Relationships in the Digital Age | Smiti Srivastava | Take aPause | Varun Duggi
Relationships in the digital age are in a league of their own. New terms to describe relationships circulate every few months like the latest fashion trend. Situationship, ghosting, zombie-ing (yes, it’s an actual term), and soft launching are some of the types of relationships the youth find themselves in. Is there a deeper reason for the proliferation of so many non-committal types of relationships, or do they help define the complex tangles of relationships better?
In this episode of Take aPause, Varun and Smiti Srivastava discuss the complicated relationships of the digital age. They discuss everything from cheating, abusive relationships, and how past trauma can form patterns for the kind of relationships we seek.
Smiti Srivastava is a psychodynamic/insight-oriented psychotherapist. She has worked extensively with individuals over the age of 16 on various psychological difficulties affecting them. She runs a support group called Baeing Online, an online support group for those struggling to navigate romantic relationships on dating apps or any social media platform. The Queer-affirmative group meets to talk about experiences and support one another through challenges like ghosting, compulsive dating, understanding “situationships” and the like.
You can DM Smiti on her social handle @innerconnectionsbysmiti
Timestamps:
00:00 Intro
02:04 Perspective on relationships
03:55 Online relationships
05:50 Loneliness
08:52 Post-pandemic effect
12:10 Human Clickbait
16:25 Being conflict averse
18:58 Ghosting
22:40 Marriage
24:30 Toxic relationships
27:00 Escape route
30:40 Romance
32:00 Boundaries
37:01 Intentionality
42:33 Loyalty
45:50 Monogamy
50:00 Moments of excitement
53:18 Starting relationships
ABOUT VARUN
A creative entrepreneur turned content creator, Varun is one of India’s leading conversationalists in the modern business, personal development, and creator landscapes with over 1 million podcast listens.
The author of the bestseller Everything Is Out of Syllabus, he’s the host of Advertising Is Dead, one of India's most popular business podcasts with over 300,000 listens in 2021 alone, as well as co-host of Think Fast, an irreverent business podcast that has ranked #3 on Apple’s Podcast Marketing Charts.
In 2009, he co-founded The Glitch, India’s largest ‘digital-first’ creative agency.
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My takeaways from this episode are - 1) There will always be the innate need to relate in person & no amount of advanced technology can replace that. 2) There's a lot of pressure to keep up with the online identity you are projecting & displaying. 3) Good way to reflect on a conflict is to ask what do you want in the first place. 4) Good ways to build trust would be to talk about why it's missing. 5) If someone has to give you a memo of how to relate with them that says so much about how they don't have one for themselves internalized. 6) Asking for space or giving space becomes an issue as an adult if not given in childhood. 7) Intentions are more important in a relationship than just loving or committing. 8) Intentions > Expectations - Priority in a relationship. 9) The need to analyze is the the need to connect. 10) A relationship would never be fully functional if both sides are not communicating about less present moments. 11) Authenticity - Try to find who the person is rather than who you want them to be. My favorite quotes from Esther Perel - “The quality of your life ultimately depends on the quality of your relationships.” & “It takes two people to create a pattern, but only one to change it.” Thank you so much for this episode.
@smitisrivastava823
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for listening so intently 😊
Loved the depth , the way Smiti has dealt with the topic
Very nicely deliberated topic , very insightful.
Impressive, a ride through a different sphere of life. Loved it ❤️
Ending the year with a deep and insightful conversation!
Amazing conversation :)
Nice discussion
Her voice on this mic 😍😍😍😍
21:33 can any one tell movie name ?
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I don't think pandemic did that, but the overwhelming enhancement in tech did that, almost everything you need is supported by tech, tech is runing us but it's ones own choice.we are simultaneously depending on tech
@VarunDuggi
Жыл бұрын
It’s the struggle of the times.. to balance the pros of tech to the cons of it
which Telugu movie are you talking about?
"people cheated it's alot more about how they see themselves rather how they see other person" I didn't understand this, please someone explain me this!?!?
@VarunDuggi
Жыл бұрын
Cheating is often driven by a persons own insecurities and internal mental conflicts… what they as individuals need or see lacking that they need to add into their lives..
Do podcasts in hindi as well
bhai.... please please don't speak a lot, your questions should be short and clear. Dont try to cover many aspects in your questions coz it is just making it more confusing.