Anyone contemplating bottom surgery should watch this video. I’m sure this is uncomfortably personal for you, but you are owed a big thank you for your candor. Happy New Year, Alexander!

@alexanderl9721

6 ай бұрын

Happy New Year!

Really respect you taking the courage to put your story out there Alexander! Hope you have a great 2024

@alexanderl9721

6 ай бұрын

Thank you. You too.

@Sherlock245

Ай бұрын

​@@alexanderl9721how about if it all went well and was not attacked by a chimp. Would you have not changed?? 😜

That was brutally honest and brave of you. Thank you for sharing this with us.

I'm contemplating transitioning for a long time I'm really glad we have someone like you to be totally honest and share your story without shame or worry

@alexanderl9721

6 ай бұрын

Thank you. If I may ask, how long have you been contemplating it and what makes you desire such a solution? All the best, Alex.

@user-xj4ef5pv2d

6 ай бұрын

@@alexanderl9721 Probably 6 years, im 22 now and have went through periods where I'm sure that I should. And as for thinking that is a solution I don't know I just want whatever pain I feel right now to stop.

@shaos3316

6 ай бұрын

​​​​​​​​​​​@@user-xj4ef5pv2d Please understand that many trans people are not sincere about their transitioning, they look happy online, but what do they hide? I don't think transitioning is any better than other temporary solutions, for your problems. About me, I got exhausted from all of It, It was a good distraction during my First year hrt, didn't solved my pains, it numbed me. It is better to feel pain than to feel like a zombie

@_Sp4c3y_

6 ай бұрын

@@user-xj4ef5pv2d Surgeries and exogenous hormones are bad for your body and should be avoided, period.

@lizicadumitru9683

4 ай бұрын

​@user-xj4ef5pv2d Not that you should take heed of any stranger in the comment section of a KZread video but have you considered small steps in transitioning?

I totally appreciate the fact that you are so brave to be so open. It is information a lot of people do not understand, myself included. I understand a lot better now. It is amazing to be able to embrace yourself for who you are and love and show love in the way you choose. Brilliant!

@alexanderl9721

6 ай бұрын

Thanks.

really appreciate and respect people like you, briana ivy, shapeshifter and others who have had bottom surgery and are candid about post op complications , this is important the fact that people would even ask if people can reverse bottom surgery- these people need to sit down and watch a video of the surgery

I appreciate your candor. I know it's embarrassing, but most people really respect this type of brutal honesty and wish they were capable of it. Hope the information helps some people struggling out there.

i am one of the ones who didn't realize all the liquid wasn't stored in the testicles! i feel like an idiot haha. thank you for being so open with your experiences, as a super curious person it's very helpful. looking forward to the philosophy videos!! 😊💕

You are such a trip, Alex, and I appreciate you. This video was a lot, but it's very demystifying, and I hope other people in your situation can relate and feel relief.

I realize you are feeling awkward about talking about your personal life however by sharing your experience you are helping so many people. Thanks for sharing.

5:00: "What would I do it? wave it around to hail a cab?" lol guess this man's never been to New York City.

@alexanderl9721

6 ай бұрын

Hmm, NYC sounds like my kinda place.

I love how you a such a lover of reality, the bad, good and ordinary things about all. Huggs Alexander

Extremely informative. You couldn't get this information anywhere else. Thank you for being so transparent, it undoubtedly will help lots of people.

Great video thank you. I'm glad you did not sugar coat it. I'm glad you gave TMI. So many people dance around what they are trying to say without making it too graphic. But then no one gets what they are really trying to say. You are not being TMI, you are keeping it real. Explaining your experience clearly. The human body is amazing in how it can heal and adapt. You tell the truth in a way that gives hope to others that may be struggling.

Hi Alex, glad to see you made it through the festives, you have been missed ❤

@alexanderl9721

6 ай бұрын

Aww. Thank you.

@Angie_Secret_Squirrel

6 ай бұрын

@@alexanderl9721 I’ve watched halfway through, I’m going to leave it there, you are incredibly honest and open, I hope it answers some questions for the curious, I just wanted to chew in on you and you look energetic with positive vibes to me s😊 Take care! 💜

❤️‍🔥👍❤️THANK YOU. YOU LITERALLY ANSWERED EVERY QUESTION I HAD! Your Authenticity is everything 🙌 ✨️

@alexanderl9721

6 ай бұрын

You're welcome and thank you.

Hi! 🙂 I am an almost 59 years old ("straight") woman. I live in Switzerland; my usual language is French but I do understand English well. I am so glad to see you again!! I thought I had subcribed to your channel... or maybe I had but somehow something went wrong and I lost my subscribtion to your channel. So I just subscribed again and clicked on the bell to get notifications when you post a video. I just wanted to tell you that I find you to be an out of the ordinary person. Extremely bright. It is always a pleasure to listlen to you. Whatever the content. You always make each video so interesting. I think you could talk about the moon or ants and I still would find you fascinating! Sending love your way ❤

@arlenesantiago1972

6 ай бұрын

I also agree with this comment.

I really like how this guy is expressing his thoughts and explaining things. He has charm and wit and desire to make things understood. Would make a great teacher or something.

Hi Alexander, thank you so much for sharing this information. I have learned so much from this single video than all the others I have watched from other people. So interesting and surprising too. I’m so glad I happened upon your channel at the beginning. Amazing content. See you soon on your next video. ❤

@alexanderl9721

6 ай бұрын

Thanks.

Thank-you for sharing so honestly. Most people really have no idea about these procedures and the post Op details.

I think some trans people may use social media as a way to affirm their identities to themselves. They may not be entirely truthful about their experiences but making videos about their lives keeps up the narrative they want to protray

Happy New Year Alex. Thanks for the video nobody else made. I learned a lot. Best wishes from Colin in Edinburgh.

@alexanderl9721

6 ай бұрын

Thank you. Happy New Year to you as well.

I learned something new today. I honestly thought the nerve damage would be bigger and that inevitably the person would feel much less touch, but much more pain. So I was really surprised to hear it can work pretty much the same as before and that you won't inevitably loose ability to achieve orgasm. I thought it would be much worse. And moving prostate and ability to ejaculate blew my mind too. It is so weird. I am glad it is not all bad and that is sadly also probably the reason why people are still deciding to go trough it instead working on accepting their body. I admire your courage and thank you for your honesty. I wish people considering those surgical procedures would stumble on your videos so they would made their decision based on full and very honest information.

Love the energy and humour in this video 😂❤ Thanks for your honesty, and it's important to talk about sexual function is a basic human need 👍

So important to bring out the facts. I hope lots of these "gender surgeons" get the link to this in their inbox.

Your honesty and commitment to reality is going to help a lot of people, Alexander! Also, the memes and video clips were a nice touch. You have a great sense of humor!

So courageous and eloquent especially considering how personal the subject is. Huge respect, Alex!

This was an amazing video! Thank you! Can't wait for the second video.

Thanks for being so open about sharing your experience here. The background music choices were very amusing too, and I think they help to minimize awkwardness. You made this informative video surprisingly comfortable to watch, and it was a good balance of serious with some silly jokes and observations. Great communication.

Oh Sheet .. articulate, vivid understandable descriptions.. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Good Health & Happy New Year!

@alexanderl9721

6 ай бұрын

Thanks. Happy New Year!

Your honesty and willingness to be vulnerable about your experiences is so refreshing and more educational and helpful than you may even realize. Thank you so much!❤️❤️❤️

I just found your channel today, via a newsletter from Richie. Thank you for your candor (& humor) in addressing the reality of medical transition. The information you provide is so important, especially in the current cultural climate, where so many young people are being influenced by social media & misled by the medical community (shame on them). I look forward to watching your previous videos. Cheers.

I like the fact that you give proper salut at begining.Semper Fi brother!

very informative, thanks :) This woman attacked by a chimpanzee actually does not have h e r face, she had to have a face transplant.

19:21 When you said that you talked with some trans women and they said they didn't feel "nothing" when they dilated, that make my question if the expect have a "good sensation" doing so or what. It's like they were thinking that we had sexual pleasure when when use a Tampon 😅 . Hope I am misunderstanding this part😅

@steph678

6 ай бұрын

We have sexual pleasure when we are turned on and using a dildo. That's what they are doing.

That shirt looks very nice on you. Happy New Year! Hope you have good things happening and are in good health this year (and preferably always).

Very informative, thank you. Learned some new stuff here.

Wow thanks so much for being so open. Best of luck in the new year ❤

You and I have absolutely nothing in common but I for some reason...ABSOLUTELY adore you. Whyy!!!?? Well, I believe its because you are honest, genuine and just a God damn beautiful soul. XO with love, Trish Bell ..Washington State USA

Thanks for your honesty, this needs to be heard ❤

Wow the paper cup part was a little "Idk jahha😅" but still glad that you are so open. This will help people for real!

@Alimon96

6 ай бұрын

love the music choice, by the way ☺️

I don't personally know anyone F to M post op, but I have researched in depth and watched videos from many people who had it done and describe their experiences, much like yours. There are quite a few different options of phallo and meta. Full phalloplasty involves taking a skin graft from forearm, thigh, or back, and creating a phallus that is surgically attached around the clitoris after releasing the ligaments attached to the head of the clit, as is done in metoidoplasty, to allow the full length of the clit to be released. Meta involves that ligament releasing procedure, but without a graft to form a fuller sized phallus around it. The release can involve some vulva tissue being used to build up a sort of shaft under the clit head, though. I believe it is up to the patient how much reconstruction they want done, as both the phallo and meta can include several other things like testicle implants, urethral lengthening to allow for standing to pee out of the newly formed penis, and different types of penile implant devices to allow for erections. The chances of serious complications are very high, depending on how much surgery is done. The urethral lengthening has a high rate of failure and often leaves the patient with risky ongoing infections and urinary issues that cannot be repaired. Hair grows within the newly created extended urethra, causing pockets of infection. I have seen trans men get septic infections that nearly killed them due to this. Another major devastating complication is when parts of the grafted phallus or extended clitoris tissue become necrotic, often leading to actual death of part or all of their genitals. Fistulas can also happen. I saw one trans man left with a colostomy bag due to ongoing fistula formation. Some do end up with very natural looking results and are able to have a successful recovery, but it's very risky.

This was exceptionally frank and honest 😊❤

Your experiences and story are really interesting and educational. I hope that you live the best life possible. 👍🏻 You're a strong person!

Love you. Keep sharing your message!!!

Happy New Year Alex. Helarious informative video. I'm sure this will help a lot if people. You are great.😊

Your videos have always been well informative, honest, and helpful... More power to You❤

@alexanderl9721

6 ай бұрын

Thank you.

@laarnisadain3372

6 ай бұрын

@@alexanderl9721 👍💖

Why would anyone examine you prostate? To check for prostate cancer! Enlarged prostate leads to problems with urinating and retention of urin in the bladder, can be also sign of cancer. The common way to check is for the doctor to feel the size per rectum.

@alexanderl9721

6 ай бұрын

I know. I was just making a joke.

@k.b.k.opsahl1493

6 ай бұрын

Ok. 😅 I took it too literally then. But interesting that it's moved during surgery. The intention is good in theory. But it looks like doctors don't get feedback from the patients on how things actually work afterwards, and if it is at all beneficary.

@alicebunny7785

6 ай бұрын

@k.b.k it obviously can’t be “beneficial surgery”, it’s not to cure any desease in order to prolong someone’s life for example. It’s a cosmetic surgery going against the nature destroying what was given to you. People scream “accept yourself! Love yourself!” Well that’s what I want to tell to trans people - accept yourself and your body. You can dress whatever you want wear make up and shit but don’t do the damaging surgery the docs are just after your money … take care of yourselves people love yourself they way you are

I am so glad you are willing to discuss these very private yet necessary conversations. It was very interesting to hear how the "clitoris" is made. I knew about the inversion part , but even as a female, I didn't consider the esthetic or functional purpose of all the female parts. Great video.

Thanks for your honesty and for your funny take on it. Big hug 😊

Happy New Year Alexander! I love your videos, and as usual, this one is so brilliant with humour and sincerity x

Thank you! Your content was very informative and easy to understand.

Love your candour and your humour Alex. Much of the other stuff on social media is about superficial stuff ; ideology trumping biology.

Happy NewYear. I hope you arebetter now. I am happyyouareback.

@alexanderl9721

6 ай бұрын

Much better. Thank you.

Chimp metaphor was brilliant

Alexander you are so real. I am so fond of you. ❤

Endlessly interesting for me as a female-bodied person lol!! I'm glad you can still reach climax, that's pretty good as I know some people cannot when they transition and whatnot. Thanks for the explanation! Really cool lol.

Im so glad i found ur channel a few months back, you, and some other detransitors got me out of my psychosis. So glad i didn't get this surgery was thinking about it for years. I also got off the medication and feel much better, i started my own detrans channel. Thx man for being so honest about ur experience it sure helps out a lot.

@alexanderl9721

6 ай бұрын

Hey, I'm happy for you. I'll make sure to check out your channel.

@JordansSpears

6 ай бұрын

@@alexanderl9721 thx man

Looking great Alexander!

We're grown folks. What you addressed is an important aspect of life. I just don't understand all these people who lie about this experience and the doctors who fail to adequately prepare people for the reality of bottom surgery. It sounds like you went through puberty so you were able to preserve the sensations. What about people like "Jazz?" SMH.

Happy New Year Alexander

I am curious if you were circumcised prior to your bottom surgery? I know in Europe most men are not circumcised like in the US. I am against routine infant circumcision because 1. It's unnecessary and 2. It removes the most sensitive nerve endings and the frenulum. If you were uncut and your foreskin was kept and utilized in your reconstruction, then you likely have more sensitivity possibly than without it.

As someone who knows a lot about drugs, prostitution, Mexican cartels etcetera I can promise you that less than 1% of people who actually want bottom surgery would be able to get it if it were made illegal and that most black markets for genital surgery will not be easily found. At this point I don't think people are really being protected from medical complications under the current Healthcare System we have. A lot of Surgeons are ending up with results that I would expect to be created in a back alley somewhere. Fgm can be compared some muslims may be able to get it done but most doctors arent running to do these surgeries.

Thank you for you explanation! ❤

16:37 OMG 😂 Thank you for your videos, they're really important!

I really appreciate you talking about these things. Actually people who are not a part of that world really don’t know. It is not talked about. Mostly what is heard about is the wound that is formed that you have to put something in to keep it open and it is usually people who have been devastated by it. When you think about a hole wound you wonder what happens to the penis.

Happy new year 🎉 hope that 2024 be all we need

This is really informative

Thank you for being so open about your post surgery experiences. My question is, since the surgery had a significant impact on your life and function, do you have thoughts about the doctor who operated on you? Have your thoughts about him changed over the years?

I’m so very sorry you had to go through the this 😢

Again, an excellent presentation Alexander. I would like to share it with a political person in my country. I do not know how to send you an email, which is my main social media means of communication. I will look at other vids to see if you have contact info. Our premier has halted gender affirming care for children. She is considering approving treatments for adults, age 1, 8 in 8 months.. I have concerns Alexander, about the brain at 18, having studied neuroscience, that the brain does not fully develop until age 25 or beyond. Yet, I do not want people to suffer not having access either. They could travel to another area of the country where it will be legal. That may be insufficient. I will check your vids as I said, this was very helpful. The chimp story was a good one to use. Thank you Alexander.

@alexanderl9721

4 ай бұрын

Hi. You can find my e-mail in my channel description.

Interesting and not so bleak. Attitude counts for much. Stay well Alexander. Elizabeth from NYC.

@steph678

6 ай бұрын

Its still very bleak. He has one of the better results orgasm wise

Thank you for your bravery.

Thank you Alexander. Very interesting. Greetings from Germany 🎉

Alexander God loves you throughout your physical Journey that is temporary on earth 🌎

I have such and admiration of your character. I hope this video reaches out to the people that needed most. I am here for you Alexander. I will try to lift you up, pray for you, love you, talk to you. Let me know were I can send you my personal information, in case you want to reach out. We can use the WhatsApp application. You are a really special person. I can believe you are in Norway and I live in Puerto Rico. My brother lives in USA and he is a transwoman. I feel I lost him. I expressed concern for his health and he thinks I am a transfobic or a bigot. Is been really hard on me because I am concerned about his mental and physical health.

Lovely seeing your smile.

Thank you for sharing your experience. I can’t even imagine going though what you went through. I think the psychology behind who identifies as transgender hasn’t caught up to the reality. I think we need to look at each detransitioner the same way we look at plane crashes. Each case should be looked at in detail. What factors led someone to transition? What factors led them to detransition? What can be done to prevent people from transitioning and regretting it? I have listened to quite a few videos of detransitioners, most say they basically stopped taking hormones on their own and there was no follow-up with a doctor. To me, the data about detransitioners just isn’t there. I’ve heard stories of people going on hormones after one visit with a doctor, people under the age of 18 getting surgeries. Something is wrong with how we deal with people who have gender dysphoria. I don’t think many people might realize how difficult it is to be a guy (not saying women have it easier, just that it may not be as simple as some people think), boys / men are complex (not the stereotype men just care about food and sex). There’s a lot of peer pressure to be “manly”. Emotions are seen as a weakness and men are supposed to be strong. Imagine being bullied just because you’re a caring person. It can be easy to feel like you don’t fit in. Not to mention society telling you that you are privileged. You’re straight so you’re labeled as close minded. Being trans I feel like gives a certain identity. You’re basically the enemy of the world, the patriarchy, sexist, inherently racist, privileged, etc. It really kills whatever little self esteem you might have. Men see you as weak, probably do things like call you gay. Maybe you have friends on the left, but as a straight white male you feel like an outsider there as well. Being trans you have a group of people that instantly accepts you. You have an identity, a purpose. Eventually though that fantasy might disappear. Instead of finding yourself you strayed furthur from yourself. You thought you were choosing your own path, when in reality you were just going along the same path as everyone else. Thinking for yourself means you’re always going to be upsetting someone. Nobody has to be all politically left or right, but when you’re a part of a group like that, it can be tough to go against the grain. It’s tough finding your own way when you’re depressed and alone. It’s tough to be happy with yourself when you are being bullied. It’s tough to be happy with yourself when society is telling you you’re something you know you’re not.

"Just accept yourself" is easier said than done. If SRS is as bad as you say, I'd rather just get it cut off.

Happy New Year Alexander 🎉

Happy New Year, Alexander!

6:23 the chimp ate her face and now she has the face of someone who died.

See you’re just talking about sex, you’re forgetting about basic things such as urination. Some people can’t have the surgeries fixed because it will ruin their ability to urinate.

@alexanderl9721

6 ай бұрын

In this video I wanted to focus specifically on sexual function post-op since it's a topic that isn't much discussed. I have made videos on other complications before. Ritchie talked more about problems with urinating. I have a video with him where we talked about this issue among many other things.

Alexander, you are very charming and fun to watch!

I haven’t a clue what he’s talking about please explain 😕

Funny and so devastating at the same time

On a sidenote, you look like Onision, *if Onision were cute* :D

@alexanderl9721

6 ай бұрын

I get a lot of comment from people comparing me to Onision and usually I hate but you know what, I'll take yours as a compliment ;)

cheers 😭🥤

Hey Alexander, may I ask if you are gay and/or still consider yourself as part of the LGBT community? Do you have Instagram?

@alexanderl9721

6 ай бұрын

Hey. Yeah, I'm gay. Whether I'm a part of LGBT community? Well, I depends. I suppose I'm a member of the community simply by the virtue of being the G part but I don't necessarily consider myself a member of any community for that matter. I'm highly individualistic and not a big fan of belonging in groups. Andd while I'm in a gay relationship, I don't really hang out at gay bars or attend pride events. I do have an Instagram account but don't really use it.

@mikewestwood

6 ай бұрын

@@alexanderl9721 Thank you for your reply. I appreciate it. I am also gay but don't consider myself as part of the current LGBT community as it has become a total mess. I am glad to hear that you are in a relationship and found love. 🤗

@alexanderl9721

6 ай бұрын

I can see what you mean. It's almost like belong to the community comes with certain political positions. My opinions, views and values are independent of my sexuality, more or less.

@mikewestwood

6 ай бұрын

@@alexanderl9721 I agree. We are like a minority inside a minority. The struggle is real 🫠. But that also makes us independent souls who only seek validation within themselves - which is healthier anyway.

@JordansSpears

6 ай бұрын

​@@mikewestwoodtrust me, you two are definitely not alone, the LGBT has gotten toxic and out of hand.

Actually the chimp ate large parts of her face.

You’re funny 😆

Men need to have their prostqte examined to check for cancer.

@geekyogurtcup

6 ай бұрын

It was a dry joke 😅

What you should have had was counselling for your mental health issues. To do something so drastic to yourself to ‘fit in’ is very sad.

20:47 .. girth is the secret. ☺️

❤ but please get a decent hair cut .😅

Haha are you trying to do a London cockney accent? Please don't! 😆😚

You poor thing .

5:03 i choked on my coffee HAHAHAHA - in all seriousness though thanks for sharing, and happy new year Alex. :)

Interesting! Glad you can still get pleasure. Thanks for sharing