SINGLE AND FLOURISHING | How being single changed my life + 5 lessons learnt | Sbahle Mkhize

Let’s talk being single! The season that nobody wants forever 😂 but one that is so needed.
In this video I reflect on how being single for over a year and half has changed my life. I also unpack the lessons I learnt and implemented in my life.
Thank you so much for watching.
Please don’t forget to like and subscribe ❤️
00:00 INTRO
02:18 Quick background
07:15 Being single is an OPTION
08:57 Give your singleness to GOD
12:26 Get to know your body
15:54 Work on all aspects of YOURSELF
18:23 Invest in yourself, and go to THERAPY
20:43 Outro
Connect with me:
Instagram: @let_sba_blossom
Email: sbahlemm15@gmail.com
#roadto2k #single

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  • @shirleyntlonti3606
    @shirleyntlonti36062 жыл бұрын

    My grandmother always says live a holy life then U will see God if you need a husband he can send you even if his from America because his for you. There's a verse that I love from Proverbs 3:5-6Trust in the Lord With all your heart and not lean on your own understanding In all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. ♥️♥️♥️

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Amen 🙏🏽🥰❤️🥺 Thank you for sharing Shirley 🤍

  • @emilyboitumelo
    @emilyboitumelo2 жыл бұрын

    “Give your singleness to God” 🙏🏽 I love this, I really do believe that being single is Godly. Awesome video mama. Love this ❤️🤍

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    💯! That one is my favorite too! God at the center of everything 🙏🏽 Thank you mama ❤️🥰

  • @thatomokoena2823
    @thatomokoena28232 жыл бұрын

    2 videos in such a short period , why do I feel so blessed? 🥺♥️

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Because I love to spoil my regular dzegulars once in a while 😉❤️😘

  • @ugugundlovu
    @ugugundlovu2 жыл бұрын

    I keep coming back. I love your content and your energy (aura). I’m staying!!

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    So happy you decided to stay🥺😍 I appreciate the consistent viewing so much ❤️❤️😭

  • @AnnahPokubye
    @AnnahPokubye2 жыл бұрын

    Wholesome as always ❤️ loved this!! I can relate! This topic is sooooo important!!

  • @ayah812
    @ayah8122 жыл бұрын

    Alot of people don't believe me when I say I'm inlove with being single and how I dont even want to date anymore because of how great its been.. when you've mastered it it can really be a dangerous level of selfishness as others may see it as

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    I agree, people comment on your life “ why are you single? What’s wrong with you” and I feel like they are projecting hey🥺

  • @chumamtshubungu6196
    @chumamtshubungu61962 жыл бұрын

    I’m not single but I can relate so much to the points you made. Thoroughly enjoyed this video as a whole, I enjoy watching & listening to you speak 🤞🏽☺️😍

  • @amo_thake
    @amo_thake2 жыл бұрын

    I turned 24 last month. I've currently been single for 5 months now, (6 in 3 days). It's the first time I am single since I was 16. I went from a 2 year r/ship and (kinda) went straight into an almost 4 year r/ship. March has been the WORST time being single. I miss being in a r/ship. I love being able to call my partner while walking back from campus until I get home. I miss being held, being kissed. Tbh, in March I've been the horniest, which is funny because I'm not really into sex like that. But I'm so grateful to God that I am by myself. I have LOTS of school work that needs my full attention. I NEED to be single, at this point. I NEED to be productive, I need to save, I need to give love to other people. It's not nice being single, tbh. But I'm so grateful that I made this choice. I'd like to commit myself to staying single until I at least finish my degree. Thank you for this video.

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    A beautiful reflection. Thank you for sharing babe. I pray you keep God at the center of it ALL 🙏🏾❤️

  • @emilyboitumelo
    @emilyboitumelo2 жыл бұрын

    Sazesaba blessed 😍😍. Video after video 💃🏽💃🏽

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Ngaze ngani-spoila nibancane 🥰😂❤️

  • @jessicapamelandala1305
    @jessicapamelandala13052 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for this and for reminding us that singleness is an option. I love this and think there should be more videos like this that encourage seasons of singleness and self discovery. I could totally relate when you spoke because I find myself in the same space and it's refreshing and empowering to find other women like you who are embracing every moment.

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Agh 🥺😍 this!!!! This comment made me smile so much. 😁😁 I 💯 agree! We need more content around embracing the season of singleness and pouring into ourselves ❤️ Thank you for engaging 🤗

  • @zuzile
    @zuzile2 жыл бұрын

    I really love that you're talking about this❤️❤️❤️

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for watching Zuzile ❤️

  • @Nickster7
    @Nickster72 жыл бұрын

    Great video Sba.

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Nico ❤️

  • @mashotomoshape178
    @mashotomoshape1782 жыл бұрын

    That lighting 👌🏽👌🏽

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    😍😍 I’m so grateful! God is good!

  • @sibusiledlamini2653
    @sibusiledlamini26532 жыл бұрын

    Wholesome. So bloody Wholesome.

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    ❤️🥺THANK U!!!

  • @londiikhwela8147
    @londiikhwela81472 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for always being so open with us and vulnerable it's so wholesome ❤

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you holding space for me ❤️ you guys make it easy to do it😍

  • @thandoekubheka7235
    @thandoekubheka72352 жыл бұрын

    Coming through with the content honey. One can definitely use those lessons, they make sense and can change one’s perspective on relationships or being single. Really enjoyed this, thank you 😊❤️

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    It’s my pleasure sis ❤️ so happy you could take something away from this video 🥺❤️

  • @LizzyLiz464
    @LizzyLiz4642 жыл бұрын

    I already love your channel but when I found out you're a Sagittarius too? Gurrrrrl!

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Girrrrl YASSS💃🏽💃🏽❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥 love you my fellow Sagittarius queen ❤️

  • @keitumetsemodisaotsile9946
    @keitumetsemodisaotsile99462 жыл бұрын

    I feel like this video was made for me. Thank you so much, I really enjoyed it. ❤️❤️

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    It’s my pleasure 🥺❤️

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Sending you love and light ✨❤️

  • @onthegrindwiththabitha
    @onthegrindwiththabitha2 жыл бұрын

    I love you and everything about you...your personality makes it easy for me to can relate

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    ❤️❤️❤️🥺🥺

  • @anelekhanyile414
    @anelekhanyile4142 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for making this video mama. I have been single for a year and 9 months now and I am enjoying being in this season. I have gotten to pour into myself alot more than before. Working on myself and also my relationship with God has truly made things so much more joyous. I am in no rush to get into a relationship anytime soon, getting to rediscover new things about myself and taking more strides into improving the person I am is just bliss at the moment 💕

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    💯 embracing every moment and working on yourself and your relationship with God is so wise 🥺 thnk you for engaging Anele 💕

  • @sithabilemkhize5899
    @sithabilemkhize58992 жыл бұрын

    What a beautiful and impactful video, Sbahle. Being content in my singleness is one of the best favours I have done for myself. There's something so special about falling in love with yourself and knowing that you are enough. Thank you for sharing about your journey to wholeness and being content in singleness🌻

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    You are so wise 🥺❤️ being content and embracing a season like singleness is really life changing. I’m so happy you’ve experienced that. Sending you love and light sissy ❤️✨

  • @CingwaneElihle
    @CingwaneElihle2 жыл бұрын

    We are loved!!! Thank you Mommy😍❤

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    It’s my pleasure 💃🏽❤️

  • @breakingtheword8881
    @breakingtheword88812 жыл бұрын

    This was such a insightful video Sba,I agree being single is an option.Unfortunately we still have to change the current mindset.Therapy is so important I’m going back to therapy also

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    So happy you found this insightful 🤍 sending you love and light for your therapy ✨❤️

  • @kemoabetswesenokoane3228
    @kemoabetswesenokoane32282 жыл бұрын

    I’m loving the consistency🥰🥰🥰🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳😁😁😁😁😁😁

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you mama ❤️

  • @lifeatthirty2341
    @lifeatthirty23412 жыл бұрын

    Wow I'm so inspired by the singleness message I'm glad I'm part of the fam to get this beautiful wisdom ❤🌻🌻

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you babe 💕 love that you are inspired

  • @onthegrindwiththabitha
    @onthegrindwiththabitha2 жыл бұрын

    One thing that I subscribed for is your informativeness ❤😚 I learn alot in here

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Love to hear it ❤️

  • @kemoabetswesenokoane3228
    @kemoabetswesenokoane32282 жыл бұрын

    The background sis☄️☄️☄️

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you sis 🥰❤️

  • @khomotsomampa6416
    @khomotsomampa64162 жыл бұрын

    2 videos on 2 consecutive days... its the consistency for me 🤗🤗🤗 Love it!

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you ❤️😘 one thing about me…I will spoil my regular dzegulars 💃🏽

  • @samkelisiwedlamini4864
    @samkelisiwedlamini48642 жыл бұрын

    My favorite notification🎉🥳❤. The Regular Dzegular 💃❤

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you my regular dzegular ❤️🥰 your consistent support motivates me 🥺😘

  • @nomnikelomlombi7592
    @nomnikelomlombi75922 жыл бұрын

    Wow 🤩 wow 🤩 wow 🤩 girlllll🎀👌🏻 you are not alone in this part of singleness 🥺, I’ve just healed without any Therapy 💗that’s why I’m working on something to get through where are if it’s possible 😒 but I’ll DM you soon to ask something! Thank you girl, @ walk tall everyday! You are beautiful always 🎀

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much sis Nomnikelo❤️ your support and love so appreciated 🥺🤍

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    @simphiwemotaung40502 жыл бұрын

    The video quality the back ground top notch❤️❤️

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you fav ❤️

  • @purpleflowerpodcast9215
    @purpleflowerpodcast92152 жыл бұрын

    Please share I love this topic We are also in the road to unpacking and discovering ourselves.

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    ❤️thanks for the feedback love. Will definitely do a follow up video soon!

  • @thokozaniteekaygumede7978
    @thokozaniteekaygumede79782 жыл бұрын

    Dzegular 🌼🌸 inner healing 🤺

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Exactly 🧘🏾‍♀️!🤍 inner healing in 🔑 Thank you for watching ❤️

  • @lisahconnects
    @lisahconnects2 жыл бұрын

    🌸we getting spoiled this week🌸

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    I know that’s right ❤️💃🏽

  • @nqobilemgazi
    @nqobilemgazi2 жыл бұрын

    ❤️❤️❤️

  • @onthegrindwiththabitha
    @onthegrindwiththabitha2 жыл бұрын

    Regular,dzegular queen mother is back at it again ❤

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    One thing about me…I will spoil my regular dzegulars chile ❤️😘

  • @mwanzamonica
    @mwanzamonica2 жыл бұрын

    Let’s watch the ads so that our consistent queen can get her coins💃🏽📌👏🏽 I love to see it!

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much babe ❤️🥺 Appreciate you and your consistent support ❤️

  • @nokubongagcwabaza8090
    @nokubongagcwabaza80902 жыл бұрын

    Sila 📌😍❤️ Sophenduka ama Spoilt brats another video futhi 🎉❤️❤️❤️Syaboonga

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    😂😂 it’s my pleasure 💕

  • @fanafuthib2201
    @fanafuthib22012 жыл бұрын

    There is so much peace and glory in singleton.♥️ 🥂.... look at the works of the LIGHTS 🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    I know that’s right 🥂 The lights have been GLORIOUS! To God be the glory 🙏🏽❤️😭

  • @lesley-sheena68
    @lesley-sheena682 жыл бұрын

    This was so good. So good. Appreciate the depth. In a past video you quoted, bloom where you are planted and it came through in this chat too. My question is, how do you fight against the temptation to skip to the next life season? (Thinking out loud, some of the things you mentioned on this video I can imagine are transferable to any life situation where we are in a hurry to get on to next stage/season).

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for watching Lesley ❤️ What a great question. I’ve noticed that the minute I chose to stop looking at other people’s lives with envy my need to skip seasons in my life decreased. Now, I choose to keep my eyes / focus on my life and if I do see others around me flourish in seasons “ahead” of me, I genuinely celebrate them and their blessing because I know my blessings will come in their way, when the time is right. What about you?❤️

  • @lesley-sheena68

    @lesley-sheena68

    2 жыл бұрын

    Touché! This is a constant battle for me but as I was reflecting again this morning, I reminded myself that my path is unique. God has a specific mission for me and how wonderful would it be to get to the end of my time and say that I've truly lived out the unique path which God set out for me. When I embrace this truth, I end up genuinely being happy for others but like you say, staying focused on my path.

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    💯💯 thank you for sharing. ❤️ blessed weekend to you and your family ✨❤️

  • @ursulashabalala
    @ursulashabalala2 жыл бұрын

    💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    ❤️❤️

  • @zannielamuni
    @zannielamuni2 жыл бұрын

    Haibo did I get two notifications today 🤔❤️

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    2 videos in less than 24 hours chilleee 💃🏽❤️

  • @Shekumanstravel
    @Shekumanstravel2 жыл бұрын

    Love to all my black sisters out there! Good point, being single is an option! You speak with great sights, and as always you’re dangerously beautiful. Surely, the lucky guy will come along, just enjoy this period of your life.

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hey brother! Love that you watched this and agree with singleness being an option 🙏🏽 Thank you for the lovely feedback 🤗🥺

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    And the well wishes 🥰😉

  • @Shekumanstravel

    @Shekumanstravel

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@SbahleMkhize no worries 😊 if you ever need a video editor just ask, I will edit for free no strings attached. I want you to keep creating contents!

  • @noziphomgwenya1626
    @noziphomgwenya16262 жыл бұрын

    Your regular dzegular came running 🥺😂 face card never declines ❤️❤️ umuhle as always 🌹🥀

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you fav 🥰🥺 one thing about my regular dzegulars…they are consistent❤️😘

  • @phehellophicks1266
    @phehellophicks12662 жыл бұрын

    You look amazing an beautiful and i will surpport your ytube channel 😊😊❤❤👑👑

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much Phehello 🥺❤️this means so much!

  • @phehellophicks1266

    @phehellophicks1266

    2 жыл бұрын

    Its my pleasure queen 👑👑

  • @zannielamuni
    @zannielamuni2 жыл бұрын

    Yoh I'm currently in a long distance relationship here in SA and want to work in China 🇨🇳. I wonder if my relationship will survive that 😭

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing sis❤️ long distance relationships can be very challenging 🤍 I really hope you and your partner have started having the conversation about your move to China what that will require from both of you 🥺

  • @universityedu_homelearn1707
    @universityedu_homelearn17072 жыл бұрын

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  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hello Vince. This sounds interesting. Dm me or email me more information

  • @rosetshikororo5599
    @rosetshikororo55992 жыл бұрын

    Hey SBA I hope you good. I've been trying to get home of you via Instagram DM. It's quite important. When you find time pls respond. Thank you 💗

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hey Rose ❤️ I got you! I just replied.

  • @breakingtheword8881
    @breakingtheword88812 жыл бұрын

    This was such a insightful video Sba,I agree being single is an option.Unfortunately we still have to change the current mindset.Therapy is so important I’m going back to therapy also

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for watching sis❤️ I totally agree, it takes time and to unlearn things is a process that needs patience and therapy 🤗✨

  • @Ntosh__
    @Ntosh__2 жыл бұрын

    ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @SbahleMkhize

    @SbahleMkhize

    2 жыл бұрын

    😘❤️