Speaking of players hating villains, in pro wrestling there is a thing called "go-away heat" that is useful to apply to ttrpgs. As opposed to good, productive heat (the love-to-hate villain), go-away heat is when the players are just feed up with a character and genuinely don't want them in the story.

I'm so sorry to hear about the insane comments you received regarding fat characters. Like c'mon people, we are LITERALLY a bunch of grown-ass adults sitting around a table, putting on voices, playing MAKE-BELIEVE for christs sake. ELVES DON'T EXIST. Skinny elves, fat elves, it doesn't matter because NONE OF THEM EXIST. We can literally do whatever we want. It's IMAGINATION. Which we clearly do, because we have humanoids that can live for HUNDREDS of years, our parties can travel and fight at break-neck speeds on very little (to sometimes) no food or rest. If we can accept these (frankly) impossible human feats, how the hell is a fat character so game breaking? Make it make sensseeee.

Had no idea about the crit awards but I have a lot of respect for the stance you're taking.

I'd Crit That...

Message is a good encapsulation of my issues with 5e and was why I ditched it even before the OGL debacle. At first glance it's a simple, straight foward design but once you really look at it, it's a mess. It has a Verbal component, so I would definitely rule that the mouth moves. It also states that you have to point at the target of the spell, which could certainly be done subtly, but still must happen. So then the question becomes is the whisper itself the Verbal component? If they are sperate, can you whisper the verbal component then whisper the message? Does that mean you can whisper cast any spell that doesn't state otherwise? Is the pointing the somatic component or is there a flourish then the point?

I read that comment about making they body type a plot point and it's just weird. Does that DM also make the character's race a plot point? That would be way more of a defining feature than their body type. Hair color, style, or lack of hair, a plot point? If the player WANTS to the feature to be a plot point fine, but sometimes a character just looks a way because that's how they are envisioned. Sure, if it's a notable feature, it's fair game for NPCs to comment on (within reason) but that doesn't need to translate to story beats and plot points.

wild to me that a fat character is a controversy at all. It's so stupid

For fat characters: You can make a chubby character, make fat character, you can make obese character, though I think for last option makes sense slowing them down - but rolls for heart attack are just sounds like a cheap way to make player NOT pick that options. It's like saying "you can pick anything you want, but" and then basically cut out all option except for what party and/or DM wants to push on you for whatever reason