Stealth or Not? Why I Chose to Be Visible as a Transguy | vlog 92

In this video, I open up about my decision to be visible as a transgender man rather than living in stealth.
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  • @michael1704
    @michael17044 ай бұрын

    Being part of the LGBTQIA+ community, I want to thank you for sharing your story because it will make a difference in someone's life who is watching. There is so much hate being directed towards our community that many young people feel little hope. You give these people hope. So I want to thank you. Thank you! ❤

  • @Daan_Spieard

    @Daan_Spieard

    4 ай бұрын

    ❤️

  • @quatre4
    @quatre44 ай бұрын

    I really like your content, the way it really feels unscripted, makes me feel like I'm listening to a friend. I think I understand how you feel about wanting to talk about your identity online, I have found that it is very freeing. But most often then not, especially early in transition like I am, I have noticed that friends and familly are uncomfortable with me when I bring it up, so I had to find community online to share it. I want to talk about it but I want to talk about it with people who cares and are willing to listen.

  • @Daan_Spieard

    @Daan_Spieard

    4 ай бұрын

    Thanks! for me, it was also just that I myself was uncomfortable talking about it to friends and family. As in "you don't care anyway", but it turned out that people are actually quite curious, only sometimes afraid of asking the wrong questions

  • @Rose_Window
    @Rose_Window4 ай бұрын

    Young and older people alike 😅 - these sharings have been really helpful for my exploring and realising my gender identity, and feeling less alone as a thirty-something trans person who wasn't relating to the more energetic and younger trans people who have grown up with a language around this as a young person. P. S. I hate to point this out (because, the world! 😢) but Daan - I feel like you shouldn't give away details that could show people where you live like being close to a notable landmark! Just incase there's someone dangerous out there - really want you to be safe. ❤

  • @Daan_Spieard

    @Daan_Spieard

    4 ай бұрын

    Thanks :) oh and "close" is not that close :)

  • @Rose_Window
    @Rose_Window4 ай бұрын

    I appreciate that you aren't stealth, even though I completely understand why people feel or need to do this. So much of our formative years are pre-transition when we transition older and so much of the interesting parts of us, like how you talk about animals 😊 - from the music and gigs you went to, to the films and books and hobbies and personal passions that make up who you've been and who you are. I think the underdeveloped parts of me are mostly in my sexual identity because I've not felt connected to my body enough to feel that, but otherwise I feel a layered, complex person in lots of ways and I too, wouldn't want to deny those experiences that have made me who I am today. I realise I was suppressing parts of myself, but there are still a lot of parts I had been developing, like creativity, empathy, film nerdiness, etc. I think you should let all your colours shine vibrantly, even if they were dimmed somewhat in the past. It sounds like you know who you are, and I enjoy that you're sharing it with us (and that you're honest about the reasons behind that). No, you aren't all about being trans, but it's had a massive impact on who you were before and who you are now and the places inbetween that also give you space to be all those colours, and there's no shame in being honest about that part of you. Sorry, for the cheesiness, but this video made me really happy, and I enjoyed seeing you embrace yourself this way and your being open as always. ❤ Thanks for sharing and enjoy your week!

  • @Daan_Spieard

    @Daan_Spieard

    4 ай бұрын

    ❤️❤️

  • @markgreene3483
    @markgreene34834 ай бұрын

    Great video. You look so happy and content. Keep up the good work and thanks for sharing your journey. Also, you look so good in the orange hoodie. Have a great week.

  • @user-id8ci2ll9f
    @user-id8ci2ll9f4 ай бұрын

    As a trans man I’m planning on being stealth when I move to Spain. Mainly because I want to know what life feels like when your just perceived as a man instead of a trans man. Living in Canada as a trans man is fine, people are very open minded but sometimes my friends/people slip up and misgender me due to the habit of using she/her pronouns or the fact that they know my deadname leaves a bad taste in my mouth and I’m trying to avoid this with my new life in Spain. I do not want to be completely stealth in Spain, especially dating wise but I want to be in charge of deciding who gets to know my personal info (being trans) etc. (if that makes sense)

  • @Daan_Spieard

    @Daan_Spieard

    4 ай бұрын

    I can imagine, early on, my idea was also to go somewhere where nobody knew me. Just to kind of start over again.

  • @disqon
    @disqon3 ай бұрын

    You helped me make my decision as a 37 year old, I'm 9 months on T now and got top surgery soon, so..thank you for not being stealth.

  • @rainbowtropolis
    @rainbowtropolis4 ай бұрын

    Of course, being in the US, I had to look up 17 KM to miles 🤦🤫🤭 That's a lovely long walk! 🌳🌲 It's so hard to be stealth these days. Even asking people to not talk about it, they still do! (Just not when we're listening) Sharing the journey for others online is wonderful, we all need support (especially people like me in small towns that are just wanting to find others who share their stories as well). I wanted to be stealth for safety reasons, but still have videos up online so others can find them in a search (once I fix my channel after YT deleted most of the videos 😒) The boundaries of student/teacher and professional/help seekers are definitely a great set to have and keep! The stories are there, but the identities need to be protected I agree. I take care of a lot of elderly people who are embarrassed about their living situations or health issues. I don't feel like it's right to share their personal information/conditions with others. If they want to, that's their prerogative. 9:20 The internet never forgets 😶, unless it's on their terms 🙃 Is it safe to be trans/out in your country? You don't have to answer if you don't want to. Here in the US it's fairly dangerous because of the hate on the other side. I would love to be more out and share my story with my community. I'm 47 and think it's about time we have more open minds about things like this 👍 Transitioning later in life is such a breath of fresh air, it would be wonderful to share the joys of finally being happy with who we are inside and out 😊 Where I am (northern Minnesota), moose get MUCH bigger! Is that one a baby moose? Keep being awesome, And thank you for sharing! I'm always happy to find another channel to enjoy the education and happiness of others going through this journey 😊

  • @Daan_Spieard

    @Daan_Spieard

    4 ай бұрын

    It's safe to be out in my country, at least for me. I do feel more tension lately which is sometimes kind of scary. Ohh and it was a baby moose :)

  • @rainbowtropolis

    @rainbowtropolis

    4 ай бұрын

    @@Daan_Spieard It's weird how things in this country seem to have affected other countries. I hope things stay safe over there.

  • @MaltoonYezi
    @MaltoonYezi4 ай бұрын

    Wow, you look quite handsome right now ❤

  • @Him_He_Me
    @Him_He_Me4 ай бұрын

    Wow how long did it take you to walk 17km?? I will try to walk just 1km lol. I dont have the beautiful forests that you do in the Netherlands. Its just too hot here. Im hoping to get my top surgery at the end of the year. Woo!!!! Its very difficult to be stealth at work. I transitioned at work. My dead name is all over my ID documents. And the students ask me all the time are you a girl or boy. Some days I just really dont want to talk about it. Im getting more facial hair!!!!!

  • @wav3rid3r
    @wav3rid3r2 ай бұрын

    You are such a calm person lol