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The only problem I have in life is being forced to be around people 40 hours a week.

@Zilvinas.

7 ай бұрын

As a man who has social anxiety/phobia, I can say existing in this world is crazy

@murphi_madeit

7 ай бұрын

Word my man😢

@BiggyJimbo

7 ай бұрын

Yeah, in this world it's effectively inescapable. We need others to pay us for our efforts so that we can buy and do the things we like

@rotpeter9148

7 ай бұрын

You're not forced; it's your choice.

@alcoholicjoe6199

7 ай бұрын

I avoid humans at all cost .

So basically, socialization is believing others will hurt you for not "acting" a certain way, then driving yourself insane following impossible criteria, trying to avoid being attacked by others.

@trisha1562

7 ай бұрын

sounds pretty accurate

@yes7855

7 ай бұрын

Beautiful! Perfect fit

@Anguu777

7 ай бұрын

That's why I hate it fr

@ularius

7 ай бұрын

No it means, acting in "wrong" ways, getting punished for it. Acting the "right" way and either accepting it and suffer in failure or suffer as a result of not accepting it. To in the end realise that the "wrong" way is your way and wrong and right are just spectrums of "not trying hurting people around you", concluding that you yourself have to decide on the right fullness or folly of your decisions, which you only can after learning the pain that it causes. This was my ted-talk

@Dr.JustIsWrong

7 ай бұрын

@@ularius _"No"_ No?? How is what you said, different? Other than by using the word "punished" and other 'morality based' words, which implies 'appropriate justice,' but without justifying this implication.

‘So perhaps hell is other people, but hell is also ourselves when we mistake our egos for our souls’… extremely well put! 😊

@thrashtronaut999

7 ай бұрын

thanks for sharing that and giving it some more emphasis

@Cragmortis

7 ай бұрын

Over 200k people and growing. That is who cares.

@andrewreillymusic2773

7 ай бұрын

Hell is living in modern America making under 100k a year and in school/credit card debt. That is literally hell on earth that I cannot climb out of. Thought I was going to at least have music to keep me going. That was a fantasy

@jasonmoss-qk8oh

7 ай бұрын

@@andrewreillymusic2773 drop everything and move to another country or go to the woods and live off the land

@chrismorrison3696

7 ай бұрын

@biochemica2 The same force that made you. Why? Now that's a religious question and I am sure I don't know. I know that when I am kind or forgiving, I like myself more. I know that the older I get, the less I know. I know that Sartre was a victim of his own literary prowess and self prescribed alienation to the point where he had to choose between self righteous temporal approval or face the BIG ideas that we still have no reply for that beg for corporeal interpretation rather than subjective apathy. In other words, faith. But faith is a gift. Search. Listen to your heart and it will set you free. Besides @biochemica2, I care. All the best and hang on. Reply

I used to worry about what other people thought of me. Nowadays, while I always try to be considerate of other people, it doesn’t bother me if they don’t like me and are unpleasant towards me. No one has the power to hurt you emotionally unless you give it to them. Once I realised that I felt like a weight had been lifted from me. I’ve never been happier.

This is the core of why narcissistic abuse causes such issues when it’s from childhood; the toxic parent raises the child as a hell mirror.

@unsolicitedadvice9198

7 ай бұрын

I hadn’t thought about it like this. Thank you for the thought!

@chrissyp9003

7 ай бұрын

Can you flesh this out for me. It absolutely rings true, can you just explain it a little more?

@DanielBjorndahl

7 ай бұрын

A gifted child becomes aware of other's insecurities, but depending on how sheltered the child is from the world, the child might not realize that this isn't normal and build habits of accommodating the narcissistic behavior. @@chrissyp9003

@MicahMicahel

7 ай бұрын

Sartre was a narcissist too. Any 'wisdom' coming from him is kind of anti wisdom.

@MicahMicahel

7 ай бұрын

his analysis was wiser than Sartre. Sartre was like the people in the room and thought people were hopelessly like that..

“If you ever think you’re enlightened, try spending a weekend with your family.” - Ram Daas

luckily, i was bullied, picked on and made fun of pretty badly as a child, by family, schoolmates, churchmates, friends..... but my parents taught me to "consider the source" and not take their words to heart. i was taught that my value was within, not outside of me, and i didn't need anyone's "validation" or approval to justify my existence. having said that, i probably do avoid putting myself out there more because, well, rejection and abuse hurt, whatever the source. 🥀

@CQ-369

7 ай бұрын

My mom would let me stop going to school. Until we moved (yet again) and I started a new school. That lasted until highschool, where I wasn't bullied anymore. Lasted until graduation. Taught me that everything is temporary. Everything passes.

@lindahollander3588

6 ай бұрын

They didn't even know you,you could have been the better person actually

@kellyshea92

6 ай бұрын

I was tought to fight back and when I won a couple of fights, i stopped getting builled and the builles stopped bullying others too.

@mrjoe5292

6 ай бұрын

@@kellyshea92 Lucky you, your bullies were of the coward variety. I've seen that go pretty badly with the more psychopathic bully.

@BooRadley-uv5so

2 ай бұрын

@@kellyshea92 nice!

I learned since I was a kid never to depend on my environment for aproval. Never depend on happiness from others. Never get attached, or believe, trust. I learned that I had to accept, and change my oppinion of myself to survive. I also learned who is truthful, and who was a hypocrite towards me.

@seeker296

7 ай бұрын

I bet you're very successful. The same attitudes have been extremely worthwhile for me

@Hedgehog3342

7 ай бұрын

Ngl the same for me too. I had to develop a independent mindset. Kinda made me a loner tbh, but then again it can be hard to relate people. I striggle with that til this day. Relying on others is the quickest way to disappointment.

@BS-si6pj

7 ай бұрын

Wise words man, sadly most of us realize these things only as we grow older.

@cakensteak

7 ай бұрын

Life is mistrust and ego gratification? Sure thing!

@Shvetsario

3 ай бұрын

As an introvert, idgaf what others think of me, it's just opinions after all. I don't need to conform to their ideals just to be normal in their eyes.

I am at my happiest when I am away from people, free to be whatever version of myself I’m feeling, without the pressures of showing up in character in every other environment and still not being treated with common decency or compassion. Hell is definitely earth with other humans.

@kathleenprevost5580

6 ай бұрын

Solitude has many advantages, one of which is to hear silence and to listen to your own thoughts, that's peace of mind. That's a treasure. Seek it.

@pointlessNYC

6 ай бұрын

@@kathleenprevost5580 I have the gift of already spending enough time in my head and with myself. There is nothing wrong with wanting a form of camaraderie with other humans.

@olive4naito

6 ай бұрын

I can relate. But at the same time there's a part of me that just wants to have communion with others. Because society has become so noisy and narcissistic it's almost impossible to get close.

@pointlessNYC

6 ай бұрын

@@olive4naito society has become deeply insecure, and it is one of the biggest disconnects we have. More people than ever are voicing their desire for engagement, but are all afraid to break the ice. Falling back on media to fill this void has deepened this issue.

@laurynorder3965

6 ай бұрын

It is what it is 🏆 be intentional if your people, places, and things

Thanks, this was excellent. I actually read No Exit way back in college, but I didn‘t grasp its significance at the time. Eventually, I have attained relative peace of mind by largely no longer caring what other people think of me. I do care somewhat, of course, since not caring at all is a fast track to full-blown psychopathy. What you come to realize is that few people really know you, and far fewer even notice, let alone care, what you think and do. I focus on pursuing my own goals and being decent towards others, and I find that to be a healthy way to live.

@neilreynolds3858

7 ай бұрын

Sometimes psychopathy is the only rational response to an insane culture.

@Justmonika6969

7 ай бұрын

Not psychopathy, sociopathy.

@MicahMicahel

7 ай бұрын

Sartre ws a psychopath. any wisdom from him isn't true.

@MicahMicahel

7 ай бұрын

I like the analysis more than sartre's vision.. I think he credits Sartre with more wisdom than he has.

So crazy I just heard “hell is other people” for the first time like two days ago and haven’t stopped thinking about it since, it’s like this video was made for me

@unsolicitedadvice9198

7 ай бұрын

Ah I am really glad you found value in it!

@darcyvincent5332

7 ай бұрын

@@unsolicitedadvice9198 I’m reading No Exit right now, thank you for this video

@juswolf22

7 ай бұрын

I heard two days ago “diversity is conformity” and can’t stop thinking about it

@roghanbehm4639

7 ай бұрын

@@juswolf22 im living in ur walls

@juswolf22

7 ай бұрын

@@roghanbehm4639 whoa bro pause. Please can we rephrase that

I have autism. Most of the social stuff you talk about, the need for others, doesn't speak to me at all. It was the feeling of hopelessness that got to me, that this is the world that I live in, full of people like that, and I was alone, being other. "hell is other people" is the name of the folder where I keep client details

@BooRadley-uv5so

2 ай бұрын

very articulate words my friend..

@alzlexi

17 күн бұрын

Omg I feel like this too yes everything you said in this sentence is me 😢

“No exit” is my favorite play/short story ever (if I had to pick one) because I could’ve saved myself so much grief and “trauma” if I only could’ve shaken my deep-seated desire to be liked by others sooner 💀

I share the same exact sentiments. Though I try not to be anti-social, I just couldn’t help it. Being around other people can be draining and exhausting to some extent.

@nicholasshillidydskinner9634

7 ай бұрын

How old are you.?

@xenomorph2258

20 күн бұрын

@@nicholasshillidydskinner9634 old enough to say hell is other people.

My ego wants to see that I am wanted and valued. I’m angry at others for not sparing me some interest like I can so easily do for them. If I was in a room with two other people they’d just talk to eachother. I have burnt myself out over and again trying to satisfy this egotistical desire when in truth, nobody owes me anything, I can’t create a situation where they do.

@gontsekganyago4079

6 ай бұрын

Right on

Bro really said “When we mistake our egos for our souls” THAT SHIT HITS

@unsolicitedadvice9198

7 ай бұрын

Thank you! I’m glad you enjoyed it!

I really like your conclusions about the suffering we cause ourselves due to our ego. There is universal truth here. We must remember to never take ourselves too seriously; like a famous person should never believe their hype. Maybe humility is the best route to happiness.

This resonated with me. Clear and conscise presentation. I like your use of zoom to create action, it keeps me more engaged. I also like the use of captions, it makes it easier to follow and process the information.

@unsolicitedadvice9198

7 ай бұрын

Thank you! I am glad you liked the video!

@mb8436

7 ай бұрын

Perhaps play with some smooth zooming though. I understand the added value of the abruptness, but doing it constantly makes it restless. Just my opinion though and I’m no expert.

@OmniversalInsect

7 ай бұрын

Captions are a bit much for me, makes it feel more like a short than a video.

@MrMeddyman

7 ай бұрын

Gotta engage the burnt out Zoomie receptors. She hulk twerking in the corner may be an alternative

Hell is other people. This video made me think of the times I wanted people to see me differently though we didn’t have anything in common and I didn’t respect them. I’m unsure why I wanted their respect even since I didn’t like them. Maybe it’s something to do with seeing a challenge- seeing if you can change someone against you for you. But for the life of me when I think about it- it seems so silly and small.

@chanson8508

6 ай бұрын

Tis human to want validation & challenges 🤷🏾‍♀️

--you are who you think you are-- --you are who they think you are-- you are who you think they think you are

Ngl, it just sounds like Sartre was a massive introvert(which is fine) and then, like most classic philosophers, projected his experience on the whole of humanity lol.

If hell is really a perception inside our minds, a fear of what others think of us, then it must be true that we can also perceive a heaven inside our minds as well. For me, neither is a constant and largely depends on my actions, healthy or unhealthy, throughout the day. An unreasonable expectation that we will always be in one state or another can also be a kind of hell. Insightful, succinct video, thank you.

@arieltroncoso9088

7 ай бұрын

​@@free_balloons Funnily though, this is very much a matter of existentialism (or absurdism depending on concluding nuance). "If hell is a perception, we can imagine heaven is one too" strikes very close to Albert Camus' statement that "we must imagine Sisyphus happy" - existentialism is all about endeavoring to that 'imagination of heaven' in the face of crises and contradictions which make us question the meaning of our existence, why we suffer so. Existentialism has us imagining Sisyphus is able to derive meaning and 'heaven' from his endless task for the sake of meaning and worth in forward motion - that every time he does it, he gets stronger and that is the meaning and that it is beautiful. We must imagine Sisyphus happy. While Absurdism concludes that there is no inherent meaning and we are probably puppets, but that does not mean we are powerless and can not simply decide to impose meaning - quite the opposite, we are driven to do so and it is silly to pretend otherwise. We MUST imagine Sisyphus happy. Whereas nihilism goes fullstop in saying there is no meaning and it is futile to find it.

@arieltroncoso9088

7 ай бұрын

@@free_balloons I often bounce between absurdism and existentialism in my thoughts and writing. More absurdism. It's less something I read up on and more just something I identified after the fact. I really don't believe there's much use in questioning the purpose of the universe and humanity other than for the fact that it's inherently cool and enjoyable. We live in ridiculous and unlikely circumstances, and subject ourselves to presumptions that are unknowable and we've run with it for thousands of years if not more, despite the fact that in a few more thousand years, we have a high likelihood to fade away into the earth's grandiose mythos, having left marks that may never be identified as man-made by future potential sapients. And that's both daunting and ridiculously fascinating. The optimist in me says that we even have a chance to avoid that fate as a species without leaving the planet (which is a pipe dream), and that alone is exciting. The more we probe fundamental forces and the cosmos, the more we realize we know absolutely nothing. Imagine how much more 'nothing' there is to find even after thousands of years? Imagine setbacks and the potential to find things we take for granted all over again. We are so obsessed with meaning that it is a beautiful clown-show, but one that I can't stop regarding with fondness. Until I face hardships with people or myself, and forget my fondness, of course, but I always find it again.

@brinistaco1970

7 ай бұрын

interesting comment.I say that because I feel that I have experienced both. gives me something to consider. I never would have thought about the must part if you had never said it.@@free_balloons

“We are all secretly hypocrites” I’ve been telling this for a while now!! Including me of course

@1coolblast422

7 ай бұрын

Hypocrisy is our belief system

@lilith_soph

7 ай бұрын

@@1coolblast422 what do you mean by that?

@tisvana18

7 ай бұрын

My favorite thing is when someone calls me out for being a hypocrite or having double standards and I just say “Yes.” People don’t seem really prepared to handle that calling someone a hypocrite is not the argument winning “gotcha” they think it is.

@lilith_soph

7 ай бұрын

@@tisvana18 they really don’t. They are not self aware. They believe they are good people and never do anything bad or judge others. They are the bigger hypocrites than us lol

@jurassicthunder

2 ай бұрын

​@@lilith_sophi can tell you like smelling your armpit

The eyes of the other section hit me hard. I've learned over the past few years, despite how hard you work or how good you try to be, when other people percieve you as a nuisance or a problem, then that is what you are. Society doesn't give a damn about ones perception of self. None of us are free

@Here4TheHeckOfIt

7 ай бұрын

Judgements are delusional for the most part. Think of it - most judgemental people don't really know the person they're judging. Judging is an attempt to define the world for themselves as a twisted form of security. All of this indicates a controlling person. Sarte, if he were alive today, would definitely update his definition of "hell is other people".

I’ve always said that Hell is not a place, but an experience.

“Hell is Other People” yes it’s also called working in Retail.

@sirg-had8821

Ай бұрын

True

I'm self-conscious every second of my life

@unsolicitedadvice9198

7 ай бұрын

Oh no! That sounds very difficult!

@user-qh6ii7qt6m

7 ай бұрын

Protip: Nobody thinks about you as much as you do. Those things you feel you should feel self conscious about? Few noticed, fewer will remember it tomorrow, and almost nobody will remember in a week. How much do you notice (much less, remember) others' faux paus?

The part about the door reminds me of what I heard about one of C.S Lewis's book. I don't remember the name but the description in it tells of a bus that can drive people out of hell, but the catch is the person who gets on has to leave everything behind. "Take no souvenirs with you." It's sounds similar in the sense the author is asking what's keeping us in hell and what aren't we willing to give up.

@stanleylayzell2506

21 күн бұрын

The book is The Great Divorce, if anyone's wondering 🤔

One of my biggest frustrations as a parent is that my daughter cares so much about the opinions of kids she hates. It’s very difficult to help her with because I accepted at a relatively young age (around 11-13) that I shouldn’t care about the opinions of people I don’t want in my life and that their opinion is useless if it is impossible for me to change. Yet when I try to reassure her, it never helps. All she wants is for the bullies to think she looks cute, and she does. Her friends agree, all the adults agree, all acquaintances agree. But the three kids who hate her no matter what she does don’t like her and it drives her insane.

@Here4TheHeckOfIt

7 ай бұрын

I think you're not looking at this correctly. The nature of bullying is not the same as it was when you were a kid. Gone are the days when you can simply move schools and put all that hell behind you. With social media, bullying is so much more far reaching and damaging. Bullies can literally ruin her life. What you're interpreting as "caring too much" is probably her knowing this and being very concerned about this fact. If you don't believe cyberbullying can be dangerous, look up Amanda Todd, Megan Meier, Ty Clementi, etc. Read about cyberbullying and suicide. No matter what, you need to make sure that she knows she is loved and supported, that she can come to you with any concern she might have with no judgement. These situations can make kids feel entirely alone and misunderstood if you don't understand the situation for what it is. Don't underestimate the amount of damage this can do to her confidence. It can damage even the strongest of people because of its relentless nature.

@thecorruptversion

6 ай бұрын

Interesting. Commenting in case someone comments about this.

Someone ACTUALLY examining Sartre?? WHOA. Incredible. Sooooo many people leave it at the phrase in the title and stop there, missing the part where you're meant to overthink in philosophy to get to the good stuff. Really enjoyed this!

absolutely love these videos! keep it up :)

@unsolicitedadvice9198

7 ай бұрын

Thank you! I am glad you like them!

@duckalotl

7 ай бұрын

pegasus???!!!

@deviousj5868

7 ай бұрын

I love how a local theater in the town I live in is having this play😅

@Belete5000

7 ай бұрын

go away loser

@fireblademapping131

7 ай бұрын

Pegasus is one of the only verified youtubers to have a brain to understand this, lol. Smart guy.

Ironically, I wouldn't care what I look like if I didn't have to be around other people... This video is giving me a LOT to chew on today. I've watched it three times: once at normal speed, once at 3/4 speed, and once at 1 & 1/4 speed. I catch something new each time. I have the feeling I need to see this play.

Dude believe i have never come across a channel with content as sticking as yours The viewpoint are so detailed yet to the point...it feels like brain is expanding with different perspectives. Thanks for making this video keep doing this

@unsolicitedadvice9198

7 ай бұрын

Thank you so much! That’s very kind!

The quality of this video is so good. The content is made so much more engaging by your concise way of explaining the different layers. Keep up the good work, you'll make it big! Looking forward to seeing more of your videos

Hating people has only made me miserable, I didn’t realize how common this mindset is.. Don’t believe me? Read the comments down below. It’s depressing..

@profounddestroyer5470

7 ай бұрын

Well said

@tumorlolita

7 ай бұрын

What’s the alternative?

@nijobot

7 ай бұрын

​@@tumorlolitadon't hate people 🫣

@armairoes

7 ай бұрын

@@nijobot Correct. ✅

@feitan8745

7 ай бұрын

@@nijobotcan you?

Your videos are quite informative and made me realize how important learning to develop a sense of humor to combat the perceived hell that comes with being human is the most therapeutic behavior I can think of at this point in time.

...So you find yourself sitting at the bus stop. You are alone, deep into your thoughts, and at peace. Suddenly another person enters the enclosure and starts to talk.....Hell has manifested.

@user-fw2rr9xo6f

6 ай бұрын

yes. Competing for space in public. Congestion. Road rage. So I find myself cycling down a dead end street with pedestrian thoroughfare. Heaven.

Heard about No Exit before, but after this analysis I really wanna read it. It seems so good. And you're speculation at the end was top notch. Great Job buddy!

I worked graveyard at a hardware store using a forklift to refill lumber bins and what not. The best job ever! By myself and my audiobooks 🎉

This perfectly explains why morality is not “God given” but due to our desire and need for the acceptance and cooperation of others.

@dylanroemmele906

7 ай бұрын

You could argue that desire is god given...

@somekid1573

7 ай бұрын

No stronger than you could argue desire is based on survival instinct, which exists as a result of evolution

@kurtdvet

7 ай бұрын

@@dylanroemmele906 first you have to define “God”

@kurtdvet

7 ай бұрын

@@dylanroemmele906 first you have to define “God”

@johnx140

7 ай бұрын

How the hell is it not. How can it not be God given if everything is God's creation?

been on a philosophical bender and saw your video on my feed. I hadn't read No Exit but am familiar with Sartre's works and a sucker for existentialism. and this video of yours made me finish the play in one sitting, and I'm grateful for having come across it. genuinely love your videos, they make me smarter, keep 'em coming!

@unsolicitedadvice9198

7 ай бұрын

Thank you! And I may borrow the term "philosophical bender"

This was extremely good. You have done a great job getting into it and are well spoken enough to get your points across. Also the channel name is top tier.

I completely stumbled onto Sartre by writing about authenticity, which led me to existentialism 😅. I also came to a similar thoughts which I titled as “Beyond Pleasure and Pain”, linking the duality and hypocrisy with the ego. I think it’s easily summed up in the phrase “if we are free, then we will thrive. If we are told we are free, then we will self-destruct”. I’m glad I was recommended this video and took the time to listen. Thanks it was enjoyable 👍

This was a brilliant video and Sartre was a genius. I found his quote a few years ago and it stuck with me since, but this video gives me a deeper understanding of it. Thank you.

your channel is an absolute gold mine, thank you so much for these very insightful videos !

I never thought I would get to hear such a perfectly concise answer to a question i didnt even realize I had. I always figured I just wasnt a people person and left it at that. But now that im hearing it all of this makes perfect sense. Great video, man

Absolutely brilliant. I really enjoyed the editing style and the clear and concise explanation of Sartre's philosophy.

Hell might be other people, but so is Heaven.

@unsolicitedadvice9198

7 ай бұрын

I really like this!

@LilXancheX

7 ай бұрын

So both are hell?

@youtubestudiosucks978

7 ай бұрын

​@@LilXancheXyou're not allowed to sin in heaven and everybody can enter heaven as long as they ask forgiveness to god before they die. They dont even have to ask forgiveness to their victims as long as they ask god for forgiveness they wil be forgiven of all their crimes and enter heaven. Dude could have tortured your entire family for months in a basement and ask forgiveness 5 minutes before he died and allowed to enter heaven alongside you like nothing happened regardless of how much pain and suffering they caused on you and your family. How is that heaven again when you're forced to share the same space with somebody who did all that to you and your loved ones for all of eternity?

@Vanity0666

7 ай бұрын

This is quite literally the parable of Jacobs Ladder, from the bible itself

@Vanity0666

7 ай бұрын

​@@youtubestudiosucks978sin is a human concept, exclusive to human realms.

Thanks for this my man. I was struck by Kierkegaard and Camus and Sartre in philosophy classes way back. I remain struck. Your elucidation brings me back.

you have no idea on how much you've just helped me tonight ; I've already read this piece, a year ago, and did a good analysis of it ; but I did not do your analysis, and that's the one I was in need, tonight. I know nothing about you, and I still don't want to know anything about you ; however, I'm deeply grateful for your effort in understanding this masterpiece and in sharing your brilliant view of it with me, for free and without previous recuirement from my part. From the deep of my broken heart, thank you, gentleman, thank you very much : may this words of mine be a trustful mirror of your courageous and kind intelligence.

This video is excellent. I studied Sartre whilst at University 25 years ago. Listening to you, made me feel like I was back in those lectures. Good luck in whatever you do.

I watched a KZread video on a social experiment on a raft. The guy who hosted the experiment had expectations and when the experiment didn't go the way he expected he was a pain in the arse to be around so most ended up resenting him, but had a good time in general.

These are exactly my views on No Exit and “hell is other people”. So well put!

This reminds me of the idea of Pain and Suffering. Pain of a tooth ache. Suffering over the loss of a loved one or a romance that could have been. One is involuntary … and we have to deal with it. The other we inflict on ourselves … voluntarily.

Had an unpleasat experience with retraumatiosation lately and somehow had this famous quote from the play in my head. And I thought about how I I’m drawn to go through this cycle over and over again (literally like the hell I place myself in) and how I always find my punisher in someone. And my other thought is how social media brings it on a whole new level of perspective and interpretation.

I just love that you add your own subtitles

There is no good nor evil, only suffering.

@unsolicitedadvice9198

7 ай бұрын

An interesting point

@afireinhearts1302

7 ай бұрын

Thank you for putting to succinct words the concept which I’ve been trying to summarize & put to words❣️ I gotta remember this. Sums it up so well! 🙏💯

@RandomPerson28337

7 ай бұрын

Amen

@blacklyfe5543

7 ай бұрын

Suffering can be good or evil

@Kinyr

7 ай бұрын

Evil is suffering good is nonexistence

All concepts that I've encountered before but none told so elegantly and coherently. Bravo

@unsolicitedadvice9198

7 ай бұрын

Thank you! That’s very kind of you to say

This is my first video of yours, and it's so well-done, you've earned a subscriber! Great content!

This was a great analysis of No Exit. I think it is important to recognize the influence Heidegger had on Sartre (Being and Time / Being and Nothingness). Sartre's notion of Other People is very similar to Heidegger's Das Man (the They). The role of the other in our own authenticity is honestly very enlightening, and imo should be taught to young people at an early age.

@unsolicitedadvice9198

7 ай бұрын

Thank you! And funnily enough I thought about bringing up Heidegger in the video but I cut it in the end because it felt too much like a tangent. But you are right, his influence on Sartre is palpable

Very well done analysis. Thank you for doing it 🎉

This video was thoroughly enjoyable- looking forward to others from you!

Awesome. I've never understood many complex essential facets to a problem and it's solutions that fast

most of the stories i watch or read usually ends up boiling down to "have friends" or "dont be alone", which makes sense. but its also interesting that on the other side of humans being your greatest strength, it can be that other people are your greatest weakness

I've loved your videos so far! Great job!

@unsolicitedadvice9198

7 ай бұрын

Thanks! I hope they are helpful!

Great video. Thank you for your eloquent analysis.

so if you have a self-image that is honest, accept yourself and others as virtuous hypocrites, develop apathy towards the judgement of others, and grow to love yourself or insane enough to be happy alone, then I suppose people stop being hell and just another part of the journey towards death

The day I stopped being afraid of my sins and faults is the day I stopped being a ball of insecurity and anxiety. Jung called this shadow integration, but I think there’s probably more to that process than simply doing the one thing I stated.

@lundbergdrums6642

7 ай бұрын

Do you mean like owning your own mistakes and faults and being honest about them to yourself and others?

@artOVtrolling

7 ай бұрын

@@lundbergdrums6642 yes. Exactly. And also being able to admit in real time when I’m being cringe or acting inauthentically to protect my ego. Every human is ultimately embarrassing and fucked up at least in some small regard and I just got sick of constantly pretending otherwise.

@lundbergdrums6642

7 ай бұрын

@@artOVtrolling is this an absolute or do you have exceptions? Just asking because I am interested myself. Do you have any balance when acting like this or do you just go full haywire-honesty-train about everything to anyone? I am currently in a tight spot with my addiction history always holding me back in social situations. I just can’t seem to know when its the right time to talk about it in fear of being looked down upon

@tisvana18

7 ай бұрын

@@lundbergdrums6642imo, the sorts of people that look down on you aren’t the sorts of people worth bending backwards to please. You can’t change your past, it will always be with you-and in as many ways as this can suck, it can be good in many ways as well. It gives you information which can be used to help guide other people that aren’t as far along your road and help bring comfort to yourself when you meet hardships. You can’t change the past, therefore the people who would look down on you for it will no matter what you do. Their opinions should be worth nothing to you because it ignores all other established facts and work. Life is difficult and people are assholes, the only people worth bringing into your inner circle are ones who will accept that the bad parts of your history happened while only judging the person that stands before them. If someone judges you and mistreats you on the past while refusing to acknowledge the present, that’s their right and it will hurt, but it saves you the trouble of building a friendship on lies and having to betray yourself. And I’m not saying that people can’t be discerning or that they’re bad people for saying “I can’t associate with X because of what they did.” They might have been hurt in the past, what happened might have been terrible, we’re all creatures that only have our own experiences to build on. But for the purposes of existing and finding happiness, we (as individuals) cannot surround ourselves with people who force us to betray ourselves and hide. If you can’t be authentically with somebody because what you are conflicts with what they hate, they are not your friend. The reverse is also true. [Growing together, helping to overcome obstacles, pushing to be better are different. You only betray yourself when the other person doesn’t want you to overcome vices or to recover or improve, they only want you to stop inconveniencing them or stop existing. There is no encouragement, only shame.]

If you hate someone then it's probably because of what they did & how they influenced you by their actions, words :) Generally, conflict between two people occurs when one expects / wants something from other and it doesn't happen so the person becomes frustrated. Frustration is unfulfilled wish. Hurt people hurt people. Anyway, if someone makes you angry, sad or to feel bad / hurt because they've said something to you it's because you've let them (reacted to it). Probably because you care about them, their oponion. Thus you gave them power, influence over you. So stop caring about their opinion, don't react. There's no need to argue.. anything you say is like adding oil to the fire. It's giving a chance to other side to continue arguing and bringing unrelated past events for the sake of arguing. So either pull back (go outside) or say okay (let them think they're "right") or ask them something like "are you okay? You don't look well". Other options is remain silent / ignorant / unresponsive. Just do your thing as if they don't exist (tho this will annoy people who expect answer but people who just wanna rant won't) If you want to hurt them.. leave them hanging (they'd think about it as unfinished business, but you'd not give a fk about it).

@0RTH0CHAD

7 ай бұрын

"If you hate someone then it's probably because of what they did & how they influenced you by their actions, words"; this analogy assumed that when you hate somebody you knew that what you were doing are "correct": this is usually not the case since in ressentiment you're usually narrowed by its perception (read Scheler's phenomenological writings on this)

@0RTH0CHAD

7 ай бұрын

"because you care about them, their oponion. Thus you gave them power, influence over you. So stop caring about their opinion, don't react"; if a stranger say something negative to you, you would not feel frustrated or disappointed in comparison when your loved ones/someone you knew did it; this is because the nature of love & sympathy comes with a cost: vulnerability, you could not love without that possibility of being disappointed in any sorts of way (even we ultimately disappointed ourselves from time to time); consequently, you could not love or have proper relationships with others without a possibility of conflict, so its up to us to give up the ressentiment and hatred within our souls, and learn to love others anyway. Don't fall into the trap of isolation and hatred, it comes with a dire cost.

@feitan8745

7 ай бұрын

easier said than done. You'll always be under someone's influence, unless you isolate yorself from the world.

@neilreynolds3858

7 ай бұрын

I have a friend who hates her mother so much that she became her mother. She can't see it. If she did, she would disintegrate. It's driven her crazy but we're all crazy for one reason or another.

@user-fw2rr9xo6f

6 ай бұрын

You could be hated for just existing. Being a certain colour. Being a certain make. Using a certain vehicle.

THANKS for the video You are really good at story telling as well as explaining things so even an amateur like myself can easily understand.

Confusing our egos with our souls - that's such a brilliant line of thought. We live in a time of unbridled ego; the ego has replaced the soul, in a mechanistic sense. Where as in the past, people viewed themselves as beings with desires, today, they champion their desires as their being. They boldly proclaim who they are and reject any criticism as an attack on their very existence. In this society fueled by egotists, I think "No Exit" is a poignant work.

Were I sent to be tortured like that I would tear out my eyes and vocal chords but leave my ears intact. I may never see them, may never degrade others via my sight and opinion and only be able to be mocked, cajoled and ridiculed for all eternity for being an ugly, selfish being who would rather maim himself for eternity than interact with others. I'm Autistic so I'm thankfully immune to ego games of others and mind-blind enough to not understand the thoughts of others.

@AnimosityIncarnate

3 ай бұрын

That's my existence rotting in my room ❤

Whenever I watch philosophical videos like this, they usually end with some superficial message like "be yourself, bro". But this was a really good and meticulous analysis. I genuinely dislike Satre and his ideas but this video really helped me to be more open minded about his philosophy.

@T1Oracle

7 ай бұрын

Philosophy is good at teaching logic but useless at finding conclusions. If you want a conclusion you need science and there are many things beyond the reach of science. So we'll have to settle for mystery and accept that everyone will have their own beliefs.

@siddhartacrowley8759

7 ай бұрын

What wacky "philosophy" videos do you watch?😮

@candide1065

7 ай бұрын

@@siddhartacrowley8759 I stumble upon "philosophy" videos on youtube now and then in which people try to analyze Nietzsche or talk about Stoicism and they're usually pretty lame but if you know some good philosophy channels I'd be glad if you could recommend them.

@candide1065

7 ай бұрын

@@T1Oracle Good point. I should have written "insight" instead of "conclusion". Most "philosophy" videos don't offer much insight into important topics nor does it offer new ideas. I also think that science leads to actual conclusions, that's why I'm usually very sceptical towards "philosophy".

@dab0331

7 ай бұрын

​​@@T1Oraclescience is useless for conclusions too. You can't prove light to a man born blind by feeding him "scientific proof" in the form of taste, touch, sound, and touch. You have to CURE his eyes Meditation and having a transcendental mystical experience is the only way.

Im loving the subjects u are covering rn. Terrifying. Yet exzelerating the freedom not being with others sometimes. These dualities are so interesting

"Hell is other people" the concept is really well thought out and one which is so deeply rooted in society that most won't think about it . All of this is quite interesting since there doesn't seem to be an answer which involves living in society without any drawbacks. If we act on every single thing that people believe us to be, and search for their validation all the time we won't get anywhere, because just like us they are likely not to have any idea of what to do, what is right, it's all about how people think and believe to be right. There are many examples to explain it like, "Men don't cry" a frustratingly popular and foolish concept, but many in the society accept it and believe it to be the right choice but is it? "of course not!" one might say yet if you that one person was surrounded by people who truly believed this statement to be true would they change? perhaps, or perhaps not. only they know the answer. if they choose to transform and they would find it easier to fit in society. should they choose to not do it they would be bullied and be made an outcast similarly we have people comment about how a player should have played at the end of a match but ask them before the match and they don't know anything. should the captain of the team of player listen to these by standers who are not really aware of what they are talking of course not! so should one see themselves from the gaze of other and try to please them or not? no idea if you were in a group of friends who are drug addicts chances are you will be another addict and if you enter a group of smart individuals you may become smart as well again what do you do? Who do you trust? Perhaps it is respect. one follows another, the one they respect or they deem worthy, there are countless examples where people changed society and their thought process by their actions ( pretty sure it did not happen overnight nor that they did not receive criticism in the starting) it is not really just one aspect of life. changing to fit in society can lead to mob mentality but you can also not know what is right. the best one can perhaps do is find someone of good character and learn from them. thanks for reading

I am glad that this guy was recommended to my youtube feeds haha

@unsolicitedadvice9198

7 ай бұрын

Thank you! I am glad you like the videos!

@rovic2hacking505

7 ай бұрын

Please gatekeep your resources so that the viewers will continue to watch you!!

I am SO impressed by this. I do not know if that's a credit to Satre or you. So, thanks to you both!😊

An excellent video! Appreciate the message. God Bless

There was a time when you didn't have to go to college to read these books, high school philosophy was enough. I had the best English teacher who made us read like there was no tomorrow. She also taught philosophy. Gem of a woman.

I think that this speaks to something that is deeply true and wrong about human nature: we are terrified of the judgments of others, but we seem to be equally or more terrified of our own judgments against ourselves. Thus, we will actually construct lies, and rationalizations for our own behavior that we persuade ourselves to believe, in order to put off the burden of internal guilt that we would otherwise have to feel as a result of our choices to do things that we know are wrong.

2:27 "We don't want people stealing stuff ALL the time." Exactly, only SOMETIMES. When people are successful and secure, it is possible to keep human nature in check through moral conventions. To the extent that there is no security, there is a consequent weakening of moral conventions, and human nature is the main determiner of action. A man’s character assimilates to the conditions and likewise the conditions around him influence his nature to the level of his fortunes. The choices and actions of human beings throughout history always display a conflict arising out of fear and ambition - a longing for power, a crude type of power. Human nature is governed by greed and ambition, violence and fear, and the lust or love for power. Furthermore, this human nature is generally the same in all people and through all events. The unpleasant changes of circumstances of fortune do not alter that human nature, they merely determine how much of it is revealed, and what degree of force it exerts upon human action. Moral conventions that compel people to moderation and passivity are artificial, conditional measures. History shows that all moral conventions of law and justice are artificial and contingent. The standards and conventions of civil society are cast aside when times are difficult. So long as conditions are generally dangerous and insecure, violence is common. Moral conventions have no independent validity and existence, and are instead contingent on security and prosperity. In the absence of security that allows for morality, fear and self-interest determine everything. Morality is removed by the strain of real events. Morality is provincial and applies only to a certain period of time; morality is simply geography misconstrued. This is because moral systems have always been relative to the culture, the historic period, and the social class that produced them. Different cultures express different moral codes of conduct at different times. Obedience to certain laws and certain times is called ‘justice’, irrespective of the type of government. All moral values are constructs of human beings and that morals are conditional to the safety and security of the people that make them. Conventions that bind the city together in orderly operation in regular circumstances are torn apart, since their force and validity had always been contingent on the relative security and prosperity of the people who followed them. With these moderating factors removed, the artificiality and fragility of the laws become apparent, and they are quickly overturned. It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society. I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone. It’s better to be alone and love yourself than be surrounded by people that make you hate yourself. Finally, Sartre was an outspoken admirer of the Soviet Union. Too bad he didn't live there as well.

It's one thing to be judged, it's another to be misunderstood.

Very interesting and insightful, I sometimes forget how Ego can truly be the root of many problems like anxiety and depression

@davidroberts7282

7 ай бұрын

I also know and maybe Sartre was guilty of allowing his ego, vanity, and often-unconscious bias influence regarding radical late 60's politics, supporting or condoning Moaist-ideals or far-left French, German groups, terrorist syndicates like Red Guards, Meinhof gang, LZ, overlooking Soviet/Stalinist atrocities, purges of Communist party members, high-ranking Soviet military generals, colonels, and other officers with the Moscow Trials in the late 1930's. Sartre's quote about most human beings being secretly hypocrites is sort of a honest acknowledgment of his own flaws, shortcomings, and internal, irreconcilable contradictions.

The problem is everybody is so goddamn un enlightened and doesn't know how to chill, I am perfectly laid back and relaxed but I have to worry about everybody rushing me and riding my ass all the time just because they made their life miserable and need to rush everywhere

@lindahollander3588

7 ай бұрын

My job gave me alot of anxiety cause of this,they pushed on with a cattle prod

This was painfully good

Very interesting and well presented video. Good Job!

woah that was what i was looking for, the explaination is superb

thanks for this -ive been in monk mode for 3 years since covid- I currently take care of my elderly parents- the more I try to make friends with the younger genz the more I realize I have to be a monk - cheers

I prefer Socrates' "There is only one good, knowledge, and one evil, ignorance." When people do bad things, they arrived at that decision without understanding the situation, themselves, or the consequences. Because of that concept I have learned to hate people a little less over the years. The best person one can be is to be a "life-long learner".

@user-fw2rr9xo6f

6 ай бұрын

That's subjective and not absolute. You don't have to be a life-long learner and there is no mandate to be. You don't learn that sun rises from the east. It happens. What exists is the truth.

Thank you. You delivered this beautifully

@unsolicitedadvice9198

7 ай бұрын

Thank you! That is very kind

I think you are spot on. Thank you for this video.

This is a great thought concept; what if this earth was hell or a prison, where you have been sent to serve your sentence.. hell is only framed as a burning pit of fire, so what if the universe/earth was personally developed for us.. to spend a lifetime suffering with our own egos and morals, at the hands of the stupid and the ignorant.. you can't escape, because you are trapped by your own insecurities.. even then where would you go, the loneliness of the universe is cold and vast..

I don't hate otherbpeople. They're just stressful to deal with at times.

Just subscribed, you are superb! This channel will grow in no time I am sure.

you are good. i liked it. thank you for your time and energy.

My whole life I've always chased after the validation, affection, and approval from men to see me as beautiful because never once in my entire life has my father ever called me beautiful and it's been a lifelong obsession of mine to attain a level of physical appearance worthy enough to appease my father. I know I'm not supposed to care what others think especially men or my father or anyone else. But that is my personal living hell. Chasing after my father's love and approval by trying to win him over by being a beautiful daughter he would be proud of instead of ashamed of. I don't think he was EVER very attracted to my mother. He cheated on her their entire relationship and marriage totalling 17 years together. I think he only married her because she was educated and had a similar family background and the same culture and faith as my father's family so his parents approved and helped him out with his first car, their first home as a couple, and he received substantial inheritances from his parents after they passed away. So it was a financially incentivised partnership in his mind to please his parents, community, and society but he never truly loved my mother or thought she was beautiful so therefore he never thought his two daughters were beautiful. It hurts.

Personally, I don’t think society shows you what you ARE, I think society shows you what you AREN’T, and it’s your responsibility to do something with the rest

Very interesting and helpful concepts. I think it ties in with stoic philosophy as well as Buddhism and Freudian and other psychoanalytic thinking. A lot to think about. But I think the message I get is if you kill your ego you eliminate an emotional need for approval. You'll still need approval in objective forms such as to pass a math test or to win an election, but you won't be emotionally involved with that approval or disapproval because "it's not personal, just business", to quote a famous movie. Thank you. Great video.

I couldn't stop thinking about this. I never realized that hell is another people. Hell is indeed another people but heaven is also another people (where there are compatible people)