I feel so much more normal knowing I’m not the only one that goes through this! I’ve had two women make fun of me because I couldn’t get hard. I’ve also had a few women think it was something they did or that I was not attracted to them. It really is a difficult situation! The only advice I have is to be completely open about it. I explain what’s going on, reinsure the person that it’s not their fault and tell them that I just need time. If I’m being honest, some women won’t talk to you again…. But some will understand! I’ve seen it both. I’ve had successful relationships and successful sex. It is possible. Don’t be too hard on yourself. The right women will understand and you can overcome it. I still struggle to this day! Every new partner, I suffer the same anxiety as before. The ones who stick around are the few that get to experience a moment many women passed up on.

@omarnaimsawaya4297

Жыл бұрын

I feel you bro’ !… I’m trying to shake off that bad vibe … I really need to relax n chill .. overthinking it’s not a good friend

@davidlewis1783

Жыл бұрын

@@omarnaimsawaya4297 You got this! I know it’s easier said than done, but you just need to find a women who will be patient with you!!

@omarnaimsawaya4297

Жыл бұрын

@@davidlewis1783 thank you for words , really need them ! 👊🏻🔥✨

@dustydavis8829

11 ай бұрын

I'm so glad to know I'm not alone. Iv been with my wife for 13 years. Iv always pressured myself to perform at the highest level to please her the same as she pleases me. Well I started using promescent delay spray to help me last longer. I ended up going soft during her massage and I could get it back up and whammo. Iv got the worst anxiety around sex now. It really fucked me up. I'm so glad I'm with the woman I'm with. She is so understanding of what's happening to me. She's always so reassuring. Which is very helpful. Iv had some amazing intercourse since it happened. But I've also let the anxiety get the best of me at points as well. Like during our last session. Everything was going great untill I started to go soft during her massage and bam back to square one.Idk how to stop the negative thoughts from coming back.

@saranyuvi5539

9 ай бұрын

@@dustydavis8829has it stopped

Anxiety issues have been crippling me for years (11))and it is only getting worse.

@user-so4sv1dq4z

6 ай бұрын

Coming And Going Making love or sex can be one of the most beautiful experiences or one of the worst nightmares. I was sexually traumatized in my childhood, when I was six years old. That can be a huge obstacle, but I want to use these words to solve a different problem. One reason why making love or having sex can be one of the worst nightmares is forcing yourself to come and not being able to come. Many men and women feel a lot of pressure. And if they can't come, they think they're failing, and inner self-torture ensues. Some even opt for abstinence or celibacy to not make love or avoid sex with others altogether, just because they can't come. What many don't realize is that the nature of opposites lives in every phenomenon, including making love and sex. When you come, you have to go. We have to come and go. And "have to go" in this context means not coming. We are not failures if we can't come. Making love and sex is not about winning or losing. Learn to appreciate not coming as a truth. Because to supress a truth is to give it force beyond endurance. And remember, as soon as this blockage is no longer a blockage, because you enjoy both coming and going, you can dare to make love or have sex with other people again. And be aware that if you go now, you will come even harder later. So cherish it when you go. You will come so strong because you are going. Making Love The intention to have sex creates expectations, pressure to perform and fear of failure. If you've been sexually traumatized, it's even worse. Making love, on the other hand, is something that almost any being can do at any time. Even sexually traumatized people can do it if they are loving people by nature. Making love includes all sexual elements and works like a manual. what is good for you, you do. And we can practice it with ourselves and with others. Then sex is irrelevant and you can love yourself and others physically.

Eye-opening. Love your channel!! Love the easygoing way with which you address these very tense topics.

@user-so4sv1dq4z

6 ай бұрын

Coming And Going Making love or sex can be one of the most beautiful experiences or one of the worst nightmares. I was sexually traumatized in my childhood, when I was six years old. That can be a huge obstacle, but I want to use these words to solve a different problem. One reason why making love or having sex can be one of the worst nightmares is forcing yourself to come and not being able to come. Many men and women feel a lot of pressure. And if they can't come, they think they're failing, and inner self-torture ensues. Some even opt for abstinence or celibacy to not make love or avoid sex with others altogether, just because they can't come. What many don't realize is that the nature of opposites lives in every phenomenon, including making love and sex. When you come, you have to go. We have to come and go. And "have to go" in this context means not coming. We are not failures if we can't come. Making love and sex is not about winning or losing. Learn to appreciate not coming as a truth. Because to supress a truth is to give it force beyond endurance. And remember, as soon as this blockage is no longer a blockage, because you enjoy both coming and going, you can dare to make love or have sex with other people again. And be aware that if you go now, you will come even harder later. So cherish it when you go. You will come so strong because you are going. Making Love The intention to have sex creates expectations, pressure to perform and fear of failure. If you've been sexually traumatized, it's even worse. Making love, on the other hand, is something that almost any being can do at any time. Even sexually traumatized people can do it if they are loving people by nature. Making love includes all sexual elements and works like a manual. what is good for you, you do. And we can practice it with ourselves and with others. Then sex is irrelevant and you can love yourself and others physically.

Coming And Going Making love or sex can be one of the most beautiful experiences or one of the worst nightmares. I was sexually traumatized in my childhood, when I was six years old. That can be a huge obstacle, but I want to use these words to solve a different problem. One reason why making love or having sex can be one of the worst nightmares is forcing yourself to come and not being able to come. Many men and women feel a lot of pressure. And if they can't come, they think they're failing, and inner self-torture ensues. Some even opt for abstinence or celibacy to not make love or avoid sex with others altogether, just because they can't come. What many don't realize is that the nature of opposites lives in every phenomenon, including making love and sex. When you come, you have to go. We have to come and go. And "have to go" in this context means not coming. We are not failures if we can't come. Making love and sex is not about winning or losing. Learn to appreciate not coming as a truth. Because to supress a truth is to give it force beyond endurance. And remember, as soon as this blockage is no longer a blockage, because you enjoy both coming and going, you can dare to make love or have sex with other people again. And be aware that if you go now, you will come even harder later. So cherish it when you go. You will come so strong because you are going. Making Love The intention to have sex creates expectations, pressure to perform and fear of failure. If you've been sexually traumatized, it's even worse. Making love, on the other hand, is something that almost any being can do at any time. Even sexually traumatized people can do it if they are loving people by nature. Making love includes all sexual elements and works like a manual. what is good for you, you do. And we can practice it with ourselves and with others. Then sex is irrelevant and you can love yourself and others physically.

Hi guys! This was an excellent video. Being in a relationship as an older couple, we actually can have a few more to add to your list. Lol...but you really targeted on this subject. This was great for both men & women. Age has no bearing when it comes to these issues. They are real for all. Thank you both again.😉👍♥️

@vanessaandxander

3 күн бұрын

Thank you so much for the kind words! - Jackie w Team V&X

Well done both of you. Thank you. (background music unnecessary) but all good 😊

@vanessaandxander

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the feedback!

@user-so4sv1dq4z

6 ай бұрын

Coming And Going Making love or sex can be one of the most beautiful experiences or one of the worst nightmares. I was sexually traumatized in my childhood, when I was six years old. That can be a huge obstacle, but I want to use these words to solve a different problem. One reason why making love or having sex can be one of the worst nightmares is forcing yourself to come and not being able to come. Many men and women feel a lot of pressure. And if they can't come, they think they're failing, and inner self-torture ensues. Some even opt for abstinence or celibacy to not make love or avoid sex with others altogether, just because they can't come. What many don't realize is that the nature of opposites lives in every phenomenon, including making love and sex. When you come, you have to go. We have to come and go. And "have to go" in this context means not coming. We are not failures if we can't come. Making love and sex is not about winning or losing. Learn to appreciate not coming as a truth. Because to supress a truth is to give it force beyond endurance. And remember, as soon as this blockage is no longer a blockage, because you enjoy both coming and going, you can dare to make love or have sex with other people again. And be aware that if you go now, you will come even harder later. So cherish it when you go. You will come so strong because you are going. Making Love The intention to have sex creates expectations, pressure to perform and fear of failure. If you've been sexually traumatized, it's even worse. Making love, on the other hand, is something that almost any being can do at any time. Even sexually traumatized people can do it if they are loving people by nature. Making love includes all sexual elements and works like a manual. what is good for you, you do. And we can practice it with ourselves and with others. Then sex is irrelevant and you can love yourself and others physically.

Constant rejection from your spouse over years is one factor.

Great video.

@user-so4sv1dq4z

6 ай бұрын

Coming And Going Making love or sex can be one of the most beautiful experiences or one of the worst nightmares. I was sexually traumatized in my childhood, when I was six years old. That can be a huge obstacle, but I want to use these words to solve a different problem. One reason why making love or having sex can be one of the worst nightmares is forcing yourself to come and not being able to come. Many men and women feel a lot of pressure. And if they can't come, they think they're failing, and inner self-torture ensues. Some even opt for abstinence or celibacy to not make love or avoid sex with others altogether, just because they can't come. What many don't realize is that the nature of opposites lives in every phenomenon, including making love and sex. When you come, you have to go. We have to come and go. And "have to go" in this context means not coming. We are not failures if we can't come. Making love and sex is not about winning or losing. Learn to appreciate not coming as a truth. Because to supress a truth is to give it force beyond endurance. And remember, as soon as this blockage is no longer a blockage, because you enjoy both coming and going, you can dare to make love or have sex with other people again. And be aware that if you go now, you will come even harder later. So cherish it when you go. You will come so strong because you are going. Making Love The intention to have sex creates expectations, pressure to perform and fear of failure. If you've been sexually traumatized, it's even worse. Making love, on the other hand, is something that almost any being can do at any time. Even sexually traumatized people can do it if they are loving people by nature. Making love includes all sexual elements and works like a manual. what is good for you, you do. And we can practice it with ourselves and with others. Then sex is irrelevant and you can love yourself and others physically.

Thank you!

@user-so4sv1dq4z

6 ай бұрын

Coming And Going Making love or sex can be one of the most beautiful experiences or one of the worst nightmares. I was sexually traumatized in my childhood, when I was six years old. That can be a huge obstacle, but I want to use these words to solve a different problem. One reason why making love or having sex can be one of the worst nightmares is forcing yourself to come and not being able to come. Many men and women feel a lot of pressure. And if they can't come, they think they're failing, and inner self-torture ensues. Some even opt for abstinence or celibacy to not make love or avoid sex with others altogether, just because they can't come. What many don't realize is that the nature of opposites lives in every phenomenon, including making love and sex. When you come, you have to go. We have to come and go. And "have to go" in this context means not coming. We are not failures if we can't come. Making love and sex is not about winning or losing. Learn to appreciate not coming as a truth. Because to supress a truth is to give it force beyond endurance. And remember, as soon as this blockage is no longer a blockage, because you enjoy both coming and going, you can dare to make love or have sex with other people again. And be aware that if you go now, you will come even harder later. So cherish it when you go. You will come so strong because you are going. Making Love The intention to have sex creates expectations, pressure to perform and fear of failure. If you've been sexually traumatized, it's even worse. Making love, on the other hand, is something that almost any being can do at any time. Even sexually traumatized people can do it if they are loving people by nature. Making love includes all sexual elements and works like a manual. what is good for you, you do. And we can practice it with ourselves and with others. Then sex is irrelevant and you can love yourself and others physically.

You should do a series on overcoming some these anxieties for couples

@user-so4sv1dq4z

6 ай бұрын

Coming And Going Making love or sex can be one of the most beautiful experiences or one of the worst nightmares. I was sexually traumatized in my childhood, when I was six years old. That can be a huge obstacle, but I want to use these words to solve a different problem. One reason why making love or having sex can be one of the worst nightmares is forcing yourself to come and not being able to come. Many men and women feel a lot of pressure. And if they can't come, they think they're failing, and inner self-torture ensues. Some even opt for abstinence or celibacy to not make love or avoid sex with others altogether, just because they can't come. What many don't realize is that the nature of opposites lives in every phenomenon, including making love and sex. When you come, you have to go. We have to come and go. And "have to go" in this context means not coming. We are not failures if we can't come. Making love and sex is not about winning or losing. Learn to appreciate not coming as a truth. Because to supress a truth is to give it force beyond endurance. And remember, as soon as this blockage is no longer a blockage, because you enjoy both coming and going, you can dare to make love or have sex with other people again. And be aware that if you go now, you will come even harder later. So cherish it when you go. You will come so strong because you are going. Making Love The intention to have sex creates expectations, pressure to perform and fear of failure. If you've been sexually traumatized, it's even worse. Making love, on the other hand, is something that almost any being can do at any time. Even sexually traumatized people can do it if they are loving people by nature. Making love includes all sexual elements and works like a manual. what is good for you, you do. And we can practice it with ourselves and with others. Then sex is irrelevant and you can love yourself and others physically.

I’m 26 and just experienced this today with my new partner it’s never happened before I’ve never been so embarrassed 😅 she handled it very well but what do i do

Stress and anxiety it’s a bitch !!.. I went trough a lot personal turmoil the last 7 years and turned into a sack of nerves and I a couple of panic attacks and all that made me so tense about having intimacy ..I love women , and this is really affecting me big time .. need HELP !

@dustydavis8829

11 ай бұрын

I think we all can use some help at points in our life's. I'm just coming to terms with that bit. I'm no therapist but I'm here to talk man. I know I could use the help sometimes as well. Stress and anxiety have become to unbearable at times. I feel as if I'm falling apart slowly.

@user-so4sv1dq4z

6 ай бұрын

Coming And Going Making love or sex can be one of the most beautiful experiences or one of the worst nightmares. I was sexually traumatized in my childhood, when I was six years old. That can be a huge obstacle, but I want to use these words to solve a different problem. One reason why making love or having sex can be one of the worst nightmares is forcing yourself to come and not being able to come. Many men and women feel a lot of pressure. And if they can't come, they think they're failing, and inner self-torture ensues. Some even opt for abstinence or celibacy to not make love or avoid sex with others altogether, just because they can't come. What many don't realize is that the nature of opposites lives in every phenomenon, including making love and sex. When you come, you have to go. We have to come and go. And "have to go" in this context means not coming. We are not failures if we can't come. Making love and sex is not about winning or losing. Learn to appreciate not coming as a truth. Because to supress a truth is to give it force beyond endurance. And remember, as soon as this blockage is no longer a blockage, because you enjoy both coming and going, you can dare to make love or have sex with other people again. And be aware that if you go now, you will come even harder later. So cherish it when you go. You will come so strong because you are going. Making Love The intention to have sex creates expectations, pressure to perform and fear of failure. If you've been sexually traumatized, it's even worse. Making love, on the other hand, is something that almost any being can do at any time. Even sexually traumatized people can do it if they are loving people by nature. Making love includes all sexual elements and works like a manual. what is good for you, you do. And we can practice it with ourselves and with others. Then sex is irrelevant and you can love yourself and others physically.

@AllHitsPlaylist

Ай бұрын

@@dustydavis8829u find any solutions yet bro? I just be having anxiety before sex causing me not to get up

I watch this because I was hoping you would come up with Solutions on why I have so much performance anxiety and how to get rid of it. My anxiety is not getting or maintaining an erection and you didn't really explain how to get through that. Of course it's very difficult to get any kind of information about that

@vanessaandxander

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Raymon! We discuss this in our course, vmtherapy.com/end-performance-anxiety/! Check it out!

@user-so4sv1dq4z

6 ай бұрын

Coming And Going Making love or sex can be one of the most beautiful experiences or one of the worst nightmares. I was sexually traumatized in my childhood, when I was six years old. That can be a huge obstacle, but I want to use these words to solve a different problem. One reason why making love or having sex can be one of the worst nightmares is forcing yourself to come and not being able to come. Many men and women feel a lot of pressure. And if they can't come, they think they're failing, and inner self-torture ensues. Some even opt for abstinence or celibacy to not make love or avoid sex with others altogether, just because they can't come. What many don't realize is that the nature of opposites lives in every phenomenon, including making love and sex. When you come, you have to go. We have to come and go. And "have to go" in this context means not coming. We are not failures if we can't come. Making love and sex is not about winning or losing. Learn to appreciate not coming as a truth. Because to supress a truth is to give it force beyond endurance. And remember, as soon as this blockage is no longer a blockage, because you enjoy both coming and going, you can dare to make love or have sex with other people again. And be aware that if you go now, you will come even harder later. So cherish it when you go. You will come so strong because you are going. Making Love The intention to have sex creates expectations, pressure to perform and fear of failure. If you've been sexually traumatized, it's even worse. Making love, on the other hand, is something that almost any being can do at any time. Even sexually traumatized people can do it if they are loving people by nature. Making love includes all sexual elements and works like a manual. what is good for you, you do. And we can practice it with ourselves and with others. Then sex is irrelevant and you can love yourself and others physically.

Well done!About time somebody said something about these situations!👍Everybody is different.Partners need to communicate.

@vanessaandxander

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly! Communication is key!!

@user-so4sv1dq4z

6 ай бұрын

Coming And Going Making love or sex can be one of the most beautiful experiences or one of the worst nightmares. I was sexually traumatized in my childhood, when I was six years old. That can be a huge obstacle, but I want to use these words to solve a different problem. One reason why making love or having sex can be one of the worst nightmares is forcing yourself to come and not being able to come. Many men and women feel a lot of pressure. And if they can't come, they think they're failing, and inner self-torture ensues. Some even opt for abstinence or celibacy to not make love or avoid sex with others altogether, just because they can't come. What many don't realize is that the nature of opposites lives in every phenomenon, including making love and sex. When you come, you have to go. We have to come and go. And "have to go" in this context means not coming. We are not failures if we can't come. Making love and sex is not about winning or losing. Learn to appreciate not coming as a truth. Because to supress a truth is to give it force beyond endurance. And remember, as soon as this blockage is no longer a blockage, because you enjoy both coming and going, you can dare to make love or have sex with other people again. And be aware that if you go now, you will come even harder later. So cherish it when you go. You will come so strong because you are going. Making Love The intention to have sex creates expectations, pressure to perform and fear of failure. If you've been sexually traumatized, it's even worse. Making love, on the other hand, is something that almost any being can do at any time. Even sexually traumatized people can do it if they are loving people by nature. Making love includes all sexual elements and works like a manual. what is good for you, you do. And we can practice it with ourselves and with others. Then sex is irrelevant and you can love yourself and others physically.

Idk how to get rid of the negative thoughts that bring about the anxiety. I wish i could go back several months to get my mojo back.. idk how ill ever overcome this. I cant stop overthinking

@vanessaandxander

11 ай бұрын

IF you check ur courses on our site, we have a class for this!

@user-so4sv1dq4z

6 ай бұрын

Coming And Going Making love or sex can be one of the most beautiful experiences or one of the worst nightmares. I was sexually traumatized in my childhood, when I was six years old. That can be a huge obstacle, but I want to use these words to solve a different problem. One reason why making love or having sex can be one of the worst nightmares is forcing yourself to come and not being able to come. Many men and women feel a lot of pressure. And if they can't come, they think they're failing, and inner self-torture ensues. Some even opt for abstinence or celibacy to not make love or avoid sex with others altogether, just because they can't come. What many don't realize is that the nature of opposites lives in every phenomenon, including making love and sex. When you come, you have to go. We have to come and go. And "have to go" in this context means not coming. We are not failures if we can't come. Making love and sex is not about winning or losing. Learn to appreciate not coming as a truth. Because to supress a truth is to give it force beyond endurance. And remember, as soon as this blockage is no longer a blockage, because you enjoy both coming and going, you can dare to make love or have sex with other people again. And be aware that if you go now, you will come even harder later. So cherish it when you go. You will come so strong because you are going. Making Love The intention to have sex creates expectations, pressure to perform and fear of failure. If you've been sexually traumatized, it's even worse. Making love, on the other hand, is something that almost any being can do at any time. Even sexually traumatized people can do it if they are loving people by nature. Making love includes all sexual elements and works like a manual. what is good for you, you do. And we can practice it with ourselves and with others. Then sex is irrelevant and you can love yourself and others physically.

How do you break the cycle for anxiety #2?

@user-so4sv1dq4z

6 ай бұрын

Coming And Going Making love or sex can be one of the most beautiful experiences or one of the worst nightmares. I was sexually traumatized in my childhood, when I was six years old. That can be a huge obstacle, but I want to use these words to solve a different problem. One reason why making love or having sex can be one of the worst nightmares is forcing yourself to come and not being able to come. Many men and women feel a lot of pressure. And if they can't come, they think they're failing, and inner self-torture ensues. Some even opt for abstinence or celibacy to not make love or avoid sex with others altogether, just because they can't come. What many don't realize is that the nature of opposites lives in every phenomenon, including making love and sex. When you come, you have to go. We have to come and go. And "have to go" in this context means not coming. We are not failures if we can't come. Making love and sex is not about winning or losing. Learn to appreciate not coming as a truth. Because to supress a truth is to give it force beyond endurance. And remember, as soon as this blockage is no longer a blockage, because you enjoy both coming and going, you can dare to make love or have sex with other people again. And be aware that if you go now, you will come even harder later. So cherish it when you go. You will come so strong because you are going. Making Love The intention to have sex creates expectations, pressure to perform and fear of failure. If you've been sexually traumatized, it's even worse. Making love, on the other hand, is something that almost any being can do at any time. Even sexually traumatized people can do it if they are loving people by nature. Making love includes all sexual elements and works like a manual. what is good for you, you do. And we can practice it with ourselves and with others. Then sex is irrelevant and you can love yourself and others physically.

That music is terrible 😐

@user-so4sv1dq4z

6 ай бұрын

Coming And Going Making love or sex can be one of the most beautiful experiences or one of the worst nightmares. I was sexually traumatized in my childhood, when I was six years old. That can be a huge obstacle, but I want to use these words to solve a different problem. One reason why making love or having sex can be one of the worst nightmares is forcing yourself to come and not being able to come. Many men and women feel a lot of pressure. And if they can't come, they think they're failing, and inner self-torture ensues. Some even opt for abstinence or celibacy to not make love or avoid sex with others altogether, just because they can't come. What many don't realize is that the nature of opposites lives in every phenomenon, including making love and sex. When you come, you have to go. We have to come and go. And "have to go" in this context means not coming. We are not failures if we can't come. Making love and sex is not about winning or losing. Learn to appreciate not coming as a truth. Because to supress a truth is to give it force beyond endurance. And remember, as soon as this blockage is no longer a blockage, because you enjoy both coming and going, you can dare to make love or have sex with other people again. And be aware that if you go now, you will come even harder later. So cherish it when you go. You will come so strong because you are going. Making Love The intention to have sex creates expectations, pressure to perform and fear of failure. If you've been sexually traumatized, it's even worse. Making love, on the other hand, is something that almost any being can do at any time. Even sexually traumatized people can do it if they are loving people by nature. Making love includes all sexual elements and works like a manual. what is good for you, you do. And we can practice it with ourselves and with others. Then sex is irrelevant and you can love yourself and others physically.

That grower anxiety is real 😂😂

@Chosen.24

Жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣

@user-so4sv1dq4z

6 ай бұрын

Coming And Going Making love or sex can be one of the most beautiful experiences or one of the worst nightmares. I was sexually traumatized in my childhood, when I was six years old. That can be a huge obstacle, but I want to use these words to solve a different problem. One reason why making love or having sex can be one of the worst nightmares is forcing yourself to come and not being able to come. Many men and women feel a lot of pressure. And if they can't come, they think they're failing, and inner self-torture ensues. Some even opt for abstinence or celibacy to not make love or avoid sex with others altogether, just because they can't come. What many don't realize is that the nature of opposites lives in every phenomenon, including making love and sex. When you come, you have to go. We have to come and go. And "have to go" in this context means not coming. We are not failures if we can't come. Making love and sex is not about winning or losing. Learn to appreciate not coming as a truth. Because to supress a truth is to give it force beyond endurance. And remember, as soon as this blockage is no longer a blockage, because you enjoy both coming and going, you can dare to make love or have sex with other people again. And be aware that if you go now, you will come even harder later. So cherish it when you go. You will come so strong because you are going. Making Love The intention to have sex creates expectations, pressure to perform and fear of failure. If you've been sexually traumatized, it's even worse. Making love, on the other hand, is something that almost any being can do at any time. Even sexually traumatized people can do it if they are loving people by nature. Making love includes all sexual elements and works like a manual. what is good for you, you do. And we can practice it with ourselves and with others. Then sex is irrelevant and you can love yourself and others physically.

As a married male nothing about sex benefits me. Biggest waste of my time and energy.

@user-so4sv1dq4z

6 ай бұрын

Coming And Going Making love or sex can be one of the most beautiful experiences or one of the worst nightmares. I was sexually traumatized in my childhood, when I was six years old. That can be a huge obstacle, but I want to use these words to solve a different problem. One reason why making love or having sex can be one of the worst nightmares is forcing yourself to come and not being able to come. Many men and women feel a lot of pressure. And if they can't come, they think they're failing, and inner self-torture ensues. Some even opt for abstinence or celibacy to not make love or avoid sex with others altogether, just because they can't come. What many don't realize is that the nature of opposites lives in every phenomenon, including making love and sex. When you come, you have to go. We have to come and go. And "have to go" in this context means not coming. We are not failures if we can't come. Making love and sex is not about winning or losing. Learn to appreciate not coming as a truth. Because to supress a truth is to give it force beyond endurance. And remember, as soon as this blockage is no longer a blockage, because you enjoy both coming and going, you can dare to make love or have sex with other people again. And be aware that if you go now, you will come even harder later. So cherish it when you go. You will come so strong because you are going. Making Love The intention to have sex creates expectations, pressure to perform and fear of failure. If you've been sexually traumatized, it's even worse. Making love, on the other hand, is something that almost any being can do at any time. Even sexually traumatized people can do it if they are loving people by nature. Making love includes all sexual elements and works like a manual. what is good for you, you do. And we can practice it with ourselves and with others. Then sex is irrelevant and you can love yourself and others physically.

@matty8272

6 ай бұрын

@@user-so4sv1dq4z not really sure what tangent your heading on but it's far from where I'm at. It's not about coming, going, trama, anxiety, or anything besides the fact it doesn't feel good. Sex or making love doesn't feel like anything described by anyone. All the hype about pleasure or whatever your supposed to feel is followed by disappointment. I fully understand pleasure from other things and enjoy life on every other level. The worst part is that I grew up in the church and heard time and time again that sex is a gift from God and it should be enjoyed. If it was enjoyable I wouldn't be so disappointed.

@user-so4sv1dq4z

6 ай бұрын

@@matty8272 sorry i don't try to harass you in any way. I send this text of mine to many people, hoping to reach those people who need help with this text. Its not directed at everyone just the ones it helps. Sorry again i never know who might benefit from my texts

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@user-so4sv1dq4z

6 ай бұрын

Coming And Going Making love or sex can be one of the most beautiful experiences or one of the worst nightmares. I was sexually traumatized in my childhood, when I was six years old. That can be a huge obstacle, but I want to use these words to solve a different problem. One reason why making love or having sex can be one of the worst nightmares is forcing yourself to come and not being able to come. Many men and women feel a lot of pressure. And if they can't come, they think they're failing, and inner self-torture ensues. Some even opt for abstinence or celibacy to not make love or avoid sex with others altogether, just because they can't come. What many don't realize is that the nature of opposites lives in every phenomenon, including making love and sex. When you come, you have to go. We have to come and go. And "have to go" in this context means not coming. We are not failures if we can't come. Making love and sex is not about winning or losing. Learn to appreciate not coming as a truth. Because to supress a truth is to give it force beyond endurance. And remember, as soon as this blockage is no longer a blockage, because you enjoy both coming and going, you can dare to make love or have sex with other people again. And be aware that if you go now, you will come even harder later. So cherish it when you go. You will come so strong because you are going. Making Love The intention to have sex creates expectations, pressure to perform and fear of failure. If you've been sexually traumatized, it's even worse. Making love, on the other hand, is something that almost any being can do at any time. Even sexually traumatized people can do it if they are loving people by nature. Making love includes all sexual elements and works like a manual. what is good for you, you do. And we can practice it with ourselves and with others. Then sex is irrelevant and you can love yourself and others physically.