Just watching this is making my heart beat so fast 😢 I feel like I’ll never get over my ptsd from my domestic abuse trauma 😢 It happened 6 years ago. I broke away 6 years ago.

@Emily-ti4ls

3 ай бұрын

It’s been 6 months since I escaped 💔

I can so relate to being triggered by bugs etc in a room. And being so sensitive to noise. Also I found that years of abuse and stress lowered my b12 level, which made me more reactive to outside triggers too. My nerves were literally frayed. Once I corrected that deficiency, things got easier and I could work through it better. I had no idea that abuse and stress could lower vitamins and minerals like that and make the ptsd symptoms even worse.

@agnessusana

Жыл бұрын

Wow!! Thanks for this comment.

I was abused from the time I was 16 from a drug addict. All my life i put my energy into helping family members and taking care of my kids i never faced what i went through, My last living sibling my brother died on the 18th of April . Through The Grieving and realizing that I wasn't needed by anyone all the memories started coming back it's like I'm reliving it all over again like I never faced it in the first place.I'm not one to cry but lately that's all I do. I was recently diagnosed with severe anxiety and clinical depression and possible ptsd. It was so painful I guess I suppress it all these years I am now 57 years old and I still feel like that scared 16-year-old girl

It took me five years to go no contact. It is going to be challenging in the beginning. It gets better with the passage of time.

They're the worst kind because they're a wolf in sheep's clothing! In public they play a game like they're such a great person.

@ImreadyforJesus

2 ай бұрын

Closet monsters Nice to everyone else while destroying me

Emdr can release the strongholds of ptsd

My abuser was physical too but mostly financial and emotionally abusive.

Thank You for this video! It is Not easy to leave due to the trauma Bond! Even if You have economic resources! Most people don't get it and they retraumatize You! Only if You have went through that experience You understand!

This dogmatic adherence to the 3 phases is why it took me so long to recognize that I was in an abusive marriage.

❤️🤘✝️🇺🇸 God with all of us and survivors of both verbal & domestic abuse

Um men get abused too. I was raped by a partner. Ended a budding career in corporate piloting. Destroyed my self confidence. I was in construction in Southern California which is very competitive. Ruined my life.

Bless you guys, you guys are spot on with everything.

Thank you for sharing your story. It helped me.

I had the sleep deprivation techniques and then had to try and go to work the next day. I was a shell of my former self and have never dealt with it all. All aspects of my life are affected.

I have one easy fix for not getting sleep...trip the fuse box and turn the power off to the entire home. Not trying to make light of the situation (no pun intended). My current man suffers from ptsd and I understand how sleep is very important to him. We are both truckers so sleep schedules can already be messed up etc. Adding on to the stress of one of the most stressful professions out there. I didn't really understand him when we first met, but I think we've both made progress. He's also an avoidant introvert and the ptsd is not just from the military it's also unhealed childhood trauma and abandonment etc. It is so complex and not everyone is willing to go down the rabbit hole with someone. I've spent years working through my own trauma and cycles and triggers. Educated myself on fear based mind control etc. He displays all the self doubts and insecurities and he is passive aggressive or just simply shuts down. I mistook his treatment of me for manipulation tactics because his withdrawal and withdrawal of affection seemed narcissistic to me, but I had to remind myself that he was basically in survival mode, it wasn't done to gain narcissistic supply from me. Unfortunately he is tied into his trauma situation with family etc that he isn't able to detach from currently so he exposes himself to that environment and it reinforces the trauma the triggers and the anxiety and insecurities that come with it all over again. I stay separate from all of it and I preserve my safe space and I preserve a safe space for him aswell. I can always tell a switch up of enegies when we interact. These are the "super powers" of empaths once you learn to observe and not absorb and have healthy boundaries and know your triggers, you can recognize patterns within yourself and others and adjust behaviors in that way. Not everyone who displays narcissistic behaviors is a narcissist. Traumatized empaths often adapt narc traits for preservation or narc behavior is all they have known in their environment. I had been so brainwashed in my own self that for a period of time I thought that I was possibly a narcisstic abuser. At 44 now I am finally at the point where I know and understand myself and I am happy and I can relate and pass on my own experiences to help shed awareness. It gets even more confusing because everyone seems to be spreading the rhetoric without even understanding what those terms even mean. A crazy world we live in! If you've regained your peace and sanity...protect it with all you have!

I can not handle listening It hurts so much and really damaged all things to be a good person I have no support and I’m still defending myself about being abused. The children courts do not allow healing its legally silenced at the expense of my trust

It's all about gaining more resources and switching places with you by mirroring your essence! He also used these methods to distract you from your purpose and destiny. It's a mind game to con you and steal from you!

I was gaslighted by my abuser too! This is a Narcissistic game that they use to distract you!

Thanks for sharing. I realized that with smart homes, a complete new hidious way in misusing technology is available for domestic abusers and many are not prepared for understanding what it means to the victim 😮. So sorry to hear about reaching out and not being believed or helped.

Crying 😢its like me So so sad 😢😢😢

I was pinned on the floor once and almost lost all my ability to breathe! I was also choked! According to the FB, tthe risks of choking or strangulation are higher statistics of homicide!

@katierobertsfnp6403

6 ай бұрын

I am sorry that you had to endure such violence. Statistics show that 70% of those who have been strangled, are KILLED by their abuser. Getting strangled by your partner is extremely serious. Get out while you can, so you can live. The thought of having to have my beloved Sister come and identify my (dead) body still makes me sick to my stomach, to this day.

@willowclay5406

6 ай бұрын

@@katierobertsfnp6403 I left thst creep almost 10 years ago!

I have severe PTSD

You need to go to temple and allow God to full your soul. Don't ever allow anyone to mistreat you ever again. Take back your power! I know most women want to be loved and have babies. It's more important to be safe.

FYI not just women are victims of IPV so i would update the definition to be more inclusive

U should new this problem long time ago I was not doing this to people

Im going to change my life and go forward to my future this drug its not word it to me and my future

So wat u want me to change ?

There is a Law or Tort in Cali that says emotional distress and harassment is illegal here.

So wat do u want me to do?

yikes

So im sorry that i heart u i bromese u that my future is coming soon i need u to help me abd my future i have to stop this drug and i go forward to my future i want u to help me and are future

I cant ket her go or just wolk way with out telk to me but evething shot down on me for tree years i still looking for ger were she is way just new ur show up to tolk to me its make me crying every day way did u lef me alone with this evil people controlling my life

I never been each or follow we're ever I go this people are one makee do this madness stress I never experience been abouse like this lot of men watching me in my house I don't like it

Well it's up to u if u don't want to come back it's ok but I want u to n3w that I was not one driving my self to heart u it's this people having my movement controlling my life

Well that abouse is from my stress to this evil people doing this evil job to me and my drug problem I didn't but my self out there living with drug for do long

Well if people are abouse me way not I'm doing it to people but if they don't do that to me I don't do it

Wat is that mean ?

It's was drug drive me heart u i didn't new about it

I'm sorry that time wen this people was actak me I didn't new that wat is going on to me way I'm doing this or way I'm doing this to people it's this people are still here to doing this stress and mad they driving me to do this goss they have my movement controlling my life I'm not bud person ok

Why wouldn't you just leave the home? A hotel? A relatives place? A friend's?

Same here wat this guys doing to me is child abouse rep in my house keep watching me and following me they don't live me alone it's make me stress angry I never experience this stress before I'm cloud ur said something about this abouse it's sad painful wat this guys shoot at me my house or having sex I don't new way wat are they here watching me taking my picture a d show it to puplic and polly light st me wat they taking my pitrur

So that way u gon for ever way just new ur till about it it's already ten years new this problem

You were with a covert Narcissist.

Antyl new they still here doing this to me the6 don't stop u new u work with them

I don't need wat is that sickness in me I don't see doctor goss I don't feel sick new that people having my movement are one make me sick in said of me

Well I'm sorry I didn't new wat I'm doing I don't n3w how is doing this controlling me new that I new this people are controlling me and my life I didn't new about they make me do this to u I hop u new wat this people doing this to me make me mad stress for long time

Well if this people stop controlling me to get stress and mad I will change ok

Well sorry that i hesrt u i didn't new wat hoppen to me how controlling my life

It's was people working this sex school I didn't new wat is going on to me

U new u work with them u new how I'm going tru my life I didn't aßk them to control my life to do there dusty job I doñt like it at all

Thank you so much for sharing your story!! For the host, I would encourage you to please use gender neutral terms for the victim/survivor of abuse and the abuser/aggressor. The definition of domestic abuse is not this abuse against a woman, but against another person - men and non-binary individuals included. Unfortunately there aren’t even reliable statistics about male victims of abuse due to underreporting and a focus only on female victims. But with that said , I really appreciate you providing this platform & information !!!

@kmac1480

Жыл бұрын

There aren't reliable ( conclusive ) statistics about any category of abuse victims -- due to myriad factors that consistently lead to underreporting or the charges denied, diminished, and/ or dropped, or an inequality in the access to equivalent material provisions , societal bias but also benefit and connection . Statistics and Research methodology in general, but emphasized in the social sciences in particular-- are designed to recognize, mitigate and extrapolate more accurate numbers. in spite of these disadvantages and actively seek allowance for them in order to convey the most realistic and accurate portrayal of a situation . Especially today, no one working in this field is oblivious to the way that gender can and is sometimes reversed, but the REALITY of the numbers, the reasons, the methods, the physical results, biological and psychological differences between men and women both as perpetrator and victim and the supports by societal conventions and rules of engagement arising from all of these---- STILL make it most useful in a youtube general video to use the genders as described , reverse if necessary in your case, ❤remind yourself that this being a Crime .. a CRIME .. is key to centering whoever is subject to the harm is also subject to the support and respect, the care, provision, compensation etc. made available to this unfortunate category of citizens

@Corkery-pk9wz

Жыл бұрын

I really feel so invalidated looking for videos. It’s hard to find any video that doesn’t use gender specific terms. I just had my first flashback and I’m just learning I have this problem. If you have any video suggestions for me I’d appreciate it.

@billyd1436

Жыл бұрын

@@kmac1480 This seems like an intelligible word said. What's your point?

@stregalilith

Жыл бұрын

Gender neutral terms are contraindicated in the instance of male on female violence since it is a deeply gendered issue in our society and the problem won't be solved unless it's properly defined and approached. Male on female violance, Men's and even boys' violence on women and girls is a unique phenomenum and won't be solved until we understand the underlying dynamics which are different than violence perpetrated upon men by either men or women.

@catsaresocute650

11 ай бұрын

there is a dark number of cases, but for woman and for men. Of those that are unkown the majority are woman and children. I do not understand how people started beliving that there is some type of undue focus on woman-victems. The focus is there bc the gender-imbalance is there. For the most part DV is perpetrated by a men against his family members

Well wat just new u tell me u was gon never come back if my phone off so I didn't new way u off my phone and it's was evil was driving me stupid I don't have no clue wat hoppen to me antyl I find out

SEXIST!!! WHAT ABOUT FROM THE WOMAN TO THE MAN???? OH WOMEN DON'T DO THAT!!!!

@lv3968

Жыл бұрын

Literally at the beginning of the video it says we are going to talk about HER EXPERIENCES

@elise9537

Жыл бұрын

hold it Karen. theres videos and guys talking about it too in other contexts . cant you just look it up? yes I am all up for the guys talking about it and denouncing abuse.

@elise9537

Жыл бұрын

omg she was trying not to expose him to the family and their rabi... get a diagnosis because you might have some issues yourself.

You should have made this not specific to sex in the sense that the person being abused is a woman and the male the abuser.

@Thecatnamedkiwi

Жыл бұрын

Well it’s just a woman sharing her story…

@lv3968

Жыл бұрын

Literally at the beginning of the video she says we are talking about HER experience

@stregalilith

Жыл бұрын

And the overwhelming majority of intimate partner violence is perpetrated by men against women due to certain societal ideas he grew up with. In cases where a man is being abused by a woman or by a male partner, it does happen and it's terrible and if that is your experience I am sorry and I urge to to seek help but the dynamics are different from those that create and perpetuate male on female violence and even female on female violence. Those vidtims deserve help as well but those are not the majority of incidents we deal with.