I was born single, became an orphan at the age of nine, immigrated from a tiny island to a new country at the age of 18yrs all by my lonesome self. I have lived on my own as a single parent, no family & no partner. I worked and took care of my self and my kid, and retired at 60. I did all the things others who had partners and family members did all by myself. I travelled to far away places on my own, I took myself to hospital emergency services and back home all on my own. I am now on my 72 year, still living on my own and living healthy happily. Life is Good!

@hepzirose

3 ай бұрын

Amazing

@thatswhatisaid8908

3 ай бұрын

I admire you! It can't have been easy. Well done, you!

@silverandsolo

3 ай бұрын

Inspiring!

@wildflowerwind6941

3 ай бұрын

That is amazing.

@winniebt600

3 ай бұрын

Admirable & Inspiring.

Living alone is glorious and infinitely better than living with the wrong person.

@Sinfulscents

Ай бұрын

You can say that again! My mom always says you don’t know someone until you live with them and it’s very true!

@voulafisentzidis8830

Ай бұрын

@@JobsApp-qz4ws if you're alone you may as well be, literally, alone!

@voulafisentzidis8830

Ай бұрын

@@JobsApp-qz4ws I wouldn't know as I don't allow people who attack to stick around.

@tracybrewer3377

Ай бұрын

I lived with the same partner for 34 yrs and a couple of years ago I told him to leave. So been on my own since. Also I don't know anyone in the city I live. Everyone I did know is in the scene of things I don't want. It was the drug scene and I don't want to do that anymore at all. Plus I have social phobia so that doesn't help. I watched your video and I got to say I love the idea of the house 🏠 journal. That's something I will do. Even though I don't own this home I rent.

@voulafisentzidis8830

Ай бұрын

@@tracybrewer3377 good for you. Best of luck.

I've been alone for 25 years. My Dad always used to say " You are you're own best friend"

@SUJAMUK

2 ай бұрын

Agree.

@lauralittle6899

2 ай бұрын

That's so sweet and it's great advice!

@mariehaverty8209

2 ай бұрын

Agree 100% with 👨

@pallavisreetambraparni6995

2 ай бұрын

Agree with your dad 100 percent

@davidbowie2046

2 ай бұрын

@@pallavisreetambraparni6995 Thank You. Miss him to bits. He was one of my best friends as well as being my Dad.

My mom taught me that if you learn to love to read, you will have a friend for life. Looks like you have lots of friends.

@nterrigno1

2 ай бұрын

Ha, ha, ha...your Mama was ABSOLUTELY correct...nothing like a great book. Now add on nice walks, healthy meals, cleaning house, washing clothes and taking care of hygiene, and great films. YUP...no one can bark orders at you, ignore you, mock you, abuse you and so on....

@janetstotler399

Ай бұрын

I LOVE to read, paint, there are so many things to do.

@annalieff-saxby568

Ай бұрын

That is so true!

@MexicoDigDoctor

Ай бұрын

@kimlarson7136 My mom told me the EXACT same thing 😂. She was so right! Books, cats, a strong belief in a Higher Power, and a killer sense of humor are what have kept me going strong for 65 years (not necessarily in that order). I loved this video and am now suscribed. Blessings to you and everyone on here from my 5 indoor kitties and me! 🤗🇲🇽

@Teffi_Club

11 күн бұрын

​@@MexicoDigDoctorHi back to your kitties and you. 😊

I've been alone since I was 34; I'm now 86. I'm in charge of the bank account, the TV remote, and the thermostat. I love it! I'm in perfect health, take no prescriptions, no stress.

@spir5102

2 ай бұрын

Good for you, I am 76 years old live alone with my two dogs, and I’ve been on my own for 30 years. I was married to a narcissist for 24 years. The comparison of the two worlds is simply amazing! I am my own boss. I do whatever I want to do whenever I want to do it, don’t have to answer to anyone. It is pure bliss! I also do organic gardening. Beautiful!

@matios6013

2 ай бұрын

🙏🌼🌻🙏

@annieearle962

2 ай бұрын

That’s why you are in good health….no partner to get permission for every move/thought. You are in control.

@carolcollins3108

2 ай бұрын

Thank you, I feel inspired. I've been living alone for 26 years now. I'm happy in my own simple way.

@sandrahuddart1611

2 ай бұрын

.Good for you...well done...

You can never feel more alone than to live with someone who refuses to communicate! I left my husband because of his indifference towards me. I now live with my two dogs in a very secure village home. It's so nice to be able to do what you want, when you want! Viva being single! 👍😊🇬🇧

@kensmith2796

2 ай бұрын

I'm glad you got out. My sister has been married to a narcissist for 30 years and he pays zero attention to her. I feel bad when I go to visit. It seems like such a depressing life. I wish she had the strength to move on.

@dianahogg6164

2 ай бұрын

Well done, being alone is blessing. Me too lonely marriage.

@gcompton6104

2 ай бұрын

Same.

@calgal5752

2 ай бұрын

Absolutely! The most lonely I ever felt was when I was married. I’m single and never lonely now.

@sayitlikeitis8759

2 ай бұрын

The loneliest thing in the world is being in a relationship that you don’t want to be in.

Great video for women. Being without a "man" is not some failure on your part. Being alone does NOT mean you are lonely. Thriving is way better than surviving.

@maryguy-fo2qk

2 ай бұрын

so true

@jackielouise7538

2 ай бұрын

I totally agree 😊

@LizInTheB

2 ай бұрын

100%! 'A man is not a plan.'

@serenakoleno9338

Ай бұрын

Have a pin somewhere that says I used to be lonely, then I got a divorce.😂 Being married is no cure for loneliness. I enjoy snore - free sleep, warm rooms in winter and reading in peace and quiet without a TV on. Have my own power tools. Life is good. 😊

@jackielouise3725

Ай бұрын

​@@serenakoleno9338 That's great. I completely agree 😊

I had to cut grass for the first time in my life. I was scared of losing an eye from a rock. I just told myself if teenage boys can do it, it can be done. I put some goggles on and got to work.🤗

@user-nm5ne8ji7u

5 күн бұрын

ItNeverDawnedOnMe..losingeyesByCuttingGrass

Safety concern.....the only time my financial, physical, emotional and psychological safety was compromised was at the hands of family members...... Living alone has been safer for me. And don't get too trapped in routines feeling like they give you a false sense of control. My sister and mother were completely OCD with their routines....and control. The one thing I love about living alone is I don't need to set a whole lot of rules and routines for myself. I have the freedom of flexibility.

@user-gm1kl6xy4m

3 ай бұрын

En

@melanytodd2929

3 ай бұрын

👍👍👍

@sisterpamop

3 ай бұрын

I have routines and chronic illnesses. I make a plan knowing it may change depending on my health. P.S. Your wild critters are much larger than mine.

@kensmith2796

2 ай бұрын

Yes, you are more likely to be assaulted by someone you know rather than someone breaking into your home. That's statistically pretty rare. Also, even if you are married you will be out alone while working or shopping, etc. I don't really think security is a good reason to partner up.

@faithnaidoo7647

2 ай бұрын

Well said!!!!!

I often felt lonely even with a partner. Now I am with myself and have dogs. This is so much fun. No lonelyness, no fear, lots of exercise.

@kellychuba

3 ай бұрын

I also now eat and cook for both the dogs and me. Nothing like boiled chicken and rice. yum yum. Cheaper than my ex's bartabs!

@galepatrick1702

3 ай бұрын

I totally agree - John Burroughs (naturalist/essayist) wrote ' with a dog you are alone and not alone; you have both companionship and solitude'

@judithgrace9850

3 ай бұрын

Loneliness?

@stephaniepersin4222

3 ай бұрын

I couldn’t imagine coming back home to a human. I have a couple dogs and I’m happy.

@videoettaceo8900

3 ай бұрын

Amen to that!

I divorced at 41 and took my daughter home to live with my dad. I bought a house, had my dad with me for eight years till he died, and had my daughter for another five years till she graduated university and got married. Suddenly I was alone for the first time in my life. I absolutely loved it. Now, thirty-four years later I am still very happy and content with my life. I have a small apartment now with two kitties after having to sell my home due to an illness and job loss. Don't care, I am still happy. I just don't have to do all the maintenance and repairs I used to do. I am content. Did I already say that. ? Yep. Looking forward to your videos. Thanks.

@miamiflorida6965

3 ай бұрын

I ❤ living alone.

@spir5102

2 ай бұрын

Once you have your freedom, that is the most important thing. I live a very simple life, don’t need a lot of stuff or a fancy place. Just myself, my two dogs, and gardening. Pure bliss!

@margaretblack8538

2 ай бұрын

I'll second that. 😊👍

@megwenger8756

2 ай бұрын

Me too… now alone, disabled, 2 kitties…

@user-dk7me5ux2j

2 ай бұрын

I have a little sign that says......Dogs welcome, people tolerated.😂

Recently widowed, I’m still profoundly grieving, about to move to a smaller house, and feeling vulnerable. Watching and listening to you has been such a comfort and inspiration to me, and thank you from the bottom of my broken heart. You’ve given me the courage to learn how to do things my precious husband always did for us, and as I listened I made careful notes of your wonderful and down-to-earth suggestions. Please know that I’ve saved your video and will continue to refer to it as I learn and adjust to being alone. May God bless you for your very valuable help.

@jeanmoore2244

2 ай бұрын

Wishing you much strength on your journey. I know it's hard, but trust me you will do better than you ever thought you could.

@laurachavez8789

2 ай бұрын

It takes time. Honor your grief and your self. Create a new normal and live the way your husband would want for you.

@BlowinFree

2 ай бұрын

Bless you 💕 all the best embarking on your new chapter whilst honouring your memories ❤

@Benshe100

2 ай бұрын

So sorry for your loss. Prayers for you.

@johannevanderghote7577

2 ай бұрын

❤❤❤

My routine is going for a walk everyday pray first

@robertwalker5521

3 ай бұрын

There are dome dangers to walking alone in early mornings

@user-gm1kl6xy4m

3 ай бұрын

Off course I go for a walk around ten am ​@@robertwalker5521

@amadeagottlieb

2 ай бұрын

​@@robertwalker5521 I have a denim shoulder bag that holds my 9mm at just the right height to keep my hand on it in a tense situation. Many men are disgruntled with life and looking for someone to intimidate, but no one will approach a confident woman with her hand in a point and shoot purse. I'm sorry it has come to this, but it is impossible to walk safely alone even in my small rural town. I notice very few other women will walk alone and even see women advertise for walking partners in their own neighborhoods on that Neighbor app. Even if I didn't live in a conceal carry state I would carry whatever protection was legal. I'm just baffled by women who don't.

@cazola247

Ай бұрын

@@robertwalker5521 You need to choose where you walk. I live in South Africa and walk alone every day, often late at night. But I choose a safe area, and if necessary, walk in a large shopping mall (one with cinemas, so it stays open late). The area I live in is not safe to walk in but is OK to drive in. I guess it helps that I'm tall and walk with a confident stride. Some single women I know prefer walking early in the morning, because the "baddies" tend to wake up later.

@user-nm5ne8ji7u

5 күн бұрын

SoundLikeBestRoutineIeverRead

Lost my husband 7 years ago. My daughter is studying far. I am taking baby steps to be self reliant. Living alone.

I’ve lived alone for 20 years and love it. Never feel lonely , only time I felt that was when I was married

@user-nm5ne8ji7u

5 күн бұрын

How sadButTruth..

I was widowed at 24, I raised my children, moved out of the country for 15 years. I’m back now, I like living alone. It is quiet and peaceful. All my choices are mine alone.

@lynndavid1066

Ай бұрын

What country did you go?

I got divorced about 15 years ago. For me it was a lot easier than hoping my slacker husband would ever help me with anything outside him going to work. He would always tell me he would do it later, knowing full well he had no intention. I learned to do all the “man’s work” myself as a result. I went to work, did all the child raising, all the cleaning, yard work, shopping, cooking, then started working on the car etc. The stress of the resentment over what he wasn’t doing was great. I thought it would be hard, being alone, but I just knew it was all on me, and it really always had been. Letting go of the expectation of help was the healthiest thing that could have happened to me. We had taken our kids camping a few times and felt afraid, afraid of wild animals, afraid of humans more. After the divorce I took my kids alone, and you know what? I wasn’t afraid. I had been afraid because he was afraid. He even brought a gun and I didn’t. Being alone can be uncomfortable and scary at times, yes it can be hard, but also we are stronger than we believe we are. ❤

@aba1791

3 ай бұрын

Oh he was gem! 2 words for you: good riddance! When I read stories like yours, I don't feel that bad about being single. You were all alone in your marriage. Now THAT is really scary. Good for you, let a loser like him pick up that trash.

@carolineowen7846

3 ай бұрын

Yeap, my first fella, well.he said never to nag him. I asked what he defined as.'nagging?' ... his reply "something I don't want to hear twice." "Ok, I'll mention it once, to see if we can do it? If I can't do it, I'll ASK you once, then after a week if it isn't done YOU will pay the bill, for whoever does it? Strangely we never argued over house stuff, house was always up together. Sadly we fell out over having children.

@spir5102

2 ай бұрын

Same here. Eleanor Roosevelt said, you must do the thing you think you cannot do. Someone also said, feel the fear and do it anyway. It is so liberating, enlightning, and awesome! Live your life! Free yourself! Find the life you love and create that for yourself!

@aba1791

2 ай бұрын

My comment was deleted because I said your ex was trash. By your description, he was trash in my books. Oh well.

@annadanbury9276

Ай бұрын

Same here... I did it all...my husband stopped working in 1998...and I was rowing the boat alone....I left him in 2011 and never looked back !! 💗💗💗

I was in a relationship and moved to Oregon to be with Him, all of a sudden he changed or did he? He shut me out, he shut down and literally told me this conversation is over. Days went by I tried talking and he wanted no part so I packed my bags and flew across country home to Florida! No one deserves to be ignored like that, especially when they ARE IN THE RELATIONSHIP SEXUALLY ETC. it’s cruel. He called me a month later saying he missed me and needed me back so he could be whole again. But he did defend himself when I left he was surprised and said it’s not like I cheated it’s not like I hit you but what he failed to see was it felt like a slap in the face and It felt like he cheated me out of a kind caring considerate man to comfort me and LISTEN AND TALK AND COMMUNICATE….and no, I didn’t go back

@ananimity7332

Ай бұрын

I moved 5 months ago from Canada to be with a man in Washington and he has given me nothing but love scraps and has lied to me and he thinks he's madly in love with me. I have to now move back to Canada as I feel I'm being ignored and I feel invisible to him. I am scared to make this change and I hate to give up on the dreams I had. But, I feel alone here and I think it's best to be alone when actually alone. I'm sorry you are going through this. It's horrible! I hope things improve for you.

@user-nb4ex5zk3w

Ай бұрын

We all fall for that....investing totally in someone else....it makes no sense...we are crazy. Find your own personal fulfilment with or without a partner... that's where I am now.

@Sinfulscents

Ай бұрын

@@user-nb4ex5zk3w thank you ! That’s where I am as well! I grew up with I want to find my prince but now I gave it up and loving myself that much more

@Sinfulscents

Ай бұрын

@@ananimity7332 wow if I could virtually hold your hand and leave with you so you won’t be alone I’d do it! I feel for you because that’s where I was five or so years ago! You can shine on your own and trust me I don’t think anything is worse than a partner ignoring you especially in the same house:( if I can help at all, even just a friend through here I’ll do it! And we deserve so much MORE! Don’t settle for a jerk! And I’m sorry jerks are in the world :(

@JodyLL

Ай бұрын

Look up Asperger’s in Males. It’s a common developmental disorder and highly possible for these men’s behaviours. Classic.

I have lived alone now for 14 years since my husband passed. We were together 43 years. I am thankful to my parents who prepared me to be self sufficient. At the age of 3 my father put a hammer and some nails in my hand and had me hammer them into a board. He had me watch him repair a toaster, fix a plug, and wire a outlet. At the age of 8 I helped him build a cinderblock garage and shingle the roof. They taught me how to grow a garden and my mother taught me how to bake, cook, can, freeze, and make jam. I learned to sew and for years made my own clothes and I learned to knit and crochet. While we were married my husband had me keep a budget and pay all the bills. When the time came to be alone I was well prepared. It more than likely will happened to every one at some point in their life so the key is to learn things now and prepare for the inevitable. A friend of mine who divorced early in her marriage started to volunteer with habitat for humanity. She now can build anything. There are even homes that are built entirely by women.

@rosefenton3005

Ай бұрын

All this is fine if you are not disabled and unable to get out on your own and do things, Otherwise you are just trapped and after losing your husband/carer, please tell me how to manage. I keep occupied as much as possible with computer, and reaching out to others. I also have carers who see to my foods etc. and help but loneliness is the major problem and grief at losing my loved one of so many years.

@olderandwiser78

Ай бұрын

@@rosefenton3005 I am very fortunate to be in good health for being 79. I have lived here for 54 years and never had family close by. My sister lives over 600 miles away. One child is over an hour drive away and the other 2 are a 5-7 hour drive. Fortunately I am still able to drive and can make those trips with no problem. I never had a lot of close friends but I love talking to people and no one is a stranger to me. No matter where I am I find people to connect with, if it is only to talk to someone walking down the street. Smile, say hi, and how are you. I also love to be outdoors and connect with nature. Those things banish any feelings of grief or loneliness. The one thing I do miss is having my husband to travel with. In the last 5 years my college roommate lost her husband and the two of us now travel together. The one thing I know I have that keeps me happy, content, and unafraid is a strong relationship with God. I know he loves me and that my loved ones who passed are watching over me. We choose the life we live and it is our mission to make the best of it and learn from it. We will be called home when our job here is finished.

@user-nm5ne8ji7u

5 күн бұрын

Wow,HowFantasticIsThat!!ImSoProudOfYou!

I"ve been alone for 30+ years after being married for 28. It has taken time to adjust to the fact that I have to take out the trash. I am glad i live in an apartment so all maintenence is taken care of for me. Sometimes i wish i had a hubby again and then i slap myself, count my blessings and get on my knees and thank God I am alone. I had houses for a time and a drill and ladder. At 44 started my own business. Retired at 64 and am 79 now. Thankful for the gift of life. Faith in Christ saw me through. Can"t thank Him enough.

@RealTimeArchitect

2 ай бұрын

how you manage your daily life ?

@elainerobertson7329

2 ай бұрын

Jesus is my rock. I'm so thankful everyday@❤❤❤

@Lightonahill25

2 ай бұрын

Amen! Do you still use your drill and ladder? I just recently gave up the ladder (got a 2 stepper) after a scary fall. As for the drill, got a project today. I'm not great at it but I keep my hand in.

@joelbuzbee1750

2 ай бұрын

We are never alone when we have Christ- spending time with Him in His word starts every day fresh and with contentment. I’m 79 and simple things are just so refreshing- a walk, a book, music and taking someone who really is lonely out to eat- there are several in my church that just need a listening ear- when we do for others to lift them up out of their sadness it lifts us up more. Each day is a gift-

"You're putting the best person in charge"--PREACH! I have all the responsibility, but also ALL of the control.

@ronachadwick7908

3 ай бұрын

Yes. That really struck me. Such a powerful and true saying.

All good information ~ if I may add, I keep my home clean and maintained for myself, decorate for holidays for myself, hang seasonal wreaths and put pillows on my porch bench for myself, I stock tasty things to eat and drink for myself and eat off of nice plates and drink from coffee mugs with no chips and nice stem ware - basically treat myself as I would any guest with love and respect for my comfort. I am no waiting for the next thing to happen ~ it is happening everyday - Me! On the flip side, I know no One is coming to rescue me from a back up sink, noisy neighbor or broken doorlock - it's on me to get recommendations for local vendors, fight my own battles, have emergency funds available and a wet/dry shop vac plus tools ready for service.

@paddyanne2024

2 ай бұрын

I was just looking at my old coffee cups and thought I should invest in some lovely new ones...Now I will do that!

@binathere2574

2 ай бұрын

Yes I have the best of what I can afford. Lovely chinaware, bedding, perfume, clothes. Most of my life as a single mother I had very little. One day my young daughter said, mum I never see you buy clothes. I said because I don't have the money to. I saw my mother live with a WW11 mentality although she had lovely things but hung onto everything. As for me, i'm going down in style.

If you can colour-in in a colouring book, you can paint your house…outside and inside. During the pandemic I bought a good light adjustable ladder and 10 litres of paint and painted my entire house…at 60. It’s easy, it takes longer than a professional painter but it doesn’t matter. I saved $20,000 by painting my house myself.

@paolamura3497

3 ай бұрын

Love your comment!

@karlashmeedavlasta6365

3 ай бұрын

10 liters of paint goes a loooong way 😅

@louannhuber2651

3 ай бұрын

Really?

@SIERRATREES

2 ай бұрын

I did the same, it was tiring and took a long time, but its one foot after the other, and voila ! you get there. The result is really amazing.

@hetedeleambacht6608

2 ай бұрын

@@SIERRATREES one corner /wall of a chamber after the other, one chamber after the other. easy does it

Having all the work and responsability but also all the benefit and a lot of peace.

@fionagregory9147

2 ай бұрын

responsibility*

LIBRARIES !! visit as often as you can.. its not just book, they have computer classes, exercise classes, book clubs, social events, volunteer opportunities, free movies weekly, tax preparation, senior resources and events, games and knitting circles...i love the library

@lauratanln

3 ай бұрын

Yes me too. The library has always been my second home.

@wednesdayschild3627

3 ай бұрын

I love the library.

@SIERRATREES

2 ай бұрын

Yes ! Too right.

@hetedeleambacht6608

2 ай бұрын

libraries, are great, agreed

@MissKatieLane95

2 ай бұрын

Don’t forget the recording studio also at the library !! I love to record my hits there ❤❤❤from Poland 🇵🇱

I'm alone for the first time in my 45 years. I've always had my parents or a husband. I lost all 3 in the past as many years. 💔 So I'm new to this. Thank you for this channel. I wanna cry, but im not gonna! Ty

@deniserichard5613

27 күн бұрын

You can do this. If you don't know how to do something, just google it. There are videos of how to do everything. Ask friends or neighbors for help if you have to. I've been single most of my life. I've learned to love it. Remember, you can do this❣️

@RayCarlos045

22 күн бұрын

Hello dear 🌺 how are you and your family?

@user-nm5ne8ji7u

5 күн бұрын

CryIfYouWantTo..CryDear..itMakeYouFeelSoMuchBetter..prayToGodwhatsOnyourMind..asIfYourTellingYourBestFriend..HeHearYou..startPouringYOurHeartOutToHim,HeWillAnswertoYOuHeart..YouwillKnowHisVoice..askGodToGuideYourlife..ItwillbeAllRight

Living alone means you have no one to blame everything on

@jasperhorace7147

2 ай бұрын

And have no one to blame everything on you either!

@davidboyd8113

2 ай бұрын

It means you have to take responsibility for your own actions and at times it’s liberating because we all make mistakes but at least if you live alone you know who to blame and don’t you some feeble excuse like some do

@user-xg2jw7zc8y

Ай бұрын

Why would you need to blame someone for anything. It solves nothing and creates friction. It'll make you sick from frustration. Expectations unfulfilled are destroyers of joy.

@davidboyd8113

Ай бұрын

@@user-xg2jw7zc8y How do you learn anything

@ikeameltdown8012

26 күн бұрын

@@user-xg2jw7zc8yit's a joke, for pete's sake.

I lost my life partner two years ago and moved up to WA state to be near my daughter. The plan was to put an ADU on her property and I would help around the farm. Long story short, that did not happen. I now find myself living alone for the first time in a new place at the age of 65 😲. I've tried making friends by volunteering, etc. but not much luck so far. I was feeling so lost, BUT when you mentioned "how to workshops" at Home Depot, etc. I got excited! I could meet new people AND learn much needed new skills!! THANK YOU SO MUCH!! 😀

@ronachadwick7908

3 ай бұрын

Sorry things didnt work out. Sometimes when we dont get what we want, it is a blessing. Good luck sista. X

@MsJoyce31202

3 ай бұрын

I like that part. A resource.

@annazapata4423

3 ай бұрын

Wish you lived nearby. I’d be your Home Depot buddy.

@marygoodsell3602

3 ай бұрын

I completely understand! My advice is to make sure you are surrounded by like minded people, you will have more chance of making new friends. I moved 4 years ago and I absolutely love it and now a church where I am meeting lots of nice people.

@shelleycoykendall8878

3 ай бұрын

I’m so glad I ran across your video. As a recent widow, I’m navigating new territory. While I was caregiver for my husband, I dealt with an opossum that got underneath our house and started coming up through heat ducts, a broken garage door, and ice maker issues. Although I’ve always handled most of the finances, cleaning, cooking etc., I’m now finding a lot of maintenance issues to deal with. He had a huge semi professional shop and years of cleaning out accumulated stuff I’m slowly going through. I found a great deal on a light weight Rubbermaid step ladder on Amazon and just came across my electric screw driver. I’m starting to gain confidence in some of these heavier maintenance duties. Although my family lives on the other side of the US, I’m blessed they call daily and I have great neighbors and friends. Thank you for reminding me We Can Do It!

Growing up, i had my parents, never alone. I was alone more, after I got married, and he wasn't a very nice person. So I divorce him, one of the happiest days of my life. I have two children, and raise 2 of my grandchildren. My father, taught us kids, if you want something, you work for it. So I was never afraid, of being by myself. In fact I love it. Didn't have to put up with my, ex- bull shit. I love being by myself. If I get lonely, I go and visit, family or friends.

I've been alone for 20 years. I did great until I had three surgeries in 24 months. Now I'm 80 years old and I hurt badly. Using a cane and a walker. Can't begin to do the activities I could just two years ago. Yes it was great when I was younger, BUT prepare yourself for anything and everything as you age.

@janetstotler399

Ай бұрын

Why do you think having a husband or partner would make it any different? I’m 81, I’ve been living alone since my husband was killed in Vietnam. I was 24, I don’t want anyone living with me! Go to a assisted living or if not needed go to retirement community. Do things you really enjoy.

I never lived alone til 2 years ago when my husband of 56 years died. My 9 kids moved me into a condo from a 4 bedroom home. I am doing well, but it’s been a challenge. My husband took care of everything. I don’t mind living alone. I wouldn’t want anyone living with me. I love your channel! It will be very helpful to me!! ❤

@SUJAMUK

2 ай бұрын

No one can replace your husband. The way I think is, if I can live without my life partner , I can, I mean I have to manage alone, no choice. No dependence, no expectation, no obligation. Regards Sue from India.

@tam6650

Ай бұрын

I am sorry for the loss of your husband. Husbands sometimes forget that they enable their wife to not know some basics when they do everything. However, he was not pregnant for 81 months, he did not go through delivery of 9 kids, he did not cook and care for all those kids. He did not stay up nights with them when they were sick or experiencing kid problems. He did not do all the laundry for eleven people, he did not manage the home and keep it running smoothly. You were the heart beat of the home. You were it's life-blood. You were the love and loyalty when your kids came home from school every day. You gave from your heart and soul. The other things your husband did a person can learn. What you did comes from inside you. Please love yourself for all the wonderful things you do and have done. The rest will come to you in time and remember that the challenges make you stronger.

The stepladder is key. My mother has never expressed much appreciation for me. It’s just not who she is. But the one time she marveled at my achievement? Storing a stepladder on two nails hammered into the inside of a closet door. I speak three languages; I earned degrees from two prestigious US universities, and I’m a mid-level executive for a Fortune 100. But it was the stepladder on the door for her … 😂

@ileanamuntean7338

3 ай бұрын

I am a mother of girls, it was a symbol for her that you are safe to leave on your own.

@CaptainAMAZINGGG

3 ай бұрын

​@@ileanamuntean7338 no it is nonsense.

@Nachos_with_a_slice_of_lime

3 ай бұрын

This comment should be pinned absolutely

@ElizzzaB

3 ай бұрын

Amazing. Sometimes best to just count on yourself I have found.

@stephaniepersin4222

3 ай бұрын

You can have college degrees, or lived on your own, but if some dude isn’t married to her then nothing she’s done is appreciated. We are still the daughters of the forgotten generation who believe the goal was to get married by 22.

I settled my own estate ... sold my primary residence and went into senior housing ... didn't want my kids to have to do it and I didn't want the maintenance involved with home ownership ...BUT I miss my garden and I'm not content to sit and look out the windows ... I expect to volunteer at a farm so I can watch Mother Nature and all her miracles!

@marionopisso212

Ай бұрын

Libraries are great places to volunteer!

@CM-sy3to

21 күн бұрын

​@@marionopisso212only if you don't want to talk.

Just subscribed. Lived alone most of my life, but as I've gotten older (60's) I've become anxious about increased vulnerability and lessening energy. Your video reminded me of the strong woman I've always been and the four areas I can focus on to reclaim my sense of independence. Thank you.

@eatmeatandliftweights5754

3 ай бұрын

I am similar age as you, I lift weights and eat a high protein diet which keeps me strong and healthy. I cut my own grass and can move furniture around with ease. As we age we lose muscle and strength, hence becoming weaker and dependent on others. Weight lifting and a diet of meat eggs and dull fat dairy is best.

@spir5102

2 ай бұрын

I am 76. Yes, as we age we can expect some health issues. I recently tore a rotator cuff in my arm, went to a physical therapist for over four months, did resistance training, and I’m almost as good as new. Yes, issues will come, but one by one we do our best and keep moving. my two dogs and organic gardening are the highlights of my life. I own almost 7 acres, mow the grass myself, do all the work of gardening myself, and I believe it keeps me strong and moving.

I'm 67, still working a fulltime job and have lived alone since my mid-twenties. I had so many bad roommates in college that I don't think I can ever live with someone again. I admit it does get lonely sometimes, but I prefer that feeling to the trauma of living with someone who doesn't pull their fair share, has a toxic personality, or invites guests into my home without my approval. I love being able to do what I want when I want and not having to answer to anyone but myself. I look at the helplessness of some newly-divorced women who never worked or balanced a check book and feel secure in the knowledge that I can take care of myself.

@LivingAloneTips

Ай бұрын

That's the spirit!👏🏼

I became alone as l turned 80 - 4 years ago. I moved to another country and still learning the language bought a house still learning how to manage it and this after a lifetime of having help. I must tell you every day is an adventure and it is as the best thing l could have done. Most of my friends still have their mouths open but want to visit. Weirdly enough the first year and a half because of COVID l was housebound going out once a week to buy groceries. Restaurants were closed but thankfully delivered. I have a garden and lots of books and a telephone so it was just a slight inconvenience.

@bonnie_gail

2 ай бұрын

amazing, that's quite the adventure - kudos

@beverlygriffin670

2 ай бұрын

❤❤

@deborahbelcher3984

2 ай бұрын

You Rock!!

@eileenredmond3582

2 ай бұрын

Good on you. You sound inspiring. I’m intrigued to know, where did you move to!

@lindarose2327

2 ай бұрын

@@eileenredmond3582 l live on the largest lake in Mexico in a lovely little town called Ajijic.

Thank you for this video! I´m on my own for about 20 years. First as a single mom of 3 now as an empty nester. I´m in my 40´s. My kids were little when I got divorced. I had no money so I needed to do it all by myself. I couldn´t afford to pay someone. And I learned it all over the years. There is almost nothing I can´t do! Ladies - you can do it. You don´t need to be anxious. You are STRONG!

@hetedeleambacht6608

2 ай бұрын

And you can learn. What you dont know how to do, you might be able to do tomorrow, next week, next month or next year. Try to do things you never thought you were able to do them and you might be amazed of yourself. Its a huge confidence boosters. When you can do things yourself you need to take less bullshit of other people trying to decide `whats best for you`.

@spir5102

2 ай бұрын

I will second that. I’ve been alone for 30 years, after being married to a narcissist for 24. I was scared to death, but I did it anyway and I’m so grateful for my freedom, my enjoyment of life, my excitement in living, and organic gardening! Find what you love and go do it! Set yourself free.

One thing I always tell my women friends, is just try. If you try to do what you don't know how, you will find you can do 10 times more than you thought. I built a 12 foot mantel, pulled all doors out of the house and trim, replaced it all. Built 2 waterfalls, skim coated the basement. And 4 tile jobs, in my house. Repaired a lot of drywall. I bought tools as needed. You can do this.

@debbiebolek2117

2 ай бұрын

You are a3esome. May I ask how old you are?

Even when I was married, I was the one who took care of everything. I prefer being alone, nothing has changed. Not all of us had partners or parents who shared responsibility.

@RayCarlos045

22 күн бұрын

Hi dear Good morning I hope my comment didn't sound as a form of privacy invasion your comment tells of a wonderful woman with a beautiful heart which led me to comment. If you don’t mind can we be friends? Thanks God bless you….🌺🌺🌺

I am 70 and picked up a lot of skills over the years. One at a time. Now I am retired, but live on 5 acres and have a native edibles food forest. I enjoy wandering the mountainside and identifying wild edibles. I preserve food for winter. Chores keep me up and moving.

My mother said many times, "I live alone, but I am not lonely." I am alone after an abusive relationship and I am loving being able to do what I want when I want, and I never have to please someone else. I couldn't be happier.

Single since’77 and ❤️ it. I go where I want to go when I want to go, eat when I want to eat, what I want to eat, make or don’t make my bed, wash or choose to not do my dishes. I have a routine, do like reading, listening to music, playing games and making puzzles on my tablet, walking my dog, teaching virtually and taking virtual classes. I go to the gym and to the pool when I choose to. People ask if I’m lonesome. The answer is ‘NO’. I enjoy not having to plan for anyone but myself. I have four adult children, eight grandchildren and a great grandchild who I see when I want to see them. This is Heaven on earth. Highly recommended.

I’ve lived alone for my entire life!! It’s not always been easy, but, I did it. I thank God every day for what I have and how I’ve survived and thrived. I was a hairdresser for 44 years, in that time, I paid for a home, many cars, had a trailer set up at a campground for 7 years, have travelled a lot and still love going. I retied at 65 and even though I don’t have a pension, I did manage to squirrel a little away, but, also have the OAS, GIS and CPP. I am by no means rich, but, I had to learn to budget and be responsible for everything and am quite happy I did. All the best to you. Thanks for your insights.

@silverandsolo

3 ай бұрын

Bonnie, OAS, GIS and CPP are government pensions in Canada. :)

@cuernavacadave

3 ай бұрын

@@WanderingBonnie-ck1eu Sorry, I should have explained that, and you are no dummy:) OAS is Old Age Security, GIS is Guaranteed Income Supplement, (this one is for when you only have the OAS and if you’re lucky worked outside the home and paid into the CPP) you receive the GIS to bring you up to a more liveable standard and CPP is Canada Pension Plan. So, the three combined give you a liveable amount, or near liveable. I’m fortunate that I own my own home mortgage free and no credit card debt. Have an awesome day!

I change my life radical 10 years ago and am now 43...... The more people around you, the more expectations, talk about others, lying, frustrations, negativity, jealousy, double standards, violent, hate, own benefits, double standards etc.... reflection of their broken souls. Alone or in solitude you have more strength, peace, power, happyness, freedom and time..... A lot of people are programmed robot slaves of the system thinking happyness starts with extern factors like status, money, material things that means nothing and its relativ and an illusion create by society. If your happyness depend on extern factors you will never be because extern factors are endless. Be the light in your own life

@spir5102

2 ай бұрын

Your comment is so inspiring and so true. I was married for 24 years to a narcissist. I had no idea how beautiful, peaceful, and exciting a life could be on my own. I am my own boss. I am my own authority.I only do what I want to do, spend what I want to spend, go where I want to go when I want to go, and don’t have to answer to anyone. It is a fantastic, exciting, beautiful way to live.

@radawson1018

2 ай бұрын

@@spir5102 Yes, agree with you that getting rid of a narcissist is key to joy. Scary thing, though, being alone if you come down with a truly debilitating disease- so hard! I’ve seen it happen unfortunately - health is wealth in a million different ways.

@chirovandenbos2339

2 ай бұрын

​@@spir5102 beautifull to hear.....and we all have our path to walk. We dont feel better then others but more be carefully and awake. I am alone to now for 6@7 years and live in solitude in a big city.....i want to go more to the forest later on. I love animals, nature and the simple things in life more then what the matrix tell what it is.....an illusion I dont care about material things, status, money (yes, we need it to live) ..... We come alone and goes alone and in between we are all guests.......do what makes you happy Blessed to you

I live alone. My husband died a few years back. I always took care of the house maintenance and the yard, painting, plumbing, electrical, fixing, etc. None of this stuff was new to me when I began to live alone. I absolutely love it! I eat what and when I want, or not; I sleep when and how long I want; I travel when and where I want; I read, do hobbies/business stuff when I want; it’s great! I have the attitude, like you that I do what I’m comfortable with, what I can do or learn to do and what I can’t, I hire done! Easy, peasy! NO GUILT! I earn money, have a retirement plan, don’t feel pressured to work too hard or not take time off when needed. I always kept all manuals for small and large appliances of all types and date them as to when I bought them and when they were installed. But I love your house journal idea! It’s great because everything is in one central place, written down so you can go back and reference when things were done and for how much $$. Even the garden journal is there! What a great idea! My things are all separate and sometimes I can’t find what I’m looking for. I tend to put everything in my phone but then have to search back, maybe several years to find something. Your idea is better! Your journal must be HUGE after 35 years.

For some people the biggest problem is not competencies, but loneliness for a partner.

@roseyc.5846

3 ай бұрын

YES! THAT WOULD BE ME. 😪

@chomama1628

3 ай бұрын

I have been married for 50 years next month. I went from my parents home to being married. My husband is so proficient at so many things that I’ve never had the need to learn these things. He wanted to always take care of me. I have been blessed by that. However I’ve never learned his skills and with him being older I know someday I will be alone. I’ve begun learning under his supervision and am doing well at the things I’ve learned. I think he is impressed by my wanting to learn. I’m less stressed by what the future holds because of it.

@stephaniepersin4222

3 ай бұрын

If all you had was a man to take care of you, of course, you’d feel that way. I’d say a widow would be more financially secure and should be mature enough to be alone after a while. After that you’d know my never married life of paying for everything with no Social Security from a dead spouse.

I have been married (and divorced, unfortunately) three times in my life...I have lived by myself since 2002 when 2 children were finally launched and on their own. I love the solitude. I am 69 and love fixing my food, doing the laundry, and gardening -- especially the gardening. I mow the grass with a push mower and still work as a registered nurse. I have a German Shepherd Dog to keep me company. I love the challenge of home repairs...I love it!

I’ve was a widow at 54 and have lived alone ever since. Five years later I moved to the other side of the world (literally - Africa to New Zealand) bought a house and have been happily living on my own ever since - 26 years. At 80 I am still confident to make all my own decisions! 😊

Glad I lived solo six years before I married. Now, alone 15 years since my divorce. PEACE!❣️

I am 48 and medically disabled with no income. I was independent for most of my middle age years as I raised my son alone and ran a business. Now I'm broke and broken from the experience and became dependent on a boyfriend so I don't end up homeless. It's been so difficult. DV has become a problem. I need to be independent again. I still don't know how while dealing with the disabilities but listening to your videos gives me some hope. You are a good speaker.

@rebeccabriggs2982

3 ай бұрын

That's so tough. I'm in New Zealand and any woman can support herself here with government assistance. It's getting harder with rental costs but there's still a decent income on disability. And support. It's so wrong that wherever you are you cant break free from DV because the lack of support keeps you stuck there. I pray for you God provides a way out.

@anitamcginnis8028

2 ай бұрын

What is DV?@@rebeccabriggs2982

@annmallozzi681

2 ай бұрын

Are you OK? Most communities have resources to help with DV, such as safe house, counseling, etc.

@baxtercol

2 ай бұрын

I was born with Cerebral Palsy I've been alone most but not all of my adult life. I receive Social Security Disability and so can you provided you have worked for at least 10 years, as Social Security says, 40 quarters. If your physical difficulty isn't obvious like mine, you probably will get denied when you first apply but don't give up. Almost every lawyer does some pro bono work. The best thing you have going for you and that will allow you to be independent is something you used before: your mouth. Ask for help when you need it. You won't be competent at everything but able-bodied people tend to act as if they are. It's an illusion. No one can do everything by or for herself. We are all interdependent. Learn and practice the difference between interdependence and codependence. That boyfriend you have isn't the only person within your sphere of influence who can do whatever you rely on him for. Use your mouth like Next Door. When I moved, for example, I put an ad in Next Door asking for help organizing boxes. We turned it into a fun neighborhood event and one of the people who came to help has become one of my dearest friends. It's not charity when it's mutual or when the other person makes a choice to help. I also judiciously use Social Services my CP entitles me to like paratransit. As I read this over to myself, I was afraid it might sound like a lecture but I don't mean it that way. I want you to know you're not alone and to give you a good motivational shot in the arm so that you can tell your abuser to stick it where the sun don't shine because you don't need him anymore. You are capable and you've already proven it. Hang in there one day at a time❤ you're not disabled; you're differently able. You are competent, unique and the world needs you, Just As You Are! I have already started praying for you.

@rebeccabriggs2982

2 ай бұрын

@baxtercol I really LOVE what you just shared. It's actually a gift both ways when we get to help out someone else! I recall I had to move house single handed. I was in a new town and knew nobody and had no money to spare. Anyway I hired a trailer and decided I would have to ask strangers about to help if I got really stuck. Well..... would you believe it?! With every single heavier awkward item a person just appeared out of nowhere and offered to help! Passerby. I never had to ask a single person (but I sure was prepared to). It was a day my heart grew. God was looking out for me. None of us are truly alone.

Dear Lady (Helen in UK here). I have just fallen in love with you ! And that's meant in the best possible taste. You were just what I was looking for. I fixed the low pressure on my boiler recently by watching videos. Having lost 5 people I loved over the last 30 months have been feeling bereft and alone. The landscape of my life has changed drastically. The principles of competency and therefore control can be applied in areas other than those mentioned, I think. Fingers crossed and thank you so much. Helen

Been divorced since 2007, and was married 28 years. Love living alone, I am in control. Love it!

@Tk30nette

Ай бұрын

It depends where you live and your health! It's not that easy!😢

“You’re putting your best person in charge.” Touché!!! LOVE that! ❤

@RayCarlos045

22 күн бұрын

Hi dear Good morning I hope my comment didn't sound as a form of privacy invasion your comment tells of a wonderful woman with a beautiful heart which led me to comment. If you don’t mind can we be friends? Thanks God bless you….🌺🌺🌺

as someone who has lived alone for 10 years following divorce I loved this- so true. thank you

I think there is 1 essential think you left out: Make (and keep) friends (and meet them regularly in real life), no person is really meant to live in complete isolation. It actually makes you live longer if you have regular social contacts

@bonnie_gail

2 ай бұрын

I am an introvert (INFJ) and I absolutely love being in my home and knowing that I make myself go out and socialize once a week

@cathychase663

2 ай бұрын

same@@bonnie_gail

@cmcordoYT

2 ай бұрын

Almost all my socializing is online. The only times I see people in person is at the hospital or other doctor appointments that need to be done in person. I am so immune compromised that I really should be living in a plastic bubble. But for now, I wear multiple masks, beg medical personnel to do the same (some forget) and distance. It's a good thing I happen to love being without humans around much. 😊

@to1620

Ай бұрын

It’s a lovely thought-but really not possible for many of us. Many people these days find obtaining and retaining friends incredibly challenging. Our societal norms around socialization have drastically changed, and what used to be a rather organic skill is mostly gone now. I’m 55, and have no children, no spouse and I’m primarily retired. The vast majority of women my age I WOULD be friends with have no interest because they invest their time into grandchildren, their spouses (and their illnesses) and their work. And a restrictive economy also means we all have less money to go and do things with. I think we need to begin to normalize not having friends, as this “trend” actually seems to be becoming increasingly prevalent in today’s society.

As a woman who lives on her own most of the time and not liking it very much, I found this video really uplifting. I've always been the DIY person in my family and when my husband became incapacitated through illness, I took over all the running of the house finances (I called it driving the desk) I've never understood women feeling less than equal to any man. In my experience women seem to fare much better when they find themselves living alone. Each morning I look at the beautiful garden I created, each evening I move around my lovely home knowing where each object is (in its appropriate place!) And I love not having to consult a committee if I feel like making changes. I just miss my lovely husband who died 15 years ago. A gentle gentleman and good fun. Loved the video footage of the bear and the cougar.

My life as a Silver & Single was GREAT....... until 4 years ago as I was walking across my lawn to talk to the landscapers that I had hired for some heavy work..... I passed out & fell down. When I woke up, I was in an ambulance my way to ER. I had had "a series of strokes" per the Er Dr. My independent life hit a brick wall! Be sure you have a back-up plan for when your health goes bad, because it WILL!

Since I became solo, it has always been my policy to only pay to have things done which I cannot do myself. Sometimes, I know my limitations. Sometimes I have a crack at it, and find I can do it! (KZread is our friend!) Sometimes i have to admit defeat and call my son, or a professional. We are more competent than we think we are!

This applies to older single men, too.

@robertwalker5521

3 ай бұрын

Men are always looking for cougars. But we bearly miss that other creature

Thank you - I am recently widowed after a 42 year marriage. He dealt with all the bills/d.i.y. etc. I do not know where to start!? A day at a time and help from people like you. Thank you

@silverandsolo

3 ай бұрын

KZread is a goldmine of help! You can do it!

The sincere expression, beautiful skin, kind voice, and honest blue eyes says it all...YES...you are happy, fulfilled, and content....Being ALONE can be absolutely WONDERFUL !!!!

@RayCarlos045

22 күн бұрын

Hi dear Good morning I hope my comment didn't sound as a form of privacy invasion your comment tells of a wonderful woman with a beautiful heart which led me to comment. If you don’t mind can we be friends? Thanks God bless you….🌺🌺🌺

@user-nm5ne8ji7u

5 күн бұрын

IAgree..ImAloneAndAtPeaceWithMyselfGodIsMyAllAndAll

I am newly widowed after 52 years of marriage. This video is greatly appreciated!!! You offer a great service. Thank you.

I have been financially responsible for basically every decision even though I’m married. My husband trusts me to make those decisions. He does a lot of the cleaning and even makes me breakfast on most days. I have my own tools. We are both retired and love to travel.

Losing your beloved husband of 44 years and being alone is very difficult but you don't have any choice than to adjust to your new life. Your video will inspire me as I have lost motivation to do anything. Thank you and regards Sue from India.

I worked a government job real estate related. I talked to taxpayers a lot. A part of my territory is an African American dominating neighborhood. I got tales from seniors living alone in single family home being terrorized by neighborhood kids or teen gang. The young and ruthless knows a feeble senior alone in a house is an easy target for money or fun. I also have Malibu, Palisades, and the whole ultra pricey neighborhoods on the hills overlooking LA. I got tales of being targeted by thief rings, not just seniors living alone. Plan ahead. Don’t wait until your decision making ability is eroded. Looking for a new place, selling a house, packing, and get familiar with new neighborhood are not easy for really old ppl (I listened to them telling me their fear and why they “couldn’t” move). Before I retired I bought a place in a senior park. The park is quiet and safe. There are nightly patrol by a security firm and city police drive by. Due to strict rules, no kids no youth no young adults are living here. We look out for each other, too.

A routine can be once a day, once every other day, once a week. Join groups of like-minded people locally. Go outside for at least two hours every day and walk at least three miles a day. Rain is not a reason to stay in. Always do something to help others - not just family members, anyone can do that. People you do not know. Avoid drugs including alcohol. Limit or avoid red meat and sugar. Practice meditation or prayer. Have a sense of humour. Avoid most social media and do not watch commercials. Avoid spiteful and petty people. Do not spread malicious gossip.

@julianskinner3697

Ай бұрын

I eat almost nothing but red meat. Feel great.

@beths9232

Ай бұрын

​​@@julianskinner3697Same here. Best thing I ever did. Feel great.

A house journal is something everyone should have. My husband takes care of most things around the house. I realized after several friends whose husbands passed away struggled with the care of their home because their husbands took care of everything. Now I keep a record of things we do around our house, who to call when we need help, and when things need to be updated. I have my own tools.

Someone recently told me, in your middle or older age, the chickens come back to roost. We are the sum total of what we were doing for the last 30 years. Wow! So younger people, get your act together NOW! I'm there now and reflecting on my mistakes so I can do better in my senior years.

@bod-essebod-esse4142

2 ай бұрын

Very true! At 70 I have a sister-in-law who has relied on others all her life, never felt she had to pull her finger out, and now grizzles because her idea of fairness is that she should be as well off as her siblings who worked for what they’ve got.

@faithnaidoo7647

2 ай бұрын

So true!!!!!.

@fionaforward3358

2 ай бұрын

I find that a bit harsh.My husband died when I was 64.My 3 children are all married with partners and children and careers etc.They are loving,caring children but I do not want to play the helpless female game.Two of them live interstate.I speak regularly to them and see the 3rd one weekly with her family.I am on my own because of life circumstances,not because I am a horrible person.Most widowers and widows I know are in the same circumstances.

Realtors and Next Door are great sources for a good handyman/woman. When I was young and broke, male friends would help me. This is not a good idea unless you can make a legitimate trade, not some unspoken expectation…if you know what I mean. 😂

It was a pivotal moment in my life when I realized you don’t have to be always sweet to a man to get stuff done. Hiring out the work you can’t do yourself is so freeing. Women are just as capable as men. I have done all kinds of stuff I never thought a woman can do .

I have been independent for many years, your comments seem very valid to me. I wish your were my neighbor!

Thank you for these videos. My precious husband died and I’ve been alone.

I've lived alone the majority of my life. (married for 12 yrs, but he wasn't in to doing much in the way of "chores") I can hang pictures, mirrors, shelves, spackle over holes such that you would never know they were there, paint, install light fixtures, door handles, cabinet pulls, clean my gutters, care for my yard, plant things that thrive, do minor repairs to plumbing, clean my water softener, etc. I own quite a few tools and rent power washers to clean my porch, sidewalk, and drive way. But truth is, I'm older and I hire most heavy chores out. (installing new flooring, picking up my front door to install weather stripping, etc) to save myself/protect my health. Having that list of reliable professionals (plumbing, electrical, roofer, etc.) is critical. These people are hard to come by. They over charge, they fail to do the work, etc. That list is golden. The advice to "take it in steps" and to slowly build your competency and confidence is important. KZread is a god send. You mentioned setting up a routine, I say YES! AND set up routine maintenance schedules (ie: change batteries in your smoke detectors, clean furnace filter, add salt to the water softener etc.) . Also look at every job you do related to maintenance. How will this be to maintain? I love landscaping work, but as I grew older I knew I did not want to carry and spread tons of mulch every year or two into my old age. I went towards more ground cover, more stone etc....things that rarely need replaced.)

I love my super independence. I get drained trying to please someone else. Freedom is a luxury.

@LivingAloneTips

Ай бұрын

This is a sooo underrated lifestyle...!

1:55 Responsibilities, routines 4:43 repairs 8:10 control 8:39 house journal, record keeping and planning 10:50 safety

I am a single UK lady who is 54 years young. Love living alone, have lots of books, like to travel. xx

I don’t know who this lady is but I love her content. ❤

I was beginning to question myself about living alone after about the past 12 years. Relatives and friends are always telling me I should move closer to them or closer to places with a lot of amenities to socialize. I understand and appreciate that I have many who love an care about my health and well being but I have so many positive feelings and reasons for the choice that I have made. After reading all the comments posted here I am no longer going to question myself or doubt the choice to live where I live and live alone. All these comments have been so reaffirming. I want to live my life not theirs. Thank you ALL❤

I’m 73 and been on my own for almost 3 years. I have fibromyalgia and arthritis and I can do some of the things you talk about but boy it’s painful. I love the things you are talking about. I’m going to start a house journal and do the things I can do and try to get into some routines. I do suffer from loneliness terribly. After 45 years of marriage and you lose your partner it’s,hard to overcome grief.

@lynnfitzpatrick1932

3 ай бұрын

I am 74 and lost my husband 4 months ago after 53 years of marriage so my adjustment is just beginning. I have 2 small dogs that I love dearly. They are always here to greet me when I return home. We walk together every day. They sleep with me at night. We go to dog sport lessons to have fun together. I don't know how I would cope without them.

@m.mercedesalonsosevilla2090

3 ай бұрын

Try to slowly carry on,darling

@kathyharmon2093

2 ай бұрын

I’m almost 67 year old nurse, my place of employment is closing it’s doors so my last day at work is next Friday, I have a lifetime pension and a decent SS check so I won’t be rich but I’ll be comfortable, you spoke about your pain, I have been eating clean strict Ketovore for the last 5 weeks, down 17# and my pain is gone! Best wishes

@sandrajones7896

2 ай бұрын

@@kathyharmon2093 what is ketovore?

@anitamcginnis8028

2 ай бұрын

Isn't keto a high protein/meat diet? A carnivore eats meat, an omnivore eats everything... a ketovore is on a keto diet. (just guessing) @@sandrajones7896

Wow!!! This lady is a God sent angel!!! Angels don't always have feathery wings and fly around.....angels like this woman are rare. I am not on my own but who knows what's around the corner as I nearly lost my husband to covid in 2021. That event brought home to me the saying that "tomorrow is promised to no one"! Thank you for all you good advice and I'm sure you have been a life saver for many people. God Bless you Silver and Solo! Love from England.

I think the best thing is not too worry so much about stuff. Just live your day healthy life and keep busy going places , meet people, join groups, go to the library for free activities, exercise at home or a gym, go to church there you will also find many new friends and activities. If you are older definitely go to the local senior centers. If you don’t have a car they pick you up sometimes and take you places. There are many classes and groups. Definitely get away from the TV and internet. Move, move ,move is the name of the game and don’t think so much about troubles. But on the other hand if you have troubles tackle them immediately, make that plan and do it. You will feel relief and happiness. ☮️☮️

@hetedeleambacht6608

2 ай бұрын

very, very sound advice you give there. Mostly its the simple straight-forward things that do the trick indeed

@matios6013

2 ай бұрын

Thanks a lots🙏🌼

Bear and cougar patrol. Love it

@Laz3rCat95

2 ай бұрын

Much better than seeing people on your camera, statistically speaking other humans are way more dangerous than bears or cougars.

Laughed when I heard "buy a step-ladder". Had to buy one when I found myself single and needing to reach for things. 😊 And absolutely the need for just a few basic tools

@erstwhile3793

2 ай бұрын

I have one for almost every room in my house. Good, sturdy ones that fold up to store. They definitely lower the hurdle of procrastination about simple tasks like changing light bulbs, etc. 😂

A person can be alone but not lonely. A person can be not alone and lonely 😅

I was terrified to live alone not because I was afraid of the responsibilities. I was afraid of loneliness. Celebrating my 10th year living in my little house with my three dogs (so not exactly alone), I absolutely LOVE my freedom and responsibilities. Rarely am I actually lonely! Life on my terms. Great video…thanks!

Very good tips! Been on my own for 26 years, including as a disabled woman for the past 15. One of my all-time favorite tools is my cordless screwdriver that comes with different bits. I use that thing ALL the time! Plus, it's great for arthritic hands. In my adult life, I've experienced bankruptcy, car repossession, long-term income tax pay schedules, and I've survived it all. My dad passed 19 years ago, but what shook my foundation was when Mom died, two years ago. That shook me.

As someone in the same situation....My biggest tip is... being 'alone' and being 'lonely' are two very separate things.celebrate your single state..say yes to any social occasion you can ... . As for the having to do 'everything'..remember nobody is good at everything..Rainy days are for inside jobs Sunny days are for outside jobs.. just have a go, do what you can when you can.. practice.... I surprised myself during lock down by doing a bit of plastering and repairing a floor joist took me 4 months but it got done ( my ex would have taken 6 months just to think about it) ....70, arthritic, challenged mobility, main quality is perseverance , can't get up a ladder any more yes, had to get a roofer in for the gutters, still trying to do the garden .......and I have gadgets.. lots of gadgets.😄

@susannefitzpatrick9955

3 ай бұрын

Oh God, there's always one person who trots out this lame cliche!!

@elainerobertson7329

2 ай бұрын

I admire you for doing these things. In my 29 year marriage I did everything while working full time. My husband didn't want to learn and I wanted to save the money, so I learned how to do many things. It made me happy.

@yah9489

2 ай бұрын

My mother said many times, "I live alone, but I am not lonely." I am alone after an abusive relationship and I am loving being able to do what I want when I want, and I never have to please someone else. I couldn't be happier.

@grumpy_poo

2 ай бұрын

@@yah9489 May you have many more years of happiness.... and do all the things you love!

I try to walk every afternoon for 30-40 minutes . I make several cups of tea a day. I own some lovely cups that I bought particularly to make drinking tea seem an enjoyable ritual . Gardening helps for activity and growing fresh herbs . Herbs are easier than veggies 💕

I’m a 66 year old woman who’s alone, but not lonely. I have always been a scheduled person. I have my routines, and it’s helped keep me sane and in control. I love my 60’s so far.

I have lived alone since high school. I have had to learn to make my way through life including going to college later in life. I will be 76 next month and I have learned to do almost everything that has to be done including carpentry work, some electrical, even put on a metal roof all by myself when I was 68. I have a rental which I keep up and rent out as well as keeping up my own home. I have not regreted my choice in life maybe because I do not have to answer to anyone about anything. Yes, I have friends and I listen to their advice and then do what I think is best for me. As someone has already said, Life is good and I feel I am living "the good life"!

We, as an individuals, must to be self sufficient being alone. We are not glued to anyone, or should depend on anybody. And always better with yourself than with another human who annoys or stresses you. I live happily with my rescued Doggo only.

My suggestions for security while living alone are as follows: -Get yourself a home security system with cameras. Some even have additional functions like alarms that can deter robbers or functions that can quickly or in some cases even automatically dispatch emergency services if a problem is detected. -Get yourself a dog. A large dog in particular can be especially intimidating to would-be intruders and could possibly physically protect you if needed. But if you can't handle a large dog, any size dog is better than no dog. Even small dogs bark, and that can often be enough to deter robbers. Plus, any dog comes with the added benefit of companionship, which you may find extra need for if you live alone. -Get trained in self-defense skills. This includes not only learning how to fight an attacker, but also how to best avoid attacks from happening to begin with. And of course, it should also include knowing how to handle weapons, which leads me to my next point... -Get a reliable self-defense weapon and know how to use it. Especially in America, you don't want to walk into a gun fight defenseless. Most likely you will never have to use it, but it's better to have it and not need it than to need it and not have it. Go to a range and train with it too, in order to keep your skills fresh. -Keep a first aid kit and learn some basic first aid skills. In situations where violence has occurred, in particular it may be useful to know how to care for wounds and slow down heavy bleeding to increase your odds of survival if you were harmed. Obviously you should also call emergency services in those situations, if you hadn't already done so before. -This shouldn't have to be said, but obviously secure your home by closing/locking all of your doors/windows at night or when you're not home.

I'm 50 something, divorced for 3 years from an abusive marriage. So glad I found this video. It makes me feel better knowing I'm not crazy with my inner thoughts.

The hardest thing about living alone and not ever being married is the constant judgement from people. I am always asked why. I do all my household chores and gardening myself. It keeps me fit and healthy along with tai chi, qi gong, yoga and mountain or beach walks. Always been a loner and happiest by myself. 68. Thank you for your channel, it is very inspiring.

I just found your channel. I’m 75 and a widow since I was 53. I too love living alone. I wish you were around then. I’ve muddled through but the house journal is a great idea. I call it you tube university. I have learned so much. I’ll keep coming back for more hints💐

I'm glad I found your channel. I'm 63, been single for 23 years. I enjoy living on my own. There are not enough KZread channels for the single person. Since I cook too much at one time, I turned it into batch cooking. Saves time and money.

@silverandsolo

3 ай бұрын

Welcome aboard!

@marjolainejane1506

3 ай бұрын

Me too! Sometimes I have the same dinner for three days & it’s ok with me.

I've been fortunate and have been happily married for 40 years now. But, as we age I begin to think of the time that my wonderful spouse will no longer be with me and I need to be prepared to understand the roles that he has traditionally taken care of, I'm glad I found your channel. Thank you.

I never had lived alone til I was 50. I bumbled thru by myself and am now content.

You can be 100% responsible for everything in your home as I am as I take care of husband after his stroke. ….you just do it

Love your channel. That's the first thing I want to say. I am past my 75th year and never married. Always surrounded by parents, uncle, cousin, aunts, friends of the family, you name it and everyone seemed to feel they had a right to tell me how to do whatever I wanted to do but do it THEIR way. Mom never allowed me to do anything my way. She was Super Control Freak. So was my friend Will. It seemed that I attracted control freaks like suede attracts lint. Now everyone is gone. Mom died 20 years ago, Dad has been gone over that amount of time. Cousins, aunts, uncle have all passed away. I was the youngest in the family since my mom and dad had me late in life and never wanted another child. I had to move from the house I was living in because I had over 8 cats and the rule in that city was under 8 cats. Never mind. It's a story for another time. I sold the house and purchased a manufactured home in a county next to the one I had lived in since I was 18. What the heck is a manufactured home!!? It's made from cardboard and tissue paper, falls apart with a sneeze and the windows are difficult to impossible to open and close because they are STORM WINDOWS. Duh!. I was born in New York City where all windows were storm windows(keep them closed when it rains, open when the sun is shining). In other words, I was a Stranger in A Strange Land (and stranger house). The nice thing, my cats were safe here because no Animal Control to set limits.They are all gone now, having lived their lives to the end of their allotted time. However, I have a terrible guilt complex because I feel that my mother would not approve of all the things I am doing MY way without listening to her past advice. I have friends, I purchase very few things but they are things I need and want. I have saved money to fix the cardboard ceiling, get a new roof so the rain will not dissolve the rest of the ceilings because of a leaky roof, got a complete plumbing re-do. Sorry, I'm trained as a foreign language teacher, not a plumber. Need an electrician. Even batteries are shocking to me. And you just trashed my guilt complex about wanting to do things MY WAY (Frank Sinatra did it his way) without feeling that my mother would yell at me.Sheesh! Just Liked and Subscribed to your channel. Next on the TO DO list, Housekeeping Journal and Job Application Journal. Hugs and hope to everyone here.

@tracymorgan5386

3 ай бұрын

I’m curious because I thought manufactured homes are supposed to have the same standards as a regular site home including safety against storms, hurricanes etc so I’m surprised you are having so many problems with your home. I also ask because I was looking into buying a manufactured home because they are more affordable and inspection standards suppose to be the same as a site home.