Wow, she seems so much in pain. But the ending with her friend I think is the gold.

@sylviacrittendon

4 жыл бұрын

I agree she is so hurt

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

How completely right: Friends are worth more than gold!

@wandamccauley

4 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21 Thanks Anne, I am so glad a group referred me to this TED, you are very brave

@rubyguil4622

4 жыл бұрын

she is but she is so lovely too.

Very true, failing isn't easy and empathy is needed.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Empathy often leads to understanding and that helps both Sides.

A great woman. It is also incredible how good she speaks German. Practically without accent. I myself am in Germany since more than 5 years and have still a strong Italian accent. I would like to have just an half of her strength, self-will and resilience. Really.

@alouk21

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!

heart felt, emotionally wrenching at times, and oh so worth the watch

@georgiarouse

4 жыл бұрын

I agree

Very powerful TED, thank you for your bravery

@lloydbetances

4 жыл бұрын

lol i said the same... good to see another guy see this too

Takes real strength to do a talk like this.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for watching. Being honest is never easy. But now it is more important than ever that the topic is an open one.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. Hope that all those out there going through similar situations will have the strength to talk to friends and family.

I had the privilege of working with this amazing woman, Anne Koark, during my years living and working in Germany at the company she mentions here. It was one of the best companies I have ever worked for, won numerous awards and helped others grow their own businesses in Germany. So thankful for Anne, her journey, and the confidence she has to share it with us all.

@sylviacrittendon

4 жыл бұрын

She's seems like she would be the type of boss who cares about her people. Watching her speak is hard because I feel for her

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

As I said in my speech, I had the very best colleagues - through thick and and thin!!!

@ehsaankumer

4 жыл бұрын

Amy this was so good of you to do and say, she seems like such a wonderful woman with a big heart, I cried hearing this

@wandamccauley

4 жыл бұрын

yes I agree with them, so good you support her

@rickyohe

4 жыл бұрын

she seems so kind, I hope she gets another chance to lead a company

Great talk... This encouraged me quite considerably! never fail always learn, but learning can be very painful too

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Thnx for listening and commenting. Learning can indeed be painful, but with hindsight it makes you stronger!

Only one word for this talk ::: 'AWESOME'

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

@ Bart Cooperstone Thanks for watching

@mymotivationsnow

4 жыл бұрын

I second that

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

@@mymotivationsnow Thank you so much. Failure is something that pushes so many people down. Hopefully your remarks will encourage others those fighting with it now.

@IAmTheRealJoker

4 жыл бұрын

yep

Now I’ve finished, I’m on tears! What a great speech! Thanks Anne for winning at this

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. There are so many people out there thinking they are the only failures, when the truth is, everyone fails at something some time. And we.learn.

@sherylrinkler

4 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21 so true and thanks for sharing it now too

@juneedgin7151

4 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21 thank you anne!

What a kind and caring woman you are. I read the comments and people who have worked with you say such good things. You didn't lose entirely, you gained a lot obviously Anne, thank you.....

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Roberta. Yes, I am really lucky to have so many good people around me. And my colleagues were and are absolutely wonderful.

@robertaherron

4 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21 proximity to goodness creates more goodness...

“I think that little by little I'll be able to solve my problems and survive.” ― Frida Kahlo

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

I could not have said it better! Thanks for the quote and thanks for watching

@helenimnotready

4 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21 thank you Anne

I want to click the like button so hard my mouse breaks. I love this TedTalk, I have watched it three times now. Anne is the most honest person I have seen in a long time.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your kind words. Owning up to being imperfect is important. But please do not break the mouse :-)

@brewsterdd

4 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21 haha, thanks for replying Anne, and the mouse has lived to surf another day

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

@@brewsterdd What a relief that the mouse has survived the attack :-)

@brewsterdd

4 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21 it likes to surf another day

I had difficulty with this talk at the start, it wasn't what I expected and she sounded like a victim. But as I listened more I saw her emotion and authentic grief. And I got it. This is worth the watch.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for watching to the end.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sticking with it to hear more

This is a good story, I got a little lost in the bits where you were asked to speak and were being invited to participate based on that experience. That show the value derived from the experience.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching Alma

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Alma. Failure is not easy to accept but it makes you grow

@almashrewsbury

4 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21 yes it does, thank you Anne

Now this is real, good talk.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Many thanks for watching

She is stronger I think than she realizes.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you. Sometimes we surprise ourselves when it comes to what we will do in a situation.

@franzbiberkopf9179

3 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21 Oh Anne, marry me! :)

Few ted talks have touched me as much as this one...or have been as beautifully spoken.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for watching. Hopefully your reaction will give those fighting with failure hope.

@rinanoshinikov

4 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21Oh Anne, your talk hit a chord with me, and to some friends I sent it to, Vulnerability is such a great strength

@sandralewandowski

4 жыл бұрын

I agree Marina, it was a very tender and real talk

That was amazing and SO inspiring! I have shared with a few people I know who seem to think you just get right back up after something like this.. You don't

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for taking the time to post after watching and for sharing. You are right, you don't just get right back up after failure. It takes time to find yourself again. All the more important for us all not to pretend it doesn't happen. Nobody is perfect

@bryanestelle

4 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21 your talk in these tough times is perfect Anne - thank you

as a man it has taken me a long time to see that fear is the brother (or sister) of bravery. you need to admit you are scared before you can be brave. Anne you are one brave woman

@pleaseinspiremetoday

4 жыл бұрын

she is

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for thinking about failure with me. I think that is brave.

Immer wieder gut!

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Vielen Dank!

I was crying at times through this, thinking of all the greedy companies that steal from us and don't go under. Instead they lobby the government and look for bailouts that we tax payers wind up footing the bill. And now I see you, running a good company, people here who worked for you giving back in words. It's not fair not fair at all. I am going to get your book, and in my small part support you

@wandamccauley

4 жыл бұрын

agreed with that

How true, takes time to rebuild and it takes longer sometimes when the fall was long and hard.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

That is certainly the case. It is good when those around you believe in you. Thanks for watching.

@duncanhopp938

4 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21 very true anne

Many people right now are feeling this womans pain...

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

I wish all those out there facing the same problems lots of strength.

So true, such hurt.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Hurt is only part of life. But It must be able to be a part of life. To acknowledge it, is to move forward. Thanks for watching.

@carolyn-anderson

4 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21 thank you Anne, wonderful talk.

Now, this is real, no bs hype, this is truth.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much so for watching. Failure should be part of life, but it is not easy to go through. Hyping it is does it no justice. Accepting failure makes us more human.

@therealphoebuscommunication

4 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21 Thanks Anne.

Every time I have heard someone speak about failing at business, they do just say start again, and never mention the emotional cost. And yes others here see the cost on Anne when she talks about this. Thank god she is now working top help people who face the same thing. You are a good person.

@rogerbisby6934

4 жыл бұрын

agree she is a very good person

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

There is a story behind everyone's failure. It is such a shame that only the criminal stories make the press. You are all good people for discussing this. Just imagine there may be someone in your direct circle of contacts who is afraid to admit they have failed at something and it gives them courage to know there are people out there who will still treat them with respect.

@wandamccauley

4 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21 Thanks for replying Anne, so kind of you. And yes I am more aware of being aware to see those people.

@gracefairbank

4 жыл бұрын

I agree Wanda

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

@@rogerbisby6934 Thanks for watching Roger. Hope that this speech will help others to talk more openly about failure. After all, we are all only humans

I am terrified right now too, I lost my job I have lost friends everything seems to be dying.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

I know just how you feel. Wish you lots of strength! Thanks for watching.

What we learn we learn for a reason. Humility may always be the answer.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

I also believe that everything we learn,, we learn for a reason. Humility is an important point. Whatever the mistake, everyone is human and must be allowed to learn. It is also important to forgive ourselves for our errors, get back up and integrate what we have learned into now and future. Thanks so much for watching and commenting.

@regina-reda

4 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21 bless you

How true, I lost my business and people said go see Tony Robbins or send me motivational videos. Like I wasn't allowed to fail.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Failing is a tabu. Time to change that. Thanks for opening up here

@victhatsme

4 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21 yes thanks so much for replying

Yep lotta truth here, picking it up aint so easy when you get kicked lots...

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

How true - Thanks for watching!

@thetoddfrank

4 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21 thank you

A lot of truth here.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching and commenting. It is important that people speak about failing. That way we take the pressure off others who think everyone else has achieved a failure-free life.

Now thats truth!

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

You can lose everything, but giving up honesty is a decision. Truth is something to share. Thanks for watching.

@rongigz

4 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21 again great truth and thanks for replying to me.

me encanta

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

I have only learned a few words of Spanish, so excuse me if I make this one short: ¡Muchas gracias!

Many are losing their businesses now, crisis can bring the best of us, lets hope this does at the very least.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Yes many are fighting for their businesses now in this crisis. It is important that they find themselves accepted now!

@maryyouson4404

4 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21 its a big boat, needs to be for all of us who will be in it now Anne.

A lot of people are joining her right now, I am sure I will be one soon enough too.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Wish you strength for the times ahead

If you can't hurt feeling, then you wont feel succeeding either.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

So true. Feeling everything in life is important. Thanks for watching.

So failure wasn’t an option, however fear will remind you it could happen. You are being way too hard on yourself with the magnified meaning of failure. Thank goodness your friend taught you about arrogance.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, I certainly learnt a lot from friends, but also from failure itself

@zacksuchodolska

4 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21 this is a lesson we all need

Now this is tough, yep ain't so easy losing it all. Now a lot of people will with this covid.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Love the Login name! Thanks for watching and commenting. Corona may force some people to go through similar situations. All the more important that there is solidarity in understanding.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

True - it is not easy at all. Let's hope that those all over the world facing similar problems do not give up believing in themselves and are surrounded by people who understand and help one another. Thanks for watching

@georgenotbest

4 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21 thank you Anne, you are kind, the talk is truely you..

What a good woman, do the rite thing and you get kicked down... if Karma is real she will find peace bless you

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Sammy. What is important is to remember there are many people around each of us hiding their failures and putting themselves under so much pressure. Not always what I experienced but nevertheless it is still important that we all show, we are only human and we learn from mistakes

@sammysmith8384

4 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21 than you Anne

Interesting some truth here, but truth is also the ability to put the past behind you.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Truth is the ability to integrate the past and use it positively for the future. But it is important that failure is not hidden. Otherwise everyone believes that nobody else ever fails.

It makes me wonder if the same laws apply here, my home can be taken away? This is very scary

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Thnx for watching. I'm not up on the law. But am pleased that you watched, as many people struggle with failure of all kinds and we only know what it looks like inside, if they speak.

@rogerbisby6934

4 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21 wow you wrote back, how kind. I am checking now

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

@@rogerbisby6934 Thanks to you and to all the people writing here. Everyone who is willing to think about failure, changes a small piece of the attitude around him or her.

How many people stop the video to read the comments and then go back to the video

@bryanestelle

4 жыл бұрын

LOL I did

@robertaherron

4 жыл бұрын

me hahaha

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Not me: I read the comments without watching the video :-)

Catch

Now, she is joined by so many, their only guilt is being alive in this time.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

So apt what you have written. And that is exactly the problem - there is always a tendency to blame people who lose everything, but sometimes there are just circumstances that bring things about that are out of our area of control. Wishing all those out there who are facing such problems lots of strength.

@samanthaabadi

4 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21 we need it, thanks Anne

Oh she is right, you look at business people look at you like you have the plague.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

I often think, forgive them, because you cannot possibly know what it is like until you go through it. All the more important that it is spoken about. Thanks for watching.

@maureenwatters321

4 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21 true, when we judge we are judged...

But when do you start over? You can't grieve forever?

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Also true. But that is the point of talking about it - to.move people to view failure as a surmountable phase. Thanks for watching.

@thisisarchiegraves

4 жыл бұрын

@@alouk21 true good point

Did you really loose everything? Sounds like you let go of what wasn’t important and found you.

@alouk21

4 жыл бұрын

Materially yes and immaterially no. You are completely right. Thanks for commenting