I made it part of my new year's resolution to learn to say no as I've always been take for granted. And now at my new job, the ladies feel like I'm being stingy by not indulging them. I didn't even respond to them. They don't know where I'm coming from. I'm 100% focusing on myself and MY HAPPINESS.

Wow “ The less you expect from people, the happier you are “. Thank you Jessica. Well done 👍

Learn to say NO without feeling guilty!👍💯

"No" sometimes is what can actually save relationships... or push the ones who shouldn't be in your life out

@jojothepolyglot1866

Жыл бұрын

Hahahahaha! As a older man i learnt years ago: While a woman is playing hard to get, playing mind games, making you jump hoops and whatnot, she is doing the opposite for her Mr Right even sleeping with him after the first date. She breaks all the rules for him. The thing is, she keeps you waiting as a 'Just in case something goes wrong"...You are her cushion because she knows you can do anything for her... Aaaand THAT'S WHY YOUR FIRST BORN IS BORN 2 WEEKS OR A MONTH EARLIER AND IN WORST CASE SCENARIO,2 MONTHS EARLIER. It's NOT your child! Guys have you ever seen a man and his wife and the child looks nothing like the guy like ZERO? So this story of playing hard to get is just her telling you :You are NOT the one until I need you for my convenience .SIMPLE! Thank me later guys :)

📚They need your weakness.... 1: Limit your sympathy. 2: No expectations without actual agreements. 3: Embrace reasonable conflict & pain. 4: Say NO, for no actual reason sometimes. 5: Set Boundaries & Standards

Getting treated like a doormat is degrading & disrespectful so slam the brakes on such behaviour & tell them that enough is enough.

These are universal lessons that everybody needs to learn early because they apply in all aspects of our lives. Unfortunately, not everybody picks them up in good time and it leads to many conflicts. Important points that resonated with me included: 1. Everybody is dispensable, including myself. Imagine infants do survive when their biological mothers die off, why can't you survive without anyone else? I always remind myself of this fact by recalling that no matter what happens in our personal lives, the sun still rises in the East and sets in the West everyday at its appointed hour to the microsecond. To imagine therefore that we are indispensable to other people is absolute b*llcrap. 2. Saying no and accepting no from other people is very good for everyone because it brings freedom to focus on other things 3. Most people are users. Most of the people we think are friends are actually not friends but people who use us for their own good. The day they find a better alternative or someone they can manipulate more easily, they will dump you like a hot potato. 4. Nowadays when asked for a favor, I ask myself if the person asking would do the same for me if I were the one asking. If the answer is a No or a hesitant Yes, then I simply refuse

@jamalbamba8231

Жыл бұрын

This resonates well with me🙌.

I am grateful for what you do here. As a typical 'Nice Guy', I have lost so much of my finances, time & myself over the years. But last year, I got the biggest blow to my personality because I wanted to make others' lives easier. To cut it short, I first saw your videos on TikTok and they have been very helpful. You are doing an amazing job. Stay Awesome!!

I had an ex that suffered from severe mental health issues. She would self harm in the relationship and I tried my hardest to give her love in the beginning and tried to give her a different perspective of a good guy, but it felt like it was never enough. It would fuck up the trajectory of our 2 1/2 year relationship. Even when things were getting better, meaning we weren’t arguing as much, she would eventually lose attraction for me. It was trauma bonding at its finest. The closest we were romantically was when we were going through rough times. We would get into a very uncomfortable situation and then we’d reach an understanding and we would love on each other. It was so fucked up. When we got comfortable, the spark was gone. I felt like I was hungrier for her love when I had something to prove.

Very true Jes. I have been a victim as well. I learnt it the hard way. Often times, people will take advantage of your being kind.

Especially appreciated the tip to never do anything for anyone with an expectation attached.

I appreciate your take on boundaries. I’m trying to unlearn my doormat ways.

This has to be my favorite video from you so far this year thank you.

You’re awesome!!! Thanks for another reminder in your great message

Hey Jess! You popped in at the right time! At the final account assessment, I will be letting you know, from how much trouble and pain you're saving me. May God be with you, ALWAYS!

The lessons I've learnt in this life and I'm happy that I'm applying this lesson on recent times....I'm taking absolutely no bs

Thanks so much for the video, because I have just come to realise that always trying to please people even beyond May capabilities, just leaves me heartbroken when most of the people I help out don't even appreciate my efforts.

Honestly Jo's... thank you so much . I am all this you just mention and it caused me my life .... everything I am as human.. I know better now.. I salute you

Your calmness and your mode of dishing out the Golden points makes me crazy over you JOS! 🍇🌹

Great job as always Jessica OS, No can always save one a lot of stress, time, money and emotional heartbreak... Most of all people would always choose themselves over you anytime every single time

This is one video from you I have watched over and over again...everything said resonates with me. This came at the the right time...You never know who you're helping out here. I'm glad I chanced on this. Keep up with your good work 👏

Thanks girl for making my decisions strong especially on relatives who just idle around coz they is someone they can learn their shoulders on . Watching from Kenya.

Thank you for these lifetime lessons. I think this title of the topic could be "Stopping Letting People Treat You Like A Doormat | 5 No-Nonsense Tips. Love to you, Jubilee Jessica!

I needed to hear this again. Thank you!!❤️

I'm just overwhelmed with joy learning from this video. I can only say...... THANK YOU DEAR JESS.

You're absolutely right.

Today I tried one of the video tips titled tips how to get her attention through texting and it worked so much it's helpful keep empowering us with knowledge ❤

Needed this. Going through similar situation. Thanks 💯

To be honest…. What I found out to be a great tool to put your foot down when you feel you’re being walked on (Taken Advantage of) is to simply let them know you feel you’re being taken advantage of in those exact words….. You’ll be surprised of the person response if they genuinely care about you and the friendship they have with you.

Many thanks Jessica. I really needed this. I just felt you were directly talking to me. That was absolutely me. Thank you for the advise

I commend you for being brave and doing what other women won't do these are things women keep to themselves hoping the man won't catch on the way you deliver these messages are crystal clear thank you God bless you

Thanks so much, u are the best, am in this situation right now , always feeling guilty and trying to pleased everyone but at the end i suffer

Jessica thank you so much. These are things I’ve been telling my girlfriend. So I decided to share this video with her, she really appreciate it it now. Good vibe ❤

Thanks Jess needed that . Words that is worth just as much as your existance.

Great video. I took my distance from someone who thought I was his dog walker. No regrets.

Thank you very much 💕

Lesson learnt 👌👍❤💕 all points mentioned are clear and straight forward. Not to mention, am the victim of this video. From today onwards, I think it's surely important to work on myself more than on other people. Jessica, you're fire 🔥🔥🔥 *Everyday-we-live-we-die-a-little-bit-more* ...this is absolutely deep.

@solomonbaako913

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Jess

@hopelife8130

Жыл бұрын

56 nice my dear but today i really need u to save me im broke this year because of a problem of behavior disorder and it is difficult for me to find a job so i beg u the best with respect to found me 5ghc for food help please

This is explicitly mine. Thank you Ma'am.

People are to be loved & valued Things are to be used Our prime purpose in life is to help others but if you can't help them, at least, don't hurt them. Exodus 22:22-24 is for all & sundry

This is so clear Jessica, I just gotta say thank you my dear

Great advice Jessica, I feel like you talking to me, I will learn to say no!! Thank you 🙏

Didn't know I needed this video until I finished it. Thank you Jessica.

Powerful words thanks Jessica

Thank you Jessica, awesome stuff

Great tips! What you might need to do sometimes - is eliminate all the “negative people” from your life - like right now, if you haven’t done so already. If someone is not “adding value” to your life, meaning - bringing anything to the table, you need to cut them off! And surround yourself with people - who will help you get to where you want to be, and grow as an individual! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips

@stevenmiller7124

Жыл бұрын

right now ,,an it aint gonna be a woman

@hopelife8130

Жыл бұрын

67 nice my dear but today i really need u to save me im broke this year because of a problem of behavior disorder and it is difficult for me to find a job so i beg u the best with respect to found me 5ghc for food help please

@entertainmentjungle9030

Жыл бұрын

But why are you everywhere?

@carlosverde-datingtips7001

Жыл бұрын

@VidMart Stock Videos thanks! I appreciate it.

Woooow this video is informative. Thank you so much!❤️🙏

Thank you for this session❤

Video resonates with me 100%. Have been down because most times i feel taken advantage of due to my kindness. Wish i could hit the "love" button for such an amazing video

Accurate information, Thanks Jessica 👌👍

@Introvertedalpha

Жыл бұрын

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Hmmm, Jessica, Thanks so much. This has always been my weekness of not saying no when i really ought to and people have taken advantage of me. Thanks a million.

I love this woman!!!!!!

Very educating programs..you have opened up my way of thinking and reasoning..kudos t you jessiceOs

thank you Jessica, your words are always in time thank you live from Nigeria

Thanks Jessica, much love ❤❤❤❤

That was a very important topic you analyzed very well. Thank you.we do not use that word "no " as much as we should.

Thank you Jessica. Most especially to say No. Wow I have been blessed.

Great content, thanks for sharing this

Hey Sis, thanks for another very informative video, you hit the nail on its head every time!!.

Honestly that is exactly for me l was saying to myself a week ago I really need to cut off some people out of my life because people are so rude and disrespectful even when u are not doing things and looking for return from them people are so ungrateful l have to care about myself right now am done. Thanks for the encouragement hon love you nothing much the truth ❤

Sister I don't where you get your knowledge and wisdom from, but I have been learning to much from You! Thank you!

I needed to see this video. Love you Jessica 🤗

I think your channel & platform is amazing, bless you

Thank you for this My partner has been always advising me on this because a lot of people tend to take advantage of me but I have learnt a lot in this video and I’ll learn to say no, set boundaries and not be expectant

Thank you Jess.

This video talks about who I was sometime ago, until a friend realize these about me, drew my attention to them and I worked on them. Today it's helping me a lot.

This girl is awesome, thanks for all you do for us. Stay safe!!😉

thanks Jessica 🙏love from RWANDA.

Hearing these tips from jess is just confirming I'm living my best of life every thing is on point ... Living like that shows you alot of load on your shoulders to shake off the type of change be the better you

@hopelife8130

Жыл бұрын

57 nice my dear but today i realy need u to save me im broke this year due to sickness so i beg u the best with respect to found me 5ghc for food help please

Great one here. Please do a video on those who come to you to borrow money from you. They measure your pocket with their minds and what they see. Saying a hundred NO to them seems not to drive them away. I fully agree NO is NO.

I like that knowledge jessica it's fantabulous kind of tips

Thank you Jessica 😊

Brilliant, thanks a lot...

Public comment. Great message .we are all human with feelings . Respect and care about each other values and actions reflects who really care about you and who doesn't care how you feel.

Thank you so much for these

God bless you abundantly 🤗❤✌

Thanks for highlighting. Everyone around me has seen this happing. Took time for myself to realise. Taking advantage of my good nature. Didn't want looses them as a Friend. What a sucker I've been

Joy Lv Tube I’m here taking notes 😍love this line ,and I quote”every day we live and die a little bit more “

@hopelife8130

Жыл бұрын

433 nice my dear but today i realy need u to save me im broke this year due to sickness so i beg u the best with respect to found me 5ghc for food help please

You always have every information that I need at the right moment 😃

Thank you thank you thank you! This is a great video and something I needed to hear

I love you are genuine in your videos with informative videos thank you for your contribution to build Africa

Awesome!🤾‍♂️🤸‍♂️🤾‍♂️

Jessica I always tune to this episodes incessantly,have drawn alot from you be blessed much love from Kenya ,we too would love to welcome you to this beautiful country of ours

You are good. Very informative video.

You were speaking to me somehow. I stopped being Mr Nice guy and the person got angry 😅😅😅😅😅. Who cares?😃😃

Awesome thank you

You have a blessed from God Lady J!! 🙏🙏

This is deep and massive 🔥

Really great message

Practicing to say “NO” could have saved me from entering a shitty business deal

Boundries as Standards in Morals n Eticks . ( Limits ) . Helpful indeed tnx

Jessica’s KZread is my best place

Great job

Oh thank you Jessy

Woh!a NO is a NO.. explanation not necessary, otherwise your decision stand to be swayed off.. all points are beautiful Jessica thank you.

Thanks a lot, I have learnt to say 'No'.

My sister. You the best 👌. You have no idea how much you changing my mindset. When it comes to relationships. I thank you. Keep doing what you doing. I'm learning a lot from you. And like from a woman perspective since I'm a guy.

I like your teachings

I love you Jessica Os❤️❤️🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈

Love the vids ❤️

@Introvertedalpha

Жыл бұрын

🔥🔥

Thanks for reminding me to say no!!