Thanks. I increased my matches by 5.000%. From 0 matches per year to 0 matches every day!

@tylerdecker6994

2 жыл бұрын

Lol as guy on dating apps you can’t really do much. Women have such an advantage. It’s not even the same game

@predatorium_thehunter550

2 жыл бұрын

@@tylerdecker6994 its like fanatic xenophile meeting devouring swarm

@Mr_BUSINESS_24_7

2 жыл бұрын

lol

@carlosraimundo4380

2 жыл бұрын

Its just the apps, we, men, struggle a lot more.

@user-ut8ck6id3j

2 жыл бұрын

Lol

I think the big issue is guys don’t have male friends take their photos specifically for this.

@XxWatulookinat69xX

2 жыл бұрын

Yea true it's kind of a girl thing... I've never once asked my male friends to take a pic of me because it feels like it will be awkward

@le_decard

2 жыл бұрын

I’m 26y old and have never took my male friend’s photo in my life 🤣 Only drunk picture

@CourtneyRyan

2 жыл бұрын

For sure lol but you can definitely do it yourself!

@madestro

2 жыл бұрын

Completely agree. Hell I barely have guy friends lol. Which is why I bought a nice selfie stick that also doubles up as a tripod so I can do self pictures without being selfies

@kc270352

2 жыл бұрын

hire a photographer or just get a very good quality camera

Here's a tip: Don't use a photo of you and your friends if you aren't the best looking one in the group. Sounds harsh, but it's true. If someone sees your group photo and thinks the person standing next to you is better looking, you're instantly getting swiped away.

@almondegueirosuecokun6308

2 жыл бұрын

Last year i got a girl match With me and ask: whould you give me your friend's Phone number? Instant dismatch, that friend is on a relationship.

@Tumanic1996

Жыл бұрын

How sad

@abmong

Жыл бұрын

Most my pics are of me with my friends from uni and work who happened to mostly be female. Maybe that's why I get OK number of matches, at least 2-3 matches a day. From my observations, instinctively women are like sheep (may seem un-PC to say). If they see you with lots of other women they'll either think you've got something or they'll just feel safe with you because other women seems to trust you. I remember going out clubbing with a really hot female friend from uni, that night I noticed getting lots of looks and smiles from girls and them starting the conversation more than usual. She was the best wingwoman I ever had. Ofc that's harder to do if you don't have a group of female friends to take them pics with.

@francoherrera601

Жыл бұрын

Sucks when you friends are better looking then you.

@gailainsley6939

Жыл бұрын

Another tip: Do not post photos of you with children. Especially if you have none.

Message for women on dating apps: please don't post your main photo with multiple people in it, especially other women your age. I want to know who you are and what you look like. I am not trying to guess which person you are out of your 15 friends. Also, I don't need 12 photos of the same freaking selfie. Lastly, don't have a mask on or have those stupid puppy-dog filters.

@Last-Lap-Lando4

2 жыл бұрын

Don't forget the face only looking with the camera up pointing down so they look 50 lbs thinner than they are

@bruceleeroy8302

2 жыл бұрын

@@Last-Lap-Lando4 Agreed, I want to see your face and your body (to see your relative size). If I have to put my height, I should at least get an idea of how much you weigh.

@Last-Lap-Lando4

2 жыл бұрын

@@bruceleeroy8302 100%

@terryah2136

2 жыл бұрын

If I see a profile and the girl only has selfies and filters then it’s an immediate swipe left for me. They’re all the classic ingredients for a catfish scenario

@joshjericho9304

2 жыл бұрын

If the girls main photo has more than one woman in it, trust me, she’s the fat one

I don't care for dating apps. I'd prefer to be rejected in public as God intended.

@rageraptor7127

2 жыл бұрын

I think I prefer to have the ability to wallow in my own depression on my own schedule thank you very much. Can’t be depressed right before work. Gotta keep a calm mind.

@C39SHARKDRAKE

Жыл бұрын

LMAO BASED

@sand0077

11 ай бұрын

😆

@SolidPayne

11 ай бұрын

Then why’d you click on this video

@keremcagintv

6 ай бұрын

Based

TIP: Guys take the worst pictures, but there is an easy way to take a GREAT shot. Don't take a picture. Take a video. With basic editing software you can move the frame to the exact point where your expression is perfect. Let the camera roll for a few minutes. Try a few expressions. They are going to look bad, but the transitions will capture that rare moment when you look just right. I hate taking pictures but, this technique saved me.

@uncle_salty_3675

6 ай бұрын

2000iq

It's best to be extremely good-looking and photogenic for your dating profile. If you are not, then it's best to avoid the shallow pit of online dating.

@rg8071

2 жыл бұрын

Makes total sense to me

@andrewjordan4811

2 жыл бұрын

You don’t need to be “extremely good looking.” It’s about your vibe and your look. Dress well and look confident in your photos.

@thorstenb.163

2 жыл бұрын

As someone who looks below average I can confirm this. I tried different apps, optimized the profiles including good pictures with nice clothing, but I never got more than two or three matches a year and not a single date out of this in the last ten years.

@WildThoughtsAI

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@michaelmagyar3041

2 жыл бұрын

yep

I once matched with a girl on Tinder. And then I woke up.

@barcaman1013

Жыл бұрын

Hahahah fuxxing hilarious

It's UNBELIEVABLY tough on the dating apps for us dudes if we don't look like Brad Pitt and/or obviously have money. And we've got to be charming and funny right off the bat too. I don't want to sound like I'm whining about how unfair life is, because I'm not, but it does get to be pretty frustrating. I'm a fairly handsome (but not hot) guy with a good profile but I'm lucky to get 5 matches a week in a major city, and I'm even more lucky if one or two of them replies more than once or twice.

@patrickorourke41

2 жыл бұрын

I feel you on that one Alex! Then certainly have a lot tougher on dating apps and women. I believe or not, even the beautiful girls get rejected on the apps too. I was talking to someone at speeding event and she told me that she deals with rejection all the time, and this girl is at the very least at eight out of 10

@noahmclay7073

2 жыл бұрын

I would kill for 5 matches a week. I'd take 5 matches a year...

@BlargeMan

2 жыл бұрын

@@josephpeters2619 I've got all 3 of them plus Facebook dating. I very rarely get anything on hinge or bumble though

@josephpeters2619

2 жыл бұрын

@@BlargeMan For some reason, the girls on bumble seem to like me the most, idk why. I've also found that if I stay in the app trying to get a match it won't happen. So I just open it once per day, swipe a bit and then close it and the matches usually happen in the background and I'll just get notified.

@VentureCreek

2 жыл бұрын

I find it very frustrating for sure. very few matches ever on any dating sites and most do not reply to any msgs, tough game dude.

One time just to see my competition I made a girl profile. It was just a name and a black screen. As a "girl" I got 300 matches in on day. HOLY!! And most us guys maybe get on average 10 matches, half my friends cant even get 5. And a black screen got over 300 in a day.

@anthony9013

2 жыл бұрын

I did the same exact thing and got the same results lol I'm 6'3 and relatively handsome and ill be lucky if I can get 5 matches a week

@BRBallin1

2 жыл бұрын

I’d be lucky to get 1 match a week. Feeling stuck because I am not charming right off the bat which is a disadvantage. How do I meet someone without dating apps?

@fudomyoo9762

2 жыл бұрын

@@BRBallin1 if you’re in California or are willing to visit I will teach you how to approach women in person.

@kurtpunchesthings2411

Жыл бұрын

Oh that's easy to explain because men are far less picky when it comes to dating let's be honest for a single man the vast majority of single men would happily fuck any woman who gives them even the slightest attention you can call me whining if you want it doesn't change the fact that it's far easier for women in dating

@mrt5342

8 ай бұрын

Interesting experiment, with equally interesting results!

No lie, but that first Hinge profile was fire. I was also cracking up on the Richard Nixon joke. 20/10, bruh

@CourtneyRyan

2 жыл бұрын

Right 😂

Wow Courtney this is a great series! Please do more of these in the future as there is sooo much use case behind something like this. Love your content

THANK YOU. It’s so nice in KZread or life when you see someone who is honest and gives good criticism. This so easily could’ve been “this profile is great! Honestly all your photos are good this one is a bit weird but it works! “ just thank you for telling these guys this photo does not work and here’s why.

I did a Masters Class project on this for my Stats class. I did the same 5 photos - same text. I changed the parameters only. HEIGHT played the most. At 6-2, my inbox was full - at my real height (5-6) absolutely nothing. Why? because women start main search parameters with height about 6-0 as their first requirement. What else? Divorce was better than Single. Smoking was better than not. Engineer / Doctor / Lawyer better than Construction / Corporate desk jockey - best (bass player) - Education - Masters played better than Bachelors. Location - Bellevue > Seattle / Seattle > Portland / Portland > Spokane. Money - 100K+ good, under 100K - nothing, trending lagged off at 185K. aaaaaand this is why I will never darken any dating app. Completely - totally worthless for the 'real' me.

@generally_good_guy

2 жыл бұрын

I long suspected this type of reality. Thanks for giving the thumbnail sketch of your investigation. I had already given up online dating, but had considered trying again. Certainly won't after reading your statistical discovery.

@samjim89

Жыл бұрын

This is not the least bit surprising

@lbanquer

Жыл бұрын

Smoking was better than not?

@Iceblade423

Жыл бұрын

Anything that differentiates you from the masses of guys will help, especially with filters on dating apps. Divorce - gets lots of divorced women right swiping. Smoker - lots of female smokers wanting someone that isn't going to criticize them for being a smoker. etc.

@dedeborya9015

Жыл бұрын

@@Iceblade423 I ran this gambit for my Econ Stats class - All factors exactly the same, Divorced played better than single. In their mind, being divorced shows that you can 'commit' ....really, it means if you were dumb enough to do it once, and you are back out in the market - you are dumb enough to do it twice. You are a casino payout to her.

I have one suggestion when it comes to choosing prompts and it has helped me out. Since you have to pick 3 prompts, choose one that is focused on the following three categories. One about you, one that focuses on the "us", and lastly one that focuses on her.

@IEVAKambarovaite

2 жыл бұрын

I'd like to add something as well. -Put what you're bringing to the table instead of what you're looking for. E.g. I make incredible pancakes. -Add something funny that happened to you. Share a once-sentence anecdote. I've made a video on these.

@simranthiara8233

2 жыл бұрын

@@IEVAKambarovaite Good tip!

Guys, never lead with things like "Homeowner" or "". There are gold diggers out there and I promise, you want to steer clear of them.

I noticed, with women, a lot of people put that they love traveling. It actually got to the point it makes me either almost swipe left on them or to swipe left. To me it shows little creativity. Most people I believe like to travel.

@brettlessard2532

Жыл бұрын

100%. it's not a personality trait and if anything only shows that your privileged. Like "I love going to my cottage"

@gisellesbikeseat

Жыл бұрын

They love traveling on YOUR dime

@GracePK1929

8 ай бұрын

Most women I know, don't like to travel.

When a woman's Insta or profile features a drink in every pic, it is a massive turn-off. I assume it's the same for them.

@testosteronemastery

2 жыл бұрын

Same. I don’t go out to bars every weekend so why would I want a girl who obviously does? Lol

@JosDLM

2 жыл бұрын

@Town Crazy I think you like nice teeth

@kurtpunchesthings2411

Жыл бұрын

That screams alcoholic so yea

@tatestockwell

Жыл бұрын

Lmao you're boring then

@Jason-cl6yp

Жыл бұрын

@@tatestockwell ↩️

As a man… me and my male friends have never ever not once taken pictures of each other or ourselves. Closest thing to anything like that is our wives or girlfriends taking a few pictures and even then when the guys are together we are usually doing something silly and non-flattering

@Andy-lu3bd

5 ай бұрын

So true, I’m fresh out of a relationship and hardly have any solo photos

The dating apps themselves are set against you to put you in the position to pay money. It's not that you're ugly and tons of women are ignoring you, they just aren't seeing you. Compared to them, you're simply ranked behind everyone else in the queue. This is by design. Who knows how shallow the algorithm is when it comes to ranking you.

As someone who will soon take the (somewhat daunting) step of getting back on dating apps/sites, this video is so helpful! Given me a great photo strategy. All your videos are super helpful. Thank you, all the way from the UK!

@patrickorourke41

2 жыл бұрын

Great photos are SUPER important on apps like Tinder

@eQuariuz

2 жыл бұрын

You really need to find male advice. Too many women are cashing in on the sheer numbers of blue pilled guys. No offense to Courtney but if you haven't already, start with content like Rollo Tomassi or even CGA. After that as the foundation, you would have clearer vision of "modern dating" and modern women. It will make it much easier to properly analyze content like Courtney's or like those "dating guru" guys sporting button down shirts and nice guy smiles.

@williamlevy6964

Жыл бұрын

Simps gonna simp.

@gregkareem9824

Жыл бұрын

Simp

I'd really like to see a vid of you trying dating sites as a guy. I'm betting it would be an eye opener.

@lambro4014

2 жыл бұрын

Especially an unattractive guy, not some hunk who looks like a young Brad Pitt. Us 5's and lower got it tough, VERY tough!

Love these types of videos courtney! How would you go about submitting a profile for a future video?

Totally agree on the pics with alcohol. I ended up dating a guy who had a drinking/gambling problem and looking back the majority of his pics were in a bar.

@testosteronemastery

2 жыл бұрын

Bars kinda suck lol if I’m gonna drink, I’d rather just chill with friends at home or something

@rossfrazier3501

11 ай бұрын

Who would have right that...

I'm a female and these tips are PERFECT. I will be utilizing them when creating my dating profiles. Thanks love!

Girl here- Dont expect girls to match you if you say looking for friends in your bio. This is a dating app and most women aren’t looking for friends on these apps. You can replace that with “looking to date and see where things go”. That way it still keeps it casual if you don’t want to come off too strong, but it makes it clear you’re looking to date.

@navit3ch

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@gh0rochi363

2 жыл бұрын

That’s a good one. A lot of guys think because half of the women’s profiles say that they think it’s the best option. Listen to her fellas.

@musiclife-zr1os

2 жыл бұрын

I don’t think any guys saying that

@chucknorris2726

Жыл бұрын

Yet loads of women say the same thing in their bio

@musiclife-zr1os

Жыл бұрын

@@chucknorris2726 ikr

I think it's a great idea for you to pretend to be a guy on dating apps. A lot of women make assumptions on how it is for men and it's quite difficult.

@SophisticatedDogCat

Жыл бұрын

I used to pull hotties back in the day when I was in college because it was so easy, then got married for six years, now I’m 30 and divorced and depressed about my relationship life and these apps are so awkward and weird.

@amoongsoos

Жыл бұрын

@@SophisticatedDogCat Head up king, you’re the prize

@SophisticatedDogCat

Жыл бұрын

@@amoongsoos Appreciate it. 🙌 Back at you. 💪

@gregkareem9824

Жыл бұрын

​@@SophisticatedDogCatI hope ur feeling better bro

When I'm out with friends or doing someone I enjoy, generally the last thing on my mind is taking a picture of it. If a girl is going to judge me because I took a picture of myself, she's probably not worth my time anyway.

@danethenice

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah I do the same, but on dating apps girls judge on how you look on a photo, same as we do to them. It just makes you look better to have photos taken from you. This kinda bullshit is one of the reasons I dislike dating apps.

@_fadingcolors

2 жыл бұрын

@@danethenice I mean yeah but also not my problem. Her loss. Changing how you live to impress someone in that way is a bad start to any relationship.

Courtney!! Thank you sooo much for reacting to my Bumble profile! I wanted to explain what reggaetón and trap music is! Basically it's the most popular music genre there is right now in Latin America. But it is extremely vulgar and definitely not my type of music hahaha! That is the two truths and a lie section in my profile obviously that is the false one! Your feedback has been wonderful! Thank you!

@CourtneyRyan

2 жыл бұрын

Oooooh it makes sense now! Thank you, my friend and thanks for participating! Love your profile!

@philbrutsche8928

2 жыл бұрын

@@CourtneyRyan To expand on it a little more, Reggaeton is an urban style of Latin music that originated in Puerto Rico. Daddy Yankee popularized it with "Gasolina" almost 20 years ago. Latin trap music is newer on the scene

As a woman, I would actually advise against having group pictures in your profile. It’s happened that, as I was swiping, I came across a cute guy, but the other guy in his group picture was way cuter, and I was thinking "Damn, is THAT guy single?" You don’t what this to happen to you, so I would recommend pictures of yourself only, keeping in mind Courtney’s tips. Great video Courtney, as usual! 👌🏼

@navit3ch

2 жыл бұрын

Would a woman go as far as still matching with you to attempt to get to my friends?

@Stefita83

2 жыл бұрын

@@navit3ch I've never done that, because I find it's kind of messed up, but maybe some women would 🤷‍♀️

@danielbush6882

2 жыл бұрын

I think that's a problem with you then, if whether you like them or not if contingent on if someone looks better to you.

@PimpofChaos

Жыл бұрын

I will put group photo with uglier people, got it. Cheerleader effect :D

@yosefshekelberg5433

Жыл бұрын

Lmao, what if wrong with you insane women. You all act like your god gift to men yet on average your 5'3 and 166 pounds. AHAHAHAHAHABA

Thanks for the feature, Courtney! Yes, I did take that first picture myself. 😂 Second, I’ll take your advice and take down the second picture off of my profile. Thanks for being honest!!

@balham5606

2 жыл бұрын

Which person were you?

There are only 2 rules to online dating! Rule #1: Be attractive. Rule #2: Don't be unattractive. :P All jokes aside, great video, Courtney!

If you're going to be a guy then please do it on multiple platforms with 2 different profiles. Make everything the same except swap out the pics, do one profile with a really good looking pic & another with a completely average looking guy & I bet you'll get WILDLY different results.

Honestly, the best advice ... DUMP the dating apps 😎!!! This is the lazy way to meet someone and only leads to a ton of frustration (particularly from a guy's perspective). Go out into "the wild" and real possibilities will dramatically improve 🕺💃!!!

Just found out this channel. She is so chill, I love it. Definitely subscribing.

Don't use dating apps. It's a waste of time. If you can't meet a woman in person to date, don't bother. Just focus on bettering yourself. If you've improved yourself as much as you think you need/want, don't pursue women. Just focus on yourself and your purpose.

@navit3ch

2 жыл бұрын

Is this because woman prefer men that are "further along in life"? Where is this data coming from? As far as focusing on yourself and purpose? This just sounds like "hey just work out and stay in your career" type of advice saying that women only want a man who has a good career and is fit? Did I misunderstand your comment?

@vallano8970

2 жыл бұрын

@@navit3ch I know this is late but essentially yea. No woman from 18 to her early 20s is going to swipe on some guy 18 to his early 20s unless you’re very attractive/living an appealing lifestyle. You’re gonna have far better chances being like 24+, outside of college, having some kind of stable job/income, living alone, etc.

@navit3ch

2 жыл бұрын

@@vallano8970 better late than never lol. So I've been watching a lot of Fresh and Fit and I found a ton of answers to questions I didn't even realize I had 😅. Dating is nothing close to how I remember it a shit ton of rules were added on while others were disregarded. It's all fine I'm just shocked at the change lol.

@vallano8970

2 жыл бұрын

@@navit3ch Yea online dating, in particular, has just become an even more shallow environment, and especially when it comes to apps like tinder I'd venture to say most women use it just for attention without the intention of smth more. As for F&F, I'd just advise you to be careful. I've seen some of their stuff like "not caring about a woman's orgasm" or generalizing all men and women which is ridiculous. They're going to have unique experiences living in Miami which is where people go to fuck around so keep that in mind.

@navit3ch

2 жыл бұрын

@@vallano8970 lmfao I literally in Miami. It's actually everyone else that comes here to fuck that gives us the bad reputation haha. I have friends who's entire job is find people from out of state who have no idea where to go in Miami and take them to where he's paid to go to. Then use social media to bring locals to wherever the outsiders are heading to. It's pretty hilarious how predictable it is. FNF like to talk a lot of shit to trigger people which is a nice change actually. That entire bit about women's orgasms is taken out of context. Myron's only point about that was the biological process of making a child. Technically his logic works both ways, a man's orgasm isn't required either along with a woman's lol. We can extract both an egg and a sperm from any 2 humans and place it into a 3rd person to handle the pregnancy lol no risk or orgasm required. FNF bring up old success methods of dating and translates that what women declare they want from men. It's actually pretty easy. Have some money so your family don't have to suffer being poor because no one likes being poor. Stay in shape, mostly for your own health so that you can live a long and happy life. Develop something unique to you, could be a life goal or skill like being an porfessional athlete or learning to play a certain type of music. Could even be a unique set of things to do in life like a bucket list. This is all they really preach, everything else is just shit talking for views. Myron is Muslim so his view points are going to be triggering from the start so it's really entertaining to see women who haven't dating Muslim men figure out what that's like. Fresh is a millionaire so a lot of his own opinions are going to be unique to him since there isn't very many millionaires to begin with. Watching fnf just like this channel actually haha I just realized we're not on a FNF comment section. But just like this channel pulling any data from these clips has to be ran through a verification process in your own life. That's what I'm doing at least because there's so much information out there it's hard to tell what is real and what isn't.

Would you ever do another video like this? I (and hopefully other guys) definitely would want to hear more perspectives, especially from the ladies you bring on to your channel.

@CourtneyRyan

2 жыл бұрын

Yes absolutely! I have the second part of this video planned to go out in a week or 2 😊 and I’ll definitely do more in the future!

@llcooldrockindahouse4631

2 жыл бұрын

@@CourtneyRyan Sweet Courtney, I will keep an eye out for this. Btw, I never used Hinge, i heard rumour is it actually better than Tinder? I used Bumble and Badoo ....they are good and on Badoo I did get a few matches but I didn't really find it all that interesting. Tinder, with which I got up to 15 matches, I hadn't used for like close to a year cuz I decided to hold off until I got some better quality pics from a pro photographer but just wondering if Hinge is any good? Thanks! Oh and btw, if I can get your amazing advice? Can I take a picture with me and one or two of my platonic female friends if I were to cross out the face? Some people say yes and some others advise against it...which leaves me to be quite confused? Not sure if it is a good idea but with me and my dog or me and my cousins step son who sees me like a brother almost, yes absolutely. I would love to hear what Courtney advises?

@carrymedz5792

2 жыл бұрын

Bro nobody cares what these women thinks about photos...They going off pictures instead of hearts and mindsets bro! They turn down good men off pictures not knowing the man making big bucks (facts) they loss not yours..it's like 3-4 billion women in the world stay focus on god and yourself eventually the best woman will choose you.

@theshanamaster

2 жыл бұрын

i wish this would help but i live in a college town, plus they have a frat and a sorority, knowing colleges have their own dating ecosystem, its pretty hard on dating apps, even with all these good tips, cant get passed most women since most of them want sex, which i dont really care for, its nice but not my focus.

What I don't understand about Tinder (and most dating apps) is if women swipe right on you and you match, how come they don't respond when you write them a first message? I mean if you're not interested in a guy, don't give him the false hope of swiping right on him and possibly matching with him. Women should just swipe left if they don't want to respond to the guy they match with. I get my hopes up when I match with a pretty girl and then when she doesn't respond, that's a total downer. Sure, I move on because there's nothing I can do but seriously ladies...WTF!

@ykonratev

Ай бұрын

Because they can swipe right a bunch of times and then just see who they like the most after isn't that obvious

Enjoyed the tips you gave, really helpful. Please do more of these!

Hahahahahahshaha, the way you pronounced reggaeton really cracked me up! I had to go back and replay that part, no offense but it really gave me a great laugh! I love and appreciate all you do Courtney, God bless you!

i remember i found online dating incredibly easy, because i read a lot of other guys profiles to get a sense of competition was doing. I am by no stretch a good looking guy and i ended up meeting my wife online.

@FirstnameLastname-pe3ky

2 жыл бұрын

No offense, but chances are you look a lot better than you think you do. You'd probably be the first guy in existence who thinks online dating is easy while he's not a good looking guy.

@channelfortheeveryman3139

2 жыл бұрын

This. Tinder can definitely be hacked and gamified. This was also why I stopped, it got too addicting.

@gregkareem9824

Жыл бұрын

Bot

I'll tell you why guys post a picture of themselves holding a fish. Because in many cases that's the only picture they have of themselves taken by somebody else! When I started a dating profile I realized I had absolutely no pictures of myeself on my phone. Why would I? I don't fish, so now I'm stuck taking selfies or putting together some kind fake photoshoot, which is not how most guys want to behave.

This video was extremely helpful. I totally changed my profile while watching this. Thank you

Great video Courtney, I will add one thing I was never able to get good photos from a tripod or someone taking them so I had them done by a pro photographer and huge difference just put them up a few days ago and seeing more reaction already. Thanks again for your tips and help !!

@bradfranklin-j66co

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah I’d feel a little odd take a photo of myself out and about with a tripod setup. It’s just not something guys do. I should probably try the photographer route

@oscarperez5539

2 жыл бұрын

Yep. Pro photos are a game changer for many guys. Imma do it myself soon

@oscarperez5539

2 жыл бұрын

Curious to hear what results you getting

Let’s just be real. Online dating is for good looking people. You can take 100 “good” pictures, but if you weren’t blessed with looks then you’re at a major disadvantage. For average looking men I’d be best to just get a social circle and meet women through it.

Happy Autumn Courtney 🍃🍂🍁💋

Thanks for the advice, it’s very helpful. Also, Courtney, wow! You are ethereal!

The recommendations and examples were very helpful. - Very much appreciated. 🙏

I love your idea of posing as a male looking for girls on tinder. I have zero matches, ran out of people in my area in two different states now. I think it would be very interesting. It's hard out here

“So again you want to pay attention to angle” lolllllll the fact that you keep things professional and didn’t roast some of these pictures just proves your awesome and wifey material

@CourtneyRyan

2 жыл бұрын

😂❤️

Very helpful video and I will probably re-tool my dating profile this weekend!

Great video, I loved the way you pronounced reggaeton! Now I can’t image how you try to pronounce when I message you in Portuguese sometimes!

it’s designed like that on purpose. The apps know how female psychology works so they intentionally design it so women get pickier than they normally would be. (Even more so than usual). It relies entirely on looks and usually on quick hook ups which isn’t good for developing relationships. People meet you and leave before they can develop any feelings. Because their under the impression love is supposed to happen instantly after meeting you. The reality is love develops with time. On tinder People meet. They smash and then they leave. It’s great for hot guys, but ultimately cheats most men and women of actually getting anything, but long term psychological dis satisfaction from using the apps. Even the best apps make it extremely hard for most men. Because there is no motivation for having a good personality. Just who has the best looks. If anything online dating incourages men to simp or act like a cheating player. While turning women into dopamine (obsessed) seeking, greedy, and self centered individuals.

I don’t know why I hadn’t thought about using a tripod to take selfie’s for dating apps. Im not good at taking selfie’s and asking my friends to take pictures of me is awkward, especially if they know it’s for a dating site. I think that most men think that if you are using a dating app, it must mean you are bad at getting women. Which might be true in some cases but isn’t always the case.

@CourtneyRyan

2 жыл бұрын

Self timer is a game changer for this reason!

@AxelShepard

2 жыл бұрын

As a girl I just can't get over the fact how guys are ansupportive to eachother. It is sno frustrating to me. A good friend shouldn't judge you but support and help on your journey. You deserve better friends Red!

@Brett7777

2 жыл бұрын

@@AxelShepard your opinion is coming from girls perspective. No heterosexual man is going to ask fashion or dating advice from a guy friend. Last 3 friends I asked were ages 28-34 and 50. There replies for too younger ones were I would F you. Older dude was I hope you get laid. I guarantee you whoever took their pics was a x , a possible girl that is friend or their mom unless it was a group pic. If guy does help and take a pic. He is going to put minimal thought and effort into it. Actually last time I asked buddy to take pics. They came out horrible. He got a great one of my crotch. 🤣

@AxelShepard

2 жыл бұрын

@@Brett7777 Yeah! And that's terrible! Being heterosexual man shouldn't automatucly mean that someon is rude and unsupportive. If someone can't be just kind as a human being to another human being because he might bee seen as nonhetero than it's just... I don't wont to live on this planet anymore 😅 If being kind is a gay trait than it means than is Keanu Reeves gay?😂 Besides what happend with magical spell "no homo" wen a guy says something kind to another guy? XD

@solodolo_mma3971

2 жыл бұрын

I take all my pics, on my tripod. It’s a game changer. I don’t bother anyone, I do it all by myself lol. Only thing, is getting by the anxiety, of people looking at you when taking your pics lol.

Hi hi!! If you do a profile as a guy, please make sure you check different zip codes. Please don't only check cities, but more rural and less densely populated areas. There's not a lot of options unless you're willing to drive 40+ miles. Thanks you and keep up the awesome work

Thanks Courtney!😁 I never used dating before bc I thought it was silly and only for hookups but you change my mind I may do it

Started online dating a few months ago and was pretty shocked at the lack of likes. I film for celebrities, in shape, never been married, and don’t have kids so if I can’t get a date who the heck are these woman going for?

@I_membahh

8 ай бұрын

Been wondering this for years

Dating apps are a colossal waste of time and money. I tried it this year and immediately stopped a month later. Too many fake profiles or scams being run on the site.

@kurtpunchesthings2411

Жыл бұрын

Hahah I've heard it's even at a stage where alot of the " profiles " are just women advertising their only fans

Love your videos Courtney!

thanks for the solid advice! also love your black and beige top! 👏

Good morning, Courtney. Your videos are amazing. Thanks again for the wisdom. By the way, anybody seen that fly flew by Courtney?

@CourtneyRyan

2 жыл бұрын

That fly was driving me nuts! 😂

@antoinecharlesdegaulle580

2 жыл бұрын

I did not even see it

If you put up a group photo, you better be the best looking person in the group.

Yay long arms for selfies that look less like selfies 😂 I gotta make my bios shorter...although they DO say I'm a writer and I'm loquacious so 🤷 😅 My biggest note for women is actually have a freaking bio! I know women critique ours like you did quite a bit. Some women are way judgmental and quick to swipe left too, but those women lack a dang bio anyway for any initial specific chat approach to be possible beyond pics. My word of the month seems to be reciprocity, but again, it's a thing modern women need to learn and practice.

The thing I hate about dating apps is people do swipe on me but they don’t bother to message back and it gets people’s hopes up. I don’t have anybody to help me take a good picture of myself

@bradfranklin-j66co

2 жыл бұрын

Same here.

Please guys, do take notes on the photo tips! I cannot believe how many of you don't even bother in the slightest, and you'd literally tripple your matches if you only used decent pictures. Don't hide your face, don't look silly on every photo, don't look away completely, etc. No need to be a model, but I need to be able to tell how you look like. Also, I get awfully annoyed by those who don't bother to write anything in bio. Yes, photos will make it or break it, but when you get my attention, I'll want to get a hint of your character. I have swiped past handsome guys, only because the message I got was ''I'm good looking, I don't need a personality''. That could be far from the truth, but it's exactly why I'm pointing this out. Pro tip: avoid cliche copy-paste catch phrases. Good luck!

@grahamvaneck8906

2 жыл бұрын

Triple of 0 is still 0, at least the way I learned how to do math :(

@ibracadabra180

2 жыл бұрын

Chad can take a selfie at a shower, laugh, cry, dress as mistress and still gets dates.

@danethenice

2 жыл бұрын

@@ibracadabra180 are you a Chad? If not you'll have to more. It is what it is.

@ibracadabra180

2 жыл бұрын

@@danethenice the cold truth people are afraid to hear. It's so bs that you have people litteraly born to be goodlooking, no merit or whatsoever.

@kolotoure14

2 жыл бұрын

Triple 🤣🤣🤣😂😂🤣🤣🤣

However I don't use dating apps, but I gotta admit it Courtney; you are doing a great job helping - us - guys to make our dating life easier. So thanks.

@CourtneyRyan

2 жыл бұрын

This makes me so happy! ❤️

Don’t know how I ended up here but I’m happy to have arrived! ‘preciate ya sis 😊🤙

Men, do not take photos from a low angle. Most of you may not realise it, but looking at pictures from that angle, fills like i'm on you crouch level looking up at you. No woman wants that, the first time they lay eyes on you .

Have 4-6 photos guys. Headshot, full-body, doing an activity, group of friends, cute animal and physique or training pic. Use good lighting. Avoid selfies, put your phone on a tripod. For the love of God, do not be in your car or bed. Don't pose, try to be as natural as possible, DO NOT make stupid faces or overdo the smile. Don't have pictures with girls, the assumption will be she's your girlfriend, wife or you're looking for a 3rd. Always avoid having children in your profile pics. Comb and clean up your damn hair. Don't use emojis in your bio, keep it short, use humor. Women generally don't care about your bio, they'll usually read it after you match.

"looks cute in this photo" while a public toilet is right next to him. :D

My friends started using dating apps and boy do some men need advice on how to take selfies. I've seen some just show their side profiles while wearing sunglasses in every pic and not much info so it was hard to tell who he was or how he looked like. I would gladly take their pics to improve their chances because all they needed were better angles

15:00 I'm in the UK and I believe thats a dating show he was featured in. So he's pretty lucky to be showing it off.

I had a work accident at the start of the year where I lost most of the fingers on my right hand. I’m now looking at getting back into the dating scene would you advise that I put that in my dating profile to get it out there straight off the bat?

@jleano609

2 жыл бұрын

No. You've got a cracking story for the first date though.

@citizenx2369

2 жыл бұрын

Sorry to hear that. Maybe make a joke about it 😅 I think girls would react well to that

cant really say that taking mirror selfies or selfies in general is bad when girls have the same type of pictures

I never go online I do this stuff in real life, but you're just pointing out a lot of stuff that doesn't matter, people are not how they appear to be on the internet anyway. And you don't want a man to have a lot of friends, a lot of friends=a lot of options, unless you just want him for a short period of time.

If you dont count the women on dating apps that are: overweight, single moms, or instagram models on someones boat the ratio of normal guys to normal girls has got to be 20:1 or worse.

Courtney doesn't know what reggaetón is, she is too pure for this world. 🥺❤

@Kinemon284

2 жыл бұрын

And innocent

@Samsaraindo

11 ай бұрын

Too white

Why make a fake guy acc, just have your boyfriend re-download the dating app and compare how many matches he gets vs you to show the disparity between girls and guys

@hotshot8365

2 жыл бұрын

That would be a good idea - they should really be as equivalent as possible given that they matched for real.

I just quit FB dating after about a year. I'm over 50, so there are probably issues with older people that may not apply to others, but also maybe not. I'm a photographer, so I have a good idea of what photos work and I've also written ad copy professionally. So, getting matches was not really a problem. Getting women to actually commit to meeting and then actually show up? Close to impossible. So many women seem to just want to find people to chat with and never meet. I've spoken with a lot of women who admitted to having been on the site for months without actually going to a face to face meeting. Women will also disconnect as soon as the topic of meeting comes up. I had a total of one face to face meeting and that woman just wanted a free photo shoot. And women's profiles are mostly a horror show. No photos of themselves or photos of dogs, kids, flowers, memes. No text or some really negative text trashing all men. I think most women assume all they have to do is show up. And that probably works too.

Make sure you show your body and smile -> Don't show anything too revealing, but be proud of your "best parts". Post full-body pictures, because attraction can't happen without liking the other's body type. You don't want to be called catfish, do you? Also, there is nothing more beautiful than a nice smile. Great content, love it!

I’ve given up on apps, I’d rather just deal with my social anxiety.

Women like this get hundreds of thousands of responses. They do not understand what it is like to be a guy whose desire is to find a cute girl and then meet her and see if she is also someone with behavior and beliefs with which he is comfortable. But all the cute girls are always really unavailable already.

Thanks for this Courtney it helped alot

Hey Courtney! What are your thoughts using pro photos for casting or buisness! Does it come across as try hard?

My advice is to have an interesting bio never the less. I am a girl who reads it and gat really frustrated when there is nice photo but no reasone to talk to a person. Second thing... my Gosh... say something interesting. I know I'm weird but wather a guy likes me or not I am the one who makes most of the talking and my conclusions are "Yeha, I had a very nice conversation with my self.... but I have no Idea who is the guy I am talking to." And yeah... I really agree that sucks for guys on dating apps at getting maches but... I get a lot of likes from people who just swipe not even looking on the screen... and I rearly get maches. And even if i do... there are almost no messages. Wish we all hahe more luck out there :)

@bradfranklin-j66co

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this. I actually put a lot of time and thought into writing my bio. It was more of an exercise of discovery: where am I at my life currently, what do I desire, what do I desire in a woman. I’m surprised to hear / see that no bios with meaningful depth such as mine where highlighted. I’m not in my twenties though.

@AxelShepard

2 жыл бұрын

@NimaA What? 😂 I culdn't care less about those gigachads. They are mostly boring as f***. I don't even give them likes because I know there is like 0% chance that the conversation is going to be interesting. I do 't have time for people who bring only muscles and handsome face to the table.

@AxelShepard

2 жыл бұрын

@NimaA I can't speak in the name of every woman. In fact I find it very difficult to relate to women and when I hear the redpill guys I' m like: what? So there really are girls like that? To be with someone just because someone is handsome? But... It doesn't mean I don't look at apearnece. In my expirence the belowe average guys to whom I've given a chance were super insecure and not that interesting as well. I rejectet those belowe and the everage guys for the same reason- I couldn't find anything interesting about them. The difference was that those of normal confidence were like "ok, no problem" and those below were like "you don't like me because Im ugly." "Your shallow." Or "You played me". I mean like wtf? Why should I give chances to guys who will make me fill like a monster? I honestly felt sorry for those guys till they started to attack me. Come on! I've learnt on my expirence and now I rearly give likes to anyone. So the moral is- the fact that someone is ugly doesn't mean automaticlally beautifull on the inside. And it goes the other way arou d. Handsome guy doesn't have to be a dick. But it's so easy to generalise and say- that the oposite gender is shallow. Sorry if i bucher english. I'm not a natove speaker.

@AxelShepard

2 жыл бұрын

@NimaA I'm from Poland. I know. Its actually impossible to show personality when You don't get the mach. But but there is a place in bio to write something interesting. I'm into fantasy writting and if I se someone not very attractive but with simmilar interests I give a like. I date to find a long relationship partner so I can't imagine being with someone who doesn't sher my enthusiasm for the same topic as I do. I need simmilar way of creative thinking, simmilar humor and need of being creative in my partner in order to be happy with him. So when I talk with someone and they give my dry informations about they'r work as a programmer (Idk why I alvays mach with informatics xD) I yawn and don't feel like talking to them again 🤷‍♀️ And sometimes I can feel this "dry energy" by just reading a bio that says "I'm jus a normal guy... Bla bla bla" As a weirdo for my entaire life I wont someone who would understen me not only intelectually but also emotinally. In my expirence there aren't many guys like that out there... Or when I find someone close the turn out to be atheists (I m Christian) or antyvaxer (I'm a med student) so it's like- no I can't go with that.

@AxelShepard

2 жыл бұрын

@NimaA I have a question. Why do guys don't write bios? Aspecially when they are not fisically attractive? When I see this kind of profile i wonder "what is the strategy behind this?"

Also i feel like if youre even moderately handsome/muscular, all you have to do is put “6’[X]” and leave it at that. Maybe have a picture of you with another woman for pre-selection Love your vids Courtney. We all appreciate your dedication to helping us🤠

@timothygibney159

2 жыл бұрын

There are still 40 dudes for every chick. Remember that as it's tough to get swiped. Women get +100 replies a day if she is pretty

@jpballer100

2 жыл бұрын

Am 6'4 and lift 6x a week Can confirm this is not the case. I know I could have better pics, but simply being tall doesn't = a flooded inbox. It certainly helps in real life but the whole be 6ft earn 6 figures and you're set online is a bunch of bs.

@RideTheTrack

2 жыл бұрын

It really isnt that simple. I am 6ft tall and i have a six pack (the six pack pic is third or fourth on my profile though, not the first one, i'm trying to meet decent people and not the thirsty ones). Matches do come from time to time, but they sure as hell dont come easy. Dating apps are seriously skewed against men no matter what, unless you are ridiculously good looking

@hotshot8365

2 жыл бұрын

@@RideTheTrack I’m a 6’4 rower (very broad shoulders), full head of dark hair and I get a few matches a day on Tinder, I am quite picky who I swipe on however. On Bumble you can put your height in a searchable filter for the ladies and I get 10x the matches on the identical profile- lesson of the story, if you are blessed with being tall don’t use Tinder, use Bumble and make it work for you. If you are short stick to Tinder as your Bumble profile is probably just being filtered out. Also don’t put topless pics in your profile, you have to be more crafty than that, a tight top in a good action pose that implies your have a 6 pack is WAY more effective. Good luck 🤞

I LOVE your taste in fashion! 😍

My online dating experience, here's something I wrote, "Yeah, this online dating thing is strange. So far my experience is like this. When a woman likes me, she likes me, the talk is romantic, but the cart is going before the horse. Because the truth is, anyone I meet is a complete stranger who has romantic feelings, and so long as I don't talk about things I think are important with my life, things go fine. But as soon as the reality of who I am gets shared, things go bad. It seems the window of what's acceptable by women is more fantasy than anything, so I'm better off just not having an opinion on anything real. That seems to be the only way to obtain a relationship. Mostly the women that like me, like that I'm an artist, who knows about spirituality. So they view me as some sort of spiritual artist archetype,,, then they get to know me, and well I'm not an archetype, I'm an individual, I have my own thoughts, and the fantasy is dispelled. Overall, it's nice to meet people, it's not fun sharing personal stuff with strangers so they can judge." She blocked me after this. I guess I said something too true. Is it me, or do women just have the privilege to choose the man that does a song and dance, then later he gets called a liar, because the song and dance is a lie. But when a man is honest, she learns the lie is all she wants. Is this female toxicity? Or do I just need to be a better person who life is filled with more fantasy?

@laughandlive377

Жыл бұрын

No, you are right. But those are the low quality women. The high value ones want to get to know you, not fall in love with the fake fantasies of you. So there's still hope. Just smaller hope unless you know how to weed out the wrong girls. Which is by being yourself. You won't get as many likes or matches, but you'll attract people that value you as you are.

@AndyKirtland11

Жыл бұрын

@@laughandlive377 Totally agree, guys need to also stop liking women based on looks alone. Don’t get me wrong, looks is what attracts us because it is what we see first. However, if a woman doesn’t have a bio or she takes selfies and has a link to her Instagram or TikTok, then it is an automatic red flag no matter how good looking she is because she’s clearly after attention, validation and more than less followers to grow her social media. I thought I had found a good woman, especially since we have common interest and the conversation flow nicely. As soon as I ask her about meeting up, she says she is up for meeting up “sometime” but wants to get to know me better on here (Tinder). I gave her the benefit of doubt, but as soon as I tested her by asking about taking our conversation over to WhatsApp, then the massive silence happens. I basically did that to test how genuine she truly was because at some point you have to meet in person. I ain’t into texting buddy shit. Another one bites the dust. So, the next time a woman says “But we barely know each other” or simply wants to continue the chat on a dating app, then I’ll be like “No, ain’t interested into being texting buddies and in order to get to know someone, then can’t beat meeting in person.”

@laughandlive377

Жыл бұрын

@@AndyKirtland11 ah, i didn't get a notication for your reply. Weird. Why is not having a bio a red flag exactly? I do agree that having too many selfies, and links to other medias can be a huge red flag. Could be someone that thrives on attention at an unhealthy level or could be someone that wants you to see their videos, maybe bc they're informative or they depend on the money. Who knows. About that woman not wanting to meet up, um, before offering to meet up, did you try telling them that you want to know how they look like with a videocall? They could be wary of how you could be a catfish or a killerd and so have hesitations to meet up in real life, especially so soon. It just sounds like online talking isn't your thing. It takes time for someone to feel like they can trust you. And we women, tend to be more careful with stuff like that since is more dangerous for us. I'm just saying bc it sounds like you're unknowingly getting good women to go away. And if you don't like a girl who takes selfies at all or takes time to trust you, you might not find a girlfriend or partner anytime soon if ever.

This girl who I see at the gym everyday matched on Tinder. I really didn’t know it was her until we matched and then I felt awkward even though I always though she’s very attractive. She has also constantly looking and smiling at me BUT after I sent a message her a message she hasn’t responded. Talk about awkward !! Guess some good news is that she swiped right and also didn’t unlatch us . Haven’t seen her at the gym in a wk lol

@rogier195

Жыл бұрын

How is it going?

@Jason-cl6yp

Жыл бұрын

@@rogier195 I feel like she's not gonna come back chief..

@alexspicer6043

Жыл бұрын

@@Jason-cl6yp she came back and stares at me and always smiling but I will not make a move unless she messages me on Tinder. Call me a p***y but not trying to be banned from the gym if she’s playing games

@gregkareem9824

Жыл бұрын

​@@alexspicer6043smart man that woman is playing games in my opinion what I would have done is ignore her woman nowadays get too comfortable with false accusations if you know what I mean by that it's not worth it bro

I love how perfect our photos have to be to get matches... Can't girls just like, y'know, accept that we're not all photographers and give us a go?😂

@zakapholiac9377

2 жыл бұрын

Never gonna happen, women are way too picky because they have literally hundreds, if not thousands of matches to filter though. Men should avoid dating apps

@ArtIsDrawing

Жыл бұрын

u say that but guys only go for the hot girls smhhh

@carl5959

Жыл бұрын

@@ArtIsDrawing Not really, I disagree

@brettlessard2532

Жыл бұрын

you're competing bro, anything that helps just do it

@carl5959

Жыл бұрын

@@brettlessard2532 Trust me, i've tried all of her advice. No luck...

Like you Courtney , you trying to help and it s appreciated so much

This was honestly helpful. Thanks

About women getting more matches on dating apps. In the vast majority of the animal kingdom males compete for the females. Humans are not exceptions. Too many men forget we're part of the animal kingdom and the natural world; our biology strongly influences our behavior despite our complex social systems. Trying to argue against millions of years of evolution is asinine. Obviously there is a line between superficiality and natural desires, but you can't begrudge a woman for wanting a mate who can provide, protect, and enrich her life. You have to put in effort to attract women. If your style and lifestyle don't appeal to the majority of women or the women you're pursuing, you only have yourself to blame.

@jsonjsoff

2 жыл бұрын

What you're failing to consider is that technology has pushed the phenomenon to extreme efficiency which could have disastrous consequences. Technological revolution isn't exactly the most natural manifestation to say they least. If enough of the male population becomes indifferent to society and life, we could end up under chaos or authoritarianism.

Shout out to Alex for that Pappy bottle flex photo!

@johnrblur6476

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah I think the context is probably missing. Those are EXPENSIVE bottles. lol

Courtney has no idea how rare and special those pappy van winkle bottles are. That's not just any type of alcohol that's like taking a picture in front of a monument

As a women I hate when I read a profile (yes I read them) and they start off negatively. I like a guy with a nerdy side. The third guy is funny, I like that.

Courtney it’s too bad I couldn’t find a nice woman like you! Beauty (inside and out) and brains, the whole package😊. I’ve tried dating apps (Bumble and OK Stu…er Cupid), and no luck, and frankly I did a lot of the things you told me to do. A mix of faraway pics, one or two group pics with friends, and a couple good selfies with normal expressions (nothing goofy). Very little luck though, and I even mentioned being a working professional, homeowner, injected some humor, etc. I don’t feel so bad though because I know I’m in good company!

I think your chances of standing out in a woman’s life are much greater if you approach. Especially hot girls. Think about it, guys don’t approach that often anymore and they especially don’t approach hot girls cause they’re stereotyped as more bitchy (not a coincidental trend lol). If you’re just another dude in her messages on IG, Tinder, Bumble, or Hinge then you’re just another option to her. Plus you didn’t have to lift a finger to earn having a high quality girl in your life… Approaching can be scary, but it’s also a huge confidence booster. You also get all 3 forms of communication (voice tonality, body language, and actual words), so you’re more likely to have a good interaction.

@GEORGIOARCADE

2 жыл бұрын

That's true, i actually find it more easier and less stressful to talk to girls in person than online. Which is surprising to me cuz i was soo shy when i was younger 😄. Now if I'm in close proximity with a woman i find attractive; ill just ask her how her day is going and make a lighthearted compliment to brighten up her day. Then i just go off how she responds to that. It may be scary to some guys but practicing small talk can do wonders for your confidence.

@jleano609

2 жыл бұрын

10O% correct. Words,Tone and Body Language are Lyrics, Music and Dance. If you can use all three to project confidence in a real life approach you can spike her attraction WAY higher than possible with a dry old text. Plus you are evaluating her also for looks, vibe and behaviors. Of course some loser will now come say that you’ll get #metoo’d nowadays for IRL approach……🤪 It’s also why you should phone a girl instead of calling where possible. Tone is really important in conversation. Plus you get a spontaneous response from her that you can use to gauge her attraction much quicker when you ask for that date. Which is why you are calling her anyway. No idle chit chat!

The dual color cloth is so intriguing

I have never had someone take my picture. I never thought of that until you mentioned it.