Resentment In Relationships
Ever had two (or more) totally contradicting feelings about someone? More than one emotion can exist at the same time-and that’s ok! Confront the hard feelings instead of ignoring them. Dr. Dharius is here to talk about how to stop avoiding negative emotions, getting to the root of resentment, and bettering your relationships!
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Ignore it, it will evolve 🙌🏾
FACTS🎯‼️... thank you PD... To move into my next I have to purify my heart and motives to experience God's best. Time to confront hidden/suppressed resentment 🙏🏽
Omg thank you PD. This one was for me. Praise God! ♥️
Thank you PD.
Thank you Jesus. I needed to hear this. Powerful words.
God Bless you PD thank you
On Point, On Point!! REAL COMMUNICATION.
PRAISE GOD FOR THIS SPOT-ON INSIGHTFUL AND IMPACTFUL TEACHING #WORD ❤🔥🔥👏🙌💯
What a word today😢
So on time!
Yes… thank you 🙏 💜
This is good
If u don't preach, teach, speak.....profound and real. Nobody wants intimacy in relationship if it is painful. It 🤯 when its continued after communication. It's then the root and why? For me! Big Blessings Pastor.
So difficult man 😮💨😪🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
He starts talking about the actual topic 5mins in
Teach PD ❤😊
🥧☕️ or 🍩 ☕️ or cookies and coffee or 🍦 sound happier but i know they get heavy like resentment. I didn't cry thinking on this, this time, the sun is breaking through ⛅️ Washed away, washed away, come together, lets pray. Washed away washed away Thank you for enlightening the path along the way. 🌤
Amen to every moment. Thanks for constantly pouring out your gifts Dr. D!
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The way he breaks down people is amazing
@iamthatiam-l
Жыл бұрын
Yes yes yess
They continue to read poetry i e always said drawn from my personal life because so don’t choose to speak about others dedicated to hunting my life rather than healing themselves and speak broadly pointing.
The volume on this one is very low for some reason. Only message of yours this has happened on.
@jenniferlee3887
Жыл бұрын
This is what I said
Volume is very low. But thank you for this video
Thank you Pastor Dharius Daniels for this powerful lesson. I am a root chaser. I've come to fully understand that if there's no toxic roots there will be no toxic fruits. By acknowledging and destroying the roots that defiles us, we purify ourselves. This lesson has definitely confirmed my beliefs in why some offenses take place, are ongoing, resolving them and setting healthy boundaries. Again I THANK YOU! and God bless YOU 🙌🏽!!!î
8:35 THIS‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️
On time word…
Thank you for discussing this topic! It is needful.
Audio is low . Great message
Exactly 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Where can I get the change is here sweatshirt ? I forgot to ask on Saturday.
Yes
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 Facts!
My God.... speak Lord!!!!!
I felt this just yesterday when someone said they forgot about me .100
@sheilawaddy3184
Жыл бұрын
Associate
yes
May God help us..
Real on a whole new level. thanku Pastor for dropping gems consistently! blessings!
The monster of resentment, need I say subtle monster!!!
Thank you for this gift on my birthday ❤ Can I purchase that sweatshirt or a Change tshirt????
@sharasimmons
Жыл бұрын
@Staci Williams thank you!
Yessss😮
Eeew the water guzzling 😫😂😂
Wow....I so needed this. Thank you Pastor Dharius, this was so on time.
You can not run to someone who refuses to listen, understand or have no empathy , which causes resentment do to avoiding!
Awareness is powerful! The devil is so mad right now. Thank you, Pastor D.
We cannot change people, but we can set boundaries to protect ourselves. But what about husband and wife, parents and children? Can we still have good relationships by setting bounfaries by not talking about issues anymore? With friends is easy. If friends do not respect our boundaries, then stay away from them. But with parents, children, husband and wife, it is hard when others do not change. They have to talk things out. If there is continuation, we have to ignore the issues ?
The sound was too low on this video. You all may need to adjust the volume or use a different kind of microphone.
💖🙏blessings
My God tuday
WoW. Fix it Jesus
WOW
A right now WORD from God! Thank you God for Confirmation 🙌🙌🙌🙌
Praise God! Needed this word.
Wow !!! I needed this message 5 years ago but thank God I heard it now
Let the love increase, the resentment decrease 💯
Wow needed this it was so timely for me tonight
Wait I need a FULL lesson on this!!!!!! This met me right where I'm at in life!!!
The volume is low omg
Absolutely Life Changing teaching! Thank you Dr. DD❤ #THRIVE
This message was powerful!!
Please re-upload
Please fix the audio…. Don’t want to miss any of this.
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Pastor D…thank you sooooo much for speaking about this! As a Certified Relationship Coach and Marriage & Family Therapy Professional and as a wife of “41” years to the same man; I experienced this at a level that is unimaginable! I left college my senior year as a Pre-Med major and married a “broke Private” in the U.S. Army (like a fool)😂 but he later made me proud after retiring as a Senior Officer! However, for years I was angry and resentful toward my husband because he was not being the husband that he needed to be or that I THOUGHT he would be! God really had to heal my heart concerning this and I begin to love my husband unconditionally and tried to see him as God sees him. This made all the difference in our marriage!
@Trueheart2024
Ай бұрын
@rddawson4845, thank you for sharing. If you do not mind sharing what helped you to come to the realisation of resentment?
@rddawson4845
Ай бұрын
@@Trueheart2024 I just saw your question and actually updated my remarks. Hopefully, that answers your question.
@Trueheart2024
Ай бұрын
@@rddawson4845 many thanks for this. Powerful story, glory to God🙌I have been on a journey of unconditional love as Hosea and Gomer and now in a deep valley. However, I can only trust Jesus to bring justice and healing🙏🙏🙏
Wow, Amen, I was truly just mulling over these mix emotions with God, that’s what I call them, Jesus has cross our paths, so that you would bring me the confirmation and clarity I was needed in my Spirit. I Thank you Pastor Darius and God bless you Sir! Your an amazing Man!
PLEASE fix the audio.
OMG, what you do in the dark, Pastor will bring to the light and give tools to address. 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
My life currently. Smh
Although the sound in this message was very low, after hearing a few seconds of this it was well worth placing my phone up 2 my ear the entire video!! Thank you very much pastor for sharing this teaching because it was very much needed! I'm grateful for opening my mind to this because it's so true and now on my way to becoming whole and healing in some areas I can take actions to do so. Thanks again, Godblessings
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The audio on your videos are really now :(
Right my coworker had a baby whose mother died in female complications during birth then the best friend with medical ties attempts to steal the daughter from him claiming unfit parent and she doesn’t have children with out of town husband eith birthday same as The molesters address attached to my bottom like a mole and everybody around them in contempt like they’re saying specifically but really everywhere all the time even in murders and tech disabilities so the love eventually goes away in church and state
Who run to what hurt them
@ThuLe-eh1xe
Ай бұрын
The devil tries to ruin family relationships by making us not to listen to each other with patience and change our behavior. The best way is to accept others and forgive. And do what is right for us without fighting with each others.
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Hi Darius, Thank you for your teaching on this. I suffered a lot in my childhood with resentment towards my father, because I felt controlled and could not be me comfortably. It was good you mentioned keys of resentment. A new neighbour's approach has not been respectful either, so I am grateful for you identifying those keys of resentment. Excellent point about God who does not control His creation and respects our freedom to choose. What a lovely heavenly Father we have who allows us to be where were at, without forcing the issue of controlling our choices.....Thanks for your number in my previous reply to your Mara message, I think it would be better to possibly communicate by email as I live abroad.
My God forgive me for causing this negative emotion in my marriage! I declare to live for You and to be better for my wife when we move through this current season... In Jesus name. 🙏
Resentment becomes LOUD when left unaddressed. It shows up verbally ( tone and even quietness), emotionally ( distant and low intimacy); consistent behaviors that lets you know you are not important to them. WOW!
Great video Pastor ! Thanks for shedding light on this very area ! 💡 However, now that I have identified the resentment, what am I supposed to do if it’s between a sibling with boundaries in place ? Thanks 🙏🏾
By the given definition..all resentment is actual and justified
This is GOOD!!!!🔥🔥🔥
I feel like he said a bunch of nothing
Adjust expectations and set boundaries 🔥
part two please? i need to know how to set boundaries . i’m currently being ignored by a guy i just told that i’m pregnant. i literally woke up resentful and seen this video and it helped to understand but i still don’t know how to forgive someone whose currently ignoring me
@jacquelinemay
Жыл бұрын
I'm really sorry for what you're going through. Pastor Dharius put me onto his favorite author, a Christian psychologist Dr. Henry Cloud. He has a few books on boundaries. Also Michael Todd at Transformation Church has a whole series called Forgiveness University. It really really helped me. I wish you the best 💛
@lilrabbitcuz
Жыл бұрын
Damn, you was fucking a guy that didn’t like you.
@reginadavis1028
Жыл бұрын
Sounds like you don't need to resent him but you DO NEED to prep to raise that child ALONE!!
PD, thank you for helping me make sense of what I've been unable to clearly articulate. God Bless you! You truly have a God-given gift of understanding people and helping them communicate feelings that are sometimes hard to communicate. What an anointed gift!!!
I love these videos!! Thank you PD 🙌. PS: For the tech team, Is it possible we get the volumes up for all the videos moving forward? The volumes are really low even when on the highest volume :(
Amazing discussions. I had to send this to some people
@dolores7463
Жыл бұрын
me too, many folks, and had to listen again myself
@TangibleReads
Жыл бұрын
@@dolores7463 I listened 4 times
Awesome message. It took me many years to realize I felt this way about many things because of the church I grew up in. They had their favorites and if you weren't a favorite you were overlooked no matter what skill or talent you could contribute - even if it was brought to their attention. And if at any time I felt that from anyone I was around I would just end relationships or even leave a ministry. I had to really talk to God about it and ask him to help me be still and understand why I was reacting that way. Feeling resentment because I felt I had been treated with contempt and being afraid that if I stayed, it would continue. This message helped clarify that revelation even more. Thanks Pastor Dharius.
Who runs to someone who hurts them ? Lord please strengthen me to stay away from people that hurt me
I know I saw this last week and I couldn't find it again to share
@ariellemarshall7797
Жыл бұрын
🗣Me too! I thought i was going nuts
Heavenly Father, I thank you for opening my eyes to the devastating effects resentment causes through your servant Pastor Daniels. Father forgive me for causing my wife to resentment me. I pray You help me to live by the love Jesus has for me to my wife. In Jesus name. Amen
In Jesus name I rebuke Resentments in all of the Ministry s Kingdom Spouses, family, associates, children, coworkers, and most importantly self my self resistant holding my self back from my calling in Jesus name Amen Let's Get It.
Couldn't be more timely!
Amen 🙏🏾
Can I get that sweatshirt? Thank you for your commitment and dedication to the Word of God and people.
Doctor you lay out your argument with flair and great erudition
This is right on time
Thank you, I recognize the role I play
This is a great word. Reminds me of why verses like John 3:30 is so significant. We have to let Jesus increase so we become less and less in our lives. Discern your connections, and have boundaries.
It's bad when you also resent yourself for still loving the person you resent. 🤦
@reginadavis1028
Жыл бұрын
You shouldn't resent yourself for loving them, however, you SHOULD change how you deal w/them and what you allow. Boundaries NEED to be set.
@cmcdee
Жыл бұрын
Besides the relationship with the Father/Son/Holy Ghost, your relationship with yourself is important. Have to forgive and show grace to yourself as well as others!
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