hi i did it today step 1, walked down busy street and said HI to every man/woman that i passed,and it was amazing even if they did not give eye contact i sed still HI loud & clear! I would say 95% returned the jesture back and with a smile,thanks step 2 speak to female.

@sharifaabdulateef2389

4 жыл бұрын

where r u at now ? did you overcome it ?

@chelseanwalor3503

3 жыл бұрын

V nice

I have finally found out that action is the only thing that will get life to change. We I am at now after a month and a half of deciding enough is enough - I have started to ask questions and college (new for me) I have been updating my core self esteem by changing my stories (thanks) using self affirmations (with evidence from my past) and I am doing what scares me.

@GetMoreConfidence

5 жыл бұрын

Well then...nothing can stop you now!

@user..-.

5 жыл бұрын

@@GetMoreConfidence yes, thank you Dr Aziz. Your a kind and caring man thank you for helping others

@tomcaki7454

2 жыл бұрын

It's been 3 years. How are you doing champ?

Thank you for sharing your story. It's true that when you're at the bottom, so many "possibilities" open up. It can only get better from here! That's what kept me sane and brought me hope when I reached my lowest. That's when my survival instinct kicked in. I don't just want to exist, I wanna live. And so I changed the situation I was in.

@GetMoreConfidence

4 жыл бұрын

So true!

i've been following that same road. Fucked up my high school social life. But it ends now. im going to watch your videos every day for aslong as it takes. Thank you so much for your videos. i hope you can continue because your changing lives man.

@Allmotorzl1

8 жыл бұрын

***** I improved slightly than went back to smoking weed. So no. lol It doesn't really bother me anymore though, i simply don't give a fuck,

@jarabe28

6 жыл бұрын

Platinum hang in there ❤️👊🏾 it's worth understanding yourself better

@chs75

5 жыл бұрын

How are you doing now?

@colourfulmind4664

4 жыл бұрын

How are you doing now?

@chelseanwalor3503

3 жыл бұрын

Update (:

Fantastic video. The part that really stuck with me is how you said your eye area was something you were self conscious about. But when I watched your video one of the first of your features that I picked out as liking was your eyes and how they look so deep. It really made me think, how many of my own flaws I pick apart that maybe others not only don't hate... but might even like?

No words to thank your free help!

He deserves so many more views.

Just wanted to say, I love your videos. The first time i watched the one about being a "nice guy", it was like getting hit in the face with a bat. It was so dead on and accurate it was painful, but at the same time a relief. It seemed to change my life for the next 3 days. Correcting these behaviors is the hardest part, but first you need to know what is the problem, then you can fix it!

@jarabe28

6 жыл бұрын

koolbeenzbro got to watch this video now! 😰❤️👊🏾

So glad I found these videos thanks heaps :)

What a wonderful story. A great inspiration. I have tried all the above suggestions but every time I fail I fall deeper in a bad place. I sought council on my shyness and everyone I have seen seem mystified at how I am. But listening to you has given me some hope. Even though I am in my early 50's I still hope for the best and I do try to practice on fundamentals but when things go wrong I get really had on myself. Thanks again for your great videos.

@GetMoreConfidence

8 жыл бұрын

+Bernie Smatavicius You're welcome Bernie. No matter what age, you can take new actions and gain confidence!

Many thanks for sharing your expertise online. I watch one video of your channel every morning for one month now and I wanna keep going until there are no videos left :) I sometimes listen to Shrink for the Shy guy. I am applying some techniques of yours, like eye contact, 100 days of gratitude, bold speaking to myself in the morning, getting rid of bad habits. I am very grateful for all the inspiration and I feel small changes in my attitude to myself. Listening to your podcast made me understand that I am not the only one, feeling the way I feel. And it felt great to understand that some problems that bother people with social anxiety are not true for my life. And I learn now to be grateful for that. I have a gorgeous supporting family. There are areas in my life, where I have taken a lot of risks. I am okay with my appearance. I have awesome friends I can really share with what is going on in my life. And there are loads of possibilities at work and in private life, where I can practice to cope with social anxiety. There are people that make me feel valuable and I just need to learn to believe in what they say and perceive how they behave towards me. I am 24 years old now, you must have been in a similar age in your senior years at high school, when you decided for yourself that things must change. For me the shift has been some severe setbacks at work. And people at work and some in my private life crossing my personal borders and behaving towards me in a way that made me feel awful, gave me the feeling I had when being bullied in high school. And these experiences haven't been tremendously bad, I just reacted too much to them. I I realised that my opinion of myself was so low that I didn't dare to say no, to stand up for myself, because I thought I am so horrible that the others are right to treat me that way. I never thought I could tackle my love life. I just kind of accepted that it is more or less not existent and that that's just what I have to live with and one day the right man will knock on my door. There has been some man, but not all experience have been good and this made me stop trying and being open for new contacts with men. And now I understood, that I really need to work on that. It is good to watch a podcast from a man addressed to men, because there are many negative feelings and a lot of distrust towards men inside me, and I usually turn to women for everything, even for asking how to get to the railways station, so being able to take advice from a man is a good thing to me. And most of your videos are helpful for men and women. Your videos, your ebook five steps to unleash your inner confidence and your podcast inspire me to keep on taking action into changing patterns in my life that make me feel bad about myself. I am very grateful for your efforts. And besides watching all of this is a great practice of my English. All the best from Sibiria!

i love u dr.aziz . u make me more optimistic

Thank you for talking about this ❤️❤️

@GetMoreConfidence

6 жыл бұрын

You're most welcome!

oh man you r describing me exactly ! especially when i was a lil kid i used to go and hide if there are guests

I can relate to what you said. In college I was shy with women (the guy who would freeze up, then stand in the corner), and I didn't change until I was 24. Long story short, I met a divorcee who was 41 and she taught me things in and out of bed and built my confidence. Then from there I found I had a niche with "cougar women" and had a fairly active dating life. Looking back, I could have done better, but it was consistent overall from age 24 onwards.

I love your 'two-path' metaphor!

@GetMoreConfidence

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you, glad you liked it!

I like your videos Aziz. It's pretty cool that you share how you've been through this your self & improved step by step. And nice plug for David D' Angelo. I personally think that guy is a genius.

@GetMoreConfidence

9 жыл бұрын

01ghostmechanic01 Word. I've learned a HUGE amount from David DeAngelo/Eben Pagan. He's one of my heroes : )

i love u mr aziz.. u make me belive in me..

Thanks so much doc , I'm from tanzania never commented on any youtube videos but you said is exactly what I'm going through now , seeing this video just made me want to change like big deal i sometimes get angry to myself like why was iborn like this and all that , but this stops now . Thanks alot

Thanks for sharing your story!

@GetMoreConfidence

4 жыл бұрын

My pleasure!

Much appreciated but i think it'll be more easier if you upload more doc! I salute you! Your amazing!

@GetMoreConfidence

9 жыл бұрын

Ashraf Abdullatifh More coming soon my friend : )

Very encouraging! Thank you. A lot. ❤️💜✝️

@GetMoreConfidence

3 жыл бұрын

You bet!

it's funny, I said to myself at the beginning of the summer holidays "I'm tired of being a nobody" so my aim is to start anew for college. it's just overcoming that anxiety that's so hard XD

Thank you mr. Aziz

@GetMoreConfidence

4 жыл бұрын

You're very welcome!

Dude I've been binge watching all your videos tonight, and it's actually kind of unnerving how accurate your examples of social anxiety are, not even my closest friends are able to know stuff that in depth. Social anxiety has really ruined my life for the past 6 years, so thankyou for posting these, I'm gonna get busy with the advice.

thank you so much

@GetMoreConfidence

2 жыл бұрын

You're very welcome.

I did not even realize that he has something around eyes :D Yeah these inside comparing stories are not the way to a happy life...

Sir you are great

@GetMoreConfidence

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you, and so are you!

I also thought things would get better when I got to college. Man was I wrong. It was the complete opposite. After reading your book about social anxiety though, I feel hopeful that I can get through this. Living a half-life is no way to live.

Dr. Aziz what's your opinion on ACT and on CFT therapies ?

a shy kid we can understand that, but what about extroverted outgoing kid or teenager became introvert in adulthood

@GetMoreConfidence

3 жыл бұрын

Changes can happen in any order.

hey dr aziz, i am a woman dealing with social anxiety disorder ... Is your book directed at guys specifically?

What I want to know is, could you do it alone?? That is what’s discouraging me. I can’t pay for therapy or coaching, so I just have God to help me. I’m by myself, physically. So, can I do that alone? I’ll buy your book though, ( I want to) idk the price yet though.

@GetMoreConfidence

3 жыл бұрын

You can learn a lot from my books, this channel, and my podcast.

I blush constantly when talking to people and cannot maintain eye contact due to this- how do I fix this? I started a new job a few weeks ago and I feel people are 'picking' on me as I'm the nice shy guy. I just want to be more confident!!

@GetMoreConfidence

9 жыл бұрын

Daniel Jones Great question Daniel - we train people how to treat us. When people pick on us, how we respond determines if they keep doing it or if they stop. It sounds like learning how to be more bold, direct, and assertive would really help you. I'd suggest checking out Confidence Unleashed. ConfidenceUnleashedNow.com

Hey Aziz, I am 30 years old. I am having huge social anxiety at work. any particular video focused on interaction or acting confidently at office. Am I too late to transform myself I just turned 30 and not happy with my appearance. Love from Pakistan

@GetMoreConfidence

9 жыл бұрын

Mark Adams Too late at 30? That's just a story my friend. It's just FEAR talking. The reality is you could change more rapidly than you can even imagine. It will just involve facing things you've avoided the last 15 years.

why the voice is low? hope u check that out

@GetMoreConfidence

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks, I will!

Wow you are so like me, the way I think about things the way I express myself, the way I see the world. What's your e-mail address I'd love to chat with you dude. I totally get what you say about the hitting the point of saying no more. I'm sick of being a nobody all the time. THIS FAR NO FURTHER!!

@GetMoreConfidence

9 жыл бұрын

That's great to hear. The "I Won't Take This Anymore!" is one of the most powerful places to be. It is the beginning of a life change. To get in touch with me, simply go to my website: SocialConfidenceCenter.com

Hey dr aziz was u ever able to get a girlfriend with social anxiety disorder

@GetMoreConfidence

5 жыл бұрын

Not really, that's what initially drove me to find my way out.

What are you a Doctor of? I can't find your credentials.

@GetMoreConfidence

8 жыл бұрын

+tdreamgmail Thinkology.

@tdreamgmail

8 жыл бұрын

Get More Confidence Oh right BS of Arts :)

@nowaynoway4081

8 жыл бұрын

+Get More Confidence only people with high sexual energy have S.A that what i noticed .

What happened to your other friends 1st like Tim then tell about othere.tell about there life and your life differences achievements

I am student of computer engg. Average student comparatively just in case i want to share as u told too. The case of me is like i m 21 yrs now the things we see and what we do are totally different so i wanna ask how do maintain balance between this..?

@GetMoreConfidence

5 жыл бұрын

I'm not sure what you're asking exactly. Would you give me some more information.

@jayeshadwani3779

5 жыл бұрын

@@GetMoreConfidence This is the thing sir We actually think what is on our mind on daily basis,but sometimes or some occurence we have to act without having time to think. What should we do at that particular point.That's my question..?

@GetMoreConfidence

5 жыл бұрын

I'd recommend taking a moment and do you best to make a moment to think. There are things, however, if practiced enough become second nature and you can immediately react as you wish without much conscious thought at all. That's the value of taking action and practicing.

@jayeshadwani3779

5 жыл бұрын

@@GetMoreConfidence Thank you sir for your answer!

@jayeshadwani3779

5 жыл бұрын

It really means to me..

I am the most handsome man alive and believe ir