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  • @Pokeario
    @Pokeario10 ай бұрын

    Psychology is weird, man

  • @alyssa_vatalth
    @alyssa_vatalth10 ай бұрын

    Arguably the most important video for people looking to get better/competitive at any game

  • @tony4006

    @tony4006

    10 ай бұрын

    It’s just good advice in general, even outside of games.

  • @Me_Myself_Maly

    @Me_Myself_Maly

    3 ай бұрын

    @@tony4006word. I’ve been using this at work a lot in the last few days. Really helps with the more annoying customers

  • @dennissandu9625
    @dennissandu962510 ай бұрын

    i recently started frequently asking myself "what are the enemies doing?" and "what are my teammates doing?" during matches, trying to spot them visually/on the map/looking at the HUD and that helped me get less tilted and be way more aware of what is going on, leading to better plays. Highly reccomended

  • @PokeRedstone
    @PokeRedstone10 ай бұрын

    People, including myself, will often rationalize their negative self take as logic, reason, or people skills and that your assessment of yourself is sound and based in fact. It is not logical, reasonable, or tactful to judge people based on minor personality traits, failure to deliver arbitrary success, or actions they took at a different place in their lives.

  • @avianzz
    @avianzz9 ай бұрын

    as someone with borderline personality disorder, i often find myself doubting my abilities and getting mad at myself. this video helped a lot, and i think i’m going to try to work with the anger instead of getting angry that i’m angry. thank you 🖤

  • @EclipseAtDusk
    @EclipseAtDusk10 ай бұрын

    Even self-deprecating humor can lead to a lowering of self-image - our brains still hears that negative opinion associated with us, and gets us Really Upset Even knowing this, hearing Gem first mention how negative self-talk (and to some degree even trashing your opponent even if they’ll never hear you) can impact your game performance Drastically As soon as I pivoted away from both of those, I noticed my playing improve! Rather than beating myself for getting splatted, I thought about what I was doing wrong, and how I can learn from it to try & avoid that situation, if I can Instead of getting mad about being outplayed, I compliment the opponent for a good shot or play It helped immensely, and if beyond that, if I still get tilted? Time to put the controller & go do something else for a bit, this is meant to be fun, not pissing me off I played Splatoon 2 until only Lv20 or so, in Turf War only, because of a lot those bad habits of self-talk & getting mad at other the team. I got Splatoon 3 on release day, and have played it an insane amount since then - I’ve 4 starred both Wipers and a couple other weapons, and I’m finally working on learning ranked & anarchy modes, and really branching out in my weapon pool - I used to be a hardcore aerospray “focus on paint only” turf warrior That little change in how I react to “bad” things in game made me love this game so much more than I ever thought I would

  • @Me_Myself_Maly

    @Me_Myself_Maly

    3 ай бұрын

    You just helped me realize why Smash players will give their opponents mini compliments. Like “oh nice F-smash” or “man, that was a well timed shield parry”. Keeps them focused on what’s happening in game and learn what their opponent is doing. Instead of ruminating on the fact they died or got punished.

  • @rdmtc
    @rdmtc10 ай бұрын

    thank you for this video! it didn't just help me think about how i should go about the way i feel when i lose in Splatoon 3, but i've also noticed some events in my life that i could've done better if i wasn't emotionally backing up and dealing why i felt that way i really appreciate you and this channel and i hope you know that you're doing great work!

  • @decksketch
    @decksketchАй бұрын

    My go to self talk when I lose last second is, “it’s ok that that happened, cause I love when I’m on the other side of that outcome”

  • @juliabrown3115
    @juliabrown311510 ай бұрын

    Wonderful video. This is always a never-ending cycle for me-I make a mistake and get mad at myself for making a mistake. THEN I get mad at myself for being mad at myself because I’m a grown woman hating myself over a video game. But of course, none of that is helpful and I love the approach of trying to disconnect from those negative emotions instead of trying to analyze them all in the moment. That can come later.

  • @thefutureismeaninglessthep7364

    @thefutureismeaninglessthep7364

    10 ай бұрын

    I... think you misunderstood a little, unless I'm misunderstanding you. Disconnecting from the negative emotions, as Gem said, will only make them lurk in the back of your mind; they will always be there until you analyze them (Be upset then reset, as he said later in the video). It doesn't necessarily need to be in the middle of the game, you're right on that, but you do need to analyze your emotions and why you feel that way, if I understand Gem correctly.

  • @fernandobignardi6716
    @fernandobignardi671610 ай бұрын

    Oh God, Gem became a Freud school(psychoanalysis) follower at the beginning of the video

  • @Junosensei

    @Junosensei

    10 ай бұрын

    Lol I don't think this was any sort of psycho-analysis thing. I'm not in the field of psychology, but I do have academic credentials in scientific journalism (genetics, evolutionary biology) and a personal interest in therapy, and from my understanding, everything Gem talked about, from subconscious thinking, to dreaming, to meditation are all current-science frameworks used in model cognitive behavior therapy. Aka. Best current knowledge of these topics. I don't know what experience Gem has with therapy or academics in this field, but whenever he talks about various topics relevant to academia, I notice he isn't pulling it out of his butt, but has at least done a rudimentary level of good research. Knowing that Gem is/was a teacher, none of this is surprising, but it is cool to see someone doing proper, vetted research and not just talking about topics off-hand or going on some random internet sea'rch for advice.

  • @heroinhero

    @heroinhero

    10 ай бұрын

    ​@@JunosenseiI love going on a sea'rch

  • @fernandobignardi6716

    @fernandobignardi6716

    10 ай бұрын

    @@Junosensei Dont worry, my Comment was mostly regarding the introduction of the topic, and how Gem introduced us to the Subconscious in a similar way you would when studying Freud; The dream part for example is extremely important on that field. Anything after the initial introduction was still interesting to hear (the dark room part was a little unsettle and not related to my initial idea for the first comment). When working with subconscious it is bound to touch on some work related to the father of psychoanalysis, Freud. Hence the comment; a simple harmless connection to make a harmless youtube comment

  • @Junosensei

    @Junosensei

    10 ай бұрын

    @@fernandobignardi6716 - Nah, I got it, but technically, Fraud was focused on the "unconscious", which is different than the subconscious because he felt the "unconscious" was some dorment, hidden human nature inherent to everyone that would "speak" to us through dreams, and analyzing them would reveal our deepest hidden desires. Whereas today's science recognizes that dreams likely serve a purpose in sorting information we obtained or focused on while we were awake, including emotions, presumably since it helped us survive by providing better access to our rationality, or by supplementing more stable emotions, or by allowing us more creativity, etc. (we don't know for sure, but whatever the reason(s), it likely contributed to our survival as a species). Dream analysis in the way of trying to interpret symbols is not helpful, but analyzing fears based on dreams can be helpful at identifying common triggers, and so on. Really fun stuff! =D

  • @headstrong29
    @headstrong2910 ай бұрын

    This is the exact video I need. Been having this problem with very active PvP games, but it's gotten real bad with Splatoon. I noticed I get tilted faster and I go into Ranked and even Turf with the expectation I'll tilt/get frustrated. Even when my only goal for the day is to unlock abilities on gear (esp. before Splatfest) or to try a new weapon. It was at it's absolute worst during a 15+ game losing streak in Zones some months back, up until 1am trying to get a single win so I could end the session. I've made it a point to make the goal each session of Turf to enjoy the game, but that might be self-defeating. So I 100% agree with it being the words/thoughts we feed ourselves. I'm still working on this point and figured that of all games, Splatoon might be the one to finally help me overcome this long standing weakness of mine.

  • @TQThundra
    @TQThundra10 ай бұрын

    This video is incredibly helpful, more than I can express. I find myself getting upset often with the game, but helping to manage even the slightest bit to improve gameplay is substantial. Upset and reset us alone one of the biggest reasons I appreciate this video, Gem! Amazing as always!

  • @Lernyd
    @Lernyd10 ай бұрын

    Man this is some great advice, I wonder if it could be applied to anything else

  • @__dudeman

    @__dudeman

    10 ай бұрын

    Definitely not dating

  • @finphone7387
    @finphone738710 ай бұрын

    6:57 this also provides unnecessary presser on you to play well and making it easier for you to make a mistake

  • @TheIronInkChannel
    @TheIronInkChannel10 ай бұрын

    Peace. As a psychologist, I approve this message. Top marks, Gem.

  • @squidnt4103
    @squidnt410310 ай бұрын

    Good timing Jesus, I've been getting so mad at myself recently and I've needed the helpppp

  • @larrydupp3988
    @larrydupp398810 ай бұрын

    I sent this to my mom, she’s a life coach and constantly talks to me about my habit of blaming myself while driving, or while playing games with friends how I think every team fight lost was my fault. Good on you for making yhis

  • @SnoFitzroy
    @SnoFitzroy2 ай бұрын

    the 15 minutes to nothing is WILD TO ME as someone with ADHD (I keep forgetting "no thoughts, head empty" is real and possible)

  • @kermitthealmighty3266
    @kermitthealmighty326610 ай бұрын

    This is one of those things that I don’t need right now, but know it will help me in the future.

  • @waddlebottle
    @waddlebottle10 ай бұрын

    The thumbnail I’m crying 😭

  • @fernavliz1
    @fernavliz110 ай бұрын

    I have been struggling with so many sets of emotions these past few months, from sadness and depression to anger and fustration. Small inconveniences had made me change my emotions drastically. I'm glad I can enjoy the game because I play it more casually compared to other people, so at least thats some joy that can make my day a little better. I will just say it is a lot better to talk to someone you trust about your emotions when you (and that other person) have time and energy to do so. It bad to be carrying bad emotions for many days, without adressing any of that; it will not only affect your playing performance, but also your many irl activities. For gaming frustrations, it is ok to I guess "save it for later and hide that fustration", as competitive people always focus on winning and focus is important to win a match. I know it is not that related to the subject of the video, but I think I accidentally did an "save it for later and hide that fustration", but instead of a simple frustration, it was a strong emotional distress I had irl (it still affecting me months after). At that time I thought "Nobody cares about what I feel. I need to not show up any sadness to anyone; I have to be strong, for everyone."; that evolved to "I shouldn't be feeling like what I feel. Other people have it worse so I should just not think about me"; THEN that evolved into overthinking and paranoia; it was like "Are people taking advantage of me? why nobody understand what its happening to me? Why people asks me way too much from me? Am I only a tool to them? Am I to be discarted because what I feel isn't a consideration? what I am isn't a consideration?". That lead me to discharge my fustration and anger to many people here and there, many that were friends. Because I didn't explained my situation, nobody understood why all the sudden change of emotions from my part. At that time I didn't understood myself clearly enough, so it was very unfair to ask other people to understand me at that moment. After noticing all the mess I did, I took some time off to try to figure it out. What helped me is to be more open to how I was feeling, by talking to people I could trust. It was a long process that took me a couple of months to be on an acceptable shape that I am right now. I still regret the friendships I lost along the way, but this will have to be the learned experience for me. All of that happened without me knowing to a concious level that I was just hiding and postponing my feelings by so much time, weeks, months. It is important to self talk to see what things are bothering you. You will discover many day to day mundane fustrations that then you either fix, or don't let them affect you that much as you notice those aren't that important. However, I will say there is always this danger of not knowing if something you feel is very important if you underestimate how much that is really affecting you. For those last deceiving ones, I will recommend talking to someone you trust or talking to someone more experience; others people perspective are really helpful in making you see more clearly about the situation. There are many times in life, that we really just overthink the situation way too much, when in reality things are more simple that it seems.

  • @robostew
    @robostew10 ай бұрын

    Squid school: dating advice, brain science, and occasional splatoon

  • @laminmbaye8412
    @laminmbaye841210 ай бұрын

    You might not realise it but you are my therapist atm

  • @TopEye64

    @TopEye64

    10 ай бұрын

    Therapy feat: Splatoon

  • @Desert-duo-enjoyer
    @Desert-duo-enjoyer10 ай бұрын

    Thanks for this Gem. I always feel bad and I start thinking negatively whenever I lose a lot of games. I'm trying to think of different ways to handle the situation when I get splatted, such as thinking about what I could've done differently to not die. This helps even more and gives me insight about them and what I could do further to make sure I stay calm. So thanks :)

  • @enecofan888
    @enecofan88810 ай бұрын

    The book "mental game of poker" would disagree that every little nervousness is actually unwanted. You just don't want your emotions to cross a certain threshold, after that it does it indeed shut off your brain. But to a certain degree, your emotions are a stimulus that can enhance your thinking if they don't cross the threshold. If you don't have any emotional attachment to winning in games it's like when you're tired, you're not mentally active enough.

  • @Tusskie
    @Tusskie10 ай бұрын

    My strategy is this: why get upsetti spaghetti when playing the funny cephalopod game? You're playing the funny cephalopod game. It's goofy. Be goofy. Throw squidbag parties in between matches, booyah for good luck and keep doing it to create a call and response when others respond to the first one. Wear the dumbest looking outfit for the lolz. I literally play my best when I don't take splatoon seriously

  • @torres3220
    @torres322010 ай бұрын

    Another banger video from squid school. I always suspected you to be a meditator considering all the mindfulness concepts you sneak into your lessons. Great work!

  • @weewoo3023
    @weewoo302310 ай бұрын

    Currently what's working for me is playing a weapon so bad that I expect to lose. I got a double kill in rainmaker with undercover

  • @skiffy8121
    @skiffy812110 ай бұрын

    and then theres my dreams, which occasionally just tell the future.

  • @jasonzervos
    @jasonzervos10 ай бұрын

    3:28 when 2 or 3 seasons they "fixed" Stamp, they did it by making the hitbox enormous. It goes over wall… hits you when you are on a wall far below it… goes far above than it should… It annoys me. In any case, I really like your videos and have helped me a bit with anger control issues. It isn't like I'm angry and harmful to other people in person, but I get angry a lot when I'm alone and by watching your videos I tent to think about those situations and be more calm. Thanks!

  • @Wallis_2001
    @Wallis_200110 ай бұрын

    OOF this video felt like it was directed specifically at me. Trying to get better at high-level Splatoon has been really hard because I always compare myself to the pros, even though that makes no sense, since I’m simply not at their level. It’s always frustrating to feel like you’re not getting better at something, but I think I’m someone who’s especially susceptible to that. The amount of times I’ve called myself a failure just because I lost an X battle series is kinda crazy 💀

  • @GoAwayMonday.
    @GoAwayMonday.10 ай бұрын

    my mindset is horrible, honestly horrible, because whenever i watch any game and someone kills the person im watching, i get tilted all the time. you saying how i could fix not being tilted made me tilted. so uh i might just quit for now until i find a solution

  • @whalewithgingerale
    @whalewithgingerale9 ай бұрын

    Im dead serious my biggest strength as a competitive player is my anime protagonist mindset

  • @paul_lan3794
    @paul_lan379410 ай бұрын

    I was an S rank at the start of the new season (peak S+0/X 1700 last season), and I’ve felt like I reached a plateau in my skill progression. This season I decided to do an experiment/project to improve my mindset and awareness, so I reset my rank to B+. I also decided to exclusively play splatlings in series since I usually play short-range shooters and I want to really shake up my perspective and how I think about the game. I’ve definitely noticed myself tilting during series this season because “my team mates keep dying and I can’t carry B rankers as a heavy” or “my team has 3 anchors and an aerospray so we have no chance” and other negative self talk. I can’t control my team mates or the enemy team or even my previous mistakes in the match, but what I can control is my mindset and the next choices I make in the match. Sometimes, despite your best effort, it will be impossible to win the match, but that’s ok. Being mindful during the match and playing smart and fluidly with your team is what’s important. Practicing good self talk and mindfulness, even when you lose, is beneficial and will help you improve at the game.

  • @tf8324
    @tf83244 күн бұрын

    Wow. I came here to watch a video on game mindset, but it ended up helping my overall mindset too. Thank you for making this video Gem, this was something I've needed to hear for a while.

  • @mrcarrot1890
    @mrcarrot18909 ай бұрын

    I am so impressed by the advice you give that can’t just be applied while playing splatoon but also just in my daily life

  • @Not_SARU
    @Not_SARU9 ай бұрын

    at the end my lizard brain psyched itself into expecting gem to drop "this is also dating advice"

  • @BoredCactus82
    @BoredCactus8210 ай бұрын

    Gem is actually my therapist lol, thank you so much for actually making my life better! :)

  • @megaman7357
    @megaman735717 күн бұрын

    Squid school slowly turning into a self improvement channel

  • @feshgogulululu
    @feshgogulululu10 ай бұрын

    Wow jerma looks a little different

  • @Ilandria.
    @Ilandria.8 ай бұрын

    I've talked to some of my friends about this before because they sometimes ask how I stay focused and positive through things. Basically just everything you said in the video, and it's hard and takes a lot of practice, maturity, and a desire to better oneself, but is 100% worth it even just as a life lesson.

  • @wrts34
    @wrts349 ай бұрын

    Gotta admit that this video is pretty timely for me because I've been struggling my self-esteem concerning my skill at this silly squid game and getting tilted as a result for a while now. Also, this is a good reminder that I need to start making meditation a regular part of my life instead of that thing I did one time 5 years ago.

  • @willowk
    @willowk10 ай бұрын

    i’ve come to the conclusion that it’s so much harder to play splatoon during my period for this exact reason. i get so fucking tilted

  • @patoriku422
    @patoriku42210 ай бұрын

    Thanks for this!!

  • @neocraftz1553
    @neocraftz155310 ай бұрын

    funny enough I think playing league has made me take losses wayyy more personally than I should. I looked through some of my old videos and screenshots of 2 and I would play Kensa Luna with special power up and run speed up. Which is weird because I don't remember ever getting upset when losing turf, or even losing ranked games. The most I would get would be a bit anxious on the third crack and would put off ranked for a week before playing again, and I got to S+whatever, at that point I would play gloogas and have a decent build. after playing games like league and siege (I like playing funny smoke guy,,,) and I've just been conditioned to think that not only the enemies are probably trash talking/targeting me for one reason or another, but my own teammates probably think I'm complete garbage when I die when I don't even care if a teammate dies most of the time, I'm more worried about setting up jumps in the case of a wipe. it's a tough habit to break since the sentiment has permeated through most competitive games at this point, where it's not reinforced your brain creates scenarios that feeds into it.

  • @toukopaavolainen3566
    @toukopaavolainen356610 ай бұрын

    You're doing great. Thank you!

  • @tommartin7728
    @tommartin772810 ай бұрын

    Forget getting upset at losing at the last second. I get upset when I suck for the whole game and get dominated lol. Seriously, my negative emotions ruined Splatoon 1 and 2 for me. So far I'm doing pretty well at enjoying 3 and staying grounded.

  • @theepicngamerz5830
    @theepicngamerz58309 ай бұрын

    Fantastic video! Thank you!

  • @strohkoenig
    @strohkoenig10 ай бұрын

    Thanks, Gem, I really needed this advice. Your KZread channel is probably one of the best ones on KZread, not just for Splatoon, but in general.

  • @thebagelbird4331
    @thebagelbird433110 ай бұрын

    This is extremely helpful advice, not just for gaming but for life in general

  • @BotanicSage
    @BotanicSage10 ай бұрын

    What a good video. Definitely bookmarking this. Thank you for your work.

  • @fleedermouse
    @fleedermouse10 ай бұрын

    Pretty epic video. It transcends the topic. You are a helluva teacher.

  • @luc1d_ismyname
    @luc1d_ismyname10 ай бұрын

    This is a really good insight into the psychology of our brain and the mind and helpful for when doing just about anything thanks Gem!! also side note the part of the video talking about thinking about nothing and then feeling calm gave me sanitised octarian vibes 0.0

  • @hiatusfandom
    @hiatusfandom10 ай бұрын

    This is one of my favourites of your videos, as someone who's very competitive and has a habit of spiralling into negative self-talk, the way you explained the way not to just think "how can I get rid of this upset" is again, something I'm struggling with. In a way, splatoon has helped a little with these thoughts, and especially your "game advice that also doubles as life advice" Sorry for the long ramble, just wanted to comment-

  • @Moofan
    @Moofan10 ай бұрын

    This is such an informative, wonderfully described video. This can easily be applied to the real world. If you're a young adult, pay close attention, bc I fr wish I learned this so much sooner. I also feel like having a deep self process the video describes can easily translate into the way you physically play. I hope this video changes people.

  • @TheRealNoxy.
    @TheRealNoxy.3 ай бұрын

    you know, this actually hits pretty personally for me, as a child, i would tend to dwell on punishments when i got in trouble and tried to give myself an excuse to be mad instead of actually collecting myself. of course ive grown and matured since, although im still a minor, its still kind of stuck with me, ive gotten better at dealing with it but its still there. anyway, this was a great video, and was quite insightful for me.

  • @SonicKurosaki
    @SonicKurosaki10 ай бұрын

    I've been playing a lot of Street Fighter 6 and man, the moment I let negativity in because I dropped a combo that would've killed, or did the wrong thing and got hit by Zangief Level 3, my overall gameplay starts tanking. I've been doing my best to reset in the middle of a game, and reflect on what went wrong afterwards and correct it, but it can definitely be hard sometimes. I know it's not helpful to attach feelings of self-worth to your rank in a game, and I really try not to, but my desire to improve in it winds up getting subconsciously tied to it to the point where playing ranked in that game can get my arms and legs all tingly and my heart rate up. I'll definitely be trying to apply what you talk about in this video to my playing more often

  • @r_dave
    @r_dave10 ай бұрын

    I've picked up this terrible habit of self-fulfilling prophecies that just lead me to frustration. I analyze the state of the game, say "They're gonna get check here", and tbh probably play worse/try less, and they do get check. But like, did predicting that make me feel better now? No, of course not. So I try to focus on productive callouts, so that my mind is in the moment and has no downtime to drift to realistic pessimism. Even when I'm just playing by myself and my teammates can't hear me.

  • @MoonFrogg
    @MoonFrogg10 ай бұрын

    beautifully stated video!! I saved some of this information for myself.

  • @pickle522
    @pickle52210 ай бұрын

    After watching this video I got paired with a dynamo player who stayed in spawn all game for three games in a row and I lost my series. I tried to leave the group but I kept getting matched back with them. So much for trying to enjoy the game today

  • @RikQn454
    @RikQn45410 ай бұрын

    This made me realize why my games were going downhill. This video was a game changer!

  • @splatbratt8322
    @splatbratt832210 ай бұрын

    This video came out as soon as I got tilted every session, and started looking into meditating. It's a sign from the woomy gods

  • @SuspiciousTemmie
    @SuspiciousTemmie10 ай бұрын

    Gem at it yet again with putting out some of the best life advice I've ever heard (Seriously, your channel is such a wonderful corner of the internet, I am very glad to have found my way here - your advice has genuinely proved to be really helpful to me, quite a few times)

  • @balloon.
    @balloon.10 ай бұрын

    damn this splatoon shit serious

  • @eggsaroni
    @eggsaroni10 ай бұрын

    I tweeted this then deleted it because I thought it was stupid 😭 thank you for answering I really appreciate it

  • @eggsaroni

    @eggsaroni

    10 ай бұрын

    and i will take everything you've said into consideration :)

  • @USB_Cable
    @USB_Cable10 ай бұрын

    Thank you for this video so much. I struggle with this negative self talk both in and out of this game, and it may be the reason I can't get myself out of S and even into S+ Ive lately fallen into the habbit of blaming my teamates. And sure, if you look at my game stats, I'm usually top of the team. I'm good at knowing my role and identifying what my teammates AREN'T doing that they SHOULD be doing, and I get into this "oh if only I had friends to play this game with and could communicate better" mindset. Ive practically fully convinced myself that you could slap me in with a profreshional team and I'd mesh right in and begin to excell. (I do think this may be true I have a great understanding of this game thanks to people like you, prochara, and my own experience, and Im really not bad at the gam despite what I tend to tell myself) But Anarchy Series is a solo que thing, so I couldnt have friends to help me if I had them, and Im at a place in my life (Im a teenager lol) where Im not allowed access to things like discord that would allow me to make friends. My big question remains of "how do I get good enough", but maybe I'm asking the wrong question Thanks for this clarifying insight, this has been a wakeup call of things I already knew just clicking. Maybe now I can finally break out of S rank

  • @MudakTheMultiplier
    @MudakTheMultiplier10 ай бұрын

    Gem out here helping squids approach nirvanna.

  • @Wren16
    @Wren1610 ай бұрын

    this came just as i was concidering quiting comp, thank you

  • @Celevie413
    @Celevie41310 ай бұрын

    "the subconscious mind influences the conscious mind" GEM FREUDIAN CONFIRMED?????

  • @desmondruhling
    @desmondruhling10 ай бұрын

    This totally feels like it was made for me- like a few days ago I lost a game at the last second after doing really well the entire time- but now that I think about it, it was because of negative self-talk. I had been splatted twice in a row and I was thinking something like “oh come on, we were destroying them the entire game. how are we losing now” and I made a bad decision to just run at the rainmaker carrier and try to splat them to avoid overtime- unfortunately I wasn’t able to and we lost So yeah, negative self-talk definitely is real and can impact you!

  • @andreas123456789ize
    @andreas123456789ize10 ай бұрын

    Gem is the psychologist father figure I never had.

  • @dewroot5176
    @dewroot517610 ай бұрын

    By design, it's harder to make a big comeback in Ranked than in Turf anyway.

  • @boks02_
    @boks02_10 ай бұрын

    Keeping this in my back pocket

  • @milkteawaygalaxy877
    @milkteawaygalaxy87710 ай бұрын

    ive never been good at regulating my emotions (internally) and i have admittedly ridiculously high standards for myself in everything i do for no valid reason so... this one is going to be a problem for me... if i actually try to get into competitive splatoon like i want to...

  • @Doceli-dg3cn
    @Doceli-dg3cn9 ай бұрын

    Break the cycle that blinds u for plays that u should be proud of, not focus on the results of what happened throughout the whole battle

  • @sawsandra_
    @sawsandra_10 ай бұрын

    I've been not playing alot of Splatoon lately for 2 months, and didn't finish the catalog, like i do struggle with things on Splatoon 3 like "example: I quit Splatoon" i am trying to change my mindset instead of my negative mindset to a positive mindset, as a 8 year Splatoon Veteran, this is my struggles that i feel this way like raging at the video games like PvP Games, and Splatoon. I played FPS Games for years also, i ever struggle reducing gamer rage like Destiny, Fortnite, and Call Of Duty.

  • @hallaloth3112
    @hallaloth311210 ай бұрын

    I pretty much took a break and barely played last season at all. Coming back into it now that the league I'm a part of is starting up again and really trying to go into the mindset of every match of simply improving. . .trying not to care about rank at all. If I stay in A rank forever so be it. . . I've hit S all of once. . .and I'm trying to actually learn the weapons I pick up and their positioning. Learning where to spot my own mistakes (I fall of of ledges a LOT either from not being able to dial in a range or just not paying attention) and recognizing where I've done all I can, and even had some really good plays. . .and no one was following it up.

  • @GoIdheart
    @GoIdheart3 ай бұрын

    To answer the question, I love the game and I just want to be good at it.

  • @dragonstar912
    @dragonstar91210 ай бұрын

    Sometimes to know how to win, you have to know how to lose. After all, there was so much [Splatoon 3 for the Nintendo Switch] left to play.

  • @marshspy
    @marshspy10 ай бұрын

    Thanks jerma!

  • @jakotens
    @jakotens10 ай бұрын

    This is also, and I cannot stress this enough, good dating advice

  • @SoupOfClams
    @SoupOfClams10 ай бұрын

    thank you for clarifying that wasn’t Jerma because that is Exactly who I thought it was

  • @stupakoopa_3987
    @stupakoopa_39875 ай бұрын

    The thumbnail has done irreparable damage to the part of my brain that tells me that Gem and Jerma don't look shockingly alike

  • @mister-sheep
    @mister-sheep10 ай бұрын

    Unrelated to the topic, but I caught you "stamp hitbox has gone too far" in the background clip. That (and the turning radius it got in the same buff patch) are exactly why I think Nintendo has backed themselves into a corner now. You can't make it invincible from the front when it has those attributes or it's a broken special, but it has limited utility as an "entry special" since an opponent that can see you from a distance will just kill you. On topic, I absolutely play my best when I'm just focused on playing and I'm actually analyzing the game when I play, but I do hold myself back mentally. I am aware enough to know when it happens but not always able to make a correction in real time. I've gotten better at not getting angry but sometimes it's hard to avoid just feeling defeated before a match is over and not trying as hard.

  • @Pichu1232
    @Pichu123210 ай бұрын

    I will alwayys go into every splatfest giving up and saying my team will lose aka shiver will always win. Frye and Big Man will always lose

  • @Pit1620
    @Pit162010 ай бұрын

    Its saul goodman

  • @FirstnameLastname-iw8zy

    @FirstnameLastname-iw8zy

    10 ай бұрын

    it actually looks like him though

  • @gracie_spl
    @gracie_spl10 ай бұрын

    Gem have you considered becoming a therapist because I would sign up for that immediately tbh

  • @SquidSchool

    @SquidSchool

    10 ай бұрын

    I am definitely not qualified to do that

  • @iceiceparis6924
    @iceiceparis692410 ай бұрын

    Jerma from Teams era is over, now Gem is Ryu from Streets channeling the power of Nothingness

  • @callie_calamari
    @callie_calamari10 ай бұрын

    i really have to thank you for this video, as i've been tending to get rather upset at splatoon lately. hopefully this will help next time.

  • @TopEye64
    @TopEye6410 ай бұрын

    Then there's me: feeling selfish if I start to feel mad at the enemy team spawn camping base for the entirety of a match on Brine Water *dear god, if I could kill a virtual environment I would* but I just assume it's all my fault because I'm a carbon roller, so I need to attack more and I'm just not doing it well enough, so them I move to explosher and then I get rushed snd become entirely defenseless and I'm just like "I just pick terrible weapons so it's my fault" Sorry, C+ tower control is hell for some reason

  • @Technically_Techy
    @Technically_Techy10 ай бұрын

    Finally a video for me

  • @Technically_Techy

    @Technically_Techy

    10 ай бұрын

    I feel like this also relates to anxiety too a bit. 4:42, is this how to get over anxiety? Just gotta figure out how to do that in like not 15 mins 6:05 (this sounds like something a college professor would say or someone with that kinda higher status thing like an inventor/philosopher etc you study in school) 6:41 oh shit this is a splatoon video not mental health advise, right.(avg. squid school viewer experience) 7:08-8:17 isnt this very similar to anxiety tho? Like sub in anxiety’s for nervous and it seems eerily similar or maybe im crazy. 9:07/10:54 THIS. Idk its important to me. 11:07 basically me I ask this a lot and like to think about life that way. Questioning how things work and why they are this way, i feel like more than most people, idk. Maybe its normal. Reminds me how Ik whats up with me bc that i just don’t know what to do about it or maybe ik but to lazy/daunting to fix it etc. 13:03 don’t we all wish gem knew us as people but theres 64.7k of us which leads to idolization which gem probably doesn’t like and bc what i said earlier neither do I yet it still happens to me. Holy shit its been 2 hrs since I initially pressed play on this video and initially watched it. 🤯squid school be like that/deep thinking sessions ig.

  • @Technically_Techy

    @Technically_Techy

    10 ай бұрын

    Wait is 2:40 about having dreams of real events in the future or having a dream of a past event? Bc ive only expiranced the 1st one. Wish I didn’t just delete my comment explaining that bc i thought it was already addressed in the video.

  • @dufflebagg
    @dufflebagg10 ай бұрын

    Basically goes without saying at this point, but this is also dating advice.

  • @PancatNikki
    @PancatNikki2 ай бұрын

    On the off chance you read comments this far back or someone scrolls by who can answer I'd like to ask this. About seven or so minutes in you say something along the lines of "What occupies your thoughts near the end of a match?" And then list why thoughts like "We're so close to winning" and "Just hold out a little longer" can be detremental to not only your gameplay but mental health as well. I'm asking about my personal thoughts which are a little more like self affirmations? "Just need to make sure no one pushes a clam ball through this area I'm holding", they're more directly tied to gameplay than the suggestions you've provided yet still harbor the same general idea of "Wait and we'll win" that you discussed.

  • @airlock7367
    @airlock736710 ай бұрын

    I unfortunately don't remember the story in as much vivid detail as I'd like to for describing it here, but I've heard about a moment when famous soccer player Cristiano Ronaldo took aside his teammate, who was about to take on a crucially important set piece, and told him "listen, fuck it. if we score, we score. if we don't, we don't." if memory serves me right, the guy proceeded to shoot straight into the goal off the foul (which, for the non-soccer-knowers, means that he completely nailed it). there's a lot to be said in criticism of Cristiano Ronaldo both as a soccer player and as a human being, but one thing he'll ever be remembered for is his skill as a captain, and this is an example of it that we can often apply to our lives. remember, the guy who got that piece of advice was being paid to play soccer good. chances are solid that you are not being paid to play splatoon good. so, fuck it. if you win, you win. if you don't, you don't. (also, when I lose at the last second, I think back to the times when I won at the last second. I'm not the only one who gets to do that, am I?)

  • @philosodan
    @philosodan10 ай бұрын

    Hey Gem, Im 25, a grown adult, but I find myself really into competitive splatoon. I feel as though I've "missed the boat" so to speak, on getting into competitive splatoon. I feel as though I can barely find anyone near my age who is willing to take the game as seriously as I might. Do you have any advice on finding other players for an older splatoon nerd?

  • @stevieie2837
    @stevieie283710 ай бұрын

    Looking forward to the follow up video for people like me who play worse after winning easy games and being ruled by merriment and irreverent, illogical game plans. Please help me and all the other giggly squids.

  • @BeretBay
    @BeretBay10 ай бұрын

    Me after Heavy Edits got added

  • @yusufthecatwithagun
    @yusufthecatwithagun10 ай бұрын

    Then is it a stock image?

  • @kevin-bf4ww
    @kevin-bf4ww10 ай бұрын

    jerma collab

  • @kevin-bf4ww
    @kevin-bf4ww10 ай бұрын

    is there a weapon/mode mismatch in the footage it feels like the protagonist cant get stuff done from holding specific angles or trying to clear mid with everyone buzzing around like worker bees in every direction for clams randomly

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