Hello Sir. Thank you for your videos. I’m learning about all this slowly. I’m 42… so many things make so much sense now. I thought that my childhood was normal, that all children got treated the way I did. Oh boy was I wrong. I guess my PTDS is when I argue, I feel lost and like an out of body feeling.

@JohnWRathwell

6 жыл бұрын

R. M. Q. I would suggest meditation. Lisa Romano has good meditation videos that help you recover from narc abuse. Type Lisa Romano meditation on KZread.

@gatacinco

6 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry you had to deal with that. I hope good changes are coming!

CPTSD symptoms can be quite extensive, dissociation, hyper vigilance & insomnia to name just a few.Recovery is lifelong.The best source is the book- Complex PTSD From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker It’s important knowing that we all have suffered in silence never knowing what was really occurring in that so many of us are undervalued special highly evolved intelligent and loving beings that are the best of humanity.Albiet many of us have been externally validated/recognized as being much advanced ..the narcissists have tried to keep us underfoot unsuccessfully because they were threatened by our advantages that which they did not possess.And based on the Law of Cause and Effect their actions boomeranged to blow up in their faces simply because they don’t take into account consequences and that’s their weakness to which we are fully aware of existing. So at the end of the day we come out empowered over them.They are destined to self destruct

@JohnWRathwell

6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the info. I'll check out this book.

@richarddelage5447

2 жыл бұрын

Finding/figuring out at 54 yo my heart bounced then splattered. I endured with a hell of a lot and being self educated I'm stupid for life with no place to go. As she once said with a dirty look "and there's nothing you can do about it!"

Everything you say strikes a chord with me. I discovered the terms Narcissist etc a year or two ago, studied it, knew it to be my family, and I felt worse. Thinking about and understanding the abuse just retraumatised me. I didn’t know I was retraumatising myself, I thought I was helping myself. It wasn’t until I discovered CPTSD, suddenly everything makes sense, and I can begin to let go of the pain and the triggers. They aren’t me, they’re just symptoms of a disorder- CPTSD, symptoms of the mind and body responding and reliving the abuse. For some reason, once I know it’s just a psychological pathology, I can let go. I don’t need to carry it around. I haven’t tested this new strength against strong triggers yet, but I already feel so much more positive, it’s literally unbelievable.

Thank You....very timely ! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

I am 58 years old and feel worthless. I can never do anything well. I was raised by two narcissists. I don't stand a chance.

@JohnWRathwell

6 жыл бұрын

Having a narc mother and enabling father and 3 narc wives as well as other narc acquaintances, I didn't wake up to narcissism untill I was 66 years old. I pushed ahead realizing this was a curse on my life. I decided I am not going to let these demons effect me anymore. I've listened to many positive meditation vids on KZread, and still do. I am more outgoing and sure of myself than I ever was before. The word ( old ) is just a word. I've started a lawn mowing business and a snow removal business and the word ( old ) isn't what I am. You are what you think you are. After being on a disability pension for 10 years because of narc damage, I've improved my diet and state of mind and I have learned that I am a survivor because I learned that I am not a loser because of the loser narcs. I'm 68 now and still improving. Don't allow the demon narcs to continue destroying you. You are worth more than a thousand narcs could make you believe. Start positive meditation vids on KZread. Your negative thinking will change to positive thinking. You are worth it my friend.

@andys.4128

6 жыл бұрын

You have really overcome the narcs' influence although I bet you never really overcome it 100%. Thanks for your inspirational reply and advice on meditation videos on KZread. Something I've struggled with for decades is wondering why my parents had me if all they would do was abuse me. You don't abuse something you want or care about. For this reason, I wish many times I had never been born. I have a very long way to go to recover from all this; to be where you are, John.

@JohnWRathwell

6 жыл бұрын

Lisa Romano has good meditation vids on KZread. I still listen to them.

@andys.4128

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you sincerely for the recommendation of meditation vids, John. You are very kind and giving.

@lil18thletterking77

5 жыл бұрын

I just turned 36 and thats how i feel..im just not as capable as others

Thanks for your videos. Im shocked there isnt more viewers! You're videos help me a lot. You're great

Thank you...i experienced it as a child... And now Ive been in my situation for over10 years . . Just getting out... But it's hard. ..I hope I can beat this... Right now, it seems almost hopeless

😢 😔 😁 The Three Stages of Healing

I'm a partner of a narcissist abuse victim. He suffered emotional/covert incest by his mother. I'm also an LPC . I've tried to help him. We have a baby. What advice would you give the partners? It's like he always has one foot out the door emotionally, has put me through so much emotional turmoil. He has intimacy issues as well. I'm so tired, I just want our family to be ok. He's excellent with the baby, nothing like his mother.

@JohnWRathwell

Жыл бұрын

A person abused by a Narcissist has been programmed to feel inadequate as a human. This is brainwashing by a parent. Until a person accepts that they are as important as anybody and realizes that they were abused by a parent, they likely will change very little. Knowledge is power. When an abused person begins to learn about NPD, by listening to teaching on this topic, there comes an understanding that they can break free of this curse. A victim of abuse needs to listen to others who have overcome these feelings of inadequacy by learning that many millions of people have learned to be free and unafraid by knowledge. The best I can suggest is for the abused person learn from others who have found freedom by learning about what NPD is, and how to overcome the mind control. From all the dozens of teaching on NPD, there are some that he can relate to, who have gone through the same things and have overcome the abuse effects through knowledge. PTSD is common with abused persons, but knowledge of why and how can bring freedom. .