NVC turned my marriage around from heading to divorce to cultivating a deep, loving, connected bond with myself and wife. I love your distilling the technology that the late Dr. Rosenberg dedicated his life to sharing. Best wishes in all of your endeavors, Brian!

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9 жыл бұрын

Cory Tyler That's so great, Cory! Powerful stuff. And I didn't realize Dr. Rosenberg had passed away last month. What a beautiful human beings. Sending love and thanks for your kind words!

Brian, thank you so much for summarizing NVC so thoroughly! I studied NVC as a life and wellness coach and appreciate these 12 minutes so very much, for all my clients who do not have the time or impulse to read the book and study it, but need its benefits!

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4 ай бұрын

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Good stuff!! I've been studying and practicing NVC for over a decade and it's quite humbling for me because, as Marshall Rosenberg said, "it's simple but it's not easy". It's simple because what you're doing is seeing every human being as equal to yourself - like when you were also driving in the crosswalk a few days later & remembered all your judgments of the other guy who did the same thing. We all have the same human needs and we all do things that are not in alignment with our truest values at times. And it's not that easy because we're un-learning a lifetime of culturally-supported blaming & judging others (and ourselves) for our experience; movies, TV shows, talkshows, politics, trying to convince our friends about who is "right" and who is "wrong" when we're upset, thoughts of guilt & shame. Really nasty stuff that spirals into many tragic expressions of our needs - tragic because all of those things we do are an ATTEMPT to speak to our needs. NVC is a complete 180 turn from what we were systematically taught. There's still a pull in me to garner my vitality & cultivate thoughts of being worthy & mattering from the fight energy that lives so deep in me. I think NVC is about living with your heart before your head. NVC has shown me that self-empathy & self-compassion are possible. Such a huge relief to stop beating myself up...something I was also taught to do. I'm so glad you talked about people stimulating/contributing to our feelings but never causing them. That's huge!! In fact I think it's everything when you truly want to come out of the victim role. We often say things like "it annoyed me", or "he made me feel angry" but that's simply not true or accurate. That's where the observation comes in: what did you observe? And rather than wondering how that MADE you feel, simply ask yourself how you feel when you think about what you observed. That may seem like a small point but that process unravels a whole world of responsibility and values. Brian I'd like to offer some support re teaching NVC. At one point you said you "felt threatened/it was the feeling sense I had/not that it wasn't reasonable". * It's not that it was/wasn't reasonable - it's just simply not a feeling. You can feel scared (like you mentioned), but you can't feel threatened. Again this might seem nitpicky but it's a crucial point when teaching NVC. There's a list of words called 'thoughts disguised as feelings'. I have some great resources for you if you'd like them. : ) In this moment I'm a little worried that you'll hear that as a criticism. I hope not : ) Feeling gratitude for you for making this video!

I first heard of this book more than 10 years ago while working with a Unity church;

Great job breaking down NVC!! It’s so much more complex than most people assume upon first learning about it. But you did an amazing job explaining the most important parts of it! Wish Marshall was around to see more and more people learning and adopting NVC methods..

Your videos are always top-notch! And, it's time well spent taking your info in. THANK YOU!!!

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Жыл бұрын

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it is how we choose to respond that creates our emotional well being !!!.. great insight ...thanks brian

Thank you Brian for this great video. I love all of your videos.

Thank you Brian. I am so happy to see this explanation on NVC. I value the clarity you bring, it inspires me to share/teach NVC in this perky way. Good luck on your path! Bart

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8 жыл бұрын

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Excellent summary of NVC! Thank you Brian!

Muito bom! Informações essenciais que precisam ser compartilhadas!

This is a perfect introduction to NVC. Thanks for making this!

Great video Brian! The stimulus vs.cause idea is huge, it puts the blame (responsibility) back on us! Keep up the good work!

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9 жыл бұрын

Petijandro Love that idea too and thanks for your kind words!

Thanks for your work. I am using with adolescent clients. Keep up the good work. Much gratitude.

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9 жыл бұрын

John Mahoney Thanks for your note and kind words, John!! I'm inspired imagining you teaching this to adolescent clients!

It is so wonderful to see it broken down. I'm often trying to find a video to introduce people to NVC and this fits the bill very nicely. Reflections: Nonviolent Communication can be a life-pursit that can be developened and unpacked for years. I have been going to an NVC meetup every week for 2 years and I still walk away completely blown away by new information and ways to connect, empathize, listen, etc. Unlike a lot of other books I've read, it is an intro to a completely different way of life and how one relates to the self and others. I could say that about a lot of books I suppose, but NVC has a framework of practice groups, meet ups, seminars, retreats, and conscious communities around the world that make it a very real part of every day life. The book can be good in and of itself, but it can also be the doorway to a new world. I easily confuse what I feeling is. Even "threatened" or "unsafe" might be seen as judgments of the other person's behavior. If I were to say "I felt threatened," they other might hear, "You were threatening." They might fit better as needs. I only say so in the pursuit of my own accurate understanding of NVC. Even as a need, I'd need to be careful on my delivery so it doesn't come across as an assessment of how safe or unsafe their driving was. I'd want to highlight that they may have been completely safe but my needs for safety are simply different, and not "better" or more accurate. An example of where I'm at with my practice and how I need to navigate NVC for my particular brain structure: I might say that my need in your situation was more connection with the driver. I might say, "I was needing more connection with you," It would help me stay away from judgments. I may have been feeling afraid because I was not having connection and mutuality with the driver. Requests are sometimes tricky they should be specific, doable and time-bound. In this scenario I might have my request fulfilled simply by the driver listening to me. I might just thank the driver for meeting my needs for sharing and consideration. Or if the driver was long gone, I may thank myself for checking in and connecting with my feelings and needs instead of becoming upset or stressed out.

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7 жыл бұрын

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I like the nugget of Taking personal responsibility is a lot like the philosophy of Ho'oponopono and not blaming but healing on painful reactions and responding instead of reacting. Nicely summarized.

Thank you Brian Johnson :) Nice talk about nvc!

Thank you, I’ve been looking at these on nonviolent communication for a day now friend mine told me about it yesterday so far this is by far the best the clearest and most precise for lack of a better word. I’m gonna look at your other talks I haven’t subscribed for a long time but rather talk to this good I’m going to subscribe thank you. Hope there’s no terrible auto cracks here I’m out in the sun I can’t really see what I’m writing

Brian, this is so awesome. Thank for sharing another great PN.

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3 жыл бұрын

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Fantastic video! Thanks Brian :-)

Great video! Taking responsibility is so important! Guru Brian Johnson is the man!

Thank you for this video! you did an amazing job at describing the book/subject matter. I enjoyed the video so much I subscribed to your channel! I'm looking forward to watching your other videos!

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Жыл бұрын

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Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom - Viktor E. Frankl

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Жыл бұрын

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I’m just about to start the book and yes I was reading self compassion by Kristin Neff and she suggests this book! I love KN’s book & you know what? I also love this channel!! Keep up the great work my brother! ✌🏽 One Love!

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4 жыл бұрын

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“What would Marshall do?” Love that

So happy seeing you made this video on NVC and contribute to spreading ideas to communicate from the heart! Hopefully it will increase the harmony between us human beings. I'm excited to see you share all of these 5 points in one video... Definitely met my need for clarity. Thank you!

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9 жыл бұрын

Jolijn Feil Thanks, Jolijn--for the kind words and wonderful links!!

Thanks great reminder video!

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2 жыл бұрын

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Ok here's the scenario I'm going to lay out for you. I just received an order. I started working on putting it together. I've only been working on it for 5 minutes. Here comes the manager and starts yelling at me that I've been working on it for over half an hour and he wants it to get done now. 1) observation - manager doesn't know that that I've only been working on it for 5 minutes instead of 20. 2) I feel scared, stressed, and under pressure. 3) I have a need to be respected at work and work without stress 4) Would you please calm down and let me finish this order without any extra stress.

Awesome....thank you. I could enjoy this more if the mic wasn’t picking up the room reverb. Great work....inspiring!

brian you are a very good man ! I wish you all happiness in your life and to your family !

Great work as always. Sometimes I wonder if most of what you talk about, most of optimal living, philosophers notes, is just an expansion and re-phrasing of what the Buddha taught.

@HeroicBrian

9 жыл бұрын

archimedes I think it is. :) Along with all the other great teachers who echoed his wisdom! Here's to perennial truths!

Can you do videos on influence and persuasion? Thanks

@HeroicBrian

9 жыл бұрын

emmanuel hermanez Seed planted! My emphasis is always on authentically expressing ourselves, living with integrity, etc. That is at the heart of influence/persuasion I think. Appreciate the idea!

Hey have you Co- operated with the developers of Blinkist? They have launched this app which has summaries of non fiction books. When i saw it, it remembered me your channel. It is new and they dont have a lot of book summaries available. You should contact them! The app seems promising

@HeroicBrian

9 жыл бұрын

Blinkist looks awesome!! (And I love what Get Abstract + Soundview are up to as well.) I've been creating what I call "PhilosophersNotes" for 7 years now. Here are the 190 titles I've covered so far. Will be at 300 by end of 2015. Fun! --> brianjohnson.me/philosophersnotes/the-books/ Optimize is now free! Sign up/tell your friends! www.optimize.me

Dear Brian - would you mind if I used the first 10 seconds of your video as part of a presentation for a college course? I want to encourage people to learn NVC and will be sharing a link to your video.

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3 жыл бұрын

Hi Holly: Please use it however will best serve! Honored. Heroes unite! -bri Optimize is now free! Sign up/tell your friends! www.optimize.me

Thank you yet 'threatened' is a judgement & so is 'reasonable' To assume the Driver was not aware is also a judgement & I dunno about driving •below• the speed limit though maybe the request would be to obey the Law. Sheeeet I dunno. I don't speak this Language. Anyways.. Pedestrians always have the right of way & cars are not to be in the crosswalk unless its the cars turn?? As I said I dunno I don't have a license though as a Pedestrian as that famous line goes Ive often thought: LOL "Im WALKING here"

Try this with an arrogant math academic or a Trump supporter and see how far it takes you!

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3 жыл бұрын

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