16/17 year olds don’t need a brand new expensive car. At all.

If she doesn't like the car, then she can buy one that she can afford and one that she likes.

She is not required to like the car, but they were also not required to buy her one. If she hates it that much then they can sell it and she can get a job and walk to work til she can afford a car she likes. My dad bought my first car for me. It was a station wagon. It was also something i wasn't gonna afford on my own any time soon on my 5.15 an hour part time job. I was extremely grateful

I’ll take it. My paid for car was totaled last year and I hate having a car note now. Very ungrateful!

@keithjones7037

9 күн бұрын

My cash car was totaled in 2016. Ever since then, I had a car note. If my parents gifted me a cash car, even if I was 16, I would take it.

Yeah I would get my money back and she can save up for her own car. Guaranteed they have other bills or things they can spend the money on

The parents also had an expectation that wasn’t met by her reaction.

Spoiled. She is ungrateful. I had to work and buy my own car. My first car was a used 98 Nissan Altima. I was grateful for driving my Mom's minivan until I got my own car. I was grateful for not having to take the bus.

That was me at 16!! 🤣 My parent always drove nice cars. I drove their cars to work ! One day close to my 16th birthday they brought home a clunker cash car. I was furious! I didn’t appreciate it until I went to college and saw so many people without cars.

@lindaneavil1907

7 күн бұрын

I agree with Bert, my first car I bought myself. It was a 66 Oldsmobile Cutlass. I absolutely loved it.

Nice that kids have parents buying them cars...lucky for them. However...from the age of 13 I delivered papers and babysat and did yardwork for money to eventually buy a car. I finally turned 16, got my learners permit and researched car sales and bought a 20 year old VW Beetle and I cherished it. I babied it. My parents could have bought me a much newer car...but they also taught me to respect earning and buying what you can afford. I respect them for that. I had that car for 4 yrs and I still miss it. If they had bought me a car, and I displayed that spoiled brat attitude...I would have lost the privilege of having a car. and they would have been ashamed of me.

@elizagaskell7957

8 күн бұрын

Nice car! my first car was a Honda Civic 1972. I too loved it and drove it everywhere.

I feel like it’s about the way that she told them. There are so many more polite ways that you could say, “hey mom, dad, I appreciate that you got me a car, but I was wondering if we could go together and trade it in for something more my style.”

I got a 15yo Ford Tempo as my first car - I was grateful that I had a car that gave me some freedom and that I didn't have to share with anyone else in the family. The moment I said I didn't like it I would have lost it and it wouldn't have ever been replaced. I also wasn't allowed to get my license until I could pay the difference on my parents' insurance and my own gas

The daughter should already have understood/been told what kind of car she might receive and why (e.g. budget, options close by, gas mileage, safety, size etc.) IMO that Buick takes too much gas and can hold too many friends for someone her age. The parents should ask themselves if they'd be upset if she were to sell the car in exchange for another one to see if the spirit of the gift was honestly to give her something she'd like. The daughter could have expressed her opinion more graciously, but not everyone can handle surprises. Ultimately, this is probably a sign that a car isn't a necessity for her right now. She's only 16.

I didn’t get a car until I was 21. And it was a used 1998 vehicle. I LOVED that car my parents bought. I was so happy plus I never expected my parents to buy me a car. I had that car for more than 5 years until it was no longer in good condition to drive and the repairs would cost me more than getting a newer used vehicle. I ended up getting a 2012 used Prius AND I bought that car on my own. Didn’t get any help from the parents. That girl is ungrateful and she shouldn’t even driving a really expensive car. She’s 16! If she wants a better car, she should get a job and buy one herself.

Oh I'm with Bert, she would 100% lost the car and I would never help her with one again. Let her figure out how hard it is to get a car. You'll learn real quick it doesn't matter what your peers are doing/getting. Be grateful for what you got

You'll had cars in high school? I rode the bus LOL

@mcbailey7446

6 күн бұрын

Right, a car was never in my horizon in high school. I barely got to borrow my dad’s car. My first car, a used Mazda 626, was when I was 22 and I bought it myself.

1972 Toyota Corrolla here. 😅 So I'm having a hard time with this kid. She's right in that she doesn't need to like the car. She also doesn't need to keep the car. She can use her own money to buy a car she does like or she can go without one.

If my parents brought me this car, which the girl turned down, I'd beam to the moon and back. A car represents independence.

So hear me out because I’m kind of on the teen side. I understand it’s her first car but I feel like when parents are starting to purchase their kids first car. It shouldn’t be a surprise to avoid all these expectations and drama. I feel like you should have a budget in place and take her to a used car lot where there’s options where she can choose herself because there’s nothing wrong with having a used car but I feel like she may deserve somewhat of a decent used car for a kid that is graduating early and with honors at that.

@jamiesmith2609

8 күн бұрын

Agree and her mom pressed her for the answer then was unhappy with the truth her daughter gave her. I don’t like surprises for this exact reason.

@anneplemons

8 күн бұрын

Agree. When I was a teen my dad had a ‘72 Volkswagen Beetle that he wanted me to drive since he had bought it when I was little. My brother got to pick out his own used car in a budget. The beetle was not something I would have ever picked out or wanted for myself, it wasn’t safe and broke down constantly. I didn’t say anything but I absolutely hated the car. She should have had a part in the decision to buy the car. You can’t buy someone something with expectations they will like it to make you happy. A gift is supposed to be something the person receiving would like to own. They could have probably found her something in the same budget that she would like. Or they should sit her down and spoken to her about it all before.

@Smileylivi

8 күн бұрын

@@jamiesmith2609 right ! Perfect example of playing stupid games and winning stupid prizes. You can’t get mad at the truth and I hate how parents are so entitled. “Well I brought you into this world and I’ll take you out “ “ your being ungrateful “ “ I bought so take it or leave it “. Maybe some parents would have better relationships with their kids if they stop being controlling. This could’ve been handled better. Yes she is 16 but deserves to have something decent that she would like and is reliable.

@jamiesmith2609

6 күн бұрын

@@Smileylivi she certainly deserves to be honest without punishment. How do parents drill honestly into a kid then be mad at the truth ?!?! Manipulation much ?!?!

@Smileylivi

5 күн бұрын

@@jamiesmith2609 their feelings were hurt because they are still stuck back in the day how things were when they were brought up. “You get what you get and you don’t make a fit” Her feelings are important and it’s okay for her to express her thoughts and feelings. There’s nothing wrong with getting a decent used car within budget that she would actually like. She is the one who has to drive it .

I was offered a free car as an adult. It was lovely and i was so happy. Unfortunately it was a lwft hand drive, not right which is the opposite to our country. I just couldn't drive it, couldn't safely pull out, overtake etc. I really tried to turn it down politely. Must admit i was gutted, but the person never really forgave me.

It does NOT matter if she was involved or not in the car choice, her reaction js a direct result of their parenting, its ok to get your kid nice things and make sure they are taken care of, but its also your job make sure they understand that those things arent free. Parents are partoally at fault

I got my first car when I could pay for it.