What are you looking for in a marriage? How do you handle conflicts/disagreements? How easily do you forget and forgive? What is your love language? What is your take on divorce? What are your dealbreakers? Do you believe in tying? What if you gift me a car, and God lays it on my heart to give it to my pastor? What does the ideal Sunday look like? Do you have a mentor/accountability partner? What is your relationship with mother & siblings? How/why did your last relationship end? Are you in communication with them? What is your relationship with them? If you don’t get your way, what happens? How many kids do you want? If we aren’t able to have kids, what happens? How soon do you want to have kids once we’re married? Are there any family illnesses? Family culture? How will the bill be split? How do you envision our life together? Do you like me as a person?

@oluborodeifeoluwa1483

4 ай бұрын

❤❤

@daphineorikiriza5142

4 ай бұрын

Thanks daph😊

@lowkey_babe77

4 ай бұрын

“What if you gift me a car, and God lays it on my heart to give it to my Pastor?” is WIIILLLLLLD😂😂😂 all the other questions though 10/10

@glorydavid9398

3 ай бұрын

Nice one Ma'am.

@glorydavid9398

3 ай бұрын

Please Ma. Can these questions be asked while dating and when a person hasn't made his intentions known?

Good tips but trust me some people know how to lie and make something look good. The best is please observe! After asking the questions, observe patterns and actions.

@sharonnwosu8901

2 ай бұрын

I mentioned in the video that you should have the spirit of discernment so we’re saying the same thing 🥰

@dre22

Ай бұрын

This woman lives in a fairytale. Never take dating advice from women. They don’t even know what they want.

@josephjohnson9012

Ай бұрын

I believe without that Spiritual gift, we can't decipher ? Please Should we get this gift before asking?

@paulinematengu5913

Ай бұрын

@@josephjohnson9012 discerning spirit is as though u have a second instinct. You pray and ask God to give you wisdom and a spiritual eye to see the truth about the person or situation. To know what's real, true and honest. Even hidden things. To bring out integrity and clarity in all his ways.

@happiness_713

Ай бұрын

I think you don't ask directly ie come up with a story that looks similar.....

How people talk about their exes, says alot about them👍

@sharonnwosu8901

4 ай бұрын

🤎🤎🤎

@Make_his_way_known

4 ай бұрын

Hi ​@sharonnwosu8901, first of I want to say I love your look today, but do you ask these questions at once or as it progress

@user-sp4sj7dr4b

4 ай бұрын

What do you make of it if the person doesn’t want to speak about his past, saying his father advised him not to bring old relationship issues into the new relationship?

@sharonnwosu8901

4 ай бұрын

@@Make_his_way_known thank you! Oh no I didn’t. It’s hard to tell you a specific time to ask, it mainly depends on the progression on the relationship. And how open the person is to having these conversations

@sharonnwosu8901

4 ай бұрын

@@user-sp4sj7dr4b yes sometimes the past could hurt so they don’t have to go into detail. If you know you may not be able to handle the ‘truth’ about their past then you can skip the question but I wanted to know so I asked. This is not a rule book per say, just questions I personally asked

As a single Christian guy, i have to say this vlog is loaded with wisdom...NOT sense/wits but WISDOM. So thank you for this

@PrinceInawRakah

3 ай бұрын

What biblical wisdom did you gather from this video of you don’t mind me asking?

@balibigb

3 ай бұрын

@@PrinceInawRakah You actually trying to throw shades here about this!? Are you within a mile of a question here ? If you feel indifferent about what she said...your entitled to your opinion. If I have to point Biblical principles about what she presented here then please go outside and play... adults only! And I say that with godly love believe me.

@TracyNgozika

3 ай бұрын

Yeah I agree

@sharonnwosu8901

3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for watching!!

@oreballin

3 ай бұрын

She mentioned earlier from 1Cor 13 that love keeps no record of wrongdoing. ​If someone truly loves you that is how he/she is to prove that love. While they are dating it should also be apparent. It's actually loaded with wisdom just ask the Spirit of God to grant you hearing ears and seeing eyes Is50:4 @humbleservant3070

You said, when a couple can't have kids, men will sometimes leave or divorce. Women do this equally. Those types of questions should definitely be asked over time while dating. Please don't put these questions off and then explode on your partner with all of these questions at once later down the road. Also keep in mind that people are capable of growth and change. If they can't answer yes to a question or even a non negotiable, this doesn't mean that they are against it or that they aren't able to get there. This is true for men and women alike. Having a different ideal number of kids in mind is also not something to break up over as this is something that can change beyond your control. You don't want to throw away a great relationship because of this. Don't forget, God says that the priority of a husband and wife is the marriage, not the children. Yes the children are a top priority to you but your primary duty is to your marriage. As a couple, learn to cultivate love and respect. Learn each other's love languages, learn to communicate honestly despite discomfort. Check in with each other and never forget to build your friendship and enjoy fun and exciting things together regularly. Be willing to compromise and be willing to set goals and highlight your path to that goal. A significant and often over looked concept in a healthy marriage is the topic of Masculine and Feminine polarity. Come together to cultivate and nourish your masculine and feminine energies so that you can grow as individuals as well as stimulating each other to be your best selves and to keep the spark alive between you and your spouse or future spouse. Soulmates don't exist, it's all about coming together as a team and being humble and willing to do the work together and that never changes. Never has, never will. Never forget the human that you and your partner are. Forgiveness is crucial and love and respect are critical. Do the work to heal your sexuality and bring down the walls around your heart, mind, and soul. Show up emotionally and resist the natural urge to fall into complacency after you've been together for a while. Chemistry, spark, etc. Comes from a man and a women who are in their masculine and feminine energies and when they have trust, love, respect, and build a real friendship on top of their marriage duties to one another. Wives, pursue your husband and never stop enjoying and appreciating being pursued by him. Husband's, never stop pursuing and dating your wife, and never allow your self to forget that another man would be happy to take her from you. Date your spouse and never stop. Intimacy means (into me you see), be known by your spouse and tear down any walls that go up between you and your spouse. If something bothers you, hurts you, etc. say it to your partner quickly and don't let it fester or build up. Almost all negative emotions towards one's spouse can be avoided or prevented. Always ask yourself when you're speaking to your spouse, "am I being 100% honest in the way I said that, or by not saying it".. your marriage is not owed to you, it can come to an end without your wanting it. Never stop earning your partners commitment to you. Most importantly, building, protecting, and serving your marriage is worship to God. Never forget that.

@lizzypatrickson

4 ай бұрын

So many gems and wisdom on your comment! I'm just in awe! God bless you for these great words of encouragement & guidance!

@izion515

4 ай бұрын

Jeez...you really took your time writing this. Its loaded!!!God bless you

@godlyiruoma

3 ай бұрын

I took my time to read every single bit. Thank you, so much powerful wisdom in here for us!!!

@Men_After_Gods_Heart

2 ай бұрын

Hallelujah,,,,full of wisdom, just to add something, Real foundation n i mean real foundation of Good lasting marriage is following biblical principles n commands of God to Marriage, like the God's formula of marriage, Each person to be aware of his/her roles,n play them 💯%,As a man be the man the bible calls you to be,Provider,Protector,king,Leader,Burden Bearer n priest,.....n nvar let your wife play these roles for you,Nvar,step up your position/role or else she becomes discouraged/disappointed he loses respect for you,(that's now giving the devil a chance/door). For the wife,,,The bible calls you a helper/,Always stick to your lane to help n nurture,A helper doesn't lead, am,Help n nurture your husbands purposes/visions/mission/business,..Nvar try to think you are equal,Always be submissive,let n i mean let/allow the last answer to every decision be his,(this gives him mind stability n sense of leadership)stand with his opinion/decisions even if sometimes its against your will,....or else he dislikes you n treat as his fellow man/outsider If either man or woman can't step up to their biblical roles, dont get married, it will be rough road n you know God hates divorce, If he is submitted to God,the better, because God will speak to the family thro the man first, God endorses order, The rest a house is built on understanding, its rooms filled with wisdom....study the word n seek Godly knowledge about marriage, Have wisdom of marriage b4 settling down, Last part,A Good partner comes from God,let God choose for you,let God be the reason of the marriage, Marry for the Glory of God,what he starts, he will see it to completion,n mostly fight for it,...Lastly Marriage is a good thing,the bible starts with marriage(Adam n Eve ) n ends with marriage (jesus n Church).....its a good, good ,good, things in the context of God principles ,.....Godly principles eliminates crashing/it sets boundaries/n holds each person accountable n allows God to manifest in the marriage ,Be blessed y,all

@vickysharma-gl6gv

Ай бұрын

Nice

This is a gem. Married and struggling and I know one of the reasons is because i didn't have this insight at the time a got married. I did not knew about myself, i did not knew anything about marriage and i never asked those important questions and I know if I did, things would have been so different. So thank you for sharing that and to the single ladies reading my comment, don't make the mistake of not addressing these topics before marriage. Don't be scared to loose him better for you to stop because you are not adjusted on some of these, than get into marriage and be full of regrets. Thanks again.

@patc2515

4 ай бұрын

It's not too late. You and your spouse can grow and change together. Come together in prayer about it, and if it's hard or awkward to talk about together, own it and say that out loud to your partner. Cultivate your feminine energy and help him to learn about and cultivate his masculine energy. When you have your masculine and feminine polarity in place, you're much more likely to inspire him to do the things you need and want. Women in their healthy, divine feminine energy have a super power that so many women don't even recognize or have never known. Soft, feminine, respectful, and caring wives inspire their men to provide for their needs and desires and if you get that piece in place and then go to him and fully communicate what you want, need, don't want, etc. You may be surprised by the outcome. If you're not already deeply aware of the concept of polarity between a man and woman, look into it. There's an excellent channel from a Christian woman called Awwlexis, amongst others. There's another channel called the Happy Wife School. Binge both of those channels and incorporate that stuff into your life. I promise, It's life changing if you pursue this while pursuing God and your husband at the same time.

@maureenamaichigh3238

2 ай бұрын

Hmmm instructive,go girl

@Ifeomaanyare

2 ай бұрын

Same here sis…got married without even knowing what I want…it’s not easy,have so many regrets….and I hope single girls out there learn a lot before going into marriage…sometimes I fear having a girl child because I wouldn’t want her to have same experience

@queenestherb.

2 ай бұрын

@@Ifeomaanyareit is legitimate I have 3 daughters and I am afraid I will not give them enough advices for them to make better choices than me. But I am learning not to try to do God work in their lives. I will do my part at my best and I will surrender to God the rest.

@Ifeomaanyare

2 ай бұрын

@@queenestherb. oh wow…God see’s our heart and he’ll definitely help us out in that area,when the time comes🙏🏻

Few questions to ask: 1. What are you looking For in a marriage? 2. What is your conflict resolution Style? 3. What is your love language? 4. What is your take on divorce? 5. What are your deal breakers? 6. What's an ideal sunday to you When we have kids? 7. Do you have a mentor/ are you Accountable to someone? 8. What is your relationship with Your parents and siblings? 9. How and why did your previous Relationship end? 10. If you don't get your way what Happens? 11. How many kids do you want And God forbid if we can't have Kids what will you do? 12. Are there any family illnesses? 13. How do we handle bills? 14. How do you envision our life Together? 15. Do you like me as a person?

@Jojo-cz4kp

3 ай бұрын

Thx for posting you’re a real one!

@Tshegohatso

3 ай бұрын

thank you love ❤❤❤

@dorcasiyanujesu6954

2 ай бұрын

Thank you

@kimmieh8075

2 ай бұрын

Thanks

@PayThePiperr

Ай бұрын

I would add one ----- How have you showed up in the dating world? With intention or just for fun?

single people, asking "how much do you make?" to a person you are marrying is totally ok!! ask also how much debts they have... all these are important cause they will cause you trouble in the future. ( ask please, don't end up with a jailed partner or a scammer, you will never recover if you don't know now!)

@mg137b

7 күн бұрын

I agree too! But in my culture it is mostly appropriate for women to ask men this not the other way around since men are expected to be the provider but i think it is slowly getting better.

Spirit of discernment is very important to know the kind of person.😇🙏

This was so good. As a young single Christian, praying for marriage one day I ask MOST of these questions (I haven’t asked about 2) so this is confirmation that I ask very appropriate questions. Don’t need to waste anyone’s time! 🙌🏾

Wow this video was very helpful it made me realise that I'm not ready to be in a relationship yet, there's still so much that I need to heal from and grow from but also God's timing is perfect and I'm not going to rush myself anymore. 💝

One quote I like about marriage is " before marriage, keep your eyes wide open, after marriage, keep your eyes half shut." You want to be very careful about who you get into a relationship with, and then be forgiving of their faults

This highlights just how much QUALITY communication is soooo key. Quality communication improves the quality of the relationship 10 fold.

I celebrate your insight. You exude so much calm, I absolutely love to hear your voice.

This is very powerful and wisdom packed . Very timely and seasonal for me

Thank you sis for this, it was very helpful. I just saved it, I’m still very single but I believe I’ll get to ask these questions SOON. Amen

This is the reason for What I do which is Relationship & Marriage coaching. Pre-marital counselling will help ask and answer questions you never thought of while carried away by love….

So many gems shared under 20 minutes.❤❤

My first time on this channel and I got so much value and wisdom. Truly helpful.

Listen to this Sister in the Lord!! If only, I would have asked these questions....this is so good...please young ladies listen to this wisdom!

These are such excellent questions! Thanks!

Mmmm. VERY critical questions! Thank you for addressing such an important topic. God bless 🙏

Thanks Sharon. These were so enlightening.

Great questions! Many which I had already thought of to ask, but a few that never had crossed my mind. I’ll definitely be remembering them going forward.

This is so insightful. Thank you for this Sharon ❤

very helpful, also find out his convictions on faith, or doctrinal belief. thank you for the video.

This is an amazing video!! ❤❤I’m currently in preparation season for marriage! I appreciate this soo much 🙏🏾

This was extremely informative, had to take notes as creating opportunities or time to really ask these types of questions can be missed. Thank you 😊

You are not only beautiful but your love for God is so beautiful as well. I love the way you love God. God bless you always Sharon for all your teachings❤❤❤❤

Wow, thank you for this!! Any advice for teens and young college girls? I would live to see that video!

This is absolutely so good

Excellent piece & biblically balanced too. Nice one

@sharonnwosu8901

3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much 🙏🏽

As a single christian woman, I have written these down for when God takes me out of my season of singleness to ask when its time. These are alot of good questions.

Someone who is understanding, willing to help me first.💑

Thank you 😊 we really more videos like these ,it will really help us in having a conversation more with our partners .

@sharonnwosu8901

4 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching!! 🤎🤎

I was looking for something and I came across your channel. I can't thank you enough Sharon for this video... It's such a timely one.

Right there! Thank you. I look forward to more contents from you. ❤

Loved this! I subscribed!❤

Thanks so much Sharon for this amazing insight. Truly helpful and as someone said, this message is filled with wisdom ❤

This is great. Thank you, Sharon.

Thank you so much for these. I actually took notes....and I'm looking forward to dating intelligently.

@sharonnwosu8901

4 ай бұрын

Haha thanks for watching dear 🤎

Oh my GOD i wish I knew this before falling into the ditch i fell into, but am glad i finally went out and learning from my mistakes. Thanks for these wonderful words of wisdom

Great stuff!! This video is worth listening to. Thank you.

Thanks for being so realistic

Thank you. This is a very useful information. Unfortunately, mist if us find this out when we are already married. Thanks for sharing.

Meaningful content indeed

This is really good, God bless you

Thank you so much for this video. It's quite insightful and I regret not asking all these when I started.

Very insightful. God bless you for this

This so informative 💯🥰more grace 🙏

This is so insightful. God bless you!

This is so smart 💯 One of the Best for anyone in or looking for a partner. I really learnt a lot. ❤

Hey Sharon I’ve been watching your content for a while now I would say you’re a blessing..

@sharonnwosu8901

4 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for your support 🤎

This is amazing 😍. I don't know how I stumbled on this. Thank you, Sharon ☺️

Thanks Sharon God bless you for these realistic questions we shy away from

This is amazing, realest question to ask

Great advice! Especially for younger couples!

Thanks soooo much for this video Sharon, I really loved watching it and grabbing every information in it. These questions are very key and shouldn't be taken for granted at all. I pray for more grace and wisdom for you toake more of such insightful videos. Again, thanks. ❤❤❤

very thoughtful questions that needed to be asked for sure before falling in love.... thank you for this....pls ask before you say yes not all that glitters are gold for you

Video was loaded great video God bless you !

I really appreciate your wisdom and understanding!

Thank you for thissss❤️❤️❤️,had to watch it again to register some things in my head😅it’s just very timely and on point!

@VIVIANINDARA

3 ай бұрын

😂😂😂 you had to do what!!

Thanks for sharing I found this really timely and helpful

Im most definitely saving this video!

Very helpful! thank you for this video!!!!!

God bless you dear, so loaded

This is very insightful dear. Let me mark it as a favourite and listen to it when the time is right

Glad I came across this video. I've gotten clarifications and learn more about marriage and relationship. thank you for this🤗 I've subscribed🤗🤗🤗

After watching this video, all i could say is ''God Bless you Ma.

Thank you sooo much for this. It's super amazing. God bless you. I'm super blessed by this. Can't wait for the next vidoe

You are such an eloquent speaker❤ + I love all the points you shared they are profound! Thank you. I just had to subscribe ❤

I really appreciate all you've said.. keep up the good work.. alot of guys have an expectation of how sex will be in marriage.. so it's important to also ask that question so you won't marry someone who expects something that's difficult for you to give or vice versa..

Beautiful....Thank you Sharon

I’m just seeing this and I’m so blessed.. God just brought you tonight to meeeee sis Off to distribute these questions 😅

This video is fully loaded❤.. Thank you Sharon 💗🥰.

I enjoyed watching this.

Thanks Sharon for this video,I learnt a lot 😊

I'm really glad to come across this video. A lot of relationship coache always advise that you ask the right questions without necessarily telling you wat they are. Thank you for this, it's really helpful 🙏

@sharonnwosu8901

3 ай бұрын

Thanks so much for watching 🤎

This was really informative ❤thank you It’s really difficult to get in-depth answers from men though, sometimes

I've been in a spiritual warfare for over a decade now to be precise for 14 years now I only practiced self deliverance four years ago which works for me, it's crazy how the devil can literally hinderdelay a person from marriage I thank God he gives me victory everytime, the war is real guys.

Thank you sis for this! This is soooo helpful taking notes all of these are great questions!!!❤

I really liked this. Wish I had seen it earlier but its not too late. Thank you for this. you have a new subscriber 🤟

Mama you have just spoken up my mind, remain bless

More grace and wisdom sissy.... By the way, am crushing on your wig❤

Thank you so much Sharon for this ❤

Thank you Sharon, this is really helpful information ❤️🥰

@sharonnwosu8901

4 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching 🤎🤎

I love this information! Thank you so much!!!

This video was wholesome and more 😍🫶🏾

Such a helpful video thank you so much Sharon. I am sure it will be of great help to many

Very insightful 👏

This video was so profound. Thanks for sharing beautiful! 😻 ❤

@sharonnwosu8901

4 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching mama 🤎

You just gained a subscriber❤

Thank is worth sharing so everyone hear about it. Thank you for these words of Wisdom❤

Thank you very much for giving such insight. This was very helpful

Thank you so much for this. I'm blessed😍

This has really helped me, wow thank you ❤

About giving...I think both parties need to be convicted to give by instruction

I enjoyed this. Very helpful

Very informative 👏

This is interesting and educative. God bless you.