“If you want quiet, have goldfish. Don’t have children.” Lol totally true though.

You ABSOLUTELY DO NOT "have" to see elderly parents who continue to be abusive

@FlowWithLilia

Жыл бұрын

This.

@ModelKamlaKay

11 ай бұрын

Exactly, what’s why she said you need to let them know that is not acceptable behavior if you are with them as an adult and they are being abusive. Glad she clarified that in the video.

@tnt01

9 ай бұрын

Isn't it the law in the U.S. and in Canada, that you can't abandon the elderly? Is there not a legal obligation of some sort? Curious.

@ecwilliams777

9 ай бұрын

@@tnt01 absolutely not. Obviously it's moral to support the elderly but it's not legally binding

@robertafierro5592

9 ай бұрын

There ya go! That goes for "friends" also.

I never mattered to my parents until they needed care.

Thank you for addressing this invisible source of suffering. Due to my mother's narcissism, I was neglected, and since I wasn't physically abused, for most of my life I didn't know why I was suffering from loneliness, depression and low self confidence. I really believed down deep I was defective and it was my fault, but I wasn't aware of these subconscious limiting beliefs. Hypnotherapy helped me see this.

@RapidTransformationalTherapy

7 ай бұрын

Recognizing and addressing these subconscious limiting beliefs is a crucial step toward healing and self-acceptance. Regards, Team Marisa

@tanusreedbnt6710

4 ай бұрын

Why do I feel that ur speaking for me.....I had d same experiences n always talked horribly to myself.....I always had n still have issues with keeping friendships or any other relationship in general and I always blamed myself for this....but d pain of having a depressed mother nd a over expecting n angry father impacted me

When I asked my mother a question she didn't know the answer to, she looked down her nose and said, "Stupid child!" Just one of the repeated slights. I'm 70, with a PhD, a published author, more, and I still feel inadequate.

@RapidTransformationalTherapy

7 ай бұрын

Acknowledging the source of these feelings is a significant step toward healing and self-acceptance. Reach out to our trained RTT® professionals for personalized guidance bit.ly/3QdQiud Regards, Team Marisa

@richardvervoorn6626

6 ай бұрын

Same ‘situ’ here less,the PHD. You have achieved so much despite…Be,strong

@gothope5915

3 ай бұрын

Im 53, work as celebrity makeup artist and going back to school for masters in Psychology and family still thinks im not good enough. For years I couldn't figure out why that critical voice until I realized I can't get validation from people.

I was raised in a psycopathic/ Narcissistic family...something very wrong and broken with them...nothing wrong with me. I forgave all of them...however they " dont want to heal" and I chose to......SO I DID!! And I promise...SO CAN YOU! I chose not to repeat this life for me and my daughter....I walked away permanently. I choose to love them from afar. Love who you are...you deserve love. Go for it...know I BELIEVE IN YOU! You..GOT THIS! What I believe about you doesn't matter.. What YOU BELIEVE....DOES. With love and gratitude always...

@DiamondMind630

3 ай бұрын

Wow that is tough

😢 I’m 40 and just realized how emotionally neglected I was. Sigh.

@Laura-ms1no

Жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️ I feel you.

@denisruizbaez6119

Жыл бұрын

Look up teal swan video empitiness is about this topic emotional abuse

@henrysilkysmooth

11 ай бұрын

Same here.

@sarahmottram3369

9 ай бұрын

❤

@erykahhoney588

9 ай бұрын

@@denisruizbaez6119 will check it out now. Thank you

Both of my parents are gone, and I don't have a relationship with my siblings who thought making fun of me was a great way to pass the time away. Dad was gone almost all the time as a truck driver, and Mom's answer was for me to ignore them, they'd quit when I stopped reacting. I was born a sensitive child or something happened when I was extremely young that caused my mind to discern how those in authority were feeling. I then figured out how to act accordingly, so I wouldn't "rock the boat." I have been doing this for so long, I still catch myself doing it. I grew up in one of those households where "kids are to be seen and not heard!" Between the ages of 3 and 4, I remember my dad scolding me for my temper. I've been working on learning how to express emotions, but everything comes out as anger. Either that or I have a number of people gaslighting me. Which could be someone's agenda, to see me fail as my soul mission is to eradicate domestic violence. Internal and spiritual warfare at the same time. Thanks for reading!

Whoever you are...whatever you face...you deserve the best life wants to give you!! YES YOU!!!

I wish there was a magic wand to take all of my pain from emotional abuse.

@chriscouri4149

3 ай бұрын

You can be your own magic wand. I am in the middle of my journey which started a long time ago with depression and anxiety. I was on Lexapro for many years and then Cymbalta. My Mom got really ill in July 2023 and I thought I was going to have a breakdown. I got myself to therapy (super important for me) and found a therapist I vibe with. I stopped my antidepressant under doctors care. I went through such depression. I started researching what this was and how I can help myself. I found I was not alone. I also found that my self talk wasn’t good. I changed the narrative. I tell myself how good I am and that I have a lot to offer and also it is okay to feel my feelings. II am looking at the world differently. I found comfort. Now I am feeling pretty good with no meds. I wish you all the best ❤️. I hope it helps you.

It’s like hearing my own life story. I had no clue. Dear me, I’m so lovable, I’m enough, I’m appreciated, inspiring and necessary.🎉

@FLower13582

5 ай бұрын

YES YOU ARE

I wish I had the energy and will power to praise and love myself, but I’m completely exhausted and worn out from my life-long anxiety and hypervigilance caused by childhood emotional neglect and abuse. 😐

@option7

2 жыл бұрын

I feel this

@md4639

Жыл бұрын

😢😢😢 I see you, I see your pain 🙏🙏😢😢

@sarahmottram3369

9 ай бұрын

❤

@rahtikone

9 ай бұрын

Iam 61 years old it is too late for me and very sick .Bad childhood maybe helps me come angry alcoholic now 3 years sober🤕👽

Your describing me as a child at the age of 50 I was diagnosed with complex post traumatic stress disorder now at 53 I am managing my emotions and walking for excercise that helps my mental health a lot

@RapidTransformationalTherapy

4 ай бұрын

Hello and well done!, I would suggest you subscribe to Marisa’s KZread channel to receive the latest videos and free meditations Marisa creates: kzread.info or go directly to watch her videos here: www.youtube.com/@MarisaPeer/videos To access Marisa's free gifts visit marisapeer.com/free-gifts/ You are more than welcome to join our I Am Enough community Facebook group. It is a hugely supportive group who are sharing their stories and support each other facebook.com/groups/iamenoughbymarisapeer/ You can access the free I am Enough meditation here: marisapeer.com/i-am-enough-meditation You can access the Lovability course here: applyrtt.com/lovability-course We hope this helps. Kindest regards, Marisa Peer Team

Seeing people's comments is encouraging cause, at least I know I'm not the only person who feels happy to know there's a solution to my problem. Thank you so much. This is one of the best videos I've watched. It gives me hope and has really encouraged me ❤

Of course, when you are going through this it is extremely difficult. She does explain it in a simplistic way. The inner turmoil seems insurmountable sometimes but other times it’s not as bad. My hope is that the inner turmoil will diminish. I started meditating and it gives me relief.

I don’t want to ruin myself over my trauma i want to be so much more. ur helping me understand myself god bless you

My mother was always belittling me and never showed any belief in me or encouragement.

It feels so comforting to know I am not the only one that has gone through this but in the same time it's sad to know that a lot of other people experienced this pain. Stay strong everyone and I hope we will all heal in the future ❤❤❤

@trudibentley1445

6 ай бұрын

Hi, I agree. You have to look where your parents came from and how they were raised. They could only treat us the way they were treated, and needing anything to do with fixing emotions meant you were crazy. Who wanted to admit that?! Both my parents worked, so the mental and physical abuse I suffered was at the hands of my siblings and an uncle. My parents did the best they could with the knowledge and resources they had at hand. They were both the babies in their families, and theirs was a true love. However, I believe us kids were neglected because they were both narcissistic in that they put each other on the pedestal. The kids were there to clean the house. SMH

@linnhjertberg1110

6 ай бұрын

@@trudibentley1445 I'm so sorry you had to go through this. Healing is so hard but i really hope we will💗 I'm realizing only now that actually all my problems with self esteem and low self worth are due to my childhood and it hurts. But i guess that's already great to be aware of it and i have to work my way through this somehow. Good luck on your healing journey🍀

Honestly have goosebumps. Addressed every necessary point and hit the nail on the head!

@RapidTransformationalTherapy

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your lovely comment ❤️

@ezazkhan4233

Жыл бұрын

@@RapidTransformationalTherapy hi mam childhood emotionally neglect what solution mam

…neglect is ABUSE

The problem with neglect is that it is so subtle. It is in the absence of care, not the presence of hurtful behaviour per se. The examples in this video keep coming back to outright abuse, either physical or verbal, and only in a couple examples touch on recognizing neglect. So, not as helpful for those hoping to understand more of emotional neglect I find.

Thank you so much for sharing this. So powerful! The part about not normalizing abuse really hit home for me.

@RapidTransformationalTherapy

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Ashley, You're welcome, it is great to hear that this video has resonated with you! Marisa Peer Team

What if i'm an adult but still feel like i need them or someone and can't stand on my own?

The way your words speak to our hearts Marisa is beyond every Imagination! The way you helped me with your youtubevideos I surely believe you re the best therapist in the world and thats my opinion but I need to put it on the internet I find it really important that someone mentions it so that many people can benefit from these videos I send you all my love as a greek fan of yours Keep on uploading

@RapidTransformationalTherapy

2 жыл бұрын

Hi there! Thank you so much for your kind words towards Marisa, I will be sure to pass them on. Marisa Peer Team 🌺

My mom told me to figure it out when I was 8 my clothes weren’t dry for school and force me to go to school with wet clothes 😢 dad was never present I’m still learning everyday to be present with myself and know myself each day

Ty for saying to not normalize my Father's abuse towards me

Thank you very much! First of all: at the same time I am happy to see that I am not alone with this feeling- it means that I am normal, not imageing things. I am also sad because no child should have this experience: killing his/her soul and spirit and living numb so many years! I am 58 years old and I realise now that every time, when I get enthusiastic about something, I kill that feeling directly, like it was a BAD thing to feel joy and happiness. I give up easilly all my needs, stuff and even money for someone else. I often get very nice things and experiences, but then - I loose it quite fast, or give up, as if it was wrong to have that wonderful thing, person or prosperity. For example, recently I found an old teddy bear from an atique shop. I bought it because it looks exactly as the teddy bear I had when I was a child. My mom burned it in the fire place, because in her opinion, it was dirty. Maybe it was, but we could have cleaned it. She mocked me when I cried seeing my dear teddybear dying in the fire and threatened to hit me if I do not stop crying. Well, now I got it back! It was dirty as well and had lost his eye, I paid 100€ for it. I cleaned it, as we could have done with the original, I gave him new eyes and now it looks wonderful and happy teddy! And when I look at it, I feel a bit naughty and bad because I got back what I love - what do you say, mom? I can imagine her coming in, seeing that teddy sitting in my couch and her face: How you dare to get that dirty thing … or something. Every tine when I look at my teddy bear, I feel that I have got something back from myself. One piece is back! Even I am not playing with it any more:) Why do I feel that I am a bad girl when I buy something that I like? This video explains a lot!

@RapidTransformationalTherapy

8 ай бұрын

It takes great strength to recognize and address these emotions. Thank you for sharing your story. Regards, Team Marisa

@Jo-annSamurai3069

3 ай бұрын

Hi Sanna It’s great that you were able to get a replica teddy of the one that was destroyed when you were a child. That experience sounds so traumatising. I hope you hold on to your teddy that’s a big win for your child within.

@RapidTransformationalTherapy

3 ай бұрын

💖 Marisa Peer Team

Thank you for the supportive content❤

@RapidTransformationalTherapy

Жыл бұрын

💖 Marisa Peer Team

Gosh I needed this

You really can't reclaim a something once it's tarnished to that degree. When your family sucks youre pretty much on your own.

@RapidTransformationalTherapy

8 ай бұрын

I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through such a challenging situation with your family. Regards, Team Marisa

@wespaul9345

5 ай бұрын

I agree. We are not cars. Panel beating won't repair this stuff. Not totally anyway. What surprises me is how much women and mother's get away with obvious anti social behaviour. They rarely get punished. There's always excuses. And now the reality is mgtow. I don't know what is wrong with woman in western culture aside from they expect everything. At 60 I avoid them. Don't want to be alone with them lest I get accused of something hideous. And b4 you go crazy girls. My household was from age 4 all women. You need to acknowledge your evil.

Thank you so much, I really needed and valued this video x

I'm, 40 and I'm not independent =( I'm still in the same hell I was as a child, burnt out to the ground and beyond, and unable to move on. I just want to disapear. Death used to be a hopeful though, now I'm so scared there is an after life...

Amazing, thank you❤

Another great video.

Phenomenal ! Thank you.

Thank you for details and support

Thank you, couldn’t have come at a better time. 🇬🇧

She's truly wonderful

Truly eye opening stuff here! Thankyou for doing this video. It’s connected a few dots for me and things are making sense to me now. ✌️❤️

Wow i thank you for this powerful explaination ❤

Thank you

Thank You ❤

@RapidTransformationalTherapy

7 ай бұрын

You’re welcome ❤️

Exactly what I needed to hear! Thank you! I'll now tell myself 😉

@RapidTransformationalTherapy

2 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome Marisa Peer Team

What an extraordinary video! I am going to watch this several times. Another uplifting video.

@RapidTransformationalTherapy

7 ай бұрын

Pleasure! ❤️ Marisa Peer Team

This information is so important. It has answered so many questions for me. Thank you so much 💓

@RapidTransformationalTherapy

7 ай бұрын

I'm delighted to hear that the information has been valuable and helped address your questions. Regards, Team Marisa

I struggle with food and diets, i always eat too much , could this be beacause my older sister is the best daughter in my mums eyes

@promisemaliwa3214

Ай бұрын

That was the case with me😢

@9:47 That's precisely the reason I got married to an abuser at 18!

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Exactly whatb i was looking for from best person Is there a way to communicate our desires

@RapidTransformationalTherapy

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Joel. Our trained RTT® therapists can help you deal with childhood emotional neglect and address any additional goals you may have. You can connect with a therapist here - bit.ly/YT-Find-A-RTT-Therapist Please let us know if you have any further questions, Marisa Peer Team

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58 years old now, found out why my behavior wasnt right. My parents neglected my brother and me. Im mature for say 40 years now. I see the bad things that overcame to me. My brother died last year course of drugs that ruin his life course he drug himself so could forget the neglect. But in the end he didnt get him self loose from his demons. He died and i found him dead and cant forget his face and expression. He died at age 54. Now hes got rest. Laat week my eyes went open in my relationship with my loving girlfriend who i now met one year ago. She is so wonderful to help me in anyway. Sexual abused by an other man who found me desperate need of normal love. But his methode was to buy me anything i wanted in exchange for his sexual needs. Nowadays i would do him harm but in reality dont want his memory. My father was hitting me or saying im notting. Etc etc day in day out. One sick thing he did was he asked me you see this ball? I said yes, he asked what colour is it? Answered red .. it was red no doubt he hit me hard and told me its yellow you fool. This kind of sickness was normal day in and out.

@RapidTransformationalTherapy

4 ай бұрын

Hi, We are very sorry to hear of your pain and would like to take this moment to remind you of how worthy you are, how this world is much better with you in it and that there are lots of options available to you, should you need them. Sending you love and support, and a reminder that you are loved, needed, and enough. You always were and you always will be. If you wish to seek therapeutic support, I would advise booking an RTT session. You can connect with one of our certified and trained RTT professionals to find the best support for you here professionals.rtt.com/ Marisa Peer Team

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Is this the same for an emotional neglected i think from age 12 iam 47 now xx

I think many of us can have both neglect and other types of physical abuse

Disappointed by this particular video, as it talks more about abuse than neglect. Neglect is more about silence than words, absence rather than presence.

@RapidTransformationalTherapy

8 ай бұрын

Indeed, neglect is a complex issue. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, and I'll certainly keep this in mind for future content. Regards, Team Marisa