Stuck in Your Head During Sex? - (Try These 10 Things)

If you ever get stuck in your head during sex, these techniques will help you. They're simple, and you'll be surprised how quickly they work. The first 6 techniques are things you can do DURING sex, and the final 4 are techniques you can do to PREPARE your body and mind to have amazing sex without getting stuck in your head.
Sexual performance anxiety is no joke. If you're struggling with this, you're not alone. I struggled with this for years. There is hope! The good news is that if you use the techniques outlined in this video, you'll be out of your head and into your body ASAP!
And... If you want to feel 100% confident in sex, and never get caught up in thinking too much during sex, check out my Orgasmic Mastery Course: www.taylorjohnson.life/orgasm...
HOW TO GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD DURING SEX:
0:00 Intro
1:11 1 - Breathe deeply and powerfully during sex
1:52 2 - Make sounds on your exhales during sex
2:50 3 - Focus on sensations in your body
3:30 4 - Make eye contact with your lover
4:26 5 - Express pleasure with your words
5:08 6 - Ask for what you want
6:20 7 - Prepare your mind & body for sex
7:10 8 - Make pleasure the goal - NOT orgasm
7:58 9 - Practice loving & accepting your body
9:15 10 - Live a lifestyle of presence & embodiment
10:04 💥 - Porn keeps men in their heads (stop watching it)
10:36 🏆 - Train yourself to achieve excellence
*Click any of the times above to be taken to that section of the video.
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*A quick note on spectatoring.
People experience spectatoring in sex in a variety of ways. Some people get lost on their thoughts while they have sex, and other people completely dissociate. It's a spectrum. For the VAST MAJORITY of people, using the 10 techniques above will be more than enough to get you out of your head, into your body, and feeling amazing.
Note: For some people, seeing a sex therapist or other mental health professional might be the best course of action. This can be a very healthy thing to do. (And remember, I am NOT a licensed professional of anything). I personally see a therapist, because it improves my life, relationships, work life, friendships, sex life, and pretty much everything. Highly recommended. :D
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  • @jerryhoppe6901
    @jerryhoppe69012 жыл бұрын

    Be in the moment fully present .....don't be in a rush .....quality not quantity extremely important ......pranic breathing .....if you are distracted going in don't do it ....it won't be pleasurable or fulfilling in any sense of the word ...first for your partner let alone you

  • @taylorclarkjohnson

    @taylorclarkjohnson

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes! Presence is the most powerful sexual technique of all. And... it's easier said than done. Thank you Jerry! Cheers from Asheville!

  • @cheyennechristinelivinglife
    @cheyennechristinelivinglife7 ай бұрын

    As an ADHD woman, i'm finding these suggestions quite handy. Thank you 😊. I also use music. I started a playlist that bring up that sexual/sensual energy 😉

  • @calejanmonteiro3672
    @calejanmonteiro36722 жыл бұрын

    good night bro, congratulations on the channel and soon it will reach 70 thousand subscribers

  • @taylorclarkjohnson

    @taylorclarkjohnson

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks Calejan. I'm finally getting back into the youtube thing. About to kick things into high gear. Appreciate your words. :D

  • @jovar7545
    @jovar7545 Жыл бұрын

    Dude I love how you explain this! Thank you very much.

  • @taylorclarkjohnson

    @taylorclarkjohnson

    Жыл бұрын

    Yeah man. Glad it was helpful for you.

  • @dutcheclipse
    @dutcheclipse2 ай бұрын

    Hey Taylor, thank you for these clear explainations. I loved the podcast with your partner as well. Very helpfull to hear both sides on these topics. Maybe you can create more of these? Especially when it comes to semen retention. Much love brother!

  • @davidjohncox7333
    @davidjohncox73332 жыл бұрын

    It’s not the destination, it’s the journey.

  • @taylorclarkjohnson

    @taylorclarkjohnson

    2 жыл бұрын

    100%! Absolutely. If we're so focused on ejaculation, we'll miss some of the most amazing aspects of sex and intimacy that only become available once we decide to not ejaculate.

  • @angelobelcastro7060
    @angelobelcastro70602 жыл бұрын

    Very helpful advices, thank you

  • @taylorclarkjohnson

    @taylorclarkjohnson

    Жыл бұрын

    Absolutely. Thanks for saying so! Do you have any video topic requests for the future?

  • @keneiland4796
    @keneiland4796 Жыл бұрын

    Great info and video!!!

  • @taylorclarkjohnson

    @taylorclarkjohnson

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you brother! After I finish creating my next two courses (one on breathwork and the other on anal), I'm going to get back into creating regular youtube videos. I'll start back up again in late August. Any topic requests to put on the list?

  • @jacovanderschaaf3044
    @jacovanderschaaf304415 күн бұрын

    also be in the the situation, if you have bad day from work, your sex might not work at that time. you got to get back to your self let out befor you get started with this. i meself did have goal in mind and that keept me losing ejectaculation, ( to keep it hard ) as soon i dropt me goals to reach in sex i got longer ejectuculation going on. jet i still have this things in my head that im not with her, i do have autimse, and my girl did ask if i could do test for ADD, because i keep having these thought that i just cant block out.

  • @jonnyerazo1865
    @jonnyerazo18654 ай бұрын

    Thank you

  • @omanipadmehum8510
    @omanipadmehum8510 Жыл бұрын

    Great advice, thank you!

  • @taylorclarkjohnson

    @taylorclarkjohnson

    Жыл бұрын

    Yeah man, thanks for saying so. I appreciate you taking the time to let me know. You have any topic requests for future videos? In late August I'm going to start regularly putting videos up on youtube again (after I finish creating the two course I'm working on right now).

  • @omanipadmehum8510

    @omanipadmehum8510

    Жыл бұрын

    @@taylorclarkjohnson Hey thanks for your response! I practice some Qi Kung (mainly hard forms) and feel like I can connect to Qi in martial arts, however I'm struggling a bit to incorporate this understanding into my sexual practice, I can clench my root to draw the energy up into my body but it's really hit & miss for me (especially lying down) and despite breathing, eye contact and focusing on enjoyment/pleasure I still orgasm prematurely often... I barely even feel my orgasm! Maybe a suggestion for future video would be on the energy side of things, like where to place awareness or what to visualise? Many thanks 🙏💚👊

  • @MayanBrian
    @MayanBrian2 жыл бұрын

    love the content man, any new podcast episodes coming out?

  • @taylorclarkjohnson

    @taylorclarkjohnson

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks brother. This whole content creation thing is a trip. When I stop making videos and make podcasts, people ask when the next video will come out. When I pause making podcasts and make videos, people ask about the podcast. :D I'm working on setting up some systems to be able to produce awesome stuff regularly. Right now though, my focus is mostly on making the upcoming Orgasmic Mastery course as awesome as it can be for the men who enroll. And yes, eventually there'll be more podcasts for sure!

  • @MayanBrian

    @MayanBrian

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@taylorclarkjohnson Hey that's totally understandable, do what's best can't wait for it and great job with the course

  • @donkabir4659
    @donkabir4659 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you sir

  • @taylorclarkjohnson

    @taylorclarkjohnson

    Жыл бұрын

    Yeah brother. Thank you for thanking!

  • @ehabkasem1021
    @ehabkasem10212 жыл бұрын

    Could you make a video about weak pelvic muscles contraction during orgasm and treatments

  • @taylorclarkjohnson

    @taylorclarkjohnson

    2 жыл бұрын

    I could, but that won't be high on my list. In the mean time, have you listened to the podcast I did with Dr. Suzie Gronski on the topic of semen retention & pelvic pain? That's a good listen.

  • @ehabkasem1021

    @ehabkasem1021

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@taylorclarkjohnson even though .. I'm waiting for it. And yes I did listen to

  • @thatsilyasse1
    @thatsilyasse1 Жыл бұрын

    Last part of the video [ deep breath] ♥️

  • @taylorclarkjohnson

    @taylorclarkjohnson

    Жыл бұрын

    Deep breathing is one of the most powerful and under-appreciated tools we have available to us. If everyone practiced deep breathing on a regular basis, our world would be a much better place.

  • @donm5819
    @donm5819 Жыл бұрын

    Great tips, I do most of them but I will try the breathing more often. Question.. why does the erection soften up when changing positions, let’s say from her riding you to you hitting it from behind? I used to be a lot closer to my wife, before our separation.. and now we’ve been back for the last 10 months and the sex went from 15-20 minutes to me cummin within a few minutes. I never had that issue! Maybe my anxieties and depression while we were separated might’ve caused it, there’s other factors I can think of.. she did end up seeing some in the short time we separated which caused me lots of self doubt about myself. Any advice I’d really appreciate it! 🙏🏽

  • @taylorclarkjohnson

    @taylorclarkjohnson

    Жыл бұрын

    There are all kinds of reasons your erection might weaken while you change positions... most of them are probably psychological. But/and, it's not a problem. Lots of guys think their erections should be rock solid the entire time they make love, but this just isn't true in most cases. Porn gives us a false idea of what sex looks like (and 90+ percent of the men in porn take viagra before a shoot).

  • @marinaschmidt6599
    @marinaschmidt6599 Жыл бұрын

    OOoh I am watching this for my partner who struggles to feel his body and enjoy sex. He has a lot of performance pressure and critical self talk. And just ends up feeling like he gives loads but gets the short end of the stick. Do you have any more recommendations for videos or courses? Best! xx

  • @taylorclarkjohnson

    @taylorclarkjohnson

    Жыл бұрын

    Hello Marina! Thanks for your question. My first question to you is this: Is your partner wanting to create a change in his sex life? Something that can create even more performance pressure and critical self talk is when a man's partner starts doing a bunch of research to help him when HE isn't ready to do the work yet. (And maybe you've already had this conversation...) If you haven't talked about helping him yet, it'd be awesome to ask him if he'd like help looking into this. If he's a yes to that, then I'd recommend sending him my KZread channel, and that he check out my Orgasmic Mastery Course: www.taylorjohnson.life/orgasmic-mastery-course/ Cheers from Asheville!

  • @marinaschmidt6599

    @marinaschmidt6599

    Жыл бұрын

    @@taylorclarkjohnson Hmmm that's a good point. Thanks. As a founder he is very busy and works a lot so there is very little time for him to research these topics. His previous girlfriend just let him alone in this, saying "figure yourself out." And he felt very let down by that. He is already doing 1 on 1 coaching sessions (btw do you offer that?). I am very glad to support him in any way but yes I will ask him whether he is okay with me researching on my own :)

  • @Yeast85
    @Yeast85 Жыл бұрын

    What do ya do if ya don’t wanna be ejaculating for a bit? My balls ache after 5 days or so. How do ya deal with that, does it ease after a while or get worse? I can’t keep em in Ice water the whole month

  • @taylorclarkjohnson

    @taylorclarkjohnson

    Жыл бұрын

    It takes practice - serious practice. And it's totally possible. I haven't ejaculated in 14 days, and I've had sex the past 3 days in a row. Zero blue balls over here. Feeling great, charged up and on point! C heck out my article on how to get rid of blue balls: www.taylorjohnson.life/how-to-get-rid-of-blue-balls/

  • @jayjay201023
    @jayjay201023 Жыл бұрын

    Mr Taylor I struggle with premature ejaculation how can I over come this ?

  • @taylorclarkjohnson

    @taylorclarkjohnson

    Жыл бұрын

    I just posted a couple videos about this last week. Check out the new videos on my channel. 🕺

  • @unknowndiamond8660
    @unknowndiamond86602 жыл бұрын

    How to control sexual urges? I'm a 20 year old single guy and i wanna focus on my goal

  • @taylorclarkjohnson

    @taylorclarkjohnson

    2 жыл бұрын

    Take my free 7-day semen retention challenge. That's a great place to start. Here's a link: learn.taylorjohnson.life/free-7-day-semen-retention-challenge

  • @archiemckay5400
    @archiemckay54002 жыл бұрын

    I do breathing exercises but I am still watching porn. Trying to focus inward. I don't know if porn is a distraction to me or a focus. I will try to find out. What if you don't have a partner at the moment but want to train? How would you use the examples you give for a partner towards yourself? Lastly, it's hard for me to just focus on pleasure instead of orgasm. Maybe because I watch porn I'm assuming. I like your podcast yet I don't know how to leave a review which is something you ask us to do.

  • @taylorclarkjohnson

    @taylorclarkjohnson

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hey brother - thanks for sharing. Porn is definitely a distraction. In one sense, while you're watching it, you're very focused on the screen... but it IS a distraction from your body and the potential pleasure you could be experiencing everywhere. Porn also trains our brains to focus on orgasm instead of pleasure in the moment. And I'm happy to hear you like the podcast. To my knowledge the only places to leave reviews are on Apple and Spotify. You should be able to see a review option from the main podcast page on each of those services. Thank you!