tell me about your childhood

@Rizzlergodddd

Жыл бұрын

I was a good kid. Kinda. Weird alright. I had nice parents. I love them. But I was a strange child

@Rizzlergodddd

Жыл бұрын

@katsurat I'm so sorry..

@sketchy-chan

Жыл бұрын

Bad

@Rizzlergodddd

Жыл бұрын

@katsurat stay strong ♥️♥️

@FutureMint

Жыл бұрын

Literally can't remeber any of it.

*"Every child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a child."*

@Negative_tsukomi

Жыл бұрын

Big braaaaiiiiin🧠🔝

@nice-uj8hi

Жыл бұрын

This is so true

@matomatala

Жыл бұрын

Deep

@wackymacky_

Жыл бұрын

fr

@animeartist1155

Жыл бұрын

So True

To the parents who think throwing their child's game system and breaking it is going earn you their respect, they're going to respect you less and resent you more

@Sebi_007

Жыл бұрын

Yup, or the keyboard. That doesn't work too!

@atmen1489

Жыл бұрын

@@Sebi_007 I think it's more of a power trip then a search for respect

@Sebi_007

Жыл бұрын

@@atmen1489 I think that this ideas should be stoped from existence!

@atmen1489

Жыл бұрын

@@Sebi_007 exactly 💯

@lunarialoonatic

Жыл бұрын

Fr… I understand taking it away for a time being (let’s not lie most of our parents have done that lol). But literally breaking it? Wasting money to prove a point?

Ah yes, strict parents. They taught us so much.

@Ezelichi

Жыл бұрын

THE Y TAUGHT US HOW TO NEVER EVER ACT LIKE THEY DO

@Pixieloved

Жыл бұрын

Like how to hide the fact that you have tiktok and a youtube channel 👍

@Ezelichi

Жыл бұрын

@@Pixieloved i dont hide that 👀 and my parents are strict Abt me having a boyfriend but not this 👀

@Gregssocks

Жыл бұрын

strict parents are horrible good i don't have a strict parent

@Hydro.Oceanid

Жыл бұрын

@@Ezelichi and how to hear there footstep ( sorry my writing is not perfect)

When I was a child, my mother would beat me with an extension cord, a wire hanger, went a month with only having bread cereal and water to eat, then learned how to dumpster dive for food, was verbally abused as in told by my mother that I'm a burden, a mistake, she should have aborted me when she had the chance, the only reason she kept me was because of my disability, I ruined her life, I'm fat, ugly and worthless. Now that I'm an adult her words don't have much of an impact on me, but I don't allow anyone to harm or talk to my daughter the way I that was growing up. And if I catch someone talking in an abusive way or disrespectful way to my daughter I start snapping off reminding them that they won't treat and speak to her like that. I will always protect my daughter.

@wormsinatrenchcoat

Жыл бұрын

This is so sad. :'(

@Needoescrochet837

Жыл бұрын

Aw that’s so horrible of her

@steddiefrog

Жыл бұрын

That’s awful of her

@Amanda247-

Жыл бұрын

@@wormsinatrenchcoat yes it is but that's how she is. She only wanted my older brother

@Amanda247-

Жыл бұрын

@@steddiefrog yes but I'm use to it, she only wanted my older brother.

To me, any "man" can claim to be a dad, but it takes a real man to be a father (or father figure, in the case of my own stepfather).

@InstagramUser2

Жыл бұрын

*Funny Footage of onlyjayus räpīng a horse: **kzread.info/dash/bejne/q4ijzpStqMS2msY.html*

@banheezone

Жыл бұрын

I see it the other way round but yeah

@Lily_20238

Жыл бұрын

This is the thing most people tell me

"Strict parents raise sneaky kids."

@adamarismunoz4805

Жыл бұрын

not wrong at all

@aschillcrew

Жыл бұрын

Fax

After watching this, I love and respect my parents even more now

@khalilahd.

Жыл бұрын

Lucky you 🥲

@InstagramUser2

Жыл бұрын

*Funny Footage of onlyjayus räpīng a horse: **kzread.info/dash/bejne/q4ijzpStqMS2msY.html*

@banheezone

Жыл бұрын

@@InstagramUser2 what the actual f*ck

@haebi_

Жыл бұрын

I wish I could say that too lol

@lilianadelcaribe

Жыл бұрын

@@InstagramUser2 lmfao

honestly it’s these videos that helped me realize, while my parents may love me, they are still toxic and don’t understand boundaries (they are the overprotective type who think they are doing what’s best, so they manipulate me because they think they are helping when they aren’t)

Bellas face shows how concerned she is and that she really cares Edit: sorry I messed up Bella’s pronouns, I forgot

@khalilahd.

Жыл бұрын

So true

@InstagramUser2

Жыл бұрын

*Funny Footage of onlyjayus räpīng a horse: **kzread.info/dash/bejne/q4ijzpStqMS2msY.html*

@sapphiregemstone3675

Жыл бұрын

*Their, they, they No hate just wanna make sure the correct pronouns are used

@willowthewarriorwolf7153

Жыл бұрын

@@sapphiregemstone3675 They use any pronouns, but thank you for being considerate!

@HadiaExists

Жыл бұрын

Only jayus uses any pronouns

One thing I learned from having strict parents is how to sneak around, stay out of sight and not get caught and that's how I became so good at stealth.

@LinktheHylianChampion117

Жыл бұрын

same tho

“It doesn’t make them not a price of shi it makes them a peice of shi that hates you” -Bella 2022

Prime example that everyone needs a good parent and when they don’t they’ll be miserable

@tweetthechicken3870

Жыл бұрын

I don't know if my dad would or would count as bad overall or not but one thing I don't like is when I was younger and cried I would sometimes be yelled at to stop crying

@cdadam22

Жыл бұрын

Well, until you have a kid, you will always think your parents are horrible.

i’m a teen. i told them how i felt about the abuse i went thru as a child and they said “that isn’t abuse, you’re just being soft” “why are you always talking about it” my dad always started it, so now he’s “sad” that i don’t like him now “why does he not like me now” just the toxicity of my family i hate. there’s so much drama that happens in a week. i ask for help with something, how to do it, and my parents are like “UGH FINE ILL FUCKING DO IT FOR YOU” even tho like i was gonna do it. i tell them that, boom, explosion. fine. and then i want some freedom and they’re like “no, you’re not gonna do things by yourself bc it’s too dangerous” even tho there isn’t barely anything that happens here. just i’m done. and then it used to be “you shouldn’t have to work, im not making you work” but now it’s “yeah you need to work” because they don’t wanna buy me a car to get places with. everytime i ask something, it’s like i get blasted at. i cant say shit 😭

@akari9400

Жыл бұрын

I can relate to this so much, Dont worry , we'll get through this

I argue with my father alot. He's a good father, we just don't get along well

@daslez2475

Жыл бұрын

Same with me

@eeeeeeee57478

Жыл бұрын

@Jihan Felifia get outta here bot

@maliamichelle2059

Жыл бұрын

Same with my mom,

She ruined that woman’s wedding because she didn’t like the guy, that’s messed up

My parents were strict, and to this day I’m grateful for that. I had a really good (not perfect obviously) childhood which translated into a good relationship as an adult

That second Put A Finger Down...there were 18 that they said. Every single one of them has applied to my parents' treatment of me... Every. Single. One...

14:06 i don't have enough fingers for this

Thank you for mentioning your struggles with SH. I need more figures to look up to who have made it through and who inspire me. Love you Jayus, keep being awesome

@colinargotis

Жыл бұрын

I don't mean to giving away that I'm not a millennial, but what does SH stand for? Or where can I look it up?

@raulreyes988

Жыл бұрын

@@colinargotis it means sexual harassment I was a victim of it by my dad but I’m a Child so i can’t do anything about it even if I tell him to stop

@colinargotis

Жыл бұрын

@@raulreyes988 Thanks for filling me in. It might also mean self harm. When did KZread become such a censoring agency?

@olivianeukam5636

Жыл бұрын

@@colinargotis The SH they are referring to in this video is actually self-harm, which usually refers to cutting.

GUYS GET THE BELT FOR THESE BAD PARENTS SO THEY KNOW HOW IT FEELS ANYONE UP FOR IT!!??!?!?!!!?!?!???!?

@TitaniumTronic

Жыл бұрын

My grandad snapped a mop on my head and my head started bleeding like shit then it got blamed to me cause he said he doesnt wanna get mad but I make him.. Bruh

@Kieran_Duffy

Жыл бұрын

Don’t mind those guys. They are just bots. They want you to masturbate.

„Everyone has a parent“ *Sad orphan noises*

I think it’s actually pretty unhealthy and dangerous to try to teach a child that if they don’t act the way you want them to that others can strip them of their privacy. Could be a slippery slope there

Everyone deserves a standing ovation at least once i their life - August Pullman

@LinktheHylianChampion117

Жыл бұрын

I love that book

Luckily my parents just neglected me. Handed me a soccer ball and some video games and told me to figure it out. After watching some of these, I feel like I got off pretty easy. Thanks, all the best!

I love the way you talk & descibe things, Bella. I've learned so much from you through your lil tik tok videos!

I am so thankful that my parents aren’t toxic. That don’t spoil me, there are restrictions, but they always tell me to follow my dreams and when I like something, they encourage me to make it a hobby. They encourage me to travel around the world when I grow up. I don’t know how I would live without them

@bobthedino3911

Жыл бұрын

your living the dream 💀💀

ah.. we don't communicate, so at least something after all these years, yay. I still live with them, tho.. I basically raised myself anyway, so... yeah

Parents suck, I've learned though that, 90% of their stupid shit are mistakes, and a lot of it is just stuff that they don't know how to handle, or we misinterpret. Like that dude that had the cameras in his room. For years we thought my best friend's aunt and uncle were insane. They took the door off his cousin's bedroom, they would monitor his bathroom time, they would low-key like call places that he would go all the time to see what was going on. Mind you this dude was 19. It wasn't till 5 years later that we all found out what was going on. And the messed up part is we found out when his mom was telling us that we were going to his funeral. Apparently he developed a heroin addiction, and his parents didn't really know how to deal with it they just tried to monitor him and be supportive, while keeping it low-key because they didn't want him to have the stigma of being a junkie. They literally tried everything, we found out that the three separate times we thought he was staying with his grandmother, he was in different rehabs. They spent thousands of dollars to try and help him, and almost all of my buddy's family they just seemed like crazy overbearing parents.

@godmoderetard5894

Жыл бұрын

Never be quick to assume quick tip with life

Thank you to you and your contributors for sharing. I’m sure this helps those of us struggling with the memories… 💕

Take it with a grain of salt take it with a grain of salt. But yeah, if your parents are hitting you and by consequence you're blacking out, yeah, that's just beyond acceptable.

@shurebearys3482

Жыл бұрын

I almost blacked out once when “he” kept slamming my head

@shurebearys3482

Жыл бұрын

Don’t worry me still alive I have thicc skull

jayus: think back to your childhood me who is still technically a child:

@wormsinatrenchcoat

Жыл бұрын

Same

@elijahsandlin495

Жыл бұрын

same, i am 13

@Endtherinbetween

Жыл бұрын

@@elijahsandlin495 same:D

@elijahsandlin495

Жыл бұрын

@@Endtherinbetween nice

a friend of mine had parents that didn’t let them go to our HS graduation bc ‘you’re supposed to graduate’ SOO sad

It's crazy cause parents punish us for making mistakes,.

Im 50 shades of childhood trauma

The fact my parents act like my sisters the favourite- like one time when I was 10, she was nearly 22, and she stabbed me with a hanger, and I got yelled at??

So i had some of these experiences and a little more I can tell these peoples pain and it hurts to know that more kids have this and its not right

17:01 this being the most relatable thing i’ve seen all day is sad. my mom used to yell. YELL. at me to take my mask off while ordering food at a restaurant, the time when i most needed it. the point of the mask is to protect you from other and others from you, so taking it off while around another person is just rude to them

This makes me Ultra o mega grateful and happy to have the parents I do always so loving respectful hearing not judgmental and just great to talk to they are the absolute best!

I love these types of videos yesssssss!

Can't wait for it. Thanks Bella 👍

Great video bella, keep up the good work. Luckily I have grown up with good parents. Can't wait for your next video

I'm really happy my terrible dad just left us once at all.. expect he tried to keep up relationship with me for a while, but he got mad to me because I didn't tell him my mother got pregnant 6 years after they had divorced and he has given his rights away to me and my brother.. well that was still fixable, but after he moved his new woman in the house our mother and us left he didn't have premission to keep contact with any of his kids (not adult kids or kids kids).. and ofcourse the new woman's kid moved there too

Great subject matter. I only have two “critiques”. 1. I could barely hear most of the kids you featured, and I have excellent hearing. 2. Video two would start while you were still commenting on Video 1, so that neither you nor the video could be heard or understood. My sperm donor (who was married to my mom) was physically, mentally, and emotionally abusive to my mother and I both. While I did suffer all of that abuse at his hands, what was worse was seeing and hearing what he would do to my mom. My mom took it upon herself to provide me with the best possible life while at the same time, trying to protect me from him, and from witnessing what he would do to her. We were a military family. He was in law enforcement, and was well-respected at the workplace. This was decades ago - long before the term domestic abuse was even created. Men were still allowed to treat their wives any way they saw fit. There were no women’s shelters, nor any other type of resource for women or children. At age 12, I ditched school for the first time. I came home to my mother and sixth grade teacher talking at the kitchen table. They wanted to know why I ditched. Sperm donor was overseas at the time, but due to return soon. I told them I wanted the police to arrest me and take me away so that I wouldn’t have to live with sperm donor anymore. Mom looked at teacher and said, “That’s it. I’m filing for divorce”. She was true to her word. When the divorce became final, it was in early July. We were at a 4th of July party hosted by some family friends. My mom lit two sparklers, handed one to me, and led me by the hand around the corner. That’s when she told me we were celebrating our own independence, because we were finally free from “him”. One of the best days of my life.

@elijahsandlin495

Жыл бұрын

thank the gods for you mother, i am sorry you went through that

Spoken like a true king

I love how ur starting to make more longer vids ❤️

Honestly this was SO relatable I have deeply religious parents and im not allowed to listen to music. ever. i am not allowed to any social media, or tv, And im not even allowed to close my door or own a Journal after my parents go through my things daily. I often change my clothes at school and have secret compartments in my drawers with more cute clothing. As I am not allowed to wear ANY form of tight clothing OR jeans with holes. But at the same time i can't wear baggy clothes because they are too "boyish" Last time i wore a tight shirt I was made fun of by my family saying i dont have a good body for tight clothes, the next day I wore it to school I got dozens of compliments. This is just the tip of the iceberg folks:)

Mom: I would rate 9 ^^ Dad: …-80

There's more to these stories than we see and most of them deserved punishment for being disrespectful. If I pulled any of these stunts I probably would've been tied to a chair and waterboarded again

@pretzel6989

Жыл бұрын

I hate to be the one to break it to you, but you’re being abused. That is an actual form of torture worthy of jail time. Sure some of them probably were being bad but that doesn’t in any way justify what the parents did. You should seek help and try to get into a safer situation before things escalate.

@TNT003

Жыл бұрын

@@pretzel6989 I understand that my upbringing was not the best but I would like to add that I'm 19 and I live on my own

@TNT003

Жыл бұрын

@@pretzel6989 though I really appreciate your concern

@pretzel6989

Жыл бұрын

@@TNT003 oh okay, I see, I hope you’re doing better now.

On the subject of removing doors, we only had to do that one time and that was to our oldest daughter (the other 3 learned the lesson through her) and it was 100% because she was slamming the door constantly when she would have 13 yr old temper tantrums. We told her if she kept slamming it, we would take it away. She did so we did. Slamming stopped and the other 3 kids learned what not to do. As for just removing the door as some odd punishment, or the idea that Anyone doesn't "deserve privacy", is just insane. But there are times when it does make sense.

The only reason why my mom put cameras in the room was because she and my stepdad were out of the house a lot and even tho they could trust me, they didn’t trust our neighbors so we had cameras And she could like turn on the voice thing so she could speak in it through her phone when she connected it to Bluetooth and it would always scare the shit outa me when I was sleeping It would also scare the guinea pigs

When I was living with foster parents they had cameras everywhere I wasn't allowed to eat after 8pm and had to eat all my food or couldnt have food for the rest of the week so yea then when I moved in with my grandmother and dad my dad was out doing idk and my grandmother said get out of my room don't date a girl focus on God and I would draw on myself and where black she said why are you what you wanna go to hell are you gonna join a cult??? and would threaten to hit and hurt me btw I dont live with my mom and grandmother talks crap about her all the time

Interesting title ( I'm not saying toxic parents are interesting. If you want an explanation read my response to TalentedHands)

@notyoutube2599

Жыл бұрын

Wtf

@AL-df3cd

Жыл бұрын

@@notyoutube2599 interesting because it could be about " jayus personal exsperiance with the topic" Or " reacting to videos that have such content" or even "giving examples of like if your parents do these things that makes then toxic" so please don't just to conclusions next time please thank you.

@arb8017

Жыл бұрын

Lettuce

I love how they were speechless after every one lol

I'm really lucky to have supportive parents that actually value my needs... and privacy.

keep the good work up😊

I was going through my black phase and my dad told me I couldn’t dress like that because I looked like a h0oker, also he made me get a haircut, and change everything about myself..😃 also he would constantly yell at me for the most random sh*y like touching a door. And would constantly scream how I always f*ck 5ings up and can never do anything right.. this still happens.. I’m 12🤩 Edit: also I have to lock myself in the bathroom for privacy 🤗 that’s where I am run but I’m in a cabinet in the bathroom🥴

"Think back to your childhood" *me thinking back to my childhood* : "Help its too dark in here"

I have been ENLIGHTENED by ur content

Jayus being the most realistically speaking human i know. Respect🫡

Put a finger down toxic parent addition... 14:20 Me :* has 17 fingers down* "Anyways moving on"

This makes me feel thankful for the parents I got 😅 Though some more pocket money would be appreciated. A solid 9.5 out of 10.

@cutehunter9659

Жыл бұрын

More pocket money... Lmao my parents are the same as yours, only difference between our parents is, i don't receive pocket money. Bruh (it's understandable, because we are a bit financially weak..)

"we all have parents" That one kid who's an orphan:😐

My parents don't allow closed doors, no socials, must know all passwords, im not even allowed to watch FUGGIN DISNEY, Go through my texts, and I have NEVER Broken their trust... WHY DO I DESERVE THIS?! oh and I can't keep secrets, or have a diary.

@TitaniumTronic

Жыл бұрын

I wasnt given room, they snoop on my stuff, I cant go out at 15, the furthest I've gone alone is the store next door, I'm a fucking good student too!! Oh and when there was no school I played on my phone a lot since there was nothing to do (at night after I did all my chores) And my grandad still got mad that I use too much phone so he hit me with a mop which promptly broke on my head, he got mad at me even more cause the mop broke, he dragged me to the toilet while I was bloody screaming while my head was bleeding and he poured cold water on me and told me to take a bath, I did, then I was told to sleep with no dinner. The next day they all acted like nothing happened... I'm portrayed as the bad person in the family too, for just minding my own business. Yep a shit ton of PTSD that I would never live down. Why us? Why is it that the ones who are least problematic the ones getting fkn treated like this

@fattyfatmanfatty4644

Жыл бұрын

@@TitaniumTronic i am so sorry for you.. i really need to stop taking my life for granted.

I couldn't have a boyfriend because "boys will always be on earth" (never had a boyfriend at all, I'm 23 now), looked through my phone and found out I was talking to strangers (still talk to strangers but ik some mean well, mostly discord), could barely hangout with friends (had to ask), never slept over a friends house unless they knew them, I guess that's all

The way I clicked so fast is concerning [got childhood issues]

MY SISTER AND I’S CHILDHOOD SUMMED UP IN ONE WORD (TOXIC)

@TitaniumTronic

Жыл бұрын

Ours summed up in one acronym (PTSD)

the strongest rule i ever had was "dont eat the crumbs of food after you have eaten" idk why. i always thought it was weird that they pushed that rule so hard. they were always saying "Remember dont eat the crumbs" even if we never did they always said it

I love your video

I love your videos 😊🥰

@fathercomehomee

Жыл бұрын

@Jihan Felifia hi

I hate listening to alllllll of the family arguments and they have a big impact on me and My little brother he always cry’s and I confit him wile I’m trying to calm my self down too

“We all have parents” Orphans: 🫤

They don't let me go outside unless I beg them rlly hard and in my life I just go out w my friends like 3 times or smth they only let me if I go w my sisters or cousins I am 14 and also they don't let me wear what I want only baggy clothes not even shorts. I can't use insta or pinterest. It's not allowed 4 me to listen korean boy groups. Or watch animes. I can't have a bf until I am a grown up and 4 them it's 22. If I get bad grates or lie them ab it they'd give me punishments. I'm turkish btw

My mom is a 4/10 and my dad is a 7/10 but my step mom is a solid 9/10

I feel so lucky my parents are kind. My dad was definitely angrier when I was young but I was a real pain in the ass so kinda deserved it lol. Now the only issue is my moms anxiety which makes her stressed out and pressure me to do better and be more like my sister, but honestly I know she cares and that's why she so anxious about my life.

love your videos 💗 :D

My father was extremely abusing and did things to my mom and I both, my mom died of drugs and at 15 it still haunts me

As a kid that has two brothers and strict parents I was never really allowed to do things Like when I was 5 I had to ask permission to go outside and that didn't change until I turned 9 Still need to ask my parents to go places that's not the neighborhood plus I need to ask them about the plans I made and if they disagree plans are canceled simple as that

@willowthewarriorwolf7153

Жыл бұрын

I think that's normal, then again I have strict parents. That doesn't sound too scrict tbh.

@illumantix3008

Жыл бұрын

You were 5 what 😂 of course you do it’s called manner

My friend is Baptist and he has told me he will NOT parent like that!

Lol the one with "dad is tires is so relatable" cause my dad is an a hole and he always owe me and apolighy, when i make a scene so he will tell one my mom doea it on his behalf and just acts like nothing happend

I love u Bella

When i was a kid they sorta starved me. They left me like a cup of water and half a bagel for a whole fay and i was locked into my room (when i was like 13) for a whole day like (24hours) no electronics or anything.

@gunbuster333SMSTI

Жыл бұрын

That was the worst punishment i think I’ve had.

@Rizzlergodddd

Жыл бұрын

Wow. Um.. are u okay?

@gunbuster333SMSTI

Жыл бұрын

@@Rizzlergodddd 🫥 yes

@Rizzlergodddd

Жыл бұрын

@@gunbuster333SMSTI glad u are ♥️♥️

@gunbuster333SMSTI

Жыл бұрын

@@Rizzlergodddd thank you!

Do not think about it like they would, think about it like you would

in the live comment section, everyone was copy pasting a paragraph that was suggesting that kicking out your child is a good thing Like wtf people

Just as I suspected, I didn’t have it so bad. Then again, I stopped pointing fingers at parents years ago.

I think that every parent who punishes their child by breaking his favourite toy/object should be punished back! Like if you agree

@creativenamegoeshere2562

Жыл бұрын

Break the dad’s beer

@JuicyLoop

Жыл бұрын

nah I don't agree

@creativenamegoeshere2562

Жыл бұрын

@@JuicyLoop why?

I love their intro. It’s short, but cool!

Bella’s videos are the best

Bella why is it that I feel like I've known you for way longer than we've been alive it's weird. Either way. Wishing u the best.

I feel kinda overwhelmed when the video you're reacting to is playing while you are trying to say something. I can't really focus what's going on in the video and hear what you're saying at the same time.

bro i need more fingers, all the "put a finger down" had me every question

I think the important distinction is between strict and toxic. My parents were strict. I could do all the stuff like fake-sleep, tell who was coming by their footsteps, hide my phone/whatever I had open on my laptop in a matter of seconds, etc. BUT I was still aware that my parents loved me and were trying their best. a) I'm grateful they were strict -- I had a 4.0 GPA and am just a better person in general because of it and b) I have a good relationship with them to this day.

Interesting title hmm.

Hi bella/jayus

I have so many skills on how to not get in trouble for doing random things bc of my strict parents

The first was literally my mom if only one of my things isn't cleaned, she just throws everything on the floor and insults the shit out of me

Hey Bella!!

I love youuuuu

Damn this hit hard soon I realized what these storys were

12:30 "GO BACK GO BACK- she cant even have TIKTOK" i just wasn't allowed to have it in the first place 😭😭