The pain is indescribable. one of my 2 forcibly adopted children have found me. I got to celebrate her birthday with her today for the first time since she was 2. She is 19 now. She told me today she has never had a birthday cake, I don't know if this an adoptive mum thing because birth is associated with another woman tgats not them. My son and daughter both had severe mental health issues and tried to kill themselves because they thought I had rejected them. They have worked through this now but my son still won't talk to me. I have raised 4 children and there was some initially confusion, she thought I rejected her, there was nothing further from the truth. I know exactly where my kids are now and I can't tell you how much of a relief that is. I would have been so grateful for this support for those 16 years.

So much pain that last for years n years n years

I had my baby taken away in 1969. I was told it was for my own good, that she deserved better because I was not married and the adopting parents had a nice house with a lake and a pony, and they were married. So after 11 months of being bludgeoned that I was selfish for keeping her, I eventually caved in under the pressure and thought that maybe she did deserve a better life in a nice home - all I had was a one room bed sit. So they took her away. It was taken for granted I would get over it, so no support whatsoever. Six months later I had a complete nervous breakdown and attempted suicide. Through the years I have missed her terribly, especially on her birthday. This coming April she will be 54 years old. I am now 77. Mothers who weren’t married and had no support from their families - they lost their babies too. The scars of grief, rejection from society, mental breakdowns - takes years to get back on one’s feet. I am glad these girls have a place they can go to… the pain never goes away you see.

@lizziesnailz7248

8 ай бұрын

I do hope that you’re doing ok. And I hope you have met your baby girl at some point

@jenniferevans2046

8 ай бұрын

@@lizziesnailz7248 The very good news is that she did trace me, as I always updated my personal details (as in moves of address, tel number etc). It was an extra an ecstatic moment for both of us. Unfortunately, her adoptive mother did not take this well at all and a huge conflict developed for my daughter of loyalty. So our meetings sadly didn’t last . However, I will forever be grateful that she traced me, she had a good life and was healthy and well. She has three children of her own. Sometimes not everything turns out exactly as one would wish - but I have come to terms with the situation now. Xx

@Roseenmarie

3 ай бұрын

thank you for sharing this, unfortunately this hasn't changed

@jenniferevans2046

3 ай бұрын

@@Roseenmarie I believe you are right, sadly.

Well Done PAC-UK, Very Eye opening. Really well presented.

@nozeycow024

Жыл бұрын

Hi there put in forced adoption on KZread it starts from there.. Many of these adoptions are of kids being ripped out of the mother's arms and "placed" with adopted families.. Plenty of people who now speak out. I was "removed" I'm now 50 and I don't know hardly anyone in my family. How much I weighed or much more than birth place..

In Lancashire there is not even one birth parent support group or organisation. Had to get through it alone 😔

Absolutely have it here... You get it from the family who are living with so much pain. I know many parents who are living in the forced adoption world.. Depending on what language sw chooses to use. Ripping a child out of the mother's arms & "placing said child with" new families "who are very often the focus of the ad. Totally barbaric.. Please have a look at kellie cottam on here.. She is traumatised 10 years later

i lost my son to adoption wen i eas 18

Keĺlie cottam