Alisha was soooo spot on in with, “in reality, you’re falling in love with yourself” the person you become and the different version of yourself feeling all those new exciting feelings is so intense. She definitely helped open my eyes with that statement👏💕

@chelseasjourneyxox6550

9 ай бұрын

I was like omg yes Alisha!!!

literally after this podcast, I deleted the 2-year message history between me and my ex because I would always find myself looking back at our messages and its not helping my healing process. also Remi ur makeup looks amazing

I need a ”friendship” version of this series!!

@chelseasjourneyxox6550

9 ай бұрын

This!!!!!

@mareeuhh124

8 ай бұрын

YES PLZ

this is THE universal girl conversation that needs to be had within all friend groups because we all go through it whether we’re the friend being wronged or the friend supporting the friend being wronged 💗 women deserve better in life for sure

This episode is such a good reminder to never settle and that we deserve better!!!

@Fringinto

9 ай бұрын

YESSSSSSs !!!

Me a happily married woman sitting here listening.. PREACH 👏🏻

Honestly, my favorite episode so far. The story and advice flowed so effortlessly. Sending hugs to Remi's pal. A better guy awaits.

Where was this podcast when I was a freshman in college?! I would have saved myself so much heart ache and time! 😩 at the end of the day everything happens for a reason and us ladies are all worth so much more than we think! Now I’m happily married and treated like an absolute queen. You WILL know the difference between who is truly worth your time and who isn’t. Also you both are gems thank you for this podcast! 💙

@mateamarie4651

9 ай бұрын

I wish I could’ve had this in college too

@Fringinto

9 ай бұрын

I was thinking the same but as you said, everything happens for a reason and I'm kind of glad it happened to me at 20 and not now I'm 35, bc it could have hurt me so much more!

I related so much to when Remi talked about not having confidence and being lucky that someone is even giving you attention. SO RELATABLE. Same thing happened with me with my ex. He was my first ever boyfriend and I was so blindsided by the fact that a cute guy was talking to ME that I let all of his controlling and emotionally abusive behavior slide. SO GLAD I finally left him. It's so easy to get blindsided.

@mateamarie4651

9 ай бұрын

I thought no one would ever love me so I basically jumped at the first guy that came my way. Big mistake!

I literally remember the situation ship that started it all y’all asking us if we wanted a podcast to talk about 😂😂 I feel kind of old now

@alessiajean1739

9 ай бұрын

And now remi's engaged to lovely cal 🥺

the moment you realise the situationship is over is when you come out of therapy to missed calls from them lol

@sunvavachi

9 ай бұрын

Lol

I’m so happy I’m in a season of my life with being done having situationships, BUT I’m still in my healing era and needed this!! ILY & THANK YOU QUEENS ❤️❤️

@jasmineavalos5585

9 ай бұрын

Same here girlie😌🫶

REMI READ MY SUBMISSION (HAVING TO STOP REACHING OUT IN ORDER FOR THEM TO NOTICE) IM DEAD 😭😭

Tips that i think are helpful: 1. Take yourself out of the equation. Think of the best friend you love most in the world and if she came to you telling you what a partner was doing to her. This works especially well if you have more love for others than yourself. 2. Journaling is key. I wrote poems/entries that were like my manic thoughts for the person that id regret. I considered it like being "drunk". The same way you wouldnt drink and drive is the same way i wouldnt pour out my feelings to someone who feels like an emotionally unsafe space. 3. Believe them. Believe their actions, not their words. How they act with you. Check in with how you feel after spending time with them. Are you refreshed? Are you drained? 4. Make sure you have hobbies and a life outside the "situation". If you find yourself always reaching out, always going to them, maybe "putting out" when you dont want to, pull back and see how they react. This isnt playing games its seeing if there is any reciprocity available. Reciprocating is the bare minimum.

I have never had a REAL relationship and it’s f-ing hard as an adult to find someone with No friends but feeling so lonely and not knowing where to start with anything.

@britkarian

9 ай бұрын

In terms of friends. Most people develop friends after being in a place on a consistent schedule so find a place that you have interest in like clubs, etc and you'd be more likely to find friends. I think friendship is a great place to start. I'm really wishing you the best

Red flag in your friend’s story: “he’s letting her come visit” THE MAN SHOULD BE THE ONE TO MAKE THE TRIP👏🏽👏🏽 The man will put in the effort to court the lady if he’s really into pursuing her. This is natural in nature and it’s human nature as well. The woman should not be chasing ever.

Wow, this episode really hit home! ❤ Wish I had heard this over a year ago when I was down bad after a situationship. Def happy I found this podcast, makes me feel like I’m not alone and we all deserve love ❤ Ty Alisha and Remi!

I was in a situationship for 7 years.... we always knew it would only ever end when one of us found real love. I literally moved from Canada to Australia for 6 months and even then it didn't end. I finally met my sons father, who is my current partner in summer 2017. That's when it ended. I still hear from him every so often typically a "hey I hope you're doing well" type thing. I'll always have love for him and I'm sure him for me. But we knew it was never going to work....when I think about it I still get sad and I'm fully moved on with a full life and family. But I did very much love him.

This podcast is the only reason I've been looking forward to my 6th shift this week lmao I am barely trying to get back into the dating scene and yalls always come in handy and take your advice like the Bible lol love yall so much

Still hoping that Alisha and Remi do truth or drinks on this channel or their main KZread channels especially ones with Oli, Cal, Lauren, Jeremy, Tiffany, Matt, Mia, Ashley, TK, and Taryn 🤞

Remi's different tones changed my life! I do have some tones that are triggering now, but I know when someone who I'm close to texts me versus a stranger/ less frequent communicator and I LOVE!!

The amount of light bulb moments I had within this podcast looking back at my previous “relationships”… appalling. Thank you so much for sparking this conversation and opening up about your experiences!! Love you guys❤

Thank you for posting so early today! So excited I can listen on my hour ride home from work 🥰

The thing about “situationships” is, you are must likely dating someone with attachment issues. People who want healthy connections would have a clear and forward conversation of what they want and need.

my boyfriend of 6 years broke up with me last month & although this advice is mostly for situationships, its really helping me. It's been pretty rough. I am healing and it'll be okay one day!! thank you for these talks!!

@Fringinto

9 ай бұрын

Sending you love and a big huge from Canada !

@BrianaB3

9 ай бұрын

@@Fringinto thank you 🩵

Y’all really know what I need. Impeccable timing. This revived me. 👏

This was the best episode of pretty basic yet!! So candid and real! And a great way to remember we ARE THAT BITCH!! Love you guys!!!

Absolutely loved this episode, I am listening to it coming out of a recent situationship myself. I honestly wish I have listened to my gut more and not turned the blind eye to the red flags. Although i do feel bit embarrassed about it I did learned how to value myself better and understand/accept that I truly deserve better. Parts of this conversation did get me really mad at him and made me wonder how tf I let myself tolerate the disrespect for so long. I really do appreciate yall for opening up this discussion

we love the energy! y'all are thriving

I love waking up to a new video every Wednesday💗

Love this one. Wish I had this advice when I was going through my situationship ❤

Freshly out of a 6 year relationship turned 2 year situationship and honesty haven't felt this genuine in a long time

The timing of this is insane. I was talking to a guy in Georgia and he came and visited me here in Cali and it was perfect and literally broke it off yesterday and we were together but he said since it was at distance it didn't feel real. I'm pissed tbh but I'm a lover, and I want to find someone who is right for me, and I'm not dwelling on another person who doesn't know what they want. I love the advice you guys gave. It definitely helped me today. My heart goes out to your friend she deserves better.

I love this episode so much!! It’s so relatable it’s crazy 😬 this episode really hits home. Currently healing from one rn 🫣

this episode pulled at my heart because i most definitely went through the WORST situationship, but i am happy to report that i married and have my son. there was a light at the end of my tunnel but i feel for the people who didn’t get the happy ending after!

I needed this so bad. I settled and I never should of I love you girlies always reminding us we are worth so much more than we think we are❤❤❤

The rollercoaster was my 5 years relationship that just ended. It’s so hard to be done but you can only take so much.

I really enjoyed this episode. As someone who (in general) finds it very difficult to open up (especially to friends about relationships) this podcast felt like sitting down with insightful and reflective friends and having them advise me. Please do more episodes like this! Using real life situations or not, the advice was plenty helpful!! 💙

I can't not wait for this podcast episode today I love your girls so much 🫶❤️🩵🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍

Loshhhh I love your blush placement recently it suits you so well!! 💗✨

I needed this episode, I’m glad this topic came up

This was one of my favorite episodes!!!! Part two please!!!

im recently going through a breakup because my ex cheated on me and this episode just helped me stay strong and realize i deserve so much better and im not wrong for leaving

@Fringinto

9 ай бұрын

You deserve a supportive partner who choses you every day!! I wish you all the best and to find this person that will make you feel special!

@katiemoray5219

9 ай бұрын

I just went through this and life get so much better now! Give it time and you’ll find your true self. Sending healing vibes your way 💛

Sooo we all needed this right now!?

Loved this episode! So much good advice. Alisha gets so much hate about being single but imo it's bc she has worked to develop her self respect and knows her boundaries! It takes alot of self work to know that and stick to it. I really agree we all have our limit and only you will know when you're done and are ready to accept better

It’s so validating that it has a name now! I was in a situationship for almost 2 years. He joined the military and one day he stopped answering my calls and I never heard from him again. I found out from his sister it was because he got engaged. It’s been over a decade so I almost never think about.

YOU GUYS ARE THE BEST AND THIS PODCAST HELPED SO MUCH!!!!!

I can ALSO tell when my thoughts are anxiety and discernment. I feel like my discernment makes the most sense logically. My anxiety is illogical even tho I can’t see that while having an attack

I was in a situationship for about 3 months before I knew it wasn't going to go anywhere, but I fully believe the only reason I was able to leave that situationship so fast was because I met someone else I liked more. He had I have been together for 3 years now

Wish I could have heard this advice three years ago! Someone needed to tell me this😅thanks ladies!❤️

my situationship was exhausting! Like we were literally doing the bf & gf stuff just not bf & gf. but he would talk to other girls but I WOULDN’T be allowed to talk to other people. omfg. Then i met my now fiancé & I instantly left the situationship bc my fiancé was going above & beyond for me!!

NEEDED THIS!! Thank you 🫶🏼

Thanks ladies… much needed to hear all your advices… ILYSM!! 🥰🤗

Me who is still a late bloomer sitting through this podcast, nodding along and giving my input. 😌 Also, I will buy the merch if y'all make it.

I’m so glad that I have this podcast while I’m entering adulthood

my first time watching yall on video in 4 years but a 8 year supporter here!

I heard the text tone tip from Shan Boodram when I was down bad too but because he wouldn't text me but every other two weeks or month I completely turned off all sounds so I could live without any text anxiety. Three years free and I still have them on silence. Living peacefully

Alisha literally slaying go off both of you great episode 👏🏻

thank you for the free therapy session

as someone who suffers from being in chronic situationships, I appreciate this episode so much 😂

Ugh fav day of the week now 🥲🥲🥲🤞🏼

me screaming at my scream its Hes Just Not That Into You

No I remember when the pod announcement dropped and everyone was pissed it was a podcast but personally I couldn’t wait to hear the boy stories 😂

LOVE THESE LONG PODCAST 📻 do more please xoxo

The text in the middle was so relatable and it's making me think to just text the guy and say it's better we don't keep in contact. It sucks but I've been in one for years and I feel I'm being hopeful for no reason. I feel I am stronger and want to move on. I'm glad you kept shitting on the guy. People, stop using people and be real!

As someone who is still getting over a situation ship this helped sooo much lmfao why did we all go through the same thing 😭

Such a good episode!!!! Love u❤

I loved this episode so much! ❤

needed this ep so bad ❤

As a fellow late bloomer can I just say we need the merch

We need more episodes like this!!😌

Great episode!

Loved this episode

Situationships are cannon events 😂 I AGREE

Literally experienced this exact situation, except for the long distance. We met on the apps, spent the whole summer together, but never put a label on it. THEN he decides he needs to heal from his last relationship. However, we still go back and forth with the hot and cold, will they won’t they type stuff and still talk like every day. I finally let it go and make peace with it, decide I deserve more etc, we quit talking…and a week later he comes back acting like he made a mistake. We go back to talking everyday like nothing happened, hook up again, then this man ghosts me! Haven’t talked for a month now. Now the red flags are so so clear! Sucks that this is a universal experience!!!

please do a episode about toxic friendships bc it is not talked about enough

PLEASE do another episode like this!!

yesss! super early! i love it! ❤

I've used the custom notifications for years. I have it for all my close friends

I remember being in a situationship years ago and we talked for months and I was waiting for him to be ready to make it official. One day went on facebook and his profile popped up and Lord behold he had just made it official with another girl😂

Loooved this episode prob because I relate to it so much lol But I really felt that last point Alisha made about being that ‘delulu’ friend who doesn’t judge but is just there for you. Struggling run with a friend who has started ignoring me bc I feel she doesn’t want to hear about my situation or is just judging me for it..🥺😢

for me I was seeing my (now) boyfriend for 3 months before we started officially dating just because it was my first time dating and I wanted to make sure I 100% wanted to get into a relationship 😅😅 I talked to him tho reassuring him I’m slow and I need time before I decide because he would ask me a lot about what we were and I swear he thought this may lead into a situationship 😭😭 but now we’re almost hitting our 1 year woo

I NEED to share this with you and all the girlies cause its goddamn necessary. Buckle up cause it might hurt but again, its NECESSARY. Hearing this is what helped me stop thinking about my situationship IMMEDIATELY. A follow up to Remi saying "They always come back"..well..they dont ever really come back because they love and appreciate you and they realized everything they missed out on. They go where they HAVE ACCESS. Just let that sink in

I was in a situationship and we’ve now been together for 7 years and our 2 year wedding anniversary is next week ❤️

More videos like this plsss love it ❤

Side note - Alisha’s top is so CUTE 💚

OMG I NEEEEDED THIS like you don’t understand 😭

Fun fact with snap scores - their score goes up when they receive a snapchat too, not just when they send one. So, scores can go up without someone being on Snapchat.

An almost one and a half hr episode of Pretty Basic？Oh yeah~

alisha’s reaction at 55:17 is so funny haha

It’s ok Remi, I’ve done the same thing with the Snapchat score when I was in a situationship 😂

the difference between anxiety and intuition (based on my experience): anxiety will eventually settle down intuition will ring like an alarm until you wake up

Also Alisha yes!!!! I love y’all unfiltered !!!

I had someone that liked me wayyyy more than I liked him. And I didn’t like the power that I had over him

Also note that all rollercoaster comes to an end eventually like a situationship. A relationship is finding someone who WANTS to go back onto the rollercoaster.

@Akena_alo

9 ай бұрын

BUT there are some who come back onto the rollercoaster then they dont then they do then they dont so its tough out here

No literally that’s what my mom would tell me! Be with someone that loves you more than you love them.

Not me having the same tone for my bf as you do cal!!! Honestly thought changing tones for people was popular lol

Omg not Alishas ans Ollies ringtones being my ex boyfriend’s tones🤣🤣🤣🤣 alishas did trigger my fight or flight cuz that guys was wweeeeeiiird as hell. Ollies reminded me of my long term relationship ex boyfriend. But i also have ringtones for all my most frequent contacts- its just soo convenient

Alisha what you shared about knowing the difference between your anxious thoughts and intuition is 100% possible for everyone! Not to plug but also to plug my business, I offer inner voice sessions which is where i help you learn how to connect and communicate with your intuition and go beyond your mind. This helps you learn the difference between the mind and intuition. It’s life changing to know how to go beyond those anxious thoughts and start trusting those instincts x

Remi switching up the game 🤭 definitely using that text tone tip