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@virginiaplatisha460

9 ай бұрын

Love this!!!! ❤️

@RoseMoke

9 ай бұрын

Really thanks

@RoseMoke

9 ай бұрын

You welcome

I discovered that the extreme chemistry in my situation with ex husband was him being extreme fake, he mirrored me, thats what narcs do. Definitely a red flag!

Your description about yourself is soooo vivid to the women who are into the same energy level as you but would raise eyebrows or frown to those who aren't. You're giving us rational and practical truths about the scenario of today's dating and how it has evolved into as if people are always rushing to find love rather than nurturing a simple acquaintance that might blossom into a romantic relationship. I'm hooked to your videos, keep it up Jonathan. Love from the Philippines

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

Thank you 😊

@arniedurise3910

9 ай бұрын

@@JonathonAslay You're most welcome

Have you ever seen that meme that has the monkey talking to his therapist and the therapist says you saw the red flags didn't you and the monkey says I thought it was a parade. Love that.😅

Rhonda in the gym, 40 yr old men don’t want 60 plus yr old women. 🤷🏻‍♀️ They are looking for an easy booty call that may turn into a suga’ momma situation.

@anneiconex1473

9 ай бұрын

Rightttt girl @rosamoreno4794

@flowersroses4430

9 ай бұрын

Thank you 🙂

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

Most likley

@user-yo3rw5eu2n

9 ай бұрын

Unless they have mommy issues

@kenofken9458

8 ай бұрын

When I was a 30 year old guy I was into 60 plus year old women. Was I looking for an easy booty call? Damn straight. So was she, and it had nothing to do with money.

My newest relationship ended after 6 months. He began by "love bombing " me and wanted to enter into an exclusive relationship right away. Chemistry was great. Fast forward to date and I find and he breaks up stating "we are just not compatible long term." Ugh. Lesson learned. Love your videos, Jonathan. I watch you often. Thank you for all you do!

People use that term “soulmate” and twin flame to describe and romanticize relationships but your soulmate is simply someone with whom you agreed to process some issues in this lifetime. If you learn something from your barista for example, that can be a soulmate agreement even though it is temporary.

@user-yo3rw5eu2n

9 ай бұрын

I think everyone in your life serves that purpose

I trust my ability more than anything. I am happy being single. I don’t want to clean up after man again.

This relationship helped me drop my anxious attachment style so effectively that I now see and recognize all sorts of such people and situations and I don’t go there.

@user-yo3rw5eu2n

9 ай бұрын

Same! I thought I knew my worth before but now I really do

I appreciate your honesty and vulnerability. So many men are not, and in fact are not aware of their short comings, or even try to get away with destructive actions.

I am so glad i discovered you Jonathan. You make sense. I prayed for a partner submitting to the wisdom of My Creator. And yes....walking thru a stage where i am dealing with my insecurities but also seeing his trauma and how he is "dealing " with it.

I discovered you a few months back. I really glean so much from your wisdom..Thanks for being out there..

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

You are so welcome

Wow, I’ve only recently discovered your videos, and I’m totally hooked. Today’s great nugget: “Discernment before giving your heart to someone.” Such an impactful insight. I feel like I just learned a huge blind spot about myself. I’ve been out of the dating world for a long time and am dipping my feet back in the water again. I’ve never thought of crazy initial chemistry as a red flag, but looking back on past relationships you’re so right! Your content is so helpful! I’m in a healthy place now and want to stay that way. Don’t want to get derailed by some jerk. You’re helping me understand and articulate for myself what I actually want (and don’t want), and really helping me think about asking the right questions before giving too much of myself early on. Thank you for this content and keep up the great work!

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

Exactly!

My view of online dating (and I’m online currently): lots of wounded, scared, confused and unavailable people. Some want a pen pal. So silly. I met a few of these guys for coffee and it’s so glaringly obvious. If a guy says I don’t know what I want or not sure….believe them!

I fell in love with someone who was not a good fit for me. The chemistry was unbelievable! I didn't get involved with the man but enjoyed the feelings he woke up in me. The emotions for him lasted almost 5 years and I lived every minute of it!

OMG - I used the very same terminology with my guy who I recently broke up with regarding chemistry. I described us as having”off the charts chemistry”. I wish I had known it was a red flag and that we actually needed to do a “deep dive” in compatibility. You have nailed it Jonathon. I’ve learned so much from you.

Yes I love your rants even if its on replays. We all love your passion. ❤️😄

That sticking out your tongue at the end made me laugh out loud literally! LOL

I am sorry for the loss of your son ,i lost a baby girl and it is painfull ,so ❤ to you .

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

Sending you a hug 🙏

Crazy ....a man picked you up from your house? Johnathon, please encourage people to think carefully. It's so crazy dangerous to do this. Next time you'll meet a serial killer. ....this is not a point to sweep under the carpet.

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

I agree

@user-yo3rw5eu2n

9 ай бұрын

That's how it's traditionally worked though in the history of dating. Sometimes I let them, sometimes I meet up, it depends. Life in general is a risk. I'm very capable of physically defending myself, not every situation are you able to, but I'll take the risk

@openeyes46

9 ай бұрын

Isn't that feeling your in an unsafe place and untrusting in life ?

@andreawannop8670

9 ай бұрын

@@openeyes46 ...really , you should assess how you think about your security. You are being naive, in fact foolish. As Jonathan said first meetings are with a stranger, a "meet and greet". It's not a date at all. Notice the word, STRANGER. Even second, , third, forth is with a stranger. Everyone should be meeting in public places, for brief dates and well away from your home before you decide that indeed this person is worth investing some form of time in. And travelling home- alone. As for "looking after yourself", good luck with that if you actually meet someone that has set out to attack or kill a woman. This happens all the time and is increasing in the age of meeting people via online. In the past, you probably knew this person organically or through social networks, some form of prior knowledge was more likely but it was highly unwise if that was not the case. Hope you reassess how to look after yourself by more prudent behaviour and choices.

Sad to have missed the live! Already hearing some great points

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

Hope you enjoyed it!

I loved every minute of it!

Yes you need to ask question and be discerning especially with men

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

Women too

I found a deep connection with a person on the first meeting. But I need to find out a lot more before I go further.

Good advise to Rhonda. I had not thought about the way you described determining if a younger man is since or just wanting a hook up.

Yeah. My first husband, father to our two children. Love-bombed me, and I swallowed it, hook, line and sinker. My childhood with an alcoholic mother and distant father prepped me for his conditional "love." The following 24 years were a roller coaster of his need to burn things down and start over. My alcoholism (20+ years sober now) made me even more primed for his bs. Now, when one like him shows up, I can sense him before I waste a minute on him. And yeah, I know men are up for sex as soon as they like your looks. Which then kills their interest in you as soon as they get it. And, after also contacting some men after hearing and reading they "like" it when women initiate contact, and having them all disappear, I'm done with that. My photos are current, my profile is to the point and sincere; it's their move now. Meanwhile I'm out and about where I live, making face-to-face acquaintances.

How exciting to bring Colin onto your channel.

Yes it happened to me! It was so emotionally high the first two weeks! After two sexual encounters he fizzled out and stopped talking. He would still text every morning “Good morning beautiful” but that was all I got every day until I made a move! We lasted a month and a half! I still don’t know who was at fault in this, him for doing this to me or me for staying a month to long 😢

@cheekytitaable

7 ай бұрын

We must have dated the same guy. But took 3 months to catch on. Don’t feel bad. You’re free and able to move on

You look good on Bumble, Jonathon!

Boy, Jonathon this girl thought I was all "good" in these great topics, esp. the "red flag" area I didn't think it was "ask more questions" thing. Everything you touched on today is a great wake up call to rethink my positions on these Thank you so much❤

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

Right!!

Thanks Jonathon for your continual common sense and wisdom. You bet it takes time to get to know someone, in person. Through many shared experiences. Delayed gratification. Discern character disposition behavior, values, emotional matrurity lifesryle and ahared vision.

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

My pleasure

That is true Johnathon❤

Jonathon what an awsome person , father and coach you are! Smart, honest, straightforward and with so much clarity in speech! So sad that we can’ t find us greek women free men like you in our country! 😊 Invite your son to the channel pls, I have a son 27 and I am greatly interested in what he will say!!

I miss seeing your programs live. You are right about the books. People (including me) are not present. I have always hated small talk too. I have set up 2 coffee groups with intelligent women but it’s hopeless. Authentic and vulnerable yes,!

It’s taken me years to see and gradually remove myself from the brutal childhood neglect (both my parents had mental illness) It’s such a hard road but so worth it. But so very few people do it. But I am making it my life’s work as I believe if one heals then everyone heals a little bit. 😌

Thank you for your vidos i have learned so much uour great sorry sbout the loss of your son kellyn

🙌🙌🙌 Yes I am that stranger that men would be willing to have sex with and there is no age limit to these men who have an interest, anywhere from 20 + BTW I am 52 and haven't really had bad experiences with men. In general I have lived without men for 25 plus years. I am more interested in my happiness and not trying to make someone else happy. Too many people dealing with depression or mental issues the older one gets. I am all on board with you Jonathan. Coincidentally you just mentioned mental issues. I am true to myself and not in a place to compromise and so for now, the thing to do is to remain single and not pick up projects. And yet I will continue to follow you for if I am ever ready to try or open myself to a relationship.

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing 👍🏼

@mariabanholzer5960

9 ай бұрын

Tnank you! It happened to me 2 months ago! It is sooo true! Painfull to let go this man wounded, emotionally Cut from His feelings.I Saw him 3 times,Fall in Love wirh thé wounded child in him ... 73 i have to continue to Work on me!

@soniagalindo7589

9 ай бұрын

@@mariabanholzer5960 I always say, "it's all about me.' 😆🤣😂 It's a joke and at the same time somewhat true. I wish you well.

@sherriflemming3218

9 ай бұрын

Well said Sonia. We cannot fix, heal change or save anyone.

Oh yes! I have had that and yes ended in crash! I wish I knew that many years ago!

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

I hear ya

Thank you for all you give

@JonathonAslay

8 ай бұрын

Thank you for the love...

Like your new chart and you look good JOHNATHAN

That was an interesting call with Carla

We are alive Jonathon ❤

Yes, I have had that happen!

Tottaly agree!

Hi from Greece..yes i agree that common values are definetely far more important than sexual chemistry...but all the types( users etc) are so confusing and it takes time to find out what kind of person one is

A spoke in the wheel ... i love that ❤

Yes, I have had that happen. I was addicted to love.

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

I get it

Jonathon younger people have a lot of trauma because parenting has not been good due to a variety of factors.

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

Yes, but it emerges later in life

@margaretcampbell2681

8 ай бұрын

@@JonathonAslaytrue

Great topic. Thank you. ❤ yes would like to see your son with you.

Yes bring your son on. Have a single adult son and it’s interesting to hear their perspective.

Yes I have had that experience several times.

My psychiatrist says you are being generous when you say 20% are healthy.😃I always try to be honest if possible.😌

But I ended up marrying the guy because it was a karmic relationship, which was designed prior to our respective incarnations into this lifetime. I saw it coming and felt myself creating it as time moved along. This doesn’t mean we had an easy time together and on the contrary, we learned what we needed to learn.

Yes I've had that happen

Yes I’ve been in that situation

Most people don't understand compatibility and yes they think chemistry equals we will be good together. The other thing is we have similar trauma experiences and that makes us a good fit too. I have turned guys down saying we are not compatible and just because we had similar experiences does not mean we are meant to be. I have been guilty of this actually lowering my standards and thinking i should give them a chance when my gut says nope don't do it. I look around at the people I work with and some of them are not happy due to their choices. I think yea I will stay single and keep doing what i need to on myself. I am sticking to my values, interests, goals, future visions, etc. So when a guy comes along that fits really well in those areas yay! In the mean time I am going to say nope, but good luck. :) I look here and there on the dating sites. I am only on 2 for now eharmony and match. I get likes, but no one sends messages. I do but I usually don't hear back. I have to laugh because they send a like, but nada in response. lol

I've only ever had "amazing chemistry" with already married men who weren't available. In the dating sense I always say that Chemistry was a class I took in high school, not the basis for a relationship.

Of Course it takes time to get to know someone! Who would base a relationship on the chemistry alone-maybe if you are very very young and inexperienced.

Found out, by asking him what he's looking for in women. He said " he's just interested in making friends". He is gorgeous, but not for me.

You are right.... Have thought a man cared to find out he didn't. Nice until told no sexually. M

Love to virtually see your son on your live too. That would be amazing

God bless you more sir your advice has helped me with my standard online so if I haven't meet I don't take anybody serious now I understand most online dating are fantasy and still searching for soul mate..

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

awe... thank you

Thank you

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

You're welcome

You look great in your profile. I have never gone on a date online. I know that's the way these days but I really believe it's mainly for hookups and it's very unlikely I would find anyone I am attracted to. In general I have to find someone attractive outwardly and inwardly. In other words it virtually does not exist since it's a 2-way street. Of course it's all more complicated when we talk about the inward part.

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

Awe... thanks ☺️

@user-yo3rw5eu2n

9 ай бұрын

My header says no hookups lol so I nip that crap right in the bud

@soniagalindo7589

9 ай бұрын

Perfect 🤣@@user-yo3rw5eu2n

I am so sorry for offending you Jonathon❤️🌹

Jonathon, I'm laughing now because when I started dating again, my first date, the guy brought me a birthday stone ring. Well, I thought that was really sweet and I certainly accepted it without hesitation. Why would I do that? My idea is, he would not have offered it to me if he didn't want me to have it. I never saw him again but that was okay too.

Yes. I know most men will HV sex with a stranger. They say. So u r rejecting me? They say many things to make u feel guilty for having that boundary of no sex the 1st five dates

Your relationship happened so fast and was so intense even while you were at the same time downgrading long distance relationships. Fascinating.

@user-yo3rw5eu2n

9 ай бұрын

Nobody's perfect. He made it clear they'd have to be local to each other though

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

Define the word fast, by who's measurement. Exploring a relationship is better when both people are exclusive and invest regular time together. I stand by my choices and my philosophy for advice.

if you fall in love and there are some Red Flags, are you saying you should not go with the person in your heart and instead, go with another person with less red flags? You may have less issues to work out as a couple, together but, the depth of your true feelings in your heart won't be there. Why would a mild relationship on even keel be better than a true relationship from your heart?

Yes. Too good to be true. Then wasn't.

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

Yes

Johnathan, you're trying too hard.. my beautiful love presented; when i was least expecting it.. at my local well.. collecting water. Unfortunately he passed suddenly and untimely; almost 5 years ago. Recently, my next love presented; walking my blind companion (i am a health care assistant) along a boreen (grassy track) on an island.. we both (The gift) serendipitously and spontaneously visited the island.. give The Universe a chance to deliver.. "whatever is for you will not pass you" Thank you for what i have learnt from you in other deliverings 🙏🤝

For us who have been raised very conservatively it is hard.

Amen🙏

Is extreme chemistry in the very beginning a sign of some sort of underlying trauma being energetically and unconsciously recognized in the other person?

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

Good point

So if you see that person across the room very often you recognize them as one of your partners in life’s classroom, and chemistry is required to keep the lessons coming, because otherwise you’ll run the other way!!

Johnny, bro, you like shrooms my guy?!?😂

@florentinaguggenheimer6557

9 ай бұрын

If you're ever by the Grand Canyon, let's spark a fat bowl my dude 😎👽

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

🍄 yep... 👍🏼

@Diarrheagod

9 ай бұрын

@@JonathonAslayyou’re a cool dude Mr Jonathan 👍

Bring Collin on👍

Look Great

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

Thank you 😊

Question: why I received a call, I have ask twice

Rhonda, the 40 year olds are looking for fun. 😅 it's just the stage of life and they enjoy older women 😉. Karla, you're beautiful and kind, for him to simply "say" that is appropriate. A monetary gift would make me feel uncomfortable as well. Hope Collin agrees to come on air. I Love hearing the young people's perspective..They're so wise!

@alessandrajouberteix4663

9 ай бұрын

In my humble opinion: it is not about the gift is about the intention behind it. It seems to me that this was a way to engraced himself with her; meaning: “see, you can get nice gifts if you go along.” I learned myself to always ask when someone gives me a “nice” gift I feel is not appropriate: “and you are giving me this from the bottom of your heart, correct?” This way it is clear that there are no hidden agendas from either party.

@susancourtney882

9 ай бұрын

Great perspective!😊

I pick Leslie.

She should be honest at the cure

Extravagant gifts to start is a major sign of a grandiose narcissist. His reaction is exactly what is expected because the guy was slighted. He was rejected because he had ulterior motivates.

Question: How long on average should a woman wait to sleep with a man of good relationship potential?

Maybe this guy the hot seat guest dealt with is very wealthy? So the gift isn't a big deal to him. I think it's more common behavior in those circles to woo a woman in that way. Sure beats being asked to have a beer in the park like my prospects 😅

Yes being present ,so frustrating everyone is 24/7 on there phone, addicted, no connection. Though now my ex I had better conversations with him,then I have now with men, Also speaking of Red Flags, conditions like ADHD, or Autism that is not diagnosed or very common especially in middle life. I just figured out I have it, I’m functioning fine , we don’t all bounce of walls lol. So we have to be a bit more understanding and compassionate🙏

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

Exactly

Question:I’m dating a man right now, your red flag isn’t there, in fact things seem to be moving fairly slow. He wants to spend time with me, he’s very respectful, it took several dates for even a kiss, and I would like for this to move along a bit faster. I’m not talking about a proposal, but maybe some heavy petting? We’ve been dating for about a month now, and he says that he feels good when I’m with him, he once called me perfect, which I know isn’t true. but it didn’t feel like it was in a creepy or love bombing kind of way. He did introduce me to his son when the son came to visit him. He seems really interested, but am I mis-reading him? Thank you.

@user-yo3rw5eu2n

9 ай бұрын

Maybe he has E.D. so he's stalling? Or maybe another type of intimacy issue

@openeyes46

9 ай бұрын

It's a good sign you met his son , he might be carefull in moving forward because of previous bust relationschips ,i say talk about it if you feel comfy enough if his holding back isn't a deal breaker for you .

It might be interesting to view your relationship with Marie, through the karmic lens.

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

Yes, so much growth, healing, and love. The best kind of karma...

🤙

👍👍👍 x

Jonathon, sometimes I find you funny, but informative. Wish you lived closer, I'd like to go out with you, I find you very interesting, but No, I don't want to marry anymore.

❤I thought that you and Marie are married? Did you join these apps as part of yout coaching?❤

@flowersroses4430

9 ай бұрын

Their relationship ended in July 2023. Check out his video about the ending of their relationship.

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

she didn't like living in California

Extreme chemistry is pure lust hungry fantasy desire to get fast results get body physical Deep love/care on spiritual level builds slowly with time not with overly expensive gifts on first date it's sign he wants something from you Lots of people forgot what real care/ love means putting cart before horse Study Bible it's explains there in every detail 😍❤️💝🙏

👍👍👍

@JonathonAslay

9 ай бұрын

Back at ya

Jonathan. 20+80+20 does 7:13 not equal 100. 😂

@JonathonAslay

7 ай бұрын

I meant 20 +60 = 80, and the balance is 20, which equals 100

Great idea bring your son 👍

@JonathonAslay

8 ай бұрын

Thanks 👍

Teresa does not seem genuine to me.

Your screwed at dating sights

@JonathonAslay

6 ай бұрын

?

The next Golden Bachelor @JonathonAslay I would watch 😁