Not a fan of him making a comment like that.......on the other hand, dont wear something on a first or even second date that is out of character for your wardrobe. At the risk of sounding harsh, those first couple of dates are, in fact, basically an audition for a relationship. You need to represent who you are as a normal person so they can judge for themselves if you are what they are looking for in a partner. Everyone has different preferences and wearing something completely out of character for you on that first date is misrepresenting yourself and setting up expectations.

In all fairness let be honest with this show it’s double standards galore. If this girl called in stating a guy showed up in a suit on the first date and then jeans and a shirt the next day. If she took issue with that this show would be calling him a bum and ripping him a new one.

@frenchbluehen

9 ай бұрын

Back it up with proof or shut up.

@anthonyb6578

9 ай бұрын

@@frenchbluehen sorry I actually have a life so I don’t have time to go back and remember how many times they have been sexist and narcissistic towards men. If you have listen to this show for more than a year you would know what I am talking about. So either you just started listen or you refuse to accept the fact there are double standards on the show. Also please don’t tell some to shut online especially if they have not said anything wrong. People can and need to have peaceful conversations with out insulting each out. If you have a problem with a fact I have provided them just say you disagree. Don’t resort to immature high school stuff.

Was he wearing jeans? Should’ve told him how about you wear a kilt since you’re so obsessed with legs

I don't know if I'd immediately ditch but my history of controlling men would put me on high alert. If he's stating his preference that's fine, as long as he's respectful of hers as well. If his suggestions persist or become more assertive after she's made her preferences clear, I'd bail. Let him know straight out that dresses/skirts are a rare thing and go from there. He'll either accept it or he'll have a problem with it, and if he has a problem with it then you'll know it's not gonna work for either of you

I don't see anything wrong with someone communicating their preferences, when the other doesn't know them. If a female said to a guy that she really likes when he where's shorts, or a button up, the comment wouldn't even be given a second thought. When a female hears any opinion that she finds offensive, then you stop dating? She''ll be single for life lol.

@laurao8099

3 ай бұрын

I 100% agree with you. The other thing to consider in this story is that he actually treated her different and if the roles were switched and a girl said she really like guys who wear button-down shirts and she did not treat him as well because he wasn't wearing a button-up shirt then that would be an equal red flag.

I would not want to sit close to him after what he said...

So when the wife tell her man "i love when you wear that shirt etc, looks great on you" its okay. When its reversed and the guy says that "skirt looks great on you" its a red flag... makes sense 🙄...

@frenchbluehen

9 ай бұрын

But he DIDN'T say, "I love when you where X". He SAID, "You should be wearing X.". Are you too dumb to know the difference? Let me make it easier for you since you can't figure it out One is a complement, and one is an insult.

Ditch for a thousand reasons.

He could just say I love when a woman wears a skirt or dress, but in the midst of conversation. He should not have told her she should do that on top of physically looking disappointed. Tell her what you like and she decides if she'll do it or not. If she never does then that's who she is and you decide if you like her or not

That’s weird. Very over the top 🥴

There's nothing wrong with having preferences and even mentioning that to your date but it is definitely a red flag if they treat you differently when you're not dressed the way they like. It is also definitely a red flag by the fact that she felt it was creepy. I do think instincts are right most of the time and in this case I think she should not go another day

Abby if you are feminine and like skirts then wear them. Don't filter yourself until the third date because the masculine man that would "earn" that side of you probably would not look your way to even get to that point because he's looking for someone who looks more feminine. If you like jeans then wear them. I'm just saying don't filter because you could miss out on your blessings. Be your self ALL the time. Conditional feminine women gets conditional masculine men. Remember that.

Nope he’s gonna tell you what to wear and control everything you say and do for the rest of the relationship. Get out now!

Tell the control freak buh bye

Totally sounds like a fetish. It's almost like if the guy was like oh I like when you were open toed shoes better.... weird and creepy

she sounds like she better then him ,and he needs dress up to date and she is average at best a model what are her standards and did she meet his standards

@frenchbluehen

9 ай бұрын

What? No, it doesn't sound like that. Where did she say she was "better" than him ? He's a creep. Why am I not surprised you are missing the point and making no sense.

it does come off creepy but i think he has a leg fetish by the sounds of things....so its not that he was telling you what he wanted you to wear persay but he is really really into legs and the fact he made that comment on the second date makes me think its a really intense fetish he has.

@frenchbluehen

9 ай бұрын

So, abort mission. There is probably a site for what he wants. He needs to use it.