I can relate to "you're never going to feel like doing it". I must remember this.

"Give yourself a thousand second chances" I can't remember who said that, but I love it.... I swear I've already used up more than a thousand "second" chances, but it keeps me getting up over and over.

I have a tip to get in motion. We all have to go to the toilet. For that, we have to move to the bathroom and voilà - we‘re in motion. Then we can start directly in the bathroom or on our way back to some other room something 😄 Thank you Kallie, I‘ve already learnt so much from you💚

@sarahrosen4985

10 ай бұрын

The toilet is THE best place to do squats! The most stable, not going to move out from under you chair in the house. 😀

When I get behind I no longer see it as me being a failure, I see it as it’s time for the rest of my family to step in and step up and start doing more because it’s not all my responsibility. We all live in this and no one here is immune to doing their part to keep the house running well. I think where we mommas need to do better is not trying to do it all and raise our expectations of the other members of our family and delegate more responsibility. Just because our partners may earn the sole income doesn’t make managing the entire house OUR job alone. Obviously very little ones can’t do a whole lot but each year our kids can do more and more to pitch in and our partners can certainly do more. In my house, no one sits on the couch to watch TV after dinner until the entire kitchen is clean. Period. Why should we being working into the late hours while the rest of the family relaxes and enjoys their evening? NOPE. We all live here, we ALL do our part.

@caleygrimm3606

10 ай бұрын

Love this!!

@shadonnalewis9423

10 ай бұрын

All of this is so true!!!!

@itsjustme987

9 ай бұрын

I just had this talk with my kids last weekend. It's exhausting doing everything by yourself all the time.

@yellowyosh470

9 ай бұрын

Amen. It's so much better to work as a team in all aspects of your life. :)

@tessshiell

9 ай бұрын

This is why I don't clean up after dinner haha. I don't want to waste my evening that I could be spending with my family on cleaning. We bring the dishes from the table to the kitchen counter, and then we go sit down. I deal with the kitchen first thing in the morning after my husband leaves for work because I don't want to miss any time with him

Care tasks are morally neutral.🤯 Omg this whole part was such an "aha moment" for me. Seriously life changing! Thank you Kallie! 🩷🤗

@saraswink2411

10 ай бұрын

I would recommend reading “How to Keep House While Drowning” by KC Davis. The book is framed around this concept and is so helpful!!

@NicoletteM.682

10 ай бұрын

@@saraswink2411 Thank you!! Just ordered it! 😀

@msaijay1153

10 ай бұрын

​@@saraswink2411I placed a hold at my local library. I'm 32nd in line 😂

@briannab5296

10 ай бұрын

@But_FirstCoffee-On-Tele.. .what the heck does get in touch mean?? Whoever you are you've left that same response on everybody's comments.

@crybebebunny

10 ай бұрын

​@briannab5296 She is getting Impostors, Impersonating her. That is truly Not Her.

"... you're never gonna feel like it" was GOLD to me! Thanks, Callie 🤗😁🤗

Your words and ideas have been a true blessing. I take medication for ADHD and OCD and I still struggle but your words calm me and your ideas help me make decisions. Thank you so much and please, KNOW that YOU are a blessing.

I have serious chronic health issues, which means I have many days where it is impossible for me to take care of tasks. In July, my husband had a health crisis, then several weeks later our five grandchildren (and parents) came for a visit. I decided our goal is going to be to put items that need to be put in the attic/garage in a spare bedroom and close the door. We can deal with those items slowly, when we both are feeling much better! Our living areas in in good shape, and that is what is important! Thank you for making this video, it was so helpful!!❤

My challenge is that I use up my task initiation self-discipline by trying to start a million times, but getting interuptted after literally less than 5 minutes, over and over again. Those few intermittent moments of house progress DO help keep things on track...but mentally, emotionally and energetically, it is hard to consistently utilize those micromoments.

@Aerie499

10 ай бұрын

Are you getting interrupted by kids ? Yes so insightful, I saw a podcast with a journalist who interviewed a neurologist who said it takes us 15-20 minutes any time we get interrupted to get back on track and in regards to context he was talking about our phone notifications

@allie8442

10 ай бұрын

@@Aerie499 Yes, interrupted by kids! I have 5 kids, 4 are 5 and under, and I homeschool. 🥴

@creativelycountry1617

10 ай бұрын

@@allie8442 This!!!!! Amen!!! Thank you for explaining what I have got going in at my house so well😂🤦‍♀️ My kiddos are a few years older than yours, so it’s getting a bit better. But, it is still a challenge and very much like you described. One thing that I have found helpful is during quiet time (2 days a week they get an hour of screen time, the other 3 days it’s just a quiet activity in their room, no one naps any more) I set an alarm for myself. 35 minutes I do cleaning or whatever like a crazy woman, and then then last 25 minutes I put my feet up and do something relaxing. But I get so much done in 35 minutes because I’m not interrupted (usually 😉)

@juliab628

10 ай бұрын

11:06 11:08 11:08 11:13 11:14 11:14

@caleygrimm3606

10 ай бұрын

This is relatable! I recently started reading the book Hunt, Gather, Parent by Michaeleen Doucleff, and it's helped me shift my perspective on family/ housework and helping kids participate and stuff. You might find it helpful. There's an audiobook if you don't have time to sit down and read. Wishing you the best! You are doing a great job!

I needed this!! I struggle with chronic nausea and fatigue and I just moved plus we had a death in the family which resulted in 2 unscheduled out of state trips... my house is a mountain of work right now and I don't feel good and I have been struggling with feeling overwhelmed and like a failure. Thank you for the encouragement!!!!

@SailorYuki

10 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry for your loss. nausea and fatigue are symptoms you really need to discuss with your doctor. They're both symptoms of kidney failure. A very common condition.

@briannab5296

10 ай бұрын

If you & I lived close by I'd gladly come over & help you with the house. Hope you feel better soon.

@michums14

10 ай бұрын

@@SailorYuki in my case they are from a genetic mutation that causes my body not to detox properly... I have good days and bad days. I am blessed with a very good doctor that has helped guide me to more better days than I previously had. Right now my body is just so worn out from the crazy busy month that I'm having a flair up. I know it will pass as long as I do the things I should along with rest.

@lilabuchschmetterling6585

10 ай бұрын

​@@michums14 all the best for you, take care❤

@carms.creative

10 ай бұрын

​@@SailorYuki There are lots of other things that can cause these kinds of symptoms. Before surgery I used to get these from my IBD. But yes, a doctor can help figure out what's wrong.

Needed this today as I Stare at my mountains of laundry. I've let go of my systems lately and oh boy.

I really resonate with the once in motion, stay in motion. When I get home from work, I am immediately keep doing tasks around my house instead of relaxing. It’s easier just to stay in work mode.

“Be the best friend over coffee to yourself” love love love.👏👏 Kallie throwing out WISDOM.

I was very sick for a month recently - bad cold 😷🤒🤧🤮 Thankful that my hubby was able to take care of me & keep the house from going completely down the drain. But I was sooo out of it when it came to getting back to my previous routines. That took about another month to have the strength and bandwidth to get completely back - but just starting at each one (one at a time,) helped. Thanks for the encouragement!❤

Thank you SO much! I needed this. My home has become a MESS. Ive been overwhelmed & therefore, paralyzed. And, i shame myself with words like slob, etc. Im going to watch this again, and take notes this time! Thank you, thank you, thank you.

This seriously brought me to tears. Your narrative resonates so much. Thank you Kallie ❤

@beckyl9454

10 ай бұрын

Me too. My work schedule is all jumbled up which has made it hard to do much of anything at home. My to-do list is constantly yelling at me, both at work and at home. Today, I've broken down twice cleaning and now while watching this video. I'm definitely the person that doesn't give self-compassion when things aren't done. Why do we do this to ourselves?

This applies to us Grandmas, too! Many of us provide childcare, and some even raise their grandchildren.

@sarahrosen4985

10 ай бұрын

Hear! Hear! Some of us are raising a grandchild but still expected to be the "Always Count On" grandmother to our daughter and son-in-law and pick up the other grandchild from daycare every week, all while continuing to work full time and having no parents of our own to turn to for support and help...

Thank you for doing this video. It was very helpful. I’ve beaten myself up for not getting the to do list done and pushing stuff off for another day. You’re so right about self compassion and not treating ourselves like a failure. ❤

OMG I was just sitting here thinking….”where do I start?! I need inspiration!” And then you appear to save the day! Thank you for the great ideas and tools. And as a full time (now live-in) caregiver to my sick Mom…thank you for the kind words. And congratulations on your little one. In Greek we say “na sas zisi” which basically wishes great health and strength to your new baby. 💙🤍

Can you do a video of how you broke the huge task of decluttering, organizing, and purging your basement? Organizing being the main concept. Thank you for your videos, Kallie.

@aprildawnsunshine4326

10 ай бұрын

Cass from Clutterbug actually did a video doing that in her basement recently (ish) and it's really good.

@trishpipkins

10 ай бұрын

Use SMART goals. Google "SMART goals" and you'll find articles on exactly how to break big tasks down. It means "Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time-Bound." There are different examples of exactly how to break it down. Hope this helps!

System fails! As a teacher my school year basically keeps a structure in my home. I'm more on top of things because I have to have clothes, my family needs clothes, food, there's dance and events and vacations and parent teacher conferences as the teacher and the parent. Summer break, relaxing, the long vacations are when my systems fail. Now with school back I'm playing catch up. I needed this to remind me that I am a human and that my cleaning doesn't define me as a wife or mother.

Came up for the cleaning tips, left with the therapy I didn't know I needed 💖💖💖

@arizonashopper5095

9 ай бұрын

THIS!! The video was so different from what I expected. And so good!

I needed this so much today! I have felt like a failure in my household management the last few days. But while watching this, it made me reflect on why it got this bad. 1) We have friends in town, and we have been spending time with them. 2) My middle child turned 5, and we have been celebrating his birthday. 3) We have taken advantage of the great weather and have gotten alot of outside work done. So, I am not failing. I decided to put family and friends before dishes and laundry. Now, to get back to my daily to-dos. My house will be back to normal in no time at all!

@jocelynsmyth6604

8 ай бұрын

Definitely a good way to look at it - people first! And that includes you too 🩷 I hope you had lots of fun!

I am looking forward to seeing your new little one. Yes, that's a routine changer; the reverse is also true. My routines have constantly changed in the last 6 years since my husband died, my daughter got married, I had 2 surgeries, and spent time in the hospital twice in 6 months. I am still trying to get my life in order. I've discovered it takes at least 3 weeks to form a good habit, but only 3 days to form a bad habit.

I have found that when I have to sit down for awhile it's easier to get back up when I'm working on something while sitting down. ie paper clutter, list of phone calls etc. Anything that helps my brain to keep moving even if my body has to sit for 5 minutes

I am a very organized person, a place for everything and everything in it’s place. It worked with our kids, and our grandson whom we’re raising but ever since I left my job my house is a disaster! None of my systems seem to be working, I’m exhausted, and my motivation level is nil! I’m keeping up with the humans and the puppy but that’s! Thanks for your encouragement so much of what you say is true, so tonite I’m doing the brain dump and figuring out what two projects I’m going to tackle!

@arizonashopper5095

9 ай бұрын

I wonder why leaving your job (which one would think results in MORE time) caused things to fall apart? Lack of structure?

Congrats to the growing family! ❤ I clean the kitchen after dinner every single day. I don't allow myself to leave the kitchen before putting everything into the dishwasher and washing big stuff by hand, cleaning the table and setting it for the morning. If I sit down on the sofa, I'm never able to get up again and do it later... Once in rest, I'll stay in rest! 🤣

Not me tearing up watching this 🥺😢 I think I really needed to hear this today. I’m struggling with the full work load (and mental load) and I feel like a failure, and like an awful Mum. Compassion and kindness I’m coming for you ❤

Self compassion 😍thank you for reminding us of what truly matters, managing our self-talk 🙌 great tips as always 🙏🏻

This really helped me feel like I wasn’t failing at life. Literally, I look around sometimes and think and sometimes say out loud to myself, “I didn’t grow up like this… wth?!” I feel defeated instantly and feel that the mess defines me. Thanks for posting.❤

Just wanted to let you know your videos have helped me so much. We don’t have similar lives but I started watching your videos over a year ago when I was facing clearing out lots of things after my father passed, also getting back on top of work and all sorts of things were getting on top of me after I also lost my brother. Your videos got me back on track and I now have so many routines that mean everything goes more smoothly and my anxiety keeps to a minimum. You’re a star! And your tips worked so well for me.

Funny the timing on this. Right now I have a horrible cold (went to doctor - not strep) and I see the household going downhill quickly but I don't care. I know that when I'm healthy again I'll be able to slowly but surely get back on top of it again.

"Everybody else is doing fine." That made me laugh. 😂 Because I'm finally getting it. Others struggle too.

I love what you said about a body that is in motion stays in motion and a body that is at rest will stay at rest. When I’m at work I am a nonstop machine but at home I always want to rest so it makes it tough to get lots of things that I want to do done. I have been working on getting storage for everything little by little. Thank you so much for taking the time to encourage us 😊

@angelacarroll9750

10 ай бұрын

I was the same when I was working. I felt energetic at work, and kept on going after it, with shopping, cooking etc. However, on my days off, it was hard to get motivated. Retired now, and motivation is and off. These videos are great 👍

So lucky I ran into this video 1st thing this morning. Last night I crawled into bed an hour early because ringer paralyzed since I was feeling defeated, overwhelmed, lazy, & like a failure as a mom and spouse because there was so much to do. I’m super lucky though, because I didn’t have any compassion or kindness for myself, but my husband did. He gave me all of his since I couldn’t give it to myself. I know not everyone is lucky enough to have a life partner like that. I got up near midnight, stressed because of everything on my “to-do” list, & I found my husband had done dishes & cleaned up the kitchen. Waking up to a Clean kitchen & living room is the best, especially when it’s a surprise haha. This video & my husband’s support helped me give myself some grace & get some momentum back ☺️

COngratulations on the new healthy boy. So happy for you and the whole family

Congrats on #3!!

I can personally vouch for Better Help. I used them a couple times in the past two years which propped me up and then moved me out of my depression and into action.

In a weird way, we are all living the same life ❤

Same situation here, 30 weeks pregnant with my third with a 6yo and a 3yo. I needed this!

These videos have been super helpful with getting our house more organised, but accepting that there’s no such thing as perfection and that’s ok. We’re by no means “done” with sorting the house but we’ve just donated a load of things to charity and even encouraged our young girls to let go of toys, which is something they’ve struggled with before. Thanks for all the advice!

Callie, I love your content and I'm always waiting for new videos. SHORTS are not enough for me 😅. Please start doing "clean with me" videos 🙏🏻

You give me such hope for the next generation. Keep the encouragement coming 😊 My millennials need to hear this!!

I absolutely love your videos. I want to be a morning person so badly but I’m still struggling to get up. Once I’m up though, it’s easy peasy 😂 I implemented the clean sink before bed and it’s been life changing for my mornings as a mom with four kids to get up and out the door during the week! I work from home so I literally get my weight lifting in throughout the day. I tried so hard to find a good chunk of time to do it. It one day just dawned on me that I didn’t have to set aside an hour four days a week to do it! I know it’s different for everyone but if you do work at home and love to exercise, see if you can break your workout up throughout the day

Your advice to have self compassion is excellent advice. It made me tear up.

I never thought of it that way. A body in motion stays in motion. This is so true.

This is my favorite video of yours yet. Thank you.

Ikr!? My aha-moment was "treat yourself as you would treat your friend". I literally met my friend in a local coffee shop instead of her house last week. We were planning to meet up at her place, but she asked me to a coffee shop instead because her house was such a mess and she didn't have the energy to clean. Did I tell her that she's just a slob? Of course not! Did I think that she's just a slob? No, I absolutely didn't! I can totally understand her. She's not lazy or a slob, she's human! And that's what I told her when she called herself a lazy slob. So why would I think of myself any worse than I think of her? I need to start being more compassionate to myself, and I think that my friend could use that mindset too! I have to send this video to her! 😃❤👍

This is very needed for me right now. I've been very ill recently with pneumonia and very bad asthma and it lasted for over a month. I ended up on steroids for it for 5 weeks my asthma was so bad. I'm back at work now but still really weak and to be perfectly honest work and sometimes cooking dinner is about all I can manage right now and as we need to pay the bills that's the priority. I have been my own worst enemy with self talk about how useless I am because the house is a mess but you're so right. If I had a friend who'd been as ill as me and had ended up in hospital twice like me and is just getting back to work and she was saying sorry about the mess I'd say what do you expect you've been really ill. You're going to work to keep the bills paid give yourself a break. Today I went to work I did such a good job cleaning up there that the manager thanked me (she never thanks anyone hardly ever). I've come back in a lot of pain though (I also have fibromyalgia) and completely worn out. I cooked dinner for my daughter and my husband and I, as my daughter isn't very well otherwise she would have cooked at least her own dinner. And then to be honest I've just sat and veged watching KZread ect. Your video popped up and it was exactly what I needed so thank you. I will get back on top of everything when I am stronger but I literally had asthma attacks so bad I could have died not long ago and still have pneumonia lingering so I'll give myself a break for now, then I'll tackle it a bit at a time. Something I found helped when a task was so big it was daunting was, when I did our attic room that was literally trashed (we used it like a loft). I would go in and fill a toy box with random stuff off the floor or wherever, bring it out of the room put it on the bed and sort that one box. By doing that again and again I took it from a room so trashed we were risking avalanches to a spotless beautiful modern bedroom for my daughter. I then did the same again in the other attic bedroom which wasn't as bad but was still pretty messy.

@caleygrimm3606

10 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry to hear that you've been going through. You should be proud of yourself - you are doing amazing considering your circumstances. You're in my prayers - wishing you the best.

@smithy4121

10 ай бұрын

@@caleygrimm3606 thank you so much my breathing is much better now I've just got this lingering exhaustion

Wow I needed this 😢. Thank you. Literally crying because I am an overwhelmed first time mom.

@arizonashopper5095

9 ай бұрын

I remember those days! Now my teen boys are in the kitchen washing dishes and they are funny, amazing humans. My only regret is the amount of time I spent stressing and judging myself, during their childhood. You'll get there! 🤗

You're my favorite channel, I listen to you while I am productive.

Do you clean the kitchen at night even with a newborn? I’d love to see a video about these systems and whatnot during the newborn days and how things change or what absolutely must stay :)

I so needed this video today! Thank you for making me feel normal and human again! Just took all of your checklist that I don't have yet and put them in my cart! Who says you have to wait until the new year to turn over a new leaf?❤

You are awesome. I love ALL of ur videos. I can watch ur videos all day. U r so reallll...Ty for such positive words. Keep up the awesome videos.

I've often told others to grant themselves grace and yet find it difficult to do for myself. I'm going to put this message on my fridge memo board.

I’m going through this bout of emotional exhaustion, and whenever I have the chance to stay home and vegetate, I make a deal with myself, that every time I get up from the couch, I will do one thing only, whatever that is. I have watched my home getting gradually tidier in a matter of days, and I didn’t even feel the overwhelm of doing the work, because I would do a tiny small thing, and then my reward was that I would lie down and carry on watching tv. I know it’s not a lot, but it’s better than nothing.😊

You always make so much sense, and have such good tips! And I like that you get right to the point.

I would also add to your list getting help. Sometimes having a neighbor's kid help with toddlers can be a lifesaver

I'm stalled in the middle of packing up my not-so-great room to rearrange the furniture. I was so overwhelmed I had to hit pause yesterday and I am watching your video today with iced coffee and a scone...there's also a cool breeze coming over my left shoulder. strength for the journey

I think it's so very true that we all should be nicer to ourselves. Give yourself grace and compassion. It is hard to take that first step but oh how great we feel when we do take it and get stuff done.

Thank you girl!! I honestly can't explain how much I needed to see your video today!! For realz❤

Great information ❤thanks for sharing 😊

Hey Kallie. Congrats on your new bundle. Thanks for the video. I think we need to be reminded not to be do hard on ourselves❤

I just read Casey’s book and it’s always good to be reminded. ❤

Add and a bad back, either get sidetracked or have to sit to rest my back. If I remember to set a timer, I am better......

Thank you for saying all of this!! It totally changed how I look at myself and what tasks are waiting for me.

A few years??? Lol thank you for this video!!!

I really needed this video lol. Since my baby (10 months now) and my new life changes I haven't been able to keep up with my weekly home cleaning and I feel like such a failure. This makes me feel better. Ty

I just found you and this video is exactly what I needed right now. Ty so much. Tomorrow will be a brain dump day.

I'm having a very hard time making a list. It's basically "tidy this room, tidy that room, tidy another room" and the details of each will be different and not something I can know specifically until I get going. I just need to pick a space and get to work - I did my kids' room earlier this week, which included hanging shelves. I need to do a major fridge cleanout and kitchen organization and I've been putting it off all week, need to get to work on that today. I should have done that first (for making daily functioning easier) but I just couldn't face it, the kids' room was easier and more fun. No reason to beat myself up about it now - but it is time for me to get off youtube and get to work!

I just want to say that I've never seen anyone clean their cabinets that way. 😂 Also, this video gave me an amazing perspective shift. You are amazing!

This was great! I thought I was the only one who put everything off 😂

Congratulations 🎉 on your new arrival

Great video as always, Kallie. I'm moving out in 3 days into my new and first house....it's a lot to deal with!! Super excited!

Great content!

Thank you!! ❤❤❤❤not guilting myself is huge💕

I really needed this today! It was like you somehow knew exactly what I needed to hear. You also motivated me to finally sign up for BetterHelp. I love your videos! Thank you for sharing them❣️With heartfelt appreciation, Debbie in Kansas

@user-dk7bu1vd9c

10 ай бұрын

How?

@smithy4121

10 ай бұрын

​@@user-dk7bu1vd9cthis isn't Callie it's someone copied her name. They've put this on every single comment she's had

Thank you dor your kind and constructive words, they have really helped. I don't feel so bad about myself and therefore will begin with the little chores first.

@rozleitch6637

10 ай бұрын

Most kind of you to find the time to send a reply. Thank you. Have a wonderful day.

Kallie, this spoke to me so much. Thanks!

You have helped me to implement so many EFFECTIVE systems. I also constantly think of the pieces of advice you’ve given as I clean or then when I don’t want to clean and it really helps to keep me motivated

SO HELPFUL!!! ❤ Thank you! 🙂

I love all of your advice! You are so lovely! I just find it challenging to keep up with how fast you talk. If you could slow down just a little, it would be easier to absorb what you are saying. You have a beautiful family and I love the element of self compassion. 💖

Thank you so much. I gave birth for my 4th baby. I feel so much overwhelmed ☺️ your ideas are great ❤

Thank you sweetie I needed this so much I feel better already See you soon VA 🙏👑❤️✝️🍂🍁🖐️

Thank you! I really needed to hear this today!

I Soooo needed this!!!! Tytytytyty again!!!!

Thank you for this. I already knew some of this ( breaking tasks into smaller chunks for instance), but it helps to be reminded. I know this will help me get back on track. I’ve saved it for when I need another pep talk.

Hey Kallie🤗 Thanks!

I just want to say how much I appreciate your channel, wish I'd found you earlier. I only have to young children & I juggle working as well. You really motivate me. 🌺

Congratulations on #3! Great video!

Great advice and pep talk!

Thank you for the recap - super helpful!

I love your videos. I've been using this brain dump ever since I heard you teach about it. It works when I remember to do it 😮

Thank you! Needed this a lot today! ❤

I really needed to hear this! Thank you.

Thank you - I needed to hear this today :)

Thank you!❤

Love your videos!!!

Thank you 🤩

THANK YOU, Kallie!!!!