from his grave. He was an evil person and all I felt when he died was utter RELIEF that he could never hurt anyone ever again. In solidarity with my sister, I set fire to my $1.00 inheritance check. Seemed fitting under the circumstances!
@deangelothompson67
Жыл бұрын
Well then u got what u was supposed to why are u crying
@goldenviolet
Жыл бұрын
Just to deal with all of that anger , in these families ; it takes it's tole. I have experienced a situation like his, and angry people are nasty. It just breaks your heart. But it happens very often.
@jaydoe2920
Жыл бұрын
What is it with people? A person works and acquires something how is it that you can think you are untitled to anything? And if you don’t care enough to be in that person’s life, then why when the die do you feel or think because that is your parent you are owed anything? You are not. That is insane to think otherwise. When you decide to not have anything to do with your parents why would you think when they die you would get there any money and or their material things?
@Twinzma
Жыл бұрын
@@jaydoe2920 My estranged sister (wealthy), has not communicated with my folks or myself for over 11 yrs. Cries to one of my adult sons that she and her nasty hubby are remorseful, but still hasn’t called to at least apologize. My folks left an open door for discussions, but she’s all bark, and a coward with face to face confrontations. Btw, we’re all seriously clueless as to her behavior. 7 yrs ago, my folks made their living trust, without any reference to her or her family. She kept their precious grandkids from them. Mom got breast cancer (fine now), and never a card. My father passed away unexpectedly on June 1st., without hearing his daughter’s voice in those 11 yrs, but my mom split kindly his ashes three ways, yet she didn’t show up for his small memorial, telling my son she was afraid of me 🤷🏻♀️ (confrontation coward). I never would hurt my mom with added grief by starting anything. Sister ended up having her (drama/victim) own memorial spreading my dad’s ashes out in the ocean with her friends that I assume she’s lied to about us. She has no idea about the will, or that we’re going to move my mom here. Knowing her, she’ll try putting it into probate when my mom’s gone. Surprise 😊
@realhealing7802
Жыл бұрын
There are reasons a child decides to go no contact.
My father used his estate of three million dollars to punish my brother and his children , and me to a lesser extent. My brother and his children got nothing and I got one ninth of the estate and my two children got another ninth each with half going to my sister. Fortunately we were tight knit siblings and divided the estate so that each of our families got a third. All my father succeeded in doing was to bring us closer and making my brother and I have only negative thoughts about my father.
@bekind2047
10 ай бұрын
This is very impressive to me. You are wise people. You handled it how it should be handled in the first place - congratulations!
@mileakin2689
10 ай бұрын
I was the executor of my father’s estate, all of the kids got an equal share and I broke down all the expenses and what was left over in a sheet that each family member got to make sure everyone was happy, now when my mother dies that will probably be overseen by my sister but as we are all very close I am absolutely sure that everyone will get an equal share and I don’t believe there will be any problems.
@moodiblues2
10 ай бұрын
@@mileakin2689 I am a retired Judge and I wrote my parents first will (under duress). However that will divided my parents estate equally among the siblings. My father would have been better off to have kept that will.
@roundtwo3321
9 ай бұрын
Was you sister, who received the $1.5 million, ever SAed by your father?
@moodiblues2
9 ай бұрын
@@roundtwo3321 Are you just some sort of a creep?
I learned quickly as a child that my unloving mother used money to control others. I valued integrity and freedom more than money, and vowed never to be dependent on her or anyone else. I escaped her orbit decades ago but my brother, now 60, never did. I pity him and count my blessings.
@SilverPonyKat
2 жыл бұрын
Same! My dad was a tool and my brother now carries the torch. Not being caught up in all their drama and garbage behavior is priceless and peaceful. I just hope they both get everything they truly deserve, good, bad or otherwise. Not saying I'm perfect or anything, I'm just not letting them tarnish my dented halo. Lol
@witatter1
2 жыл бұрын
Same here. My mother died about 12 years ago. I did not and will not mourn her. She was a mean person who made my life hell.
@brianfuller4071
2 жыл бұрын
My mother was similar, but without the "using money to control people" part!! Though my parents are not "loaded" by any means they both worked two, three or sometimes four jobs at a time, and saved almost every cent they could for "some day"!! And so often some day never came!! In my case my parents dumped all their money on my baby brother. Typically they never did many things for me, and would often tell me "You made your bed now lay in it" which was their outlook on me most of the time!! And generally around my house I was constantly blamed for everything, even most of the things I never actually DID to start with!! And I was often punished for it too!! Jokingly I say "My brother could rob a bank, and burn down a children's hospital, and still be considered their "perfect child"!", but that isn't too far from how things actually worked inside my family!! And me I was often told that I was "too stupid" or "crazy" because my logic and reasoning often ground up against what they believed to be "normal"!! And in many ways it is still like this to this day.....and I am soon going to turn 58 years old as my brother is 54, and still leeching off our parents!!
@tmnelson2332
2 жыл бұрын
I can definitely relate to that situation. My mother was throwing that if I any of a list full she would threaten to take me out of Will, at age 12, by 13, she was threatening to leave it to the nextdoor neighbor's dog. Already I had shut up from calling me an S.O.B!? Which was the only time I would verbally agree Yes Mame, I Am!!! By 15 stil mot caring to be controlled, I shut her up even quicker by responding that This is no law in this country Where A Self Proclaimed _itch! Does't have a right to Will anything to Real _itch! And; walked away. She'd then Go To Your Room!!! I 'd respond already half there, but Thanks For You Usless Reminder.
@gracieb.3054
Жыл бұрын
@@brianfuller4071 Sounds like a typical narcissistic family structure to me. Your brother is the golden child and you, the scapegoat. People should look into this who have had these problems.
I lost my husband to early-onset Alzheimer’s we have 3 children. Two years after my husband died my youngest child a daughter died suddenly of Asthma. My remaining children a daughter & a son want me to leave everything I have to my late daughter’s two sons. Their father died when they were very young and when their Mom died I finished raising them. They are so close with their aunt & uncle. I am blessed to have such caring children who put their nephews first in their lives.
@Melody-285
3 жыл бұрын
That is a wonderful story & your children are to be commended - you raised them well, Mama !
@Booboonancy
3 жыл бұрын
Wow, that is touching. You raised them right.
@Hope-Truth-Light
3 жыл бұрын
R.I.P. sorry for your loss
@bxxmb80
2 жыл бұрын
That is some lovely kids you have... But I would still split it 4 ways and your grown up children can choose who to give to, after all your chikdren may have kids of their own in the future.....
@lindah.1104
2 жыл бұрын
@@bxxmb80 but the adult children’s children will hopefully have their parents well into their adulthood.
My mother was recently hemming and hawing about getting hearing aids because they were "too expensive". Once I got to the truth, she was more concerned about leaving money for my sister and me. I told her to buy whatever she needed and wanted and to not worry about us because I'd rather she live her life and spend her money on herself.
@jennar3319
3 жыл бұрын
My grandparents have wealth. We always tell them spend it all leave a nickel in your account lol. They have disinherited my mother. She was and is a toxic individual that has always caused drama. I love her because she’s my mom but yeah the toxic level is high with her.
@quantumtechcrypto7080
3 жыл бұрын
It’s narcissistic behavior toxic is being to kind.
@updownstate
3 жыл бұрын
@@quantumtechcrypto7080 What? Explain pls.
@BigDaddyJinx
2 жыл бұрын
I had a similar talk with my Mom. I told her that if her kids haven't sorted out their own lives by the time she passes, then leaving us money won't change that so spend what you can while you can. As long as there's enough aside for the funeral expenses then we're golden. I also remarked that she may as well leave everything lock stock and barrel to my brother so there's nothing to fight about. Trying to split it would only lead to a "You have six more Cheerio's than I do!" moment that I'd rather avoid.
@rhoonah5849
2 жыл бұрын
@@quantumtechcrypto7080 Huh? What are you talking about?
My siblings and I were that mythical perfect family you wanted to see. Four brothers and a sister. We all agreed with one brother being executor. Everything was divided evenly and fairly. Personal items were done by a cycle of picking one item each until all done. We cooperated. The way we did it has been used for at least four generations in my father’s family. No strife.
@coachmcguirk6297
2 жыл бұрын
Until someone becomes successful and leaves behind a fortune worth killing family over. People will literally murder their parents and siblings over inheritance when it becomes large enough.
@jillsmith1134
Жыл бұрын
Y’all are good decent people. Few left these days. God Bless you and your family for the rest of your lives. Peace be with you all.
@junc2191
Жыл бұрын
Wow smart way of dividing
@lindaaphillippi7015
Жыл бұрын
Yay for your family! Should be more like this!
@alfr1
Жыл бұрын
Just like my Wife and her siblings did.
I asked my mom to remove me from their will. I am estranged from my very abusive parents. I don't want any inheritance from them. I did not even accept the inheritance my grandmother left me because my mom tried to use it to manipulate me. The saddest part is that they don't understand, I wanted their love, not their money.
@Giannas1096
20 күн бұрын
Good for you 👍🏻 At least you didn’t still expect an inheritance after you cut off contact. Respect that.
Don't understand why children would "expect" anything from their parents. Mine owes me nothing, they are in their 80's and need lots of support. They weren't rich but they owe me nothing. They raised me the best they could, that's all I could ask for.
@charwest9449
3 жыл бұрын
When a parent has money and won't leave it though, that indicates a lack of love.
@adamnaughty
3 жыл бұрын
Asian kids gives. Money to their parents lol
@campnut6076
3 жыл бұрын
@@charwest9449 Not necessarily, I know a few that were very rebellious in their teens, caused their parents all kinds of problems, stress, behavior and money issues. They moved out, have been in several relationships and been users in those relationships making poor decisions. They have chosen not to be involved with their parents. Do you feel they actually deserve anything? I don't.
@miriamhavard7621
3 жыл бұрын
They do owe you. Children are a responsibility. Children aren't to steam-roll their parents, but parents owe children love, education, and to a certain extent, material support. Old parents are owed love, care, material support (within reason) and basic human consideration.🌺
@charwest9449
3 жыл бұрын
@@miriamhavard7621 Well said. Each has responsibilities to help each other, but I think parents moreso. A rebellious child may be just a phase, and reconciliation remains possible upon maturity, but to deliberately choose to leave nothing upon death is so cold, unkind and heartless, in effect showing no warmth for ANY memory of that child, that you just know why that child was rebellious in the first place.
My mother-in-law (a real piece of work) left my wife "$1.00 and my love" in her will. It's interesting that at least one lawyer "fired" my MIL because he got tired of writing and rewriting her will every time she got ticked off at one of her children for some real or imagined slight. At the time of the MIL's death, my wife was in the doghouse because of some triviality that I don't fully remember. Ergo, the $1.00 bequest. It may have been different if her estate had any real value, but as it was, her "I'll write you out of my will!" threats were just tragi-comic. Apparently, either the probate court wasn't too interested in ensuring that all the enumerated bequests were satisfied or the executor perjured herself because that was several decades ago, and my wife has yet to see a penny of that dollar.
This is what narcissistic parents do to their already abused, & neglected children. I expect rejection, invalidation, & discouragement from my narc mother...as that is what I have received all my life from her. Signed..." The scapegoat "
$1 just validates you were correct to be estranged.
@hiddenhand6973
Жыл бұрын
Shoot you said this way better than I did!
@TomiaMacQueen
6 ай бұрын
Or that the parents were right and they are showing their hurt.. Kids sometimes just go astray, wild lives drugs etc, it's not always the parents fault.
@nrolevol2
6 ай бұрын
Agreed. And to the parents who are blaming their child, they raised them, they created that and it's obvious their love was conditional in the first place.
@ddhqj2023
5 ай бұрын
You're quite the piece of work aren't you? So you think a kid that kicks you to the curb, doesn't want to be your friend even, withholds grandkids from family interaction deserves to be part of the family when they decide they want to cash in on that relationship? User.
@bishdizzle67
2 ай бұрын
Or it validated the adult children estranging the parent as it seems to be a trend in this generation more than any other.
I’m estranged from my parents, i expect nothing because its what I’ve always got from them.
@panama1colon814
3 жыл бұрын
Why expect from someone when they never gave you their ❤
@joselito7776
3 жыл бұрын
Preacherman, I am saddened by your comment. I wish it was otherwise for you and the countless of individuals who had similar childhoods.
@madambutterfly7513
3 жыл бұрын
You probably weren't much of a daughter either
@panama1colon814
3 жыл бұрын
@@madambutterfly7513 your lucky you were never abused.
@panama1colon814
3 жыл бұрын
Ron must have love his father up his ass at night. Don't dont play someone's hurt. If you have a relationship with your parents great. I don't expect anything from mine why are you upset about my situation.
When our Mom died, my brothers and I split everything evenly. No drama! Mom would have been proud!
@danielfronc4304
3 жыл бұрын
Boy, speaking from experience, that's definitely rare and wonderful.
@quantumtechcrypto7080
3 жыл бұрын
Rare. Some smell blood in the water.
@lehavafalkson8586
3 жыл бұрын
@@danielfronc4304 qqq
@bess8523
3 жыл бұрын
That’s how I would do it too.
@darlahouston4670
3 жыл бұрын
@@quantumtechcrypto7080 most. After finding out my parents estate was roughly short of a mil, now I’m having to fight off attempts at manipulation by my father’s remote step family now that my step mother has finally passed away.
Ha! As the “estranged child” in my own Cleaver family, I can say that leaving an adult survivor of your abuse $1 is EXACTLY the sort of thing certain parents would do.
@NycBeauty
Жыл бұрын
Joan Crawford is a good example, she left NADA.
@sinistermoon13
Жыл бұрын
Same here. Estranged daughter here, it's like you couldn't love me stick your $1 up your backside
@ellyk8834
Жыл бұрын
One last reminder that they never cared about you and you don't deserve anything. Many of us got that message from birth on.
@NycBeauty
Жыл бұрын
@@ellyk8834 SAD , but TRUE‼️
@StephieGsrEvolution
10 ай бұрын
It's so cruel, like just die and have the half decency to leave $0 ffs! No, they have to do one more nasty power trip. 😓
When you are brought up with one parent being an alcoholic and the other a narcissist…you really don’t expect much AT ANY TIME in your life! Give it to the Government, I’m mentally better off than the blackmail and always guilting us to death from a young age.
In my state leaving a person $1 in your will makes them an estate beneficiary and gives them the legal standing 1) to obtain a copy of the will and examine all provisions and 2) to challenge the validity of the will. The proper approach in my state is to write "My son Billy Smith is not a beneficiary of this will." It acknowledges their existence while REQUIRING the executor to exclude Billy from probate proceedings, denying him the legal standing to challenge.
@PieceOfSource
2 жыл бұрын
So, if a forged will explicitly lists all relatives|friends as non-beneficiaries, then said will's validity can not be challenged?
@alexatedw
2 жыл бұрын
@@PieceOfSource ha nice
@bryonslatten3147
2 жыл бұрын
@@PieceOfSource the challenger would need to prove that the will was forged.
@johnpauljones9310
2 жыл бұрын
@@PieceOfSource The authenticity of a will can be challenged by any "heirs at law" (surviving spouse, children, grandchildren, etc.). A no-contest clause in a will prevents a specific "devise/bequest" or exclusion from being challenged.
@danquaylesitsspeltpotatoe8307
2 жыл бұрын
You could always take legal action to see the will anyway! ""My son Billy Smith is not a beneficiary of this will." It acknowledges their existence while REQUIRING the executor to exclude Billy from probate proceedings, denying him the legal standing to challenge." Nope doesnt stop legal action!
My mother did this to me. I took the dollar and pinned it to the wall where I saw it everyday for several months giving the dollar too much thought. I thought of lots of things to do with it. Burn it? Tear it to pieces? Flush it down the toilet? Even thought about stuffing it in the flower holder at her grave site. However, I wrote a note explaining the dollar donation along with the dollar and left in the donation basket at the church. My mother really hated the church, why, who knows. But I’m a believer in choosing what you can live with, because you are going to have to live with what you choose.
@anitamiller1571
3 жыл бұрын
Grammamona1 I'm sorry your mother was so unkind to you. Kind of funny that you gave the dollar to the church. Your mom was as wrong to hate the church as she was to leave you a dollar. If you find Jesus, you will find true love and healing in your life. Find a really good church and you will gain a great new family too. God bless you!
@alisonb9963
2 жыл бұрын
Great idea!
@chiefswife1212
2 жыл бұрын
Sounds like your mom lived with trauma of her own, very sad:(
@balinchainly420
2 жыл бұрын
I am not a believer and I think that was good
@alphabetazeta5373
2 жыл бұрын
God bless you. Sorry you had to suffer with that.
I've just made my new will to totally write out our estranged daughter. It's taken me over 4 years to come to this decision. I've had it written into the will that she is not be be allowed into my home when I die and that she has nothing left to her as I provided for her in my lifetime when I paid off her drug debts.
Beside the point that Estranged is almost always estranged in self-defense against narcissistic abuse.
@ellyk8834
Жыл бұрын
And the leaving $1 is further evidence of the parent being a Narcissist. The old you don't deserve anything because you walked away from my 'love'. If they were loving they'd leave their wayward child their fair share regardless. And abusive parents pull the, "Well, if you're not there you really don't deserve anything." and I say sure, "But I don't deserve abuse either which is what being around my 'family' gets me so then what?"
@momof2949
Жыл бұрын
@@ellyk8834 or the child has, up until the parents death made off with thousands of dollars, car, jewelry and even pets. Has broken into home and stolen personal items. Has asked repeatedly "Where is all your money?"(specifically which bank, savings ect) . Has attempted on at least 5 different occasions, to impersonate parent (by phone) to the different banks to gain access to funds. I have been threatened so many times that I have had to move. Only my children know where I live. And they don't want HER to know where they live. The rage, violence, triangulation between family members has all taken its toll. The bridges burned. Sometimes ,just maybe, it's not the parent who is the narcissist .
@lorireed8046
Жыл бұрын
@@momof2949 Or ... I'm dealing with a step mother that has excluded my father's children. After he got dementia she made him sign over the money market account into her name. Took the money from our account and put it into another account with just her and him on it. This was an account started by my father with the oldest 2 children and himself many many years ago. She couldn't just cancel it without my brother and sister signing. Sooo she got my father to transfer it to a new account. My sister and brother were informed of the small amount left ($50) I don't know if my sister will fight but, I just walked away from them all. Being treated like "outsider's" since my father married the witch. I've tried for decades to get along. Getting along meant being belittled, hit and doing without basic needs. The $300,000 that was in that account just isn't worth my sanity.
@formerfundienowfree4235
Жыл бұрын
Estrangement is in Vogue as is the RAMPANT overuse of the term narcissist.
@ellyk8834
Жыл бұрын
@@formerfundienowfree4235 There is only rampant overuse in the term Narcissist in the minds of Narcissists. Those of us who have dealt with Narcissistic abuse knew all the behaviors but never had a word to put to it. Now we do and the message is spreading. You just outed yourself. If you don't want people knowing what you are, never say that the term is being overused/misused... Ending the cycle of abuse with Narcissists and improving mental health is what is in Vogue and Narc abusers hate it.
Dying with resentment and one final act of cruelty. I would never want to die like that. I can’t imagine how much that would hurt the grown child.
@bigbay1159
Жыл бұрын
It's not universal, some of us wouldn't be bothered because we're estranged....we cut ties for a reason...
@bekind2047
10 ай бұрын
It can hurt but for me it was astonishment in the first place. Reading his will I was so astonished that someone is able to leave this place full of resentment. I never understood him and I don’t get his self destructiveness. How can someone get there?!
@AngieME86
5 ай бұрын
I’m waiting for my mother to do that. I want nothing from her but she’d be the type to get in her last jabs even on her death bed.
Keep your money, love is all I wanted and NEVER GOT!
@reginapolo3357
3 жыл бұрын
Yeap. We can get our own money, more satisfying that way anyways. Things ahead are better than things behind
@veronikuccia911
3 жыл бұрын
👏👏
@hightonesdrifterkent6600
3 жыл бұрын
l hear you sister.
@GeraldM_inNC
3 жыл бұрын
Wow. I thought I was the only one.
@andreaanonymous5474
3 жыл бұрын
Look up narcissistic personality disorder. Your parents may have some or all of these traits and that information may help you to heal. I am sorry that your parents treated you that way. No child should have to feel that way. Ever.
You should check out the videos on scapegoats and narcissists. The kid who goes “no contact” usually has a very VERY good reason. It’s never done lightly. For example, if your mother comes right out and tells you that she never liked you and that you gave her the creeps ever since you were a child, and that her other kids, Jane and George, are her REAL children. Then the mother calls you on the phone and tells the kid what a loser she is and how nobody likes her. Note that the kid educated herself, never treated the mother with anything but respect, etc. So, going “no contact” is the only way to keep their sanity. And remember, the kid had TWO parents at one point. Being cut out of the will was just a matter of chance where narcissist mom outlives the normal dad.
@BCToby
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly. You can also make it easy as the child and ask to not be included in the will.
My parents both died at a young age due to all around unhealthy living. My mother was much younger than I am, now, when she died. She was the youngest of 5, the first one to die. Same with my father, he was the youngest of 16 children, he was the first of his siblings to die. My father died 6 years after my mother. There were many bad situations in the family. I left as soon as I could get out on my own, then, broke the cycle of child abuse. When my father died, my eldest brother wanted me to be there for the funeral & reading of the will. He was the executor & trustee of the will. He didn't know what the will said. I saw him struggle when he read that our father left me NOTHING. That the estate was to be divided between his children, excluding me. That was a shock to my 4 siblings. They had a conversation, agreed to each take a little less so that they & me would have an equal share divided between us. I'm sure it would have pissed my father off to know this.
@grisom5863
2 жыл бұрын
Isn't it good to have good siblings who will have your back no matter what.
@FreeSpirit47
2 жыл бұрын
@@grisom5863 They don't have my back most of the time. I'm very grateful to them that they did this for me.
I went from an awful homelife to an awful marriage. I had two children, one survived past adulthood. I CREATED my own family with my remaining child. He and I are close to this day and then I remarried a wonderful husband and I created a family with him, too. In life, we often have to create our own happiness.
@888bam
3 жыл бұрын
@@theraptureisnearbelieveinj7695 ha ha, that’s totally f’d up
@nemo7782
3 жыл бұрын
@@theraptureisnearbelieveinj7695 Perhaps Artsy Craftsy isn't Christian or Bible-reading? One's path is not another's path.
@theraptureisnearbelieveinj7695
3 жыл бұрын
@@nemo7782 That’s exactly my point. We ALL need to get on the path of God by reading His Word, the Bible.
@natatattful
3 жыл бұрын
Beautiful
@barbaragrace1992
3 жыл бұрын
@@theraptureisnearbelieveinj7695 translated incorrectly by humans
I always told my parents to enjoy their money and make sure there is nothing left when they die. I've seen to many people go nuts when a will isn't what's expected and relaying on "future" money is a bad attitude to begin with
@christinalesoinepapcsy2211
3 жыл бұрын
I've said that very thing! Spend it all and leave nothing behind to fight over!
@bopeep86
3 жыл бұрын
My hubby says that to his parents, who are now in their mid 80's. He talks with his dad all the time even though they are many states away. His parents have 5 kids- 2 are daughters, they are the favorites. My hubby doesn't expect anything, we already know they are giving their house to a daughter. They asked us when we came to see them and help around the house and yard if we wanted anything. Of course we didn't say much at all. But later he mentioned that it would be nice to have the picture they had on the wall for years , I've admired it as well. Hubby mom said sure take it. We couldn't because we had a car load of family, picture wouldn't fit. Oh, and they were only giving to their kids and spouses, not grandkids. 6 months later, the oldest son ( hubby is exact middle child) says that he thinks the picture should go to his oldest child because it will have more meaning to her ( grandchild) subject of the picture is a temple, and the granddaughter got married in that particular temple. Well, hubby or I said nothing about that. If they want to do that, I guess they do it. The eldest son is also the Executive of the will, so that works for the oldest. We like the picture and had meaning to us as well simply because it reminds us of them. But we are going to be the nice families, it's just stuff in the end.
@lavenderblues777
3 жыл бұрын
I agree completely. Parents shouldn't feel guilty about spending money on themselves and shouldn't be expected to be stingy with themselves in order to eave more money for their kids after they die. And children should rely on their own earnings, not sit around waiting for their parents to die so they could get their money.
@mamabear3217
3 жыл бұрын
I advised this to a client, her family was fighting over her deceased husband's money, the money was not even hers, and I told her to spend her money on herself and what makes her happy.
@tedpark6814
3 жыл бұрын
Yes, I tell my mom that. I think it gives here some peace of mind knowing that her kids are doing OK and don't need money. My parents were careful about spending money, so mom has enough after my father passed away. After reading some of the stories posted here, it makes me realize how fortunate I am to have the relationship to my mom that I do. Dad was great too, but sadly he got Alzeihmers and the last years of his life weren't so good.
People don't become 'estranged' because of positive interpersonal dynamics.
@NycBeauty
Жыл бұрын
You got that RIGHT ✅
@georgewhite3820
Жыл бұрын
Are you parent that has had this experience?,,,No I didn't think so
@zamyrabyrd
6 ай бұрын
They can become estranged by control freak spouses.
@smallpseudonym2844
2 ай бұрын
@@zamyrabyrd 90% of estrangement is enacted by the child, and 90% of that is due to narcissistic, abusive, or otherwise toxic parents.
@zamyrabyrd
2 ай бұрын
@@smallpseudonym2844 Where do you get your figures. PS, 90% + 90% is 80% more than 100%, so can't be right.
Well this explains why my Dad's lawyer told me and my brother that it was refreshing to see people who weren't fighting. Which was interesting to me because my brother and I were all but estranged from each other. I think it came down to the fact that we both had a good relationship with our Dad and we each decided with our relationship on it's last legs the decisions we made would set the pace for us going forward. We're now closer than we've ever been. Too bad my Dad never got to see it.
@KristiContemplates
Жыл бұрын
In a way, this may be the fulfillment of his last wish on Earth
@roundtwo3321
9 ай бұрын
Maybe his presence somehow caused the strife between you two.
When my father passed away things went very smoothly. When there isn't a great deal to divide, there isn't a great deal to argue about. It helps we have always loved each other, though.🌞
When my mother died I was relieved. She never wanted me. She was physically and verbally abusive. I walked on egg shells while around her. I left when I turned 18 and never looked back. I would go once a year to see her. But she do her best to put me down. I finally just called her every few months. When she died it was like I could finally breathe. My dad was the complete opposite of her. He was good to me. If not for him I would not have made it. He divorced my mother. He wanted the children but the court back in those days gave them to the mother. Even if she was poison.
@konglives4453
3 жыл бұрын
Your story sounds the same as mine Alissa. I just wish that when I turned 18 and joined the military, that I had cut off all contact. My mistake was that I kept trying for another 12 years, until I was 30. Sometimes one has to realize when they are kicking a dead horse and just throw in the towell. Relief is the only thing I felt when I found out about her death after many years of zero contact. I had already shed all the tears I was going to shed while she was still alive. I hope you are doing well these days. My life is much better now and I thank the man upstairs for that. Our mothers are now in our rear view mirrors, so keep looking forward. I wish you the best of luck.
@lisafox5444
3 жыл бұрын
Same story stay strong 🤗
@jewelleryaddict
3 жыл бұрын
Pretty much same here.
@mannarmylie4195
3 жыл бұрын
The courts remain pretty much the same.
@pepperco100
2 жыл бұрын
@Alissa Gonzales Our society puts "mothers" on a pedestal. It is taboo to speak ill of ones mother. My Mom was a monster: violent, unloving, drug addicted, greedy, and mean. The world became a better place the day she died.
Some people should never have been parents
When my father died he stated that " My biological children S & G get nothing and they know why"......well guess what....WE DIDNT KNOW WHY!!!!!!! I always knew he didn't want us, and his will solidified that for me and my sister.
@georgewhite3820
Жыл бұрын
So sorry that happened to you.
@mifnp8887
5 ай бұрын
My god, what a hateful man your father was! Good grief.
My ex father-in-law left the child from his first marriage $1.00. The first time his kids from the second marriage even met their older half-brother was when they were all summoned for the will. Fortunately, the other five siblings from the second marriage chose to do the right thing and give their half-brother two life insurance payouts. Leaving an estranged child $1.00 is a cruel, hateful thing to do, but this was 25 years ago. I hope people realize how rotten this practice really is.
@antonyandrerenaissanceart977
3 жыл бұрын
Not your place to say...we each have choice..you yours, they theirs,...whatever the reason...take your church values and bag em.
@bijou3000
3 жыл бұрын
@@antonyandrerenaissanceart977 Church values? Are you an idiot, or something? It IS my place to say. It's your place to shut up and sit down. Kthksbye
@bijou3000
3 жыл бұрын
@woodymuller No denying that, but it was evidently bad old advice that estate lawyers used to give.
@nobodyandwhatever198
2 жыл бұрын
@woodymuller I will do this because my child is an even BIGGER azzhole!
@cdnnykr
2 жыл бұрын
@@bijou3000 I understand you're probably looking at normal families with some problems, but there are some really really dirty kids (and I mean adults) out there who would do some really terrible and hurtful things to get their parents or grandparents money. I can see for legal purposes why someone would do this. You don't know what some parents go through with their rotten children. Best to just have an iron-clad will to make sure they can't cause trouble.
My mother did that to me. My brother was the executor, and offered to include me in the even split. I told him no, that this is what she wanted and the only thing I wanted was an Italian music box I bought her for her 65th birthday. I got the music both with a crisp dollar bill inside. Worked for me.
@kittycat6195
3 жыл бұрын
Your brother was very decent. Most would bit rake the high road as he tried to. At least he gave you the opportunity.👍🏼
@babyblu76
3 жыл бұрын
You had a good brother. My sister is trying to take everything away from the rest of us.mom left a will but she's fighting it.
@slcRN1971
3 жыл бұрын
Good thing that you don’t have my brother. When our dad died, my brother actually believed that because he is the only son (8 sisters) that he got the house that our mother was living in. He stated this after dad’s funeral and mom set him straight, right then! She told him that the house was left to her in the will. All the very nice tool set, gun-smith equipment, and a great gun collection, he sold quickly. One of our sisters asked for one of the many expensive tool sets, but he didn’t even consider it. All of us girls were listed for that $1.00 inheritance (which we didn’t receive).
@sabinadonofrio8863
3 жыл бұрын
Wow my siblings would never do that. Your brother at least acknowledged the wrong. Sad that you didn't take him up on the offer. I think it would have made him feel better to do the right thing. I knew my siblings were nasty I never thought they would have her euthinized. She had a tough life. Mothers don't come with directions. I always knew that
My dad's father ran off when he was little and never contributed a dime of support to help raise his son. I never met that so called "grandfather" but when I was around 5 that man died and had the audacity to leave $1.00 to his son (my dad). Dad was mailed a check for a dollar which he never cashed. I will never understand why people do hurtful things like that.
@darthbigred22
2 жыл бұрын
That's called defacing a grave time
My father did this to me😂. My brother and sister had a life insurance policy each left to them worth $20,000 , my brother got his home and jeep, my sister got his boat and RV. I GOT $1.00 because my mom divorced him when I was a yr old so I was disowned by my father and his mother. He lived in Maryland and mom in Virginia. He picked my brother and sister up every other summer and Christmas and they would stay with him in Maryland. I was never welcome there. I got nothing for Christmas, nothing for holidays or even a hug. He did pay $190 child support for 3 kids back in 1973 until I was married at the age of 16 and it stopped. He passed away in 2012. In my 40 yrs of life I spent about 2 yrs total around my father. But it's okay. I was raised by my mother and grand mother and I am not selfish and self centered like my father. In reality I guess he did me a favor. I feel I am truly a better person because he wasn't in my life. Don't get me wrong. I would loved to have had my father like my brother and sister. But I think I turned out okay without him
@dorothyfoust
Жыл бұрын
only 1 of 7 kids got an inheritance from the inlaws, husband did not care.
@cynthialopez4485
Жыл бұрын
Have you considered a DNA test? I wonder if he questioned whether or not you were his child.
@missbearlockholmes
9 ай бұрын
This is going to sound messed up, but did he suspect infidelity?
Leaving a child a dollar in your will is like a slap in the face. Why do it and cause the hurt and harm that will stay with him or her the rest of their lives. Just don't leave the child anything, but a dollar is the ultimate insult.
@stephenmack7192
3 жыл бұрын
Hello Gypsy 👏
@josephinetyree1476
3 жыл бұрын
What IF the child is the ONE who TORE the family unit apart ??? I'm NOT leaving ANYTHING to that child........Honest ...plus they have MORE $$$$ now than I do, since THEY chose NOT to have any children ....and made SURE they married into $$$$$$ !!!! Case Closed...no we don't talk.....Not AFTER ...STEALING their brothers child..who I have NOT seen in 10 yrs...
@sharoncrawford7192
2 жыл бұрын
People do things like that because they are nasty people. It's like dealing with a child.
@josefabarriosmontalvo1802
2 жыл бұрын
Leaving a dollar is just using one to hurt another. Better to turn their backs on that son/daughter sincerely for the last time and let them be free.
@SilVia-hs2kb
2 жыл бұрын
@@josephinetyree1476 You sound like a narcissistic monster.
I heard a case where a guy got divorced and his ex took the kids far away. When his son was 17 he emailed his son and said “soon we can have a life and a spend some time together.” His son emailed him back and said “I don’t need u.” Then About a year later his son emailed him again and said he got accepted to a large famous university and can I have $20,000 for tuition? The guy emailed his son back and said “You don’t need me.”
@recyclespinning9839
3 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately its neither father or childs fault. The mother did her part to turn the kid against and distant the dad .
@miriamhavard7621
3 жыл бұрын
No. ALL of them are jerks. 😊🌺 Have a nice day, all!!! 🌻
@Melody-285
3 жыл бұрын
That’s just sad - wish the dad had kept trying - obviously the child had been brainwashed by the mom
@PInk77W1
3 жыл бұрын
@@Melody-285 very true
@murraywestenskow2896
3 жыл бұрын
I guess the Dad measured the value - and cut bait.
I'm preparing to cut contact with my mom in few days. This is exactly the kind of thing she'd do, since money is the only thing that holds any meaning or value to her.
@blonde789
2 ай бұрын
Maybe she has every right to cut you off…what an ungrateful bastard you are
I’m a family scapegoat and it’s been 3 years no contact. I don’t even want any money from them anymore, it’s all toxic. Both parents were narcissist.. therapy at 47.. 3 years in. My brother is a narcissist too and the executor of the will. I won’t be invited to the funeral I don’t think. My family are evil. Love to all ❤
@nrolevol2
6 ай бұрын
It sounds like we're raised in the same home. I was also the scapegoat.
@BIGJOHNSHVAC
4 ай бұрын
I am also 3 yrs in and about to turn 50... The best thing they could do for me is leave me out of the will. I can't imagine having to interact with my sister over their estate.
@nikstar1313
4 ай бұрын
@@BIGJOHNSHVAC same!!!! Love to you ❤️
Leaving an estranged child $1: what a way to punctuate an already bad situation. The "penny tip" of estate planning.
@miriamhavard7621
3 жыл бұрын
Worse then a "penny tip". I believe you're referring to the paltry tip (l'd always heard it as the '2-cent tip', which tells wait staff, "2-cent tip for your 2-cent service"; because if you leave NO tip they'll just think you're just a cheapskate who never tips.
@bryonslatten3147
3 жыл бұрын
In my state leaving a person $1 in your will makes them an estate beneficiary and gives them the legal standing 1) to obtain a copy of the will and examine all provisions and 2) to challenge the validity of the will. The proper approach in my state is to write "My son Billy Smith is not a beneficiary of this will." It acknowledges their existence while REQUIRING the executor to exclude Billy from probate proceedings, denying him the legal standing to challenge.
@StefanStuart1
2 жыл бұрын
Thats honestly the quickest way to get your bone exumed and thrown in a river.
@Ozymandias1
2 жыл бұрын
Might as well leave them a turd in a box.
@alexatedw
2 жыл бұрын
@@bryonslatten3147 wrong
If the parents were abusive, they know why their child is estranged. If they are truly at a loss, assume the spouse is controlling them. Leaving the beloved estranged child a dollar would be unbearably cruel. Why not leave the beloved estranged child a specific amount for a specific purpose you believe will bring them joy. With a note saying you love them unconditionally and are sorry for anything you’ve done to hurt them. How will that hurt you when you’re gone?
@sonshine5038
3 жыл бұрын
I'd so love it if my Dad wrote me before he died! If he offered to get together one last time. To talk things out, to both sincerely apologize, then let it go. Then just apologize and hug each other. I'd want that more than all the money he cared so much more about. Just to hear he loved me costs nothing and means everything 🌞💞
@vickimerritt2832
2 жыл бұрын
@@sonshine5038 agree, I got that. that was enough. He died knowing he had been screwed by his first born who sucked off him his entire life, scammed him to change his will and lied to him about me and my sis. babyman brother still got it all. But I got truth and love.
@ThirteenKidsLater
2 жыл бұрын
Sometimes it’s the children who abuse the parents. I’ve seen this happen before. Elderly abuse is a thing. So are children with severe mental health issues who are dangerous to parents. This happened to my grandmother- battered by child who then stole her life savings. Her other children stepped up to the plate and provided for her the remainder of her life. Sometimes the parents have good reason for leaving someone out.
@donnafranklin7522
2 жыл бұрын
@@ThirteenKidsLater thank you it happens a lot more than people know. The are so many support groups of parents those children are just without natural feelings. They leave with no real reason. No fault of the parents. They weren't perfect but no parent is. My three children are biologically narcissistic from the fathers side. Scary stuff in this world today.
The fact that somebody wants to leave an estranged child $1 probably speaks more about why an estranged child doesn’t want to have anything to do with controlling and vindictive parents.
@jojohehe3251
2 жыл бұрын
If you have three kids and one is an asshole, while the other two are loving and supportive, then it's perfectly resonable to want to leave your estate to your kids who love you and not want the asshole kid to reduce their inheritance. It's not always the parents at fault.
@WhaleCommunicators
2 жыл бұрын
I think you put this very well into words!!! Thanks and yes I agree with you 1000 fold. My mother took her nail technician into her notary the year after my dad died and represented herself as me and signed off on my father's will giving my share $80,000 back to my mother and giving her access to the full amount of money for my dad's estate now that she had all the kids signatures - even though my signature was forged. Some people are just EVIL and someone that wants to leave a 'estranged child a $1' seems to be a vindictive piece of work and I can understand the child not having anything to do with these people anymore. Taking more abuse by toxic family members is a dead end road. GET OUT NOW!!! I left the toxic ones decades ago and I'll never go back. Happier without all their negative feedback of how they perceive me.
@nocalsteve
2 жыл бұрын
@@jojohehe3251 There's a big difference between not leaving a child an inheritance and leaving them $1. It's the difference between not leaving a tip for a restaurant server or just leaving a penny.
@jojohehe3251
2 жыл бұрын
@@nocalsteve sure, unless your intent is to exclude them altogether, and the advice you have received is that this is how to do so. If you wrongly believe that leaving them out altogether opens the door to them suing for whatever fraction applies to the number of kids you had, but leaving them $1 seals them off, then it's a formality, not a slap in the face. You're probably right about this in a lot of cases. I'm just saying it's not necessarily pettiness, every time.
@InMaTeofDeath
2 жыл бұрын
@@jojohehe3251 One problem I foresee with looking at how many kids support you vs how many don't is not every person is the same when it comes to how being raised a certain way effects them. For some kids tough love will cause them to be a superstar later in life while for a child with less fortunate traits that sort of treatment might cause them to spiral out of control perhaps even to violence. The child would have the justification to blame the parent for not understanding that one method child raising doesn't work for everyone while the parent justifies that what they did worked for the other kids so obviously that must mean it's something wrong the other kid it didn't work for.
I have an estranged child, and not much to leave, but despite being estranged, the very last message they will receive from us is what they are left in our Will. And I remember being taught in law school that what you leave your children equates to love in their eyes so be careful how we advise our clients when they come to have their Will written. I wouldnt want my last message to be that I dont love you. It will be with them for the rest of their lives.
@thenry3991
7 ай бұрын
🎯
As an estranged child to my father, I'm kind of glad he doesn't have anything to leave me. I don't wish him any ill, I just know how messy family gets after a death. It's insane the number of people that come out of the woodwork after a death. It's just sad.
@sharoncrawford7192
2 жыл бұрын
My dad didn't have much when he died. Just about 3,000 in the bank, a very small old home, and a car. I had to go through probate, and get a lawyer. State law. I had some problems with my sister. I was even falsely accused a couple of times. But I did everything by the book, and have proof where every penny went. Plus I have a lawyer. So, even if she thinks in her mind she was cheated, she can never prove it. After going through this, I would always reccommend you have a lawyer no matter what. Keep proof of everything, and never use cash but only pay checks out of an estate account. I only have one sibling, but I won't be surprised if she doesn't stay in contact after she gets her money. But I can't say I'm surprised.
@sabinadonofrio8863
2 жыл бұрын
My whole family came out of the woodwork when my daughter was killed by a drunk driver and they found out she was on my auto insurance since college. That's true PTSD for the rest of my life. No child and no family. Thank you drunk drivers for being the most selfish turds in the universe. No thanks to the turds in the family. My mother's son euthanized her and took most of the money. Yeah family. Both his parents regret him.
@campnut6076
2 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what my original post was about. When grown adult children choose not to have a relationship with one or both of their parents. In my opinion, they deserve nothing.
@SuperSarahbop
2 жыл бұрын
Estranged from My dad. I want nothing from him. That relationship was painful and full of disappointment long before I cut ties. Small things add up to a lot of stupid things I wouldn’t wish on anyone. From my experience nobody chooses estrangement lightly.
@jenshark4
Жыл бұрын
I have chosen to be estranged from my only parent, I have set my self up to not need any money from anyone ever. I consider myself, self made. My parent did very little to help get me started in the world. I am so glad I have planned over my lifetime to support myself. I had no idea in my earlier years that I would choose this path of estrangement from my parent. Because I have planned to take care of myself financially I am not expecting anything from my parent in the future. Which , Makes it easier to be estranged. The hard part is that she wants a fake relationship with me and I have no interest in a relationship with her.
My father did this left my mom too do his dirty work after the blow up I being the youngest got my dollar and take care of mom what is funny is mom never worked but at 92 she saved everything dad gave her and has a nice lil nest egg I built her a 1 bedroom cottage here in Florida on my property and she says she never been happier some time things work out God Bless
My Gma left 3 for her 6 kids everything and the other 3 a dollar. The 3 she left a dollar to actually took care of her. It was a last slap in the face to them. She was a truly mean person.
@Seatonni
5 ай бұрын
They also stole from her and lied about it 🪴
I helped my mom get a ton of money from being estranged from her father's will. Sometimes all it takes is a phone call... nobody wants to waste money on lawyers.
My grandpa gave all his money away while he was alive and his land and homes were sold also! When he died his entitled spoiled kids received nothing.
@nyotauhura7412
3 жыл бұрын
It's a bit hypocritical to complain about the results of his own parenting job.
@sharonbarton1888
3 жыл бұрын
Good man
@quantumtechcrypto7080
3 жыл бұрын
It’s always the parents fault said every entitled fool ever. Bad choices are a conspiracy for morons.
@gigiis526
2 жыл бұрын
@@nyotauhura7412 Some spoiled kids appreciate it and some spoiled kids think they deserve more. Blaming the sinful condition of children on the parents is not only ignorant but childish.
I saw this happen with an Italian friend of mine. The dollar thing will only produce rage and hard feelings, and the estate will not get done in a timely way.
@josephinetyree1476
3 жыл бұрын
Not happy you had to enter....the race....???????????? Why even say their heritage ??? THIS happens IN ALL FAMILIES........of Race, Creed, Color........ : (
@pedazodetorpedo
2 жыл бұрын
@@josephinetyree1476 Italian isn't a race it's a nationality, dumbass. It was obviously mentioned just to show that this practice happens everywhere
@mbr5270
Жыл бұрын
Then by all means do NOt estrange your parents for some nebulous ‘emotional trauma’,you think you suffered. Otherwise, you deserve nothing from parents who loved and roses you the best they cools. Poor decisions that hurt others have consequences in life. Karma is a bitch at times…
@bigbay1159
Жыл бұрын
That's not a universal truth, maybe for you and how you handle your emotions. But that's isn't everyone
Good parents don't expect anything in return when they have children. Having children was their choice, not the child's, so how it ends up is their responsibility.
@mnm1273
2 жыл бұрын
If a kid chooses to cut contact there's no reason they'd be entitled to an inheritance. A parent's duty to their child is to help and support them in childhood and through early adulthood. After that it's a human relationship, if you choose to break it don't expect free stuff.
@darthbigred22
2 жыл бұрын
@@mnm1273 LOL adult kids don't break relationships unless they have a hellspawn spouse or you're shit parents.
When my parents passed, my two brothers and I had zero problems getting the work done and sharing what was left. I know many other families like mine. Maybe if parents weren’t assholes who would leave their kid nothing, things would be much easier.
@ABaumstumpf
2 жыл бұрын
There are kids that do deserve to be left out.
I have seven children I cannot imagine being estranged from anyone of them They are all different I do my best to love each of them and make each one feel special it’s what DAD’S DO I may not always agree with their actions and decisions but I love them all UNCONDITIONALLY if I left this world and had anything to leave them I would expect them all to have an equal share
@rcre7052
3 жыл бұрын
You have something money can't buy.,...
@lindastrang6755
3 жыл бұрын
That will only happen if you leave a will.
@judylongcore5076
3 жыл бұрын
Dear, loving dad , if you want peace among your 7 children once you leave, please spell it out legally in a will or trust. Also make one responsible for medical decisions, and a different one responsible for financial decisions, if you are not able and have no spouse. How you expect them to behave, and how they behave may be two different things. A legal document spelling out your wishes will keep conflicts down after you go.
@danielmorgan4899
3 жыл бұрын
@@judylongcore5076 I agree thank you
@zwatwashdc
2 жыл бұрын
Yay, finally a normal good parent speaks up!
So many sad stories of abusive, narcissistic parents here. God love all the survivors of such horrible parents.
@madambutterfly7513
3 жыл бұрын
Yes, and so many ungrateful, narcisstic kids, it's so sad! Most kids, don't even obey or respect their parents, the bible says, Honor thy mother & father. Children feel entitled, that's poor parenting to spoil a child rotten. So, don't assume it's the parent's fault, it takes two to make a relationship built upon loyalty, respect & love
@keltaruusutravels4024
3 жыл бұрын
@@madambutterfly7513 Many narcissistic parents like to use God as a weapon to keep the children silent on their abuse. But the kids all grow up and can escape. Parents screaming for money 💰 ,making demands, phoning other relatives to attack the grown child for not submitting. A special place in hell for such horrible parents.
@americanbobtail1
3 жыл бұрын
@@madambutterfly7513 - Just admit it, you were a bad and more likely than not abusive parent that is bitter that your kids hate you. Maybe you should look in the mirror why your kids hate you so much.
@deborahdesanto2313
3 жыл бұрын
I like that, very well said!
@happity
2 жыл бұрын
Hi hi
Disowning a child is a double slap in the face. First the parents are making the child's life and childhood so horrible that it decide to cut them out of their life as an adult, and then the adult child is disowned. One example; a girl is sexually abused by her father. So when she moves out she never speaks to him again. Because she is mentally destroyed she never gets an education, never marries and never have children. Because her father ruined her life. And then she got to learn that she has been disowned. How is that fair?
@marystellarosetarot5700
Жыл бұрын
Just about every partner my mother has had has abused me and I'm estranged from her. Keep abortion legal and safe; some parents do not deserve to be parents.
@nikstar1313
Жыл бұрын
Thank you ❤😢
@Not-Ap
Жыл бұрын
It isn't in the slightest but then again life's not fair.
Estranged? That child came from my body. Nothing they could do would make me consider them estranged. If my child steps away from me to heal, grow or seek self awareness, I will grant them that space. They may some day return on their own time. I didn't work three jobs most my life to provide for them to then turn around and not do the same in death. I love my kiddos unconditionally.
@darlenebailey2127
2 жыл бұрын
you obviously do not have an estranged adult child.
@lisamaher9194
2 жыл бұрын
@@darlenebailey2127 I most certainly do, she asked for space and I gave it to her. No questions asked. She will return when she is ready.
@Giannas1096
20 күн бұрын
@@darlenebailey2127exactly what I was thinking.
There is an option that you did not consider & that is to simply give them the assets/money while you’re still here! That eliminates the probate nonsense!
@IDunnoYouTellMe2152
3 жыл бұрын
That is what I’m going to do! There wont be any fighting over anything.
@jacqdanieles
3 жыл бұрын
What happens to the residual you need to set aside to live on?
@theodorehaskins3756
3 жыл бұрын
@@jacqdanieles Well I’m not a specialist in this area, but I believe you can set up something called a living revocable trust where in you control the assets in the trust until the day you pass on! The other thing is even if you didn’t do it that way, you still maintain a certain amount of passive income to support your life expectancy & style! I mean if you got $100 million how much of that money would you need at age 65 based on your life expectancy?
@jacqdanieles
3 жыл бұрын
@@theodorehaskins3756 - but what happens to the remainder of the trust once you pass away? Don't you still have to bequeath it, thereby not really avoiding the original problem?
@theodorehaskins3756
3 жыл бұрын
@@LarryNewmanSusanNewman Well it’s an option & you don’t have to do it, particularly if you don’t trust your kids to do the right thing, but at least if you’re alive you can see how they handle themselves with money & how they will handle your final affairs & I never said you had to give them all the money!
My mother in law always says she's gonna spend all her money and not leave anything behind. I say I'm okay with that since what she likes spending her money on is taking us on vacations, which means a lot more to my husband and I than a check after she dies would.
@loraieq2412
3 жыл бұрын
Yes, this is the "legal" way to eliminate the Probate. Spend it on good times together with family.
@sharoncrawford7192
2 жыл бұрын
I hope I can leave my daughter a good inheritance? I only have one child, so at least she doesn't have to fight with a sibling over it. LOL.......
I’m leaving everything to charity. I’m beyond heartbroken with both ED’s. My husband passed away, their dad, and they’ve been a nightmare to me.
@Gemmarose9012
Жыл бұрын
We are doing the same. Every dime and all our real estate goes to charity. No rewards for abuse.
@patrickprendergast9589
Жыл бұрын
what is eds
@SomeBuddy777
Жыл бұрын
@@patrickprendergast9589 Estranged Daughters?
@jomama5186
11 ай бұрын
🧡🙏🏻
@janetpattison8474
11 ай бұрын
Kids who ignore their parents, or are bullying or abusive in any way, deserve ZERO. And parents shouldn’t have an iota of guilt about it. Try to write into awill that it’s not to be contested, by said child, and exactly why. Same with living wills regarding healthcare. If you want a DNR in certain case, and no life support, make sure u know who supports your decisions, and make it clear who can Speak for you, (called a durable power of attorney in Florida), and who cannot speak for you, or contest your living will, under any circumstances. A lawyer will be the expert, but in hospice where I worked, kids contested the parent’s wishes, & docs were afraid to follow the DNR or other wishes, so the patient’s wishes were ignored.
As a child of a narcissistic parent, I would not be surprised or care if my father left me a dollar. I wouldn't show up to claim it, I would just happily be celebrating the end of the manipulation and misery that to me feels "normal" in my relationship with my father. Didn't show up to say goodbye, didn't show up for the funeral, he was dead to me a long time ago, and my life is better for it. 👍
@RobbiePfunder
Жыл бұрын
🎉🎉💪💪💗
@Sorchia56
Жыл бұрын
With you 100%! I am pretty my egg donour is alive but I’d feel the world is a better place once she dies.
@palace927
Жыл бұрын
We had the same father, but mine use to beat my 2 brothers and I. I lost 20% of my eyesight in one eye because of the abuse. My brothers stuck around but I left 29 years ago. He died last November from Covid. I am grateful he is no longer my father.
@raymeester7883
Жыл бұрын
I won't be surprised if my father let me nothing. He always threatened it and call people including his children thieves and charlatans. I have stopped talking to him since 2012. So, if I get nothing in the will, it won't be a shock to me or anyone in the family.
That way as a narcissist you can have the last slap in the face.
@chrischris4827
3 жыл бұрын
I have a five camel bill!
My friend/ex coworker asked me to be the executor of her will, she is leaving her daughter $1 and her son the rest. To me it just seems petty because it is not like her daughter is doing drugs or anything,she just married someone my friend does not like (and they have been married over 10 years and have kids) I ended up refusing because it just seemed cruel and petty. I told her as much.
@Booboonancy
3 жыл бұрын
Good for you. It is very petty and cruel.
@MargaretAnderson-ti1sw
2 ай бұрын
There was a really sweet girl where I worked, and she fell in love with a colleague who was from another ethnicity and country. Her parents disowned her when they got married. It was so sad because she was the kindest person you could imagine.
I suffered horrific child abuse at the hands of an abusive father growing up - almost ritualistic in nature. In the end, he blamed us kids for everything that ever went wrong in his life, told me I was someone elses' son (DNA says I'm his), wrote us all out of his will, stuck a gun to his head and that, as they would say, was that...THANKS DADDY!
@NycBeauty
Жыл бұрын
WOW, Oh my goodness. So sorry.
When parents leave a child out of a will, it is often a sign of poor parenting. There are more people than one would ever imagine who use withholding inheritance as a weapon. Very often if someone is disinherited, you can bet that there is dysfunction in the family. Parents who are narcissistic and who have openly favored and selfishly manipulated their children will leave nothing to the scapegoated child to satisfy their insatiable need to control. There is a book by Christina Crawford entitled “Mommy Dearest” which is about her troubled relationship with her mother, Hollywood actress Joan Crawford. It is a dramatic story of an unstable, insecure and mentally disturbed Joan Crawford and how the relationship with her daughter Christine suffers as a result. Christina is shocked and deeply hurt when she finds out that she is the only child out of 4 who is left with nothing from her mother. The story brings to light a problem that has been largely kept private because of the associated shame and greed. Another common problem with wills that disinherit is the undue influence of siblings, or caregivers or even greedy hangers on/relatives. Dementia and diminished cognitive ability as people age can mean that parents are at risk for being tricked into changing their wills. Often, this is very difficult to prove and even more difficult and expensive to fight in a court of law. It is best, I believe, to include all children in an equal distribution of inheritances. Think of it as a “no fault” gift from a parent to children who were loved and brought into this world with no strings attached. It is a big part what people remember about their parents after they die. Doesn’t it make sense to counsel people to consider leaving assets to all of the children in equal portions and thereby creating a positive legacy to be passed down to future generations? Everybody wins.
My mothers side of the family has 'money' while my fathers side of the family is considered 'poor' or lower-class. They are divorced. I was raised by my well-to-do grandparents who were verbally and emotionally abusive as well as alcoholics. If I stood up for myself while they badmouthed my father and his family and me for having the same last name (usually happened while they were drunk) then I would be punished with more abuse and basically bullied. As an adult one day I finally had enough and told them exactly how I felt about them and their behavior towards me. Now I find myself disowned and informed that my inheritance has been taken and split up between my half sister and step brother. They wont even take my call or return a message. Fine with me. A broken and toxic home. At least my son wont have to witness any of that from that side of my family.
@Seatonni
5 ай бұрын
🪴
My mother got scammed by my younger brother. He took everything because she had dementia. My sister who is disabled got nothing. I got nothing, but there is nothing I need. My brother will burn in hell.
@ceruleanc505
3 жыл бұрын
Awful. Who's caring for your disabled sister?
My father's 2nd wife ensured that she had everything signed into her name so nobody got anything but her when he passed away. She excluded anyone from his family from any information about a funeral or a wake. She was a terrible person to have to deal with when he was alive - and used my father's death as a vehicle for revenge on anyone she felt "wronged" her.
My mother loaned my brother about Fifty Thousand dollars and she felt so guilty that I might find out that he didn't have to pay that back, she then also gave me the same amount. what we (my sister and I) did not know is that our mother gave everything else to my brother in her will. The house, the car, bank account etc. My sister received nothing from mother or from our brother. When our father died he left about 75 thousand which had my sister as the executor of his estate Our sister was so nice, she actually gave my brother is piece of the inheritance, and he still refused to give her, her share of our mother's estate, which was far more than my fathers estate. I tried to get my sister to NOT GIVE OUR BROTHER ANY OF DAD'S MONEY BUT BEING HONEST SHE WOULDN'T BUDGE AND PROCEEDED TO GIVE HIM HIS SHARE. I was so pissed I have not spoken to my brother in six years since our parents died, and I will not until he does the right thing for our sister !!! Some people, even family members are just Ass Holes where greed knows no boundaries.
I sincerely hope my father leaves me nothing. I would never take anything from him if he left it. I don't want or need his blood money. I've always been the black sheep of the family and it's worked out so well for me. My siblings still have some sort of relationship with him so if he leaves anyone anything they deserve it all just for dealing with his narcissistic personality disorder that he refuses to go to counselling for. I only kept a relationship with him as long as I absolutely had to and now I've made a family of my own. I'm in therapy trying my hardest not to repeat the same mistakes he and his father before him made. Just show up for your kids. Be present. Love your kid for who they are and don't try to force a square peg into a round hole. You'll never agree on everything but if you instill a good set of core values within them they will make you proud.
@jilljones7600
3 жыл бұрын
Did you ever try family counseling with your dad? Do you have any conflict resolution skills? Just know that going no contact may backfire... you may be on the receiving end one day. Estrangements are devastating, unless there's physical or severe emotional abuse. Also show your dad some compassion as he was probably raised the same way. No contact is not the answer.
@toolmike100
3 жыл бұрын
@@jilljones7600 You have no idea what you're talking about. Narcissism can't be cured, look it up.
@synthonaplinth5980
2 жыл бұрын
@@jilljones7600 A narcissist will never agree to family counseling as they do not think that they have to change. They are already perfect, in their own mind.
A last opportunity to be cruel. Sneer on your way out. (Since you can’t take it with you.)
@miriamhavard7621
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly. Truly GROSS!!! 🤢
@nancyechlin5806
3 жыл бұрын
Truly horrible.
I convinced my parents to give a thousand dollars to the disowned siblings … and they complained about the amount without knowing they would have gotten nothing otherwise .
Three out of five of mine and my husband's children have gone 'no contact' and, yes, it sucks, and we have talked about disinheriting them. We have decided that we are not going to do it though. We love each of them, whether or not they are in contact. They have their reasons, we presume, for going 'no contact' and, as we see it, it is between themselves and their consciences as to whether they feel their behaviour is acceptable. None of them have made the effort to explain why we deserve what, to us, is harsh treatment. We both had parents/step parents who disinherited us or who have played 'favourites' with our siblings, and we know what it feels like to be devalued in such a way. Losing a parent is hard enough, but to be left feeling you were worthless to them is even harder. Inheritances are not just about money. It is your final chance as a parent to tell your children that you love each and every one of them with all of your heart. Please do not miss the opportunity to make your goodbye a loving one.
@oldman4595
10 ай бұрын
Marian, thank you for your beautiful words. I miss my daughter and even though I haven't heard from her for years, and she has made some nasty accusations towards me, she will inherit everything her stepfather and I will leave, not just because we have no one else, but if nothing else, it puts the ball in her court. I doubt she will feel bad about it, though, and that isn't really the intention.
@bekind2047
10 ай бұрын
You are very wise - stay the course.
The parents not knowing why their child won't talk to them is a flat out lie. Don't want to admit it would be more accurate. If my parents left me a dollar, I'd go buy a coffee and it'd be the most positive thing they'd ever done for me.
@knockingonheavensdoor6102
3 жыл бұрын
You got that right!
@joyaustin6581
3 жыл бұрын
I don’t believe that. My sister is always a victim no matter how much my mother tried to help her. If the parent wants to leave $1. Kids can still split everything.
@chrisp7530
3 жыл бұрын
I love this lol. I'm 100% certain my dad knows why I don't talk with him anymore because I texted it to him before I blocked his number and waited for acknowledgment. I'm also 100% sure that he doesn't bring me up with extended family. If they ask about me it's highly likely he'll play the victim. It's just the two-faced way he is. He can't own up to his mistakes because he honestly feels like he's a God among men and can do no wrong.
@om617yota8
3 жыл бұрын
@@chrisp7530 I'm sorry to hear that, rough situation. If you're not familiar with Dr. Ramani here on YT, she's worth looking up.
@om617yota8
3 жыл бұрын
@not tellin Lots of places. Look for actual coffee, drip coffee, milk, sugar. Not a vaguely coffee sugar milkshake like Starbucks sells.
Our son and his wife have stopped communicating with us. We are still leaving him and his children the same equal portions as our daughter and her children. It's the right thing to do.
@Booboonancy
3 жыл бұрын
It is and you can leave a decent legacy.
@vickimerritt2832
2 жыл бұрын
bless you and you have blessed your children with an invaluable last lesson, that being people may not alway get along and often we do not know what each is dealing with seperately inside their lives but love is always there and never dies.
@jeffweed3947
2 жыл бұрын
so if you become physically and/or mentally dependent upon one of your children, which child is going to take care of you? Your daughter. Since she is the ONLY child who will care for you, she is the ONLY child who should inherit from you!!
@Giannas1096
20 күн бұрын
@@jeffweed3947exactly! It would be a slap in the face to the daughter if it was split. The daughter possibly has a family to take care of, a job to go to, is possibly ageing as well but has to do it all on her own with no help from the brother. This is the exact same thing that happened to me. My brother did not lift a finger for 30 years and yet he still got equal half of the inheritance. Very insulting to me, but I’m glad I was able to take care of them.
It's presumptuous to think our parents have to leave us anything estranged or not.
@jacksquatt6082
Жыл бұрын
It's also presumptuous to think that your kids are obligated take care of you in your old age.
@11binfantryfollowmeus.army95
Жыл бұрын
lol
My dad insulted his first born, me. He also watched as I was drowning in the Brazo's River as a child & did nothing. It's not about how much, it's about insulting the children. I never wanted money, I never got anything, not even personal items, they were given to an interloper.
@wandagumede4052
Жыл бұрын
I'm sorry to hear that my brother. My heart just sank.
I'm sure if they are estranged they dont want nor expect any money probably wont show up to your funeral nor care if your including them in anything. Most dont care and go off to create great lives for themselves and forgot all about the estranged parents.
@m.s.biteth1164
4 жыл бұрын
How fucking sad that makes me feel.
@hollowshi3944
4 жыл бұрын
@@m.s.biteth1164 I say heal get over in time and live your life at first its painful but anyone and anything can be replaced. Learn to love with the mistake you both made and make peace with the fact that maybe next time you get to try again better, not all is lost unless you want it to be. Just focus on you and your happiness. Money cant buy love cause its over priced.
@snowwhiterosered8571
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, I’m building my own family now in a beautiful house with a husband my parents have never even met. They won’t meet my baby. Don’t know why this popped on my feed because I stopped looking at content like this years and years ago🤔 But I don’t know how they’d manage to leave anything to me because they have no way of knowing where I live or what my new last name is.
@VanillaButtercreamFrosting
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly this.
@withheart7662
3 жыл бұрын
So not true. Sorry you dont see there could be great pain there
When I was 15, my mom asked me what I thought was going to happen to the house when she passes away. Confused, shocked, and definitely surprised, I said "I assume it's going to me...?" The same way, at the time, I assumed I'd go to college, get married, and have kids.. cuz that's just "how things go". She scoffs and assures me that absolutely none of her things will go to me. I'm the only kid in the immediate family, neither of her brothers ever had kids. I asked who it would go to then? Charity, just literally anyone other than me. Why? Just because. She just wanted to let me know how she saw me.
@mymangodfrey
2 жыл бұрын
I’m sorry you grew up in a household like that. I can relate. 💚
@queenbee3647
Жыл бұрын
Did she have a sister named Betty Lou?
@amandasunshine2
Жыл бұрын
@@queenbee3647 um.. no? Is this a reference to something?
Leaving one dollar to a child is mean, rude and unnecessary. It’s a big screw you and it’s not ok.
NO .Especially if there are other children in the family .It will just leave behind even more bitterness and dysfunction . If it were me , I would either dole out my money equally , even to estranged child , or give all my money to charity
@jelegance7415
3 жыл бұрын
You're a good person. This shylock (estate planner🤣🤣) just wants HIS $$$. He doesn't care about what's right as long as he gets paid. It's nice to see that some people as parents care about the final legacy that leave their children. 👍
@lindaeasley5606
3 жыл бұрын
@@jelegance7415 I agree 👍 Horrible advice
Luckily, no one in my family has ever had anything to inherit but debt.
If a child stays away. Trust and believe there's a good reason.
@shelleysolomon2228
3 жыл бұрын
It works both ways. Parents should not be doormats to narcissistic children
@mikelouis9389
3 жыл бұрын
@@shelleysolomon2228 Usually it's the other way around. Parents have the power.
@stoneyislandranch9783
3 жыл бұрын
There many reasons and it doesn't mean their is a "good" reason . Make parental alienation a "good reason" happens a lot..
No, leaving that amount can be seen as being insulting and intentionally hurtful, behave like an adult and a parent, it's not something you can change later, you will be gone and leaving that amount is forever, no do- overs.
I witnessed Satan’s tactics in our dysfunctional family......It was easier to walk away!
@johnfroelich8554
3 жыл бұрын
I left my 6 sicko siblings as well. Im MUCH better off without the satanists...
@daughterofthelord01
2 жыл бұрын
It's sad but this is my situation too.
@sky2urth
2 жыл бұрын
Yes…
I was brought up with the following: If I haven't made anything of myself, I probably don't deserve it. If I have made something of myself, I probably don't need it. Either way, I shouldn't count on it. This came to be when much of my grandmother's money was whittled away by nursing home fees. Remember, even parents who have every intention of leaving everything to their children won't be able to control their expenses towards the end.
@SiCrewe
2 жыл бұрын
If that's a parent''s attitude, they probably shouldn't EXPECT assistance from their children either, eh?
@gigiis526
2 жыл бұрын
@@SiCrewe So you must be the child that didnt make a life for yourself?
@SiCrewe
2 жыл бұрын
@@gigiis526 Not really sure how you arrived at that conclusion. Nobody should EXPECT an inheritance but if a parent is spiteful enough to tell their child that they don't deserve an inheritence, they probably shouldn't expect too much from that child either. Course, the reality is that very few parents are likely to act in such a spiteful manner but that doesn't mean it doesn't happen.
@bigbay1159
Жыл бұрын
@@SiCrewe You are removing context, they were being taught a lesson to not expect things as a insurance policy and solely rely on that. It makes total sense, and I find funny you thought you were being clever by trying to state a gotcha but didn't work out...
@SiCrewe
Жыл бұрын
@@bigbay1159 I find it funny that you don't see the blatant hypocrisy in any such "lesson". Any parent who is disinheriting a child is, presumably, unhappy with them in some way and intends to make the child similarly unhappy. And let's bear in mind that there may be any number of justifiable reasons why a parent might feel neglected but for a parent to disinherit a child is a singular, deliberate, wilfully spiteful, act. That isn't a "gotcha". It's simply pointing out that any parent who judges whether or not a child "deserves" an inheritance based on whether they've "made something of themselves" is a jerk.
I've always told my parents to use their money on themselves. I don't expect any of my siblings to fight over any inheritance. But I've made it clear if any of them fight over the money, then they can have it. But that they will be dead to me afterwards. I would never speak to them again. I've seen extended relatives fight over inheritance and it disgusts me to no end.
If I had estranged or irresponsible children, I'd leave to their children or put in a trust. Love them.
I'm not going to leave my children anything they only know me if they want money, haven't heard a word since Christmas.
@goofyjohn6191
3 жыл бұрын
@spookytimes if that makes you feel good
@goofyjohn6191
3 жыл бұрын
I can see your just a hate filled person that trolls looking to insult people and give invalide opinions without knowing any facts now go away and make yourself a good person
@mrsd3455
3 жыл бұрын
@@goofyjohn6191 unfortunately there are people like spooky times is talking about, most likely it’s personal. Thankfully not my worry
@goofyjohn6191
3 жыл бұрын
@@mattstone8878 no to keep up with the bills I worked out of town a lot. And because the devorce court are to one sided and I was seen only as a money source, she was awarded 40% of my gross income so her and her AP live in luxury and sometimes I had to live in my car. Add 40%+ 27% income tax and the government was basically confiscating 67% of my gross, if your a spoiled selfish brat you go where the money is. Not not going to give anymore to fuel their selfishness, nor will I reward them for abandoning me for money.
@loraieq2412
3 жыл бұрын
My siblings and I were raised in poverty thanks to our dead-beat alcoholic dad. My brothers worked hard as a result, determined their wives and children would have better. One was robbed in divorce like you. Now his boys are dead-beat dads, who likewise only visit him at holidays for the Santa Money he hands out... It's a vicious cycle.
Parents excluding a child from inheritance are just making a point of excluding that child one last time. It's most certainly not the first time they have excluded them. Even if a child has chosen to be estranged, loving parents would still include them. Parent's who are controlling will always try to use their money to further control grown children.
@anniesshenanigans3815
2 жыл бұрын
not always. what about the parent that was taken advantage of... how do you blame them for that?
@zwatwashdc
2 жыл бұрын
@@anniesshenanigans3815 parent needs to grow up and be a parent. They do not get taken advantage of by the child.
@robinluich6626
2 жыл бұрын
That's not necessarily true.
@robinluich6626
2 жыл бұрын
@@zwatwashdc I've seen parents cater to and give to ungrateful, hateful children that are verbally abusive. If my children ever treated me with such disrespect they wouldn't get a dime. I don't reward disrespectful behavior. I was a caring ,loving,respectful mother and expect respect
@carlam4986
2 жыл бұрын
@@robinluich6626 Children live what they learn. If they were raised with respect and to be considerate they would have grown to be considerate adults. I’ve met a lot of people who claim to be loving parents whose children want nothing to do with them. Let them talk a bit and you soon realize why.
I really like how you tell a story when explaining Estate Planning. You have a knack for it. 😊
"stating that you are intentionally excluding the estranged child" would be clear indication to the courts. Leaving them something leaves room to wonder if some 0's were left of the amount.
One final insult to concrete the relationship you never loved your child make sure that they hate you until they die. . There's murderers if their parents still love them in jail sure whatever your child did really pissed you off love is something that happens when a person even if they don't love you back you still love them and want the best for them as people get older they feel that their children are abusing them it happened to my grandma going senile
My Will clearly states that i make no provisions for my 2 named sons & any grandchildren born, known or unknown to me.
My father left me a ton of unpaid debts and a tangle of chaotic financial issues. I love him dearly and miss him so much. Money is not important.
im swiss, my parents are middle class. when i was a child they were concerned not to spoil me cause they grew up poor. but in the love and affection department much was missing. my mother probably had some post natal depression she never got out of. leaving me developing a avoidant personality disorder that led to me wanting to end my life at the age of 30. after this point they were eager to shower me with money. but i dont want a single cent from them. i dont even want to deal with them. i just want to be left alone, im not half as afraid of dieing alone as they are. at the end of YOUR life you will learn that your money is just accumulated time you didnt use to raise your child. and a child that wasnt raised by their parents, they dont want the parents money either.
@gigiis526
2 жыл бұрын
It isnt your parents fault that you wanted to off yourself. Your choices are your own. Dont play the victim
I got my dollar. came in a letter from a lawyer. everything was left to the eldest brother. me, my younger brother and older sister got. 1 dollar. yes, we all had a houses , were married and doing ok. the eldest brother. couldn't hold a job, never got married. , and lived with my parents until they died. there was no fighting, we all got along. i can only think mom was still taking care of her eldest son. ( who was 55 at the time of her death) i think the house should have been sold and split between the 4 of us. I WILL NEVER SPEND THAT DOLLAR.