Also- if you do go to a con and find yourself separated from your group I promise if you look around you will find safe people to hang out with to ward off any creeps. There'll be staff, there'll be other con goers, there'll be moms hanging out in sitting areas while their teens enjoy the con these are all people you can strike up a conversation with if you're feeling lonely, anxious, or actually being bothered by someone.

@LadyAirenAshke

2 жыл бұрын

If you can't find other lolitas than cosplayers are nice too and used dealing with pervs.

I have a motor mouth. The more nervous I get the worse it gets. I find myself interrupting people, stopping mid sentence in absolute horror and then apologizing profusely. Tyler's advice sounds like how some of my best friendships started. It's really a kindness to all involved. But I am largely self aware, and will often find myself uninterested in what I'm talking about mid-ramble, and have no problem saying so. Usually to delight and confusion by the others subjected to my ramblings.

@StrawberryMad6

2 жыл бұрын

This is just what I was thinking . Sounds like anxiety to me. It would definitely be very beneficial to have somebody help her through it by just pointing it out and even just some on the side real talk before a meet up could help too.

That second story, I think a part of my soul just died, I hope Carrotcake is ok

Motor mouth syndrome is such a symptom of ADHD. I got so much better once I got medicated.

Yeah, from Violet's description I almost wonder if the person is experiencing some combo of rusty social skills and over stimulation at these larger events. I would even suggest going a step further and seeing if someone close to them might be willing to have a conversation with them about it, if gentle redirection doesn't work.

@Kardinaalilintu

2 жыл бұрын

In all honesty... she seems like she might not be neurotypical. It would explain why she is apparently oblivious to social ques and seemingly unable to realize that her actions are rather rude and exhausting.

@Lea-bw9wj

2 жыл бұрын

@@Kardinaalilintu This was my thought too. Especially since when it's a small group she's a lovely person. It's just when there's a lot of people she doesn't sound like she quite know's how she might be coming across to others. Gentle redirection would be good but I'd also give her a chance to after that to talk about what she's exited about.

@CanadianTimeLord

2 жыл бұрын

@@Kardinaalilintu 100% This was my first thought as well.

@77noctiluca

2 жыл бұрын

Yes sounds like she is not neurotypical 🙏🏼.

I don't understand how the anime convention hasn't just moved off that date. Anime conventions have always been billed as a family friendly event. Where miners can bring parents in tow type a ticket pricing. So it's very odd that they would continue to be yes we are a convention for the family sharing the same building at the same time as an 18 plus convention with all the same shared space. How does no one see how that's an easy way to have something go wrong and tarnish both conventions reputations. Because the legit people at the adult con don't do that and the kids and the non-consenting at the anime convention don't want to do that. Cosplay is consent is already hard enough to enforce, has gotten better, so mixing them together is a recipe for disaster. There's probably a bunch more instances similar to this whether or not it's a minor who cannot give consent or an adult who didn't give consent, there are too many predators out there that this cannot be a good overlap.

@liabowden8526

2 жыл бұрын

“Miners, Not minors!” -the late great Alan Rickman. 😅💚. I know, it’s a typo/auto-correct not even worth mentioning, but I LOVE Galaxy Quest and Loooove Alan Rickman, so I *Had* to! Your comment is spot on, and merely gets Bonus points for allowing me to use a favorite quote! 😅🤷‍♀️🤣

"Mind you some of them have never heard of soap, but they can make ramen in a coffee maker so I guess they invested in other skills" boy if that doesn't describe my entire college...

Saying "Oh, you do ageplay? Fantastic!" In such a happy, excited way made me read the words in Jack Skellingtons voice in my head. I don't know what that means. The audio isn't even turned off. I just follow along.

Who the fuck lets a porn convention share space and time with an anime convention!?!? Thank _hell_ I live in Canada and we don't do that to my knowledge, holy shit.

@DarklightAmy

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly. Even if no creeps where around the p- convention and a n anime convention shouldn't mix...

@LilyLovecraft

2 жыл бұрын

Grown adults who can distinguish the difference and go to what they went to attend. There are creepy dudes regardless at anime gatherings. There are creepy dudes at my local grocery store....blaming crap people on an entire group is ignorant. This is probably also a stark reminder to make sure that children as young as 14 have a guardian or parent present. There's a whole lot wrong here, least of all being what the place decided to host.

@Arcanist_Gaming

2 жыл бұрын

@@LilyLovecraft Yeah, no. Hosting a porn convention at the same location raises the chances of creepers whether you want to admit it or not, and no one is "blaming an entire group" for anything. Events that host children/teens and those of an explicit nature should not share space and time, period. This shouldn't even _be_ a debate. Furthermore, apparently _you_ are ignorant to people's circumstance. Not everyone _has_ an available adult to take them places, do you think that this means they should miss out on attending events that _should_ be mostly safe and indulging in their interests like a normal, healthy human being? People's parents have to _work,_ so unless you're of a specific social class or your parents and/or a relative have a very specific work schedule there's a pretty good chance they can't take days off for such an event. Saying "Oh, there's creepers at anime conventions too" doesn't really add to the conversation. For the most part, those creepers are just going to lurk and stare, not try to recruit a minor into goddamn pornography the minute they turn eighteen. That same logic can be used for literally _any_ social circumstance; you're basically either a: advocating for living a life in fear and having to be babysat for eternity (which is fucking _terrible_ considering the already rising rates of generalized and social anxiety, holy shit) or b: blaming the person and/or their caregivers for circumstances that are likely beyond their control. Whichever of these positions are true in regards to your statement, you're either completely self-centered, actively victim blaming, or just _trying_ to be an asshole. At any rate, I urge you to think a bit more carefully before weighing in on something like this.

@yucheung5853

2 жыл бұрын

@@LilyLovecraft they are not blaming an entire group?... its like anime convention usually attracts young teenagers and anything explicit should not be present at said event

@thepinkestpigglet7529

2 жыл бұрын

@@LilyLovecraft there is more wrong with holding a prawn con in the same building as an all ages con than creeps...

Wow that’s horrifying. I wish people like that guy were blacklisted in the industry 🤬

@Ohboycommentsection

2 жыл бұрын

Sadly guys like him Run the industry.

That second story makes me sick... I know we all have our own con horror stories but that one is just unreal..

@chinacarter8319

2 жыл бұрын

Never been to a con yet but stories like this one make me a bit nervous

@emilyrose9678

2 жыл бұрын

@@chinacarter8319 They are a lot of fun, you just gotta be careful and travel in packs, or be good at coming up with excuses to leave awkward confrontations

People do call Tyler salty and she can be and I love that side of her content, but I also love seeing this compassionate, kind and lovely advice. In other news, I had no idea there were TikTok lolitas, who buy stuff from Amazon. Now I'm intrigued.

Tyler so calm and wholesome! Salt content: 0

I stopped going to anime conventions for almost 2 decades because my sisters and I were harassed by creeps also (other people attending the con who were predatory guys) and no one on staff did anything to keep women safe.

Tyler, I know you're mostly about clothes but I've been wondering about your makeup. A) it looks amazing B) I need to know what products you use. I'm desperate to find something good for pale skin with red-blue undertones and you just ace it. So... "get ready with me video"? Pretty please?

@tohrurikku

2 жыл бұрын

I think in an earlier episode she did go through what makeup she uses.

I've attended events that shared buildings with some really weird mashups, but wow, some event organizers did NOT think that one through. I really hope at least one of those two events has changed venues in the last... 7? years since that happened.

Story 2 Going to a con in a group of trusted friends is a great way to enjoy your meetups up and cons. You can always message for help (if the internet is not being a butt), and having a hotel room as a base to cool down and destress will help reduce the stress.

As someone who is introverted and socially awkward, groups of 4 or less I can keep track of fairly easily, when the amount gets higher, I get more and more stressed out, and I either run out of social batteries entirely and hide in a corner somewhere, or I shut off and force myself to socialize. Which when I'm nervous I ramble... because the alternative is just never talking at all. And I have yet to find a good balance to that... it took forever to just get beyond being super shy and hiding in a corner. :/ On the other hand, if I even get a tiny whiff of being unwanted, I'm gone with a slew of apologies. And well, convention wise, I've only ever been to one convention, and it was in a casino hotel in Las Vegas, and well, I was in cosplay... but I never got any rude comments from anyone thankfully. Most I got was some curious casino guests. I have been molested by an old dude in a China Town during Chinese New Years though when I was 15 and it certainly made me a LOT more wary of such places, but it didn't stop me from going back either. Having a good friend group and sticking to them like glue is really helpful.

Tyler is my definition of all around cool guy , every time a new video comes out I think this

8:30 Good lordt. 😵‍💫

My advice for Carrot Cake would be that you would've been well within your rights to smack him in the face. That said, when you're 14 and having an encounter with that caliber of creepy, it usually leaves you pretty stunned. I totally understand your trepidation at attending any other events. But the longer you wait to get back out there, the scarier it'll be, and the harder it'll be to put yourself out there again. And thus you deprive yourself of a potentially wonderful experience for even longer. I also suggest continuing to focus on all the wonderful people you might meet, who are genuinely overjoyed to see you living your frilliest life, and the other lolitas you can meet, who will be just as eager to protect you from perverts. Also, come up with a game plan in the event you ever are approached by an unsavory character again. Think of what you would say, if they invade your personal space repeatedly, don't be afraid to smack them with a parasol or bop them in the nose. Also, don't be afraid to report the incident. You'll potentially protect others from said pervert in the future. Also maybe try a different convention that doesn't book a "corn convention" the same days. Freaking disgusting.

YAY NEW VIDEO

I will now refer to snakes only as Spicy Noodles

"strange things" ooooh that's an understatement some days! XD

Tyler gives the best advice O.O how is the most salty person also so wise and kind 🥰

Ah I love Tyler♡

One of my favorite cords Tyler

I love this coord

Off topic but do you actually sleep in that room? Cus if that were me clumsy ass would knock all that shit off the tables in the morning lol

I hope you’re doing well. 💗

The first story I swear to God, it’s like she’s talking about me. I guess I really I’m an obnoxious a55hloe

this is just one of the weirdest channels I've ever seen. I can practically smell the potpourri from my screen. (subbed)

I don't know if frock talk is retired or not but would you ever do a frock talk on Honey Cake?

I like the pancake JSK(?). I just noticed it. I don't wear the fashion. I just like how it looks so please tell me if I got the type of clothing wrong. I know dress wasn't the right way to describe it. Anyway I love the pancakes. Edit: now all I can focus on is the pancakes.

Your outfit is so cute 🌈🤗🎀🍓🥞🍓🎀

conventions gave me trauma

YAAAAAAAAY!

ok but I just want my bangs to look that good just once

Not frilly disappointment

What ever soap that is i need to clean or i just look like a diss to my mother who is a nurse

You sound a little like Ask a Mortician. :3

@OneFlagFlying

2 жыл бұрын

I can definitely hear the resemblance between her and Caitlin, but Tyler has a higher salt content by far.

I got kicked out of r/lolita and there are no more fresh angelic pretty 2021 releases

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Story 1 Oof. I have a motormouth because I get super socially nervous. Otherwise, I am quiet as a churchmouse. I think I noticed it was bad as of late because I have not socialized in a large group in a long time (thanks 2020).

Verba Jui Jitsu

Could motor mouth just be someone undiagnosed ADHD . Sounds a lot like me in a group.

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I don't wanna be that person, but the anime/pr0n convention anecdote sounds like an "and everybody clapped" story. 💀

@gurke1272

2 жыл бұрын

I'd prefer that as well but given the lack of a witty retort/ resolving of the situation I'm affraid this might be a genuine retelling. It fits right in with the horror stories I've heard from friends who used to cosplay.

@mievaselli7910

2 жыл бұрын

In what way? Without a moment where the antagonisy is publicly shamed and the narrator is glorified, what ùakes it an "and everybody clapped" story? Creepy encounters where the person creeped on has no idea how to react at the time and remains mostly passive, only to stew in their (usually her) trauma afterwards, do happen all the time. The creeper being a porn producer would be implausible if not for the circumstances.