I had 8 back to back losses, this 9th pregnancy was so hard emotionally and physically, I felt better when I hit 16 weeks but then at my 20 week scan they picked up a disability so I had a specialist scan at 23 weeks where they confirmed the diagnosis then listed off more disabilitys she might have... They tried to convince me to abort in the next week before viability. I refused as this baby is my blessing and I'm glad to say it was only that one "professional" that was horrible to us like that. My baby is now 2 weeks old and so sweet bless her. We are waiting for her referral for treatment so our next challenge begins shortly 💖 we (me and my husband) have had a rough path but we made it and are so happy.

@jennym744

2 жыл бұрын

Wishing you and your family all the best for the future and thank you for sharing this xxxx 🥰🥰🥰

@minifarmwife6753

2 жыл бұрын

If I could love a comment and send you hugs Mama I would. I'm so sorry you had an unprofessional "professional". Sending you love and prayers. 💕

@debbyryan9283

2 жыл бұрын

Sending you love and hugs

@debbyryan9283

2 жыл бұрын

💞🤰🧑‍🍼👶🤱

@debbyryan9283

2 жыл бұрын

I've been trying to Conceive for 5yrs years now without a baby ,when I meant Dr Williams he helped me out in getting pregnant .....now am 3 months pregnant..

I lost my last baby to stillbirth at 33 weeks last year. I’m currently 32 weeks with my second baby, and my anxiety is worse the further along I get. I find no comfort in being in the third trimester. There is no “safe” time. You’re never in the clear until that baby is in your arms. I’m so ready for this pregnancy to be over.

@heyshayla

2 жыл бұрын

Oh my gosh. I’m so sorry you experienced this and thank you for sharing, i hope you have the support you need. Because I can imagine it does get harder

@roriya8159

2 жыл бұрын

Hello my dear! I'm thinking about you! How are you doing now? Gives updates if you feel like it. I had a miscarriage two, 3 weeks ago... I feel for you. Hoping for the best. All my thoughts!!! ❤🙏❤

@InteriorsbyHer

Жыл бұрын

How long did you wait to try again

@thecuttinggardener361

Жыл бұрын

@@InteriorsbyHer as soon as my cycle returned postpartum, which was about 7 weeks after delivery. I got pregnant again my fourth cycle.

@simransami6927

Жыл бұрын

@@thecuttinggardener361 did you get maternity leave for your loss of 33 weeks?

I’ve had three miscarriages now. I’ve had a miscarriage in between every viable pregnancy. I am currently 21 weeks pregnant with my fourth child. We had a miscarriage three months before I got pregnant this time. It is so hard to get excited when you’re just sitting there biting your nails hoping not to lose another one. after the first two miscarriages I decided to not post pone telling people I was pregnant. The minute I had two lines on a stick I told everybody in my immediate circle. I just needed to feel validated if it didn’t work out. It is so isolating. Working through those feelings with nobody else knowing what you’re going through is impossible. And you can’t expect people to get fully invested in listening to your pain when they had no idea what you were going through in the first place. It’s hard for them too. Thank you so much for sharing your experience for other people to be able to connect to you and each other.

@BESTLinYoga

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your story. I’ve had 2 miscarriages. I don’t know whether I should get some medical treatment on my next pregnancy or just do nothing. Can you give me some advice?

@annamilenamariani3751

Жыл бұрын

​@@BESTLinYoga I am where you were... what did you do? I did test my thiroid and iron levels and take vitamins, I switched from folid acid to folate...

I had an early miscarriage my first pregnancy. This is my second pregnancy and I’m currently at 35 weeks and, God willing, I finally feel like I’m close to the finish line. But I would say the first half of this pregnancy was me trying not to get too excited or attached because I wasn’t sure how I would take bad news if I had gotten too excited.

4 weeks and 1 day pregnant today after a miscarriage at 7 weeks back in a June. Literally feel sick thinking about going through that again. Thank you for sharing these ideas and feelings!

@anniekayfitness

Жыл бұрын

I hope you are very very pregnant at this point 💛

@lakenarmstrong9942

Жыл бұрын

@@anniekayfitness 37 weeks and 5 days ♥️

@ellisbooks1944

7 ай бұрын

​@@lakenarmstrong9942 just found out I was pregnant (middle of 4 weeks) after a missed miscarriage at 11 weeks 3 months ago... I'm thrilled and terrified. What helps me is seeing people who have had a happy ending. Thanks for that and hope you're little one is well

@user-rn2tn7ur8i

2 ай бұрын

Same

I had a miscarriage 3 years ago in the exact same way (blighted ovum). I fell into a dark depression for a while and was just so confused. The Ob I had at the time didn’t explain what that even meant but I didn’t feel like myself for a while. Cut to 3 years later, I delivered my rainbow baby on september 27th 2021. Best day of my life 💕🌈 . Definitely know this feeling all the way. Thank you for sharing ☺️

I was 10 years old when my parents sat my sister and I down to tell us the news that they were pregnant and that they were going to have the baby. It was a huge shock to us because I was always so sad that my parents always said they weren’t going to have more kids. I always wanted a younger sibling so for me it was the best days of my life when I knew my mom was going to give us a younger sibling it was pure bliss. I couldn’t believe it so excited. I have a memory of my mom crying on the bed and my sister telling me mom got her period or something. I remember the day my parents told us they lost the baby at 6 months pregnant. We all stood up in the livingroom hugged and cried in a huddle. That was trauma and life changing heart ache for my 10 year old self especially since my mom said they weren’t going to try again😞. That day we hugged and cried was the day I decided that I KNEW I wanted kids of own one day. I always believed and still believe that because of that pain I experienced then that god would reward me with my own babies. It’s why I was even more broken when I lost my first ever pregnancy at 37 years old at 12 weeks. We’re not giving up but I have this fear in my heart since my moms loss I dream so deeply of the day I get the hold my baby in my arms my 10 year old self has been waiting since then. 😔

This is exactly how I am feeling. I miscarried in October. I just found out I’m pregnant and I don’t have the excitement as the first time. It has been a crazy two year journey. I just keep thinking I hope it sticks. And then any stress makes me more stressed because I need to be calm for the baby. It’s nice hearing I’m not crazy . Thank you for this.

Im 25 weeks pregnant with my 2nd pregnancy and to be honest, when i found out, I couldnt be happy. I was just terrified because I lost my first at 13w when i went to my first ultrasound. To be honest, my mind couldnt process the fact that I literally was carrying a dead baby in my belly for 2 weeks. First time ever that I really wanted to die. Every day, i was telling myself, if i die today, it couldnt be worst than loosing that pregnancy. Everything is fine now, i am becoming happier and happier with my ongoing pregnancy because it's going well but I am still completely terrified something is going to go wrong again. I had very bad nausea and vomiting, but i wouldnt take diclectin until i was feeling the baby kick because I needed a sing, something to calm me down and I knew, as long as my nausea is here, the baby is here too.

@claridiva2000

Жыл бұрын

I know what you mean. I had a silent miscarriage too. being pregnant with your dead child for weeks is a mindfuck of the highest order. especially if you still have some pregnancy symptoms. Mother nature can be so cruel.

@Ryoko007

4 ай бұрын

I had a miscarriage 3 weeks ago. I was told on 19th December 2023 at my 11 week scan that my baby was only 9weeks and I had miscarried. I was so numb at the time the lady told me. it wasn't processing. Then they sent me to a nurse who gave my some leaflets on miscarriage as I never experienced this with my other kid's. She said you can go natural,take a pill or mini op. I chose natural, but didn't realise it would take so long. For like almost 2 weeks, I was carrying my dead baby😢. finally on 2nd January 2024, I had the worst cramps for like 5 hrs prior to blood actually coming out and the clots you feel coming out, so much came out at once that I fainted. it was horrendous. Took 4 days to fully have all clots come out. But now I feel so dead inside. And so depressed. I want to try again but am absolutely terrified why this happened in the first place. I really want to try again for a healthy baby. But how healthy should I try to be? is there exercises I should do? or supplements I should take to make sure it's a healthy good pregnancy next time. And how soon can I try again. I'm kind of scared. it's been 3 weeks and my bleeding has pretty much finished. 😢

@elizabethmichaud7238

4 ай бұрын

@@Ryoko007 i am so sorry you had to go through this. And there are no exercises you can do, it was just bad luck. Make sure you take your vitamins and try not to put too much pressure on yourself. It's not your fault, you most likely did everything right but was unfortunate on the genetic's wheel. The odds of it reoccuring are very slim. I hope you get to have a very healthy and beautiful pregnancy in the futur. 💐

@Ryoko007

4 ай бұрын

@elizabethmichaud7238 thanks for the lovely message.

The fear is real. I've had 3 miscarriages and each of them was found out the same way. Going into that first appointment and finding out there is no heartbeat. One of them I was between 9-12 weeks and was still feeling the nausea of early pregnancy. My doctor had told me that was a good thing, but I still lost the baby. I'm currently 28 weeks and I'm still scared. It doesn't help that I have several things increasing my chances of stillbirth. (My age, high blood pressure, gestational diabetes). I just went into L&D this weekend to check on the baby because I hadn't felt her move all day. She's fine, but the fear of loss is always there.

Also had a blighted ovum miscarriage. Such a weird thing because you literally never even got to see the baby on ultrasound... just a big empty sac. But, a life is a life, no matter how few cells were there when baby stopped growing. I made a birthday cake on what would have been my due date to honor the little life and the grief we went through. I ended up being pregnant again by the time the would-be due date rolled around, so it was a bizarre thing to hold grief and gratitude at the same time. Prayers to all you mamas out there who are going through this now. Faithful Counseling is Better Help's Christian counterpart if you are a believer who would like a more biblical approach from your counselor.

@heyshayla

2 жыл бұрын

Yes to all of this. Thank you for sharing

@debbyryan9283

2 жыл бұрын

Hi dear am so sorry for your loss

@debbyryan9283

2 жыл бұрын

I've been trying to Conceive for 5yrs years now without a baby ,when I meant Dr Williams he helped me out in getting pregnant .....now am 3 months pregnant..

I'm 7 weeks into my rainbow baby pregnancy. I had spotting and my pregnancy symptoms suddenly disappeared. Me and hubby were freaking out and could barely function or sleep for days until I could get into the Dr's office. As much as morning sickness and sore boobs suck, they are reassuring after a previous loss. The baby was good. I'm so grateful my doctor was willing to see me before 8 wks. My mental health would have been awful if I had to wait another week to get some reassurance. That heartbeat was EVERYTHING!! We just gotta make it to 12 weeks and then I can take a breath and relax a bit.

Im also pregnant after a missed misscariage that traumatised me and this pregnancy is almost pure terror to me. 😣

My husband and I lost our twins in January 2021. We conceived our daughter in April and she was born January 5th 2022, literally the day before my miscarriage began a year earlier. It was so difficult to connect with this pregnancy because of our loss and I worried that I wouldn’t be able to bond with her. Thankfully I have been able to bond with her and had an amazing medical team that was so understanding and compassionate.

I had a miscarriage April 2023 and got pregnant July 2023. Every appt I'm stressed/anxious/worried and I don't think that'll ever go away until after I have a safe and healthy pregnancy/delivery... I'm 15 weeks today and always so worried is the baby okay, or when I was having early pregnancy spotting like crying croc tears because I'm so scared... we got this though mamas! Praying for all the miscarriage mamas

@Samreenshahed

3 ай бұрын

How are you now? Hoping you are holding your baby in your arms❤

I found at 11 weeks (day beofre Christmas 2022) I had a missed miscarrigae and baby's heart beat stopped beating at 8 weeks and it was/has been the hardest thing ever. your video has given me a lot of hope - thank you.

@heyshayla

Жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry. It’s so hard and so so lonely. I also have a video about my miscarriages i specifically made for women going thorough it. I hope ir helps. ❤️

Thank you for this I have never felt so validated. Every second of my successful pregnancy was filled with fear and I felt so guilty for not being joyful. Sending you so much love! Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy!

Everything you said in this video is so relatable. I also only found out that I had a miscarriage during a 12 week ultrasound when they couldn't find a heartbeat. In my next pregnancy, I was always terrified at every ultrasound. It's not easy and as you said, unless you've gone through it, people do not understand. So when you purposely wait extra long to announce your pregnancy or as not as excited as you "should" be, the people around you just don't get it. I think it's a very important conversation to have. Thank you for sharing.

My brother lost his baby at 20 weeks. I lost mine at 6.5 weeks. Trying again and really hoping for a healthy baby! 🥲 your videos and Embers & Ash are so helpful. Thank you!

Hi there, had a blighted ovum miscarriage recently and am unsure about trying again. This world is getting so insane and the thought of raising a child that stares at screens constantly and may be surrrounded by peers whose newest fashion is switching their genders, is night marish...trying to be positve but this seems to be a real threat

I follow you because you’re not afraid of talking about these difficult topics. Thanks for doing this video. I’ve already said I’m not telling anyone I’m pregnant until I go into labor next time. 😅

Yes, this is almost exactly how I felt after my miscarriage. I’m 18 weeks pregnant with my rainbow right now. I felt so detached from this baby and I felt so guilty for that. Luckily, I have a Doppler at my work and I can check on things a few times a week. I’m still not feeling movement, but I do think I’ll start to relax when I finally can.

@missld6856

2 жыл бұрын

@Natalie Coleman. Is all ok? I hope so ❤️

@dawnfisher7973

Жыл бұрын

Hi did you have a happy and healthy baby? Hoping for you and your little one!

@nataliecoleman8190

Жыл бұрын

@@dawnfisher7973 I’m due tomorrow!

@dawnfisher7973

Жыл бұрын

@Natalie Coleman. Iam So Happy to hear your little one is now here, CONGRATULATIONS!!! I PRAY DELIVERY AN ALL WENT WELL AND A HAPPY AND HEALTHY BABY! SO,SO HAPPY FOR YOU AND TO HEAR STORIES LIKE YOURS AS THERE IS ALWAYS A RAINBOW AFTER THE STORM AND A JOY EVER SO GREAT THAT BRIGHTENS EACH OF YOUR DAYS! BLESS YOU MOMMY AND YOUR LITTLE BUNDLE OF JOY!!!

@ambengfan

Жыл бұрын

Thx for sharing,! Praying for u and ur baby!

I had two miscarriages before having my oldest daughter (whose now 2 1/2). It was a very happy/terrifying time. I remember when I had implantation bleeding with her. I freaked out and cried quite a bit. Just holding my breath to see if it would stop. (Which it did, thankfully). My husband and I had plans to go out with friends for dinner that night and my husband had to call and cancel. It was quite upsetting to us both (our miscarriage affected him quite a bit too.) My pregnancy with my oldest was very scary. Her placenta was anterior so it was also hard to feel her kick, which made doing the kick counts stressful. We even had a scare finding her heartbeat one time. I had the flu while I was pregnant with her and had to go to urgent care. The doctor couldn’t find her for a hot minute and when he did I bursted into tears. My poor husband did a really good job of loving and supporting a very hormonal, pregnant me. It is very hard to be pregnant after loss.

We had 2 miscarriage before our first kid but every day during pregnancy was challenge.. All the points you made are so relevant.. like each heartbeat check is scary & I kept checking pregnancy chances till the last day.. Congrats and Best of Luck for health pregnancy

Thank you so much for this!!!! Exactly what I needed to hear!

this is a perfect description of how i’m feeling. i’m 13 weeks pregnant now after two miscarriages and still not excited how I feel like I should be, but still just hoping we have a healthy baby in the near future. I am definitely working on telling myself good thoughts

@annamilenamariani3751

Жыл бұрын

Did you do amy tests? Just had my 2 miscarriage a few weeks ago with twins. I am so worried it is gonna happen again...

@corrinevictoria6581

Жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry to hear that. I actually did not do any tests, I am 34 weeks pregnant now and have just started to become excited that I’m actually going to birth our first child.

Thank you so much for doing this video and sharing your story and how you felt! I was agreeing with you the whole time. I've got to go through one more medical situation before we can start trying again and I know I'm going to have those exact thoughts. Thankful for the women who have gone through and are going through this hard journey with me.

This video is so important to have out there for some many going through the same things. We tried for years and finally got pregnant and miscarried at 7 weeks. Then a few years later we are pregnant again--I am currently at 17 weeks. But it's so hard to be excited because you're afraid that something might happen. In between each sonogram I just wonder if the baby is still okay and then am relieved to have the heart beating and seeing the baby move around. The whole time I start to stress about something I just had to tell myself that there's no point in worrying about something I cannot control as it will just add stress. All I can do is do my best.

Thank you for youre story. Yesterday I found out that my baby didn't have a heartbeat for about 2 weeks now. I am distraught. I looked up what my percentage was for miscarriage and it was about 1%. I don't know how I'm ever going to have a full pregnancy after this

@heyshayla

2 жыл бұрын

Sending you so much love and healing

Thank you so much for sharing. I totally agree with everything you said after going through the same exact thing. It’s nice to feel less isolated. ❤️

I love how real and honest your videos are thank you so much for posting on this ❤️ I can't imagine how difficult of an experience this is to go through. Two of my close friends recently suffered a pregnancy loss and this video really helps shed light on how to best support them. Thank you so much 💓 I feel it's really important to talk about these things so we can lean on each other and help heal

You perfectly summed up what it feels like to be pregnant after loss. I’ve had three losses (all of them last year) and it kind of makes me sad seeing people freak out about a positive pregnancy tests cause I’ve had so many it isn’t exciting anymore. We hope to have a successful pregnancy and it gives me so much hope when people share their healthy pregnancies after multiple losses 💕

Thank you so much for this video. It helps me feel less alone 😔🤍 Praying for all of you to have a healthy pregnancy 🙏🏽

Well said! This very much describes my experiences/ feelings in pregnancy after my miscarriage as well. One piece of advice I would share is that you can ask your doctor to skip trying to find the heartbeat with the sonogram and go straight to the ultrasound machine. When I had my first loss they couldn’t find the heartbeat with a sonogram and so it gave me a lot of PTSD when they would attempt to find it that way post miscarriage. My doctor was amazing and understood this and would just pull the ultrasound machine into the room so I could see the heartbeat and watch my baby move. It was the most compassionate thing anyone has ever done for me.

We had our first child 6 months ago. A beautiful healthy girl after 4 miscarriages. Stressful and scary is an understatement. When I was dealing with the emotions surrounding our miscarriages there wasn't a lot of places I felt I could go and I'm glad to see that's changing in the public space. I will say if you are watching this as someone trying to support someone who had a miscarriage and who is now pregnant watch for the level of support she needs. My mother, in particular, was constantly asking if I was okay, if all was okay, wanting updates from every appointment. Everyone wanted every ultrasound photo and ultrasound update and I just needed some privacy and personal space. Well meaning or not, that's not what I needed so it actually caused me more stress instead of relief and joy So if you are a support person, ask her what she needs. 😁

Shayla, sorry for your family's loss; we do understand we lost babies also. Family is such a blessing, love hopes all things💜Rach&fam

I recently had a miscarriage at around 5 weeks. I hadn’t even told my husband yet since we live in different countries and I wanted to tell him in person. The day that I was going to see him was the day I miscarried. It was around his birthday so the pregnancy test was wrapped in with his birthday gift. The worst part was him seeing it and having to tell him I wasn’t pregnant anymore. Thank you so much for talking about miscarriage and normalizing it. It’s a horrible thing to go through but something not enough people talk about. It’s far more common than many think it is 😞

@veronicagrave159

2 жыл бұрын

I also had my miscarriage when I was separated from my husband (he was immigrating to the US but there had been significant delays). It was difficult to mourn when he wasn’t around. But we tried again and he finally moved to the US and now we’re 35 weeks pregnant.

Gosh everything you said was so relatable, I felt so anxious getting pregnant a month after my miscarriage I kept feeling like I was going to lose her it was such a horrible feeling. Even past my first trimester I was in denial I'd ever get to meet her. It was so horrible. I hope my next pregnancy I've healed enough to enjoy it more. Love your videos 💗 you're awesome.

@heyshayla

2 жыл бұрын

The pregnancy (after having my daughter) has been less stressful

@tarotkama

2 жыл бұрын

@@heyshayla I'm so glad to hear that 💕 now that I've gotten through one and carried full term I definitely can tell my confidence in my body has grown so much. Our bodies are so powerful!!

@rachealborders

Жыл бұрын

This is where I am right now. I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks in June and now I'm 8 weeks pregnant again. I feel so cautious. I feel like I can't trust this until I see that heart rate in the right range. My first ultrasound is at the end of this month.

Youre beautiful and your hair looks good 👌🏽 You had me worried with the title and your current pregnancy… sorry for your losses

Thank you for sharing this. My husband and I had a loss in the fall after trying 3 months for the first time. We are getting ready to try again next month and it's very scary for both of us. Thankfully I had the support of my mom who had two miscarriages, my cousin who also had 2 and my SIL who had 4 before finally having a healthy baby, but it was still hard. Thanks for reminding me I'm not alone and I can do this!

Thank you for making this video. I get so much strenght from people that went to something similar, had a hard time with it but ended up having healthy kid(s) after all. It gives me hope. We lost our first baby in 2021 due to a ruptured placenta at 14 weeks. I got pregnant again in januari and instantly started having nightmares of beds full of blood. I miscarried at 5 weeks. I am thinking about pregnancies and what can go wrong every single dat and it is hard. For everyone in The comments that is struggling and can’t find anyone to talk to. You’re NOT alone and I am always here for you

I would like to see more videos about how you Montessori with your toddler! I’m also a big fan of gaps family but it’d be great to get a different perspective/experience.

We lost our first at 20 weeks when the umbilical cord prolapsed (complications with incompetent cervix) 6 weeks ago on Dec 15, 2021. My husband and I were (and still are) devastated. I had just started to feel him moving and wiggling 2 weeks beforehand which made it even harder to say goodbye. We kept our son in my hospital room until I was discharged the next day and we were so thankful to have that time to hold him and talk to him. I keep his receiving blanket with me wherever I go and my husband holds the pouch of cremains every day when he gets home. Some days are harder than others, but lately everyday has been hard. We still keep track of how many weeks old he would have been in gestation. We still talk to him and tell him we miss him every day.

@debbyryan9283

2 жыл бұрын

Hi dear am so sorry for your loss

@debbyryan9283

2 жыл бұрын

I've been trying to Conceive for 5yrs years now without a baby ,when I meant Dr Williams he helped me out in getting pregnant .....now am 3 months pregnant..

Yes. I've had two miscarriages over 10 years ago and this is my first time being pregnant since then. Monday we go in for the viability confirmation appointment and I'm trying to not freak out because like you said, the stress can't possibly be a healthy growing environment :-/

I almost lost my baby boy when I was 22 weeks in 2020 and it was traumatizing. I’m scared to go through another pregnancy, but we’re trying. It’s really hard to explain to someone how you can be relieved and sad at the same time to get a negative pregnancy test. Thank you for sharing this video, it helped with my emotions a little

Thank you for this video, I had a missed miscarriage in July when I was 13 weeks and I am now in my first trimester with my second pregnancy. I am feeling all of this now, the anxiety is overwhelming. I think until I am holding a baby, it will not feel real. I showed my partner this video and he thinks your amazing for sharing this with everyone because it happens so often and it’s not spoken about. Thank you again!

@dawnfisher7973

Жыл бұрын

Well said, thank you. It's nice to know we all can definitely relate on a similar level!

Shayla I love that you are willing to talk about the hard stuff. One thing worth mentioning that alot of people don't talk about is the physical pain involved with a miscarriage. Not only are you dealing with emotional pain, but then when you do get pregnant again every little cramp or blood sends you into panic mode. Instead of it being this fun and exciting time, it's filled with stress and worry, which just makes the discomfort of the first trimester worse! Becoming a mom can be just as hard as being a mom sometimes.

I haven’t started trying again yet cause I’m a bit in fear, it has been almost 8 months since my baby passed away after birth at 26 weeks. He had a rare health condition… I learn he wouldn’t make it at 19 weeks… The next 2 months with him felt so hard I’m not sure of how I willl go through another pregnancy. Drs said it was pure “luck” no explanation as to why this happened which makes it even scarier. I’m currently going with a therapist to help me get better for some day getting pregnant again. I really think going through this just changed me forever. I don’t think I will be myself again, but I have made peace with that.

Thank you so mutch for this video! Im 30 weeks at my 2. pregnancy. I lost my first at 8+4 weeks! I feel like people dont get me and all my feelings and the video made me feel so normal and i am so glad that what i feel is normal! Thank you ❤

@heyshayla

Жыл бұрын

Sending you love! It’s such a hard thing❤️❤️ 30 weeks! Eeeek

@smukkeputtemiin

Жыл бұрын

@@heyshayla Thank you! For understanding! Yea i cant beilive it! And yet Im still nervus that she Will die, but hope is High ❤️❤️ just Thank you for sharring Im sure there is Many people who need that! ❤️❤️

Thank you for sharing this Shayla, this is going in my 'doula' youtube folder.

Thank you for sharing this! I had a blighted ovum it was absolutely soul crushing and feels like a cruel joke. I didn’t know that was possible before I experienced it. We are trying again but I’m also very worried.

@heyshayla

2 жыл бұрын

I agree it is a cruel joke. A huge mind body disconnect

FTM will be 11 weeks on Friday, and I’ve had such an easy pregnancy that I’m just always terrified. I’ve been craving water and had that exhaustion, which is more reassuring, but even with no prior miscarriage it’s still so scary bc it feels like no date is “safe”. We had an ultrasound at 9weeks and saw baby with a heartbeat but I still worry each day. Can’t wait for my 12 week scan and to hopefully feel more secure with baby

I've found im pregnant, for the third time. The last two ended in miscarriages. Its still pretty early on, so no appointments or scans as of yet but I feel so... overwhelmed? My body feels pregnant, I can feel my uterus stretching. But at the same time, I'm more aware- I'm aware what doesn't feel right and what does so when I move too quick or get up in a weird way I feel fear. I haven't told many people (not even my mother) because I'm just so scared that it'll end the way it did before. How do you feel positive when all you feel is fear? I really want to feel happy but I'm scared to.

@MissSmurfey

Жыл бұрын

How are you doing?

Thank you!

Thank you so much for posting this and continuing to share your story with people. It is beyond helpful! I had a miscarriage August 2019 and was blessed with a beautiful boy March 2021. During that 2nd pregnancy I searched for videos like this to help me feel validation and comfort and not being so alone. It is so scary and I plan on having another child some day and I know that will be scary too. The montra I found on instagram, they have some really wonderful support pages out there, was this "This is a different pregnancy, a different baby a different story with a different ending." Every appointment I would say this over and over to try to calm myself and keep positive good vibes. Another quote I tried to keep in mind was "my want for this baby outweighs the fear" I had got through it before and if I had to I would get through it again. Very glad I had my husband to lean on during that 2nd pregnancy and we did discuss the possibility of another loss and the worry we shared, that was very helpful!

I love and support your channel ❤ I wish I could watch this video but mentally I'm not ready. Anxiety is a killer. Thank you for talking about the hard topics for the people who can handle listening to them ❤ sending you and baby good thoughts!

@heyshayla

2 жыл бұрын

Good for you for knowing what you need right now. I support you and that decision, sending you sooooo much love

@katieswafford8549

2 жыл бұрын

@@heyshayla thank you! 💕

Ok girl, I am right now in that "window". 2nd trimester (17weeks), no kicking (anterior placenta) and after loss in 7 week (I know, early, but..). And no excitement in the beginning because of worrying. Thank you for this video! P.S. Thanks God to my preccious doctor and the AngelSounds!!🤗

This is ❤️

This hit so hard. I'm at 7 weeks on Sunday and this is my first after my blighted ovum and just had the first ultrasound. We saw the heart beat and I still don't fully believe it.

@heyshayla

2 жыл бұрын

Sending you so much love and peace

I had a miscarriage a week ago at 7w 2d. My first pregnancy. I had an ultrasound Monday with a heartbeat and 2 days later baby was gone. It was such a traumatic experience. AND THE HORMONE CHANGES JUST MAKE IT SO MUCH WORSE. Even though it was so short, I had a wonderful 1st pregnancy. Very, very, very mild symptoms. I want to get pregnant again, I'm excited to be pregnant again, but if anything, I'm more nervous that the 2nd/next pregnancy I will have terrible symptoms vs being nervous of another miscarriage. I feel like that's strange, I've watched to many miscarriage videos and never have I heard someone express the same perspective/thoughts.

I am so scared to try for another . When I first found out about my pregnancy in May I was also worried, scared, confused. I felt bad for having this negative feeling or thoughts but then at times as days passed I was like ok so we are doing this, this will be a small person one day. It was hard bc I have always just had my now 15 yo son and I felt like I was betraying him by bringing another person into our close relationship. So, then after going to first prenatal appt bc I had started bleeding I felt even worse bc I thought my body was punishing me for the negativity I initially felt or thought when I first found out about being pregnant. Anyways, it was hard 11 weeks and end of it all I miscarried and it made me see I wanted this little person so bad for so long but was just stuck in a rut or everyday normality. I miss it and I wish I could one day carry it but that will never happen now and now I am scares to try bc what if it happens all over again ughhhh

I had a miscarriage 3 weeks ago. I was told on 19th December 2023 at my 11 week scan that my baby was only 9weeks and I had miscarried. I was so numb at the time the lady told me. it wasn't processing. Then they sent me to a nurse who gave my some leaflets on miscarriage as I never experienced this with my other kid's. She said you can go natural,take a pill or mini op. I chose natural, but didn't realise it would take so long. For like almost 2 weeks, I was carrying my dead baby😢. finally on 2nd January 2024, I had the worst cramps for like 5 hrs prior to blood actually coming out and the clots you feel coming out, so much came out at once that I fainted. it was horrendous. Took 4 days to fully have all clots come out. But now I feel so dead inside. And so depressed. I want to try again but am absolutely terrified why this happened in the first place. I really want to try again for a healthy baby. But how healthy should I try to be? is there exercises I should do? or supplements I should take to make sure it's a healthy good pregnancy next time. And how soon can I try again. I'm kind of scared. it's been 3 weeks and my bleeding has pretty much finished. 😢

Thank you so much for this video! Do you think could speak more about why you decided to go to therapy? I am thinking of seeing a therapist myself. Do you recommend it?

I reacted pretty "normal" after both of my miscarriages. No mourning or depression, just went about my days as normal. Now that I'm pregnant again, I'm negative, pessimistic, not sure if I even want to go through this. Really bizarre.

@heyshayla

Жыл бұрын

So weird how we all respond, even different than we might think!

@annamilenamariani3751

Жыл бұрын

Did you do any testing about your second miscarriage, or just tried again? Did it work out ok? Just had my 2 one and I am devestated esp considering a further pregnancy

@DivinePearl

Жыл бұрын

@@annamilenamariani3751 yeah, I did some testing. I had a blood clotting disorder so throughout this pregnancy, i have to take these daily heparin shots. I'm due in 2 weeks.

@annamilenamariani3751

Жыл бұрын

@@DivinePearl I just decided to do this testing too, eventhougj it's quite espensive. All the best to you and safe delivery ❤️ you can do this!

I’m currently going through a chemical pregnancy and having a harder time with it than I thought I would. I keep thinking of how far along I “could” be. And it doesn’t help that I’m on day 10 of bleeding so we can’t even start trying again yet. I just want it to be done and over with.

@debbyryan9283

2 жыл бұрын

I've been trying to Conceive for 5yrs years now without a baby ,when I meant Dr Williams he helped me out in getting pregnant .....now am 3 months pregnant..

@Mm-zc3yv

2 жыл бұрын

I know how you feel. Every time I went to the bathroom it was a reminder. I pushed myself get over it. We are wasting time. We need to try again. I pushed and hid my emotions. But when time came I sabotage my next try because that’s when it hit me. I hated hearing “chemical” pregnancy. Why not just say miscarriage. I felt denied that. No matter how many days we lost. It’s okay to feel and have hope. I’m sending lots love and baby dust your way. ❤️

I just had a miscarriage at 12 weeks and delivered our baby at home on the 19th. We were able to see him and I held him in my hand for a long time just looking at him and counting all his fingers and toes. It was really distressing and I've never grieved so hard in my life. We did early blood testing and found out we were having a beautiful baby boy. We had multiple ultrasounds and we saw baby moving and a heartbeat and everything. Everything was perfect and healthy. And then there was no heartbeat and he stopped growing. I had no signs until I had brown spotting but I wasn't even nervous. I felt great and had no cramping. It totally blindsided. We struggled with infertility to conceive our first baby who is now 10 months old. And then we conceived this baby and everything was perfect and now he's just gone. It hurts so bad. We told everyone around 8 weeks and I'm glad we told everyone. We have had lots of love and support through our miscarriage. Ugh just a couple days ago we were at the store and had our daughter with us and some older lady was talking to us about how well behaved our daughter is and then she said "her life sure is about to change in a big way" I said "what do you mean" she pointed to my stomach and said "the new baby on the way" I just blankly stared at her and then said "We just lost our baby this week" She was completely unapologetic and we left so fast and I got to the car and just SOBBED. I was only 12 weeks along and just a little bloated. I didn't think I even looked that pregnant and I have no idea why she would even say something like that. I hope she was embarrassed and learned a lesson. It's been a couple days and I'm still bothered by it and had a super bad panic attack last night. HECK, miscarriage sucks so much.

@stephiegrennell8440

2 жыл бұрын

Miscarriages do suck! I’m so sorry for your loss. 💜 it’s definitely one of the worst experiences I’ve ever had as well, and it is an experience I wouldn’t wish on even my worst enemy. I know it’s not very helpful. But I’m sending you a virtual hug and much love.

@debbyryan9283

2 жыл бұрын

@@stephiegrennell8440 hi if you're trying to Conceive

@debbyryan9283

2 жыл бұрын

@@stephiegrennell8440 I've been trying to Conceive for 5yrs years now without a baby ,when I meant Dr Williams he helped me out in getting pregnant .....now am 3 months pregnant..

I needed to see this, I miscarried last Wednesday. I want to know there is hope 👼🏻🌈

@MissSmurfey

Жыл бұрын

I miscarried 4 days ago at 7w6d with my 1st pregnancy after 5 months trying 🥺 i just turned 40 and pray i can conceueve again soon 🙏

@alexandraparker583

Жыл бұрын

@@MissSmurfey so sorry Sarah. It’s so, so hard. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone. I have found support in other women who’ve walked this same path and it’s good to know there is hope. Thinking of you 💗

❤

Has anyone here experienced fainting when a miscarriage happened at 9weeks? with a natural miscarriage at home? after lots of severe cramping like contractions my miscarried baby came out and so much blood but then i felt so light headed and dizzy i couldnt hold my consciousness. i really hope im.not the only one.

We had a silent late loss at 20weeks in 2020 and it was the worst thing we've ever been through. We have just had a beautiful, healthy baby boy on Saturday. The pregnancy was hard, intense emotionally and amazing all at once.

@sarahtara5546

2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations!! We had our daughter on the 18th :)

@ChelseaNae

2 жыл бұрын

I see you and share your pain Mama! Congrats on the new precious boy!

I had a missed miscarriage last May with my second baby at 13 weeks. Still not mentally ready to try again. I’m worried that I won’t ever be ready again.

@debbyryan9283

2 жыл бұрын

You can be pregnant again ok

@debbyryan9283

2 жыл бұрын

I've been trying to Conceive for 5yrs years now without a baby ,when I meant Dr Williams he helped me out in getting pregnant .....now am 3 months pregnant..

@debbyryan9283

2 жыл бұрын

Contact him now on WhatsApp for help on pregnancy issues ok..

@debbyryan9283

2 жыл бұрын

Sending you love 💞💖

I had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks and still had all the symptoms so I thought during the ultrasound that everything was ok despite the tech not saying anything. Definitely broke down after getting hit with the news and then with the next pregnancy, they couldn’t find a heartbeat at 17 weeks, got an ultrasound and there she was, happy and wiggly!

@BiteMeSenseless

2 жыл бұрын

Same happened to me, I was so anxious with my second pregnancy until I could feel her moving. I kept saying I'll relax when I can feel her. I'll relax once it's viable. I'll relax when I'm full term. I'll relax when she's in my arms

@debbyryan9283

2 жыл бұрын

@@BiteMeSenseless I've been trying to Conceive for 5yrs years now without a baby ,when I meant Dr Williams he helped me out in getting pregnant .....now am 3 months pregnant..

I had a miscarriage early 2020 (right before covid started) it was probably one of the worse things I went though, then I got pregnant again last year and the whole pregnancy I was on pins and needles and it was a rough pregnancy, I was on Progesterone shots, and insulin shots (gestational diabetes) and then and even worse labor it lasted 72 hours and I ended up needing a c section (something I was trying to at all costs avoid) then she was in the hospital for a week, having trouble breathing, regulating her blood sugar, and eating and I was in the hospital for high blood pressure... Fast forward 6 months and I have a healthy baby girl and as hard as it all was it was worth it because I have my little girl

@debbyryan9283

2 жыл бұрын

Hi dear am so sorry for your loss

@debbyryan9283

2 жыл бұрын

I've been trying to Conceive for 5yrs years now without a baby ,when I meant Dr Williams he helped me out in getting pregnant .....now am 3 months pregnant..

@megacatdragonk70

2 жыл бұрын

@@debbyryan9283 thanks, I have my little girl now and she's healthy so that's all that matters

I had a miscarriage before my daughter. I had terrible anxiety. When I was 17 w with her, I started having bleeding. It was so unsettling. Everything turned out fine, and I was bleeding due to a cervical polyp, but I was so scared.

Hi, did you do anything different this time around???

@heyshayla

Жыл бұрын

Nope, just tried to stay sane

06:32 Facts.

Good Morning Shayla! I'm a fellow twin cities pregnant gal, 37 weeks, and have learned so much and comforted by your honest and down to earth videos. Thank you!! I had a lot of fear of loss until I finally felt kicking at 23 weeks, and even then it still felt surreal for awhile. I cried at every heartbeat check, "He's still there!!" I'd say in relief. I'm over 40, took awhile to get pregnant so we feel incredibly lucky to be pregnant! I don't take for granted that we are progressing in this pregnancy and others are not. Kudos on talking about Better health services, we are still in the thick of this pandemic and staying home for what we can is a good idea. Keep up the good work and I will send good thoughts and prayers for your pregnancy and continued work here. 💓💓💓

@leahb3113

2 жыл бұрын

Correction Better help not Better health, my bad

@debbyryan9283

2 жыл бұрын

@@leahb3113 hi if you're trying to Conceive

@debbyryan9283

2 жыл бұрын

@@leahb3113 I've been trying to Conceive for 5yrs years now without a baby ,when I meant Dr Williams he helped me out in getting pregnant .....now am 3 months pregnant..

The thing you are talking about, the awkward conversation with a friend: ‘he you did not know but I was pregnant and now I’m not’ I’m wondering why are you not telling anyone in the first trimester? Because you can miscarry right? And you don’t want the whole word to ask about you baby and have to tell them that you mis carried. But then why are we holding on to this first trimester rule so strongly when we know that there are people we would want to talk to if we miscarry… wouldn’t it be easier to just tell the people you need when anything goed wrong from the start that you are pregnant?! Is this 1st trimester rule beneficial to us? Or had it made miscarriage the taboo that it is today? I’m wondering…

I had a miscarriage last week 14 Weeks because of fibroid 😭😭

I cannot even imagine the feeling. In my second trimester my doctor told me I have a baby girl and we named her and my husband used to kiss my belly every morning going to work and say goodbye to her and then in the last trimester we were told we are having a baby boy.. we were still happy, but we felt like we had a little girl that died. We still feel like we miss her, even tho she never existed. We wish to try again and have our baby girl sometime.

@debbyryan9283

2 жыл бұрын

Hi dear am so sorry for your loss

@debbyryan9283

2 жыл бұрын

I've been trying to Conceive for 5yrs years now without a baby ,when I meant Dr Williams he helped me out in getting pregnant .....now am 3 months pregnant..