You are describing my entire life. I'm so burned out. So so tired. So many half-finished projects that I will realistically never get done or have to pay someone else to finish for me. I'm so tired of being on this roller coaster.

@Heyu7her3

3 ай бұрын

For me, this was helped by getting a job that doesn't require a project... pretty much Essential Worker jobs. Scheduling, urgency & importance were decided for me so I just needed to determine how to survive within that structure.

@CarenMagill

3 ай бұрын

@heyu7her3 you are so generous with your support. Thank you for being such an active part of this community❤️❤️

@Familiarspirits

3 ай бұрын

My job also helped me to cope with this chaos of starting a 1000 projects. I became a social worker, which forces me to focus, never gets boring, gives me a great purpose and makes me read about and reflect on mental health ( both my own and others)every day. I still have moments of starting new hobbies in my spare time, but having a real purpose made it much easier to not let this control or consume me 😊

I have literally never completed a long-term project that needs longer than 1 week in my entire life. This video is exactly why. Grind grind grind for 3 days, burn myself out, and then debate myself into saying "do I actually need to do this project? No, I really don't". lmao why am i like this

@CarenMagill

3 ай бұрын

While I'm glad you resonate with the idea, I want to challenge what you said about yourself. You're clearly educated, because you can write. That means you went to school. That means, you completed a long term project. Be mindful of your words!

@LivingGood777APS

3 ай бұрын

@@CarenMagillyou are wonderful!

I've only been watching you for a short time, but you have provided me with so many tips since discovering my ADHD at the ripe age of 63! Thank you so much!

@CarenMagill

3 ай бұрын

my pleasure!!!

This channel is going to blow up. You are so good at simplifying things and explaining them in a way that’s easy to follow. The info is live changing too. Are these fully scripted?

ADHD/ symptoms so bad I can’t finish study, get a job I want / interested in. So overwhelmed by information and trying to follow instructions and anxiety…my life is literally trying to manage unemployed and finding a direction to take that I have enough capacity and focus to follow through with.,,I am so lost to this

@CarenMagill

3 ай бұрын

This has so much to do with your nervous system. How are you managing to take care of yourself? What does your mind and body need?

@ne5464

3 ай бұрын

@@CarenMagill well I think my mind and Body/ my being needs a purpose, so I’m forever trying to find it which means I can never relax. And then I get barely anything done, I zone out and start again. I can’t find any clarity and loose interest in anything I start to the frustration of myself and those around me. The only solution ever is to do an in person training like yoga where you can’t avoid and you are held accountable to everyone around, but then the burnout afterwards is not worth it! I am now so scared of my future as I’ve wasted years in limbo, but “working” really hard to get out of it. Life shouldn’t be this way for anyone 🤯🤔

@NewTruths

3 ай бұрын

Wow- same here all around

This is me, I’ve got at least 7 unfinished projects / business currently being set up. Some are functional but not fully finished. I get big waves of motivation and focus on one project for a few day or a week, then it fades. This normally results or a new idea and another new business. I have over 500 domains, that I still can’t bring myself to cancel. It’s difficult, I know to be successful I need to focus on one business, but just can’t bring myself to accept I need to let go of all the work I put into the other projects. I’m a single dad with a 4 and 6 year old, so it’s difficult to manage everything. Thank you for your content, I find it very relatable.

Had to add another comment! As you read through the goals I literally laughed out loud! That is so me! Multitask queen! LOL! Putting those non-negotiables really brings me back to the hear and now!

This is really been affecting my life on a day to day basis, this has wasted so much of my time in my life. It is absolute crippling. I always thought the problem was me. Thank you so much

Yo! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 that “what I want to do list” is SO ME LOL!!!!!

@CarenMagill

3 ай бұрын

Right?? It's so ridiculous.

That's me....thank you for letting me know i'm not alone

Bingo!! That angsty place between all this abstract clarity of how to turn your inner tornado into a beautiful swoosh, and the adhd sabotaging preventing you from, or making it so difficult to, pull that system out of the abstract and into actionable clarify and let it take hold. 😮

You're such a gem, such useful content and helpful tips! I'm 30 and bouncing around 30 different projects every day 🙄

Because I have small age children a lot of my non negotiable have to do with daily tasks that I hate doing cleaning and cooking. I also am not necessarily inspired by my work. It’s a check. Also since I have 4, im usually overwhelmed with their grooming. So I feel like I have strategic negligence. Where there’s a day that I just binge on my projects or doom scrolling dopamine. Usually the latter . And I’m realizing it’s because there’s literally no time and very little resources to do even 1 of my many passion projects 😢

Ok I am 30 seconds in and I had to stop the video to tell you how much this tickled my brain! You have some skill girl! This is probably going to be my favorite YT video of all time! 😂

My to do list is 8 pages long. I have a “house” list, “my” list, “the kids” list, “future”, “current”, and a “master” list. I’m lucky if I cross off 5 items in one week. All of my daily things (parenting, cooking, cleaning, etc) take priority and everything gets pushed off. I feel like I’m going absolutely no where and continue to drown in task lists.. I’m constantly in a state of overwhelm.

My personal list sounds just like that, but my work list sounds like that also. As a Psychiatric NP, all of my work list items are non-negotionables🤯😫

Everyday I sit down to work with a plan & get distracted by emails & requests to do other things all of which I take on.. 8 hours later I look at my plan & realise I've not touched that project I started a year ago & needed to finish 11 months earlier!! I thought everyone else was just able to get it ALL done in that 8 hours, so before I know it I'm working 14 hour days, but the same the happens?! Then I end up in bed every few months crippled by exhaustion and with an unrealistic to-do list... thanks for the tips 😊

Your channel is saving my life. I was diagnosed at 34. I’m 40. Meds don’t work for me. I work in IT and have to be intrinsically motivated for work, and it can be overwhelming.

@ayeshamo_

3 ай бұрын

You’ve got this! I believe in you. The fact that you’re here, trying to figure out way through this? You’re already ahead of the curve!

Wow, Caren this is such great info and advice. Everything you said resonated with me -- overwhelm, shiny object syndrome, not clarifying what is important. I struggle with all of these things! Really love your channel, thank you for putting your work out there.

Have you watched Daniel Thrasher's Shiny Object Syndrome? It's a brilliant song that summarises this feeling.

You mention how dopamine (or lack thereof) can contribute to this cycle. How do you stay focused on a couple projects while still getting enough dopamine to be functional and happy? (I am pursuing ADHD medication for this reason). Great video!

@CarenMagill

3 ай бұрын

It's hard to answer that, because I don't know if I do maintain it at a steady rate. It fluctuates. So I do my wellness non-negotiables to remain stable and focused, and then try to keep myself from getting distracted when I'm trying to focus. It's not always successful, but overall it works.

@TheBetterAdultProject

3 ай бұрын

This is such a great question! Would love a video on this topic. 😊

Thank you!!

Caren, I love this. Thank you so much. I can't tell you how much this video has helped me, along with many of your other videos. Your content is clear and practical, helps me to understand how my brain works, and gives me the tools I need to make progress. And thank you for practicing what you preach and keeping yourself organized and on-track so that you can do your work to help the rest of us! 🙂I'm very grateful for what you do.

SIGH!! THIS IS ME EVERYDAY FOR THE LAST 2 YEARS😮🤯😫 I'm a PMHNP (Psychiatric Mental Health Nurse Practitioner) and I've been burned out for a while now; Consequently, now my job is in danger because of it. I'm struggling in EVERY ASPECT of my life now and don't have much support 😪 . Thank you for this video. I will implement this strategy in my life!

@moniquelamont7663

3 ай бұрын

I am leary of using the term "burned out" because I still care about my patients; unfortunately, I can ONLY scrape up just enough mental, physical, and emotional energy to f take care of my patients; NOTHING else 😢

Loved the cat GIF representations! They were great! 💯 😊

I'm way ahead of all of that! 😂 OK this made me remember that I was the king of To-do List (I mean, I was king and queen!), but now... even if shorten the list to one of two most important things to do first... I don't even follow that 😂 Even if I state a time to go to sleep (or prepare to go to sleep) I never follow. And I thought that would be ADHD at its lowest... with less overwhelm... 😞🤷🏼‍♂🤦

Haha, you are a legend. Loved that list.

Excellent!!!

I love your channel! ❤ very informative and helpful! I was wondering, how did you become an ADHD coach? This is something that I am interested in learning more about. Do you have a video about it?

Love your advice my issue is imposter syndrome behind the things that I need to do in this season of my life grrrrrrrr.

I LOVE YOUR PUG

Couldn’t relate to this more you mentioned Toronto.. will you be doing any public events or meetups??

When my husband told me this, it didn’t register. I’m absorbing this from you-only after burnout and chronic illnesses forced me into slower living. 🙏🏽🧘🏽‍♀️

😃Thnx soooooo much!👊

Your to-do list is very relatable. 😅 Super helpful tips, thank you!

@user-vq3dy9jf3q

2 ай бұрын

Are you ADHD TO?

Aw hun, you have so many great ideas. ❤️ This is the first video of yours that I've really felt like we were the same. I feel you so much right now. You have clients and help them, but do YOU have someone to talk to who understands so well like we do? BTW, we're the same age and I get so much else that you're going through during these years that you don't talk about. I'd be happy to be your chat buddy or pen pal.

Omg, that gif! That's me, at least half the days of the week! 😂😮😢

Wow, this is like explaining the chaos in my head (and on my computer, phone + desk, lol)... #ProfessionalProcrastinator

Great video Caren - I have your Notion template but really struggle (not because of your template specifically) with finding / identifying how to make the most (or even a smidge) out of Notion. I've tried Asana and Trello and I'd love to know why Notion seems to work so for people with ADHD.

@CarenMagill

3 ай бұрын

Give it some dedicated time to learn. There are so many great tutorials on youtube. Once you get the hang of it, it's really amazing.

Support..whats that😢cannot imagine how life COULD be with supports of anykindwhat i need RIGHT NOW is support, tools, a person to work in person WITH me to access the HELP I require and stability and to see my way out of this mess..and be successful 😢😢😢please

One of my biggest problems is not understanding what is the right number of things to do with my time. I overdo it because I feel crappy about my ability to work, so I hold myself to a high standard and then crumble. There is also the struggle to understand the difference between a project and a task. I'm working on it but the daily attrition of this is painful.

@CarenMagill

2 ай бұрын

I hear you. I like to default to "it's always more than I can do", so I actively try to reduce my workload. A project is anything that has more than one task or deliverable.

😱😱😱 your list of to dos is insane.

Apparently, L-Methionine is something we with ADHD are extremely deficient in. Take a big dose every day with Trimethilglycene and watch as you can finally capitalize on the positive aspects of ADHD while being free of the negatives. You have been told! My work here is done.

@caramelcocoa234

2 ай бұрын

I’m a supplements person so thank you!

A real honest question here: Can this also happen with a good relationship where you mostly in the beginning start hyperfocus on the relation, get burned out after the first struggle and seek for dopamine elsewhere, even if this is nothing physical but with messages to other people. I see for myself that it returns from the moment i feel bad

omg this is so me

Im burned out. I dont start projects. Im just burned out. I cant even get my life essentials done. I wish I could do something cause im just dying here. Im fighting just to move. Is this ADHD or something else.

@CarenMagill

3 ай бұрын

It could be any number of things. I'd start with your Dr.

(now more seriously...) WOW! Caren reminded me of how I was The King of To-Do Lists-La-la-Land! So I finally took a peek at Notion and... that seems really good (although I believe that writing on paper might add more... mental implementation... but I could use both methods!). So I started reading its "How Tos'" presentations... and I started feeling an inexplicable very familiar anxiety creeping in... and then I left Notion without starting to plan. Now hilariously, before closing Notion, I thought of adding a Bookmark to the main in-you-face Favourites' bar (... so I can investigate it another day). And what was the bookmark that was sat next to Notion's? Miro! 😂🤣😂 Another failed-and-forgotten attempt to start... OMG! We have to laugh. Absolutely miserable. What a mess!

My twiiiiiinnn!!! 😂

If I wrote down my list, I would go walk my dogs!! Which I usually do, procrastination!!

Shiny 🐿️ 😁

It's a lot simpler: if you experience any of the above you're probably a Sagittarius! 😂

Hello community, Let's make a perfect AI AntiOverwhelming prompt.

@m8DGFLruN

3 ай бұрын

first variant: You are the sophisticated assistant of a person with attention deficit disorder. Your task is to assist in splitting large tasks into smaller subtasks and routines. The main goal, as a person cannot handle large, complex tasks in memory, is to maintain a swarm of small chunks of activities that the person can concentrate on. First, analyze all the data required to proceed and then: 1. Build a list of main steps in order to achieve a goal. 2. Write subtasks for each step. Each subtask should include only one type of activity. 3. For each subtask, write an encouraging praise, so the person feels the meaningfulness of the job that was done. this is data to proceed: ``` my plan for tomorrow: make a breakfast for kids, gather then to school. Drive kids to school. go to a gym. meet with subcontractor to make a plan for barnhouse renovaion. complete tax form and send it to bookkeeper. buy meat for barbeque. call Helen to choose a wine for party. take kids from school but not forget to take a lunch for them. drive older son to a pool. ```

@m8DGFLruN

3 ай бұрын

result: 1. Make a breakfast for kids, gather then to school. a. Prepare pancake batter. b. Cook pancakes. c. Prepare fruits. d. Serve food. e. Gather kids. f. Drive to school. Excellent job! You've prepared a healthy breakfast and took care of your children. 2. Drive kids to school. a. Prepare the car. b. Check if everyone is ready. c. Drive to school. Great job! You've safely driven your kids to school. 3. Go to a gym. a. Prepare gym bag. b. Drive to the gym. c. Exercise. You're doing great! You're taking care of your health and staying active. 4. Meet with subcontractor to make a plan for barnhouse renovation. a. Schedule a meeting. b. Prepare a list of questions and concerns. c. Discuss plans and budget. Excellent job! You've made progress on the barnhouse renovation project. 5. Complete tax form and send it to bookkeeper. a. Gather necessary documents. b. Fill out the tax form. c. Send the completed form to the bookkeeper. Great job! You've completed the tax form and taken care of your financial responsibilities. 6. Buy meat for barbeque. a. Make a list of needed items. b. Go to the grocery store. c. Buy meat and any other necessary items. You're doing great! You've prepared for a delicious barbeque. 7. Call Helen to choose a wine for party. a. Find Helen's phone number. b. Call Helen and discuss wine options. c. Make a decision and purchase the selected wine. Excellent job! You've made an important decision for the party. 8. Take kids from school but not forget to take a lunch for them. a. Prepare lunch for kids. b. Drive to school to pick up kids. c. Give kids their lunch. Great job! You've taken care of your children and provided them with a nutritious lunch. 9. Drive older son to a pool. a. Prepare pool bag. b. Drive to the pool You're doing great! You've ensured your son can enjoy swimming and have fun.

@m8DGFLruN

3 ай бұрын

The plan seems detailed, but there is still a risk that it may be missing something. If you overlook a missing detail, you might forget about it because the plan appears to be complete. Therefore, more detailed information should be provided to the AI assistant.

@m8DGFLruN

3 ай бұрын

sample prompt: You are the sophisticated assistant of a person with attention deficit disorder. Your task is to assist in splitting large tasks into smaller subtasks and routines. The main goal, as a person cannot handle large, complex tasks in memory, is to maintain a swarm of small chunks of activities that the person can concentrate on. First, analyze all the data required to proceed and then: 1. Build a list of main steps in order to achieve a goal. 2. Write subtasks for each step. Each subtask should include only one type of activity. 3. For each subtask, write an encouraging praise, so the person feels the meaningfulness of the job that was done. this is data to proceed: ``` my plan for tomorrow: ```

i am not looking for a dopamine hit I am looking for thing that can actually bring in another stream of income and I have adhd. Your losing me at the seeking dopamine.