For the car convo I agree with Martha. As a mom who has a new middle schooler this year, I want to avoid unnecessary hurt for him. No shoes don’t define him but if it helps him feel better, I’m down.

Mary , Martha has a point . The older the kids get , the more pressure it is . Being in the situation myself I see where you are coming from but Martha gets it

@BreezeWithAfrica

Жыл бұрын

Yes, Martha knows because she has 5 kids and knows the pressure the kids go through. Also she’s not buying shoes to make them better than others, her kids know who they are and I'm sure Martha has raised them with an good understanding... Mary doesn't really understand because she doesn't have kids. I have 4 kids and I didn't buy expensive shoes, but if I did I would definitely get one pair of nice shoes..

@hstewart2410

Жыл бұрын

I so understand Martha’s point because I live it. Their value is not in thier clothes and shoes but you don’t want them to have to worry about that. It’s a heavy burden for them

@ericaosborne521

Жыл бұрын

I agree with Mary with everything she’s saying you can dress them nice without the expense. But I see Martha point too so one pair of nice shoe either birthday Christmas or begyof the school year but not to fit but as a reward for their greatness

@shelbyvan

Жыл бұрын

And i believe good children should be rewarded with things they want. Not just need.

@shelbyvan

Жыл бұрын

@@BreezeWithAfrica I’m

Mary has that pregnancy glow!!

@moreblessingchigwida6393

Жыл бұрын

You were so right!

@weewee1948

Жыл бұрын

On point!!!!🤰🏽

Now Mary. We need you to explain to us how on one hand you like luxury and nice things but your kids have to bargain shop? 😂. You can still be humble and have nice things. You still teach and instill values regardless to whether they have on Target shoes or Jordans. Having Jordans doesn’t make kids bratty, poor parenting does. Love you both and appreciated the conversation! ❤

@MsNaturallyMary

Жыл бұрын

Me and my husband will be investing in experiences 😅 Trust me, they will look very nice, but, they will understand the value of a dollar and not have to have expensive brands at their age.. Why do they need that at there age? 😆

@tamidivine7736

Жыл бұрын

​@@MsNaturallyMaryagreed ❤

@shelbyvan

Жыл бұрын

@@MsNaturallyMary it’s not a need at any age

I totally agree that ours kids should understand the difference between a want and a need and to remain humble. With so much peer pressure and mental illness going on, I do agree with Martha…it’s okay to have at least one pair of name brand shoes. Martha, you and Gordon do a great job with the girls teaching them the word of God so they will be fine.

This is so cute now y’all can run errand together and do self care things together 😢❤

@MsNaturallyMary

Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much 🤗 and yes! We are so excited 🥰

@loish781

Жыл бұрын

I 💞 that for them 💃🏽💜💃🏽💜 and us

@ruthgibbs-george452

Жыл бұрын

Beautiful ladies. Mary your face glowed. Mary you should have told the nail tech 's supervisor about your concerns there and then. You would have been offered a redo at your convenience or at least a discount. U spent too much money.

@DM-gz2el

Жыл бұрын

As a high luxury influencer, Mary is kinda promoting the feeling that having the best of everything is the norm so that's a little ironic to have that stance

Mary gets to have her opinion, but it should be just that, her opinion. Martha and Gordon must have grace to raise their children the way they see fit. Love you both and Happy Birthday 🎉🎉🎉🎉 ❤❤

@MsNaturallyMary

Жыл бұрын

We all agree that it was my opinion. I told her to do whatever she wants. 😅But, both perspectives are valid. I never stated that she had to do it my way, that would be absurd. But, just as she freely shares her opinions with me, I am able to do the same. We’ve built that type of relationship. And who knows, maybe my perspective will change when I have kids. But, for now that’s how I feel and she respected that, just as I respected her view. We don’t have to think the same way all the time🥰 Thanks for the birthday wishes 💕

We had such a blast sissy!! Love you and so glad we are back together!! ❤️🥰😘😘

@MsNaturallyMary

Жыл бұрын

We did! Love you! Can’t wait to see you soon 🤗😘

@miyoshimccree8309

Жыл бұрын

I'm sooooo glad y'all are together too. Y'all know what's really weird to me? How followers of content creators develop a genuine and sincere love for people they've never seen before in real life!! That's so weird, y'all.

@Therosestwins

Жыл бұрын

The best decision you all made ! Love watching you together and enjoyed your discussions ❤️❤️

@annetteanderson1015

Жыл бұрын

Looks like y'all had a ball. Great discussion. Middle school years are really tough, especially for girls. The girls are extra mean. Them knowing who and whose they are and the great foundation and family support makes the difference. Continue to talk with your princesses, pray together and follow the Lord's will. Thanks for sharing. Blessings to you all always.

I enjoy real conversations like this, especially when just aren’t agreeing with each other. I love how understanding Martha is even if someone doesn’t agree with her and I love how strong minded Mary is. You two balance each-other well. Happy birthday 🎊

@MsNaturallyMary

Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much! Glad you enjoyed it! 🤗

I believe that you will instill the confidence and security in children, and the type of shoes on their feet will not make them arrogant or set them up for failure. As a parent you want to prevent as much harm from them as you can. Once you have kids, things will change. They are your hearts walking around. You always want to protect.

I agree with Martha. Middle school is a generally a difficult transition given the hormonal changes that both girls and boys experience. As a mother of now two adult daughters, I understand Martha's point of trying to lessen some of the pressure they may experience navigating that time period.

LOVED this vlog!!!! I am so glad that you and Martha are both in the same location now! I hope this means we get more content with the two of you together 🙂!

@MsNaturallyMary

Жыл бұрын

Thank you! And yes, you will 🥰

I loved the conversation in the car. These children are a different breed and bullying is real- no matter the reason so Martha I absolutely agree with everything especially with you being a parent and knowing you have a child in middle school. Pressures from other children their age is not just a brush off the back oh well you’re a child… if you’re a parent who can afford it and want to get your child that and you can experience luxury so can your child, but to each is their own ❤️

Happiest birthday to both of you. I am glad you both brought this discussion up. My 12yrs old is fighting the battle at school where kids call him ugly just by the stuff he wears. As much as I love helping get over it. I also make him understand that in this world we can never satisfy everyone. The people who say he is ugly are probably jealous of him or are going through stuff at home. Yes, I dress him up to boost his confidence but he understands that is not the source of his joy. His joy is in the Lord. It is heartbreaking to see your child go through peer rejection. So, Mary I love you but I promise you, you will change your perspective later on.. cheers!!!

@MsNaturallyMary

Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much! I definitely understand! That’s why I’m praying now that God will help me to have the right perspective for our kids🥰 My opinion could very well change and I’ll definitely share that with you all if it does 😅

@ThePurple2323

Жыл бұрын

@@MsNaturallyMary it will. I felt just like you. Now have twins and baby I give them everything because when they get out in the world I don’t know how they will be treated. They have me wrapped around their fingers and they’re great children. Very grateful❤

Mary was so mad & Martha was smiling so big 😂😂😂😂

Happy Birthday Ladies!!🎉🥳 Once Mary had kids all that will change. ☺️

@MsNaturallyMary

Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much 🤗 And we’ll see 😅

@kikikiven

Жыл бұрын

Mary, I had that same philosophy until my first turned 13. You raise them right and the material things won't mess them up.

@danahportlouis3776

Жыл бұрын

@@MsNaturallyMaryyess😂😂 wait an see

I must say I loooooooove watching Mary and Martha together. I’m about to call my 2 sisters so we can book a spa day 😂😆

@MsNaturallyMary

Жыл бұрын

Aww… Thanks so much! Enjoy spa day with your sisters 🤗🤗🤗

Mary will be signing a new tune when she has children of her own 🤣Happy Birthday!!!

@MsNaturallyMary

Жыл бұрын

😆😆We’ll see 🤪Thanks so much 💕

@regale1995

Жыл бұрын

I’m waiting on the vlog for Ms. Mary to tell us the news!! 😂😂

@loish781

Жыл бұрын

​@@regale1995You know we r waiting 😉🥰

@mslivelaughlove3636

Жыл бұрын

​@@regale1995Me too.

@adriennedeontesmith2020

Жыл бұрын

@@regale1995you think she is expecting? 💕

I get both sides but Mary trust me when I tell you that you can impart & instill from the womb but when middle school drops, it's a whole new world. When my middle daughter, who is as humble as they come, started middle school, she was bullied to the point of several suicide attempts. Kids are cruel beyond words and whatever I could do to boost her confidence & self esteem I did. It's not about materialism at all. She loves God and others but kids are just unnecessarily cruel. As a mom you will do whatever you can to shield them from the arrows that will come. And Happy Birthday ladies! 🎉🎉🎉

Why do we feel our children have to struggle like we had to build strong character? Can we not teach them and develop them while still allowing them to have the things we enjoy ourselves? My children travel, wear Jordan’s, drink Starbucks and eat sushi and still know how to treat people well without feeling entitled. They learn what it takes to buy and earn these things. You can definitely do both.

@MsNaturallyMary

Жыл бұрын

I don’t think they have to struggle like we did. We had off brand sneakers, and hand me downs growing up… I said they can have brand names, but, I’m not sure I will give them the most expensive shoes. I’d rather give my kid’s experiences, that exposure to me is wealth. 🥰

Mary was moody through out this Vlog 😂😂😂 omg happy birthday ladies you look stunning.

TBH, social media is the new middle school! The pressure to have an “aesthetic” home, buy the labels, the hairstyles, makeup, be couples goals, etc. IS REAL! The second an influencer gets real money, they fall right in line with the pressure. Kids feel THE SAME PRESSURE.

I get what Mary is saying but when she has kids she will understand Martha a lot more.

Happy Birthday! 🎊 🎉 Since y’all asked for opinions, I don’t think one pair of Jordans will make the girls spoiled & entitled. I’m sure Martha & her husband don’t get the girls everything they want. They will still be balanced & humble with 1 pair of nice shoes. I think even 2 pairs of Jordan’s wouldn’t be bad. I also don’t think anything is wrong with exposing your children to different types of food like sushi or even taking them to see different countries if you can afford to.

I totally understand what both of you are saying. Please be mindful you have to do what you feel is best for you and your children. Rise your girls according to what you and your spouse feel is best for your household. Mary has to be mindful she doesn't have any children. You can say how and what you're going to do regarding raising your children. But until you have children you have no right to tell your loved one what she and her spouse should do when it comes to buying Jordan shoes for their daughters. I say this with love. Stay in your lane until you have children.

What a great vlog! Martha, i can certainly relate to you when it comes to shopping for your children. As a parent of 1, whwn she was in middle school the pressure was definitely on!

@MsNaturallyMary

Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much 🤗

Happy Birthday Twins!! Martha is right and living in the now. Mary has been out of the classroom for a while she gotta know peer pressure is real.

I love to see y’all together. I’m team Mary when it comes to the topic of shoes etc. for kids. I have never purchased shoes for my kids that were more than $70 (and that’s the high end). I had a high, middle schooler etc. both boys and the key is clean, no dirty shoes, fresh haircuts (my hubby cut their hair) and they didnt get teased for not having the latest shoes. I did buy Jordan’s for one of my sons but again they were on sale about $60 and def not the latest. Lastly, Martha your kids are going to be different and there is no way around it. As a believer, we often stand out bc we don’t do what others do, how we dress,, listen to provocative music etc. My kids have dealt more with that (I also have a daughter) than with having the latest shoes.

Happy birthday Ladies 🎉🎉. I'm a Mother of four daughters. Your car convo brought back memories of my girls when they were younger. I didn't want them to think/feel they were less important or less valued if they didn't have what others kid had/wore. My kids wore Nikes, reeboks, flats & dress shoes to school. I never purchase a pair of Jordans for them when they were in school. Now as adults they don't have a pair, it's not a big deal to them. Now I will say this, they were into having their hair braided and/or relaxed, smell goods/perfumes & wearing jeweler. I did provide those things without breaking the bank (thinking back they were mimicking mama😊). until this day as young adults they are still the same minus the relaxers. I sit back and think wow I really were my girls first role model.

I hear you Mary, BUT I believe most parents goal is to give there children the BEST and while hard exist in the world I don’t want to force hard on them, life will life but imma do all I can to make their lives great . What I can handle doesn’t mean my kids can handle it. I believe you can teach humility while giving your kids the best life.

Again, I agree with Martha (love you too Mary). I would balance things by rewarding (with the "best") in accordance with their hard work (grades, chores, etc). The message I would want to reinforce is work/reward.

Whew! Mary!!! Your tune will definitely change when you have kids of your own! ❤❤

@roxannefaith3333

Жыл бұрын

Definitely change.

@pcb813

Жыл бұрын

Mary, you are out of the loop.

I'm in agreement with Martha, one pair of Jordan's for the school year is fine. Secondly, yes, yes emotions sometimes drive reason and the parent's heart yield in a way opposit to analytical judgment.

Happy birthday twins! 🎉. I don’t have any children of my own but I can definitely see where Martha is coming from. Kids are so cruel, I was bullied myself as a child because I didn’t have the latest fashions.

My 2 cents on the Jordan's. If your girls like them/want them and you can afford them, get them. If they don't like them don't get them. If you can't afford them don't get them. Price point doesn't matter. Style does at any age. The foundation, confidence, etc all starts from the what has been instilled in them.

Hi Martha and Mary I as parent raised my sons that what we wear should be decent, they understood that clothes, shoes don't make a person. So by the time they were of age to understand brands..they didn't care..it was just about looking good, clean and decent in whatever you wear! You both have good points.

@MsNaturallyMary

Жыл бұрын

Hi!! I’m glad you all are open to both perspectives. 💕Ultimately parents have to do what’s best for their child. Every child is different. I’m just praying that whatever direction, these children remain humble 🙏🏾🥰

Mary wont understand until she has her own kids. The talk is different. At the end of the day a mother does all she can to protect her kids even from bullying becoz thats even more painful

It’s the husband saying I look amazing without even looking 😂… married life !! Love it 🥰

About the car convo: When parents focus on the brands...so will the children. Children are first influenced at home. When you instill in them good morals, humility, and an emphasis on education...thats where their focus will go. Buy the Jordans, buy Polo, buy whatever is going to be the best quality for the money. To the kids...these would just be clothes. Truly wealthy people buy what they like...the brand is what it is. They arent bragging on or focused on it being a particular brand. Make sure the children know that people who focus on such nonsense just to poke fun at others, are on the low end of the totum pole suffering from insecurities that they hide behind those brands with. ❤ Loved this vlog...love seeing you two together. It was a good convo.

Both are valid points but I get Martha’s perspective totally

@shaycoleman

Жыл бұрын

I agree with Martha & I have 2 kids

I think Mary may feel differently when she has children. I use to feel the same way as Mary. My tone has changed since having kids.

I just remember growing up saying I don’t want my kids to go without nice things like I did. If they are doing well in school and are respectful and humble,,,the sky should be the limit. I still struggle mentally with bring teased in school and I’m 56!

I agree with Martha. Martha is SO modest and SO unassuming. But her heart is soft toward her children and I totally agree. Why set kids up to be teased if you can afford something moderately priced? Jordan’s are not super expensive. And Martha is only stating the fact that she has to buy her kids new shoes for school, so they might as well be Jordan’s. She will pay that much for any shoes anyway.

We need to embrace blessing our children. The entitled mentally is from how they are raised not how they are blessed. There are wealthy people with wonderful character.

I'm a mom of a 15 year old and every year she wears one of the latest shoes, and her personality and demeanor are still calm, and she's very intelligent. While I understand both sides but,Once she continues to behave as expected and continues to Excell, I do not see the problem. My baby only wears sneakers, so I have no problem with it, and I do not see a problem with it.

Happy Early Birthday Ladies. 🥳🥳 Yes Mary, I agree with Martha. And she is looking at it from both sides being a Mom and a Teacher. Times now are So different from back in the Day. The kids teasing you is on such a higher level than we had to endure. You get the shoes but also teach all those things that you talked about. And make sure they know that it's not owed to them. And let them know why you are allowing them to have them. It can be a teachable lesson also. But the line is a fine one. Making sure they are not spoiled but also be allowed to have the finer things. Not because it is In but because you want to Bless them with it. Mary you will understand even more when you have your children. Prayer is the way to go. And you Ladies got This. Martha keep up the Good Work. And Mary you will get your chance. Blessings Ladies. 🙏🏾

I' want to comment on the shoe conversation really quick. I understand both positions, but the Dove girls have been trained up in the way they should go. I don't see named brands distorting their views on who they are in Christ versus who society say they must be in order to fit in. Most kids want whatever is trending at the time, and that's ok, as long as parents are giving them what they need to become who God created them to be, and that's the Word of God. We know the Dove girls are getting that from both Martha and Gordon. Mary, the point you made is very valid, it's just that Martha's perspective hits different because she is a mom, and that's the biggest responsibility I believe a woman can ever have here in this life!! Happy birthday to my favorite twins!!

Hello, Birthday ladies!! I LOVED this vlog!!! You'll had "real and interesting conversations" about real life just like everyone else! I also love you’ll conversation dynamics! The way each of you encourages and supports, even when you might not totally agree! Lots of maturity, patience, understanding, respect, wisdom, and of course LOVE for each other! May God bless you more and more, you and your children! 🙏🏾 ❤️ 🌈

@MsNaturallyMary

Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much 🤗

I have 2 boys but, starting school/pre k they both had the Jordans and the nice clothes....I just loved for my kids to look nice...this is because I could...I would donate and give the clothes away afterwards when they grew out of them...I look nice, so my kids will follow and I don't feel like that is a problem...some kids are cruel, period...no matter what.....God blessed me with great kids.....it's all in how you raise your children...my boys are now 20 and 25, no arrogance or entitlement at all/not brats....very respectful....I feel that you should do what works best for you and your family....I wish you both the best...😊

This twin bond is so tight and now that you living in the same area. Am saying prayers for your husbands 🙌🏾🙇🏾‍♀️

Martha you are right getting your girls nice things to take off one less stress of being a child in this day and age is ok. Cellphone is also necessary too much going on in school. Great conversation Ladies 😊

Happy Birthday to you Both! While I understand Martha’s perspective and I somewhat agree with what she is saying, I more so agree with Mary. I have a 28-year-old and I raised her similar to what Mary is saying.

Happy birthday ladies! Both of you are making a good point; however, Martha is in the situation having kids transitioning to middle school. It’s a whole different mindset. It’s great that you are trying to see things from your children’s perspective. Teach them to appreciate what you get them so that they will be well grounded, but also get their view. Get them the shoes! And the braids.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TWINS...I'M GLAD MARTHA WAS WEARING LIPSTICK SO I COULD TELL THE DIFFERENCE ❤️❤️❤️❤️

I have seen kids not have the nicest things be the most confident people because their parents helped them build such a strong confidence and not need outside validation from others. I think that today, a lot of parents don’t and didn’t get that in their home lives so they were shaken or affected so much by outside pressure that they unintentionally end up raising their kids the same and try to protect them from that. Today’s society is full of hurt and broken people raising hurt and broken people. I am a mother of a 16 year old so I understand because it’s not easy either way.

Really enjoyed this video. Love you two together. You both are beautiful lights and keep shining. Loved the conversation at the end of the video. I see both sides. Love the way you both can have a different opinion and express it in a non confrontational and respectful way.

@MsNaturallyMary

Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much🤗

Happy Birthday! I agree with you both. I agree with Martha these kids today are on another level and being able to give your kids access to more than you had growing up is a blessing. I also agree with Mary giving your kids everything without boundaries can plant a seed of entitlement. Its definitely a balance. And Martha in terms of food choices some of these kids today have it way better than us. I remember I was watching my little cousin and she was like 7-8, I made her breakfast: eggo waffles, sausage, eggs and apple juice. I thought it was good. She tells me her dad makes her bacon wrapped scallops. So sushi is definitely ok.

I agree it’s Jordan time if you are blessed to be able to get them it’s all OK Balance

This conversation was great. Both of you have valid points in the conversation of shoes.

My Baby is 21 and is an interior architecture major at KU... she is just fine!!! BUT she does like having nice things... including having her own car that I pay for... but it's worth it to have her be able to focus on her studies and use her money for the little things and rent. So... they are going to be fine. You have built a great foundation with those babies. ❤

As a parent, it is definitely about balance with your children. You want them to have the best but and the acceptance of you peers is so important to them, but learning the value of earning something and being strong in who you are regardless of what others think is also very important. It takes lots of prayer and diligence on the part of the parents. I completely understood both perspectives and thoroughly enjoyed the conversation. I wish I could have been in the car with you two. 😊

The conversation was honest & transparent from both women. One of the reasons this channel speaks to me so much. I was the last of my friends to become a mom. My option/views differed from theirs & I now have a 11 & 7 yr old. My views have not changed from my pre- mommy thoughts. I appreciate the honest conversation. This channel inspires me

@MsNaturallyMary

Жыл бұрын

I’m so glad you enjoyed it 🥰🙏🏾💕

Happy Birthday ladies!!!! Although I do not have a twin I love my sisters and there is something about taking quality time and having car conversations like this!! Love it!!! ❤

@MsNaturallyMary

Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much! It’s the best 🥰

@loish781

Жыл бұрын

The convos of the road 🚘🛣️ what a eye opener for many 💛

Mary I am frugal but I am with Martha. Once the shoes not too expensive font sent your kids to school with shoes that they stick out. That will be one less worries or battle to deal with. Get the shoes at least for the bigger ones. If you can help your kids not to picked on or laughed at for one time Martha get the shoes.

good talk about the kids in this society it's nothing like how we was brought up its sad and scary how now our kids have to face in life. All we can do is pray for them and bring them up in admonition of the Lord!

Mary is on point about kids not needing the latest designer brands ❤

@tanyamj39

Жыл бұрын

I agree totally with you. Children get bullied with name brand stuff. They're bullied for what they can afford because sometimes the less fortunate are the bullies because they want what they HV>all the brand names and latest cell 📱. IJS... Going to school with new clothing, shoes, backpacks, supplies and hair done/cut is a blessing every school yr.

@shelbyvan

Жыл бұрын

No she’s not. Adults don’t need all of that either if that’s the case

Mary your smile is brighter now that you have your sister closer. I look forward to seeing more videos with the both of you. #Auntie Mary babysitting while Martha and hubby have a date night 😂❤

@MsNaturallyMary

Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much 🤗 I’m happy we are back together again 🥰

Happy Birthday to my favorite Twin sisters🎉🧁🎂🎊 Mary & Martha. May God bless you two to have Many Many More. Pray that you ladies have a Blessed and Wonderful Day.💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

So love seeing y’all together 😊😊😊

@MsNaturallyMary

Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much 🤗

As a mom of 3 with the youngest being 14 I’d have to say I agree with Martha.

Martha, I understand your point. It is so different from when we all were coming up. Peer pressure is serious. I believe you have instilled in your girls' strength, and they know who and whose they are. Unfortunately, going to a new school and middle school is a whole different ball game. As parents, we instill in our children all the morals and beliefs. Our children take that with them, and we hope they don't succumb to peer pressure. They'll be fine. And it is ok to purchase items they want.

I was smiling watching you two, Happy Birthday Mary & Martha continued blessings 🥰

💕Hi Mary & Martha ….That was such a great conversation with your sister… it’s so beautiful you are so close in the same state… 💕

Oh Mary, give Sissy some grace. She's new to the area. 😇😊

@MsNaturallyMary

Жыл бұрын

I definitely showed her Grace 😆

🥰🥰🥰 twins… fun times!!! Enjoy ladies 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@MsNaturallyMary

Жыл бұрын

Thanks babe!🤗😘

I agree with Martha. Kids haven’t developed the tenacity to always “deal with it” especially in the world we live in today. There is nothing wrong with helping your kids not have to deal with unnecessary drama. Especially if they’re good kids. Withholding things from our kids because we didn’t have it growing up doesn’t have to be a given.. We get to give our kids what we didn’t have. And that’s OK. It’s not creating monsters if you teach them to value their things. Every generation should get better. We don’t have to pass on struggle. Also sushi is just a food. We just didn’t have access to it because the world was less interconnected in previous years. You shouldn’t have to “earn” good food. Creating healthy eating habits starts with exposure.

I agree with Maratha. So much I could say on this topic but it really boils down to how the kid feels and how they will succeed. Middle school is different elementary. @a whole new world “

Y'all celebrated birthday together that was really fun to watch. You two are the bestest twins have ever watched on this street of KZread, much love always💕💕💕

I agree with you Mary; how I balanced this with my kids is they had to earn the money to buy the things that they wanted so they understood that we all have to work to get the things we want in life. All chores had a monetary value and they were paid weekly. It took away the entitlement, taught them how to earn and balance their money. I often found, since they were spending their OWN money, they had less interest in the expensive stuff. They wanted more for their money. I would treat them to nice stuff for Christmas and birthdays within a reasonable spending limits. And you're right, kids will find something to bully a child about. They could be the best dressed and they will move to hair, weight complexion....SOMETHING! I am proud to say both of my children owned their own homes by the age of 26 by saving and investing because I taught them at an early age the importance of putting your money in things that grown vs. material things or things that depreciate in value.

25:00 No Mary didn’t 😂😂😂I’m WEAKKKK!!!

I love you both together and the car ted talk was real and so needed. More vlogs please

Times are changing, Martha I agree with you. Kids have enough to deal with.

Happy Happy Birthday Mary and Martha! So glad you get to celebrate your birthday together. Both of your braids look beautiful.

@MsNaturallyMary

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Thanks so much 🤗

As an African, I completely agree we're never serious with time 😂. We arrive 3 hours later, lol. Y'all are so cute!

@MsNaturallyMary

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😆😆😆 Too funny! Thanks so much 🤗

@yaniqueboyd6184

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😂😂

@msjay6780

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What happened 2 us! 😂😂😂😂

@davinesandlin7019

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I am African too and I’m not even mad. She spoke nothing but the truth haha we can’t never make it anywhere on time.

@tessynn2906

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@@msjay6780 I blame colonisation 😂

If this is not me and my twin sister I don’t know who then lol I cracked up most of this video because its so relatable. I’m the twin in waiting while my sis is married with four children. From the nails to the spa to the car convo and the Netflix and chill I absolutely LOVEd this video. As far as the Ted Talk lol I see both sides. At the end of the day we only get one shot at parenting (my day hasn’t come yet) so you want to do well. Create rules that will enforce balance. So perhaps spurge once a quarter on the kids but set a budget and stick to it. Building confidence is found in knowing who you are which is in Christ alone. So carrying that knowledge in everything from appearance to education is key. Im of the belief , that when the crown is done, clothes are pressed, and confidence is high you are a force to be reckoned with. Anyway y’all are gorgeous and I pray you continue to flourish is this space. Happiest of Birthday ladies. 🥳🥳🥳

That talk about the Jordans Mary, I completely agree. A whole Mama Bear came out of you in that discussion. I look forward to the day you and your husband conceive. Congratulations ahead of time🎉

@MsNaturallyMary

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😆😆Thanks so much sis! I pray the good Lord will help us 🥰

I understand both perspectives but I would have to agree with Martha. It doesn't have to be the latest but you definitely want them to feel confident inside and out. Words can definitely hurt, it's okay to shield them and still teach them that they are not defined by materialistic standards.

Every storm will produce a lesson. Growth will come through the lessons learned through experience gained from trials tribulation ups n downs for youth

Good point Martha made about giving the Jordans as a reward for getting A's. But really the focus should be on good looking, durable shoes. Healthy conversation and very thought provoking.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY SISTAHS!!!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉So happy that you both get to spend it together!🌹🎶🌹🎶🌹🎶

@MsNaturallyMary

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Thanks so much 🤗

@Livingyourbestlife2day

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​@@MsNaturallyMaryyou guys are born the same month as I am!! Happy birthday July twins!!

Martha you are rigth give the kids what they need in every form that their grow requires. Things will not make your kids act out just because they have nice stuffs or name brand things, but you as their Mother and Teacher you can teach them how to stay humble. What affect kids into bad behavior is no teaching and showing of example.

When I was in school, my mom couldn’t afford the name brands. All of my clothes came from Walmart and I got a new pair of name brand sneakers every year THAT weren’t popular. I was still cute, got compliments all the time and never got bullied.

I agree with Martha… I get it. Yea they need to be grounded BUT it’s a different time Mary. You have to give in on some things

Sorry those of that have kids. It's a new time and generation. As long as it is not excessive, it's okay to Jordan those Beautiful young ladies. Coming from a mom of 4 boys. 😉

❤ Happy Birthday Blessings Beautiful ladies! Enjoy your special day!🎉

I knew the two of you together was going to be a vibeeeee👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

I understand Mary but as a parent myself it’s different today for us. And I do agree with both of y’all but that’s not how it goes , you don’t want your kids to feel less than. Grown people is struggling with this and we know better but it’s the vibe in the air. I whole heartedly feel Martha’s basis to this. But I do love both of y’all! Happy birthday!

Be sure to build each kid's inner worth and self value set

Y’all must be so excited to be near each other, that’s great! Can you do a pros and cons video to living in Dallas at some point? Maybe both of y’all together?

I feel like you get your girls what YOU want for them. Not because of pressure. If you can get it, get it. Mary can speak that way because her child hasn't asked for it. Her baby is going to have all the goodies. She also clearly doesn't shop for children in today's market. We have to really assess why we want our children to suffer thinking it is developing character. Wealthy children aren't forced to not have. How you raise your children determines how they relate to the world. That doesn't mean they won't ask for specific things.