I really loved this episode even as a single woman. It's great to see PD (or any Pastor) in a humanistic role outside of the pulpit (yet still ministry) making it all more relatable . This episode will will definitely get a lot of hits and help improve the MARRIED SOFT LIFE among couples.

As a Nigerian, the soft life is all about removing any unnecessary stress from your life. This leads to a happier, stress-free and, peaceful life. It's all about you first and the rest trickle down to people around you. This episode was good though, I love the transparency 😊🎉

I’m only 3 minutes in and I’m already loving the transparency here. Marriage is not heart eyes and roses all the time. At times it can be challenging. I just celebrated my 10th Wedding Anniversary with my husband, and I can confirm that conversations like those had in this episode certainly have their place. Get you some friends who have real talks like this. ❤

Rod saying that’s my man that’s my man is hilarious

One thing about Leticia, she is so authentic. I love when her and Rod are on ANY podcast. It’s always good.

lol dharius is shook about the 30 consecutive days it has me weak 😂😂😂

The whole dynamic between everyone involved is just authentic and effortless, as spouses and as friends. It's beautiful to see, and I pray I experience love and friendship like this one day.

As a 28 y.o. single woman yall's authenticity and also willingness to listen to each other is inspiring. Baby i was getting so discouraged but yall are proof. and i love the guys explanation/perspective of soft life.

Lol 😂😂😂😂 coach dharius is bringing the heat 😂😂😂

My Husband is amazing, I guess he is naturally wired to provide. For many years my husband took my car to the gas station, washed my car, start my car before i got in it. He has a servant heart. He is disabled now, so he does not do as much. However providing for each other is the deal. I have traditional values. We were tender and kind with each other. I cooked, baked, clean, and provided a safe place for my husband and children. At each stage in life, needs and want change, we just have to be careful to check back in with each other and make sure we are still on track with our love language.

I have to agree with the husbands that this is the best episode yet. The transparency mixed with the laughter and fun amongst such successful couples as yourselves was truly a joy to watch and witness!

I love the honesty and transparency of PD and 1st Lady. I love my pastors so relatable ❤❤❤

We need a Part 3 with the husbands, this was real good yall…

This was awesome!! Leticia has me cracking up every time she go to fold them arms😂😂🩷

When they was talking about the challenges when Dr. D said I don’t need that 30 days 😂😂😂😂😂 I hollered! I love this channel

Thank you so much for the relational and marriage insightful perspectives. This talk is so needed in our community and even for singles purposed for marriage.

Beautiful episode ❤ I loved hearing the men's response. Much love and many blessings to you and your families ❤❤

I now understand my husband’s struggle through PD’s explanation of “Individual’s needs” instead of a blanket, one-size-fits-all approach. Laticia, I see your heart and find your reasons for appearing a little rough relatable. You are helping and equipping us with the proper terminology to effectively address and find the resolution we aspire to.

This was my favorite episode so far‼️‼️🤣🤣🤣🤣🎉🎉 rod & leticia need there own reality show😂😂😂😂😂

THIS IS POWERFUL!!! This Transparency means EVERYTHING.... I LOVE THIS REALNESS!!! LOL, Don't wanna be looked upon as acting so much like his momma, but as his loving more sensitive not so dominate but more healthier feminine softer lightly toned girlfriend his best girlfriend his wife his partner his lover. Intentionally Attentively Learning how to Knowing how to as well as when to. Having fun and Enjoyment While Sensitively Sharing with each other and while sharing with all who are attentively tuned in to this. THANKS FOR SHARING! TGBTG GOD BLESS

My girl Chi always real always transparent! I watched the growth and love between Rod and Leticia they have truly put in the work and truly inspiring to my single self!

I want you to think about my gas 🤣🤣🤣lol Leticia is so funny

Shameeka said I don’t say anything I’m grateful for what I got 😂

This was really good and I guess I’d have to say needed for me.

Awesome Awesome Awesome...Again the realness is amazing and the freedom is real🆕️🔥👐👏💪🏾🙏🏽✌👏 ❤

Great episode! I love the fact they were open enough to come talk about their views/feelings. I see a "couples pod" brewing.... and we are here for it!!

I loved just listening to the conversation. It lets you into their world as married people and I feel like so many married couples have these same struggles. Because we don’t experience ourselves we only experience the other person often times we want grace even when we’re cutting you. Many of us were not taught how to process our emotions and that’s why these conversations are so important. Love the openness and honesty❤

I absolutely love it here! Elated I found your podcast!! Binge watching to catch up! We appreciate you sharing and being so transparent! This episode was phenomenal but also hilarious!😂

Bring the husbands back once a month lol! Married also 14 years here and I sent my husbae the link to watch!! Congratulations on this new journey and good luck with the challenges 😂

Chi chi said I need a little grace 😂

We're gonna need a part 3, maybe 4 and 5 lol

This was a very candid conversation. Im single and Im giving myself my soft life thru getting to the bag.

I thoroughly enjoyed this episode. I love the transparency-so many great takeaways. The realness is real. Authenticity makes all the difference. The genuineness is appreciated. Often, couples, especially those in the limelight, put on, but people can see right through it. Your candidacy makes you all so relatable. You guys are great-looking couples with a great sense of humor. I laughed so much and learned a lot. We all have work to do. So many valid points shared. Thank you

This is good, hearing both sides of gender really clears things up. God bless yall for yall's testimony

❤❤❤❤ this is wonderful as someone who is a Christian and is courting and navigating relationship with God at the forefront, appreciate this!

YEEEESSSSS MY PASTORS ARE AMAZING! I LOVE ❤️ how my sister Leticia and brother Rod soooo AMAZINGLY AWESOME

This is so good! Been married 8yrs and I really enjoyed this episode so much ladies. Love hearing both the female and male perspectives. I am one that had to learn early on about my attitude and delivery when talking to my husband. Whew! Great content we need more of this for sure!

WOW 14 and 24 years!!!🎉

Okay I need chi chi personality more lol I love that she is real and she a boss.. you only get so much from ig but I learned about her from Jackyoh (rip)

No this was very good. Will definitely need a more in-depth part two. Like seriously. I have been accused of having masculine energy at times and I hate it. I’m learning how to soften up. I really do want to be soft w/o having to try. Y’all hit on some really great things but I’m not writing a book today on this internet. 🔥🔥🔥💚💚💚

This soo interesting l like it with your husbands Soo real and candid

This was so AmaZng! This single lady enjoyed every moment and I’m so looking forward to sharing my life with my future husband livin, lifen, and lovin with him. I appreciate every bit of knowledge that was expressed here. My Pastors are truly amazing. Keep up all the great work. To God be all the glory🙏🏾💕🥰

Rod has Leticia spoiled Lmaoooo

Relational needs!!! Yesss. This was so real. Thank y’all for Doing this.

I love this episode I told my husband I guess you not the only one that doesn’t put gas in his wife car 😂😂😂😂😂

This was definitely one of the best episodes!! I love to see black love! The conversations and the way the love is presented gives me hope. The men definitely completes the both of your goals!!

This was REAL GOOD!! I loved the dynamic between the husband and wife POV's for sureeeee. I would've to hear the POV from a GF / BF perspective

This episode had me smiling the entire time.. love it and need it !❤

This was awesome! As a married woman I loved it. You guys communicate well.

I love the transparency.. more of this please!!

Pastor Darius was so insightful, hope the husband's come back again, gives us a hope that marriage is not so bad❤. Thank you

I loved this episode! Thank you for being so transparent.

Absolutely love this episode, I needed to hear this.

This was so good! I completely understood when Leticia said her experience with "grandma's house" was not her husbands. We all have such different upbringings and definitely need the grace to grow together. Hearing real marriage talk without pessimism or gender bashing is refreshing! Definitely shared and subscribed!

She said I don’t make you feel like that shameeka husband said no 😂😂

Chi Chi don't play with Rod ass. She wasn't playing about that gas hunty😂😂

So enjoyable! Please do a Part 2.2 😊. The authenticity of both couples was phenomenal. Keep all your good growth going, guys - doing such a fantastic job!

I absolutely loved this episode. It's so real and relatable. I was crying laughing through most of this show. 👏👏👏

Love this podcast so much and this episode ❤Dr.Darius said how much truth can we tell! Love it here

This is healthy to see .. more couple videos please

LOVED THIS!!!🤎🤎🤎 Real authentic conversation!!!

I was here for all the nuggets,advice, and coaching because what God has in store for me for the future, I'll definitely need ALL this. Speaking it into existance and over my life. This was a great episode and the best so far. I love the transparency and authenticity that both couples showed. You all ROCKED😄👏❤‍🔥!!

Mrs. Brown sent this to me and a couple mins in I’m already glued lol love the realness from you guys. Rod I feel you my guy 😂 dem 45 min drives to decompress be needed my guy 😅💯🤝

Definitely the BEST Episode’so far thanks for this

I am loving this episode but I had to stop and pause when Rod said Leticia doesn’t treat him like he’s great, I was like huh, I beg to differ, I can see that she does from the outside looking in! 😂 #TheGardners❤

Did Pastor take over the interview 😂😂love it here

Chi chi said yeah I’m at peace being a boss 😂

Yes, we need another episode..l I was trying to finish organizing my closet. This is so good. I had to talk back in the chat..

The introductions of your husband's 🔥🔥🔥 let me keep watching for the gems haha

This was an excellent episode. I took away a few key things pertaining to marriage. (1) Men want women to be “soft” and to me this means show affection, love on them, allow them to be the “man”, take care of them and they will naturally take care of you. (2) My sense was that these women are so used to driving and controlling (as a result of protecting themselves due to past trauma or past poor teaching) it has created a bit of tension in their marriage. They want to be treated a certain way but their husbands have been on a roller coaster ride based on the “control “ these women want to have. These women want to be treated delicately and pursued but their actions often say otherwise and honestly these men seemed confused. In other words their actions are saying “I got this so these men have stepped back and said go ahead then.” My mom would say: -Men are actually very simple and sensitive. There is only room for one head in a home and it is the man’s role to be the head. Let him lead. -Your role is to help and that is a critical and much needed role that perfectly complements a man who leads. You have to find your rhythm as a strong woman with a man who is wired by God to lead. -If women can let go of the control, allow themselves to be led consistently, learn how to communicate effectively (suggesting vs telling) than what they need will be met, heard and better received by their husbands. -Men need to be respected and loved and Women need to be respected and loved. The path to achieving that is great communication in words and actions. Words and actions have to align. *Lastly, when he said his grandmother cooked, I took away that he does not want her to be his grandmother but wants attributes of his grandmother like cooking for him.. that cooking represented care towards and for him.

This was so good! The honesty was genuine and well received.

As a therapist I just have to say, a person changing their wiring is possible! It is nothing easy, but it is definitely possible

This episode was so good. I loved hearing the perspectives of both couples.

BEST Episode!!!

Absolutely. The best episode…

So refreshing and relatable! Literally several of the same issues we’ve encountered recently. Keep it coming ladies!

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 🔥 episode!! I’m late! I definitely have to watch part 1

PD and Shameka ❤❤❤ love them 💕

No but seriously this was such an amazing podcast. I am 100% looking forward to when your husbands are on again!!

So good, living in answered prayers. PD.

This is so good. Love the coaching perspective and the authenticity. This is great to me even as single woman of God, who was previously married. Who desires to marry, and this the most beautiful and transparent experience I have had in within a church community.

Great, great episode! Even made my hubby listen a bit 😅😂😂 good notes too!!

I really enjoyed this episode , as a young person this was really enlightening to hearing from a man’s perspective please do more episodes with your partner on different subjects

I loved everything about this! Please do more with the hubbies!

Beautiful Leticia ⚘️⚘️⚘️my favorite couple!

Absolutely LOVED this episode ❤️❤️

I could nott stop laughing ❤ EASILY the best episode yet

This was really good lol love the transparency for sure

Hey Miss Magnolia … Shameka So Proud of you

It was the best episode! 😂🤣 My husband tuned in on a few parts…

Mhmm yeah, this might be the best episode for sure 😂😂 I’m very excited for this podcast though like I love it already!!!

This was absolutely great!!!

I loved this. I cant wait to in a near future speak about how your show came in the perfect timing of my life. Long story short I know there is no coincidence with God. I will share this episode with my beloved and he will be in shock as the conversation we had the night before was about facial expressions. It feels good to know I am not alone on the marriage convo. This show has been life changing. Praying for you ladies to continue succeeding in your careers/marriages. Know your talks ARE making a big difference in the world. Can’t wait to share in due time. Blessings on your marriages ladies. Love the show. Keep it up. God bless.

PD… and Shameka, please coach and speak more about the singles.. older singles who desire marriage and previously have been married.

This was really good. Please do that part two.... 🙏💕

Very informational for marriage to learn more. I find this very helpful. We will definitely 💯 be trying this. Love it!💕

Suchhh a good episode. Agree with everyone else. Also bring them back 😂😂

Great conversation. Towards the end The Gardner's said one wanted gas and one wanted biscuits lol both fought what the other was asking. Just like Dr. Daniel's said, it's really accommodating and providing a space for your partner's needs. I picture it like this certain actions and words we use float...they feel like cotton or land on a cloud. Other words and actions we use fall on hard ground. It's like hail raining down. Lol Soft life is just that. It's the airy, cloud like action of love, appreciation, and recognition.

This was great !!! 💯💯🥰

This conversation was so real!!!!