Once my girlfriend got really protective over her phone. I decided to give her the benefit of the doubt. Turns out, she had ordered me a plush that I had really wanted for a couple months and didn’t want me to know.

@candybird

2 жыл бұрын

That's sweet

@supersniffer9632

2 жыл бұрын

I cant believe rslash said being protective of your phone means there is definitely cheating going on. It's just incorrect.

@MegaInsaneMC

2 жыл бұрын

I swear there was another story rslash read where the girl was being really secretive and she was getting him a pet snake. And another where the guy was working on ordering a custom engagement ring.

@GoldenSunAlex

2 жыл бұрын

@@supersniffer9632 Yeah. I'm a very private person, so I wouldn't share my phone with anyone, full stop.

@RT15768

2 жыл бұрын

@@supersniffer9632 right like such a L take. You could have a surprise maybe you have bad news your just not ready to share. Or maybe you are just upset they trust you so little they need to go through it.

I hate how RSLASH didn't go "hey, that's me!" when he mentioned the passionate hugging.

@Wendy_O._Koopa

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, "Hey, that's me!" or some variation is so obligatory, it's like not finishing "shave and a hair cut" when someone doesn't say it.

@mikeysenpai6094

2 жыл бұрын

regardless it is cool that someone mentioned him :D

@bobbysyblik68

2 жыл бұрын

Still though, that little chuckle right before was adorable

@mostar1219

2 жыл бұрын

And some of us in the comments did it for him 😆

@Uhohohno319

2 жыл бұрын

I told the OP that he made it onto one of rSlash’s videos, and he said “I saw that! Crossing one more thing off my bucket list.”

The first story is borderline pro to me... she got a happy life with a man who loves and respects her, while the cheater ex is forever stuck with his family and friends disappointed at him.

@ScyBlade

2 жыл бұрын

All the cheater had to do was keep his mouth shut. She would have just let it go if he had.

@kathyjoy5618

Жыл бұрын

You know what they say - sometimes the best revenge is a life well lived and the OP of the first story definitely proves that.

Honestly, the best way to deal with a mama’s boy is to tell their mother. It’s extra devastating to them for their ass chewing to come from the woman they respect the most.

@kathyjoy5618

2 жыл бұрын

Telling a Mammas boy's mother can go one of two ways. Either like it did in the story, or the mother doubles down and denies their son could ever do any wrong and you must be lying. I'm glad it went the former for OP rather than the latter.

@MrVocalover

2 жыл бұрын

From what I learned from rslash Entitled Parents videos, some parents refused to believe that their precious angel is capable of doing such deed or even blame the victim instead.

@ThEjOkErIsWiLd00

2 жыл бұрын

@@kathyjoy5618 That's why you collect evidence first like the OP in the story did.

@kathyjoy5618

2 жыл бұрын

@@ThEjOkErIsWiLd00 Always collect evidence, yes, but I've known Karens who even when presented with evidence will double down. They'll say you faked it, edited the video, it's not their son just somebody who looks like them, or whatever they can to try and deny said evidence even if they're looking right at it. They live in their own little world, and anything that challenges is is pushed away. I'm glad this isn't what happened to OP though.

@TeacherinTraining39

2 жыл бұрын

It's pretty clear he didn't even respect his mother, because it was her who drilled into him "Don't cheat," and he did it anyway, disrespecting 2 women for the price of one.

"Told me I had invaded his privacy and it was controlling behavior like this that made him cheat." Did he just....try to justify WHY he was cheating?! Now THAT is trashy.

@JoyZoneYT

2 жыл бұрын

Cheaters often like to justify their actions by making the partner look bad. I know this from experience.

@annika5893

2 жыл бұрын

@@JoyZoneYT And just as often their "justifications" don't make any sense. I mean, even if something is wrong in the current relationship, cheating is not going to resolve it.

@kathyjoy5618

2 жыл бұрын

Classic gaslighter.

@annika5893

2 жыл бұрын

Maybe he had foresight. Like "I knew you were going to become controlling after I've been hiding my cheating ways from you for a while, so I figured you being controlling was going to be inevitable and that's why I started cheating." I mean, you have to try some pretty strange time-travelling "logic" for that to make any sense.

@careleo

2 жыл бұрын

Plus a little gaslighting for extra spice

Woohoo, I can cross making it on rslash off my bucket list. I'm the OP for the roommate story. Thanks for including me.

@colleencook382

2 жыл бұрын

She's not a screamer-she is " vocally appreciative" lol

@damitafrost4228

2 жыл бұрын

That's amazing. Congrats on being on rslash!

@xanderlewell

2 жыл бұрын

On the one hand, grats on making it on! On the other hand, sorry it had to be done?

@maieen2665

2 жыл бұрын

GG, A Nonymous!

@ANonymous-gr9fk

2 жыл бұрын

@@colleencook382 That did make me laugh out loud.

That mother really turned it around in the end of the first story by going out of her way to help rebuild the OP after making the mistake of tearing into her. Still unfortunate to tear into the OP that way but at least owned up to it and tried to make it right.

@jacthing1

2 жыл бұрын

Plus I can't really blame her for believing her son at first or how she reacted, considering she tried to raise him to not do thaf stuff and her own past experiences.

@krbacon

2 жыл бұрын

@@jacthing1 True, imagine there was a degree of hurt on the mother's part of after sharing her own history that the girlfriend would act that way. Which honestly, probably resulted in her being that much more upset with her son in the end. 'Because of you I yelled at the innocent victim' and etc.

@nationalinstituteofcheese3012

Жыл бұрын

I mean I don’t blame her since she was lied to but honestly she was a better person than I thought she’d be

Story 1: Would you look at that, it's the consequences of his own actions! And he still thinks that HE was the victim after everyone criticized him and pointed out that OP was the victim! I love the irony that even *the father who cheated* was disappointed. That's how bad it was.

@vloggerbonakid6178

2 жыл бұрын

OP's ex-BF's father be like: "We may have both cheated, but I've got higher standards."

@1985toyotacamry

2 жыл бұрын

That is the most surprising part. The fact that the dad(the cheater) says he's disappointed. Hell even the stepmother chime in. He fked up badly.

@Godzilladino

2 жыл бұрын

I think the reason the dad was dissapointed was because the ex was being a piece of shit while he cheated and after OP broke up with him. He lied about OP to his mom and that's probably the reason his father was dissapointed, because he probably never did that

@alinasanchez278

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah that was a bit surprisingly unexpected. He cheated his wife but I'm guessing he didn't go so far as to blame his wife for him cheated with another woman. Even if that not the cast I find it ironic.

@metademetra

2 жыл бұрын

My best guess is that the dad cheated and confessed to it right away. And is pissed his son took the coward's way out by pinning the blame on OP instead of just being honest. THAT I think is far more shameful than the cheating.

RSlash: passionately hugging Also RSlash: *_mAn wH0Re!_*

More than being protective of their phones, it's the anger that betrays them. Nothing screams "GUILTY" louder than an angry reaction when you're trying to hide something.

“and promised me she would deal with her lying sack of shit of a son” 💀

About the train story. We recently had a similar thing happen on a train from Genova to Milano. Basically a group of guys refused to move from the disabled seats booked and set up for the disabled people and their assistants. So the disabled people were forced to get off since the train was full of tourists and later vandalized. As a side note we hate people from Milano invading our city because we're the closest city they have to see the sea. But I digress. The railway company had to set up a special bus for them to get home safely. Of course the police was disgusted by such rude behaviour from tourists.

@Wendy_O._Koopa

2 жыл бұрын

Wholly shit! It takes a special type of evil person to kick a disabled individual out of their seat (primitively, and then refusing to move), then double that (or more? you didn't specify how many their were). Then... IDK somebody seriously needs to update whatever's keeping them from removing people, because that seems like a grievous oversight that allows for some dreadful 'loopholes' ... in fact, I think everyone in the world should just sit in first class until it's changed. Look up "civil disobedience" for tips on how to protest peacefully. I mean, at least they got bus tickets (if I'm reading this right); but still, something like this should never happen.

@wmdkitty

2 жыл бұрын

Why not kick the guys off, instead?

@josephinenelan4204

2 жыл бұрын

@@wmdkitty It's not polite to do that, finders keepers.

1st story: Why on earth would he complain about her telling his mom that he was the one who cheated after he lied to his mom about her cheating? If he just kept his mouth shut, he would have been fine.

@kathyjoy5618

2 жыл бұрын

Manipulators often have a nasty victim complex as well. If they're always the victim they can never be blamed or held accountable for anything (in their minds anyway).

First Story: I was about to go off on the mom for what she said but I’m so glad that she changed her tune and apologized for what she said after seeing the proof and seeing that her son is the liar and cheater. OP dodged a HUGE bullet. This guy is a piece of shit and a manipulative asshole. He constantly gaslit OP and made OP feel guilty for things she didn’t do. OP deserves way better than this sorry excuse for a man; I’m so glad OP realized this guy is a nightmare Second Story: I would’ve done the exact same thing honestly Third Story: 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Fourth Story: How is OP selfish when they was there first? Fifth Story: Delicious petty karma Sixth Story: LMAO that was the easiest scammer get scammed moment I’ve ever heard 😂😂😂😂😂

@YesIlikebananasSo

2 жыл бұрын

I’m glad she apologised but the audacity of her to fly at someone else and call her a whore 😒 not that I don’t see where she was coming from, but it was still very immature and unnecessary especially as she had no proof

@alinasanchez278

2 жыл бұрын

What even fun is that even his dad who also cheated on his mom. Scolded him. Him out all the the family to his son for cheated.

@A_Rose_From_Concrete

2 жыл бұрын

One of these days I'm gonna scam a scammer the same way last OP did 😂😂

@xKCAZxLEADER

2 жыл бұрын

@@alinasanchez278 lmao facts. The irony of his dad (who cheated) scolding his own son for cheating is hilarious

*First OP:* OP’s ex’s second mistake was lying to his mother about why he and OP broke up. Out of pettiness, no less! His first mistake was cheating on OP. I’m glad OP’s ex’s family sided with OP, and put the guy on blast. Best of luck to OP and her family. Also, a significant other not wanting to share their phone doesn’t always mean they’re cheating. It’s possible they’re planning a surprise, or something similar. *Second OP:* OP pulled the Uno Reverse card on the ticket collector. You love to see it. *Third OP:* Did anyone else notice that OP’s boss said the girlfriend wasn’t that loud? Was he throwing shade at OP’s roommate? LOL *Fifth OP:* That’s a great story, lol. A good way to upset adult Hello Kitty fans is to say Hello Kitty isn’t a cat. They’ll get hot _real_ quick 😛 *Sixth OP:* If I ever get scammed by a Nigerian prince, I’m gonna use OP’s strategy

@PunakiviAddikti

2 жыл бұрын

Oh, train staff are fully authorized to remove offending passengers from their seat, and the train. That guy was being a lazy ass employee and OP got justice.

@lux0rd01

2 жыл бұрын

Didn't the creator of hello kitty confirm she's not a cat a few years back though?

@battyrae1398

2 жыл бұрын

@@lux0rd01 yeah iirc shes not a cat shes a little girl

The first story is exactly why if you have low self esteem get help for that because there is too many people out there like ops fiance that will take advantage and abuse your low opinion of yourself. Glad op stood up for herself

@kathyjoy5618

2 жыл бұрын

This is the sad truth. Manipulators and narcisists go for people like OP because they know they'll be able to manipulate them and get away with it. They know how to pick their victims. I'm glad OP broke free of the cycle. Can you imagine actually marrying that guy...? And throwing kids into the mix? Yikes forever.

@neffyg35

2 жыл бұрын

@@kathyjoy5618 did you play little misfortune?

@kathyjoy5618

2 жыл бұрын

@@neffyg35 I did :) I was so impressed by Fran Bow I jumped on it when it came out.

@neffyg35

2 жыл бұрын

@@kathyjoy5618 I knew it as soon as I read yikes forever haha

“iTs YoUr CoNtRoLlInG pErSoNaLiTy ThAt MaDe Me ChEaT” Narcissist logic 101: Reflect and Gaslight. What a special human being that Man-Child is…

When a dad cheats, is bad, but hell, when even the cheating dad is disappointed in the cheating son......well......that actually shows how even the cheater expects his child to not cheat

Rslash just cause someone is protective of their phone doesn't mean they are cheating. At one point before I was born, my dad started hiding his phone from my mom and would get random calls where he would step outside to take them and sometimes even leave immediately. My mom also noticed a whole bunch of weird credit card charges for stuff like airplane tickets for cross country flights and multiple hotel bookings. My mom then confronted him and used a line that my family now uses as an inside joke. I won't say the line here as anyone who has met my family would recognize it, but it basically meant she knew everything about him (don't know what this meant, my dad never cheated and my mom was the only romantic relationship he ever had). My dad then gave her his phone. She saw that all the calls he was making were to her family and friends. Turns out my dad and my mom's friends and family were planning a surprise birthday party, but my mom's family lived on the other side of the country, so he had to secretly fly them across the country and get them hotel rooms without my mom finding out. My dad just told her "You really know me, huh" and then bursts out laughing. They got married a few years later.

@st4rpt_603

2 жыл бұрын

That and also some people like have their private space by default.

@endrtrn

2 жыл бұрын

@@st4rpt_603 true

@fdm2155

2 жыл бұрын

@@st4rpt_603 Well, it's one thing if someone has always been protective of their phone... it's another if someone is suddenly protective of their phone. That suggests something has changed and they are hiding something. Even if that something is a surprise party.

@N0xiety

2 жыл бұрын

@@fdm2155 And if it happens over a month, yea, there is definitely something more than a surprise party going on, and you will almost certainly not like what they are hiding. It still might not necessarily mean cheating ofc, even if very likely. It might even be them obtaining a new addiction like gambling and blowing a lot of money etc. There are many reasons for someone to be ashamed of or be dishonest to their family. Some people have even been known to hide medical stuff, like very advanced cancer that doesn't have much of a chance of being cured etc. to keep things normal for as long as they can manage it, secretly planning their eventual death and the future of their family...

@mrlugh

2 жыл бұрын

@@fdm2155 Yah, i'm not sure i'd feel comfortable letting anyone use my workphone, with access to emails and other info.

The first story is clearly Prorevenge. Sure it's not as calculating and/or elaborate, but OP clearly ruined her ex's relationship with his entire family, possibly for life.

@kathyjoy5618

2 жыл бұрын

I'd consider sending an ex's sex tapes to his mother pro revenge.

@catkin567

2 жыл бұрын

Well the guy did that, not OP !

@nils920

2 жыл бұрын

@@catkin567 Yes she did, by exposing her ex's lies.

Eeeh, kinda wrong on the whole "if they're protective of their phone they're cheating." I mean sure, could be that their cheating but it could also be because they're planning a surprise or just because they're dealing with some stuff and talk to friends about it. One might argue that they'd take it up with their partner but sometimes it's easier to talk to a friend then with a partner.

@truthseeker9249

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah agreed. To me I'm in the middle. Someone being MORE protective of their phone than they usually are would send up a red flag and make me suspicious. But that doesn't mean I would automatically believe they're cheating on me. Me and my love have each other's phone passwords and he lets me have his phone to pick music in the car. We have no reason to keep our phones from each other so if he does it's probably for a good reason. Now if I really started to believe he was cheating I would talk to him and confront him GENTLY. I would just ask him point blank what's going on. And at that point it would be good for him to just say "I have a surprise for you" so that I understand. He doesn't have to tell me what he is. But if he tells me he is in fact planning something then I will understand where his weird behavior was coming from and I will leave him alone and wait for the surprise.

@Pyonamii0

2 жыл бұрын

he said suddenly secretive, not from the start, if it were then he wouldn't think of it as a problem since he'd think that person is a private person

@truthseeker9249

2 жыл бұрын

@@Pyonamii0 Yeah. It's all about whether or not it's a sudden change in behavior that you don't understand the reason behind.

@notimportant2605

2 жыл бұрын

@@Pyonamii0 Yeah, fair point.

@notimportant2605

2 жыл бұрын

@@truthseeker9249 I'd expect nothing less from someone with the name "truth seeker".

tbh I'm a person with anxiety who SERIOUSLY values my privacy. No matter how much I love someone, I am NOT giving them free access to my phone. Ever. It just makes me severely uncomfortable, especially with how little regard my family has given to my privacy growing up. A partner being protective of their phone is NOT a 100% sign that they're a cheater

@damitafrost4228

2 жыл бұрын

I think he means if it's a sudden change from not caring to overly caring. So if your partner knows this from the beginning, then not a problem.

@mxhollows2697

2 жыл бұрын

@@damitafrost4228 that's fair!

@Kynrasian

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, assuming that cheating is the only reason someone has for being defensive about their phone is pretty toxic. "If you have nothing to hide, then you have nothing to fear" is not a valid excuse, no matter how small the violation. Especially since plenty abusers will demand access to their partner's phone purely to establish some sort of perceived "dominance". It's true that being protective of a phone can be signs of cheating, but it's also true that insisting that your partner do something that they're uncomfortable with, without any justification other than a sense of entitlement to it, no matter what that something is, is abusive behaviour. You're essentially telling them that you get to decide when their boundaries matter. If someone did that to me, I'd be telling them under no uncertain terms, they can look at my phone, but no matter what they do or don't find, we're done. I will not spend the rest of my life with someone who's willing to treat their own partner as guilty until proven innocent.

First story reminded me of my ex and his mom. His mom supported and took my side anytime I had a disagreement with her son. When I told her we broke up and I found out he was cheating again, she told me I was the smartest bravest girl and would have loved for me to be her daughter in law. I miss her. She knew her son had issues, and tried to get him help but he was in his mindset that everyone is stupid and owes him everything. He’s one of those racist narcissist that tries to use white privilege for everything. Needless to say, I’m forever grateful for his mom, and I miss her dearly.

@vloggerbonakid6178

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, your ex sounds like he has...a mental issue that needs evaluating... I wonder if he saw his mom the same way he saw everyone else... At least you got out of that!

So, I feel bad for this, but despite the fact that I would NEVER cheat, I refuse to let other see my phone. I had a horrible past relationship where my ex would take my phone, find whatever personal information he could about my mental health or family issues and tell all of my friends and if I tried to take it back he would get physical. Now I don't even let my family touch my phone. The only person allowed to touch my phone that isn't me is my best friend and soul mate, even then it depends on the day

@truthseeker9249

2 жыл бұрын

Oh honey that's perfectly okay. And anyone you wind up with is just going to have to accept that about you. What you went through was traumatic and of course that would make it so you never let your phone out of your sight again. I've been through a lot and I have my triggers because of those things and my love is very understanding. He's heartbroken that I went through such awful things and totally understands why there are things I can't do and there are things that freak me out. Anyone who is truly in love with you will be the same way. And if anyone tries to make you feel bad about this, slap them across the face and tell them I told you to. 💙

@_shybear_7374

2 жыл бұрын

@@truthseeker9249 thank you, this makes me feel a lot better about this 🖤🖤🖤

@truthseeker9249

2 жыл бұрын

@@_shybear_7374 you're welcome. 💙💙💙

@xXMissRazXx

2 жыл бұрын

Same im really glad there is so many comments about the phone thing trauma sucks and those behaviors are hard to break

@truthseeker9249

2 жыл бұрын

@@xXMissRazXx Yeah sometimes Rslash is just way off with the advice he tries to give.

Story 4 + Comment: If someone is already sitting in a seat that you wanted, and you didn't reserve the seat (which isn't a thing in a cafe as far as I know), accept that it's already taken and *don't* make a fuss about it.

@Holychickendinner

Ай бұрын

Common sense 101. It's frustrating how many people seem to have missed that class.

Well, when your significant other starts being very protective of their phone, that typically means they are keeping a secret from you. That doesn’t ALWAYS mean they’re cheating on you, maybe they are planning a surprise party for your birthday, but most likely they are cheating on you.

“I’m going to tell your mom boyfriend!” “No please! Not me mommy!” In more serious news I heard from a teacher engagement and moving in are the most common points for cheating to begin

@kathyjoy5618

2 жыл бұрын

That's interesting I wouldn't have thought that.

@SuperBatSpider

2 жыл бұрын

@@kathyjoy5618 He didn’t tell me any sources but I believe him

@jacthing1

2 жыл бұрын

I wonder why

@SuperBatSpider

2 жыл бұрын

@@jacthing1 I think it’s because the other has shown they trust the person and they think they can get away with it.

@kathyjoy5618

2 жыл бұрын

@@SuperBatSpider The more I think about it, the more it makes sense. There could be a couple of factors. One it could be panic - now they've committed they start to feel trapped and so cheat. Or it could just be they're trying to trap OP and lull them into a false sense of security (OP even doubts their cheating for a while BECAUSE they proposed) and they can use that to gaslit them and hide behind, while still getting away with it.

That first story just put my mind in anger mode. Seriously, it sounded EXACTLY like my sister's ex. IN the beginning he was super sweet and caring to her. But over the years, he started showing a little bit of manipulative behavior. Whenever they would go on date night, it was his movie or he would complain until he got his way. If he wanted to go out to eat, he would complain until my sister gave in and went where he wanted to go. He would also leave little notes "Apologizing for what he did" instead of apologizing to her face. He always wanted to see her phone and who she was talking to and what they were talking about. But whenever she would ask to see his phone it was "None of her business" She got the picture pretty quickly and stopped letting him see her phone. After 5 years of being together, he proposed and she said yes. (This was before she saw all the red flags he was throwing at her) It just got worse from there. My sister and I sat down and she told me everything that she saw in him and what she didn't like and that she was getting fed up with his behavior. One day, they had a fight. The next morning, he left her a note saying things like "I understand if you want to break up with me, I don't deserve you. You could do better" My sister took that chance faster than you could sneeze. That evening she took him outside and they were out there for almost 2 hours and she came in and took me aside and said she broke up with him, that the engagement was off. He got kicked out soon after cause, who wants to live with their ex? He wasn't a good guy. He kept so many secrets from my sister like one time he lost his job, didn't tell my sister until rent was due and he couldn't pay, and they got kicked out. He didn't even try to look for a new job or anything, he just sat around at restaurants to make it look like he went out to work. He was the worst and I'm glad she broke up with him. We made the mistake of letting him stay with us a few years later when he said he needed a month to get back on his feet, he stayed 8 months, got into a car accident, tried to say he was too injured to move, and tried to stay longer. We kicked his ass out immediately. He literally had a small cut on his knee that needed a few stitches. Absolute man child.

@CharaDreemurr_TheyThem

2 жыл бұрын

My cheez- you could make that a post of its own-

Story 3: "She's not that loud, suck it up and deal with it" If everyone (some of which who are in work calls and not even actually _in the apartment)_ is saying she's loud, then she's _l o u d._

So happy that the family forces the cheater to be honest in the first story. Then holding him accountable online is so rare and I'm glad to hear it.

That last scammer story is glorious, if one day I have an opportunity like this, I will jump on it

"Controlling behaviour like this made me cheat" no you cheating made you cheat

1:57 to anyone in a similar situation, if your ex cheats it may not be a deal breaker, that's 100% up to you, but if they blame you for it they don't see you as an equal. I know it is hard to get away from an abusive SO sometimes, but just remember it is never your fault. Edit: on the off chance OP sees this, you are 100% the bigger person here. You tried to leave this behind you

I usually agree with all your takes but for the Phone R/Slash I dont let anyone check mine for the privacy of my friends. Cause what my friends tell me is no business to anyone since DM are private message not to be read by anyone and I don't cheat and love my gf but will never let her take my phone without my permission or let her check my dm's unless I show her.

@devak6698

2 жыл бұрын

For me it’s similar. I’m not in a relationship but I’m very protective of my phone. Partially bc of my friends telling me relatively private things that I don’t want others to see, but also from it reminding me of my dad randomly taking my phone to look through it. I never have anything bad but still :/

My husband became weirdly protective of his phone a couple years ago and I got slightly suspicious, but when I accidentally saw a message when he was in the shower, the secrecy was that he had commissioned a piece of art for my birthday in a few weeks and they were going back and forth by text about details. The art piece is perfect BTW.

"to quote rslash" automatically best part of the entire video

Great reminder to never ignore the red flags of an abusive partner. I've never been in an official relationship, but having read so many stories of abused people's toxic partners I could easily catch on to their suspiciousness since they always follow similar patterns. Self-importance, secretiveness, psychological manipulation and verbal aggression are just a few of the many traits these walking warning sirens displays initially - cheating and/or physical abuse are just the later stages of their personalities once they believe they've got you fully under their control.

The phone thing isn’t necessarily true always. As a general rule I typically don’t like people using my phone and I’ve sure as hell never cheated on anyone.

How can you claim your fuggin isn't loud if not only the people in the other room can hear them but even the person they're in a call with can? But best wake up call OP could've made.

The Hello Kitty story... they should've taken lots and lots of selfies 😂

@adelinaprentice4703

2 жыл бұрын

That's what I wanted it to be, with all the people in line behind them laughing and smiling lol

@whyamihere1563

2 жыл бұрын

@@adelinaprentice4703 exactly! A group selfie! 😂

When I was young and making my first forray into dating, my mother would force me to leave my phone in a basket when I went to bed, that is until I learned she was taking it in the night to comb through my texts, along with numerous other invasions of privacy, a stepfather smashing in my locked bedroom door while I slept. Etc etc. Ever since then I've been protective of my phone and privacy by default, privacy is extremely valuable, I was forced to relinquish it as a child and as an adult I refuse to part with it. If that makes me a cheater then I guess I'll have to inform my boyfriend of 7 years

story 1 reminded me of a relationship I was in a long time ago. nowadays you would call it toxic. my gf was getting text messages on her phone all the time and I suspected them coming from her ex. a number of times I went to look at her phone (not proud of it) and surely I found the messages about secret meetings, telling each other 'I love you' and stuff. multiple times I confronted her about it, she yelled at me for disrespecting her privacy and stuff and... to my everlasting shame I apologized and things just continued. took a while for me to get out of that thing.

I love the scammer story. Nothing better than seeing a scammer get scammed.

My BF was going to use my phone one day and I snatched it away. He got suspicious and I immediately told him "you're about to use YT, I have my video already there" I added a new tab and handed it back. No way was I gonna forget which Rslash AITA I was on lol. We both laughed.

The police won't show up to move someone's seat, that's why you call to have them removed altogether for trespassing. That worker was lazy, spineless or both. Failure to comply with staff if grounds for removal in any public transportation setting.

4:31 when you’re grandmother is mad at you you know you’ve done something really wrong

OP was lucky her ex's mom wasn't a Karen. "How DARE you cheat on my baaaaaay-beeeeee?!"

I want to believe that cheating bf's abused conscience kicked into gear and he told his mom the gf was the cheater in a subconscious hope that the gf would respond exactly as she did. Maybe some part of mom's efforts to raise him decently lived on inside his rotten soul. He's probably just that big a douche though.

I was starting to wonder how the 3rd guy would get his revenge, but then the audio recording happened

@elysiasfield9828

2 жыл бұрын

I just hope he had talked to both of them and not only the dude otherwise that woman just received a public shaming!

@mostar1219

2 жыл бұрын

@@elysiasfield9828 he talked to the dude and the dude brushed him off

@elysiasfield9828

2 жыл бұрын

@@mostar1219 yeah I know but the question is whether she was aware of the issue or if she was blindsided at breakfast !?

@GReaper

2 жыл бұрын

@@elysiasfield9828 doesn't really matter... lol. She's the "guest" in the home (pretty sure she wasn't on a lease like the OP and her BF should be), he's responsible for her actions and how they affect the rest of the household.

@elysiasfield9828

2 жыл бұрын

@@GReaper For your sake I pray you never do anything as a guest that could be considered as a shameful act and have it be the breakfast topic of choice without it first being brought to YOUR notice first!

First story was by no means petty, it qualifies as nuclear imo

I know this is an old post, but I did want to point this out: It's not always cheating when you become over protective of your phone. It can also happens in toxic relationships. My ex used to have full access to my phone, though the same privilege was not two-way, her excuse was due to her ex cheating on her. The problem? 1) I ran my entire business and work contacts from my phone (who doesn't have to use a phone for work?) 2) I had YEARS of history on my phone. Fights broke out often over her finding stuff all the time. I never cheated, but she would find problems with interaction between family members from decades before we even met, or customers and business contact. It became a serious problem when she started to delete business contacts, and messages, outright blocking people she didn't know, DELETING DOCUMENTS THAT I CANNOT RECOVER! And then she gets pissed at me because I became protective of my phone, because I was dealing with legal issues CAUSED BY HER. I should have left that toxic relationship long before that, but love makes you stupid, and I wanted to make the relationship work. I had a lot of problems, ADHD being one of them, and making relationships is incredibly difficult for me, so I thought that was the best I was going to be able to achieve. I see now that in all honesty, If that's the best I can get, I have a MUCH better life being alone, and single.

6:45 I'm sorry to have to say this, but no a person trying to be protective of their phone is not a proof of cheating. At most it's an indication. I specifilcally am very protective of my phone due to the fact that I have some very sensitive information from other people on there. And no a your partner should not automatically get to know everything other people specifficaly told you! Also there can be other reasons for behaviour like this, like e.g. Mental Illness. Sorry for the rant but to say something like this is pretty dangerous!

@squidsofty8507

2 жыл бұрын

But you missed the fact that that’s just your inherent quality. You would always be protective of your phone, unlike OP’s boyfriend, who only became protective of his phone DURING the relationship/engagement.

I will admit, I used to get a little protective of my phone if I had fanfics up....

@JediLadyMisty

2 жыл бұрын

My husband knows my passcode and the iPad is synced to my phone and iPod which shares my favorites which includes some interesting fan fics and main pages for certain kinds of fics; nothing dirty just would be a bit embarrassing

@brittnt

2 жыл бұрын

@@JediLadyMisty lol yeah, nothing dirty on my end, either. Just when we first started dating I didn't want him to know just yet I liked to read that sort of thing, and one day when he grabbed my phone to look something up I made a face and he knew something was up. He knows now I read it, just not what type.

Rslash: says anyone who gets protective of their phone is cheating Me, with severe ocd and control issues: 🤷‍♂️ guess I'll cheat

I gotta say. Right now I'm being a bit protective of my phone and messages specifically because I'm setting a surprise party for SO. It's not always cheating.

Never protect the cheater. Never cover for the cheater.

Rslash the king of old stories

The other day I got a phone call claiming that my credit card info had been stolen. Funnily enough, when I said that I wanted to talk to my bank about it and asked the guy, who supposedly represented all the major banks in my country, which bank I was with, he hung up on me... I suspected it was a scam from the start, but it never hurts to make sure it's not for real. If it's for real, there's two things you can look out for: 1. They address you by name. 2. They tell you specifically who they're representing, and that company is actually one you do business with. A telco I don't have a plan with ringing me up about a late bill is either a scam or mixed records.

I'm personally very private/protective with my phone, likely because I had very little privacy growing up. My childhood room had no door, the room I had through my teenage years became the only pathway to the ONE bathroom in our house. And the room I had while living with my mom and her new family the door didn't have a working lock. *None* of the doors in that house had working locks. Mom's stepson walked in on me *twice* and went crying to his dad that I yelled at him and he ACTUALLY BACKED THE KID UP. A lot of people who seem overly private or protective of their space usually grew up with little to no privacy themselves. It doesn't mean they're cheating if they're protective of their phones.

It OFTEN means that someone is cheating if they get super protective of their phones. It could also mean they bought you a gift, are throwing you a surprise party, or other types of things that they wouldn't want you to know that are harmless and sweet.

That first story belongs in Nuclear Revenge. That guy is an awful person and I’m glad OP didn’t marry him.

@ShadowReignhart

2 жыл бұрын

Nah, if it was nuclear, karma would have put the guy in jail, or ruin him financially. But OP did get the best revenge, becoming happier than ever while he became a miserable sack of crap.

@kathyjoy5618

2 жыл бұрын

@@ShadowReignhart Yup sometimes the best revenge is living well.

I've seen a few stories in the comments about the phone thing, and I'm just glad I'm not the only one who thinks this. Hiding the phone doesn't always mean cheating. Sure, it's a good indication. But sometimes, it means that the person just doesn't want to be judged for whatever they have.

mama's boy: cheats OP, woman he cheated on: tells ex-bf's mom mama's boy, crying like a toddler: hey :( that's not fair :(

I absolutely love it when rSlash gets a shout out in his story.

I'd warn about saying "always" cuz I can think of plenty of reasons why my family would hide our phones from each other, mainly surprise birthday parties or trips. I did accidentally spoil myself for a surprise show they were gonna take us to, and I can see my husband doing the same for me 100%

Here's the thing about RSalash's phone comment. Lots of people are protective of their phone and it's no indication of cheating. The red flag is when it's a new behavior. They used to leave the phone laying around or they would set it down face up, but they suddenly start carrying it with them everywhere, and facing the screen away from you. Also, when there's an angry reaction to questions about this behavior, calling it controlling and gaslighting you for your concern.

first story: i agree with you up until the end OP. being attached to your phone doesn't always equal cheating. I have horrendous anxiety (diagnosed and medicated) and my phone has become a bit of a security blanket. I flip through apps, scroll aimlessly, etc almost constantly, especially in public. when someone takes my phone is like there's a pit in my stomach. Im not a cheater, I just need my security blanket to interact with humans

It’s always funny when RSlash is mentioned in a Reddit post. It definitely shows how long he’s been doing this and how respected he is! I hope that OP watches this video to laugh at how crazy it is.

@artemisiapura5178

2 жыл бұрын

He did! He’s in the comment section as ‘A Nonymous’ and is glad he could cross it off the bucket list!

"If your SO is being overly protective of their phone, I'm sorry. They're cheating on you." It's not always cheating. Sometimes it's a surprise. Sometimes it's crime. No need to be judgmental.

2nd story - For anyone wondering, train from Edinburgh to London take over 4 hours. Glad OP went to 1st Class section instead of standing up for possibly whole journey!

There are very few times I’m protective of my phone. Normally I don’t care what my SO does with my phone other than like “what are you doing?” “Idk it’s there so I picked it up” “I need that for notes can I have it back?” “Oh yeah sorry here” There was one week where I protectively kept my phone on me and wouldn’t let him see it and held it whenever I showed him something and wouldn’t let him take it. He didn’t really notice, but I was being kind of secretive. And the reason why? I didn’t want him to see the engagement ring I bought him or see the poem I wrote to propose. ONLY time I’ve ever hid something on my phone from him. (And of course never cheated, obviously.)

I have had several times my better half got concerned about how I was being secretive, only for her to spoil her surprise. Lol

That rSlash callout in the third story was amazing. :D

when the man quoted Rslash I just about died laughing

Something I'm terrified of is if I date someone and they accuse me of cheating because I HATE people going through my stuff, I don't have anything bad on there other then some personal vent art, but that's basically it.

I used to be protective of my phone in relationships after leaving an abusive situation where my ex would take my phone and use every google search, comment, web history, anything as ways to verbally abuse me. So, not all cases, but a lot of cases for sure.

I got super protective over my phone and my boyfriend of course got suspicious. I’m glad he waited out because I was ring shopping.

As someone who has some severe Trauma from parents being incredibly invasive, I'm VERY protective of my phone to the point that I don't let my wife, the love of my life, who I could never think of betraying, near my phone 99.9% of the time. Being protective of one's phone is NOT always cheating. Sometimes it's a trauma response from past invasive behavior from supposedly trusted people.

@kathyjoy5618

2 жыл бұрын

I think the key points that were missed missed were: 1. They suddenly become protective where they weren't before. 2. It is a sustained protectiveness. Even then, it's a red flag for a problem which may or may not be cheating. It might be a drug addiction, for example.

story 1: The very reason people like the bf propose marriage is to convince you that you're the only one when in fact, they've been cheating all along. It's purely to throw you off the scent in those cases.

Open my phone at break and see this.. perfect!! Thank you

First story: I really want to know the father's like of thought.. like "well, I cheated on WIFE but at least I took the consequences of it like a real man, not blame it on my wife"

@GReaper

2 жыл бұрын

That's probably the real reason why father was disappointed: not that son cheated, but that he didn't own it.

First story: I don't want to get too specific, but I know an elderly lady who, decades later, is still in regular contact with a relative's ex and her children, but no longer with him... 😉

I really feel for the OP who's boyfriend cheat on her same as his father. My sister's ex-husband also cheated on her hiding his phone going on so-called business trips which he wasn't really on business for. Just hooking up with different women. But his father also cheated on his mother which you would have thought how it broke his mother's heart he would bow not to do that but, as the old saying goes, the apple don't fall far from the tree.

Karen Blocking: This former server salutes you, OP! Well played.

That scammer one is a pro move, lmao, play the old uno reverse card 😂

Ah the start of my day, wake up and watch rslash

I had a boyfriend when I was younger (15/16) and he was my 2nd long term boyfriend. We dated for a little over a year. After the year marker he got protective over his phone, so one day when he came to sleep over he broke down crying saying he kissed my friend and that he was so sorry he cheated. He then went to the toilet and I thought no way is that it. Of course I was right, I snooped on his phone and he was flirting with another girl and was planning to meet her to "passionately hug" her. When he came back from the toilet and saw me on his phone he went ghost white. I stupidly decided to give him a chance and since it went down hill day after day we broke up a week later. I once bumped into him and he denied ever cheating on me and said I was the one cheating on him 🙄 Saw him recently too. He looked super depressed and asked me to meet up with him. Yeah. No.

That last story sure made me giggle!

I can think of a single other reason why a man or woman in a relationship would become very protective of their phone. Aside from being a cheater. That reason is when they are planning a surprise for their partner which would be worthless if discovered prematurely. A story that comes to mind is a guy who wanted to propose to his girlfriend and asked the gf's sister for her assistance in choosing a ring. That sister came over a couple of times when the gf was out of the house to discuss several ring options. The bf used his phone on several occasions to check stores and prices so he started to hide it away to avoid spoiling the surprise. However at one point the neighbor told the gf that a "random" woman came over on several occasions when the gf was away. And that woman and the bf had been seen hugging every time the woman left. The gf connected that to the phone hiding and secretive behaviour and concluded he was cheating on her. Which from her perspective seemed to be very accurate. And I can't blaim the neighbor either. But both couldn't been more wrong here. So all I'm trying to say here is, don't immediately connect someone being secretive with their phone as them having an affair. Because something entirely different might be going on.

7:05 Anyone from Scotland cringed when he said Edinburgh.

It's so scary how people can change so quickly 😭 especially after getting married or engaged

That last story is pure genius!

Idek on phone protectiveness. Granted I'm single but like... I might lend my phone for a bit, but I would feel uncomfortable with someone going through all my stuff. Have been around some pretty controlling and critical people, so even if it's something like 'enjoys artwork'/'occasionally does word games'/'doesn't delete old texts often enough'/'has creative writing stored in notes' I get anxious. It gives me the feeling of someone going through a sketchbook without permission. I just like having some privacy free of judgment.

Hey that cash app trick was nice. I'll have to eye it in my next obvious wannabe scammer

That first story reminds me of a situation my parents are going through. My dad cheated on my mom multiple times but the most recent one (which caused them to start getting a divorce) was the absolute worst. My mother is a villa attendant and while she was off the island trying to get her personal trainers certificate, my father took her car and drove out his "horna woman" He treated her to food and even took her to the villa that my mother works at to "do the deed" and my mom caught them in the act flipped her shit and beat the two of them senseless. His entire side of the family blames her and hates her because she beat his ass. It's really freaking awkward cause we still live in the same house because we have nowhere else to go and he's threatened to kick us out on multiple occasions, knowing fully welll that we have no where to go, and now he says that my sister and I are playing victim and taking our mothers side. He's threatened our lives and the lives of my mother and her new boyfriend. Unfortunately we still live in the same house but he doesn't talk to us and his side of the family has completely cut us off

that's uh.. that's a little more than 'telling' the mom that he was cheating lol

It’s funny how the pot is talking to the kettle. The father cheated and he has the gull to lecture his son. The Apple never truly falls too far from the tree

@GoldenSunAlex

2 жыл бұрын

Could be different circumstances which makes him less scummy. Most likely the father cheated, but then didn't go and tell his family it was his wife who cheated.

@mrmarker98

2 жыл бұрын

OP said that the father was disappointed in his son. That signifies that he had admitted he made a mistake, and didn't want his son to make the same one & hurt someone.

@joshdillon9637

2 жыл бұрын

That doesn't mean he shouldn't tell his son about what he learned about it. Isn't parenting about trying to raise your kids to be better than you are?

@kathyjoy5618

2 жыл бұрын

In the original Reddit post I'm sure the OP also said that the step mum is the woman the dad cheated with. So 'the other woman' is mad at him is super hypocritical, but I guess you know you effed up if the other woman is disappointed in you.

It’s nice to wake up to Rslash

@ihavenosoul8998

2 жыл бұрын

Ikr

@Lazeylemonshark

2 жыл бұрын

True dat

Being protective of one's phone is not a guarantee of cheating. I flat out refuse to let others get ahold of my phone due to having my privacy violated growing up and spyware installed on all of my devices by my sperm donor. I legit have trauma over that, so no one unless I allow them on my terms is touching ANY of my electronics

Just a note for others who are thinking of scamming a scammer. It is illegal. Be careful.

@lacko623

2 жыл бұрын

Well to be fair, the scammer tried it first, they just fell into their own trap. If they were to go to the police, they would out themselves too.

@GReaper

2 жыл бұрын

@@lacko623 yeah, M.A.D. is the way to go in these cases. Except they have a LOT more to lose, and you aren't worth it at that point.