If you want a wife like Khadija. Be like mohammed (pbuh)

@aminulhussain2751

2 жыл бұрын

It doesn't work that way. Are you saying that Khadija (RA) only respected our Prophet Muhammad (sallahu alayhi wa sallam) because he was the greatest person to ever live in this Dunya? By you saying that, you are lowering Khadija (RA), Astaghfirullah. Khadija (RA) was a great woman even before she met our Prophet Muhammad (sallahu alayhi wa sallam). The aim is not to first get respect and then to give it back, the aim is to give respect first. That's the way of Islam.

@Heavyhitter786

2 жыл бұрын

@@aminulhussain2751 First of all Allah made Muhammad (SAW) and Khadijah (RA) to be met through business because they were perfect for each other. That's what he meant. If you want to find a wife like Khadijah (RA) you need to become like of Muhammad (SAW) and Allah will guide their ways to be met with eachother.

@amatalwahib5499

2 жыл бұрын

I don’t agree

@RD-wn1us

2 жыл бұрын

Nonsense

@notyourcupoftea6774

2 жыл бұрын

@@amatalwahib5499 why?

Both husband and wife want to be respected. It shouldn’t just be one sided. Respect goes both ways for sure. I’ve seen marriages fail and end terribly because a husband keeps disrespecting his wife and vice versa.

@binhilabi

2 жыл бұрын

You m8ssed the point here.

@amreenbanu1708

2 жыл бұрын

True

@xxx-xy6ei

2 жыл бұрын

Right

@claritywithteekay

2 жыл бұрын

Water is wet

@BloodlessRMZ

2 жыл бұрын

They both do but the guy who disrespecting his wife was wrong but still hasband is the hakim

But as far I know, prophet Muhammad never had an ego problem. Aren't we taught from the very childhood as a muslim to avoid ego and boasting?

@misosoup9616

2 жыл бұрын

It's not an ego problem though, it's about honer and respect in a husbands abillity and leadership. Even then, The Prophet (SAW) had "fights" with his beloved wives, such as Aisyah (RA), Hafsa (RA), etc. (Not Khadija (RA) though, atleast not in any hadith I know of). So there are boundries that should not be cross. Obviously, his patience is on a VERY differant scale since he has to try his best to be just and fair to 8-11 of his wives. And it's unfair to think men are as capable as The Prophet (SAW), because we're not and we will never will be. Only very few of us come a tiny bit close to that (Such as the Sahaba (RA), the man who hides his newly wedded wives illegitimate child, etc). Though we strive to life by his teaching and example, insyaallah. Off topic, as an average man, having that many wives is only a privilege if you act like "kings and emperors" (As in, a douchebag), only regarding them as "meetsacks" for reproduction purpose (Having child) or "toy", naudzubillah. Alhamdulillah, our Prophet (SAW) are above that and he is the example we try to emulate, insyaallah.

@seushidesu

2 ай бұрын

i think its the way Allah have built them like Allah have created women have a lot sensitive feelings, more gentle etc.. Mens have higher ego than women hence why this video advising us to let the men be self deluded if it have to. Wallahualam.

If a wife is correct and she directing her husband to right path..does that mean altering his big ego? Husband should also give respect to his wife not just love and nurture

@ashaalexis1775

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@EastWestLifeInsider

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely thats i do...i correct my husband many times and he do to me as well... If husband showed ego its doesn't make any sense even its ridicule and illiteracy .abusive men don't deserve respect.

@Nabz1415

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah mate we do give our wife's respect aswell ok.

@sweetsoul3169

2 жыл бұрын

@@Nabz1415 who is we? Why do you always generalize all men yet you dont even know what happens in their relationship?

@EastWestLifeInsider

2 жыл бұрын

@@Nabz1415 nope..not all do...thats why society has basic problems.

Respect goes both ways! The example of the taking the wrong turn on the high way does not portray doubt. It could be noted as the wife trying to help...Very weak example to mention as doubting the husband's judgement!

@nuha-nursawdah1910

2 жыл бұрын

Sometimes the wife makes a fuss over it and nag the husband, thus the example is used. "I knew I was right, you should've listened to me." Things like this occur and arguments arise. I strongly agree respect goes both ways, however I've come across women becoming less meek and obedient to their husband.

@razyr9340

2 жыл бұрын

@sakinah al kayyal exactly I felt the same way. That example was a weak one. It can be taken as wife helping husband as well

@salmanarif6651

Жыл бұрын

It goes both ways, but not equally 50/50 as per this hadees

Because now a wife correcting her husband is seen as a lack of respect? "You just let him make that mistake so that he wont get angry at anyone." If you constantly associate the childish side of his ego to his authority then he will just ruin the relationship because apparently if things doesnt go his way, even if they are wrong, nobody should fix it because men have "big egos".

@EastWestLifeInsider

2 жыл бұрын

Alhamdulillah my husband is not ego type of person...i am feeling i am a bit more

@nuha-nursawdah1910

2 жыл бұрын

Correcting by a loving and soft approach, not by being argumentative, nor by nagging.

@sweetsoul3169

2 жыл бұрын

@@nuha-nursawdah1910 of course both sides should come with a loving and sofr approach

@EastWestLifeInsider

2 жыл бұрын

This is the main problem of Islamic society men...they always telling to wife don't correct them they have ego they don't say its called illiteracy...its make us backward... Our religion is totally different and Muslim society portrayed totally different...Allah give them hidayat..Ameen Thats the reason i merried with white reverted man he may correct our society in right way...otherwise muslims society is suffering all basic problems and going very far away from deen

@Nabz1415

2 жыл бұрын

It is what it is. Accept it or go your own way about it

Jazakallahu Khairan kaseer Sheik!!! I knew i wanted to respect my husband. But i didn't know what counted as respect and disrespect. I have been thinking about it. So happy for explaining the men's perspective. I understand now. I would like to add a few more from my reflections.. 1. Always reminding him of his past mistakes 2. Answering back in a loud rude voice

Sheikh Yasir, you could have covered this topic from both angles..men need more advice on how to be good husbands because majority of men turn out to be more narcassist than women statistically. Yes and ego is the big problem in men.

@danielacevedo647

2 жыл бұрын

He has. On multiple occasions. Please watch his content . This is a 4 minute long clip. Most of his lectures are 30 min - 2 hours. His lectures are very balanced. More balanced than allot of other shiekhs out there.

@mah9455

2 жыл бұрын

If scholars talk in support for females thats great but when it comes in support for males everybody resist and tell it's no good.People need to realize it and should support the men too.

@salmanarif6651

Жыл бұрын

So many feminists appealing ulamas, no one bats an eye

@aryanumkhan

Жыл бұрын

When women stop using jewelries and makeup, and fancy clothes during wedding ceremonies, then i will believe majority of men are narcissist. Till then, it is women. Regarding ego as problem in men though, i agree with u.

If i kept quiet while my husband went the wrong way, he would get really angry at me for not speaking up.

@ummsumayyah1096

Жыл бұрын

He only gave an example. But if you know this about your husband, then go right ahead. However, in some cases, especially in marriages where the women berates her husband often, this advice may apply.

@kitt7477

Жыл бұрын

@@ummsumayyah1096 Helping, advising isn’t berating. A good husband thanks his wife when she offers advice & her two cents. Thats what a happy marriage is.

@ummsumayyah1096

Жыл бұрын

@@kitt7477 I specifically said in cases where the wife berates. I never said helping or advising is berading. Every situation is different and his advice may help someone. That's all I was saying.

@hamnarajput2175

Жыл бұрын

@@ummsumayyah1096 agreed

Salaam dear brothers and sisters, I am facing hardship, Please make Dua for me, Jazak Allah Ul Khair.

@EastWestLifeInsider

2 жыл бұрын

Keep regular prayers and after magrib prayer do surah kausar insha Allah Allah will help you..

@maxprimemalick7972

2 жыл бұрын

JazakAllah khair sharaaz May Allah make things easier for you sharaaz MashAllah

@sharaazahmed380

2 жыл бұрын

@@EastWestLifeInsider Ameen Jazak Allah Ul Khair

@sharaazahmed380

2 жыл бұрын

@@maxprimemalick7972 Ameen Jazak Allah Ul Khair

@ladyzakari2342

2 жыл бұрын

May Allah continue to make it easier, Amin ya Hayyu ya Qayyumu

Alot of men dont want wife they want mothers... how can a woman respect a man who not even respecting her or giving her the rights she is entitled too?

@manuanass

2 жыл бұрын

Its the duty from the wive to show respect, also the husband should give respect. But focus on your duty first instead of a husband or someone else. You will be countable for you own action

@Nothing.12347

Жыл бұрын

@@manuanassno lol they both should do it together

@saacidcabdiweli

Жыл бұрын

And alot of women dont want husbands they want wallets . How can a man respect a woman who is not even respecting his salary and net worth?

@Abdullah_muslim1

22 күн бұрын

​@@Nothing.12347that never realistically happens. A man is the leader and needs to feel like he is the leader. So women better not advise harshly and act like she is independent from him because she isn't. Men lead women and women need to obey and not rebel

Treat people the way you want to treated.

absolutely right. In all religions, sciences and western dating/marriage, the man must feel like he is a charge. And as a feminine woman, you allow him to take charge and take care of you. There’s a specific way to communicate with men, and put your suggestions to him. Their egos are very sensitive too. As women, we are actually emotionally stronger than them. And if a man disrespects you, absolutely tell him. If you have boundaries, a good man will respect that too. Allahs religion is pure, & satisfies both the sciences and psychology of a man and a woman. It is the truth

@abc-kn6ex

Жыл бұрын

Women being emotionally stronger is a lie, sister. I know men who are not shaken by anything and who take charge of everything

@hamnarajput2175

Жыл бұрын

@@abc-kn6ex brother you know this is scientifically proven that women are emotinally stronger

@investa9772

Жыл бұрын

@@hamnarajput2175 women are more emotional

@Abdullah_muslim1

22 күн бұрын

Sister some of the things you've said actually applies to women not for men. Women are extremely weak both physically and especially emotionally - they cry and go ballistic sometimes due to their hormones. Women need to remember their position in the relationship as being the ones who are led not the ones who are leaders. This is successful

The husband is to be respected, and the wife is to be loved. Both of these mean love, and both of these mean respect.

@rawandmohammed6695

5 ай бұрын

Your comment doesn't make sense

One thing I don't agree with is having an Ego, our Prophet Muhammad (sallahu alayhi wa sallam) did not have an ego and he was a man. To be honest, both spouses should try to learn their spouses likes and dislikes, we are all human beings and we all have different emotions. But the role should be observed as Allah has commanded in the Qur'an. We should try to be like Ali (RA) and Fatima (RA).

I dont find this example right, that if a driving person(husband) miss the exit or get on wrong path. The wife is suppose to stay silent? Because it will hurt the decision making power of his husband (basically his ego). This is not partnership at all.

Ego and pride are inner deceases. This is not right to respect that. If a men/woman is wrong, he/she is wrong. Husband and wife always have a open communication. Being fair an honest is a must. If you listen to each other, than you have both side respect.

@madihanilofer8650

2 жыл бұрын

I agree 💯

@janelynganade1466

Жыл бұрын

I agree 💯 percent

@salmanarif6651

Жыл бұрын

Yes, but there needs to be respect both ways and it takes time to develop understanding for being open. Men are mostly bashed, have seen many women with mountainious egos, hardly anyone talks about them

@81yaqs

Жыл бұрын

Ego and pride are not diseases. It is innate in everyone and from it emanates your self worth and confidence. Of course it can lead to arrogance but that is not true for everyone.

@TheNaturesms-world

Жыл бұрын

You can't see what this men speaking, let me tell what is going to happen when you follow given instructions you will live your life in peace because men will help you in every situation with the help of Allah, do not destroy your peace.

This lecture is literally the problem in todays society. "What have you done to his ego"? "Let him be deluded"??? We will all be questioned on yawm al qiyama about how we fought our nafs. If your husband is oblivious to the obligations towards his nafs then he will be held accountable for it. We all will, and men dont have an exception here. The wife's duty is not to stroke his ego so she can receive love in return. One of her duties as a wife is to help guide him when he is wrong, especially when it's evident. If he is unable to admit his faults, his immaturity will follow him in the way he practices qawwam in the household and this is precisely how women lose respect for their husbands. If the wife sees her husband making a mistake and she allows him to make it, deep down it sends her a signal that he doesn't know how to lead and she loses her sense of respect for him quickly. What men fail to understand is that women dont expect perfection from their husband. They expect masculinity. This comes from maturity and accepting that if you make a mistake, its ok to be corrected, even if its by your wife. Men see mistakes as failure and they use their "big egos" to try and hide their insecurities. Women, however, see lack of accountability as failure and they will try to point this out many times to their spouse's but many times men don't care about solving the root cause of a problem as much as they care about protecting their image by refusing to accept blame when they're wrong or pretend like they're capable of doing a job they are unable to perform. Some men seriously just need to grow up. No man in the world will be able to exercise the responsibility of qawwam properly until he has developed a sense of self awareness and lets be honest, most men refuse to call themselves out.

@shadowstorm5261

3 ай бұрын

most women are feminists and do not cover so it balances out in the end. trash for trash

this is a discription of a relationship of enemys not husband and wife. May Allah protect all of Our brothers n sisters from a relationship like this (sorry for my english )

@driper8084

Жыл бұрын

nice Interpretation

Respect For Respect. .. ❤️

Recite ayat kursi after every salah. It was narrated that Abu Umaamah said: “The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever recites Ayatul Kursi immediately after each prescribed prayer, there will be nothing standing between him and his entering Paradise except death.”

Sometimes after giving all that respect that the shaykh said there are men who still don't give respect and love back

U should do one that says never do this to your wife

@travellover6768

2 жыл бұрын

No chance

@crypt_lazer7113

2 жыл бұрын

@@travellover6768 why?

@nyc_0021

2 жыл бұрын

@@travellover6768 why?

@shayaropinthechat5513

2 жыл бұрын

When are u gonna understand that the wife and husband have equal respect but not equal rutba

@notyourcupoftea6774

2 жыл бұрын

@@shayaropinthechat5513 what do you mean by "rutba" exactly?

It’s difficult to not want to guide your husband sometimes. Because in ‘allowing him to make his own mistakes’, the effect of that mistake will hit you as the wife as well and you’ll also bear the brunt of it. Men should please consult their wives and understand that two heads are often better than one. May Allah help us.

@shazanali8551

Жыл бұрын

Sometimes sister not all situations are the same , and i also beg younger brothers to marry outside the family .some women only turn to islam when its convinient 4 them . Yes 2 heads are better than 1 , but sometimes 1 head can be a serprnt

@husseinsoobhany6375

Жыл бұрын

Yes this definitely this men is not Muslims him he is fake Muslims I hate this kinds Muslims I tell them they love men's them obsessed with men's and everything in men's them it not Muslims. But true is a wife all truth she knows it a plus and it a gift for me it the most and happy in this plus I love her yes I fall in love 🥰 yes but this men him he talk in this video it made me angry till it more only his I can see his men's love toward men's and I can see how he want to not love of mothers too it not this me for my wifes she is older than me and it her to control everything even me the true is she is never wrongs her but one she fight I fear her I fear her never want to lose her but my mother her she is intelligent her she can defend me

@investa9772

Жыл бұрын

@@husseinsoobhany6375 You are angry at what he said?? He was talking from the hadith and the Quran u have a problem with that?

@investa9772

Жыл бұрын

@None App what??

@orwellianyoutube8978

Жыл бұрын

@None App Drop the booze.

A man doesn’t want his wife to act like a mother and yet a man can talk down to his wife to show he is in control, order her to follow his instructions, discipline her…… as though she is a child 🤔. So he doesn’t want a mother figure but she is supposed to respect him acting like a father figure?

@1982maisa

2 жыл бұрын

Men Don't want a mother figure but want their wife to respect them,cook for them, clean for them, wake up make them breakfast, have their babies, help them with their own jobs do the shopping, raise the children, look good,have energy to make love, wake up to the babies, get their clothes ready and towel read for shower, make promises they can't keep, make wife feel bad for spending money, tell her off like a kid if she makes a mistake, never give her gifts or make her feel special or appreciated, always shifting focus on their own hardships but the wife has to respect him, keep silent and be patient!!

@chaimae09

2 жыл бұрын

@@1982maisa that's not marriage, that's toxic and disgusting

@BloodlessRMZ

2 жыл бұрын

@@Noxciy Prophet's wife's where as good as him in nature, today's wife's are not, I have seen so many posting videos on Instagram and when I point them wrong, suddenly I'm the toxic men, bitch I would make this world fall under my knees but I don't wanna follow the footsteps of dajjal

@AS-qg8cc

2 жыл бұрын

Sister.... That's not the point here... This is directed to the wives and how they should conduct themselves... If we hear a lecture directed to men, it'll be about kindness to wives etc etc... When woman are out of line (and we can be many a time) then obviously need to be advised sternly without abuse.... But tough love, as men are going to be answerable about his flock (wife and kids)

@englishlessonswithtracy1488

2 жыл бұрын

@@AS-qg8cc Sorry but not in my world. Women do not need to be disciplined by their husbands!

Thats not what respect means do you want women to just act like robots😭😭? And the example is so weak

@Emily123jajajaaj

2 жыл бұрын

Agreeddddd

Great video, new revert from Ireland, Subhan Allah

We are human, we correct each other's mistakes, ponder and try to change for the better in line with Islam Sorry the example in the video makes no sense

@Nabz1415

2 жыл бұрын

It does make sense mate trust me.

@janoo2984

2 жыл бұрын

Righr it literally doesnt make sense just because a wife corrects her husband on a direction while he’s driving doesnt mean she doesnt respect him💀

@jazzstyles1246

2 жыл бұрын

I'm getting the msg but eg. are really unfair.

@guze_wolf9973

2 жыл бұрын

@@Nabz1415 nah it doesn’t

@misosoup9616

2 жыл бұрын

@@guze_wolf9973 It actually do. I could already imagine the wife passive-agressively nagging at her husband and the man starts being annoyed and yelling at his wife, trying to defend his choices, even tough he is clearly wrong, because his abillity and leadership is put in question. Not saying he's in the right to do so, just saying that thing could get escalated if not faced correctly.

is it me or in this video the Sheikh was literally presenting men as literal children? I am sorry if i come across rude but dont tell your husband if he is wrong becuz he might start to argue? and will hurt his ego? i treat my baby brother like that...like even if he is doing something that he isnt suppose to, i dont do anything cuz if not he will start to create chaos, so youre telling wives to be like this with their husbands? How can you put someone, who is that sensitive, to be in charge of the household? I am not arguing that men arent or shouldn't be in charge, yes they are, but they arent the boss and cant just do whatever they want, if they want respect they gotta give respect as well.

@misosoup9616

2 жыл бұрын

You're not supposed to come at them as if an open enemy, that's what the video wants to tell. If a husband makes a mistake, I say let him taste the full burnt of it then give him support in a form of an advice to show that the wife is on his side, even when he messed up. If the wife already become argumentative when he just realized he made a mistake before tasting the consequences of it, or worst, before he even realized he made a mistake, then that just showed, from the husband prespective, that she have little trust in his leadership and ability. Of course, I'm just talking about the little things, like making the wrong turn, failing at trying to fix the toilet by himself, ended up late to an event because he miscalculated the time, etc. Not the big thing that could ruined marriges like alcohol, gambling, drugs, domestic abuse, cheating, etc.

Husband and wife need to be able to communicate. Communication is very important. Respect goes both ways. Yes a wife should respect her husband but he should give her respect too. I agree she should let him learn from his mistakes but it’s very difficult to not assist when you know he is going to fall.

100% true, all i want is respect from my wife which is never given no matter what i do! I hope she understands this or else i am totally losing my control.

It's not men against women. It's a unity between two people who love and care for each other and support each other as one. Love, care, respect. Brothers respect and love your sisters and sister respect and love your brothers.

BarakAllahu fik for this video brother. May Allah help us in this dunya and akhyra. Ameen

Very true . If we interrupt it will end in argument It is very good to make him learn by his mistakes rather than commanding his to do so

That's both stupid and arrogant. Men are really out her thinking "respect" means shutting up and letting them do whatever on earth they want. If you can't even take criticism or advice from your spouse then you have no right getting married. A marriage is a partnership, not a one man show

@saadimran6747

2 жыл бұрын

Are you Muslim? Your swearing the prophet

@misosoup9616

2 жыл бұрын

You're not supposed to come at them as if an open enemy, that's what the video wants to tell. If a husband makes a mistake, I say let him taste the full burnt of it then give him support in a form of an advice to show that the wife is on his side, even when he messed up. If the wife already become argumentative when he just realized he made a mistake before tasting the consequences of it, or worst, before he even realized he made a mistake, then that just showed, from the husband prespective, that she have little trust in his leadership and ability. Of course, I'm just talking about the little things, like making the wrong turn, failing at trying to fix the toilet by himself, ended up late to an event because he miscalculated the time, etc. Not the big thing that could ruined marriges like alcohol, gambling, drugs, domestic abuse, cheating, etc.

@saidrew1030

2 жыл бұрын

@@misosoup9616 That's literally the dumbest take I've ever heard. Would you say the same for your family or people you love? "I love them, so I like to watch as they go down the wrong path or make an obvious and avoidable mistake when I could have helped them. When they mess up it doesn't destroy their glass like ego so it preservers our relationship". First, this is insulting to men, because you're acting like all men are insecure arrogant little narcissists. Second, you're acting as though all men would rather make easily avoidable blunders than to have someone in their life help correct them. "Let him taste the full blunt of it" if you saw someone in the street walking towards a pit would you wait and watch in order for them to experience it? I get this take if you've already advised your husband and he refused to listen, however avoiding to advise your spouse all together isn't a noble or honorable thing to do. Any normal or good person wouldn't become upset or feel their ego shatter at simply receiving advice or correction from their spouse. Of course degrading and putting down your partner is very different from advising them. Don't mix the two up. Besides this ridiculous take, why on earth would you think a women would wish to be with a man who can't take criticism or advice for even the smallest of things? How on earth would you expect your husband to listen to big concerns like you mentioned, if they can't even listen to the small stuff?

@saidrew1030

2 жыл бұрын

You guys seriously baby men and act like women should stay silent and put up with everything a man does

@misosoup9616

2 жыл бұрын

@@saidrew1030 Please re-read what I wrote. I never said to let them be in their own ignorance, I said that at small things that aren't fatal (fixing the sink, taking a differant turn than what's shown on GPS, etc). Thing that aren't really harmful, but embarrassing if talked about. Instead of saying things like "I knew you took the wrong turn", "Didn't I say that this would happaned", etc. try changing them in a kinder word that would not only not hurt the husband "ego" (Which actually is just their sense of honor and dignity in their responsibility as the man in the household), but also uplift him. And I know it seems like a small thing, something that wouldn't cause discord. But the little things do add up. And I'm not saying that all trouble in a households are because women act like this. No. No. No. I didn't say that. I'm just trying to convey the message that I got from the video and from what I witnessed myself. Again, I'm not saying all households or majority of them are like this. I myself am raised in a fairely harmonious household. I just found it odd why most people in the comment section found what the video said to be stupdi, repulsive, etc. when I thought it was reasonable. So I just tried to spread what I got from the video so that perhaps people could get a better understandings of what it's trying to say or that someone would come to me and explained why I and what's said in the video are wrong. Again, if you tought I'm wrong, then please, insted of insulting and generelising what kind of person I am, tell me why I'm wrong so I could rectify my ways and be a better person.

Woww"MEN HAVE BIG EGOS" the way he tried to validate men for having "BIG EGOS" and how we should not have any objection regarding that! Let men be self deluded, let men choose the wrong way and ladies don't try to make him go the right way because "MEN HAVE BIG EGOS"

@mariemsumher3175

2 жыл бұрын

Ikr? That part bothered me too. All the teachings of pride and ego being wrong but a woman is supposed to respect her husband and let him be self deluded and figure it out bcs he's a man and it'll hurt his ego and pride. And here I thought husband and wife were partners who trust and value each other's opinions. And supposed to help each other be better versions of themselves.

Bruh what is this, sorry but like there nothing with any of theses neither disrespecting. There’s nothing with correcting mistakes also big egos are dumb just let it go btw I’m not feminist I’m just saying it’s not them swearing and being mean at their husbands it’s just calling out mistakes and maybe doubting what’s he’s doing so at least she’s not swearing or disobeying him, also I’m girl

@Moode-od4yo

2 жыл бұрын

True I agree with you idk where he got that any way be aware of what you hear from yasir if you don’t know why you can watch daneil (Muslim skeptic ) about him

@idk22283

2 жыл бұрын

@@Moode-od4yo oh yeah I heard I don’t watch him anymore

@misosoup9616

2 жыл бұрын

You're not supposed to come at them as if an open enemy, that's what the video wants to tell. If a husband makes a mistake, I say let him taste the full burnt of it then give him support in a form of an advice to show that the wife is on his side, even when he messed up. If the wife already become argumentative when he just realized he made a mistake before tasting the consequences of it, or worst, before he even realized he made a mistake, then that just showed, from the husband prespective, that she have little trust in his leadership and ability. Of course, I'm just talking about the little things, like making the wrong turn, failing at trying to fix the toilet by himself, ended up late to an event because he miscalculated the time, etc. Not the big thing that could ruined marriges like alcohol, gambling, drugs, domestic abuse, cheating, etc.

@idk22283

2 жыл бұрын

@@misosoup9616 okk still theres nothing wrong pointing out mistakes even if they not Islam related but kindly ofc, what you said make sense maybe I looked at it closed minded he could’ve given a better example

Respect both gender equally.

Honestly, most of the people in the comment really didn't get what the video tries to say. A wife are not supposed to come at her husband as an open enemy, that's what the video wants to tell, at least that's what I got. If a husband makes a mistake, I say let him taste the full burnt of it then give him support in a form of an advice to show that the wife is on his side, even when he messed up. If the wife already become argumentative when he just realized he made a mistake before tasting the consequences of it, or worst, before he even realized he made a mistake, then that just showed, from the husband prespective, that she have little trust in his leadership and ability. Of course, I'm just talking about the little things, like making the wrong turn, failing at trying to fix the toilet by himself, ended up late to an event because he miscalculated the time, etc. Not the big thing that could ruined marriges like alcohol, gambling, drugs, domestic abuse, cheating, etc.

If the husband solves the problem himself and does not stress his wife, that' s great. But if the wife is the one solving the problems he has created in the end ...oh well.

@salmanarif6651

Жыл бұрын

Then this relationship is definitely not balanced at all.

All the womens ☕️ are on fire in comment section 😂😂😂😂 they never accept the fact 🫣😂

Wife has the right to guide her husband but must obey and respect her husband all the time! Husband must love and care for his wife and not to treat her like a slave.

Subahanallah! What if husband is controlling and he wants his wife to cut ties with her families. Should the wife just trust the husband's decision and respect him. Some man have egos that goes against Islam, without them realising. And they use this kinda hathis as a booster for their egos. We can't generalise that man's big ego is always right and follow blindly. amr bil maroof nahi anil munkar May Allah protect us.

MashAllah peace and blessings be upon our beloved prophet Muhammad S.A.W💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

Reading these comments may Allah heal and soften the hears of the bitter women in the comments most of which are bots.

I pray that Allah help every Muslim couple succeed in doing what is best to please HIM (Allahouma amin)

Many of our sisters here dont want to listen to this.

Now days wives don’t respect their husbands but they expect respect and love in return. 😂😂😂

@shadowstorm5261

Жыл бұрын

Just divorce them or get a second wife then

@shadowstorm5261

Жыл бұрын

They say these day you have to EARN it. Avoid these women and get married to real women.

@salmanarif6651

Жыл бұрын

Yep, there is a good reason why majority of women will be in jahannum due to disrespect and disobedience of their husbands

@shadowstorm5261

Жыл бұрын

@@salmanarif6651 They are there because they where ungrateful to their husband

I welcome and encourage everyone to read and listen to the Holy Quran. Subhan Allah!

@yusufsky2923

2 жыл бұрын

Assalamualaikum💯%✓

Thank you for this message

Respect is something a man EARNS by treating his wife with love and kindness. Its not to be demanded. Even if a husband demands it, no woman can truly respect a man who she doesn't like or appreciate it. Wives are not to be forced, attacked, ridiculed, humiliated or killed. A wife has the God-given right to be respected & treated kindly.

@ChoqueChuncus

Жыл бұрын

Wait so a man has to earn respect whereas respecting the wife is a God given right?

@shadowstorm5261

Жыл бұрын

A man shouldn't have to earn respect from his wife. As soon as a man has to earn it in the start the marriage is gonna be over soon.

@shadowstorm5261

Жыл бұрын

The Prophet even said if anyone were to prostrate to another person, It would have been a wife to her husband.

@shadowstorm5261

Жыл бұрын

You do realise respect and obedience is a god given right to a husband. Don't you?

@shadowstorm5261

Жыл бұрын

And it's the same with kindness

So basically we are not supposed to guide our husbands because they are very egotistic.

@misosoup9616

2 жыл бұрын

You're not supposed to come at them as if an open enemy, that's what the video wants to tell. If a husband makes a mistake, I say let him taste the full burnt of it then give him support in a form of an advice to show that the wife is on his side, even when he messed up. If the wife already become argumentative when he just realized he made a mistake before tasting the consequences of it, or worst, before he even realized he made a mistake, then that just showed, from the husband prespective, that she have little trust in his leadership and ability. Of course, I'm just talking about the little things, like making the wrong turn, failing at trying to fix the toilet by himself, ended up late to an event because he miscalculated the time, etc. Not the big thing that could ruined marriges like alcohol, gambling, drugs, domestic abuse, cheating, etc.

@zamierelate4265

2 жыл бұрын

@@misosoup9616 ooh okay, but my thing is if you marry me we become one and sometimes it's okay to put the ego aside and do what is right, not everytime you need to be right. But I also get your point

I'd rather let my husband believe he can conquer the moon and stars for me.. than make him realistic... That he cannot fix a leaky faucet. I do know for sure i am better at solving the leaky faucet problem but when he is at charge, i let him watch yt videos, ask his friends advice and figure it out himself and then thank him to pieces for fixing it for me... Overtime i have realised he is good at many other things over me... So now i have genuine respect for him!!!

Thank ou for the videos you are teaching my kids

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: It was said: O Messenger of Allah, what type of wife is best? He said: “The one who makes (her husband) happy when he looks at her, and she obeys him if he instructs her to do something, and she does not do anything with regard to herself or his wealth in a manner of which he does not approve.” Narrated by Ahmad (2/251); classed as hasan (good) by al-Albani in as-Silsilah as-Sahihah (1838).

So if I’m travelling with husband and our children and I know a head there is a huge ditch coming and I tell him don’t go a ahead I know there is a ditch there but he says no there isn’t I’m just supposed let him myself and our kids died by him driving into the ditch because I might hurt his ego?

What about when women are treated as child, everything they want to get to puchase, needs to be approved by the husband, he needs to decide what the wife needs

@shadowstorm5261

Жыл бұрын

That is normal. A wife cannot spend her husbands wealth without his permission. That is then stealing and a major sin.

May Allah forgive us, make us righteous and make us the coolness of the eyes of our spouses and them ours Aameen

Read “Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires, The Respect He Desperately Needs” by Emerson Eggerichs. Shaykh Yasir Qadhi recommended it in one of his lectures. It’s on Audible as well.

@ileanae9703

Жыл бұрын

Thanks

The example makes it hard for me to understand the message tbh. 1. Shouldn't both husband and wife respect each other? 2. Shouldn't the husband understand that his wife is trying to help him not undermine him in that situation? 3. Shouldn't the man lower his ego instead of making it his defense for not listening to his wife's advice? Yeah he can make the mistake and learn for himself, or he could understand that she's trying to help and she could also be right. Just sounds to me like the man doesn't value her words. Also, in most cases men marry and continue to treat their wives like their mothers, the wives are the ones that don't want to be a second mother. The problem comes when the nagging starts. But should men not look past their ego and see their faults that led to the nagging in the first place? Even men are humans, and humans will make mistakes. It's not a big deal as long as we learn from it. Ego will not save anyone. Therefore shouldn't men learn to be humble and kind instead of egotistic and defensive?

@mariemsumher3175

2 жыл бұрын

I'm not trying to say a woman is always right either. There are situations where the husband makes big decisions for the people he is responsible for. I believe in mutual respect. But I don't see where ego comes to play here. Isn't it shaitaans ego and pride that led him to where he is now?

@shadowstorm5261

Жыл бұрын

You know ego is not a mans only emotion. It doesn't even make sense in the most of these comments I have read

@shadowstorm5261

Жыл бұрын

And that scenario the man emotion was certainty. Not egotistical. Some women can't even understand emotions even thought the are meant to be more emotionally Intelligent/understanding than men

Absolutely her respect for her husband is a must.

@EastWestLifeInsider

2 жыл бұрын

Every one does i never seen any woman disrespecting her...but yes where they forcing for respect which they don't deserve then woman becomes rabel as now adays asian society is like this...those people give respect to her wife they get respect ...issues only with those men they don't respect their wives.

@shabanatasleem1014

2 жыл бұрын

Well, respect works both ways, personally typing. Although, men are the maintainers and protectors of women and have or are a degree above their counterparts!

@aminulhussain2751

2 жыл бұрын

@@shabanatasleem1014 Surah an Nisa verse 34, Quran. Men are the caretakers of women, as men have been provisioned by Allah over women and tasked with supporting them financially. And righteous women are devoutly obedient and, when alone, protective of what Allah has entrusted them with.

@shabanatasleem1014

2 жыл бұрын

@@aminulhussain2751 Agree.

@Xaali95

2 жыл бұрын

I mean if the person is worth respecting then why not?

What should woman do if her husband abuses her when angry, and disrespects every time.. Says he has power over her wife and can say and do whatever pleases him

Respect goes both ways in a marriage. Don’t expect respect from your wife if you treat her without kindness. If you yell or hit your wife, treat her like a child, don’t respect her opinions, you do not deserve the good pious woman that you seek. Do not expect your wife to cater to your enormous ego while you continue on with your detestable behaviour.

@thebadstation8416

Жыл бұрын

You don't have to worry about getting married. You won't get that. Women like you want to believe that all men are trash agenda 🥱

@zandileike

Жыл бұрын

@@Afghanistan_news931 obviously the same thing works in reverse, my comment is literally under a video describing how Muslim women should treat their husbands, so that’s already clear. Secondly, let’s not pretend that in majority of cases it isn’t the husband who abuses his rights over his wife, considering he is the one with authority. Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, so naturally it is also the man’s responsibility to set the pace and dynamic of the relationship if he’s the leader.. of course there are situations where the women are abusive. But more often than not it’s the other way around.

@zandileike

Жыл бұрын

@@thebadstation8416 everything I stated was factual and if you have an issue with it that’s very telling. I didn’t specifically call anyone out and I attacked no one, if you’re hurt I don’t know what to tell you other than maybe my words hit home.

@thebadstation8416

Жыл бұрын

@@zandileike Nah you feminists like to tell traditional women that they should be "free" and what not. Let them be happy.

@zandileike

Жыл бұрын

@@thebadstation8416 what does that have to do with literally anything I said? And why do men like you love throwing the word feminism around the moment anyone even says a word relating to women’s rights- it’s very telling. You just said a bunch of nonsense, trying to put words in my mouth😂 All I said was that if you’re a man watching this to also be mindful of the fact that you must treat your wife with the respect and care you expect in return, and to watch your ego. Anyways, I can guarantee you no woman in a marriage in which she’s emotionally, verbally and physically abused and is expected to be practically a servant to her husband is happy. But I digress, none of which you just said correlates with my original comment anyways. You make no sense.

I'm getting married on March 19, 2023 InshaAllah, And I hope this video would help me ..

how about lecturing about his religion?and reminding him of his Salah?I clearly said to my husband if I did wrong with as far as our religion is concerned and he was right I will surely follow him but if he is the one judging me and lecturing me about following and obeying my religion,well he won't be dismay but I'll be stubborn to him!!!no woman wants to talk and talk when she sees nothing is wrong,we are not crazy,we are just concerned of what will be the outcome of his decisions?,if I could stop him from doing such terrible acts like zina and told him and confront him would that be wrong?as they say prevention is better than cure,if respect is earned not given!!!

Jazakallahu Khairan

On lighter note “Men have big egos” - that is anything but a shock 😂

Ok calm down brother, you are making a husband sound like glass. Why don’t we just become deaf and dumb and let them just do whatever

@turqualityglobal571

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed the video doesn't make sense

@Sakinapanju

2 жыл бұрын

🤣

@dristigurung3429

Жыл бұрын

🤣🤣

Subhanallah Alhamdulillah

Husband surely deserves the respect surely surely but how a wife give respect to the husband that disgrade her disrespect her humiliate her from day one in front of his family...from where a wife gather the courage to show respect to him then???

@EastWestLifeInsider

Жыл бұрын

According to men..wife is super powerful she can do any thing when its comes to men respect but in the same time men called women is extremely stupid i really don't know what they want actually....they never satisfied anyway....

Good speech👏

I think husbands should also ask wives for their advice it shows that he also respects her a wife not only craves love but respect too and unfortunately some husbands are so arrogant even if they themselves make a mistake they go and yell at their wives why didn’t u tell me before this and that because of u it happened may Allah grannt us a respectful spouse

@abc-kn6ex

Жыл бұрын

You don't even wear hijab, your opinion doesn't matter

What about a husband who is not taking care of the finance of the house and is doing haram drinking etc and it is the wife who is taking care of the finance and is obliged to work to take care of everything....what do you think about that kind of husband? Does he deserve respect as a Muslim husband recommended by ou Prophet sss?

@misosoup9616

2 жыл бұрын

You're not supposed to come at them as if an open enemy, that's what the video wants to tell. If a husband makes a mistake, I say let him taste the full burnt of it then give him support in a form of an advice to show that the wife is on his side, even when he messed up. If the wife already become argumentative when he just realized he made a mistake before tasting the consequences of it, or worst, before he even realized he made a mistake, then that just showed, from the husband prespective, that she have little trust in his leadership and ability. Of course, I'm just talking about the little things, like making the wrong turn, failing at trying to fix the toilet by himself, ended up late to an event because he miscalculated the time, etc. Not the big thing that could ruined marriges like alcohol, gambling, drugs, domestic abuse, cheating, etc.

Very nice

Men have big egos???? What about working together to please Allah The Al moutakabir . ? What about loving and respecting each other and helping each other to attain the Pleasure of Allah and entering Jannat hand in hand ? Was our beloved prophet described like this? Soubhanallah please educate me anybody I may be wrong and Allah The all Wise knows best

I don't think wife should just keeping quiete about wrong exit on motorway. 😂😂

Wow interesting insights

@PhillyPhilly1

Жыл бұрын

This is the truth, but as you'll see in this comment section, most modern woman don't want to hear it. May Allah SWT guide us all.

I was watching the clip again. It has been a while. I like that last part: let him be self-deluded😂 People please, watch older couples how they live. I mean, a woman is not even aloud te speak if the man says something wrong. The captain is on his sinking ship and no one is aloud te speak that there is water in the ship. When the man is going down, the family should go down? That's crazy! The balance in that marriage is gone. The speaker says of the woman let the man self-deluded, the woman gets love? Please 😂😂😂 because if his big ego he dont even know how to show love.

U said that man will learn from his mistakes.....y If woman does a small mistake y everyone will make it big issue...........? If man will learn from his mistakes then same applicable for women too......and she will toooo.......

Sometimes husband is wrong so then? Every husband needs caring wife so then ? If his mother r.i.p. and no one is there then?

A good man will return your love and respect. Many women just have unrealistic expectations of what it means to be in a loving relationship. They are too entitled and just take, take, take without offering anything back. You agreed to the Nikah (for most of us anyway), so why treat your husband like he is your enemy and all of a sudden like he isn't good enough? Also, you aren't perfect?! You have to be able to offer more than just look pretty. Patience and a good character is what keeps a relationship alive. We're grown folks - lets leave the childish behaviour in the past. A man carries a burden no woman is capable of imagining. Treat your husband well, please. And talk to him. Dont keep it all inside. Men don't have intuition and they aren't mind-readers

Respect 🙌

Everyone wishes to be respected

Wallahi jese tm khud hoge wesa hi tmhara spouse bn jayega. Agr aap appreciate nahi krogy, the spouse will stop giving. Aap respect nahi krogy, the spouse will sop loving. Aap support nahi krogy, the spouse will stop growing (grow will benefit you).

Please understand that the women has to go the extra mile to protect her marriage and her husband from separating. Women should have the traits of a elegant flower even when getting mad or frustrated she shouldn’t raise her voice or show power in front of her husband. That’s the love of your life anyway duh😉. And it’s ok for both to yell at each other when there is a argument filled with emotion. On the other hand when the husband gets mad it’s ok for him to show anger because he is a man an so much is to be expected. Women please be patient with your husband and love him and he will SEE this I promise. When you don’t talk to each other go back to him and fix things once twice 3 times it’s ok there is no right or wrong you guys are married and in love with each other. Don’t let anger and pride ruin what you have. This is harder to do with the men but if the wife does this back to back the man will start to open up and love the wife more and more. So yes respect both ways but wife should understand a man’s anger and respect him I front of him and when he is not there. Don’t be pushy it’s not like you to be like that be kind sensitive shy and elegant and fall into your husband arms for love and kindness. I ask Allah to bring the hearts of married couples together and bring them peace and tranquillity and love.

@shadowstorm5261

Жыл бұрын

the feminists will never let that happen and they expect men to open up to them lol

Some of the comments😑. This video is 100% right. He never said only men deserve respect. But it's a fact that men value respect while women value love. Does that mean men shouldn't be loved and women shouldn't be respected? Come on. This video could save some marriages. It will benefit whoever is willing to listen.

Thanks

What if a wife wants to advise on matters of Deen like going to the masjid, wearing pants above the ankle, quit smoking and so on .., does she have to still be quiet and allow him to learn by his mistakes… kindly reply … it would be a turning point for many of the problems Muslim wives face Jazakallahu khairan

Meh, if he is in the wrong road and the wife knows, he will blame the wife for not telling him instead. Some people prefer to blame others no matter what.

They dont learn from their mistskes. They cant accept thier mistakes

Unfortunately in most cases men have betrayed and disrespected women who are the most obedient and the most respectful.

@abc-kn6ex

Жыл бұрын

Wrong

A wife could only advise a man has a final say regardless of right or wrong

I can't believe all imams want to be respect and do everythings for them by their wives. What about the wives and some of them are assaulted by husbands. Are there some imams to talk about that? I feel sad.

I am not sure if I agree with this. A self deluded husband can mean a lot of instability and chaos at home. They will end up doing one thing after another just putting down the wife in possibly everything and then blame the wife for not complying because it was unreasonable.

@shadowstorm5261

Жыл бұрын

Remove your profile picture

@shadowstorm5261

Жыл бұрын

A self deluded wife also causes chaos. You didn't understand the example.

Isn't having an ego and pride itself haram

Mashallah 🥇🏅🏆⭐️👍

If he's going to have ego trip over being corrected then I would lose respect for him.

@shadowstorm5261

Жыл бұрын

That's not an ego trip. Are you even a woman. Why can't you understand that this emotion is not ego

The sheik he’s right I seen some wives does to husbands. There’s some good wives understand the husbands and some husbands understand wives

This goes both ways?!!! And second: Wive's do have ego too.... But good Video! :D

You know what as a woman I don't need a husband at all so I have no one to owe myself to at all. If you have a husband who is poorly educated and a.bit dim how can you stand by him and not have doubt. We both need to learn and grow and the last thing a woman like me needs is an arrogant mother in law ready to control. I am free and I am.a woman free of the need for man.