This is powerful toward grace and healing

Regarding the 5th reason I feel the term ‘adult’ is very subjective. Do we define adults in legal terms such as age, or in social terms, which are practically all subjective? I have 3 adult children, all of whom I failed miserably. I failed them emotionally, as well as intellectually; I did not properly prepare them for life. When one’s children reach the magical age of 18, they are not suddenly somehow properly equipped to engage and have a chance at being successful at the game of life. The guilt, shame, and the ensuing burden of watching them fail over and over and over again is so palatable, it is all I taste. I’ve tried ‘tough love’ and not interfere only to see them set back, damaged, and/or hurt time and time and time again. It’s no wonder they are not winning at the game of life. They are too busy losing at it. Not taking responsibility for my part in their reality, just transferring my shame and guilt to another while washing my hands and absolving myself to the matter just doesn’t feel right. I don’t even know what would feel right at this point. I am guilty…now what? I find myself sitting on the sidelines these day cheering them on from a distance. There are no positive, meaningful interactions between us. They contact me when they need something, they know I will help them. They do not take advantage of me, but I feel they do take me for granted. I’m buying love, I tell myself. I find that ironic because I do not even believe in love anymore. That only exists in books and movies. Thank you for this video.

I.DON'T HAVE A SPOUSE OR FRIENDS!!!!! THIS MAKES ME FEEL EVEN WORSE!

@KimmersIMJ

11 ай бұрын

Me either. I was a single mom with no family and no support system. Its so hard😞