Sexual fantasies as a portal to self-acceptance and inner freedom | Lucia Cordeiro Drever | TEDxCU
Sex is hard to talk about and seen as an inappropriate topic of conversation in many settings. But eroticism is a core ingredient of being human. Repression creates shame and suffering. Lucia shares her findings as a couples therapist and sex researcher in how acknowledging our sexual fantasies can be a doorway into self-acceptance, understanding ourselves deeper and experiencing more inner freedom.
Lucia Cordeiro Drever is a psychotherapist working primarily with couples and psychedelic-assisted therapy in Longmont, CO. She is also pursuing a PhD in Clinical Sexology. Lucia's work with couples mainly involves helping partners understand one another and take responsibility in order to find a safe and fulfilling partnership. Her work with psychedelics helps people access deep parts of themselves that were previously unavailable. She is originally from Brazil and loves spending time with her husband, children, family and friends in tropical places eating delicious fruit. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
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it's quite true that we people tend to think the negative solutions first than the positive ones when facing the crisis, we may try to walk around to see different scenery and have a good mood.
I think this could also apply to other parts of ourselves such as the less seen things (negative emotion) we have. Being truthful to yourself will make it a lot easier to live. Denying that we are angry about a wronging done to us or someone we love, not acknowledging that we are sad or heartbroken about something, pushing whatever we really want for ourselves in life to the back of our head because we’re scared of failure or afraid to break out of our comfort box- this all ties in together. Refusing to accept yourself, ALL of yourself will keep you chained down. Living life to the fullest (whatever it is in your opinion) will come when you choose to acknowledge all parts of you. This is all in my opinion and take from what they said. Maybe they didn’t mean it like that but it’s what I got from the video.
@deborahdean8867
Жыл бұрын
I don't think that was what she was talking about at all . It's clear what she was talking about and it's fine if you want sn intimate relationship with your own ego. But it was a great self relocation about what is on your mind!
@pixie1136
Жыл бұрын
@@deborahdean8867 I don’t think you understood what I said either. It’s not about having an “intimate relationship with your own ego” it’s about understanding yourself. Knowing who you are and how you feel very frequently even helps people manage their anger, their actions, and how they articulate themselves. I also don’t appreciate those little jabs at me you tried to take but keep it cute and have yourself a day you deserve.
Brilliant and eye opening! Congrats!!
Honestly this lady brings up topics which occupy minds of everyone. She is also right, it should spoken as topic and not to be made a taboo or otherwise have crazy extreme reactions to such talks.
Thank you 💐
That last segment was great 👌
This talk Is a true gem! Rare topic, precise, thoughtful, documented, funny and useful too!!
I really learn something this channel
Loved this talk, so inspiring, thank you Lucia, you rock!!!
Good talk. Love the accent.
Well I think she's brilliant
This was amazing! Thank you! ❤❤❤🌈
“From the fear to awe” A path to our purest self we left behind long ago “I ask you to remember again, Tough work!” Nancy Friday (Bernard)
I really enjoyed this talk. Really gave me somethings to think about
Thank you. 🕊
Very good points,
I only live with fantasies lately (2 years), I wish I could live with the real deal sometimes ha,ha!
@TrashHere
9 ай бұрын
Um… give a shout :)
Surely,..nice
I'm also ashamed of my eroticism.
Lust, on the other hand, celebrates self-indulgence. Love comes with open hands and open heart; lust comes with only an open appetite.
@BigHenFor
Жыл бұрын
They come from the same place. Respect, and make friends with your demons. Ignore them, and they'll destroy you out of frustration. Understand them and maintain your boundaries, and you'll never be alone again.
@coffeeseven
Жыл бұрын
@@BigHenFor very well said.
@coffeeseven
Жыл бұрын
@Shadow69 You say lust and self indulgence like they're bad things. It's part of life. Healthy emotions shouldn't exclude them or you'll wind up feeling guilty all the time.
@mianti69
Жыл бұрын
@@coffeeseven so, you are repressing priorities over instant gratification without even looking for red flag in the way!!?? 😂😂 You'll end up in very deep waters my friend...each and every time
@coffeeseven
Жыл бұрын
@@mianti69 I'm a good swimmer. Sometimes I float. Have a great day.
I'm sure the comments on this one are gonna be awful LOL
@cocofingerfamilysong
Жыл бұрын
lol
@ManyHeavens42
Жыл бұрын
Wrong baby
@celozzip
Жыл бұрын
you mean they'll disagree with your opinion?
@laurabustos6560
Жыл бұрын
It certainly doesn't seem risque so far... Mostly ppl saying this is exactly what's wrong w "woke" Americans.
@dementus420
Жыл бұрын
Should be a goldmine.
GOOD VIDEO
Thank you Lucia, this was really helpful and much much needed. 🧡
Taboo and important. Just interesting.
Fantasies originate in learned experiences from art, entertainment, readings and videos, and story telling. Sounds like therapists also are sources to fantasies
This is naturally but not comfortable to talk in society, I thik we can talk on this topic,,and thank you for giving your openion 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️
The wolf you feed wins, if you want to feed 'want' then that's on you, like smoking cigarettes, whenever I smoke I crave more and more and never get full.
Real eyes realize real lies
The comments luckily aren't too bad
Nice another Ted talk
Some fantasies are best left being a fantasy.
I have experienced this and I affirm this is very very true!
@cocofingerfamilysong
Жыл бұрын
yeh
@Ablecore
Жыл бұрын
Yes it’s a path to our purest self that we left behind
@deborahdean8867
Жыл бұрын
Are you married now? Are you loved more than anything by your devoted spouse? How long have you been married?
Interesting 🤔
@cocofingerfamilysong
Жыл бұрын
yeh
This was great knowledge about human psyche and yes i also want to try different fantasies in my mind but waiting for that someone.
These people are like "Hedonism Bot " on Futurama.
CU boulder is full of disagreeable people
😱😱😱😱 God help us!!
*But how to do it? You didn't tell us that!.*
TED talks how really become low frequency now
@deborahdean8867
Жыл бұрын
They sure have, what happened?
~ interesting topic to talk about .. 👌🙂 that's the nature of us .
Shortest 14 min video I ever watched
What is her accent? Scottish? I like it...🥰
@fullup91
Жыл бұрын
Not Scottish. It's American-ish but she's not native.
@silviat8759
Жыл бұрын
@@fullup91 thanks 😇
when all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail.
"They get really excited for me." 😂
@cocofingerfamilysong
Жыл бұрын
me to
Very good video
very good speech
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❤
This presenter is very well spoken and funny
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Tedu talks
@cocofingerfamilysong
Жыл бұрын
yeh
I make earthquakes everyday
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Жыл бұрын
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Жыл бұрын
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Жыл бұрын
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Жыл бұрын
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@bobbyedwards9096
Жыл бұрын
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this is completely wrong. your true self is an integration of body, heart and mind with your spirit. not a fantasy trip.
@davidryan7386
Жыл бұрын
and yes, I have tried this tack, it leads to dispersion and decadence.
@onefishtwofish2771
Жыл бұрын
It's the lowest low but since it gives momentary jolts, most assume it to be the highest high.
Is she time travelling from future😂👍
@Ablecore
Жыл бұрын
To connect us to our pure self from the past
Tbh, this is useless in real life.
This talk deserves an acoustic accompaniment of Cardi B. and Meg Thee Stallion’s WAP 😂😂😂😂😂😂
It's sad that i couldn't fantasize about you Lucia. otherwise you've proven your point.
Well, how to solve fear: stop going to churches 🤷
There's a word that begins with gr and ends in oomer.
@ZPositive
Жыл бұрын
@@Dimitris_Balf no it doesn't. Happily married man over here. But I must've hit the mark if I triggered you that much.
too funny
that off tone on the end of her words is expressing the wrong emotion.. thats like an irish scottish complaining to your son about something he just wont stop doing tone lol
RIP ted talks
Men!?🤨
"survey says" really? All I am wondering is why she picked that outfit.
Murica🤣🙏
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Общие фразы, стандартные клише и ничего конкретного, какие-то жалкие потуги на оригинальность.... В 21 веке никого секс-фантазиями не удивишь, в общем - потратила время зря на эту билиберду... 👿👿👿
What a nonsense. Nothing important to learn from here. Only diversion to escape the reality.
What a pile of bs. Where are the solid videos???
Jesus can change your life ❤️✝️
@AHHHyleen
Жыл бұрын
🤣
@macedonian4life536
Жыл бұрын
Ahhh yes 🤝🤝the religious enthusiast, well Jesus.... and knowledge of virtually and literally everything else. We need to consume information constantly so this vid isn't all too bad. But ultimately I'd agree with religion
@Iam-qp4md
4 ай бұрын
He also could've stopped child abuse but we won't go there..
@ethicseo
4 ай бұрын
@@Iam-qp4md Human need God to stop child abuse, we are 100% agree, but people leave without God...
@DaRyteJuan
4 ай бұрын
Not necessarily for the better though.
I fantasize about her getting a haircut
This lady is just crazy lol!
Groomers…take notes.
@cocofingerfamilysong
Жыл бұрын
hmmmm
Cringe
@cocofingerfamilysong
Жыл бұрын
yeh
@freya9809
Жыл бұрын
That's exactly what she is talking about
filth.
These two points- "psychedelic-assisted therapy" and "pursuing a PhD in Clinical Sexology"- tells me all I need to know about this speaker and her topic. Clearly, another lefty loon, especially if she's willing to have her small child talk w/her about it. .
Your wardrobe selection needs some work, just sayin.
@beththompson5845
Жыл бұрын
I'd worry about yourself instead of a whole other individual's preference and choice in clothing. You probably weren't comfortable or in agreeance with the topic... And instead of scrolling to the next thing...or speaking what you really feel (which would be 100% valid).. you take a dig at her. Small one. Which speaks volumes on the digger. [I'm sorry but your validation is denied. Due to insufficient funds in your account.] "Dishonor on you. Dishonor on your cow!"
…I’ll go ahead and unsubscribe 🥴
@abrirlaimagen8949
Жыл бұрын
Go ahead we won’t miss you
@hmahmud34792
Жыл бұрын
I already did lmao
I thought she is a guy)
This is what's wrong with America in it's current "woke" state.
Women☕
@onefishtwofish2771
Жыл бұрын
Some/most women. Not all.
Take a Bible and start reading. You will have better success at it!
@kaelightupthedark
Жыл бұрын
amen!!
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Жыл бұрын
Take bhagavatgeeta book and start reading......
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