STARTING OVER

HELLO welcome back for part two in this video we are officially starting the move to MAIMI part three will be out in a few days. Thank you to everyone for the GENUINE outpour of love in my last video I am so blessed to have such an incredible KZread family I love you guys !
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  • @CarrieAnn
    @CarrieAnn9 ай бұрын

    Filming a Q&A next please leave your questions below love you guys! 🩵🩵🩵

  • @laurenschenck5355

    @laurenschenck5355

    9 ай бұрын

    How is your new life Florida going? How is your mental and physical health? what will be your new KZread content and etc? Do you plan on doing a make up line or clothing line? One day Are you seeing a therapist to help you exercising and etc? LUV U ❤

  • @asmamujib7125

    @asmamujib7125

    9 ай бұрын

    How do you feel about working as flight attendant? What did you learn from your last relationship. What’s helps you stay positive during your hard time? Reason of your break up? And was it a mutual decision to end it.

  • @christixo7017

    @christixo7017

    9 ай бұрын

    Do you plan to change bases again ?

  • @larissa7454

    @larissa7454

    9 ай бұрын

    Do you want to post more on Tik Tok instead of KZread?

  • @carlabarrick8538

    @carlabarrick8538

    9 ай бұрын

    What was the event, circumstance, and/or moment that convinced you that you needed to start over? Your story, experience will help so many women who may be in the same circumstance. They will know to decide to choose themselves and move forward independently. We love ya Carrie 💗

  • @katherinestrotman1162
    @katherinestrotman11629 ай бұрын

    Girl, I'm 31 and more than likely about to start over myself. I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason, and when the right thing comes around, it'll stay around. So it's completely okay to allow yourself to start over and shed the old you for bigger and better things. Another thing that makes me laugh a little, is that starting over at our ages is so much better than if it were in our early 20's. At this point in our lives, we have established careers and we make good money. We are independent and don't NEED a man, as we can take care of ourselves. We can do whatever we want, whenever we want. It's a weird place to be in, but it's an exciting place to be in. So take these next few months to tend to your own garden. Do things that make you happy, grow as a person and make your flowers bloom even better than they were before! Take this time to learn more about yourself and do more things for yourself than you've ever done before. This is your era, this is your time, make that garden as beautiful as you know it can be! :)

  • @carlabarrick8538

    @carlabarrick8538

    9 ай бұрын

    As someone who is a bit older than you both, who has been a long time advocate for women having agency to do what's best for their lives, this makes me so happy. This is the strength, resilience and financial independence that I hope for every woman. And through content creators like Carrie, we can support each other as we make our best lives with people in our personal lives who respect us. 💗

  • @frenchie4882
    @frenchie48829 ай бұрын

    I completely started my life over at 34. New career, new relationship, new side of the country. It can be uncomfortable, but it was the best decision of my life. Cheers to your new adventures!

  • @788heathrann

    @788heathrann

    9 ай бұрын

    Omg I’m doing the same thing right now. All day every day I question what I’m doing and this comment made me cry and gave me the reassurance that I needed more than ever. Thank you! ❤❤❤

  • @skyangelthefan
    @skyangelthefan9 ай бұрын

    You are a Strong/Smart/Beautiful woman! I am 52 yo and after, I decided to do what is best for me and end my marriage after 22 year’s…I am also, starting over again in life. One of the best parts of FA ✈️ life is how our FA family comes through for each other when our lives gets turned upside/down. I have reinvented my career/life for the better 3 times going on 4 and I look at it as new chapters in my story chapter of life. Starting over/new journey in life is not always a bad thing. You got this!!! 🙌👍🙌✈️

  • @elizabethbass3826
    @elizabethbass38269 ай бұрын

    Hugs girl. It’s more than ok to start over at 29. You won’t regret putting yourself first. I started over at 32. Love yourself and do what’s best for you. Looking forward to your next video! 💜

  • @thecleaningteacher638
    @thecleaningteacher6389 ай бұрын

    I appreciate that this is real life. Starting over is hard, but it is worth it. So glad that you are back on YT. Wishing you strength and peace of mind during all of this change. 💗🙏🏼

  • @VenisPonce
    @VenisPonce9 ай бұрын

    OMG I'm so glad you are back...how could you leave us hanging like that lol! You are doing amazingly, btw! Don't feel bad because this is your story... good things are on the way for you 😉

  • @CozyCottageDays
    @CozyCottageDays9 ай бұрын

    Starting over is hard, but you are doing it so beautifully! Love the apt and decor! 💜

  • @HannaHasAPlan
    @HannaHasAPlan9 ай бұрын

    Part 2! Can't wait to watch ❤

  • @pamelakautz9803
    @pamelakautz98039 ай бұрын

    It is sooo good to have you back!!! I’m sorry your furniture was damaged. Starting over can be rough but it will be worth it. You got this!!❤

  • @Ashanti0826
    @Ashanti08269 ай бұрын

    Congratulations on the move and new place❤! That automatic liter box is amazing!!!

  • @sydneygonzales2269
    @sydneygonzales22699 ай бұрын

    New starts !!!! Sending you the best vibes.

  • @lillucky260
    @lillucky2609 ай бұрын

    So glad you are back on KZread! Wishing you nothing but the best and happiness to come your way! 😊😊

  • @JennyLaaLaa
    @JennyLaaLaa9 ай бұрын

    Happy to have you back making videos!You are so strong!

  • @user-ni4dx8qu4w
    @user-ni4dx8qu4w9 ай бұрын

    Welcome back! Look at you being so brave! Good things to come!

  • @marie-pierrelebreux2824
    @marie-pierrelebreux28249 ай бұрын

    Very very happy to see you back! Courage and love from 🇨🇦 Montreal!🙌🩷

  • @ashleyanna8965
    @ashleyanna89659 ай бұрын

    So happy to see you back on KZread. I have followed your channel for so long. I pray this chapter is Amazing for you. Congratulations on Miami

  • @nyoliver
    @nyoliver9 ай бұрын

    Omg we missed you!!! So glad you’re back even with all your life changes. Good things coming for you!

  • @TheMistressP
    @TheMistressP9 ай бұрын

    great vlog!I applaud you for starting over! I started over at 32 its great to get out of your comfort zone and learn about yourself most people opt to stay comfortable w/o the Freas start you will may never know who you could/can become.kudos to you!

  • @yosaysay
    @yosaysay9 ай бұрын

    So glad to see you back! I'm ready to come along for the ride!

  • @thexxit
    @thexxit9 ай бұрын

    You are so young! There is no timeline for starting over. Life is too short to be unhappy. Things are rough in transition but I see brightness in your future. Plus, we're all here to support you whenever you need it!

  • @radhikaraj7394
    @radhikaraj73949 ай бұрын

    Carrie you are so strong and you are doing AMAZING love the apartment! ❤

  • @marie-michelelariviere5687
    @marie-michelelariviere56879 ай бұрын

    Hey Carrie! Congratulations on the new appartement, you are doing great in your progress! Sending you strength to keep on moving up. Looking already forward to your next video ❤

  • @Itsmecrissylee
    @Itsmecrissylee9 ай бұрын

    You got this girl! We drove 3000 miles 2 months ago to florida. Starting over was scary and exciting at the same time. Enjoy the ride.

  • @sso2183
    @sso21839 ай бұрын

    Carrie! So excited to see you back on KZread! You're such a light and my favorite thing I still do is cutting up peppers and putting cream cheese and everything bagel seasoning on as a snack! I took that from you in one of your vlogs! This new chapter is going to be great and so sorry to hear about the whole bridesmaid situation. Really really tough but you handled it with so much grace and maturity! Wishing you good things in your future!

  • @jordan-leedavies
    @jordan-leedavies9 ай бұрын

    Girl all I’m saying is that I’m very proud of you. You doing amazing. I love the independence. ❤

  • @TheLauren1113
    @TheLauren11139 ай бұрын

    Love your apartment. Glad to see you back. Moving is so stressful.

  • @shantgarcia7112
    @shantgarcia71129 ай бұрын

    You did the right thing for you. Change is okay. Glad your back girlie ❤

  • @user-pf5wm9be5u
    @user-pf5wm9be5u9 ай бұрын

    So happy your back and we can see what you been up too your such a amazing person

  • @dana92
    @dana929 ай бұрын

    Thank you for showing starting over in an age and situation that most would not. I know that “exposing” yourself is hard but this series has been really impactful

  • @grneyz0529
    @grneyz05299 ай бұрын

    So excited to see your Place finished!!! It already looks beautiful!! So sorry you are going through all of this but so happy you are back ❤❤❤❤

  • @megantjelle9062
    @megantjelle90629 ай бұрын

    So glad you’re back Carrie!! I missed your videos so much!!

  • @Ana_Bustos
    @Ana_Bustos9 ай бұрын

    Sending you so many blessings on this new chapter in your life Carrie ❤

  • @pzouav88
    @pzouav889 ай бұрын

    I cant wait for more content!! You’re thriving Carrie ❤

  • @stud88100
    @stud881009 ай бұрын

    I'm happy you finally got your apartment. It looks great. Good luck at your new base. Hope everything works out with your stuff from the movers

  • @leslieschaffer2495
    @leslieschaffer24959 ай бұрын

    You go girl! Cheering you on.

  • @jolynneraymond1108
    @jolynneraymond11089 ай бұрын

    Your apartment is really nice and Rocky seems to be setting in. Wishing you all the best in your fresh start

  • @BollywoodMediaOnline
    @BollywoodMediaOnline9 ай бұрын

    I am SOO glad you are back, Carrie !! We missed you soo much. Thank you for sharing your story, and being so vulnerable. I know it's hard ♥

  • @flyingcali
    @flyingcali9 ай бұрын

    I love how you keep following your dreams and staying strong. Keep looking for your balance and well being❤ that's the most important thing. Im starting over again and it gets tough but you can do this and EVERYTHING❤ Thanks for coming back

  • @319mmeza
    @319mmeza9 ай бұрын

    I’m so glad you’re back Carrie!!! ❤

  • @CurlyChick82
    @CurlyChick829 ай бұрын

    I love the kitchen !! Your place is beautiful!!

  • @adriennecruz3843
    @adriennecruz38439 ай бұрын

    Admire your -- as usual -- calmness and determination. Very inspiring! Good luck with new place.

  • @LynettaaShay
    @LynettaaShay9 ай бұрын

    You’ve got this Carrie! I just turned 29 too and I’m starting over as well, single and new city, new job, and starting flight school! I hope to see you in the skies one day ✈️

  • @floralscentkim1380
    @floralscentkim13809 ай бұрын

    Girl…so glad you are back! I am glad you’re okay and I missed you so much. Life throws wrenches at us and helps us get stronger. Low times really make the great times even greater. You will find someone that fills your heart and mind fully. For now, you have Rocky and know you can do thing on your own. Good luck and thanks for sharing your story. ❤

  • @camopug
    @camopug9 ай бұрын

    Genuinely so happy to see you back on the youtubes. It's never too late to start over.

  • @reneebrattain9712
    @reneebrattain97129 ай бұрын

    So so so glad you are back! We missed you! I know you posted this video but how are you really doing since the love and everything? Love you girl ❤

  • @alison0313
    @alison03139 ай бұрын

    Glad you're back!!! Now you have to keep vlogging because we are going to need regular Rocky updates!

  • @wnapeek13
    @wnapeek139 ай бұрын

    Welcome to South Florida. It’s hard starting over but it’s worth it. I cannot wait to see all your new adventures.

  • @jenn3486
    @jenn34869 ай бұрын

    So glad you are happy! I've followed you for awhile and I'm glad you're back. Rocky is such a good kitty and I love your content! I hope Miami is the move you need. Everytime I book a flight I try to use AA in hopes I might meet you. Take care!

  • @PurpleHaze929
    @PurpleHaze9299 ай бұрын

    So glad to see you back. You are a strong & resilient young woman to pack up & drive that far & start over. I am a senior citizen & I could never do that. I admire your tenacity. Great looking apartment & your kitty is so cute. Everything will work out. Stay strong & many blessings. Debbie 🙏😊

  • @kristaebayless5906
    @kristaebayless59069 ай бұрын

    I really enjoy your channel. You’ve helped me realize flying isn’t scary and when I fly I think of you and I feel more confident! Please continue to make LOTS OF VIDEOS! I love them!!!♥️

  • @emilyc4363
    @emilyc43639 ай бұрын

    So happy for you and love that you’re back!! What do you do to your hair? Highlights? I want what you’ve got going on! ❤

  • @Meredithlovification
    @Meredithlovification9 ай бұрын

    I would keep both showering curtains. Gives so much beach vibes and love it. You got so many cute finds! Congrats on the new place.

  • @Nikki...
    @Nikki...9 ай бұрын

    Sorry about all the damage to your stuff! OMGoodness! Looking forward to the next video!❤

  • @michellelynnwebster9592
    @michellelynnwebster95929 ай бұрын

    I absolutely adore you!!! Missed you.

  • @lawrenceakini9507
    @lawrenceakini95079 ай бұрын

    Thanks for this vlog. Take care. Have an amazing week. Fly and stay safe. Cheers.

  • @ck4426
    @ck44269 ай бұрын

    God Bless You and your family and may you lean on God to give you the patience and strength to get through this time. We are all here for you too.

  • @RJ-mw2gw
    @RJ-mw2gw9 ай бұрын

    I can’t wait to hear more!

  • @juliekostas7322
    @juliekostas73229 ай бұрын

    New beginnings are very exciting! The apartment is gorgeous and so is your adorable cat----what a luv bug !! You will never be lonely having her at your side. Miami is an incredibly fun place to be---you will love it. Think of quickie trips to the Bahamas etc? I can't wait to see how Miami life turns out for you! :)

  • @ParisRodriguez10281987
    @ParisRodriguez102819879 ай бұрын

    First, I just have to say that I love that you're back and watching your videos feels like I'm catching up with a friend, lol. Second, do not EVER feel bad about starting over. Your life is not on some artificial timeline. Everything happens in its own perfect timing. Don't feel like you're ahead or behind. You're right where you're supposed to be. Enjoy the new moments and memories. Enjoy the new places and spaces. Enjoy all the friends and family and good people who are meant to be in your life. I'm, a firm believer that everything will work out and be okay in the end. (***I say this not to imply that you were negative at all, because I actually think you seem like a really positive person, I was only speaking to you feeling bad about your age and having to start over)

  • @Heatherkc1995
    @Heatherkc19959 ай бұрын

    Yay can’t wait for more vids and updates 😍

  • @raigeyraigs
    @raigeyraigs9 ай бұрын

    SOOOOOO excited for video #2!!! I’ve missed the Carrie content so much 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼

  • @beginstepper
    @beginstepper9 ай бұрын

    I love the new wine glasses! Cheers to new beginnings 🥂

  • @kazzicup
    @kazzicup9 ай бұрын

    The cat is travelling with you to Miami ! 😼 She is obviously an intelligent cat and doesn't get scared. Many cats are anxious when travelling.

  • @kaileykinman5247
    @kaileykinman52479 ай бұрын

    We had one of those carts when we lived at the lofts!! Such a great purchase

  • @hollyd551
    @hollyd5519 ай бұрын

    I love the new apartment!🎉

  • @WonderfullyAle
    @WonderfullyAle9 ай бұрын

    So glad you're back!!

  • @crs5305
    @crs53059 ай бұрын

    I started over at 30 after a 8 year relationship, it was the best thing to ever happen to me ❤

  • @totorowtt
    @totorowtt9 ай бұрын

    Congrats! I’ve always wanted to live in FL! I hope u enjoy it ❤️

  • @amarilystorres8527
    @amarilystorres85279 ай бұрын

    Been there done it all accross the ocean w/child. Good news is Yes You Can, Will Succeed!!! Best wishes always 🎉

  • @loriemckinley5317
    @loriemckinley53179 ай бұрын

    Prayers

  • @laceyballiet6627
    @laceyballiet66279 ай бұрын

    Girl, it is never too late to start over. A little birdie told me you moved to Miami. But I am glad to see you are back on KZread. I’ve been wondering about you. Welcome back!!!

  • @michaelandjaime1534
    @michaelandjaime15349 ай бұрын

    Would love to see your makeup routine!! Beautiful place

  • @lmmbchampion
    @lmmbchampion9 ай бұрын

    Your new apartment is coming along nicely…it’s going to have such a great vibe:) Break ups are so difficult but I feel that something you did that help facilitate your healing is moving to Miami. Doesn’t seem like it now though and I’m so sorry, my heart is with you 🥰😘

  • @skkeech
    @skkeech9 ай бұрын

    I had a similar moving situation earlier this year. Moved with two cats to Asheville from Florida. I had to leave one place because it was owned by a slumlord who somehow couldn't keep homeless people from sleeping in the building's basement and then it was a mess trying to move out. So many angry calls and tears to get things figured out. UGH! Renting now is a freaking nightmare!

  • @garydhenderson3559
    @garydhenderson35599 ай бұрын

    Glad ur back missed your story's nice apartment.

  • @shanafranck2214
    @shanafranck22149 ай бұрын

    So happy your back but also so sorry for everything. This too shall pass . From one Illinois girl to another

  • @Gisellej80
    @Gisellej809 ай бұрын

    ❤ happy Sunday. Cheers to Miami

  • @laurapoole702
    @laurapoole7029 ай бұрын

    So glad you are okay! I was worried about you!

  • @kimberlylalley7255
    @kimberlylalley72559 ай бұрын

    Oh my Goddess! You left us hanging. I'm an ORD based FA and started watching you during the pandemic. Just started working for the same company in April. I can tell how much you love your Calico Rocky. I had the same cat carrier in blue and before I went to training, I traveled coast to coast with my precious calico kitty. I fostered her in March 2020 and adopted her " August 2020 and we had great adventures traveling coast to coast. I found it maddening to book "pet " friendly hotels to arrive and discover they would NOT accept cats! Sadly, she left last month after 21+ years and a multitude of health issues. Who takes care of Rocky when you're on trips? I may be coming to MIA eventually and boost your seniority. I'm looking forward to your next chapter. Your apartment reminds me of one I had in Alexandria, VA.

  • @drushenaclemons3694
    @drushenaclemons36949 ай бұрын

    Welcome back. I’m so happy to see your beautiful face ❤️❤️❤️

  • @LStottmann
    @LStottmann9 ай бұрын

    Girl, I started completely over at 31 years old. It was hard, I can’t lie to you. But when it started getting easier I never felt more alive in my life. Age is just a number, you’re still very young and have so much time (but I absolutely know how it doesn’t feel that way). You will look back on your life when you’re older and realize how brave and awesome the decisions you made when you were young were. Stuff like that hurts, but not forever, and you seem to be doing pretty well and you’re very level headed. Only up from here ❤

  • @kimluarks2418
    @kimluarks24189 ай бұрын

    Ugh girl... such a cliffhanger! Can't wait to hear the story and get caught up on everything Carrie Ann! Sounds like you've been through it all lately! Sending you all my love from Denver! ❤

  • @jadedgirl37

    @jadedgirl37

    9 ай бұрын

    I know right ? Lol I want to see more

  • @DollyJohanne
    @DollyJohanne9 ай бұрын

    Sending love, and a hug, and you can and will do this! 💪🏻💚 Keep it up! Love from Johanne, Norway 🇳🇴

  • @jbabe1970
    @jbabe19709 ай бұрын

    This is just the beginning!!! You are at the best age! At least it was for me. Hang in there. This will be an adventure for you and you are only improving yourself. Best of luck.

  • @FloridasStormchasingAdventures
    @FloridasStormchasingAdventures9 ай бұрын

    you well love south florida watch out for hurricanes. welcome to south florida

  • @8lydster
    @8lydster9 ай бұрын

    She’s in her healing era! so proud of you and so happy to have you back. ❤

  • @BridgetSilva24
    @BridgetSilva249 ай бұрын

    When I tell you I ran !!!! I’m first ! I’m so excited !

  • @melvtudor
    @melvtudor9 ай бұрын

    Welcome to Miami!

  • @belindarickman5790
    @belindarickman57909 ай бұрын

    @Carrieann I’m 29 and just had to start over and it’s the worst feeling ever and the hardest thing I’ll have to do but it was for the best and we have got this 💪🏻🙏🏻

  • @Deana9528
    @Deana95289 ай бұрын

    I always wondered how in the world u can afford such luxury on a FA salary. I was a FA for 20 years and was lucky to afford a Honda and crappy apt. I had to get a 2nd job as a bartender.

  • @monicacenteno7584
    @monicacenteno75849 ай бұрын

    I’m so glad your back!!! I loved watching your videos!! And all of a sudden I had seen you stopped posting and I was sad. Looking to become a flight attendant but my height may not allow me to be one 😢

  • @pacificnw5394
    @pacificnw53949 ай бұрын

    I switched to decaf and had a huge improvement in anxiety and panic attacks that were unexplained. I do enjoy cold brew, which has a lot of caffeine and i have one occasionally with a meal to help offset the effects.

  • @sabrinawyatt1002
    @sabrinawyatt10029 ай бұрын

    Congratulations ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @saratripp5037
    @saratripp50379 ай бұрын

    The apartment is beautiful and I’m so excited to see where this next independent chapter will take you! A new place is scary but so refreshing I hope you love it.

  • @khaylapeters4139

    @khaylapeters4139

    9 ай бұрын

    Agreed!

  • @mauritaedwards8917
    @mauritaedwards89179 ай бұрын

    Your NEW PLACE is so Cute ❤❤❤

  • @wondawomenluvsupaman
    @wondawomenluvsupaman9 ай бұрын

    In future if you need a cashiers check or money order, you can get them done at the post office for a small fee. We used to pay our rent via cashiers check only because our apartment office kept double charging our automatic payment method.

  • @Letsflywithgreg
    @Letsflywithgreg9 ай бұрын

    I can totally relate & understand! I had to start all over and leave Dallas in January (after living on my own for 3 years!) and temp moved back home to my family in WA State and then moved in with roomies in Orlando after getting based here a couple mos ago.I haven't had roommates since 2009! So I get the struggle....But... It will get better for us! I at 36 never thought I would be where I am at but I am grateful for the experiences and people that have surrounded my life. Sometimes it takes starting over to see what you need and what you can do without. X Happy for you and so glad to see you're back and doing so much better. We did miss you! Q; What was the highlight of your year off from social media? What all did you take with you into this new journey?? X -Greg

  • @claudiavasquez1368
    @claudiavasquez13689 ай бұрын

    Wishing the best in this next chapter!! I’m glad you made him your ex, you need to be with someone who accepts all facets of you and your life and the fact the was never on your videos made me think of that, you are such a beautiful person inside and out

  • @Marlene0203
    @Marlene02039 ай бұрын

    First love your new apartment and happy that you get to decorate it, to the way you like it for the first time. What made you make this decision to leave your life in Phili?