Great vid! The guilt is real after the fact. A wake up call that can go one way or another for someone.

@adrielkolton7326

2 жыл бұрын

you all probably dont care at all but does anybody know of a way to log back into an instagram account..? I was stupid lost my account password. I appreciate any tips you can give me!

@maximusdeshawn4409

2 жыл бұрын

@Adriel Kolton instablaster =)

@adrielkolton7326

2 жыл бұрын

@Maximus Deshawn Thanks for your reply. I found the site on google and I'm in the hacking process now. I see it takes a while so I will get back to you later with my results.

@adrielkolton7326

2 жыл бұрын

@Maximus Deshawn it did the trick and I finally got access to my account again. I am so happy:D Thank you so much, you saved my ass!

@maximusdeshawn4409

2 жыл бұрын

@Adriel Kolton No problem xD

I think it’s important to understand that narcissism exists on a continuum. People can have high tendencies without labels.

I feel for both of them. Obviously he was down right wrong. She has every reason to leave. I say to him, Don't give up, don't ever give up. As Craig says. Put in the true work on yourself. You may have lost her but improving yourself is priceless and works miracles. Good luck to him.

I absolutely LOVE the titles of your videos! They're hilarious! Great video!

I wish I had said those things to my ex. She eloquently says everything I’ve been thinking. I too will take years to overcome the emotional abuse I experienced. It’s very sad but true. I want to move on more than anything yet I’m stuck and still feel so hurt that I can’t bring myself to trust anyone new. Yet at the same time I’m fighting the urge to find a new partner. It’s an awful situation to be in. I really empathise with the poor woman.

Well this video was not what I thought it would be, but turned out to resonate far more than I anticipated. I identify a lot with that girl's letter. Good for her for acknowledging she deserves better.

This reminds me so much of a relationship i was in 20 years ago... my ex treated me exactly like that...it wasn't video games, but hunting, fishing & TV... i divorced him after 10 years of a marriage like that... i was so starved for attention, affection and conversation... i never missed him & i am glad it ended, though i should not have subjected myself & daughter's to this emotional abuse that long... i am still suffering from the effects...you cannot miss what you never had...my daughters were from a previous relationship... I i cannot begin to go into all the neglect & sadness we experienced...

You cannot underestimate your partner that they will never leave. She made him realise what he did. Also his behaviour could be, a response of her dissapointing him at some point in their relationship. In some parts of her letter it sounds like he resented her. Am saying that because in my 5yr relationship, that ended 8 years ago, it ended for nearly similar reasons. She dissapointed me at the begining of the relationship and because we never spoke about it, it brewed and brewed till I started to neglect her and finally it ended. The difference is when we broke up after 5yrs, I felt a huge relief. I felt alive again and happy, not devasted at all. We both moved on and never contacted each other again after the break up.

@andrasziegenham6766

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly! I've only watched a tiny fraction of Craig's videos, but I've already seen him multiple times taking a side without hearing the other side and even contemplating the chance that this isn't all there is to it. If my ex were to write a letter like this, I would seem like a horrible person. She said I talked to her like a dog and I never admit if I was wrong. In truth I talk to dogs in a way more pleasant way than I talk to humans, because I love animals and loathe humans. But let's ignore this part and say I talked down to her. Yes, I did. But why? She gave me plenty of reasons to do that. Even at the start of our relationship when she was supposedly in love with me and in limerence, she would make stinging remarks to me upon meeting up. I once told her over facebook that I don't want to meet with her, because I didn't sleep at night and I am not presentable. She was very needy at that time so she couldn't let it go and I eventually met her. Her first sentence to me was "wow, you really look like shit" and then she resented me for lashing out at her and leaving. As our relationship progressed and we took eachother for granted, these remarks got more and more frequent, though subtle. In our last year we've met only 2-4 weekly so I've always met her looking my best. I always took a shower and washed my hair just an hour before the meeting, so my hair was never greasy and always well groomed. She once even asked if I was at the hairdresser, despite not visiting one for nearly two months. Yet right at the next occasion she let go of a sentence claiming that my hair is always messy. Really? What was that if not an intentional offense? In our last year because we met so rarely I was missing her quite often and so I couldn't wait to meet her, yet always in the very first seconds of our meetings she let out a remark at my appearance, my flat or some completely random stuff that would most often than not sting my feelings. I was missing her and suddenly I resented her. Every time my feelings are hurt I need a day or two to be able to talk properly again to her and she knows that. Yet she did this nearly always. So yes, I talked disrespectfully to her. Also if there was just one thing that I hated on this world and that made me angry, it would be stupid people. Yet she always had these questions that could've been avoided if she stopped to think for a few seconds or use google. She knew these annoyed me like no other and bombarded me with these. It's just one month since we broke up and just 2 weeks since I'm watching videos like these, so I'm no expert yet, but I remember hearing in one of these about a personality disorder where someone intentionally makes their partner angry and then makes them feel guilty for lashing out, victimizing themselves. I don't remember the name. She was just that. Also about me never admitting that I was wrong. That's just so below the belt. You can't argue with that, because if you deny it, then you prove them right. If you admit it then they're also right. I always took great pride in myself being righteous and able to apologize and admit my flaws. Hells, one of the greatest turnoff for her was me constantly complaining about my flaws. So yeah, she was just projecting her inability to admit her flaws on me. Every single fight we had went down like this: She had some demands that I just couldn't accept and I started arguing why they're unacceptable. As soon as she met resistance she started backing out of the fight. She never argued, logic was very far from her. So as soon as she saw that I ~may~ be right she either changed the topic to something completely unrelated and usually a very distant past experience that most of the time was already (thought as) resolved (multiple times). Or she simply claimed she doesn't remember stuff. What can you do with that? Every time you confront her with her wrongdoing, she simply doesn't remember it happened. Well fuck that. I even suspect it to be a form of gaslighting. Sometimes it got me thinking if I just made it up, but no way. So yeah, the guy in this video might not be as horrible as she claims to be. I would like to hear his side of the story.

It's like I wrote her email to him, but I was the one who was dumped....

HE'S SEEKING HELP!!! YAYYY A Narcissist will not. Well done 💛

There's always a last straw.

Unfortunately, this was exactly what I did to my ex. Minus the video games. And it took me losing her to realize how badly I treated her. She knows I am changing myself, working on being better, but only time will tell if she will try us one more time.

@awpel2

3 жыл бұрын

update?

@neerajgupta7532

2 жыл бұрын

Update?

I acted this way just because I was afraid to fall in love with her for later to been broken up with. Which still happen.

@ciscohour5884

4 жыл бұрын

I did this exact same thing. I was extremely avoidant with my ex in the beginning because there were red flags. Once I gave in, we had a good run but she always held it against me that she had to work to get me and I made her miserable doing it. In the end most girls always get what they want. she wanted the relationship she got it eventually, she then wanted to breakup, and she did that as well. Guys are suckers. and IMO girls who get hung up on guys, its always the guys who treat them like shit. It's better to have a mix of showing love and and showing disinterest at times. That ll keep any girl around. Sorry if thats harsh internet land but its true. Its all a game.

@jason2723

9 ай бұрын

Same

I feel sad now cause she said I took her for granted but I really tried my best to be good tried to give her what she wanted but it wasn’t enough

My ex pointed out some things i did during the last 2 years of our relationship and I didnt want to admit it. We were married 23 years together for 26. We have 4 kids together and when she dumped me it was an eye opener. I was so guilt ridden. I never meant to hurt her and I begged for another chance. She has said outright she will never be with me again. 4 months apart and I still love and miss her dearly. Thing is we were good together leading up to that point. I dont know why I went wrong although I have been diagnosed with depression but I cant blame that. I do love her more than anything but I dont blame her for dumping me. Please listen to your partner when they have concerns. I lost everything because I wouldn't listen. She hates me now and gets angry everytime she sees me. I am so sorry now but its too late

I'm sick to my stomach worried that i behaved this way. I was stricken with anxiety and depression that I often couldn't focus on my own life, let alone what my ex was saying. I feel like I pushed her right into someone else's arms and I hate myself every day for it. I am such a disgrace.

@CoachCraigKenneth

6 жыл бұрын

Don’t keep beating yourself up. Get the workbooks and focus on bettering yourself!

@roman4892

5 жыл бұрын

buchanan012 I think you’re cute. many girls would kill to have a guy like you 😊

@noubietube3062

3 жыл бұрын

Update?

@dotfive5six477

2 жыл бұрын

Same

@david443567

2 ай бұрын

I know this is years late. But I relate to this video so much. I feel so stupid for behaving similar. I neglected her feelings and would push her away. Prioritizing video games and would ignore phone calls regularly. Where now I yearn to even have a text from her. Now I am blocked from everything and I am devastated. I feel like I failed our relationship because I didn't grow up. We were about to move in together too. I lost everything... Because of me.

This may be really stupid but I can totally relate to this story yet on her side. I got treated exactly the same as her but somehow my ex left me and she blamed me still for everything. And I still apologised for everything I could've done and even thank her for letting me know what my flaws were and what I could do to work on them.

Great video Craig. Exactly same relationship i had for 6 years plus involved 2 kids is well.He just left 2 weeks a go and he start bodering me again. I don’t know what to do???😔

My second time watching this video, it was really sad on both sides.

That’s why I got dumped because of my drinking problem and emotional abuse and lack of goals wowwwww I want to call her so bad so I can apologize for how I treated her she was an angel I no longer feel bad for myself I feel bad for her

As harsh as her message may sound, I wish I could find a woman like her who is such a good communicator in regards to romantic relationships. Almost no one uses effective, assertive communication in relationships like that. I hope these two at least had many good times together before the breakup. If it was me, I’d just go no contact and focus on work, family and most importantly myself. I know that you’re not asking for my advice and ideas, so my apologies if it’s not welcome.

@MrHydevsDrJekyll

4 жыл бұрын

IASOU2005 I agree. It never works trying to read a woman’s mind

to make someone feel unlovable is a disaster, i´d like to see a video about that

He is asking for help, it's a lot. I hope they can work on it together. I feel for both of them. Never is too late.

@ericgonzalez5421

5 жыл бұрын

Rob I.S. Same thing is going on with me she left me and told me she does see us getting back together but she wants to me to love myself and change but I think she’s giving me false hope because this break up really was a wake up call I need to change my habits and work on my goals I have so much respect for her because I feel like she is growing faster than me yet she is a younger person.

I and my GF started in less than a month and I once asked her, "do you miss me" and she said No. I was comfused

I feel like trash for hearing this. It makes me feel guilty because to some degree, I feel for the guy who wrote the letter. I was selfish, I was pressuring. It was my fault for all the things.. I'm trash.

Wow! Hearing this was brutal. Well I definitely feel a whole lot better about my chances getting my ex back.

This video really hits me. When she broke up with me she said "is not you, its me, you are perfect" but i think she said all that because of guilt, and because she said those things I believed her. 2 months have passed and I slowly realize I took her for granted and neglected her a fucking lot... I feel really bad and Im afraid she wont give me another chance.

I cant afford the price to get help so I just have to watch these videos and try my best on my own... I screwed up my marriage of 5 years I really really love my wife and want her back.

@Nomad-yn7pv

5 жыл бұрын

same here exactly, but 14 years

@MOTwaccoe

4 жыл бұрын

Same but 23 years 4 kids

If he DOES learn, grow and change and she notices it then who knows

@veronicalagor4771

Жыл бұрын

If it were me, I wouldn't take him back. After all that emotional abuse and refusal to listen I'd be fully convinced the change is just another manipulative trick to get me to stay. Not worth the potential pain. Better off finding someone who already knows how to communicate like an adult without having to be dumped to finally listen.

My wife divorced me a year ago. I was going through what the gal was texting in your story(role reversal). And plus im come to find out im sterile. We tried for 5 years and no success. She started dating this a few months after we divorced and became pregnant. She messaged me...she said i dont love you I dont miss you and im pregnant. Devastating just devastating. The time and emotions that cimes with divorce i had to go through again. But worse....she's pregnant. Hell,emotional Hell.

@frantotaro2435

5 жыл бұрын

Jon Aichs starry strong x

@LoligeAktion

4 жыл бұрын

Stay strong

I am sure that his next gf will be the happiest women in this world :)

Dang you guys are working on a Wet memorial day weekend also.

I feel like I'm in his shoes in my own way. Only with trust issue and jealousy. She hate it when I want to know where she is (which when we were in a relationship she told me she love it when I do it because I care about her safety). She say I didn't let her wear what she wants, which is not really true because all I did was complain that she shouldn't because she is too sexy or attractive and other guys will look and such but I still let her wear it even if I had an issue with it. She also say I didn't let her go places...really? It sounds like she doesn't remember that she go everywhere she wants even if I recommend her that I wouldn't want her to and I Still let her go places. I know that my issue is bringing in her past (the bad one) that should've stay in the past. The reason why is that it was difficult for me to let it go because she let it happen and that she is friend with that person including the guy who call her "bitch". I barely had time with her and idk if she is mad at me for wanting to spend time with her since we met once a month or by chance few within a month(after she was caught being with me) but before we were able to meet 3 times a week. The reason why is her parent is religious and cultural and they don't like my race but their own. I respect her religion and race and love her the way she is, I never try to change her because she is perfect the way she it. On time when I don't have enough money for certain holiday to gift her, she get mad and compare me to other friend's bf. The reason why I don't have enough is because I spend my money on her when we meet and not only that we travel in my car alot. The reason why I love her is she did greats things to me like gifts, helped me when my car isn't working, and being loyal. But she say hurtful things when we get into argument like "fuck you" "I cheated on you" "you're worthless". It's like she doesn't see what good things I do for her. I was there for her when her relative died. I was there when she is down due to her parents hating her for getting bad grades or mad for little things. I always tell her she is beautiful and sometime wrote her long story so she can read it when she wakes up. I even help her with her school work when she doesn't understand it. I was the one telling her she can achieve greatness and good job. But when the break up happen I told her to tell me why. Her reason is she " love another guy" she "choose her family" even if they bring her down at times. And told me "I don't love you and in your stupid mind you keep thinking I love you when I dont" in the past when she is mad she say those mean things and come back to me saying she love me and never meant those mean words. But yeah she blocked me and swear to call the cop if I ever contact her.... I thought it was my fault and she told me no and that she doesn't care about me. I was good to her. I would say our relationship is complicated because it mostly had to do with her parent's religion and culture. I have to let her go even if I love her. Even if I hoped she would come back, I kept telling my self she wouldn't and that she already made alot of step to avoid me...all the love she say and promises to be my wife and have our own kids...now it's a night mare

i have an ex like this. luckily it wasnt 5 years of living together. i got back in touch with him recently. its confusing cuz at the beginning he was quite fun and seemed like he cared. but since it ended there are no signs of what was at the beginning. j dont love him but i have a soft spot for him because there are times he showd he genuinely does care "good luck. happy birthday, how is life there?" etc but hes alsl very selfish and tries to get things off me that i wont give him and he gets moody "leaves" only to come back later. and be all nice again. its sad and confusing. i modified my behaviour a bit because he gets riled up quite easily so i dont act provocative or sarcastic or passive aggressive anymore in an effort to stay on good terms. that doesnt seem to always work either. i think he has issues about treating people right he needs to come to terms with :/

My ex dumped me a few months ago. I don't care about them anymore. I found out there are other fishes in the sea.

@devensingh9195

6 жыл бұрын

LaoSoftware you are watching these videos.

@archangelelmo

24 күн бұрын

Did your ex ever reach out to you??

Yup. You gotta be mindful if you're with someone. Reach out every so often. Find out what they're doing. Then go be with them. Help out. But then they'll break up with you anyway cause dating is brutal.

This is all trauma bonding i have been through this it is horrible

He didn't say but I guess he finished his game and woke up to reality. All he can do now is to learn for the next relationship, god help her, if he finds another addictive game while with the new woman.

Same things hapened to me i did same mistakes like that guy but the only diff is she left me but with other guy. What to do?

He sounds like my ex. I was with them for 8 years. When I finally stood up for myself and told them I don't like being treated that way - they dumped me. Saying they want to be single. I tried to come to the table and figure out what the problem was and what we could work through. They got nasty, didn't want to try, gaslighted me, said all horrible things about me after I did so much for them and stuck by them for so long through so much and cared for them. They did alot of shitty things behind my back and I stuck by them and forgave him. He said he was starved for attention when I was in a busy patch with work. I had some important projects needed to be completed and did so so I could get paid and take him on a holiday. He dumped me the day after I finished them. But he never told me how he was feeling. He never communicated. And yet I still gave him the attention during it. When I had to stay up late, I would sit by his bedside for a bit a chat while I held his hand before he went to sleep. To keep him company before bed. Then I'd be up til 4am. And I'd still wake up early and do all the housework while he sleeps in til mid day. But he didn't want to try to work it out so I asked him to move out. That we needed our space from each other. That was the only thing he was upset about. And when he comes by to pick up his stuff he tells me he doesn't miss me

I would never treat a woman like this I can prove this if just one woman would just give me a go 🤨🧐

I want to know what this awesome game was

@Redrum9899

5 жыл бұрын

It was SWBF2

At least I'm not this bad. My biggest problem was being a little lazy and promising things I either didn't or couldn't deliver. I treated her well for the most part, but I said too many things I didn't end up doing. She currently no longer believes me when I tell her I'd change. I had already been changing before the end of our relationship, but obviously she wouldn't believe me and think of it as another excuse. I'm currently respecting her wish for time and space, but I'm afriad she'll move on so much that she'll never actually want to be with me again. I'm afraid she'll think of me negatively for so long I can't have another chance with her. I miss her a lot and while I know I will recover and move on with life. I really don't want that to happen. I want to reestablish a connection with her

After some thoughts on this scenario.. If you've been dating a girl for a couple of months and they still haven't put a label on your relationship and you've hooked up and are seeing each other once a week so actively dating. If she kisses/ has sex with some other guy is it cheating? and should you be okay with the situation because you're not in a "relationship" ?

This sounds almost exactly like my relationship. However, I would do anything for her, but in my own way neglected her at the same time. Eventually, she walked out on me, tossing me on the rubbish pile, citing (not so articulately) what the lady in the email was saying. I know I was anxious and know now she has a dismissive attachment style. My anxiousness grew over several years following three affairs she had. These were never really resolved and I had trust issues. I resented her, but loved her deeply at the same time. She backed away and would never talk about things, which fuelled my anxiousness further. She accused me of lack of intimacy, but it was her pushing me away for years. I learned to resent myself, lost self-esteem and self-confidence. I drank and piled on the pounds. I became afraid to approach her for fear of rejection, so I stopped being intimate. I own my behaviour and have apologised to her for it. She continues to ignore my existence, but I'm slowly, very slowly, moving on and have learned a great deal from these videos. Why did she cheat? Who knows. The best answer I got from her is she didn't know what she wanted. For my part, I will walk away from anyone who does that to me again. I certainly do not wish to get back with her, no matter how hard that feels, to go through all this pain again in the future.

@michyortiz3077

5 жыл бұрын

Did she cheat because you neglected her?

@daveh9803

5 жыл бұрын

I’m thinking more like her cheating was possibly due to her avoidant attachment style. They like the pleasure of the act, but don’t want the intimacy of feelings. Coach Kenneth described this as the start of a downward spiral, which it sounds like happened to you.

Is there really a chamce to get back to ex if he lost interest or love you? I am hopeless. We were good. No fights. Its just that he got bored and leave me😔

@fleadoggreen9062

3 жыл бұрын

How you doin? There is a good chance he found some one else and not even thinking of you! Hate to tell you but you should work on yourself, health finances clean up house! That’s wat I do, always feel bad

@bethelbethlehem3001

3 жыл бұрын

@@fleadoggreen9062 actually your correct. Im now more focus on myself. Btw, we chatted almost everyday as friends 😊

Damn ...sounds similar to The EX

I agree with what their saying when you got treated by her the same way after the fact when you got tired of her bullshit I treatedher the same way they treat me and yes I did treat her like this and I only did it because the way she was treating me so to me I can agree with everybody what their saying on here

Me and my girlfriend broke up 2 weeks ago we lived together in her house and said one day that she dont love me and have no feelings hasn't spoken to me for all two weeks I have my clothes and tv.. round her house she hasn't gave me it yet what do I do go get my stuff or wait as there might be a chance to work it out as havnt packed my stuff

@MsxTrinity6

6 жыл бұрын

Ian Friend Go get your stuff but don't speak about the breakup with her, it will push her away more.

@ianfriend7677

6 жыл бұрын

Does it not show that I have a chance as she hasn't packed them and gave me my stuff? As last time we broke up she and her mum packed all my stuff and said come and get it..

Craig do you have experience with narcissists?

@CoachCraigKenneth

6 жыл бұрын

Of course. But Margaret has much more. I’d recommend her for a Skype. She’s amazing

Three things that I have done to change my life. Watch, study and put into practice all of Coaches videos. Read the book Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin Work on being the best version of yourself DAILY. It's really easy to fall back into your old habits, that's why you have to continue to work on yourself every single day. Also I suggest reading the book The Five Love Languages

@HuskyMoving

6 жыл бұрын

Five love languages is a necessity

Well, we know too little about her to be honest, we don't know if she has suffered for 5 years, how clearly did she express it, why did she handle it if it was not ok?why did he escape to games. ...,give me break....she could be narcicistic too, maybe there is a new"pair of shoes", maybe she expected things that he wasn't able to give her-wrong match.What did she do to work it out? he didn't say it.Therapy, for them both,getting support from his family, maybe he had his issues, maybe he needed help....not to be left-cruel....was she all perfect?...unlikely. he is very self critic right now and in depression that why he sees it all black colors. Later he will Learn that maybe there is something that triggered him.Maybe it was't love from his side in the first place...just routine.Happens. Nice day everyone:*

@carloscabrera5311

6 жыл бұрын

Teresa Fulloption possible.

@Redrum9899

5 жыл бұрын

Hi Teresa i’m actually the person in this story. It’s a really long story. A sad one indeed. If you have an email. I can message you everything that happened. Even up till now.

@icyubnvs

4 жыл бұрын

@@Redrum9899 I've been in a similar situation. However, I know that I had needs and expectations that were not being met when I brought them to her attention. It pushed me to appear very back and fourth on my feelings. What it was was my frustration at being undervalued and feeling used. I would like to hear more about how your health and situation progressed.

@non-cx3rv

2 жыл бұрын

@@Redrum9899 Any update? Kind of in a same situation

My ex kept blocking then unblocking me in twitter. What does that mean?

@johnnyrivera1662

5 жыл бұрын

Van Ashleigh Alavaren they are checking up on you to see what's going on with you without making a approach

@johnnyrivera1662

5 жыл бұрын

Van Ashleigh Alavaren or something is going on in there life that has them thinking of you

@OneGirlRecipes

3 жыл бұрын

It means she cares

Ouch

Lmao this single mom is salty this dude didn't want to take care of her kid. Spoiled women