Wait a minute, the kid is 10!? That is old enough to know better than to put an animal in a plastic bag!

@annika5893

6 ай бұрын

The kid sure knows how to persuade people to change their minds. Cussing OP out in a video is an excellent way to convince everyone that the kid will be responsible around a young puppy.

@Sailorguardianluna

6 ай бұрын

Seriously. I can remember learning in kindergarten that you don't put animals in plastic bags and have never done it once in the last 20 years! If a 5 year old can understand that, a 10 certainly can.

@GamerGrovyle

6 ай бұрын

That was my thought too when RSlash considered giving OP a butthole score. Ten years old is old enough to know not to stuff a puppy in a plastic bag.

@ig_4220

6 ай бұрын

Literally what live action Cruella De Ville said to do with the puppies before flipping her shit

@Fenrir152

6 ай бұрын

I had the same reaction when Rslash reminded us of that fact... holy hell. I would expect that behavior from a toddler (not knowing better), but a 10yo?!?

A *10 year old* was unable to understand that puppies need their mother and had a tantrum because he didn’t get what he wanted immediately? Talk about needing to grow up…

@ManlyStump

6 ай бұрын

Not only that, but unable to understand a puppy would need oxygen!!

@lorilancaster5917

6 ай бұрын

@@ManlyStumpand I bet he has nothing at home to be prepared for a puppy.

@ManlyStump

6 ай бұрын

@@lorilancaster5917Yeah, I bet you're right.

@It-is-me...Melsie

6 ай бұрын

@@lorilancaster5917 And that shows that his parents are not responsible enough to take care of a dog properly. The animal is ultimately the adults responsibility.

@llamaniaman4002

6 ай бұрын

⁠​⁠@@lorilancaster5917 Yeah, he 100% sees puppies as toys. Not as a commitment and a, y'know, literal living being. That dog wouldn't survive a month in his "care", and if it did, it would run away the first chance it got. He's a spoiled brat and most likely just screams in order to get what he wants. And the fact his mom records him crying and calling his own aunt mean names in order to guilt trip said aunt proves that. I hope OP decides not to be an enabler and risk that dog's life to keep some dumb promise. Hopefully he somehow grows up to be a respectable person, even with the shitty "parenting" he's getting.

Contact the guests and say "My sister is in a wheelchair and is VERY self conscious about it, so please dont ask her about it or bring attention to it."

@melissaconnellyjones2622

6 ай бұрын

Lmbo! I love it! 😂😂😂

@jeanmck1577

6 ай бұрын

Genius 😂

@bibigamer502

6 ай бұрын

Good way to counter act the attention seeking she was doing

@franciscolaurean8550

6 ай бұрын

Big brain time

@trumediamix1

6 ай бұрын

*_《Mission Failed Successfully!》_*

That kid is not ready for a goldfish, much less a puppy. I wouldn’t trust him to raise weeds in a garden even with his mom around.

@breezy3392

6 ай бұрын

Especially with a mother like that

@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64

6 ай бұрын

Tbf goldfish aren’t easy to care for, they require quite a bit of maintenance.

@DarkestFIameMaster

6 ай бұрын

​@@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64yeah a ton of people think a small bowl is enough. Smh my head

@GiordanDiodato

6 ай бұрын

I wouldn't even trust him with a tarantula

@fnvfan0145

6 ай бұрын

​@@DarkestFIameMaster I blame movies and TV.

1st: As a dude in a wheelchair, I can guarantee that the only reason why you WOULDN’T tell someone until the last minute is because you wanna steal the spotlight, there is literally no other reason why. That is what I call a terrible sister. Story 3: “Sad Beige Baby” is not an insult, it’s a joke. If I got offended by someone calling me a “Sad Beige Baby”, then I would probably get offended about anything else that even remotely sounds like an insult.

@wmdkitty

6 ай бұрын

Yeah, OP is a terrible sister.

@balorth

6 ай бұрын

​@wmdkitty what are you talking about? Op is not a terrible sister

@chanterelle483

6 ай бұрын

My guess is, the OP's sister knows that the beige esthetic isn't good for the baby and feels guilty about it, hence the overreaction.

@minnarosenqvistmr

6 ай бұрын

​@@chanterelle483 i totally agree.. her reaction was so over the top, that I guess people have been calling her out on it . Kids can't live in a beige world, they should have colourful things and be around color..

Story 2: For the love of God, do not give that brat a puppy or any animal. Especially with a mother who takes no responsibility and just lets him do whatever. They cannot be trusted

@lorilancaster5917

6 ай бұрын

They will dump any pet on the road far from home whenever they get bored with it.

I've seen 6-year-olds be more responsible with a pet's offspring. That Dion kid is not just unfit to own a pet. He sounds like a sociopath in the making.

@Fenronin

6 ай бұрын

Ok stop trying to use words you don't understand this have nothing to do with sociopathy but clearly there's a problem with his education and the mom does not seem to care

@RiveroftheWither

6 ай бұрын

It sounds like he's confusing animals for toys which is a failing of his mom. She seems to be teaching the "It's just a stupid animal!" kind of attitude and those people should never be near animals of any kind. They're the same kind of people that hit dogs for not behaving, forget to feed their fish for week and keep their cockatiel in a tiny cage, screaming at it to shut up.

@myy1008

6 ай бұрын

stop defending the kid@@Fenronin

@DeanDraxon8752

6 ай бұрын

@@myy1008they’re not defending the kid, they’re telling people not to stigmatize very real mental disorders. Armchair diagnosing a 10 year old because of one story is not it.

@lorilancaster5917

6 ай бұрын

At this point, he can’t even handle a pet rock. I really hope no one in OPs family has a key to her place because I can see sister and Dion breaking in and taking a puppy or two

Sad beige babies: thing is it's not just an aesthetic for parents, studies show that babies need primary colours and CONTRAST to develop proper visual processing. Aka beige aesthetics are directly harming child brain development! It's not cute, it's sad, and at best child neglect by stunting their brain development, possibly permanently even There's a reason baby toys come in bright primary colours ffs

@Simipourfangirl

6 ай бұрын

Beige clothing only makes me think that the mom is getting her kid ready for those schools that have beige school uniforms.

@niyanna

6 ай бұрын

The aesthetic its self isnt harmful because the parents have colorful toys and other stuff for their baby. Some people just go too far and dont give their kids any color. Thats why its called "sad beige baby" its a satire aesthetic and people know that kids need color. Same with the goth baby trend, the parent give them colorful toys to play with. Hope this maske you feel better.

@honeybelle1203

6 ай бұрын

@@niyannaIs there something in the post that we may have missed that mentioned this being the case here? I don't doubt that there are parents who may decorate this way, but provide the usual colourful toys and enrichment to compensate. But I don't recall anything in the post itself that mentions them doing so.

@katashworth41

6 ай бұрын

I’m so jealous of some of the clothes my nieces have, sadly they don’t make guinea pig dungarees (overalls) in adult sizes. I don’t even wear dresses and I’m jealous of her zebra dress.

@WolfgangDoW

4 ай бұрын

@@honeybelle1203 sad beige mums will repaint colourful toys to beige too, and not allow their kid to see any colour

Story 2: OMG! Excuse me?! Op, you are NTA. The kid's 10, definitely old enough to know better. Plus, who puts a puppy, or any animal, IN A PLASTIC BAG?! OP, definitely do NOT give this kid, or his mother, a puppy! If you give him anything, especially a puppy, after that incident, he's most likely gonna think he could have whatever he wants no matter how badly he behaves! Also, his mother is encouraging this! Also, filming your child crying to guilt-trip somebody into getting your way is absolutely stupid, and she is a terrible mother!

@Emeraldwitch30

6 ай бұрын

When a stray cat had kittens at my house my 2 1/2 year old grandson knows better how to treat babies. He'd watch and watch and finally he he said. I can hold one? I be gentle gentle grammy. Pees! He was so careful and sat on the couch holding 2 of the babies in his lap. Lightly touching and saying gentle gentle tge whole time like a montra lol The mommy came over with a third kitten and laid down on his lap to feed the 3 kittens. My grandsons eyes were huge and round, and he sat so still. But I will say I wouldn't have moved an inch while they were in his lap You still should watch children and baby animals. Things cam go so wrong so quick lol The momma and one kitten still live with us.

@RudesMom

6 ай бұрын

This also seems to be premeditated on the kid's part. He just "happened" to have a plastic bag to stuff the puppy in? He either brought it with him or went looking through OP's stuff looking for one.

Story 3: OP was not insulting the toddler, she was describing the toddler in a humorous way because he happened to be a literal sad baby wearing beige. She wasn't insulting anyone, she just found the humor in that moment. I do think she should have explained that she didn't mean it as an insult, she just found it a funny coincidence.

@lorilancaster5917

6 ай бұрын

Unfortunately though the damage was done as soon as she heard OP say it. No reasoning would get through to her

@fdm2155

6 ай бұрын

But the brother did explain it was from an online meme or whatever. The sister just seems to be ridiculously sensitive that people are mocking her beige/white obsession. LMAO

@AniaSchutzengel

6 ай бұрын

It's so normal to do joke baby voice things where you talk about a baby being sad or grumpy I don't know how that could possibly be an insult

@Anyamaris99

6 ай бұрын

Agreed, this is just being funny and cute.....no butthole score is deserved for the OP...

@brad7864

6 ай бұрын

​@@fdm2155the mommy blog post she sent were the cherry. She doesn't want an apology, she wants validation on her decorating. She's just mad everyone thinks she's boring because beige.

The first story is a lose lose situation. OP needs to choose what she feels is the lesser of two evils.

@unorthodoxpeach

6 ай бұрын

The best lose would probably be to casually mention how worried she is about her sister being in a wheelchair to the rest of the family before the wedding.

@PetiteMinina

6 ай бұрын

I'd just make a public post saying "how happy I'll be my sister will be there with me even though she'll be in a wheelchair" or something like that and boom everybody now knows so it won't be a surprise at the wedding anymore lol

@zeoclash

6 ай бұрын

It does seem the sister wants to overshadow op since it happens every single time!!!

@GamerGrovyle

6 ай бұрын

​@@PetiteMinina*I am so glad that my Sister is willing to attend my wedding despite her returning growths and being wheelchair bound. It is a testament to her strength of will to push herself into a taxing situation despite her physical issues. I

@niizzy7485

6 ай бұрын

Likely impossible but cancelling the wedding and announcing it was because of the sister now being in a wheelchair sounds like the best solution

Wait the kid Literally put a puppy in a Plastic bag? Bloody hell! That kid is definitely not ready for a dog and judging by his impatience, I don't think he'll ever be ready.

@Simipourfangirl

6 ай бұрын

Unfortunately if this is how his mom reacts to learning he did that, she will probably give the kid a dog/ puppy anyways.

Story number 3 she wasn't insulting the baby..... What are you talking about rslash? This time it's a simple joke. And as someone who has been told that I'm too soft and weak for not laughing at edgy jokes told at the wrong place and time, this isn't one of those moments. And no, I'm not calling you or anyone who disagrees that op shouldn't get an ah score soft. I only brought that up so people don't think I'm the kind of person who calls everyone too sensitive or something.

@jeanmck1577

6 ай бұрын

I don't think he has seen the videos so doesn't get the joke.

@malachieclipse9507

6 ай бұрын

@@jeanmck1577i haven’t seen the videos and i think its funny as heck either way😂, it sounds like she was insecure about it and she took it out on them

@Simipourfangirl

6 ай бұрын

@@jeanmck1577 I haven't seen the video either (I don't like tiktok) and even I think she over reacted. as for me, I think that video would get on my nerves and find it annoying.

There is no way that a 10 year old did that on accident! And he threw a tantrum? At 10 years old? That kid needs therapy.

@lorilancaster5917

6 ай бұрын

And a kick in the pants

@annied1827

6 ай бұрын

I agree with you on this. Our dog had 2 pups 14 years ago, and both my kids were very young, younger than him, and my daughter has learning disabilities yet they knew how to treat the puppies, they both knew how to respect and look after animals and we had many animals including a cat, hedgehogs, over 20 rabbits as we showed them and snakes and my kids knew how to not only look after them but also how to treat them. So in my eyes this kid had zero excuses for his behaviour and I wouldn't trust him with a puppy too, I wouldnt trust him with any pet 😊

“Sad Beige Baby” is not an insult. If I heard that, I’d assume it was an in joke of some kind. When people are playing with babies I’d assume it’s normal to jokingly call them “sad” or “stinky”. If it was something like “ugly beige baby”, I’d agree with you cause THAT is needlessly insulting.

@TransIsBest

6 ай бұрын

Especially when the baby did look sad and was wearing beige... it was a comment on how the baby exactly looked in that moment. Idk why rSlash thinks that's insulting

@ZoeNycole

6 ай бұрын

Literally. I can’t believe that’s the stance he took lmao

@QuayHollywood

6 ай бұрын

Like op just pointed out his beige sweater and the baby made a exaggerated sad face so she made a joke. The toddler obviously doesn't like the sweater but was playing with his aunt and liked it

@Memyx

6 ай бұрын

The mom's also crazy and needs to stop forcing her aesthetic on her family. 😅

@spidrscared84

6 ай бұрын

Yeah I didn’t understand how it was an insult. If it’s a thing on TikTok then that’s all you’re referencing. It’s not like OP was making a diagnosis on the baby or judging them or mocking its personality. What if it was shabby chic or steampunk ??? Butt hurt ppl always have to start drama

Wedding story: Instead of looking to the new husband to blame, I would be looking at the OP for not shutting this down long ago. The MOMENT they began to bombard OP with demands of the Aunts family coming, that was the time to uninvited her. If the mom insists on stepping over her boundaries, then she gets kicked too. End of discussion. Then security gets hired to make sure no uninvited guests show up.

@DragonbornMike-ym2er

6 ай бұрын

100% If the roles were reversed, the husband would be getting called pathetic for letting his family walk all over him and his marriage/wedding events.

@xeedflarian9748

6 ай бұрын

Someone mentioned the husband is South African and op is French, they could be fighting in French and he doesn't speak it.

@akl2k7

6 ай бұрын

Yeah, it was OP's family. She gets to deal with it. The hipusband was probably busy somewhere else anyway, since he isn't mentioned.

The only reason why beige baby's mom reacted that way is because she doesn't have a personality outside of that aesthetic... That's the case for everyone who builds their personality around a social media niche. OP is in no way NTA.

@WolfgangDoW

6 ай бұрын

Studies also show that babies need primary colours and CONTRAST to develop proper visual processing. Aka beige aesthetics are directly harming child brain development! It's not cute, it's sad, and at best child neglect by stunting their brain development, possibly permanently even There's a reason baby toys come in bright primary colours ffs

@Human-kb6xc

6 ай бұрын

This! Anyone who embraces the "sad beige" aesthetic, from what I've seen, only care about looks. Sorry, I wouldn't want my home to look like a museum.

@niyanna

6 ай бұрын

​@@Human-kb6xclooks is the main part of aesthetic. By your logic anyone who embraces any aesthetic only cares about looks. The only thing bad about the sad beige baby aesthetic is the people who dont use it for satire and actually dont let their children have colorful things. Most beige parents have colorful things for their kids just in a seperate room or just not in videos. Same for goth babies. So just having an aesthetic isnt bad, its when people take it too far.

@fuxay9289

6 ай бұрын

Make more assumptions, it makes you look smart

@chillzone44

6 ай бұрын

I agree with you! Liking a certain style is fine but some of these people act like they don't need any other substance as a person. Apparently this trend has sparked controversy between childhood specialists and the parents who embrace the style. I am of the opinion that children need colors and textures to grow into healthy people though.

My fiancee (Lebanese) and I (Russian) are planning a wedding. Immediately both sides of the family independently said that they'll pay, the wedding MUST be in Russia/Lebanon (both warzones with frequent drone strikes) and 500 people we never heard of must be invited. So my fiancee and I decided to pay for the wedding ourselves and have it in 3rd country, which both insures a small circle of people (only closest family and friends would travel, and our funds only go this far) and our full control over the planning. I'm sure we haven't heard the end of it, but we are firm. Why everyone always try to use SOMEONE ELSE'S wedding to stroke their egos I'll never understand. So, from my perspecrive, not the butthole for stories 1 and 4.

@Tesis

6 ай бұрын

We are doing the same thing. My family would never force us to get more ppl invited but his very well might - if you look at example of his brother’s wedding which was just recently. Plus my family cannot easily get visas to his home country and it would be too expensive to fly, same with his family to my country - so we chose 3rd country. Ps. With the way things are happening in the world I started worrying that our country of choice might also get pulled into conflict by the time of the wedding (in 1 year and 2 months) but… other choices are not better in that way 😅 In which country do you plan yours? We are planning in Georgia.

@kod-s

6 ай бұрын

@@Tesis we chose Dubai, it is kind of in the middle and also one of a few countries left where both Russians and Arabs are still allowed. 🤣

Story 2: NTA. You made that promise on the assumption that he was mature enough to look after a puppy. He has shown otherwise

@zachary6425

6 ай бұрын

Yea, like who the hell puts a puppy in a plastic bag? Like the kid is ten old enough to know not to do that.

@RisingRevengeance

6 ай бұрын

I think he expected more from his sister too. Like she's the adult there and expected to care for the animal but he probably realized she just wouldnt.

Rslash...10 is old enough to know how to treat a little pup better. They werent that far away, literally in the same house...op did nothing wrong. Dion obviously has a couple screws loose that thankfully have been brought to light now before they got too far

@Simipourfangirl

6 ай бұрын

Yeah I had to do a re-read after that. I assumed the kid was 5 or something. Ten year olds are definitely old enough to know not to put a living animal in a plastic bag.

@DragonbornMike-ym2er

6 ай бұрын

10 years old SHOULD be old enough to know better. But that's not always the case. Sometimes kids are stupid when you expect them to be smart or vice versa. Not to mention, accidents can still happen, and with puppies that young and small, I'd be really worried about something happening. Granted, alot of that is easier to say with hindsight.

@nightlypumpkins4059

6 ай бұрын

When I was 10 years old I’d watch my aunt’s puppies (she’s a breeder) when she wasn’t home, 10 year olds definitely should know better than that. Not OP’s fault. While I do understand that there is a difference in the maturity of children, 10 is still old enough to understand not to put a puppy in a plastic bag nor try to STEAL a puppy.

@evellior

6 ай бұрын

Strong disagree. I don't think it's that all 10yo's are irresponsible, but you're a bad person if you don't stay with the child to observe (and teach) them until they've earned enough trust to be left alone with then. You can leave a 10yo with puppies after they've shown an acceptable level of responsibility. The issue is only when you do it without taking any precautions first.

Story 5: Yeah, who would make all these comparisons and stuff? My extended family bought stuff from a simple puzzle to whole bottles of various alcohol and nobody cared about the expenses. OP did what she did to AVOID being dragged into the argument yet it happened anyway. She can't win!

@RisingRevengeance

6 ай бұрын

For real. We're talking about adults here right? Most of us have learned that life isn't always fair and to appreciate the gifts we get.

Sad beige baby isn’t an insult, and I read that OP mentioned in an edit that she was not directing anything to her sister

I was about 10 when my poodle mix had puppies. She chased us away from the den she dug in the yard, but when my mom came home, she ran to get my mom and happily showed off her litter. I was jealous as hell lol. My dog only let us kids see the newborns with adult supervision until the pups were old enough to explore.

Her refusing to tell anyone before the wedding gets in the way of her stealing your spotlight

@lorilancaster5917

6 ай бұрын

And by no one coming forward, it was sister and mother’s intention to yet again use an event for OP to announce another update in sister’s health. I’m surprised OP even let her mom come. I would’ve let sister’s cat out of the bag and block her after disinviting her.

@hiitscupid3504

6 ай бұрын

No- If she announces it at the wedding, the wedding becomes about Anna

@firesong7825

6 ай бұрын

Your comment, as is, implies that the refusal itself is what gets in the way of her stealing the spotlight, not that the act of telling people prior would get in the way of stealing the spotlight.

@RealCoolstriker64

6 ай бұрын

⁠@@hiitscupid3504no, announce it before the wedding

@1musamune

6 ай бұрын

How has no one in OP's family seen the narcissitic pattern of 'OP's event oh my health fawn over me instead of them."

Story 2: Sorry, Dion, but good things come to those who wait. Not only was Dion impatient, he endangered the puppy he wanted. Dion will have to wait longer and prove that he can properly handle a puppy, that is if OP will keep the promise

@startheangel9760

6 ай бұрын

He needs a serious talk about not putting live animals into plastic bags

@dracko158

6 ай бұрын

And that Karen of a mom says "nothing happened"? Like bro, he almost KILLED a puppy.

@breezy3392

6 ай бұрын

OP's promise was null and void when the kid tried to steal and nearly killed a puppy

@BDM276

6 ай бұрын

He also endangered himself and OP's dog. Not all dogs would just bark when you try to take their puppies.

@akl2k7

6 ай бұрын

​@breezy3392 Exactly. All promises carry extreme conditions for nullifying them that no one expects to fulfill. Kid wants a car, but is discovered to be a huge bully or is proven to be an absolutely terrible driver who can't get their license? Then they won't get it. Kid wants a dog but almost kills one? He doesn't deserve to have one.

Today in brand new insults: "Sad Beige Baby" 😂😂😂 Whoever feels insulted by that should re-evaluate their entire life, lol.

@Peter_The_Great

6 ай бұрын

I wonder if their outburst reaction is more of a build-up from other criticisms about their decoration choices? Not the words themselves, it was just the final straw. I don't remember if OP explained any prior conversations criticizing their decoration choices?

@TheAidanodian

6 ай бұрын

Nah legitimately. Some of Rslash’s ratings recently have made me think “dude have you ever talked to a person before?”

@prismghostvodsstuff6536

6 ай бұрын

I mean it’s easy to misinterpret that particular joke as an insult I feel especially without context so I don’t think anyone’s that bad here. Though the mom shouldn’t have double down as hard about being insulted

@Peter_The_Great

6 ай бұрын

@@prismghostvodsstuff6536 true, but I'm wondering if the mom is taking it more personally because of the amount of teasing/jokes that seem to be only about the mom's choices?

@dinlupus3196

6 ай бұрын

man i so glad that i don't go to tiktok , i wouldn't want to go with that mess

I would reply to every example of the beige trend my sister sent to me for legitimacy with another video of "Werner Herzog's Sad beige clothing for sad beige children."

Last story: no one should care this much about when someone opens a gift, it's like they're mad that they didn't get to criticize this present the day of. First of all, it's none of their business what you get or how much your husband spends, second I'm pretty sure couples give intimate gifts to each other all the time, even if they're going somewhere else to open presents with the family. They just want to complain for the sake of it because no one should care this much.

Story 4: But…it’s OP’s family…therefore shouldn’t it be OP’s responsibility to deal with them…? How many stories do we read where the husband isn’t standing up to his family when they insult Op and the comments say “it’s his family he should be fighting this battle”. I agree with the fact that Op is NTA but the husband did nothing wrong here too…

@ProxiProtogen

2 ай бұрын

But man wrong

Unfortunately, my promises are conditional. I only keep my promises and fulfill them as long as you don't fuck up.

@truthseeker9249

6 ай бұрын

Mine too.

@akl2k7

6 ай бұрын

Yeah, it's like promising to buy someone a car, but then they fail the license test abysmally and nearly get into a wreck every time.

In the wheelchair story, Op should call/message 1 or 2 family members and ask if they heard that sister was in a wheelchair now. I bet it spreads fast before the wedding.

I think its fair to assume that that promise was based on Dion NOT PUTTING A PUPPY IN A PLASTIC BAG. Never ever ever give animals to people who dont think stuff like this is a big deal. They dont deserve animals.

Honestly anybody that uses the whole white and beige aesthetic for their entire house has a sad existence

@Azulakayes

6 ай бұрын

It reminds me of Kim Kardashian's house. So cold and sad.

Story 2: you know, puppies need this thing called oxygen. You know what blocks oxygen? A plastic bag. You made the right call, OP. The kid trying to smuggle the puppy out in a plastic bag would have almost certainly been the puppy’s end. This a time where breaking your promise is the wise decision.

Story 3: nah come on, the baby was sad, the baby was in beige, the baby was a baby…op was NTA for making the joke

Dion should not be allowed anywhere near animals without a responsible person watching him like a hawk

Wouldn't the solution be as simple as primitively telling the guests that she's in a wheelchair, and that she's embarrassed about it, so people shouldn't ask her about it,?

@RealCoolstriker64

6 ай бұрын

Yes! But also make sure to add in her usual excuse of growths.

Story 3: I don't know I feel like moms score should be bigger, she's really the biggest problem here. Instead of supporting her daughter and having her back she constantly tried to overstep and the man she can play with aunts crap. Then when there were consequences to your aunt's BS power play (which I'm sure your mom helped her with), she called the scene at the wedding because you put her in her place. The only downside to this story is that you didn't invite your mom to for caring more about enabling her Petty sister then standing up for her daughter.

*2nd Story:* What Dion did constitutes animal abuse. _Do not_ trust him with any living creature. Also, Dion's "plan" to take a puppy home counted on OP being deaf (not hearing the pup's cries while keeping them in the bag), blind (not being able to count the number of pups in the litter), and stupid (wouldn't think to check on a distressed mama dog).

Hi! Early childhood educator here. I hate beige moms. They don’t properly develop their kids brains cause they’d rather have an aesthetic than supporting their child to their full potential. They also act like IM the problem when their child can’t identify colors, is really struggling and has to be held back. So far, I’ve had over 16 beige kids and only 2 know colors enough to go to the next grade.

@honeybelle1203

6 ай бұрын

See this is what I immediately worried about when hearing the story, that the little guy is unintentionally being harmed because of his mom not exposing him to the full spectrum of colour. I think her over-the-top reaction can either be sympathized with (because it pertains to her baby) or side-eyed (because it was extreme) but no matter how she feels about the comment, she needs to put her child's best interest first.

Story 2. mother is only angry because now she have to pay for a dog

@Tustin2121

6 ай бұрын

Which the kid will then promptly smother because the mom hasn’t taught her kid how to take care of a pet.

@lacko623

6 ай бұрын

OP might want to alert the local shelters...

@lorilancaster5917

6 ай бұрын

And golden labs being expensive breed, she’s likely extra pissed because she might have wanted the dog for breeding purposes.

@RisingRevengeance

6 ай бұрын

@@lacko623 Thankfully she's probably "too good" for shelter dogs

@semperferusartist

6 ай бұрын

​@@lorilancaster5917I'm sorry but golden lab an expensive breed? It's a crossbreed of a lab and a golden. You can go to a shelter in any state and probably find several. They are neither expensive, nor a breed...

My question is how does a 10-year-old think. "Let me put a puppy in a PLASTIC BAG". The mother obviously doesn't teach her son anything.

Honestly? I would never allow that brat child near my house. When I was 8 my dog has puppies and I wouldn't even touch them despite being only one allowed to come close. That child attempted to unalive that puppy and threw a tantrum when he was caught.

Op1: “I don’t want them to worry either, especially not at a wedding.” And then make the announcement about the wheel chair yourself. I recommend figuring out a way to prevent your guests from getting texts during the wedding, because she is DEFINITELY gonna send a mass text to everyone during the wedding.

(Wedding Invitations) Sounds like the mother and the aunt get off on power dynamics. OP, it's best to go low-contact/no-contact with them.

@lorilancaster5917

6 ай бұрын

I hope OP has grown a spine after this incident.

@nationalinstituteofcheese3012

6 ай бұрын

I call this “The forced acceptance strategy” where they go through extra effort to guilt you into accepting their shitty behavior Example: Spending thousands of dollars on you so you have to let them do what they want

For the wedding invitation: When mom said the conversation wasn’t over, to come back. Just spin around, point at the ceiling, and say “NOT YOUR ROOF, NOT YOUR RULES, GET OUT”

Story 2: NTA. What do you mean nothing happened? Dion could've suffocated that poor pup in a plastic bag if Dove didn't alert OP about it. So OP saying he didn't trust Dion with a puppy is completely understandable. If Dion wanted a puppy, he shouldn't have done what he did. One thing I don't understand is the other people calling OP a "liar". Like, A liar of what? Other than that, stand your ground. Dion could have k*lled the poor pup.

@jeanbean7183

6 ай бұрын

Yeah I had to skip that story ( I love dogs)

@lorilancaster5917

6 ай бұрын

@@jeanbean7183I’ve heard it before and had to do the same. Was hoping for an update but this is RSLASH. If one exists, it usually appears on best of updates

First story OP is not a buthole but her sister wants to constantly wants attention from everyone and steals spotlite during OPs events. 2nd story OP is not a buthole the kid needs to learn a lesson and the kid will kill the puppy intently or not so no the kid dose not need a puppy if he puts one of the puppies in a plastic bag, imagine what wouldve happened if the kid got home with the puppy and didnt pull it out of the bag.

the wedding: how is it the husbands responsibility to deal with her family? go ahead try that with my family. they barely listen to me, let alone a new arrival to the family

@superboyx2837

6 ай бұрын

THANK YOU! I just made a comment about that. He just have a hard on for blaming men, boyfriends, and husbands for the smallest thing. Like wanna pick up the smallest detail and blame them

@ItinerantAdventurer

6 ай бұрын

@@superboyx2837 I agree. He gives completely toxic women the benefit of the doubt too. It's lame.

@Simipourfangirl

6 ай бұрын

Rslash: where is op's fiancee in this story, why isn't he sticking up for her? Me: maybe that's because he's not even in the same roo- Rslash: he's probably too scared to go into family drama or doesn't know how the dynamics work Me: or he's not even in the same location .. Rslash: I'll give him ??/5 Me: at least you didn't give him a score. I had assumed that this party was kinda like a bachelorette party or something as I don't remember any guys being mentioned being there at that moment. Maybe I glossed over that fact. Edit: so uh he was there but I still stand with the fact that rslash is kinda too tough on the husband.

@lorilancaster5917

6 ай бұрын

@@superboyx2837I rarely even listen to his comments anymore for reasons like this.

@heartjelly2032

6 ай бұрын

@@superboyx2837 Fr, like why even drag the husband into this, the story's not about him it's about her annoying family! Just because OP didn't gush about him playing the hero doesn't automatically mean 'bad husband.'

We raised barn cats and they would often have kittens. My younger sisters, 7 and 5 at the time, STILL UNDERSTOOD that they needed to be gentle with the kittens and understand the signs that the mother didn't want them around. That 10yo isn't ready for a stuffed puppy, let alone a real one.

The second story: I've heard this one before. Absolutely NOT the butthole. 10 is far too old to not know how to treat animals. At bare minimum, Dion has no respect for boundaries, zero regard for the word no being a complete sentence and nothing resembling a sense of accountability. Its of no surprise to me that he doesn't have a graph of these concepts yet because even his mother doesn't understand or care to teach him right. I'm totally dumbfounded that people are defending this kid and his own mother said he had nothing to apologize for. The emotional blackmail, gaslighting, blame-shifting, playing the reverse victim, all the makings needed to raise a narcissist. I really do hope OP is the only one who has a key to her place because I wouldn't put it past her sister to steal a dog for her brat son.

Story 1: they don't want to worry the family but they're going to bring it to your wedding just in case? I would tell the family about the wheelchair anyway, there is no way this isn't a plan to steal attention and I have very little faith your mom's not in on it. You couldn't possibly be the only one that knows that she has a medical issue for every one of your special days. And if your mom tried to call you out you can simply say that you were filled with such concern over how the family wouldn't be able to process or help prepare to accommodate your sister.

@bibigamer502

6 ай бұрын

OP’s “mom” sees OP’s sister as the golden child and probably thinks little of OP

So for story 1, there is an update that OP informed the rest of the family ahead of time.

@nikigerrier777

6 ай бұрын

Was there anything more about how that played out?

Story 3: I mean, studies show that kids legitimately _need_ a lot of colors in order to properly develop visual stuff, so that kid probably _is_ a sad beige baby. My mom is the same way but with _gray_ and at most will pair it with blue. She only got something with red once because i kept telling her that the lack of any color was depressing. Even during Christmas, we no longer put colorful decorations up, everything has to be blue, white and silver. We put red and gold on the tree _once_ a couple years ago after literal years of me _begging_ to do something different. Straight up, if a colorblind person who could only see things in a gray scale came into my house, _there would be no difference in what they see vs what everyone else sees._

Story 4: OP should have uninvited her mom from the start. If she's going to keep disrespecting her boundaries repeatedly, then she should have been removed from the start. It's OP's wedding, not OP's mom's wedding

First story : why doesn't OP just say it to all her family? At this point if you're going to lose, just make sure to be sneakier than the snake? Next time she has an announcement, she can just warn her guests "Oh my sister is coming, but be wary as she's not doing so hot. Pray for her now, so we can all keep the festivities light". Then if the sister says something, just say you're sooo soooo worried for her and want everyone to support her. No harm in that, right? 😏

my face when they said plastic bag was mortified. A PLASTIC BAG?!

@dinlupus3196

6 ай бұрын

i scratch my arm cause hearing this is very stressful , i can't imagine what would happen if the mom (the dog mom) have not intervene (well, i CAN imagine, that's the problem) poor doggy

@Simipourfangirl

6 ай бұрын

I think a majority of this comment chain was shocked.

Kid+Puppy+Plastic bag= NOPE! I would barely trust that kid with a plush toy dog, let alone a real puppy! When I got my puppy (now three year old English Springer Spaniel), I basically treated the mom like a Hippogriff - minus the bowing - and was super careful around the puppies (I saw then at 2-3 weeks, and again at 8 weeks when we picked up my puppy to take him home).

I don't want to come off as an armchair psychologist, but am I wrong for thinking the sister in the first story has Munchausen? 1. She has a childhood trauma, during which she associates her continued poor health with continued care. 2. Instead of needing to harm herself, she uses the threat of her cancer returning to receive attention at will. 3. She either consciously or unconsciously undermines her sibling's big moments to ensure that she and her stuggle are always top priority.

@XXXkazeXXX

6 ай бұрын

I didn’t before but now I sure do.

@319hiroyuki

6 ай бұрын

Except people with Munchausen don't do it for the attention. It's more illness anxiety than attention seeking.

@eroraf8637

6 ай бұрын

Huh. Today I learned. Not heard of that, but maybe!

@SerenaSilverMoon

6 ай бұрын

And the mom has Munchausen By Proxy, I think. Seeing as she's going along with what the sister is doing. Like Dee Dee (forgot her last name), the mother of Gypsy Rose had it, and she almost ruined her daughter's life.

@wmdkitty

6 ай бұрын

No. OP is just a whiny bench who needs to get over herself.

The first story totally sucks. There is no excuse for this. In contrast, I am an American living in the Philippines. I am also an amputee and have to wear an eyepatch due to eye damage. My girlfriend's cousin's wedding came up in December and we were both invited. I decided to not go because there was going to be at least 100 people there and none of them had met me yet, and I would be the only foreigner there. I was concerned that I would take some of the spotight away from the bride, so I stayed home. The cousin called us after my girlfriend returned (a week later, we live on opposite sides of the country) and she thanked me for staying home. She was worried as well that I would take attention away from the wedding but was too scared to tell me. What Anna is going to dispicible. But unfortunately I think r/Slash is right. This is a lose lose. I would tell OP to just not let Anna attend, let whoever sides with Anna not attend as well, enjoy the wedding and deal with the aftermath. If she doesn't, they might as well elope because all the attention will go on "poor Anna". UGH>

Story 2: I have a strong feeling that Dion and his mother have reduced empathy. They don't need a puppy, they need therapy. Do NOT give them the puppy. Keep them away from the house in general.

(Fake gift) Oh, my god. Your family is mega-toxic, when it comes to Christmas and gifts. Sounds like they're not happy, unless they are complaining.

@lorilancaster5917

6 ай бұрын

Exactly! There can’t be anybody being proud and happy for one another. If OP is involved in family events after this, I hope she makes it clear that she will open her spouse’s gifts and likewise in private and if they have any problems they can kick rocks!

@nationalinstituteofcheese3012

6 ай бұрын

OP is definitely so deep into the fog she can’t see how toxic her family is. This ain’t normal.

Ten is plenty old enough to know better. NTA

*First OP:* So, Anna only has medical emergencies during OP's milestones? And no one else picked up on that? Or maybe they just don't care (Golden Child/Scapegoat). OP is NTA. *Second OP:* I don't know much about caring for dogs, but I'm _pretty_ sure you're not supposed to put them in plastic bags. OP is NTA. Even if Dion didn't steal the puppy, he probably would've put the pooch in danger if no one intervened. *Third OP:* OP didn't call her nephew that with I'll intentions, IMO. That said, I _do_ understand OP's sister (or SIL) being upset with OP for poking fun at her choice of aesthetics in her home. Controversial opinion, but I'm gonna say OP is TA. A small one. *Third OP:* When OP's mom overstepped OP's boundaries regarding the No Plus One Rule for her aunt, OP should've uninvited her mom. OP is NTA. Shoutout to her sister for having her back. *Fifth OP:* This reads as a "d@mned if you do, d@mned if you don't" situation. The fact that OP had to open a "fake" gift to avoid criticism from her family is concerning. OP is NTA. Perhaps it's time to create some distance.

@YourPal1

6 ай бұрын

LOL, OP didn't even poke fun at the mom's beige aethestic. She was making a joke with the baby. The mom needs to grow thicker skin. OP is not even close to be an asshole. She did nothing wrong. Hell, her brother (the baby's dad) even defended her.

Wedding story: I don't know about South African culture but in France, a new groom/bride/partner wouldn't get involved in their partner's fight with a family member unless it gets physical, their partner is outnumbered, or its an abusive parent triggering a panic attack. It would be seen as super rude to intrude like that, unless they are directly involved in the fight (they're being discriminated against, their children are, etc.). Otherwise, they're expected to comfort their partner after the fight, basically

Stealing a puppy is bad enough, but a plastic bag? That kid is too stupid/irresponsible to have a pet of _any_ kind.

That kid with the dog blew my fuse the instant I heard he put it in the bag. In no universe would I allow a kid like that to own a pet, and the fact that his mom tried to defend him by saying “oh he still deserves a dog, he learned his lesson” just pissed me off more. Screw that mom. Her kid doesn’t deserve Jack.

Puppy story: I have fostered orphaned litters before (only kittens, but the principles with puppies are the same). Taking a puppy away from the mother when it was still feeding on milk could have killed it. The standard 8-week old adoption number is because prior to that the puppies/kittens are still dependent on their mother and slowly being weaned onto wet/solid foods. Until they’re weaned, they’re like babies. They need feedings as often as every 1.5-2 hours 24/7 for newborns. Taking a puppy still dependent on milk would result in malnutrition if not starvation unless the puppy stealers actually committed to the constant bottle feeding using dog milk replacements. I find it unlikely this puppy stealer and his mom are aware of that.

Story 2 - you mentioned you've receiving messages that are making you feel bad.Your family was probably were not told what actually happened.

Dion's calling me names. Oh yeah, THAT makes me want to give him a puppy. Last story: what a toxic family!

I remember when I was about 12 & my friend’s German shepherd, Sasha, had puppies. My friend’s dog was already always super protective of the family - Sasha was ok with me because I’m AFAB but did NOT like my dad because she was always cautious of men. She was perfectly fine with me being next to the puppies, but I already knew not to touch the puppies, even when my friend offered, cause even though Sasha might be okay with me, I didn’t want to push it. When my dad came by just to look at them from a distance, she growled at him & kept looking at me. Sasha wouldn’t let my dad near her until I said it was okay & kept petting her to assure her. My dad still insists she wanted to eat him. All that being said is if a 12 year old can understand how to interact around a nursing dog & her puppies, what is going on with this mom that she’s saying her kid did nothing wrong when he took a puppy & put it in a PLASTIC BAG?!?

The toddler doesn't understand or care. He was wearing beige and looked sad. Perfect time to call it.

Wedding story As a bride id tell the family about the wheelchair and then id say the venue wasnt wheelchair friendly so sister wouldnt be there. Both sister and mom need therapy. They are too used to the attention on them and clearly cannot let Op have any.

@bibigamer502

6 ай бұрын

I can think their attention s’mores

How the fuck is "sad beige baby" an insult? Rslash, are you okay?? Lmaoooo

My family’s dog had puppies when I was a little kid. There were three kids total in the home and we were between 7 and 11. Of course we were all excited and happy to have cute little puppies in the house! Like any kid would be. BUT none of us, not even the seven year old, behaved like Dion did in that story. Our parents made it very clear to us that the puppies were not toys and were living creatures that needed to be respected and cared for. Dion's mother has very seriously dropped the ball with teaching her son how to respect and safely handle animals. i agree with OP entirely, i would never give that child a puppy after a stunt like that.

if i was responsible enough to care for 12 baby bunnies at 6 years old then a 10 year old should be more than enough responsible to know to not treat a puppy like that. i also took perfect care of baby kittens when i was 8 and helped caring for kittens at under 4 years old.

@SonLuffa

6 ай бұрын

Well maybe because you were raised that way.

if you think a puppy would be fine inside a plastic bag, then you’re definitely too young to own one, or any kind of pet for that matter

In the immortal words of Barbara Cartland: "BE ANYTHING but beige".

@WolfgangDoW

6 ай бұрын

Studies show that babies need primary colours and CONTRAST to develop proper visual processing. Aka beige aesthetics are directly harming child brain development! It's not cute, it's sad, and at best child neglect by stunting their brain development, possibly permanently even There's a reason baby toys come in bright primary colours ffs

Your videos always provide me with entertainment or an escape from the day. I lost my baylee marie yesterday, and I had her for 13 years. Thank you for all that you do. Please give your doggo some extra love today.

My grandparents raised and sold hunting dogs when I was a kid. The last litter was born when I was about 7 years old. And I was left alone with those puppies countless times. Hell, I was even put in charge of feeding them when they were old enough for solid foods. I knew, even at that young age, how to treat small animals and understood how fragile they are. If a 7 year old can grasp that concept, a 10 year old should be more than capable of understanding the same thing.

the op in the sad beige baby story is super funny and NOT the Butthole lol!

Sad beige baby... A sad face... In a beige sweater. SUCH A INSULT. dude, this one is a whiff on your part. It's as bad as saying she's abusing her child by keeping him in beige tones.

@buddyburrows

6 ай бұрын

In a sense they are. Colors are necessary for cognitive growth. Especially around the 3month mark and after.

@WolfgangDoW

6 ай бұрын

Yup, studies show that babies need primary colours and CONTRAST to develop proper visual processing. Aka beige aesthetics are directly harming child brain development! It's not cute, it's sad, and at best child neglect by stunting their brain development, possibly permanently even There's a reason baby toys come in bright primary colours ffs

Hold up he was TEN in the puppy story?! I would've thought like, a toddler or up until maybe second grade just remembering how I was at that age. But TEN?! That is DEFINITELY old enough to be held responsible for being careful around pets, and knowing putting something living in a plastic bag could potentially SUFFOCATE IT. Nah, it's not irresponsible to leave a ten year old alone with a pet, assuming they're not gonna try and hurt the dog(s). That kinda selfishness and immaturity is wholly on the mother at that point.

A 10 year old should ABSOLUTELY know better!! My son is 10 and has known for a long time that you don’t put living things in a plastic bag. When my son was 9, he even built his own computer! Like, kids are smarter than we give them credit for. I blame the mom 100% for obviously failing her child and not raising him with common sense.

My parents gave me my first dog when I was FOUR, and I definitely knew by then that animals don't go in plastic bags!!! By the way, day four of asking for a return of Tales from Tech Support!

Am I the butthole for saving a puppy from a life of possible neglect and suffering? No OP of story 2... no you're not xD I understand that a 10 year old might think what dion did was a great idea... I do not however... understand that your sister ! Saw nothing wrong with what he did. She will eventually be responsible for the dogs wellbeing and she has obviously shown you that she has no regard for the dogs safety. Not the butthole, it's your responsibility to make sure these puppies go to good homes, and that's exactly what you did.

As a former 10 year old, I never would've tried to put a puppy in a bag let alone take them from a nursing mother, that's the mother's neglect dude

This is the second time I've heard the puppy story. The first time, I missed that the kid was 10. With the way he acted, I thought he was closer to 5 or 6. I have an 8 year old nephew, and I'm pretty sure he would know better

the funny thing is rslash knows the sad beige baby thing will get friction, but what can you do? he gotta do his engagement bait bit sometimes.

@BDM276

6 ай бұрын

Same with his white Knight syndrome where he likes to blame boyfriends or husbands for every little thing. The awful thumbnails and clickbait titles. It's obvious he hasn't been motivated by providing quality content. His channel evolved from a passion to a cash cow that has to be milked for every last drop.

First story: NTA. The sister always finds a way ro steal your thunder. Protect your peace, and go NC with Anna, your mom, and all of their enablers. Anna is the golden child. Your sister is in a wheelchair, yes, but Anna will always steal the spotlight.

@lorilancaster5917

6 ай бұрын

Anna had many opportunities to tell everyone about her situation but as always wants to do so on OPs dime.

10 year olds should definitely be responsible enough to be trusted alone with a nursing dog and her pups. And a 10 year old at the very very least should know putting an animal in a plastic bag could easily cause them to suffocate. I've met 4 year olds who were more responsible around pets then the kid in that story!

the kid one reminded me of my older cousin, she was 20 and living with her best friend, she got a cat, met a dude and moved out, HER cat stayed with her friend, then she got a different cat when with the dude a year later they broke up and she left another cat. Then she moved back to her parents and got a cat there, good thing is that her dad( my uncle) loves the cat and calls it his money cat, aka lucky cat, since it catches mice and rats in their country side house, so he doesnt need to spend money on traps and poison. Every time it was her cat and even on the papers, it got to a point where they took away her right to register a new cat on her name till she takes her name off the other two which are being cared by her ex friend and ex boyfriend

The sister Anna in the 1st story is definitely the AH. When I was 13 I was rushed to the hospital & almost died. It took a little while to diagnose, at 1st they thought it was cancer. They even did a round of chemo, wasn't cancer tho so I got so much sicker for nothing & made my disease worse. I spent basically 6mths straight in the hosp on that 1st go around. They finally figured it out & it was something they hadn't been testing for bc it's something ppl don't usually get until much later in life. Long story shorter, I've spent much of my life in & out of hospitals, they didn't even think I'd live til 25 at 1 point. I have 5 other siblings & things with me were scary, worrisome & time consuming, but I & my parents did everything to keep them included. Not miss out on milestones, celebrate their accomplishments & just be there unless there was a dire situation going on. I always did everything I could to avoid discussing my health with an outside fam member if they brought it up during things like bdays, weddings, graduations etc. I always shut it down in a polite way, but immediately. I always hated being in the spotlight anyway, but sure wasn't going to steal it. Only twice did my health interrupt something & both times were emergency situations that couldn't be helped

Story 1: NTA. These seem WAY too convenient... especially if it's happening DURING any special occasion for OP! Something definitely feels fishing. OP, do what you feel is best!

I guess my concern about the sad beige baby thing is that lack of color is lack of stimulation. It genuinely makes me worry for the baby’s development to spend formative years in a place like that

The fact that the kid put the puppy IN A PLASTIC BAG should be enough of an issue. Glad OP refused to give that kid a puppy

For story 1, wouldn't it be funny if op indirectly announced her sisters condition needing a wheelchair? Like op could send a mass message to the guests and be like "our wedding venue is able to accommodate/ will be able to accommodate wheelchairs for my sisters current condition." How pissed will the mom and sister be lmao

Sad beige baby: Boy, rSlash has been giving *_a lot_* of strange takes over the last several videos.

@stinkpantsslim680

6 ай бұрын

Maybe he needs another vacation, lol

I’m 100% positive that it was irresponsible of both OP & her sister leaving their 10 year old son/nephew alone with Op’s dog and her puppies. The situation could have been a lot worse.

Story 3: I'm not commenting on who is the ahole. But the mom bombing OP with numerous beige anesthetics...doesn’t actually help the mom's point