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@johnpastore7685

Жыл бұрын

Oh, tell me about. I got that so many times. He told me once. Ok, Wissass, do the Project Your way, But I am Checking it Out, When You are Done. I finished, he told all of my coworkers, to come and see my project. He said, It Was Perfect. As, I was doing it, I was still able to talk and joke, with my coworkers. I loved how, I showed him up. Just doing my job and being me.

If they are threatened by you.....and you are nothing but Professional with them.....trying to speak with them will not work. Avoid them and do not let them drag you down: Professionally or Personally !!! You can't cure STUPID, IMMATURE, IRRATIONAL & JEALOUS !!!! 😣😒They need to GROW UP and act their Age....not their Shoe Size !!!!😒😒😔

@joycewatt8289

3 ай бұрын

Exactly!🎯

New job, feeling a lot of hostility from new coworkers, they are pathetic. Ive started looking for a new job instantly.

When your threatened co-workers try to pit everyone against you, especially brand new employees, just stay quiet, do not react to their teasing, just focus hard core on your work. Eventually the tables turn and people who were sucked in get curious and actively seek you out and genuinely try to get to know you.

@laurielbrooks6079

10 ай бұрын

This is so true. It is sickening how people prey on trying to destroy others character. Going on a character assassination and smear campaign especially when you did nothing to them. Like the saying goes what is done in the dark will sure come to light and hopefully others will see through that sick twisted person's way.

@BenziitOfemme

9 ай бұрын

That's still sad to tolerate bad treatment like hazing almost

@johnpastore7685

Ай бұрын

Yes, had that happen to me. I saw a person for what they were, nobody else did, then everyone else started to see it

Jealousy in any workplace around the country is not unusual.

I'm Black and a lot of this stuff is way different for us. People will hate on us for their own prejudices.

@johnpastore7685

Жыл бұрын

Sadly, yes. But, not always. As, I white guy, I was a victim of racism, too

@DeVonAmbitious

Жыл бұрын

@@johnpastore7685 You feel the need to say "not always" and deflect with your experiences is a problem. Most people in power are not people like me. Opportunities are giving way less to non-white people based on stuff people can't control.

@EdenP68

Жыл бұрын

@@johnpastore7685 True but generally people who look like you have more power in the situation.

@johnpastore7685

Жыл бұрын

@@EdenP68 not really

@johnpastore7685

Жыл бұрын

We all have power. It's how you use it.

I had coworkers who literally will interrupt me, not let me talk at all, and totally talk to everyone else present except for me.

@shutdown8947

Ай бұрын

Me 2

Someone getting people to turn against me was definitely something I experienced. Nothing worse than toxic work environments.

@johnpastore7685

Ай бұрын

Been there

The office gossipers are insecure in general. People that stay busy dont have time for that baloney. Period!

The co worker I’m thinking about copies what I say and what I do at work. Creepy.

@JoesVinylShow1980

Жыл бұрын

Have you ever tried bad imitations of food you like? When they do that, they're doing a bad imitation. They know they're trying to be like you. But can't, because you're unique.

@feyzaoz8536

6 ай бұрын

OMG EXXACTLY WHAT I AM LIVING RIGHT NOW. THIS GIRL LITERALLY TRYS TO ACT, TALK, MOVE AND DO EVERYTHING LIKE ME. I CANT STAND IT ANYMORE

Don't approach them and call it out would be my advice, because they'll likely deny the animosity and accuse you of being pedantic and make you look stupid. Remember you are just there for one sole purpose and that is to do your job, period. If it's unbearable approach manager but be very cautious with this move also. At the end of the day they're just very petulant and childish and likely covert narcissists and should be treated as such.

@davevenables3534

6 ай бұрын

I have tried to”educate” my manager about the toxic environment under his charge. It should be his responsibility to deal with this, however, to save any physical energy on his behalf, he enables the toxicity. I will be looking for another job soon.

@PassportBrosAndBlondeManWeaves

21 күн бұрын

Bad advice!!!! Document everything….

people like this thrive in the area that does not quite rise to the level of harassment but they'll make a career of keeping it petty.

I tried spreading recognition around, not to myself but other team members. My boss privately chewed me out and told me never again to do that in front of other team members, other managers or other departments. He said he would take care of all the recognition. Of course, he never did. I don't work there anymore.

@IrishLincoln

10 ай бұрын

Yeah, your boss felt like you were over stepping him and definitely felt threatened by your initiative, which is great. I had the same thing happen when I worked in academics. This individual saw me doing "more" than him and told me to tone things down as not to overshadow his work. So, of course he felt threatened. I was doing a better job than him and people saw it. That threatened his position, so he actively started to politics against me. There's a bad apple in every bunch. I don't work there anymore either. Neither does he. :)

There are toxic insecure people in the work place simply there to get paid it’s so annoying thanks for the video

Wouldn't it be nice if you were legally allowed to have a brawl in the parking lot with these offending coworkers. Just settle it before you clock in and earn their respect. If they mess with you, they get an ass whoopin'.

@SuspiriaX

9 ай бұрын

It is terrific to fantasize about isn't it! Good thing fantasizing isn't illegal. Feel like grabbing them by the tie slam their head against the car and knee them in the balls hard in quick succession. And then to tell them "Did you really think you could just move against me. What is wrong with you being so suicidal to anger me. Just how stupid are you?" ... fantasy, aaah. Makes a man blow off steam without anyone actually getting hurt. 😁😇

@vanguard8471

Ай бұрын

Real talk

@johnpastore7685

Ай бұрын

Been in that situation. It’s was over stupid things, too

The toxic office gossipers. its not you, let them waste time while you keep doing their job🎉

It's nothing you can do about it unless you're severely harassed then sue they're butts. But other than that, just keep doing you! Others will later realize who you really are as an associate at the work place. Don't try to prove yourself to others, it's a waist of time.

I just started a new job and I’m already looking for a new one. I have co workers who are threatened

I have a ton of examples of workplace bullies none will be shared here.😢

Coworkers not training properly. Won’t answer any questions in my IM. very weird energy.

It’s annoying that she interrupts me when talking and trying to always tries to imitate everything about me.

When your manager does this to you 😂 and now has taken on the victim role.

I recently got promoted and someone who was my manager before the promotion put in for the same position and they lost it to me. He talks garbage on me to others who love me as a coworker in general. (I say coworker, because regardless of authority, I will contribute to even the lowest level of my employees responsibilities to succeed as a team). Thanks for the advice, this person is clearly just jealous of my new position.

Yes, I focus on doing better, not worried about the toxic situation

@sweetcapricorn

Жыл бұрын

Same over the weekend I’ve come to this conclusion hoping to have a good week

@johnpastore7685

Жыл бұрын

@@sweetcapricorn Yes, do your best. Don't freak out, over toxic people, or situations. If you feel you have to look for another job, do it. But, do your job, talk to the coworkers that you can talk to. Remember this, if you die, tomorrow you will be replaced. Your are also married to you family and maybe your true friends. Not, your job, even your dream job.

I can see all these signs. How come higher officials are threatened with ordinary employees?Thank you.

@BenjaminPreston

Жыл бұрын

From what I've seen, it's almost always insecurity... which is really unfortunate because we should all be on the same team

@bernadetteluisaga3304

Жыл бұрын

@@BenjaminPreston ❤️thank you and Merry Christmas 🎄🎄🎄

@JoesVinylShow1980

Жыл бұрын

Arrogance. They're offended when someone lower than them thinks of a great idea. Good managers would accept input. Everyone has a blind spot.

@sweetcapricorn

Жыл бұрын

They are insecure and think people will see your better

Some of my coworkers, did not like that I married my wife. They were jealous

@Essencejournal

10 ай бұрын

They’re weird lol

@johnpastore7685

9 ай бұрын

​@@Essencejournalyes

I have a co worker who'd mutter to herself that she thinks I'm stupid. It doesn't really phase me that much because people who do that are really insecure. People who aren't insecure don't try to put other people down. Real adults communicate when they have a problem but children in adult bodies will try to put others down to feel better about themselves. I could even sense negative energy from this person before that happened.

Someone I recently worked with at my current project tried to turn people in the project against me, including her own boss. She was kicked out of the project last month. She’ll likely get kicked out of the company in less than a few months. When you do really good work, are engaged with your colleagues, show up for others, it’s way harder for lazy and incompetent people to turn people against you.

I’ve avoided certain ppl- who keep trying too hard as they are wanting something from you. Energy vampires. A lady I work with/ had kept trying message after hours and was becoming non work related- kept having crisis issues . I don’t have the capacity to deal that. if ya give in a bit they take a mile from you.

@JoesVinylShow1980

Жыл бұрын

You are not a psychiatrist. If someone wants me to listen to their problems, they're going to have pay me $1 per minute. At least make some money off of it.

@prepforlife4425

Жыл бұрын

@@JoesVinylShow1980WOW - how does this comment determine i'm diagnosing (i.e. a psychiatrist).. i mentioned nothing about medications or disorders. lol . side note: I am an RN so I know a little bit. Thank you. You Tube trolls everwhere.

@JoesVinylShow1980

Жыл бұрын

​@@prepforlife4425 You misunderstood me. I was encouraging you to not deal with coworkers NON-worked related problems after hours. I was just giving you friendly advice. I wasn't trying to insult you or demean you.

Outshine, Soldier, outshine!

Thank you for the information. I am in some such a situation, where I am the" victim" . I have also noticed that they seem to know how you feel ,and what you're thinking . My coworker will tell the other coworker, " Yeah , she's jealous. She jealous of us because we get along so well..." When in fact, I'm not jealous of them at all. I don't even think about stuff like that. So, how does she know how I feel? Then , there's the one where they presume I have a "predicament" but, I didn't know I was in a predicament! These people are sad and unhappy. Everything they say about me is exactly what they are!😅

@lester2588

10 ай бұрын

They’re projecting

@rockstarofredondo

9 ай бұрын

@@lester2588 exactly.

My supervisor, couldn't understand how I did my job. I always showed, I could do it. It brother him

@johnpastore7685

Жыл бұрын

I had that, with my supervisor. Yes, it was annoying.

And they can't make their lies stick

Yes just stay silent...

There is one at work ,who point out any mistakes and tell people that it was me .and when they investigate ,it turn out to be their mistake now she is restless around me ,when I look her in the eye ,I see the sadness in them .

@JoesVinylShow1980

Жыл бұрын

Aren't most building equipped with cameras? If it is not you, ask supervisors to watch the videos!

@joinahmukanangana2993

Жыл бұрын

@@JoesVinylShow1980 we do not have cameras at work .

@sweetcapricorn

Жыл бұрын

Same lying on me not knowing I have been documenting everything she so insecure and jealous it’s literally a diversity issue

I had that happened to me at my work, but a good tip I use is eye on the prize and keep your expectations low. Also still learn to be nice to everyone even the difficult coworkers. I also found when you show up for work, on time, every week and do your job well while being a team player, upper management will notice and it looks good for you.

On jobs there are people who will do whatever to destroy someone. Some do that on the basis that they will do whatever to get ahead by any means necessary. Or on the other hand it can go even further than that. There are people who believe that they know who the evil people are. And they also believe with such people there's only one way to handle them.

They tips are good, but no talking to a manager or jelous person at work out will not work, they will just deny or deflect or lie

@rockstarofredondo

9 ай бұрын

Exactly. And it will increase the targeting. You have to cut off the toxic person completely. Gray rock them, even though it’s work. Things can still get done without interacting with them.

This was helpful - ty!

No one's threatened by me. They just think I'm an idiot because I'm cute

You have identified EVERY characteristic of a few co-workers of mine. The "ring leader" is in her feelings because the department manager didn't hire her for the job I currently hold. She simply doesn't have the skillset, and apparently she was under the impression that she was due this job. The behavior of her and the other co-workers is clannish and cliquish. They'll pass by my work station each morning without a greeting, but will greet one another. I'm very good at "handling" her, and I have no interest nor intentions of going out of my way to "fit in" we're WELL PAST THAT! I make my money and I go home. Once I've reached my monetary goal, I'll drop a WEEK NOTICE! LOL!

Thank you for the very practical tips and insights of addressing work place challenges. With certainty, I can say I'm not imagining what I'm sensing.

I have to work with a guy with analysis paralysis. He is also the boss’s best buddy and shop rat. No way for me to win nor even be involved in higher level work while he sits there overthinking everything. I’m quitting soon. Will let him look worse when I’m gone and no one left to do my work and With issues finding suitable replacements to step in.

@JoesVinylShow1980

Жыл бұрын

They will find their slave shortly after you leave.

Great content!!! I am doing most of the things you advise already and this video gives me confirmation that I am to continue. I’m not totally bother by the situation m, but did have a moment of wanting to question the reason subject in hand is acting in such a way. After a weekend of thoughts and watching your video… I have decided to let well enough alone and continue to redirect the conversation. I think other staff are picking up on her attitude towards me so she is basically hanging herself…no energy lost…so not worth the fighting 😉Thanks

Great video very insightful

On Point. I am living it.

Thank you for this wonderful video! I recently got promoted and getting a lot of abuse from a coworker who’s been the company for way longer. It’s really hard because she has to work under me. I find your tips really helpful especially on the part of discussing the workflow with them.

I am the first point...I feel threatened but because she is a bully 😬

Thx man :)

I like the video. Sadly I find your advice around 03:40 is often unsuccessful because the threatened person(s) tend to associate with each other and the people that "would" speak up are the minions/associates of the attacker so the support does not occur. You keep doing good work (which I highly encourage) and it's ignored or minimized. The situation is worsened when your other co-workers think highly of the threatened person or think lowly of the "threatening" person. Sad state. So many cowards out here.

@josiah5776

Жыл бұрын

Exactly what happened to me.

@JoesVinylShow1980

Жыл бұрын

It's why I keep my expectations very low. I don't expect to get praised. But do brag every chance you get once you do something excellent, just so that they can't take credit. If you have a unique personality and unconventional way of solving things, no way they can steal your credit. Only your quirky and unique mind could think of these things.

@johnpastore7685

Жыл бұрын

Right, and we teach our children, to stand up for themselves. Don't be bullied, or be a bully. The same is also true, for adults and supervisors.

@johnpastore7685

Жыл бұрын

@@JoesVinylShow1980 They still find ways to steal it away from you. I don't let them. Nobody, should.

I started a new job a while back where mistakes could turn into tragedies or serious complaints. One team member persistently ignores me when saying good morning, whilst looking only at those they are saying it to. Otherwise, they seem friendly enough and helpful when they are showing me stuff. On occasion, they do say something or suggest a course of action that I disagree with and on a couple of occasions recently it has turned out that what they told me was wrong. I just thank them now, or partially acknowledge what they said if there is a nugget of some truth in what they say, and then ignore their advice and and do my own thing. I kind of get the impression that they think themselves a bit a cut above me because they hold certain responsibilities other team members at my grade don't hold. I wouldn't say that the team is toxic, but there are some worrying elements there. I find the best thing is to just be friendly, professional and polite and treat everyone equally and not to take any passive aggressive behaviours seriously. I focus on doing my job well. I'm not a serious threat because I am too new and have too much to learn. I guess that helps dampen down any likelihood of anyone being threatened by me as they are much better at the job than I am.

Thank you for this enlightenment. I am currently subbing for a assistant teacher, 4 more weeks to go. I am a retired elementary teacher with 12 years of good schools under my belt. The current lead teacher (in the same class room) doesn't acknowledge my good ideas and responded with "No, I am in charge." She only communicates when she feels happy (personal problems?). She won't let me speak with students about their learning problems and interferes and leads them away. I don't find her kind with the little ones and they seem to be intimidated by her. A few weeks ago she was sick and I taught the class with a new assistant and we had so much fun and no crying kids, no drama. It was the relief I needed. I decided not to confront her for the sake of the kids and because the end is in sight but will address it with the principal when I leave. I know she feels threatened by me as she uses some ideas from me earlier without giving me credit.

😂 my co-worker your reading him to a T...😂

Yes an older woman is always trying to make me look bad at work She talks to the new guy at work He now doesnt respond to my greetings like he used to I dont waste my time saying greetings unless they say first. I act kind polite to every co worker Even to the passive aggressive ones

Showing your pocket knife collection on the regular is a big one, this ones for XL bullies he said.

U r correct.

Gosh, its so bad, but the silent treatment / and the passive aggressive behaviour is what I'm being hit with currently. And the lack of eye contact, oh. BOY. Its just juvenile.

This has also happened to me.

I had two coworkers in my life, told me in front of everyone, said I Don't Have the Guts to do That. I am Surprised You aren't Fired, or Killed

I got your point, but I have a situation where I was hired as a head bartender, and bar manager in a restaurant and my job was to create 10 seasonal cocktails, manage the bar, etc. When I started working, I saw the bartender was close to the owners/managers and he decided a lot of things that I was supposed to do, He always complained about my job, tried to make me look bad, He did not want to follow a recipe or follow the steps of service, but he brings coffee to one manager, red bull to another manager. In the end, I lose my job, cause this guy was an ass-kisser and want my position. He Ignore me, Ignore the recipe, the rules, everything, like cmon I'm the owner's friend. and this type of situation makes owners and managers so blind. My question is why people do not see when they are in a manager position, the same things they saw when they were an employee, that there always this guy with no talent for the job but he tries to compensate it flattery

I am working in a team with a colleague in the same committee, each of us have our clear areas of responsibilities, but she oversees the running of the committee. My co-worker tells me to that i need to update her on details concerning my work so that if anyone asks, she will be able to answer. Yet she witheld info necessary for the successful completion of my job scope as she would receive info from various parties routed to her first since she is the overall i/c. She never discuss anything in person with me citing busy schedule but either would text me in tje night or weekends what we need to do when meeting the client the next day, leaving me scrambling to prepare myself.

Yup the team lead thinks her silent treatment bothers me it does I actually prefer it that way but I know she trying to get to me

Ok question please answer I noticed my co worker acted rude out off blue and she and I are white she oddly did it first time saying don’t talk to me are you on the clock and are you working but dosnt say it too ithers and it’s a first they do I have autism and also another person dosnt look at me either where she says not to be rude but your not supposed to be at counter and wasn’t looking at me but I feel like two managers like people arnt friendly or nit lll likeing I’m by myself

what if it's your manager, and their manager, who are threatened by you?

@BenjaminPreston

Жыл бұрын

Hi Elizabeth, i have another video that covers that specific topic. Go to 8:38 time stamp and it covers what you can do if your boss is threatened by you: kzread.info/dash/bejne/aH1oy4-hkdq8j5s.html

@JoesVinylShow1980

Жыл бұрын

Why would they? Are they worried that they're never going to get promoted? They'll only feel threatened if you prove you're more talented. A team player would appreciate your help.

@johnpastore7685

Жыл бұрын

Been in that situation

Great Video. I think I have a situation like this going on between me and another co-worker. I’ve actually asked him once before, “what can we do to help us both work together?” His response, “It’s all on you there is nothing on my end that I need to change”. How do you respond to that?

@JoesVinylShow1980

Жыл бұрын

Be a team player anyways. But keep very good documentation of what you said and done, with times and dates. To cover your butt.

@sweetcapricorn

Жыл бұрын

Wow you did all you could do I would journal it and deal with that person only when needed

@sweetcapricorn

Жыл бұрын

@@JoesVinylShow1980 sorry I said same as you I didn’t see your post but facts

@rockstarofredondo

9 ай бұрын

Not much you can do. Can’t force people to act right.

Oh my god where do I begin?

Diamond girl is highly favored and the jelly is all over

Not really agreeing with this information. Sometimes they are sleeping with someone to get the promotion and sometimws they are incompetent and moved up bc playing thw workplace games. I am in an offci efull of incompetence that is being promoted

I’m the only female on my shift and I work on machines. Messed up my foot because of work since all the “men” couldn’t help me so I helped myself. Completed my shift, completed my tasks, still helped them and went above what they expected me to do. It’s called integrity

@kazama850

8 ай бұрын

Women want “equality” so you got it

What world do you live on?

O I am very threatened by him but obviously not just that. I want us to work as a team, not enemys.if he wasn't so damn selfish at work maybe I wouldn't be causing hell for my coworker

@rockstarofredondo

9 ай бұрын

Dude, get a grip.

@SuspiriaX

9 ай бұрын

May I ask why you watching this video how did you find it?

@indian_rapunzel97

17 күн бұрын

What makes you feel that he is selfish?