It really shows how comfortable John, and people in general, feel around Conan to be comfortable sharing stuff like this.

@piteusx8440

3 ай бұрын

Mayer gets it. Never scared of poking fun of himself. Also, Conan is never mean spirited.

Mayer is a great guest. One of the few that participates actively and is completely comfortable with them. Pretty ballsy bringing up such a subject to an original SNL writer but it was a great conversation getter. Great episode.

@r3d5ive87

4 ай бұрын

Conan was not part of the original snl.

@jkap34

4 ай бұрын

​@@r3d5ive87 exactly. He was late 80s.

@petecartwright5211

4 ай бұрын

There we go. Well done. He was still close. They started in the mid-late 70's.@@jkap34

@Sfdjdhrh

4 ай бұрын

He was not a great guest, and is totally self absorbed. He calls himself an emotional giver which he states is very rare. He's a pompous ass who didn't create a single laugh

@DeltronZed

4 ай бұрын

I feel like he's been funny and interesting and charismatic in every interview i've seen him in. Interesting guy. He was fantastic when he was on the podcast, Harmontown.

How did nobody say "Ass Wednesday"?

@KirstenLeah0710

4 ай бұрын

I for sure thought it would be Gourley

@KaiOpaka

4 ай бұрын

I know Conan doesn't like puns, but surely there is an exception for this. It's too good.

@anildash

3 ай бұрын

How did they say it’s in E, when clearly it should be *in A*.

It's interesting to see people reach such great heights in their career, like Mayer, and still have a difficult time processing the inescapable fact, that certain people will dislike you no matter what you do, and often for no clear, identifiable reason. The remark Conan made about not putting people on a pedestal is wise. It really queues people up for disappointment. Unless (of course), it's Conan being placed upon the pedestal; that makes sense.

John Mayer laughs like Ray Liotta in Goodfellas. Not a criticism; this was a fun interview.

@HenryMulligan

4 ай бұрын

You're right!

@rjmari

4 ай бұрын

Conan really is a funny guy!

@sassyest8292

4 ай бұрын

​@@rjmarifunny how?

@matthewrammig

4 ай бұрын

Yeah, there was something that looked familiar. I just couldn’t figure out what it was.

@tiffanygrace85

4 ай бұрын

Omg! That’s who he reminded me of!

Conan is such a genius. He picked the most hilarious celebrity to finally “out” by the end. They kept saying they weren’t going to name names, so I knew he had to be thinking of who is the funniest and also most harmless celebrity to clown on 😂

I listened to the full audio podcast, and it is one of the funniest, most entertaining episodes I’ve heard. Conan and John have a great chemistry.

@susannet.401

4 ай бұрын

Same 💯 agree with you

John’s appearance with Frank Ocean on SNL playing the song “Pyramids” is one of the most influential musical and SNL performances of my life

@conbaz106

4 ай бұрын

word.

@andrewhamson435

3 ай бұрын

word

@johny.echevers

3 ай бұрын

word

@giandonayre2908

3 ай бұрын

word

@GeorgeArroyoES

2 ай бұрын

word

This has given me more therapy than actual therapists. This is a situation I have had with people in a different industry that I have worked in for years, but, for whatever the reason, not at their level. Extraordinarily hurt feelings on my part have been caused by people who are paid to be curious about others but who have literally turned their backs to me after being introduced. Thank you, John and especially Conan.

Damn therapy session for John Mayer on these past videos lol 😅

@kristnpmi2786

4 ай бұрын

as John has stated himself. He's an introverted sensitive extrovert 😅

I was wondering for the entire video who Conan would jokingly throw under the bus.

@mohitsarchives

4 ай бұрын

I was just waiting for him to drop Fred Armisen right in there 😂

@BaddurD

4 ай бұрын

Same!!!

@Daniel_Ilyich

4 ай бұрын

@@mohitsarchives Fred's known to be a jerk?

@mohitsarchives

4 ай бұрын

@@Daniel_Ilyich oh no, I just imagine him to be the one most likely to be jokingly thrown under the bus by Conan due to the nature of their relationship haha, check their podcast episode out!

@Galactic123

4 ай бұрын

@@Daniel_Ilyich The opposite actually. Fred is one of the few SNL people who is well-known to be a rather lovely person behind the scenes. That's why it would have been funny for Conan to "out" him.

11:45 when John starts diving deeper into the Sharing of energy vs the Guarding of energy, oh man did I connect and vibe with that 100000%

@thewaldfe9763

4 ай бұрын

The ones who spread positive vibes vs. the ones who are draining your energy. Sona vs. (Screen-) Jordan?

@killer3544

4 ай бұрын

i didn't, maybe because i'm very cool

@judyszypa8280

4 ай бұрын

Yes that

@Sfdjdhrh

4 ай бұрын

Except the part where he said he was a sharer and not many people are so hes rare. He's a narcissistic douchebag

@paradise_valley

2 ай бұрын

yep and I don't antagonise people who guard because I always attempt to nourish but if my social battery is drained I might come off as forced and insincere or not genuine and unlikeable sometimes too. I think the difference is if the intention to nourish and be polite and open is there even if you feel introverted and fed up with the world, it's good enough because as much of a nihilistic, cynical, despondent teenager I can be, I never intend to mistreat or hurt anybody, I always go out of my way to at least appear respectful. I feel like these are just values that must be instilled in you growing up as a child or in your early 20s when you amp up your social interactions. It sort of goes both ways here, John openly discusses and is self aware of how he is yapping so much that Conan requests to say something on his own podcast, and I assume that he does the same to some SNL alums that might throw them off so I hope he isn't bitter or resentful that people can have a more shielded, defensive or reserved personality.

John Mayer's recent reflections on 'Conan O'Brien Needs a Friend' about his interactions with SNL performers got me thinking about the subtleties of Conan's influence. It's fascinating to see someone as renowned as John hold these performers in high regard, a sentiment many of us share towards Conan's world. The dream of meeting Conan and his team is akin to appreciating a tapestry of pop culture they've woven together, where everyone seems connected by a mere degree. Conan's role goes beyond hosting; he's a catalyst in the entertainment landscape. This is subtly echoed in John's experience and in the narratives of countless guests, each intertwined with Conan's legacy. It's a masterclass in influence, barely scratching the surface of his impact on shows like 'The Office' and beyond. In essence, Conan's world is a microcosm of industry interconnections, a subtle yet profound testament to his enduring influence. We've had the fortune of pure legacy and history in the making for the last 30+ years thanks to Conan and his adored crew!

@darendy888

4 ай бұрын

love this!

@mattmays9063

4 ай бұрын

I love you! and Conan lol :)@@darendy888

@MasterVDrumming

4 ай бұрын

Wow that was very well spoken 👏

@nahcold3900

4 ай бұрын

I think John wanted special treatment from SNL which he didn’t get because comedians are like that. They’re mostly awkward and have questionable social skills with highly functioning brain. John has to realize that he’s isn’t worshipped or desirable everywhere. He’s highly intelligent and super talented guitarist artist but seems like he’s still not over his self-appreciating nature and “ Everyone must like me” attitude. It’s almost like he definitely wouldn’t welcome Conan to tour with his band just because Conan knows how to play guitar. Or any other musician for that matter.

@CraigMCox

3 ай бұрын

Sir this is a Wendy’s

I've never seen John laugh this much in an interview. Usually he's able to keep a straight face and be the one making other people laugh with his humor. Shows how genuinely funny Conan in his element is and as usual coming up with the most witty and hilarious responses causing John to almost spit out his drink multiple times. Loved this interview.

He sounds like a dad talking to his sons friend 😊

@kevinford0001

4 ай бұрын

Your dad plays guitar?!? *secret crush on friends mom*

Bill Hader told a story of meeting Michael Bay at the Playboy Mansion years ago. Pretended he didn’t know who he was after Bay made a snide comment about SNL

@onlyiforgive5083

4 ай бұрын

Micheal Bay definitely is not a nice person

@FluffyCrimsonBirkenstocks

4 ай бұрын

​@@onlyiforgive5083except by his own account, Michael was very nice.

@TrollsAndScrolls

26 күн бұрын

@@onlyiforgive5083of course he's not a good person, he keeps blowing things up all the time

hes getting good at the beer ads. the fast part at the end of the ad was perfecto

@alianaweston2286

4 ай бұрын

It was hilarious

I gotta agree with John on this. I think he's being candid and comedians in general can be a depressed and antisocial lot. Many have said that doing standup requires a certain level of self-hatred. When I shared a house in Hollywood near UCB we had one house party where Horatio Sans stood awkwardly on the front lawn and refused to enter the house with his friends because he said there were ghosts inside. My impression was he was doing it to get attention, but idk, maybe he was on something. I never found out because I didn't feel like standing on the lawn all night.

John Mayer interviews always bring me out of my depressive episodes! Yay!

Did you know John Mayer was inspired to make music after he listened to the slipnuts

@MarceloRomero360

4 ай бұрын

Huh. I thought he was inspired by the youthful antics of Stacey Richter.

@SuperTracilee

4 ай бұрын

🤣🤣🤣

@poolhall9632

4 ай бұрын

I thought he was inspired by Clay Cook who wrote most of his early hits.

@geloamiote

4 ай бұрын

hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha 😭

@masterninjahh

4 ай бұрын

makes sense, the slipnuts are legends. did you know they even opened for slipknot once

This clip is such a wonderful microcosm of everything Conan's show has to offer - deep, meaningful conversations with chaotic hilarity strewn about.

You know Conan is spot on with not putting SNL on a pedestal in John Mayer’s case. Saying how he was burned by that before. Which I interpret as him meaning when he put the Tonight Show up on a pedestal.

Loving the vulnerability of this discussion! This is a shared human experience.

11:20…..there’s your lyric right there, lol.😂🤣❤

Two of my favorites together. This was such a treat. Thank you!

I gotta say, with no disrespect, saying that ‘defenders’ aren’t concerned about it… is not always true. I am a defender and it’s not something I choose, or like. It’s mostly from trauma, and I always feel bad after I talk to most people because all I want in the world is to give.

@Nueztoy

4 ай бұрын

I recognize I’m a downer. I just can’t tell when I’m doing it. I hate it.

@pho3nix-

4 ай бұрын

This 100%

@paradise_valley

2 ай бұрын

Yeah I can come off as introverted sometimes so I would never antagonise "defensive" people they're not takers they just don't have the energy in going out of their way to put you on a pedestal, and they shouldn't have to, especially if you're effectively a stranger.

Normalizing talking about mental health and emotions is a very healthy thing. Good for you John and Conan for talking about it and sharing your experiences!

I wanted to scream through my Spotify when I listened to this portion of the podcast to John Mayer to let him know why those SNL people were like that to him. It is not because Conan was being protective of those SNL people and being deceptive to John Mayer in his answer. It is because he does not know everything and can only answer from his perspective and experience. Conan is of an older generation of improv artists that don't share the same values as this new breed; and is unaware of the new malicious changes that have crept up in the Inprov communities over the decades. I am in trained in Inprov and have performed improv. And for the last 20 years there have been these rich kids that come in that have elitist attitudes, and learn "yes and" when it comes to performing, but they don't apply it to people they perform with. It is more of the attitude of "no but". These people are competitive; cliquey, and lack compassion and lack empathy for other people beyond their own rich kid cliques. They have infiltrated and taken over the Improv communities; and have gotten onto SNL --- which is why SNL it is become increasingly regressively unfunny over time. Even though Conan went to Harvard and comes from privilege -- he and his generation are the opposite of these people. Improv and comedy for him was never about competition and his own fame --- unlike these brats. Improv and comedy were always about bringing each other up, creating a sense of community, and making people laugh. I am sorry that John Mayer had those unpleasant experiences, but it is not surprising given the current state of improv.

@finchcarvingadiamond

4 ай бұрын

THANK YOU!! People need to start talking about this!

The energy between John and Conan is electric, even on such a touchy subject about SNL. Please do a musical spin-off, jamming on their guitars and having lots of laughs.

Great clip, makes me want to see the whole conversation. I have the feeling being a giver or defender also depends on the day. Sometimes I feel guarded going into an interaction because of how my day(s) went before. During, I get the feeling I am too closed off and the interaction feels good, I actually want to be more open and giving. Sometimes, I can react in time, and sometimes it's too late and I regret. Vice versa I feel it also happens to me the other way around where I am bummed out that someone did not give back as much I wanted them to or how I wanted them to.

I can't wait for the rest of the clips to drop!

@PeterZeeke

4 ай бұрын

theres a whole podcast thats out now

@drdeviant8365

4 ай бұрын

@@PeterZeeke shush. You're ruining it for him

@kristnpmi2786

4 ай бұрын

I want to be able to watch video of the entire podcast episode. That would be great

I wonder if part of what John Mayer has noticed might also come from the ways SNL works. Every week they not only put on a comedy show, but they also have a celebrity host who is often the hottest thing right now, and then also a musical guest who is also a popular touring act putting out an album, maybe nominated for a Grammy this year, etc. And every single week it's another famous host and another musical guest. I wonder if, and I don't fault him for it, but I wonder if *most* people are at least a little excited to meet John Mayer. And I could see SNL people being like "Oh cool. Three nights ago I met Paul McCartney, and 10 nights ago I hung out with Lady Gaga for the second time, and we spent 3 days together working on a bit. But yeah, nice to meet you. Anyway, I think I see my friend over there", and that may come across as less receptive than basically everyone else. Even a touring comedian might see other comedians, or comedic actors, but probably doesn't hang out with Taylor Swift or Beyoncé or Green Day or whoever.

@christophervollick4634

4 ай бұрын

I guess a late show host, like Conan for example, would be the only thing with more exposure than that. Having 2 or 3 famous guests and a musical guest **every night** puts you through a lot of people. I imagine it's difficult to be starstruck pretty quick.

@pikabiga

3 ай бұрын

Thought the same. In that industry, where you’re constantly entertaining people and meeting big names in the daily, probably hard to give back on a personal level. Lol happens in everyday life too. Can’t go expecting an experience from everyone, no matter how positive you try to be. I’m a “defender” before i’m a “giver”. Not maliciously, just a matter of energy level. I wouldn’t expect a lot of snl writers, or anyone else for that matter, to have that abundance beyond their work/intended interaction. Life’s stressful lol gotta line up priorities everyday

Youre a legend. your free guitar expression breakdowns are relatable, and instill confidence in the timid., while still steps ahead of anyone close. We thank you

I feel nourished after watching this!

There's defender and giver, but there's a third category - takers. I feel like defenders don't drain your energy if you just don't need their approval or validation, but takers basically demand it from you or they'll make you feel bad - much more draining than defenders.

@paradise_valley

2 ай бұрын

Yeah I don't really antagonise defenders because a lot of them just could be reserved introverted everyman type people struggling to keep up with the crazy antics of a rockstar - as much I love Mayer he shouldn't be surprised his personality is difficult for people who aren't fans of his music who can gauge his earnestness, especially when his career in like 2008-13 was filled with the kind of scandals, controversies and egotistical behaviour that SNL performers make a living mocking or impersonating caricatures of.

Very insightful and relatable!

I never heard John Mayer laugh that hard. 😂 10:12

@kristnpmi2786

4 ай бұрын

John's laugh is iconic

He seems like a likable dude. I dont remember much, but he guest hosted an episode of TMZ a while back and was pretty funny.

Yassssss been waiting for this to happen for so looooong

John Mayor has strong lil bro energy, I would have to tease him too irrespective of my feelings about his work

Mayer and COnan are a match made in podcast heaven.. I've always imagined them being n a podcast like this because I always felt that they are in the same wavelength that a conversation between them would sound really interesting.

that miller lite plug is really giving "man grate" energy from the Norm podcast, lol

It’s probably really hard to not let success like that go straight to your ego. I’ve even experienced that on a minuscule level and it shifts your view from serving joy to people to taking joy from people for your ego

@pho3nix-

4 ай бұрын

Very true

@thedude4672

4 ай бұрын

That's true, but most SNL cast members do not have great careers after they leave the show. Many do, but not most

@michaeljacksin9367

4 ай бұрын

good point @@thedude4672

Conan's Miller Lite commercial. 😂😂😂

This is the best interview I've seen John on. We really get to understand him in this format

What is missing from this conversation is the mention of depression and anxiety, I become highly defensive of my energy when I'm not feeling too good about myself. The "Sad clown paradox" is definitely a thing.

There have been times when I have been around comedians whose names you would know, and it can be a very weird experience. Some of them do not know how to "turn off" and you will just be stuck in a bit with them. The irony is impossible to penetrate, and you can leave feeling like something very weird just happened. Sounds like what John is talking about. I have also had experiences where comedians know how to be normal people when they're not performing.

This so perfectly articulated of being made to feel small!

Please post the ballad of limpy next.

I would have laughed IMMEDIATELY after John asked that question cause I couldn't tell if he was being funny or not. Good save by Conan.

I actually like this Miller commercial segment... I don't even jump through it like I always do on ads 😂

Funny & Insightful

No doubt in my mind Conan was thinking about Chevy Chase as shitfinger jones.

John's laugh is my favorite

John, if you're reading this, even as a fan and an outsider, I can tell you've done a lot of inner work. Thank you for sharing sharing your music and humour with the world. ❤️

Sonia staring at JM 😍 lol

I will never watch Wheel of Fortune the same way again 😂

Alright, I will say it. I think the type of people Conan is hinting towards (Comedians little bit older than him) are Bill Maher and Jerry Seinfeld, their condescension and smugness isn't really hidden from the world.

@johnavernia1026

4 ай бұрын

oh you might be right

I love the title of this video. 😭

love it!

For some people self reflection could be the key to happiness.

@thedude4672

4 ай бұрын

I would say for most people. Like Socrates said, the unexamined life is not worth living

Shots fired!

I never thought of it this way in terms of energy. I'm definitely a giver

John is a really good guest. Super cool and smart.

snl thing, it’s obviously about jealously John’s extremely talented, good looking, intelligent, funny and he gets to live in Montana.

@kristnpmi2786

4 ай бұрын

Also has all of his hair at 46 and he is tall😂

@rhaineyrwc1974

4 ай бұрын

@@kristnpmi2786 Tall is key

@rhaineyrwc1974

4 ай бұрын

His hair is great, I could go on ..

This is perfect

the rest of the episode is hilarious. listen to the whole thing. this part is the more serious part

I recall this vividly from when I was studying theater in college. Those types have likely been that way prior to SNL. And the industry doesn’t help. The industry thrives on the competitive system. And it really didn’t help my mental health.

I get heartbroken a lot! Sometimes I run into people that I have touched that I did not even realize I did that! LOL!

John ask great questions! He should have a podcast and have me on! We can sing Gravity together all night!

very good

Amazing album❤❤

Mayer is an incredible guitar player and has a great sense of humor, but my guess is that he might come across as trying too hard to be funny around comedians he respects.

we need a Tom Hanks school of etiquette

@ralaxgaming

4 ай бұрын

Every Tom Hanks movie is a lesson in the Tom Hanks School of Etiquette

@Kitty8791

4 ай бұрын

But why is his son Chet Hanks so messed up? Perhaps jealous that his Father is so kind to everyone & just wanted it all to himself? His older 1/2 siblings & younger brother all seem to be normal, functional adults.

@mcsoli9455

4 ай бұрын

huh?@@Kitty8791

Conan needs to be a late show host again. I really him in that setting 😢

It comes down to people are usually great one on one but sucks when they are part of a group

I love this conversation. I know exactly what they mean and have had that feeling many times. I just hope I’m a giver and if so I hope I continue to be. That’s all any of us can do.😊

I think everyone wants to be liked, celebrities most of all. Their careers are built on it. I can relate to what John said at work. I say hello and smile at coworkers from a certain dept but get the cold shoulder and I don’t know why. It’s like he said, you go “hmmm”. It’s just weird.

This hits a nerve for Sajak - or, as he was known in middle school, Old Sh!twheel.

Did John Mayer play Albert on Little House on the Prairie?

"Ass Wednesday" - The new hit single by Conan (feat. John Mayer)

All I want now is Conan to go on Wheel Of Fortune.

@judyszypa8280

4 ай бұрын

A piece of corn falling off the wheel of fortune lol....Conan riffing at his best 👌

This is kind of a stunning question to hear from someone who is clearly self aware and very much a conscious participant in his own uber fame. SNL performers are a mixed group of people, varying levels of fame/etc, yet bonded because they all essentially do the same job in the same place every week. How does John think his road crew or studio engineers feel if/when he socially mixes with them? I remember the lyrics of his song Vultures, which literally places suspicion on those who dare reach out to him.

They danced around the “Why SNL performers seem to diss John Mayer” question too much…when the answer is just none of the SNL performers probably like his music and are not that excited to meet him. As much as that hurts that’s probably all it is. I’m sure you could think of a ton of huge musical artists that would not phase you an inch if you saw them at a restaurant.

@thedude4672

4 ай бұрын

I disagree

@handsolo1546

4 ай бұрын

More like they are territorial and fight and claw for every inch, similar to John has to do in music. Also a jealousy factor if you're a one trick pony comedian and see a baby faced guitar assassin slaying poon. Why would they let him in? It would be damn near impossible to crossover

@ChrisPBacon3000

3 ай бұрын

Exactly. He's just another dude at a party to them and this is how they are to their own and others, unless they need to walk on eggshells. A grown man claiming to have his wittle fee fees hurt, especially when hanging around comedians (which all of the greats are inherently angry and intentionally offensive, etc..), seems as though he needs mental help, or he's trying too hard to be relatable to the plebs.

this was great, love you guys! John was so fun

The funny thing is, John Mayer is so much better at his thing than the SNL bunch are at theirs

He laughs like Ray Liotta

wtf you tube premium was ad free 😂😂

Simply put, some people are fountains and others are drains.

This sounds like silly high school band club vs drama club. It’s easy John. You’re tall, handsome and insanely talented with music and comedy. It’s just pure immature jealousy.

Damn! Seeing these two riff is bringing me that feeling Tom Hanks brings people.

@JasonFarrTubes

4 ай бұрын

Also, at the end talking about giving energy was something. What a great talk!

07:57 so true

John I think its because they see you trying it in the comedy world, with Chapelle or without and they are probably thinking: oh he thinks he can do it. It’s jealousy.

Yep Miller Lite is the best. Didn't give me a hangover.

Yeah Mayer to me was one of the best guests on the podcast. Loved this episode! ❤

Conan has never had a Miller light in his life 😂 please. “my guess is they’ve got miller lite” 😂

@thedude4672

4 ай бұрын

Miller Lite is gross. Sam Adams and Guinness are great

Omg a piece of corn flew off the wheel!!

i mean, most SNL comedians are not funny to me, theyre tryhards. mayer has that effortless thing that allows spontaneous creativity, n my guess is they were intimidated by him cause hes a "better" smoother, more effortless more soulful whatever improviser than they are in the grand scheme

Sounds like they got shut out of the VERY limited, VERY cool run Silver Sky finishes PRS released around the beginning of the year for a couple years, John. ESPECIALLY that Nebula finish. If I were on SNL, that’s how I’D feel. >:(

Hasn't it been said that a lot of comedians attribute their humor to some great struggle or trauma in their life? And if it's true that "hurt people, hurt people", then you may have your answer to why comedians can be hurtful.